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People have gotten too soft, comfortable and sensitive. The real question is why? · The Facts with Jamal 🇺🇸🦅👊

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  There are plenty of ways to kind of sum up how and why society.
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  You can argue over the last decade or so, you know it's
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  become the way it is. That would be staying the under
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  obvious, But here's something that even you probably don't
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  realize well you actually do, but doesn't really get necessary
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  bother up as it should. It's the mindset of people.
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  And by that I mean, how the hell has people gotten too damn soft?
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  No, and I'm not actually joking here.
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  Like, how in the hell has people gone too damn soft?
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  Like, have people become too, in a way sensitive for their own
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  good? Now, while I don't know in all
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  seriousness how and why people have gotten, you know how people
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  have gotten to this point, but it's almost, I can't even say
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  embarrassing, but it's but you can kind of say it's
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  embarrassing, but it's really not.
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  But it's borderline pathetic and kind of sad.
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  But you know, that's society for you.
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  So I guess I can and and could explain how at this point people
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  have become too fragile, too dense skin, and really at this
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  point too self assured for their own good to the point where it
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  just seems like every little thing will trigger them for
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  almost the wrong reason. Now work.
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  It is no secret that people are who they essentially are.
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  I mean, that will kind of be understanding the obvious, but
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  whatever. But it comes to a point where a
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  legitimate question really does have to be asked.
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  Is it really a simple with people's feelings being hurt or
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  is there something underlining that I don't think people
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  realize? I mean, think about it this way.
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  Nowadays, this younger generation, they can't seem to
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  handle criticism. You know, many of them don't
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  want essentially they don't want tough love thrown their way.
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  They don't want to be criticized.
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  They don't want, you know, a stern talking to.
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  They don't want any of that. What they want is to essentially
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  be coddled, to have their hands held, to essentially be told,
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  you know, everything is OK. They essentially want their
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  flowers and be given praise all the time.
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  Now we just oppose that to, you know, when I grew, grew up, It's
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  starting to come along in life, I'll admit, you know that I had
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  teachers, my parents, even when I played sports, You know that I
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  have people, you know, criticize me, telling me I need to do
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  that, do better. You know, this is where you got
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  to improve in a school, at home or in your sport, what have you.
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  You better believe I did. And look, I'll even admit I
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  looked at it as like, whoa, you know, again, me being a young
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  kid turn into a team that look guys like a sign of, you know,
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  they didn't respect me or did they hate me?
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  Yeah, I did. I mean, I'm not gonna sugar coat
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  that. But now me being older and more
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  understanding, it wasn't due to the fact they didn't like me.
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  I mean, if that were the case it would have shown itself a lot
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  earlier. But what it was, more
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  importantly than I think I actually need it, it was
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  essentially encouragement that you have more inside you as a
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  person that you can get to that I think most don't even realize
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  within themselves. Now I know what you're probably
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  thinking. Like, how is that realistically
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  possible? Everyone always believes for one
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  reason or whatever. They always believe they know
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  what's best for them. See, when you're at a young age
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  or whatever, you always think you know everything.
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  And sometimes you'd think you have life figured out to where,
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  OK, I know what it takes to do this.
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  Then the third here, and as long as I put it all together, I can
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  figure it out. And that's where people
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  ultimately outdo themselves more than they probably should.
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  See the problem that ultimately comes into play, People actually
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  don't know what's good for them. And in a lot of cases, they
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  don't even know really anything if it hit them upside their ass
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  'cause the reality is we don't, you know, growing up as your
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  kids or teens, we don't always know what is best for us.
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  We think we do, but we actually don't.
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  Because you see, sometimes you actually need to listen to those
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  that know what they're talking about.
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  And by that I mean those that are older.
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  And look, sometimes you're going to be receptive to that.
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  Sometimes you may not want to hear what other people are
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  telling you. And was I that one point?
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  Again, it would be a huge disservice to me to say if I
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  wasn't of that ilk. But as time goes on, you learn
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  to understand that those same people, they actually know what
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  the hell they're talking about. But the reality is that's what
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  is one of the reasons or one of the things people are lacking in
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  society today. It's that they think they know
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  everything, but they really don't.
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  That they know what they believe is best for them, but ultimately
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  come to the realization that that actually was not the case.
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  And in a lot of instances, they always believe that not only do
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  they have their life figured out, but when they actually get
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  to a point where they actually believe it, only to find out
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  they don't, that's when everything starts to kind of
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  unravel for them. And you can see why a good hand
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  for them ultimately end up bitching about their life
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  because they think they are so smart that they didn't need to
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  essentially learn anything. Yeah, See how that has worked?
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  Regardless, though, you have to understand that it's OK to not
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  have your life figured out. It's even OK to, you know, not
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  even want to feel as if you have everything sorted out like in
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  the hood. But the idea that you ultimately
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  think that you can't handle criticism, to me that's like the
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  ultimate sign of immature. Here's what I mean by that.
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  Look, we all at one point in our life, we will get criticized
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  almost for everything. It doesn't matter if you're a
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  kid, teenager or even as an adult, like, you are sure you
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  are going to get criticized for something.
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  But what has me, I think even more, like I said, kind of
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  pathetic in a way, is the fact that we have been, you know,
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  conditioned to believe that. Taking criticism is almost as if
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  saying that, you know, we don't like you or that you're not
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  worth anything. If you're someone, even if
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  you're an adult, that actually believes that, then I'm actually
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  here to tell you, you really have some serious problems.
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  Now, I'm not even joking about that because look, in life,
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  you're going to have to learn and take your lumps.
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  I mean, we all, I mean, we would like to try escape criticism,
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  but the bottom line is nobody will be immune to it, but people
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  ultimately will try to find, you know, any kind of excuse to use
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  it as a way to essentially not want to do anything meaningful,
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  unfortunately. Oh, and by that I mean, I
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  actually get better as a person, but it's because of the fact
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  they are too dense skin, me soft as hell.
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  They probably think, well, what's the point that, you know,
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  I'm not well liked, nobody likes me.
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  So it's like, why even bother? And that right there is how
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  people ultimately outdo himself and actually for the wrong
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  reasons. If you can't ultimately find a
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  way to use criticism and tough love as some motivating factor
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  to 1 be better, then what the hell do you think is gonna
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  happen when you ultimately find yourself in a real tough
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  situation in life to where you will be put at the forefront and
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  then you are really going to have your work cut out for you?
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  Or you're just going to come back down and say, you know
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  what, I'm not going to continue, why bother?
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  I'm done. I'm just going to draw your way
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  and give up. Like with many things, that is a
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  cop out and an easy way to draw in a towel.
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  Fortunately, that's life for you, you know, and people
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  nowadays, you figure out how that works.
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  But the point is you cannot use criticism and or tough love or
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  even being judgmental. You can't ultimately use that as
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  a reason to essentially be a soft ass person.
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  Because if you do that, you ultimately give off the
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  impression that I don't essentially have to take being
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  judge. I don't have to take being, you
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  know, chastised and criticized by many people who one don't
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  even know me. And #2 that I don't have to take
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  this. I don't have to essentially
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  change anything about me. And it's essentially, you know,
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  to hell with you all. And that'll be that.
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  OK, you go ahead and have that kind of thought process and it's
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  not going to end. Look, and again, take it from a
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  guy that, yes, himself was judged at one point or not, you
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  know, from growing up to even now.
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  I mean, it's life people. You're not going to escape being
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  judged and criticized. The one thing you cannot do,
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  however, you cannot be soft about it.
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  And look, are people going to say a whole bunch of nonsensical
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  bullshit? Of course.
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  Are people going to take jabs at you?
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  You know, for some of the time, kind of unwanted?
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  Absolutely. Doesn't you, no matter really
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  what age you are. But the key once again is are
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  you going to let it be a detriment?
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  Because it's real easy, especially nowadays with the way
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  people are, to essentially let it be a deterrent.
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  You can't let that be the case, because if you allow it to
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  happen, you ultimately have yourself to blame for your
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  eventual failure. So do yourself a favor.
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  You have to learn to embrace criticism, tough love, and even
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  some harsh advice. You're not just going to be able
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  to be given a bed of roses and everything's going to be fine.
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  Because if you really think that's the way you want your
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  life to be, you are going to be in for harsh reality.
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  And while I can't, you know, speak for everyone, again, I can
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  only speak for myself. The bottom line is, it doesn't
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  matter where this criticism or tough love come from, if
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  somebody actually knows what they're talking about and they
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  actually want to see you do well, learn to accept what
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  they're saying. Because a lot of people,
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  unfortunately, they do not. They do not understand really
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  how even the harshest of advice can end up being the biggest
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  blessing of them all. So this again, stop being
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  sensitive. Stop being so fragile minded and
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  learn to take things on the chin and just be better from it.
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  It's really that simple.