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9 - Celebrate Your Story, Not Just Your Anniversary · Daily Relationship Tips: Practical Relationship Skills That Help Couples Reconnect

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  When
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  did
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  you
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  and
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  your
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  partner
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  last
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  stop,
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  properly
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  stop
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  and
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  celebrate
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  how
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  far
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  you've
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  come
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  together?
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  Not
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  a
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  quick
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  happy
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  anniversary
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  on
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  the
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  way
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  out
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  the
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  door.
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  A
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  real
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  moment
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  of
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  marking
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  what
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  you've
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  built.
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  If
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  you're
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  struggling
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  to
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  remember,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Alistair
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  Dewes,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  daily
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  Relationship
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  Tips
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  podcast
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  where
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  I
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  share
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  simple,
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  practical
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  tools
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  and
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  your
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  partner
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  feel
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  close,
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  connected,
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  and
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  in
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  love
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  again,
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  one
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  small
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  habit
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  at
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  a
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  time.
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  Now,
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  here's
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  something
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  most
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  people
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  don't
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  realize.
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  We're
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  very
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  good
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  at
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  celebrating
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  the
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  milestones
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  that
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  happen
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  around
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  our
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  relationship.
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  Promotions,
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  birthdays,
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  the
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  kids
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  achievements.
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  But
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  we're
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  often
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  terrible
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  at
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  celebrating
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  the
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  relationship
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  itself.
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  For
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  example,
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  think
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  about
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  the
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  milestones
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  you've
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  reached.
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  The
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  first
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  time
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  you
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  said
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  I
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  love
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  you.
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  Moving
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  in
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  together,
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  getting
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  through
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  a
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  hard
• 1:05
  year
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  as
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  a
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  team,
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  a
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  wedding
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  anniversary,
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  years
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  of
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  choosing
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  each
• 1:10
  other
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  every
• 1:11
  day.
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  These
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  are
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  significant.
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  They
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  deserve
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  to
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  be
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  marked.
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  Now,
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  I'm
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  not
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  talking
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  about
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  expensive
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  gestures
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  or
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  elaborate
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  events.
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  The
• 1:21
  size
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  of
• 1:21
  the
• 1:21
  celebration
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  isn't
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  what
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  matters.
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  What
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  matters
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  is
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  the
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  pause.
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  The
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  intentional
• 1:27
  moment
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  where
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  you
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  both
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  stop
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  and
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  we
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  did
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  this
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  together.
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  Look
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  how
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  far
• 1:33
  we've
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  come.
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  But
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  here's
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  where
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  most
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  people
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  get
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  this.
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  Life
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  moves
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  fast.
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  There's
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  always
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  something
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  next.
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  The
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  next
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  challenge,
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  the
• 1:43
  next
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  goal,
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  the
• 1:44
  next
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  stage
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  of
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  life
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  to
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  navigate.
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  And
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  in
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  the
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  rush
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  of
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  it
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  all,
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  the
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  milestones
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  slip
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  past,
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  unmarked.
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  An
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  anniversary
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  becomes
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  just
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  another
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  busy
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  Tuesday.
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  A
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  meaningful
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  date
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  passes
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  without
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  acknowledgment.
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  And
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  slowly
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  the
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  sense
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  of
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  shared
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  history,
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  of
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  being
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  two
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  people
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  who've
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  built
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  something
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  real
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  together,
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  starts
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  to
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  fade
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  into
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  the
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  background.
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  Celebrating
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  milestones
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  is
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  how
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  you
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  keep
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  that
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  sense
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  alive.
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  So
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  here's
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  the
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  practice.
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  Think
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  about
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  the
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  milestones
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  in
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  your
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  relationship.
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  Not
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  just
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  the
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  obvious
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  ones,
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  but
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  the
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  ones
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  that
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  mean
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  something
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  to
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  you
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  personally.
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  The
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  holiday
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  where
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  you
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  fell
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  properly
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  in
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  love.
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  The
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  year
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  you
• 2:31
  got
• 2:31
  through
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  something
• 2:32
  difficult
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  together.
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  The
• 2:34
  moment
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  you
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  knew
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  this
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  was
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  the
• 2:36
  person
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  you
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  wanted
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  to
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  be
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  with.
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  Pick
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  one,
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  then
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  find
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  a
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  way
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  to
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  mark
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  it
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  this
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  week.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  have
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  to
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  be
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  elaborate.
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  A
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  special
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  dinner
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  at
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  home,
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  A
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  letter
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  to
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  your
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  partner
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  about
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  what
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  that
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  milestone
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  meant
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  to
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  you.
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  An
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  evening
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  looking
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  through
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  old
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  photos
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  together,
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  revisiting
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  a
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  place
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  that
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  holds
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  a
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  memory,
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  whatever
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  feels
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  right
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  for
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  the
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  two
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  of
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  you.
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  I've
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  seen
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  how
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  much
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  this
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  simple
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  habit
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  can
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  mean.
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  One
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  couple
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  I
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  worked
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  with
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  had
• 3:07
  been
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  together
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  for
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  14
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  years.
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  Good
• 3:10
  relationship,
• 3:11
  solid
• 3:12
  foundation.
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  But
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  when
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  I
• 3:14
  asked
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  them
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  to
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  name
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  the
• 3:15
  last
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  time
• 3:16
  they'd
• 3:17
  properly
• 3:17
  celebrated
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  something
• 3:18
  about
• 3:19
  their
• 3:19
  relationship,
• 3:20
  not
• 3:20
  a
• 3:21
  kid's
• 3:21
  milestone,
• 3:22
  their
• 3:22
  relationship,
• 3:24
  they
• 3:24
  both
• 3:24
  went
• 3:25
  quiet.
• 3:26
  They
• 3:26
  decided
• 3:27
  to
• 3:27
  mark
• 3:28
  their
• 3:28
  anniversary
• 3:28
  that
• 3:29
  year
• 3:29
  properly,
• 3:30
  for
• 3:30
  the
• 3:30
  first
• 3:30
  time
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  in
• 3:31
  a
• 3:31
  long
• 3:32
  time.
• 3:33
  Nothing
• 3:33
  extravagant,
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  a
• 3:35
  nice
• 3:35
  dinner,
• 3:36
  a
• 3:37
  card,
• 3:38
  an
• 3:38
  evening
• 3:38
  where
• 3:38
  they
• 3:39
  talked
• 3:39
  about
• 3:39
  their
• 3:40
  favorite
• 3:40
  memories
• 3:41
  together.
• 3:42
  He
• 3:42
  told
• 3:43
  me
• 3:43
  afterwards.
• 3:44
  It
• 3:45
  felt
• 3:45
  like
• 3:46
  we
• 3:46
  were
• 3:46
  reminding
• 3:46
  each
• 3:47
  other
• 3:47
  why
• 3:47
  we
• 3:48
  chose
• 3:48
  this.
• 3:49
  That's
• 3:50
  exactly
• 3:50
  it.
• 3:52
  Celebrating
• 3:52
  milestones
• 3:53
  isn't
• 3:54
  just
• 3:54
  about
• 3:54
  the
• 3:55
  occasion.
• 3:56
  It's
• 3:56
  about
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  reminder
• 3:58
  that
• 3:58
  this
• 3:58
  relationship
• 3:59
  is
• 4:00
  worth
• 4:00
  honoring.
• 4:01
  That
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  two
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  you
• 4:02
  have
• 4:03
  built
• 4:03
  something
• 4:03
  together
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  deserves
• 4:05
  to
• 4:05
  be
• 4:05
  acknowledged.
• 4:07
  So
• 4:07
  here's
• 4:08
  your
• 4:08
  challenge
• 4:08
  for
• 4:08
  today.
• 4:10
  Think
• 4:10
  of
• 4:10
  one
• 4:10
  milestone
• 4:11
  you
• 4:12
  and
• 4:12
  your
• 4:12
  partner
• 4:12
  have
• 4:13
  reached
• 4:13
  together,
• 4:14
  big
• 4:15
  or
• 4:15
  small,
• 4:16
  famous
• 4:16
  or
• 4:16
  private,
• 4:18
  and
• 4:18
  decide
• 4:18
  how
• 4:19
  you'll
• 4:19
  mark
• 4:21
  doesn't
• 4:21
  have
• 4:21
  to
• 4:21
  happen
• 4:22
  today,
• 4:23
  just
• 4:23
  commit
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  it.
• 4:25
  Because
• 4:25
  here's
• 4:26
  what
• 4:26
  this
• 4:26
  means.
• 4:27
  Long
• 4:27
  term
• 4:28
  couples
• 4:29
  who
• 4:29
  celebrate
• 4:29
  their
• 4:30
  milestones
• 4:31
  carry
• 4:31
  a
• 4:31
  shared
• 4:32
  story,
• 4:33
  a
• 4:33
  felt
• 4:33
  sense
• 4:34
  of
• 4:34
  history
• 4:34
  and
• 4:35
  achievement
• 4:35
  that
• 4:36
  deepens
• 4:36
  their
• 4:36
  connection
• 4:37
  over
• 4:37
  time.
• 4:39
  When
• 4:39
  hard
• 4:39
  times
• 4:40
  come,
• 4:40
  that
• 4:41
  story
• 4:41
  gives
• 4:42
  them
• 4:42
  something
• 4:42
  to
• 4:42
  hold
• 4:43
  onto.
• 4:44
  When
• 4:45
  good
• 4:45
  times
• 4:45
  come,
• 4:46
  it
• 4:46
  gives
• 4:47
  them
• 4:47
  something
• 4:47
  to
• 4:47
  build
• 4:48
  on.
• 4:49
  Your
• 4:49
  relationship
• 4:50
  is
• 4:50
  worth
• 4:51
  celebrating.
• 4:52
  Don't
• 4:53
  wait
• 4:53
  for
• 4:53
  a
• 4:53
  big
• 4:53
  occasion
• 4:54
  to
• 4:54
  do
• 4:54
  it.
• 4:56
  So
• 4:56
  think
• 4:56
  of
• 4:57
  one
• 4:57
  milestone
• 4:58
  you've
• 4:58
  reached
• 4:58
  together
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  find
• 4:59
  a
• 5:00
  way
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  mark
• 5:00
  it.
• 5:00
  This
• 5:01
  week,
• 5:02
  however
• 5:02
  simple,
• 5:03
  taking
• 5:04
  the
• 5:04
  time
• 5:04
  to
• 5:05
  honor
• 5:05
  your
• 5:05
  shared
• 5:05
  history
• 5:06
  is
• 5:06
  one
• 5:07
  of
• 5:07
  the
• 5:07
  most
• 5:07
  loving
• 5:07
  things
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  can
• 5:08
  do
• 5:08
  for
• 5:09
  your
• 5:09
  relationship.
• 5:11
  Now,
• 5:11
  before
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  go,
• 5:13
  here's
• 5:13
  something
• 5:13
  worth
• 5:14
  two
• 5:14
  minutes
• 5:15
  of
• 5:15
  your
• 5:15
  time
• 5:16
  on
• 5:17
  the
• 5:17
  homepage
• 5:17
  at
• 5:17
  DailyRelationshipTips.com
• 5:19
  There's
• 5:20
  a
• 5:20
  free
• 5:20
  quiz
• 5:21
  that
• 5:21
  that
• 5:21
  shows
• 5:21
  you
• 5:22
  how
• 5:22
  close
• 5:22
  you
• 5:23
  and
• 5:23
  your
• 5:23
  partner
• 5:24
  really
• 5:24
  are
• 5:25
  right
• 5:25
  now
• 5:26
  and
• 5:26
  where
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  easy
• 5:27
  wins
• 5:27
  are
• 5:27
  hiding.
• 5:29
  No
• 5:29
  guessing,
• 5:30
  no
• 5:30
  overwhelm,
• 5:31
  just
• 5:32
  a
• 5:32
  clear
• 5:32
  picture
• 5:33
  of
• 5:33
  where
• 5:33
  to
• 5:33
  start.
• 5:34
  And
• 5:35
  while
• 5:35
  you're
• 5:35
  there,
• 5:36
  you'll
• 5:37
  find
• 5:37
  a
• 5:37
  stack
• 5:37
  of
• 5:38
  relationship
• 5:38
  resources
• 5:39
  to
• 5:40
  help
• 5:40
  you
• 5:40
  put
• 5:40
  these
• 5:41
  habits
• 5:41
  into
• 5:42
  practice.
• 5:43
  Everything
• 5:43
  you
• 5:44
  need
• 5:44
  to
• 5:44
  create
• 5:45
  a
• 5:45
  happier,
• 5:46
  more
• 5:46
  loving
• 5:46
  and
• 5:46
  connected
• 5:47
  relationship
• 5:48
  is
• 5:48
  waiting
• 5:48
  for
• 5:49
  you.
• 5:49
  Thanks
• 5:50
  for
• 5:50
  listening
• 5:50
  and
• 5:51
  I'll
• 5:51
  see
• 5:51
  you
• 5:51
  in
• 5:52
  the
• 5:52
  next
• 5:52
  episode.