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Focus On Yourself, Not Others – Create Your Own Success, Without Comparison · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Life beat me up bad. I mean I was knocked
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  Speaker 1: out in the twelfth round of a fifteen round, you know,
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  Speaker 1: heavyweight bout. I was knocked out. But what happened was
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  Speaker 1: in the twelfth round when the challenge will turn its back.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I was getting the fuck up and I
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  Speaker 1: got up in one of the next three rounds and
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  Speaker 1: knocked that I got in the fifteenth round. So that's
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  Speaker 1: my mind about can't hurt me? I was hurt, man,
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  Speaker 1: like literally, I had overcome so much those first twenty
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  Speaker 1: six years of my life, and I still do every
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  Speaker 1: day today. You know, it's not over. But the mentality
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  Speaker 1: of can't hurt me is just that what's in front
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  Speaker 1: of you, man, you have to face. You have to confront,
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  Speaker 1: you have to overcome and move forward. So my father,
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  Speaker 1: you know, some of the kids that bullied me, my
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  Speaker 1: learned disabilities, all these things I went through in life. Stuttering,
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  Speaker 1: you know, has so many different issues, failing and failing
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  Speaker 1: and failing overcome them or they would have overcame me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: those those scars are real. Those scars are proof that
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  Speaker 1: you know your past is real. So they're never gonna
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  Speaker 1: go away. I own them. But I'm I'm I'm proud
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  Speaker 1: of my childhood. I'm proud because without all of these
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  Speaker 1: lessons in life, and everybody says this bullshit, I mean it.
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  Speaker 1: I mean it because I was able to look at
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  Speaker 1: my childhood and how I grew up as the ultimate
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  Speaker 1: training ground for my life. Someone there has to be
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  Speaker 1: some people in this on this planet Earth who have
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  Speaker 1: my mentality. As gross as it is to some people
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  Speaker 1: and as far off as it is and not understood,
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  Speaker 1: there has to be some people like me on this
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  Speaker 1: planet Earth. There has to be some warriors out there
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  Speaker 1: that are able to take this mindset and do something
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  Speaker 1: with it, so that right there, once you are able
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  Speaker 1: to look at your life and realize that all these
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  Speaker 1: bad things are actually the ultimate training grow for what
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  Speaker 1: you're going to encounter in life, you start looking at
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  Speaker 1: your past very differently. I'd learned how to hold myself accountable,
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  Speaker 1: and I knew I could take a man's soul in
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  Speaker 1: the heat of battle. I had overcome many obstacles and
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  Speaker 1: realized that each of those experiences had calloused my mind
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  Speaker 1: so thick I could take on any challenge. All of
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  Speaker 1: that had made me feel like I dealt with my
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  Speaker 1: past demons but I hadn't. I've been ignoring them. My
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  Speaker 1: memories of abuse at the hands of my father, of
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  Speaker 1: all those people who called me didn't vaporize after a
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  Speaker 1: few victories. Those moments were anchored deep in my subconscious
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  Speaker 1: and as a result, my foundation was cracked. And a
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  Speaker 1: human being, your character is your foundation. And when you
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  Speaker 1: build a bunch of successes and pile up even more
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  Speaker 1: failures on a foundation, the structure that is the self
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  Speaker 1: won't be sound. To develop an armored mind, a mindset
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  Speaker 1: so callous and hard that becomes bulletproof, you need to
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  Speaker 1: go to the source of all your fears and insecurities.
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  Speaker 1: Most of us sweep our failures and evil secrets under
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  Speaker 1: the rug, but when we run into problems, that rug
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  Speaker 1: gets lifted up and our darkness re emerges, floods our
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  Speaker 1: soul and influences the decisions which determine our character. My
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  Speaker 1: fears were never just about the water, and my anxieties
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  Speaker 1: toward Class two hundred and thirty five weren't about the
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  Speaker 1: pain of first phase. They were seeping from the infected
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  Speaker 1: wounds I've been walking around with my entire life, and
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  Speaker 1: my denial of them amounted to a denial of myself.
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  Speaker 1: I was my own worst enemy. It wasn't the world,
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  Speaker 1: or God or the devil that was out to get me,
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  Speaker 1: It was me. I was rejecting my past and therefore
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  Speaker 1: rejecting myself. My foundation, My character was defined by self rejection.
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  Speaker 1: All my fears came from that deep seated uneasiness I
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  Speaker 1: carried with being David Goggins because of what I'd gone through.
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  Speaker 1: Even after I'd reached a point where I no longer
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  Speaker 1: cared about what others thought of me, I still had
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  Speaker 1: trouble accepting me. Anyone who is of sound mind and
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  Speaker 1: body can sit down and think of twenty things in
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  Speaker 1: their life that could have gone differently, where maybe they
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  Speaker 1: didn't get a fair shake, and where they took the
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  Speaker 1: path of least resistance. If you're one of the few
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  Speaker 1: who acknowledge that want to callous those wounds and strengthen
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  Speaker 1: your character, it's up to you to go back through
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  Speaker 1: your past and make peace with yourself by facing those
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  Speaker 1: incidents and all of your negative influences and accepting them
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  Speaker 1: as weak spots in your own character. Only when you
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  Speaker 1: identify and accept your weaknesses will you finally stop running
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  Speaker 1: from your past. Then, those incidents can be used more
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  Speaker 1: efficiently as fuel to become better and grow stronger. Right
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  Speaker 1: there on Mom's couch, as the moon burned its arc
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  Speaker 1: in the night sky, I faced down my demons. I
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  Speaker 1: faced myself. I couldn't run from my dad anymore. I
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  Speaker 1: had to accept that he was part of me, and
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  Speaker 1: that his lying, cheating character influenced me more than I
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  Speaker 1: cared to admit. Before that night, I used to tell
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  Speaker 1: people that my father had died rather than tell the
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  Speaker 1: truth about where I came from, even in the seals
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  Speaker 1: I trotted out. In that line, I knew why when
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  Speaker 1: you get beat up, you don't want to acknowledge getting
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  Speaker 1: your ass kicked. It doesn't make you feel very manly,
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  Speaker 1: so the easiest thing to do is forget about it
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  Speaker 1: and move on, pretend it never happened, not anymore. Going forward,
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  Speaker 1: it became very important for me to rehash my life,
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  Speaker 1: because when you examine your experiences with a fine tooth
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  Speaker 1: comb and see where your issues come from, you can
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  Speaker 1: find strength and enduring pain and abuse. By accepting Trunni's
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  Speaker 1: goggins as part of me, I was free to use
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  Speaker 1: where I came from as fuel. I realized that each
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  Speaker 1: episode of child abuse that could have killed me made
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  Speaker 1: me tough as hell and as sharp as a samurais blade.
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  Speaker 1: You don't want to break open that callous that scar
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  Speaker 1: on your mind. You want to break you know, you
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  Speaker 1: have to break it open. Let that blood flow, you,
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  Speaker 1: let blood flow in your brain. You have to let
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  Speaker 1: all that stuff flow out. All that toxic stuff that
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  Speaker 1: you have trapped in there has to start flowing out now. So,
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  Speaker 1: like you said, you are doing this to yourself. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: people may have helped you get there, but it's now
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  Speaker 1: on you. It's a painful truth. Painful truth. Like all
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  Speaker 1: those people in high school and everything else, they don't
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  Speaker 1: know how you're gonna end up. So you got to
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  Speaker 1: make sure that you constantly are rewriting your book. You
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  Speaker 1: have to constantly rewrite your book every day of your life.
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  Speaker 1: You know. And these aren't just words I say, This
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  Speaker 1: is how I have to live like. These are conversations
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  Speaker 1: I have with myself, and I say to everywhere I go.
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  Speaker 1: The most important conversation when you have with yourself, you
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  Speaker 1: live with it every single day. But most of our
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  Speaker 1: conversations are not the right ones. They're not the ones
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  Speaker 1: that are gonna push us to the place we need
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  Speaker 1: to go. We're the ones that are gonna keep us
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  Speaker 1: sitting in that toxic environment that you've helped create and
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  Speaker 1: everybody else helping create, and you just live in it.
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  Speaker 1: You live in that muck and that conversation, this plays
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  Speaker 1: in your head and that becomes you. So my first
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  Speaker 1: conversation when I was absolutely nobody, and that's one thing
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  Speaker 1: you have to say. We live in the world. Now,
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  Speaker 1: that's so kind. We find the kind way around everything.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you don't look good, I have to find
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  Speaker 1: a kind way of saying I don't like your shirt.
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  Speaker 1: That's not the approach. If that's the approach you're looking for,
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  Speaker 1: that book is not for you. Can't hurt me is
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  Speaker 1: not for you. The approach you have to take, at
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  Speaker 1: least I took. You take it to approach you want.
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  Speaker 1: The conversation had to be a real honest conversation in
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  Speaker 1: the accountability mirror of guess what I was fat? Don't
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  Speaker 1: find a kind word to say that, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: I've gained some weight, No, you're fat. When I couldn't read,
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  Speaker 1: not like hey, you know even learn disability, No, I
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  Speaker 1: cannot read of a fourth grade reading level. I'm struggling,
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  Speaker 1: and sometimes I call myself stupid, not in a way
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  Speaker 1: to put myself down. So don't take it like my god,
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  Speaker 1: those are so hurtful. Yeah, the hurtful. This honest. The
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  Speaker 1: conversation has to become an honest conversation of where you're
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  Speaker 1: at mentally, where am I at? Mentally? I look like
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm not this, I'm falling behind in school,
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  Speaker 1: I'm lazy. My house is a mess. You have to
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  Speaker 1: look at what it is and call it what it is.
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  Speaker 1: Don't find words to make yourself feel better, because that's
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  Speaker 1: what So we hang around people that make us feel better,
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  Speaker 1: that tell us what we want to hear, not what
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  Speaker 1: we need to hear, and so we stay away from
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  Speaker 1: those people, and we stay away from those people like
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  Speaker 1: our internal dialogue becomes that kind it's okay, it's not okay.
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  Speaker 1: So that's where it starts. It starts with that accountability
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  Speaker 1: of it's not okay anymore. This can no longer be okay,
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  Speaker 1: and calling yourself out for exactly what you are and
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  Speaker 1: exactly how you need to fix it. That's where it's
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  Speaker 1: start because the only way we can change is to
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  Speaker 1: be real with ourselves If you don't know shit and
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  Speaker 1: have never taken school seriously, then say I'm dumb. Tell
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  Speaker 1: yourself that you need to get your ass to work
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  Speaker 1: because you're falling behind in life. If you look in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror and you see a fat person, don't tell
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  Speaker 1: yourself that you need to lose a couple of pounds.
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  Speaker 1: Tell the truth. You're fucking fat. It's okay just say
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  Speaker 1: you're fat. If you're fat, the dirty mirror that you
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  Speaker 1: see every day is going to tell you the truth
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  Speaker 1: every time. So why are you still lying to yourself
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  Speaker 1: so you can feel better for a few minutes and
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  Speaker 1: stay the fucking same. If you're fat, you need to
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  Speaker 1: change the fact that you're fat because it's very fucking unhealthy.
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  Speaker 1: I know because I've been there. If you have worked
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  Speaker 1: for thirty years doing the same shit you've hated day
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  Speaker 1: in and day out because you are afraid to quit
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  Speaker 1: and take a risk, you've been living like a pussy
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  Speaker 1: period point blank. Tell yourself the truth that you've wasted
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  Speaker 1: enough time and that you have other dreams that will
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  Speaker 1: take courage to realize. So you don't die a pucy.
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  Speaker 1: Call yourself out. Nobody likes to hear the hard truth.
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  Speaker 1: Individually and as a culture, we avoid what we need
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  Speaker 1: to hear. Most. This world fucked up. There are major
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  Speaker 1: problems in our society. We are still dividing ourselves up
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  Speaker 1: along racial and cultural lines, and people don't have the
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  Speaker 1: balls to hear it. The truth is, racism and bigotry
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  Speaker 1: still fucking exist, and some people are so thin skinned
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  Speaker 1: they refuse to admit that. But if you are the
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  Speaker 1: only and you aren't stuck in some real world genocidal
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  Speaker 1: twilight zone, you better get real too. Your life is
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  Speaker 1: not fed up because of overt racists or hidden systemic racism.
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  Speaker 1: You aren't missing out on opportunities making money and getting
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  Speaker 1: evicted because of America or Donald Trump, or because your
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  Speaker 1: ancestors were slaves, or because your ancestors were slaves, or
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  Speaker 1: because some people hate immigrants or Jews, or harassed women
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  Speaker 1: or believe gay people are going to hell. If any
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  Speaker 1: of that shit is stopping you from excelling in life,
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  Speaker 1: I've got some news. You are stopping you. You are
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  Speaker 1: giving up instead of getting hard. Tell the truth about
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  Speaker 1: the real reasons for your limitations, and you will turn
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  Speaker 1: that negativity, which is real, into jet fuel. Those odds
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  Speaker 1: stacked against you will become a damn runway. There is
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  Speaker 1: no more time to waste hours and days, evaporate like
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  Speaker 1: creeks in the desert. That's why it's okay to be
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  Speaker 1: cruel to yourself, as long as you realize you're doing
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  Speaker 1: it to become better. We all need thicker skins to
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  Speaker 1: improve in life. Being soft when you look in the
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  Speaker 1: mirror isn't going to inspire the wholesale changes we need
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  Speaker 1: to shift our present and open up our future. The
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  Speaker 1: morning after that first session with the accountability mirror, I
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  Speaker 1: trashed the shack steering wheel on the fuzzy dice. I
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  Speaker 1: tucked my shirt in and wore my pants with a belt,
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  Speaker 1: And once school started up again, I stopped eating at
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  Speaker 1: my lunch table for the first time being liked and
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  Speaker 1: acting cool. We're wasting my time, and instead of eating
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  Speaker 1: with all the popular kids, I found my own table
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  Speaker 1: and ate alone. Mind you, the rest of my progress
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  Speaker 1: could not be described as a blink and you'll miss
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  Speaker 1: it metamorphosis. Lady Luck did not suddenly show up, run
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  Speaker 1: me a hot, soapy bath and kiss me like she
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  Speaker 1: loved me. In fact, the only reason I didn't become
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  Speaker 1: just another statistic is because at the last possible moment,
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  Speaker 1: I got to work. How do I do it? I'm
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  Speaker 1: I able to do what I do on a daily basis.
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  Speaker 1: You know, how do I fight the demons? Because they
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  Speaker 1: hear me speak and I'm very raw and real. How
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  Speaker 1: do you fight my insecurities? All these things and they're
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  Speaker 1: there every day every day. I'm in search for a feeling.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not in search for a trophy. I'm not in
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  Speaker 1: search for love. I'm not in source for more followers
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  Speaker 1: on Instagram or social media. When I started this journey
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  Speaker 1: years ago and I realized that I'm going to be somebody,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm searching for a feeling, a feeling of truth,
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  Speaker 1: victory for myself and only myself. The second I shut
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  Speaker 1: out the whole world and realize that one thing that
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  Speaker 1: I am in this world alone, I'm fighting in this
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  Speaker 1: race by myself. Yeah, I'm all about people, I'm all
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  Speaker 1: about team, I'm all about that shit. But I'm really
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  Speaker 1: all about right now and in my life, no one
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  Speaker 1: knows the real truth about me. How hard I really go.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care if anybody knows. I want anybody to know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm an introvert. I live an intro worted life, and
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  Speaker 1: I love that about me. That right there is my
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  Speaker 1: fuel is I know that there's really no one out
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  Speaker 1: there grinding like me, and if they are, so be it.
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  Speaker 1: If I know about you, I'll make sure that my gang.
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  Speaker 1: That's what the mentality is all about. My whole thing
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  Speaker 1: is a mentality thing. I view myself as the weakest
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  Speaker 1: person on the planet Earth. I was just an insecure,
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  Speaker 1: scared kid, and the only way I could find myself
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  Speaker 1: was to putting myself through the worst thing possible. My
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  Speaker 1: goal in life was to, in my mind believe I'm
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  Speaker 1: the hardest man alive. And that's why the whole thing
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  Speaker 1: is can't hurt me. That's what it's about. It's about
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  Speaker 1: whatever you think you are. You have to make that
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  Speaker 1: dream of reality. But that's where the hard part is,
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  Speaker 1: is making that dream reality. That's where the hard work
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  Speaker 1: come is. That's where people know, how do you keep
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  Speaker 1: grinding every day? You have to make those insecurities, those fears.
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  Speaker 1: Like when I was three hundred pounds, I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: any drive. I'm gonna go be a Navy seal? What
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  Speaker 1: kind of stupid shit is that three hundred pounds? There
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  Speaker 1: wasn't like a drive to go be a Navy seal.
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  Speaker 1: I was an insecure, lying kid, afraid. I had to
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  Speaker 1: look at my insecurities and in my fear and find
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  Speaker 1: drive in that. We're all looking for passion, passions all
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  Speaker 1: around you. You have a hole stack of it all
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  Speaker 1: around you. It's your insecurities. All you got to dive
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  Speaker 1: deep in that shit. It's all in there. All the
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  Speaker 1: energy and fuel you need is right in yourself. It's
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  Speaker 1: all there. You got a lot of stuff to do
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  Speaker 1: to overcome, and you know that's where I found it.
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  Speaker 1: I found it right there in my own insecurities. I
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  Speaker 1: found drive in my own insecurities. And that's the most
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  Speaker 1: powerful thing in the world. When you can find drive
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  Speaker 1: in your own doubt, fear, insecurities, you become very unstoppable.