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10. How to Gain More Confidence · Burning Brightly

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  Hey
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  there
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  everybody.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  podcast.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  after
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  last
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  week's
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  episode
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  on
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  the
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  fuel
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  needed
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  to
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  burn
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  brightly
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  that
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  I
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  should
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  call
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  you
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  guys
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  something
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  like
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  my
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  little
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  burning
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  candles
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  or
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  something.
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  That's
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  easy.
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  Anyway
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  today,
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  confidence.
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  Oh,
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  confidence.
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  I
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  know
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  everyone
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  wants
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  more
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  of
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  it.
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  And
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  listening
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  to
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  this,
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  you
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  were
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  probably
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  wanting
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  more
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  of
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  it
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  because
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  put
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  something
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  out
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  into
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  the
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  world
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  and
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  you
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  are
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  feeling.
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  Uh,
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  afraid
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  and
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  not
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  very
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  confident.
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  Right.
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  So
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  let's
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  start
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  off
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  with
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  a
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  definition.
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  There
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  were
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  a
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  couple
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  of
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  definitions
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  that
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  I
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  really
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  liked,
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  in
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  regards
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  to
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  confidence
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  when
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  I
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  looked
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  it
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  up
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  and
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  one
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  of
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  them
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  was
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  a
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  feeling
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  or
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  consciousness
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  of
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  one's
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  powers.
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  How
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  cool
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  is
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  that?
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  Do
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  you
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  feel
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  conscious
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  of
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  your
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  own
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  power?
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  Or
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  a
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  faith
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  or
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  belief
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  that
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  one
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  will
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  act
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  in
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  a
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  right
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  proper
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  or
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  effective
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  way.
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  Do
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  you
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  have
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  faith
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  or
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  belief
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  that
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  you
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  know,
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  the
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  right
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  thing
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  to
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  do,
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  or
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  the
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  proper
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  thing
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  to
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  do
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  when
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  it
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  comes
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  to
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  building
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  a
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  business?
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  So
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  struggle
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  with
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  confidence.
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  In
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  fact,
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  I
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  think
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  a
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  lack
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  of
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  confidence
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  is
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  top
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  stressors
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  of
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  newbie
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  or
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  entrepreneurs.
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  We
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  think
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  that
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  we
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  need
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  way
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  more
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  confidence
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  than
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  we
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  have
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  to
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  do
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  some
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  of
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  these
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  hard
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  things
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  that
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  our
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  brain
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  is
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  telling
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  us
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  we
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  need
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  to
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  do.
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  If
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  we
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  were
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  just
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  confident
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  enough,
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  everything
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  would
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  be
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  easier.
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  If
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  we
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  were
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  more
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  conscious
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  of
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  our
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  own
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  power.
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  Or
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  we,
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  if
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  we
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  were
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  believing
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  that
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  we
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  would
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  do
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  things
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  right,
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  that
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  seems
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  just
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  so
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  elusive.
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  And
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  really
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  unattainable.
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  But
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  I
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  promise
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  that
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  it's
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  not
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  an,
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  give
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  you
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  exactly
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  what
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  you
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  need
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  today.
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  To
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  become
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  that
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  confident,
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  amazing
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  business
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  owner
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  that
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  be.
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  But
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  here
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  is
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  the
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  question
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  that
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  no
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  one
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  seems
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  to
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  be
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  asking.
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  How
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  do
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  we
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  gain
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  confidence?
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  What
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  do
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  you
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  think,
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  think
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  for
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  a
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  second,
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  how
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  do
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  you
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  gain
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  confidence?
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  Does
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  it
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  come
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  from?
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  People
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  telling
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  you
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  that
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  you
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  are
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  good
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  at
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  something?
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  Maybe
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  if
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  enough
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  people
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  tell
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  me
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  that
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  I'm
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  good
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  at
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  being
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  a
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  business
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  owner,
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  I
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  will
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  be
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  a
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  competent
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  business
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  owner.
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  Or
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  is
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  it
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  from
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  evidence
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  that
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  you
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  know
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  how
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  to
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  do
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  things,
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  Like
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  after
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  10
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  years
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  of
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  playing
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  piano,
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  I'm
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  a
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  confident
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  piano
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  player.
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  Is
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  it
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  former
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  success.
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  Have
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  you
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  had
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  success
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  in
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  one
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  area?
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  And
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  so
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  now
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  you're
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  confident
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  in
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  it.
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  Maybe
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  specialized
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  education,
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  right
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  after
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  you
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  finish
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  your,
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  your
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  bachelor's
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  degree,
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  you
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  feel
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  confident
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  in
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  that
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  area
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  of
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  study.
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  Or
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  just
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  more
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  experience
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  in
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  it?
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  What
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  is
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  it,
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  what
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  specifically.
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  Helps
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  us
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  to
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  gain
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  confidence.
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  Well,
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  the
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  cold
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  hard
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  truth
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  is
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  my
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  friend's
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  confidence
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  does
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  not
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  come
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  from
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  outside
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  of
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  you.
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  In
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  fact,
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  give
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  you
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  a
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  little
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  known
• 2:50
  secret.
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  No
• 2:52
  feeling
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  you
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  ever
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  experience
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  comes
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  from
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  out
• 2:54
  side
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  of
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  you.
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  It
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  is
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  all
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  created
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  in
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  your
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  own
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  brain.
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  This
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  is
• 2:58
  where
• 2:58
  we're
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  going
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  to
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  start
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  talking
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  more
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  about
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  the
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  nitty
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  gritty
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  of
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  life
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  coaching
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  and
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  how
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  I
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  help
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  people,
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  because
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  it
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  is
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  one
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  of
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  the
• 3:04
  most
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  powerful.
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  Understandings
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  that
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  you
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  will
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  ever
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  learn.
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  Learning
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  how
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  to
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  manage
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  my
• 3:10
  mind,
• 3:10
  which
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  is
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  what
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  life
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  coaching
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  is,
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  has
• 3:11
  been
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  the
• 3:12
  second
• 3:12
  biggest,
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  greatest
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  gift
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  I've
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  ever
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  given
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  myself.
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  The
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  first
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  one
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  being
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  my
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  relationship
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  with
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  God
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  at
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  the
• 3:17
  second
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  one
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  is
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  managing
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  my
• 3:18
  mind
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  because
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  it
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  controls
• 3:19
  everything
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  else
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  in
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  my
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  life.
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  Confidence
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  comes
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  from
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  within
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  when
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  we
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  think
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  confident
• 3:25
  thoughts.
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  We
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  feel.
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  Confident.
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  Wow.
• 3:29
  That
• 3:29
  seems
• 3:30
  simple.
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  Right?
• 3:30
  Just
• 3:30
  think
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  confident
• 3:31
  thoughts.
• 3:31
  Maybe
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  it's
• 3:32
  a
• 3:32
  little
• 3:32
  bit
• 3:32
  harder
• 3:32
  than
• 3:32
  it
• 3:33
  sounds.
• 3:33
  It
• 3:33
  is
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  a
• 3:34
  little
• 3:34
  bit
• 3:34
  trickier
• 3:34
  than
• 3:34
  it
• 3:34
  might
• 3:35
  seem,
• 3:35
  but
• 3:35
  it
• 3:35
  is
• 3:36
  that
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  simple.
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  So
• 3:38
  it
• 3:38
  is
• 3:38
  time
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  learn
• 3:39
  about
• 3:40
  the
• 3:40
  self-coaching
• 3:40
  model.
• 3:41
  So
• 3:41
  my
• 3:41
  life
• 3:41
  coach
• 3:42
  training.
• 3:42
  Was
• 3:43
  done
• 3:43
  through
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  life
• 3:44
  coach
• 3:44
  school
• 3:44
  created
• 3:45
  by
• 3:45
  Brooke
• 3:45
  Castillo
• 3:46
  and
• 3:46
  she.
• 3:47
  Teaches
• 3:47
  a
• 3:48
  model.
• 3:48
  She
• 3:49
  calls
• 3:49
  the
• 3:49
  self-coaching
• 3:50
  model.
• 3:50
  I
• 3:50
  will
• 3:50
  get
• 3:51
  into
• 3:51
  all
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  steps
• 3:51
  and
• 3:52
  teach
• 3:52
  it
• 3:52
  to
• 3:52
  you
• 3:52
  very
• 3:53
  thoroughly.
• 3:53
  As
• 3:53
  we
• 3:54
  go
• 3:54
  on
• 3:54
  through
• 3:54
  this
• 3:55
  podcast.
• 3:56
  And
• 3:56
  if
• 3:56
  you
• 3:56
  draw
• 3:56
  episodes,
• 3:57
  but
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  important
• 3:57
  thing
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  learn
• 3:58
  here
• 3:59
  is
• 3:59
  that
• 3:59
  we
• 4:00
  tell
• 4:00
  ourselves
• 4:00
  stories
• 4:01
  all
• 4:01
  day
• 4:02
  long.
• 4:03
  Our
• 4:03
  brain
• 4:03
  stories
• 4:04
  is
• 4:04
  also
• 4:04
  known
• 4:05
  as
• 4:05
  our
• 4:05
  life's
• 4:06
  narrative.
• 4:06
  It's
• 4:06
  how
• 4:07
  our
• 4:07
  brain
• 4:08
  interprets
• 4:09
  the
• 4:09
  world
• 4:09
  around
• 4:09
  us.
• 4:10
  Something
• 4:11
  happens
• 4:11
  outside
• 4:11
  of
• 4:11
  us
• 4:12
  and
• 4:12
  we
• 4:12
  have
• 4:12
  a
• 4:12
  thought
• 4:12
  about
• 4:12
  it.
• 4:13
  We
• 4:13
  have
• 4:13
  thousands
• 4:14
  and
• 4:15
  thousands
• 4:15
  of
• 4:15
  thoughts
• 4:16
  every
• 4:16
  single
• 4:16
  day.
• 4:17
  And
• 4:17
  many
• 4:17
  of
• 4:18
  them
• 4:18
  are
• 4:18
  subconscious.
• 4:18
  Many
• 4:19
  of
• 4:19
  them
• 4:19
  are
• 4:19
  not.
• 4:20
  Things
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  we
• 4:21
  are
• 4:21
  consciously
• 4:21
  thinking
• 4:22
  than
• 4:22
  reacting
• 4:22
  to.
• 4:22
  They
• 4:23
  just
• 4:23
  flit
• 4:23
  across
• 4:23
  our
• 4:24
  brain
• 4:24
  and
• 4:25
  we
• 4:25
  react.
• 4:26
  So
• 4:26
  a
• 4:26
  few
• 4:26
  examples.
• 4:27
  Somebody
• 4:27
  cuts
• 4:27
  you
• 4:28
  off
• 4:28
  in
• 4:28
  traffic
• 4:29
  on
• 4:29
  your
• 4:29
  way
• 4:29
  home,
• 4:29
  and
• 4:29
  you
• 4:30
  think
• 4:30
  what
• 4:30
  did
• 4:30
  work?
• 4:31
  There's
• 4:31
  a
• 4:32
  thought
• 4:32
  that
• 4:32
  happens
• 4:33
  because
• 4:34
  of
• 4:34
  how
• 4:34
  you
• 4:34
  interpreted
• 4:35
  a
• 4:35
  fact
• 4:35
  outside
• 4:36
  of
• 4:36
  you,
• 4:36
  the
• 4:36
  guy
• 4:36
  cutting
• 4:37
  you
• 4:37
  off.
• 4:38
  Your
• 4:38
  kids
• 4:38
  start
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  fight
• 4:39
  and
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  think
• 4:39
  these
• 4:40
  kids
• 4:40
  are
• 4:40
  driving
• 4:40
  me
• 4:40
  crazy.
• 4:41
  That's
• 4:41
  a
• 4:42
  story.
• 4:42
  Your
• 4:42
  husband
• 4:43
  forgets
• 4:43
  your
• 4:43
  anniversary
• 4:44
  and
• 4:44
  you
• 4:45
  think
• 4:45
  he's
• 4:45
  so
• 4:45
  insensitive
• 4:46
  sometimes.
• 4:47
  Story.
• 4:48
  That's
• 4:49
  your
• 4:49
  narrative
• 4:50
  about
• 4:50
  that
• 4:50
  event?
• 4:51
  The
• 4:52
  reason
• 4:52
  we
• 4:52
  know.
• 4:53
  That
• 4:53
  these
• 4:53
  narratives
• 4:54
  are
• 4:54
  ever
• 4:54
  changing.
• 4:55
  And
• 4:55
  our
• 4:55
  subjective
• 4:56
  is
• 4:56
  because
• 4:56
  everyone
• 4:57
  has
• 4:57
  different
• 4:57
  ones.
• 4:59
  There
• 4:59
  might
• 4:59
  be
• 4:59
  another
• 4:59
  woman
• 5:00
  whose
• 5:00
  husband
• 5:00
  forgets
• 5:00
  her
• 5:00
  anniversary
• 5:01
  and
• 5:01
  she
• 5:01
  thinks,
• 5:01
  oh
• 5:01
  good.
• 5:02
  We
• 5:02
  don't
• 5:02
  have
• 5:02
  to
• 5:02
  go
• 5:02
  out
• 5:02
  to
• 5:03
  eat.
• 5:03
  I
• 5:03
  hate
• 5:03
  getting
• 5:03
  dressed
• 5:03
  up.
• 5:05
  Or
• 5:05
  there
• 5:05
  might
• 5:05
  be
• 5:05
  another
• 5:05
  person
• 5:06
  who
• 5:06
  gets
• 5:06
  cut
• 5:06
  off
• 5:06
  in
• 5:06
  traffic
• 5:07
  and
• 5:07
  thinks,
• 5:07
  oh,
• 5:07
  good.
• 5:07
  This
• 5:07
  is
• 5:07
  going
• 5:07
  to
• 5:07
  slow
• 5:08
  me
• 5:08
  down.
• 5:08
  I
• 5:08
  don't
• 5:08
  want
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  get
• 5:08
  home
• 5:09
  in
• 5:09
  time
• 5:09
  for
• 5:09
  bedtime.
• 5:10
  Everyone
• 5:11
  has
• 5:11
  different
• 5:12
  interpretations
• 5:13
  of
• 5:13
  the
• 5:13
  same
• 5:14
  events.
• 5:14
  It's
• 5:15
  fantastic.
• 5:16
  It's
• 5:16
  amazing.
• 5:17
  It's
• 5:17
  what
• 5:17
  makes
• 5:17
  us
• 5:18
  uniquely
• 5:18
  us.
• 5:19
  It's
• 5:19
  what
• 5:19
  creates
• 5:20
  our
• 5:20
  personality
• 5:20
  and
• 5:21
  makes
• 5:21
  us
• 5:21
  uniquely
• 5:22
  human.
• 5:23
  And
• 5:23
  as
• 5:23
  I
• 5:23
  mentioned,
• 5:24
  these
• 5:24
  stories
• 5:24
  and
• 5:24
  reality
• 5:25
  are
• 5:25
  very
• 5:26
  rarely
• 5:26
  facts.
• 5:27
  They're
• 5:27
  just
• 5:27
  our
• 5:27
  interpretation
• 5:28
  of
• 5:28
  them.
• 5:28
  Sometimes
• 5:30
  these
• 5:30
  stories,
• 5:30
  this
• 5:30
  narrative
• 5:31
  serves
• 5:31
  us
• 5:31
  really
• 5:32
  well.
• 5:33
  For
• 5:33
  example,
• 5:34
  when
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  was
• 5:34
  growing
• 5:34
  up,
• 5:35
  I
• 5:35
  told
• 5:35
  myself
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  story
• 5:35
  that
• 5:36
  having
• 5:36
  a
• 5:36
  large
• 5:36
  family
• 5:37
  would
• 5:37
  be
• 5:37
  amazing.
• 5:38
  It
• 5:38
  would
• 5:38
  be
• 5:38
  chaotic
• 5:39
  and
• 5:39
  noisy
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  fun
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  so
• 5:41
  much
• 5:41
  love.
• 5:42
  And
• 5:42
  it
• 5:42
  led
• 5:42
  me
• 5:43
  to
• 5:43
  having
• 5:43
  10
• 5:44
  children
• 5:44
  on
• 5:44
  my
• 5:44
  own.
• 5:44
  And
• 5:45
  it's
• 5:45
  true.
• 5:45
  It
• 5:45
  is
• 5:45
  fun
• 5:46
  and
• 5:46
  noisy
• 5:46
  and
• 5:46
  chaotic
• 5:47
  and
• 5:47
  amazing.
• 5:48
  It
• 5:49
  is
• 5:49
  other
• 5:49
  things
• 5:49
  too,
• 5:49
  but
• 5:50
  that
• 5:50
  story
• 5:51
  served
• 5:51
  me.
• 5:51
  It
• 5:51
  got
• 5:52
  me
• 5:52
  what
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  wanted,
• 5:52
  because
• 5:53
  that
• 5:53
  was
• 5:53
  how
• 5:53
  my
• 5:53
  brain
• 5:53
  was
• 5:54
  interpreting
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  large
• 5:55
  families
• 5:55
  that
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  saw
• 5:56
  and
• 5:56
  the
• 5:56
  experiences
• 5:56
  that
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  had.
• 5:57
  Sometimes,
• 5:58
  however,
• 5:58
  unfortunately
• 5:59
  our
• 5:59
  stories
• 6:00
  do
• 6:00
  the
• 6:00
  opposite
• 6:01
  of
• 6:01
  this
• 6:01
  and
• 6:01
  they
• 6:01
  cause
• 6:02
  us
• 6:02
  suffering
• 6:03
  and
• 6:03
  pain
• 6:04
  and
• 6:04
  grief.
• 6:05
  Sometimes
• 6:06
  these
• 6:06
  narratives
• 6:06
  are
• 6:07
  simply
• 6:07
  the
• 6:07
  result
• 6:07
  of
• 6:08
  what
• 6:08
  we
• 6:08
  were
• 6:08
  taught
• 6:08
  as
• 6:08
  kids
• 6:09
  or
• 6:09
  of
• 6:09
  what
• 6:09
  we've
• 6:09
  seen
• 6:10
  our
• 6:10
  peers
• 6:10
  and
• 6:11
  our
• 6:11
  friends
• 6:11
  do.
• 6:12
  Sometimes
• 6:13
  they're
• 6:13
  just
• 6:13
  the
• 6:13
  result
• 6:13
  of
• 6:13
  our
• 6:13
  own
• 6:14
  expectations
• 6:14
  for
• 6:14
  ourselves.
• 6:15
  So
• 6:16
  life
• 6:16
  coaching
• 6:16
  is
• 6:16
  all
• 6:17
  about
• 6:17
  diving
• 6:17
  into
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  why
• 6:18
  behind
• 6:19
  this
• 6:19
  narrative.
• 6:19
  Do
• 6:20
  we
• 6:20
  want
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  keep
• 6:20
  this
• 6:20
  narrative
• 6:21
  or
• 6:21
  do
• 6:21
  we
• 6:21
  want
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  change
• 6:22
  it
• 6:22
  to
• 6:22
  something
• 6:22
  that
• 6:22
  serves
• 6:22
  us
• 6:23
  better?
• 6:24
  But
• 6:24
  many
• 6:24
  of
• 6:25
  us
• 6:25
  do
• 6:25
  not
• 6:25
  even
• 6:25
  know
• 6:26
  that
• 6:26
  there
• 6:26
  is
• 6:26
  a
• 6:26
  better
• 6:26
  way.
• 6:27
  We
• 6:27
  think
• 6:27
  that
• 6:27
  our
• 6:28
  narrative
• 6:28
  is
• 6:28
  facts
• 6:29
  and
• 6:29
  that
• 6:30
  truth
• 6:30
  alone.
• 6:30
  The
• 6:30
  fact
• 6:31
  that
• 6:31
  your
• 6:31
  thoughts
• 6:31
  and
• 6:32
  stories
• 6:32
  are
• 6:32
  not
• 6:32
  facts
• 6:33
  is
• 6:34
  one
• 6:34
  of
• 6:34
  the
• 6:34
  most
• 6:34
  revolutionary
• 6:35
  things
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  are
• 6:35
  ever
• 6:35
  going
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  learn.
• 6:36
  I
• 6:36
  promise
• 6:37
  try
• 6:37
  it
• 6:37
  on
• 6:37
  and
• 6:38
  let
• 6:38
  me
• 6:38
  know
• 6:38
  what
• 6:38
  you
• 6:38
  think.
• 6:39
  So
• 6:39
  back
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  confidence.
• 6:41
  Feeling
• 6:42
  the
• 6:42
  feeling
• 6:42
  of
• 6:42
  confidence
• 6:43
  simply
• 6:43
  relies
• 6:44
  on
• 6:44
  whether
• 6:44
  or
• 6:44
  not
• 6:45
  we
• 6:45
  are
• 6:45
  thinking
• 6:45
  thoughts
• 6:46
  that
• 6:46
  create
• 6:47
  confidence.
• 6:48
  Our
• 6:48
  thoughts
• 6:49
  actually
• 6:50
  create
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  feelings
• 6:51
  that
• 6:52
  we
• 6:52
  want
• 6:52
  to
• 6:52
  feel.
• 6:52
  So
• 6:52
  back
• 6:52
  to
• 6:52
  the
• 6:53
  examples
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  gave
• 6:53
  you.
• 6:53
  Uh,
• 6:54
  a
• 6:54
  man
• 6:54
  cuts
• 6:54
  you
• 6:54
  off
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  you
• 6:54
  think
• 6:55
  what
• 6:55
  a
• 6:55
  jerk,
• 6:55
  what
• 6:55
  feeling
• 6:56
  comes
• 6:57
  from
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  thought
• 6:58
  that
• 6:58
  guy's
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  jerk?
• 6:59
  Probably
• 6:59
  irritation
• 7:00
  or
• 7:00
  anger.
• 7:01
  These
• 7:01
  kids
• 7:02
  are
• 7:02
  driving
• 7:02
  me
• 7:02
  crazy
• 7:03
  yields.
• 7:03
  What
• 7:04
  kind
• 7:04
  of
• 7:04
  feeling.
• 7:05
  Irritation
• 7:06
  anger.
• 7:06
  Right?
• 7:06
  I,
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  picked
• 7:07
  a
• 7:07
  lot
• 7:07
  of
• 7:07
  similar.
• 7:08
  Uh,
• 7:08
  examples
• 7:08
  here.
• 7:09
  Let's
• 7:09
  change
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  anniversary.
• 7:10
  When
• 7:10
  let's
• 7:10
  say
• 7:10
  your
• 7:10
  husband
• 7:11
  does
• 7:11
  remember
• 7:11
  your
• 7:11
  anniversary
• 7:12
  and
• 7:12
  he
• 7:12
  brings
• 7:12
  flowers
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  chocolates
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  takes
• 7:13
  you
• 7:13
  on
• 7:14
  a
• 7:14
  fancy
• 7:14
  date
• 7:14
  and
• 7:14
  you
• 7:14
  think
• 7:15
  I
• 7:15
  love
• 7:15
  this
• 7:15
  man.
• 7:15
  He's
• 7:16
  incredible.
• 7:16
  What
• 7:16
  feeling
• 7:17
  yields
• 7:17
  from
• 7:17
  that
• 7:18
  Love
• 7:18
  and
• 7:18
  attraction
• 7:19
  and
• 7:19
  beautiful
• 7:20
  feelings.
• 7:20
  So
• 7:21
  those
• 7:21
  thoughts
• 7:22
  create
• 7:22
  our
• 7:22
  feelings.
• 7:22
  So
• 7:23
  So,
• 7:23
  let
• 7:23
  me
• 7:23
  give
• 7:23
  you
• 7:24
  an
• 7:24
  example
• 7:24
  from
• 7:24
  my
• 7:24
  own
• 7:25
  life
• 7:25
  to
• 7:25
  help
• 7:25
  illustrate
• 7:25
  this
• 7:26
  a
• 7:26
  little
• 7:26
  bit.
• 7:27
  I
• 7:27
  have
• 7:27
  had
• 7:27
  many
• 7:28
  experiences
• 7:28
  to
• 7:29
  teach
• 7:29
  Sunday
• 7:30
  school
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  adults
• 7:31
  in
• 7:31
  my
• 7:31
  church.
• 7:31
  So
• 7:31
  the
• 7:32
  first
• 7:32
  time,
• 7:32
  so
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  way
• 7:32
  it
• 7:33
  works
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  our
• 7:33
  churches,
• 7:33
  you
• 7:34
  are
• 7:34
  given
• 7:34
  an
• 7:34
  assignment
• 7:35
  to
• 7:35
  do
• 7:35
  something,
• 7:35
  to
• 7:35
  help
• 7:36
  out
• 7:36
  in
• 7:36
  church.
• 7:36
  And
• 7:36
  it
• 7:36
  lasts
• 7:37
  for
• 7:37
  several
• 7:37
  months
• 7:37
  up
• 7:37
  to
• 7:37
  several
• 7:38
  years.
• 7:38
  So
• 7:39
  this
• 7:39
  assignment.
• 7:39
  To
• 7:40
  teach
• 7:40
  the
• 7:40
  adults
• 7:40
  in
• 7:40
  Sunday
• 7:41
  school.
• 7:41
  I
• 7:41
  was
• 7:41
  first
• 7:42
  given
• 7:42
  when
• 7:42
  I
• 7:42
  was
• 7:42
  about
• 7:42
  18
• 7:43
  or
• 7:43
  19,
• 7:43
  so
• 7:43
  I
• 7:43
  was
• 7:43
  a
• 7:43
  brand
• 7:44
  new
• 7:44
  adult
• 7:44
  in
• 7:44
  college.
• 7:46
  And
• 7:46
  I
• 7:46
  was
• 7:46
  facing
• 7:47
  a
• 7:47
  room
• 7:47
  full
• 7:47
  of
• 7:48
  men
• 7:48
  and
• 7:48
  women.
• 7:48
  Most
• 7:48
  of
• 7:49
  whom
• 7:49
  were
• 7:49
  much
• 7:49
  older
• 7:50
  than
• 7:50
  me.
• 7:51
  And
• 7:51
  I
• 7:51
  felt
• 7:51
  like
• 7:52
  they
• 7:52
  knew
• 7:52
  a
• 7:52
  lot
• 7:52
  more
• 7:52
  than
• 7:53
  me,
• 7:53
  so
• 7:53
  I
• 7:53
  was
• 7:53
  kind
• 7:53
  of
• 7:54
  terrified.
• 7:55
  But
• 7:55
  I
• 7:55
  chose
• 7:56
  to
• 7:56
  think
• 7:57
  that
• 7:57
  I
• 7:57
  could
• 7:57
  be
• 7:58
  a
• 7:58
  good
• 7:58
  Sunday
• 7:58
  school
• 7:58
  teacher.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:59
  I
• 7:59
  chose
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  think
• 7:59
  that
• 8:00
  I
• 8:00
  had
• 8:00
  everything
• 8:00
  I
• 8:00
  needed
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  be
• 8:01
  a
• 8:01
  great
• 8:02
  teacher.
• 8:03
  And
• 8:03
  then
• 8:03
  I
• 8:03
  felt
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  feeling
• 8:04
  of
• 8:04
  confidence
• 8:05
  and
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  started
• 8:05
  to
• 8:06
  become
• 8:06
  a
• 8:06
  good
• 8:06
  teacher.
• 8:07
  So
• 8:08
  recently
• 8:08
  I've
• 8:08
  been
• 8:08
  given
• 8:08
  this
• 8:09
  assignment
• 8:09
  again
• 8:09
  and
• 8:10
  I'm
• 8:10
  again,
• 8:10
  teaching
• 8:10
  the
• 8:10
  adults
• 8:11
  Sunday
• 8:11
  school.
• 8:12
  And
• 8:12
  do
• 8:13
  I
• 8:13
  feel
• 8:13
  nervous
• 8:13
  and
• 8:13
  insecure
• 8:14
  sometimes.
• 8:14
  Absolutely.
• 8:15
  Like
• 8:15
  every
• 8:15
  single
• 8:16
  time
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  get
• 8:16
  up
• 8:16
  there
• 8:16
  and
• 8:16
  do
• 8:17
  it,
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  battle
• 8:17
  those
• 8:17
  feelings.
• 8:18
  But
• 8:18
  instead
• 8:19
  of
• 8:19
  dwelling
• 8:19
  on
• 8:20
  them
• 8:20
  and
• 8:20
  thinking,
• 8:20
  oh,
• 8:20
  you're
• 8:21
  not
• 8:21
  going
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  like
• 8:21
  me.
• 8:22
  Or
• 8:23
  they
• 8:23
  know
• 8:23
  more
• 8:23
  than
• 8:23
  me
• 8:24
  or
• 8:24
  they're
• 8:24
  going
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  hate
• 8:25
  what
• 8:25
  I
• 8:25
  have
• 8:25
  to
• 8:25
  say.
• 8:26
  I
• 8:26
  lean
• 8:26
  in
• 8:27
  to
• 8:27
  the
• 8:27
  thoughts
• 8:27
  that
• 8:28
  build
• 8:28
  confidence.
• 8:28
  Like
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  love
• 8:29
  doing
• 8:30
  this.
• 8:31
  This
• 8:31
  is
• 8:31
  such
• 8:31
  a
• 8:32
  privilege.
• 8:32
  Teaching
• 8:33
  people
• 8:33
  about
• 8:34
  God
• 8:34
  is
• 8:34
  a
• 8:34
  blessing.
• 8:35
  And
• 8:35
  one
• 8:35
  of
• 8:35
  my
• 8:35
  favorite
• 8:36
  things.
• 8:37
  So
• 8:37
  it's
• 8:37
  not
• 8:38
  that
• 8:38
  choosing
• 8:38
  your
• 8:39
  thoughts
• 8:40
  to
• 8:40
  lead
• 8:40
  to
• 8:40
  confidence
• 8:41
  will
• 8:41
  eliminate
• 8:42
  other
• 8:42
  negative
• 8:42
  feelings.
• 8:43
  You're
• 8:43
  still
• 8:43
  gonna
• 8:43
  feel
• 8:44
  nervousness.
• 8:44
  You're
• 8:44
  still
• 8:45
  gonna
• 8:45
  feel
• 8:45
  fear.
• 8:46
  That
• 8:46
  is
• 8:46
  totally
• 8:46
  normal,
• 8:47
  but
• 8:47
  confidence
• 8:48
  comes
• 8:48
  from
• 8:48
  leaning
• 8:49
  into
• 8:49
  the
• 8:50
  thoughts
• 8:50
  that
• 8:50
  yield
• 8:50
  it
• 8:51
  and
• 8:51
  ignoring
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  ones
• 8:53
  that
• 8:53
  yield
• 8:53
  the
• 8:53
  opposite,
• 8:54
  that
• 8:54
  nervousness
• 8:54
  and
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  fear.
• 8:55
  So
• 8:56
  now
• 8:56
  let's
• 8:56
  think
• 8:56
  about
• 8:56
  you.
• 8:56
  What
• 8:57
  do
• 8:57
  you
• 8:57
  need
• 8:58
  confidence
• 8:58
  for?
• 8:59
  Do
• 8:59
  you
• 9:00
  need
• 9:00
  it
• 9:00
  to
• 9:00
  show
• 9:00
  up
• 9:00
  on
• 9:01
  social
• 9:01
  media
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  promote
• 9:02
  your
• 9:02
  business?
• 9:03
  Or
• 9:03
  maybe
• 9:03
  you're
• 9:04
  thinking
• 9:04
  about
• 9:04
  calling
• 9:04
  a
• 9:04
  supplier
• 9:05
  and
• 9:05
  seeing
• 9:05
  how
• 9:05
  much
• 9:06
  it
• 9:06
  would
• 9:06
  be
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  get
• 9:06
  your
• 9:07
  amazing
• 9:07
  invention
• 9:07
  made.
• 9:08
  Maybe
• 9:09
  you
• 9:09
  just
• 9:09
  need
• 9:09
  to
• 9:09
  apply
• 9:10
  for
• 9:10
  a
• 9:10
  business
• 9:10
  loan.
• 9:10
  And
• 9:11
  you're
• 9:11
  terrified
• 9:11
  at
• 9:12
  going
• 9:12
  to
• 9:12
  a
• 9:12
  banker
• 9:12
  and
• 9:13
  putting
• 9:13
  your
• 9:13
  business
• 9:13
  plan
• 9:14
  in
• 9:14
  front
• 9:14
  of
• 9:14
  him.
• 9:15
  Maybe
• 9:15
  you
• 9:15
  just
• 9:15
  need
• 9:15
  to
• 9:15
  talk
• 9:15
  to
• 9:15
  your
• 9:16
  husband
• 9:16
  about
• 9:16
  your
• 9:16
  idea
• 9:16
  and
• 9:17
  you're
• 9:17
  nervous
• 9:17
  about
• 9:18
  that.
• 9:18
  So,
• 9:19
  whatever
• 9:19
  it
• 9:19
  is,
• 9:19
  forget
• 9:20
  the
• 9:20
  confidence
• 9:20
  for
• 9:20
  just
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  second
• 9:21
  and
• 9:21
  ask
• 9:21
  yourself
• 9:22
  what
• 9:22
  narrative
• 9:23
  you're
• 9:23
  telling
• 9:23
  yourself.
• 9:24
  What
• 9:24
  is
• 9:24
  the
• 9:24
  story
• 9:25
  that's
• 9:25
  going
• 9:25
  through
• 9:25
  your
• 9:25
  brain
• 9:26
  about
• 9:26
  this
• 9:27
  situation?
• 9:28
  These
• 9:28
  thoughts
• 9:29
  actually
• 9:29
  might
• 9:29
  be
• 9:29
  very
• 9:29
  subtle
• 9:30
  yet.
• 9:31
  Pernicious
• 9:31
  thoughts
• 9:32
  that
• 9:32
  actually
• 9:32
  take
• 9:32
  some
• 9:32
  time
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  uncover.
• 9:33
  And
• 9:33
  that's
• 9:34
  what
• 9:34
  life
• 9:34
  coaching
• 9:34
  is
• 9:34
  about.
• 9:35
  But
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  suggest
• 9:36
  you
• 9:36
  do
• 9:36
  some
• 9:36
  journaling
• 9:37
  or
• 9:37
  you
• 9:37
  can
• 9:37
  sign
• 9:37
  up
• 9:37
  for
• 9:37
  a
• 9:37
  free
• 9:37
  call
• 9:38
  with
• 9:38
  me
• 9:38
  and
• 9:38
  I
• 9:38
  can
• 9:38
  help
• 9:39
  you.
• 9:39
  Uncover
• 9:40
  some
• 9:40
  of
• 9:40
  those
• 9:40
  thoughts
• 9:41
  that
• 9:41
  are
• 9:41
  causing
• 9:42
  this
• 9:42
  fear,
• 9:43
  this
• 9:43
  nervousness,
• 9:43
  this
• 9:44
  anxiety
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  is
• 9:44
  keeping
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  back
• 9:45
  from
• 9:45
  the
• 9:45
  next
• 9:46
  step.
• 9:47
  Digging
• 9:48
  into
• 9:48
  your
• 9:48
  brain
• 9:48
  is
• 9:48
  one
• 9:48
  of
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  tools.
• 9:49
  That
• 9:49
  I
• 9:50
  love
• 9:50
  to
• 9:50
  show
• 9:50
  people
• 9:50
  how
• 9:50
  to
• 9:51
  do,
• 9:51
  because
• 9:51
  then
• 9:51
  it
• 9:52
  uncovers
• 9:52
  why
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  were
• 9:53
  feeling
• 9:53
  the
• 9:53
  way
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  are
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  you
• 9:54
  can
• 9:54
  make
• 9:54
  progress
• 9:54
  in
• 9:55
  a
• 9:55
  different
• 9:55
  direction.
• 9:56
  So
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  sooner
• 9:56
  you
• 9:57
  uncover
• 9:57
  the
• 9:57
  stories
• 9:57
  that
• 9:57
  you're
• 9:58
  telling
• 9:58
  yourself,
• 9:58
  the
• 9:59
  sooner
• 9:59
  you'll
• 9:59
  be
• 10:00
  able
• 10:00
  to
• 10:00
  question
• 10:01
  them.
• 10:01
  And
• 10:02
  loosen
• 10:02
  their
• 10:02
  grip
• 10:03
  on
• 10:03
  your
• 10:03
  brain.
• 10:04
  You
• 10:04
  get
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  ask
• 10:05
  yourself,
• 10:05
  I
• 10:05
  series
• 10:06
  of
• 10:06
  questions
• 10:06
  when
• 10:06
  you
• 10:06
  uncover
• 10:07
  these
• 10:07
  thoughts,
• 10:07
  the
• 10:07
  first
• 10:08
  one
• 10:08
  is,
• 10:09
  is
• 10:09
  this
• 10:09
  even
• 10:10
  true?
• 10:11
  Okay,
• 10:11
  so
• 10:11
  let's
• 10:11
  take
• 10:12
  for
• 10:12
  example.
• 10:13
  Talking
• 10:13
  to
• 10:14
  your
• 10:14
  husband
• 10:14
  about
• 10:14
  your
• 10:14
  business
• 10:15
  ideas
• 10:15
  I
• 10:15
  get
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  sometimes
• 10:16
  just
• 10:16
  talking
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  the
• 10:17
  first
• 10:17
  person
• 10:18
  outside
• 10:18
  of
• 10:18
  your
• 10:18
  own
• 10:18
  head
• 10:19
  about
• 10:19
  your
• 10:19
  ideas
• 10:19
  can
• 10:19
  be
• 10:19
  scary,
• 10:20
  even
• 10:20
  if
• 10:20
  it's
• 10:20
  your
• 10:20
  wonderful
• 10:21
  husband.
• 10:22
  You
• 10:23
  are
• 10:23
  probably
• 10:23
  thinking
• 10:24
  thoughts
• 10:24
  like.
• 10:25
  He's
• 10:25
  not
• 10:25
  going
• 10:26
  to
• 10:26
  like
• 10:26
  this.
• 10:27
  He's
• 10:27
  going
• 10:27
  to
• 10:27
  tell
• 10:27
  me
• 10:27
  we
• 10:27
  don't
• 10:28
  have
• 10:28
  money
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  invest.
• 10:29
  He's
• 10:29
  going
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  laugh
• 10:30
  at
• 10:30
  me.
• 10:31
  He's
• 10:31
  going
• 10:31
  to
• 10:31
  say
• 10:31
  it's
• 10:31
  a
• 10:32
  bad
• 10:32
  idea.
• 10:33
  You
• 10:33
  are
• 10:33
  already
• 10:34
  spinning
• 10:34
  in
• 10:34
  your
• 10:35
  head
• 10:35
  probably
• 10:35
  about
• 10:36
  what
• 10:36
  he's
• 10:36
  going
• 10:36
  to
• 10:36
  say,
• 10:36
  what
• 10:37
  he's
• 10:37
  going
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  think
• 10:37
  and
• 10:37
  what
• 10:38
  that's
• 10:38
  going
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  mean
• 10:38
  for
• 10:38
  you.
• 10:39
  Stop
• 10:40
  for
• 10:40
  just
• 10:40
  a
• 10:40
  second
• 10:40
  and
• 10:41
  ask.
• 10:41
  Are
• 10:42
  these
• 10:42
  things
• 10:42
  even
• 10:42
  true?
• 10:43
  Is
• 10:43
  he
• 10:43
  really
• 10:44
  going
• 10:44
  to
• 10:44
  laugh
• 10:44
  at
• 10:44
  you?
• 10:44
  Has
• 10:44
  your
• 10:45
  husband
• 10:45
  ever
• 10:45
  laughed
• 10:45
  at
• 10:45
  your
• 10:46
  idea?
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  mean,
• 10:47
  my
• 10:47
  husband
• 10:48
  laughs
• 10:48
  at
• 10:48
  me
• 10:48
  all
• 10:48
  the
• 10:48
  time,
• 10:48
  but
• 10:48
  not
• 10:48
  for
• 10:49
  serious
• 10:49
  dope.
• 10:51
  What
• 10:51
  is
• 10:51
  he
• 10:51
  really
• 10:52
  going
• 10:52
  to
• 10:52
  rack,
• 10:52
  like
• 10:53
  ask
• 10:53
  yourself
• 10:53
  that,
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  even
• 10:54
  if
• 10:54
  he
• 10:54
  is
• 10:54
  going
• 10:54
  to
• 10:54
  laugh.
• 10:54
  So
• 10:55
  what,
• 10:55
  that's
• 10:55
  another
• 10:55
  question
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  can
• 10:56
  ask
• 10:56
  yourself.
• 10:56
  So
• 10:57
  what,
• 10:57
  even
• 10:58
  if
• 10:58
  it
• 10:58
  is
• 10:58
  true,
• 10:58
  what
• 10:59
  does
• 10:59
  that
• 10:59
  mean?
• 10:59
  What
• 11:00
  am
• 11:00
  I
• 11:00
  making
• 11:00
  that
• 11:00
  mean?
• 11:01
  Am
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  making
• 11:02
  it
• 11:02
  mean
• 11:02
  something
• 11:02
  really
• 11:03
  dramatic
• 11:03
  and
• 11:03
  serious?
• 11:05
  Or
• 11:05
  is
• 11:05
  it
• 11:05
  not
• 11:05
  that
• 11:06
  big
• 11:06
  of
• 11:06
  a
• 11:06
  deal?
• 11:07
  The
• 11:07
  next
• 11:07
  question
• 11:07
  you
• 11:07
  can
• 11:07
  ask
• 11:08
  yourself
• 11:08
  about
• 11:08
  your
• 11:08
  thought
• 11:09
  is,
• 11:09
  do
• 11:09
  I
• 11:09
  want
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  keep
• 11:11
  believing
• 11:11
  this.
• 11:12
  If
• 11:12
  I
• 11:13
  believe
• 11:13
  my
• 11:13
  husband
• 11:13
  will
• 11:14
  dismiss
• 11:14
  my
• 11:14
  business
• 11:14
  ideas.
• 11:15
  Do
• 11:15
  I
• 11:15
  want
• 11:15
  to
• 11:15
  keep
• 11:16
  believing
• 11:16
  it?
• 11:16
  I
• 11:16
  could
• 11:17
  just
• 11:17
  ask
• 11:17
  him
• 11:17
  and
• 11:17
  see.
• 11:18
  It
• 11:18
  might
• 11:19
  be
• 11:19
  true.
• 11:19
  It
• 11:19
  might
• 11:19
  not
• 11:19
  be,
• 11:19
  even
• 11:20
  if
• 11:20
  it
• 11:20
  is,
• 11:20
  then
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  can
• 11:21
  choose
• 11:21
  to
• 11:21
  move
• 11:22
  on
• 11:22
  from
• 11:22
  there,
• 11:22
  then
• 11:22
  I
• 11:22
  can
• 11:22
  choose
• 11:23
  to
• 11:23
  think
• 11:23
  another
• 11:23
  thought,
• 11:23
  like,
• 11:24
  do
• 11:25
  I
• 11:25
  need
• 11:25
  his
• 11:25
  approval
• 11:26
  to
• 11:26
  build
• 11:27
  this
• 11:27
  business?
• 11:27
  Do
• 11:28
  I
• 11:28
  need
• 11:28
  him
• 11:28
  to
• 11:28
  believe
• 11:29
  in
• 11:29
  me?
• 11:29
  Spoiler
• 11:29
  alert
• 11:30
  you
• 11:30
  don't,
• 11:30
  you
• 11:31
  need
• 11:31
  only
• 11:31
  yourself
• 11:32
  to
• 11:32
  believe
• 11:32
  in
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  to
• 11:33
  move
• 11:33
  forward
• 11:33
  with
• 11:33
  a
• 11:33
  business
• 11:33
  idea.
• 11:34
  Another
• 11:34
  question
• 11:35
  you
• 11:35
  can
• 11:35
  ask
• 11:35
  yourself
• 11:35
  is
• 11:35
  what
• 11:36
  if
• 11:36
  I
• 11:36
  am
• 11:37
  wrong?
• 11:37
  What
• 11:38
  if
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  am
• 11:38
  wrong
• 11:38
  about
• 11:39
  all
• 11:39
  these
• 11:39
  fears
• 11:39
  that
• 11:39
  I
• 11:39
  have
• 11:40
  so
• 11:40
  many
• 11:41
  times
• 11:41
  we
• 11:41
  hold
• 11:41
  ourselves
• 11:41
  back
• 11:42
  from
• 11:42
  doing
• 11:42
  something
• 11:42
  that
• 11:42
  requires
• 11:43
  confidence
• 11:43
  because
• 11:44
  we
• 11:44
  have.
• 11:45
  Convinced
• 11:45
  ourselves
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  we
• 11:46
  will
• 11:46
  see
• 11:47
  a
• 11:47
  specific
• 11:47
  outcome.
• 11:48
  And
• 11:48
  then
• 11:48
  we
• 11:48
  finally
• 11:49
  get
• 11:49
  the
• 11:49
  courage
• 11:49
  to
• 11:49
  do
• 11:49
  it.
• 11:50
  And
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  outcome
• 11:51
  is
• 11:51
  nothing
• 11:51
  like
• 11:52
  our
• 11:52
  fears.
• 11:52
  It's
• 11:52
  hilarious.
• 11:53
  We
• 11:53
  just
• 11:53
  sit
• 11:53
  there
• 11:54
  and
• 11:54
  go.
• 11:54
  Why
• 11:54
  didn't
• 11:54
  I
• 11:55
  do
• 11:55
  this
• 11:55
  a
• 11:55
  million
• 11:55
  years
• 11:55
  ago?
• 11:56
  Nothing
• 11:56
  like
• 11:57
  that
• 11:57
  even
• 11:57
  happened,
• 11:57
  but
• 11:58
  our
• 11:58
  fears
• 11:58
  are
• 11:58
  always
• 11:59
  the
• 11:59
  worst
• 11:59
  inside
• 12:00
  our
• 12:00
  own
• 12:00
  heads.
• 12:01
  So
• 12:01
  again,
• 12:02
  ask
• 12:02
  yourself,
• 12:02
  is
• 12:03
  this
• 12:03
  even
• 12:03
  true?
• 12:04
  If
• 12:04
  so,
• 12:04
  so
• 12:04
  what
• 12:05
  do
• 12:05
  I
• 12:06
  want
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  keep
• 12:06
  believing
• 12:07
  it?
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  what
• 12:07
  if
• 12:08
  I
• 12:08
  am
• 12:08
  wrong,
• 12:08
  what
• 12:09
  if
• 12:09
  that
• 12:09
  doesn't
• 12:09
  happen,
• 12:10
  then?
• 12:10
  What.
• 12:11
  Okay,
• 12:11
  so
• 12:11
  that
• 12:11
  is
• 12:11
  step
• 12:12
  number
• 12:12
  one.
• 12:12
  We
• 12:12
  are
• 12:12
  dismantling
• 12:13
  the
• 12:14
  anti
• 12:14
  confidence
• 12:15
  narrative
• 12:15
  that
• 12:15
  might
• 12:16
  be
• 12:16
  going
• 12:16
  through
• 12:16
  our
• 12:16
  head.
• 12:17
  We're
• 12:17
  probably
• 12:17
  holding
• 12:18
  onto
• 12:18
  it
• 12:18
  really
• 12:18
  tightly.
• 12:19
  And
• 12:19
  if
• 12:20
  you
• 12:20
  guys
• 12:20
  remember
• 12:21
  back
• 12:21
  to
• 12:21
  episode
• 12:22
  three,
• 12:22
  I
• 12:22
  believe
• 12:23
  when
• 12:23
  we're
• 12:23
  talking
• 12:23
  about
• 12:23
  the
• 12:24
  primitive
• 12:24
  brain
• 12:25
  versus
• 12:25
  the.
• 12:26
  Rational
• 12:26
  brain.
• 12:27
  You'll
• 12:27
  remember
• 12:28
  that
• 12:28
  there
• 12:28
  is
• 12:28
  a
• 12:28
  reason
• 12:29
  why
• 12:29
  you
• 12:29
  hold
• 12:29
  on
• 12:30
  tightly
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  that
• 12:30
  anti
• 12:31
  confidence
• 12:31
  narrative.
• 12:31
  That's
• 12:32
  what
• 12:32
  we're
• 12:32
  gonna
• 12:32
  call
• 12:32
  it.
• 12:32
  The
• 12:32
  anti
• 12:32
  confidence
• 12:33
  narrative.
• 12:34
  The
• 12:34
  reason
• 12:34
  is
• 12:34
  it
• 12:35
  is
• 12:35
  protecting
• 12:35
  you
• 12:36
  from
• 12:37
  harm.
• 12:38
  Your
• 12:38
  primitive
• 12:38
  brain
• 12:38
  is
• 12:39
  saying,
• 12:39
  don't
• 12:40
  do
• 12:40
  the
• 12:40
  scary
• 12:40
  thing.
• 12:41
  You
• 12:41
  could
• 12:41
  die.
• 12:42
  You
• 12:42
  could
• 12:43
  face
• 12:43
  embarrassment
• 12:44
  and
• 12:44
  shame
• 12:45
  and
• 12:45
  failure
• 12:45
  and
• 12:45
  bankruptcy.
• 12:46
  Don't
• 12:47
  do
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  thing.
• 12:48
  But
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  have
• 12:48
  to
• 12:48
  be
• 12:48
  smart
• 12:49
  enough
• 12:49
  to
• 12:49
  say,
• 12:49
  wait
• 12:50
  a
• 12:50
  minute,
• 12:50
  I'm
• 12:50
  not
• 12:50
  holding
• 12:51
  onto
• 12:51
  these
• 12:51
  thoughts
• 12:51
  anymore
• 12:52
  because
• 12:52
  I
• 12:53
  need
• 12:53
  confidence
• 12:53
  to
• 12:54
  go
• 12:54
  out
• 12:54
  and
• 12:54
  build
• 12:54
  the
• 12:54
  business
• 12:55
  on
• 12:55
  my
• 12:55
  dream.
• 12:55
  So
• 12:56
  simmer
• 12:56
  down
• 12:56
  their
• 12:57
  primitive
• 12:57
  brain.
• 12:58
  I
• 12:58
  know
• 12:58
  you
• 12:58
  think
• 12:58
  we're
• 12:58
  going
• 12:58
  to
• 12:58
  die.
• 12:59
  It's
• 12:59
  going
• 12:59
  to
• 12:59
  be
• 12:59
  okay.
• 13:00
  We're
• 13:00
  just
• 13:00
  going
• 13:00
  to
• 13:01
  try
• 13:01
  this
• 13:01
  one
• 13:01
  thing.
• 13:02
  So
• 13:02
  that's
• 13:02
  such
• 13:02
  a
• 13:02
  great
• 13:02
  reminder
• 13:03
  that
• 13:03
  our
• 13:04
  brain
• 13:04
  is
• 13:04
  actually
• 13:04
  trying
• 13:05
  to
• 13:05
  protect
• 13:05
  us.
• 13:06
  And
• 13:06
  keep
• 13:06
  us
• 13:06
  safe,
• 13:07
  but
• 13:07
  we
• 13:07
  need
• 13:08
  to
• 13:08
  keep
• 13:08
  reminding
• 13:09
  him
• 13:09
  that
• 13:09
  we
• 13:10
  know
• 13:10
  better.
• 13:10
  Our
• 13:10
  rational
• 13:11
  brain
• 13:11
  knows
• 13:11
  better.
• 13:11
  Okay.
• 13:11
  So
• 13:12
  we're
• 13:12
  dismantling
• 13:12
  the
• 13:12
  anti
• 13:13
  confidence
• 13:13
  narrative.
• 13:14
  The
• 13:14
  second
• 13:15
  step
• 13:16
  is
• 13:16
  acknowledging
• 13:17
  that
• 13:17
  confidence
• 13:18
  is
• 13:18
  not
• 13:18
  something
• 13:18
  that
• 13:19
  is
• 13:19
  just
• 13:19
  dropped
• 13:20
  into
• 13:20
  our
• 13:20
  lap.
• 13:22
  It
• 13:22
  is
• 13:22
  something
• 13:23
  that
• 13:23
  must
• 13:23
  be
• 13:24
  earned.
• 13:25
  So,
• 13:25
  let
• 13:25
  me
• 13:25
  repeat
• 13:25
  that.
• 13:26
  Confidence
• 13:27
  is
• 13:28
  earned.
• 13:29
  In
• 13:30
  fact.
• 13:30
  I've
• 13:30
  realized
• 13:31
  that
• 13:31
  it
• 13:31
  is
• 13:31
  a
• 13:31
  lot
• 13:32
  like
• 13:32
  faith.
• 13:34
  I
• 13:34
  guarantee
• 13:34
  there
• 13:35
  was
• 13:35
  once
• 13:35
  a
• 13:35
  time
• 13:35
  in
• 13:35
  your
• 13:35
  life
• 13:36
  when
• 13:36
  you
• 13:36
  did
• 13:36
  not
• 13:36
  believe
• 13:37
  in
• 13:37
  God
• 13:37
  or
• 13:38
  any,
• 13:38
  any
• 13:38
  higher
• 13:39
  power.
• 13:39
  You
• 13:40
  were
• 13:40
  maybe
• 13:40
  a
• 13:40
  small
• 13:41
  child
• 13:41
  or
• 13:41
  maybe
• 13:41
  you
• 13:41
  had
• 13:41
  never
• 13:42
  not
• 13:42
  really
• 13:42
  found
• 13:43
  your
• 13:43
  belief
• 13:43
  yet.
• 13:44
  Maybe
• 13:44
  you
• 13:44
  wondered
• 13:45
  whether
• 13:45
  or
• 13:45
  not
• 13:45
  you
• 13:45
  even
• 13:45
  wanted
• 13:46
  to
• 13:46
  have
• 13:46
  faith
• 13:46
  in
• 13:47
  a
• 13:47
  being
• 13:47
  that
• 13:47
  you'd
• 13:47
  never
• 13:47
  seen
• 13:48
  before.
• 13:49
  Because
• 13:49
  it
• 13:49
  requires
• 13:49
  some
• 13:50
  work.
• 13:51
  And
• 13:51
  then
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  made
• 13:52
  a
• 13:52
  choice.
• 13:53
  And
• 13:53
  that
• 13:54
  choice
• 13:54
  was
• 13:54
  to
• 13:54
  seek
• 13:55
  out
• 13:55
  God.
• 13:56
  It
• 13:56
  was
• 13:56
  to
• 13:56
  learn
• 13:57
  about
• 13:57
  him.
• 13:57
  And
• 13:57
  it
• 13:58
  was
• 13:58
  to
• 13:58
  grow
• 13:58
  your
• 13:58
  faith
• 13:59
  through
• 13:59
  exercising
• 14:00
  it,
• 14:00
  you
• 14:01
  made
• 14:01
  that
• 14:01
  choice.
• 14:02
  And
• 14:02
  I
• 14:02
  guarantee.
• 14:03
  That
• 14:03
  you
• 14:04
  are
• 14:04
  remaking
• 14:05
  that
• 14:05
  choice
• 14:05
  over
• 14:06
  and
• 14:06
  over
• 14:06
  and
• 14:06
  over
• 14:06
  again,
• 14:07
  especially
• 14:07
  if
• 14:07
  people
• 14:07
  doubt
• 14:08
  your
• 14:08
  faith,
• 14:08
  or
• 14:09
  if
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  are
• 14:10
  confronted
• 14:10
  with
• 14:11
  experiences
• 14:11
  that
• 14:11
  make
• 14:12
  you
• 14:12
  wonder
• 14:12
  if
• 14:12
  God
• 14:13
  is
• 14:13
  still
• 14:13
  there,
• 14:13
  you
• 14:14
  confronted
• 14:14
  a
• 14:14
  lot
• 14:15
  and
• 14:15
  you
• 14:15
  make
• 14:16
  the
• 14:16
  choice
• 14:16
  over
• 14:16
  and
• 14:16
  over
• 14:17
  again
• 14:17
  to
• 14:17
  keep
• 14:17
  believing.
• 14:18
  Now,
• 14:18
  I
• 14:19
  don't
• 14:19
  know
• 14:19
  about
• 14:19
  you,
• 14:19
  but
• 14:19
  sometimes
• 14:20
  my
• 14:20
  faith
• 14:20
  has
• 14:20
  been
• 14:20
  so
• 14:21
  strong
• 14:21
  that
• 14:22
  I
• 14:22
  can
• 14:22
  move
• 14:22
  metaphorical
• 14:23
  mountains
• 14:23
  that
• 14:24
  nothing
• 14:24
  can
• 14:24
  touch
• 14:25
  it.
• 14:25
  And
• 14:26
  other
• 14:26
  times
• 14:26
  it
• 14:26
  feels
• 14:27
  a
• 14:27
  little
• 14:27
  bit
• 14:27
  weak
• 14:28
  and
• 14:28
  confused
• 14:28
  and
• 14:28
  maybe
• 14:29
  struggling,
• 14:30
  but
• 14:30
  we
• 14:30
  already
• 14:31
  know
• 14:31
  how
• 14:31
  to
• 14:31
  strengthen
• 14:31
  our
• 14:32
  faith.
• 14:33
  First
• 14:33
  of
• 14:33
  all
• 14:33
  we
• 14:33
  don't
• 14:33
  give
• 14:33
  in
• 14:34
  to
• 14:34
  the
• 14:34
  doubts.
• 14:34
  We
• 14:34
  don't
• 14:34
  give
• 14:34
  into
• 14:35
  that
• 14:35
  anti
• 14:35
  confidence
• 14:36
  narrative.
• 14:36
  We
• 14:36
  pushed
• 14:36
  the
• 14:37
  doubts
• 14:37
  aside
• 14:38
  and
• 14:38
  we
• 14:38
  dive
• 14:38
  back
• 14:38
  into
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  things
• 14:39
  that
• 14:39
  create
• 14:40
  the
• 14:40
  faith.
• 14:41
  We
• 14:41
  exercise
• 14:42
  it
• 14:42
  through
• 14:42
  study
• 14:43
  and
• 14:43
  scripture
• 14:44
  and
• 14:44
  prayer
• 14:45
  and
• 14:45
  confidence
• 14:46
  is
• 14:46
  exactly
• 14:47
  the
• 14:47
  same
• 14:47
  way.
• 14:48
  We
• 14:48
  don't
• 14:49
  sit
• 14:49
  around
• 14:49
  just
• 14:49
  waiting
• 14:49
  for
• 14:49
  God
• 14:50
  to
• 14:50
  drop
• 14:50
  faith
• 14:50
  into
• 14:51
  our
• 14:51
  lap.
• 14:51
  Where's
• 14:51
  the
• 14:51
  miracle.
• 14:52
  Show
• 14:53
  me
• 14:53
  you,
• 14:53
  exist
• 14:54
  just
• 14:55
  pop
• 14:55
  out
• 14:55
  of
• 14:55
  the
• 14:55
  clouds
• 14:55
  and
• 14:55
  then
• 14:56
  I'll
• 14:56
  believe.
• 14:56
  No,
• 14:56
  we
• 14:56
  know
• 14:57
  that's
• 14:57
  not
• 14:57
  how
• 14:57
  it
• 14:57
  works.
• 14:58
  The
• 14:58
  Bible
• 14:58
  tells
• 14:58
  us
• 14:59
  that's
• 14:59
  not
• 14:59
  how
• 14:59
  it
• 14:59
  works.
• 14:59
  Right?
• 15:00
  Confidence
• 15:01
  is
• 15:01
  the.
• 15:01
  Same
• 15:01
  way
• 15:01
  we
• 15:02
  practice
• 15:02
  confidence
• 15:03
  in
• 15:03
  order
• 15:04
  to
• 15:04
  gain
• 15:05
  more.
• 15:06
  We
• 15:06
  don't
• 15:06
  sit
• 15:06
  around,
• 15:06
  waiting
• 15:07
  for
• 15:07
  it
• 15:07
  to
• 15:07
  just
• 15:07
  fall
• 15:07
  into
• 15:07
  our
• 15:08
  laps.
• 15:08
  We
• 15:08
  do
• 15:09
  the
• 15:09
  scary
• 15:09
  things.
• 15:10
  Not
• 15:10
  because
• 15:11
  it's
• 15:11
  not
• 15:11
  scary.
• 15:12
  But
• 15:13
  because
• 15:13
  we
• 15:13
  want
• 15:14
  the
• 15:14
  next
• 15:14
  thing
• 15:14
  to
• 15:14
  be
• 15:15
  a
• 15:15
  little
• 15:15
  bit
• 15:15
  less
• 15:16
  scary.
• 15:17
  So
• 15:17
  the
• 15:17
  first
• 15:17
  one
• 15:17
  is
• 15:18
  always
• 15:18
  the
• 15:18
  hardest
• 15:19
  and
• 15:19
  then
• 15:19
  we
• 15:19
  move
• 15:19
  forward
• 15:20
  and
• 15:20
  the
• 15:20
  confidence
• 15:20
  gradually
• 15:21
  increases.
• 15:21
  Why?
• 15:22
  Because
• 15:22
  we've
• 15:22
  shown
• 15:23
  ourselves
• 15:23
  that
• 15:23
  we
• 15:23
  know
• 15:24
  how
• 15:24
  to
• 15:24
  do
• 15:24
  it.
• 15:25
  And
• 15:26
  I
• 15:26
  promise
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  that
• 15:27
  God
• 15:27
  will
• 15:27
  boost
• 15:27
  that
• 15:27
  confidence
• 15:28
  for
• 15:28
  you
• 15:28
  as
• 15:28
  well,
• 15:29
  but
• 15:29
  you
• 15:29
  have
• 15:29
  to
• 15:29
  give
• 15:29
  him
• 15:29
  something
• 15:30
  to
• 15:30
  work
• 15:30
  with.
• 15:30
  You
• 15:30
  have
• 15:31
  to
• 15:31
  try
• 15:32
  exercising
• 15:32
  at
• 15:32
  first.
• 15:33
  So
• 15:33
  I
• 15:33
  know
• 15:33
  what
• 15:34
  you're
• 15:34
  thinking.
• 15:34
  Yes.
• 15:34
  It's
• 15:34
  essentially
• 15:35
  faking
• 15:35
  it
• 15:35
  until
• 15:35
  you
• 15:36
  make
• 15:36
  it.
• 15:37
  But
• 15:37
  what
• 15:37
  we're
• 15:37
  really
• 15:38
  doing
• 15:38
  here
• 15:38
  is
• 15:38
  we're
• 15:39
  giving
• 15:39
  our
• 15:39
  brain
• 15:39
  evidence
• 15:40
  to
• 15:41
  bolster
• 15:41
  the
• 15:41
  belief
• 15:42
  that
• 15:42
  we
• 15:42
  are
• 15:43
  confident.
• 15:44
  Our
• 15:44
  brain
• 15:44
  really,
• 15:44
  really,
• 15:45
  really
• 15:45
  wants
• 15:45
  to
• 15:45
  find
• 15:45
  evidence
• 15:46
  before
• 15:46
  it
• 15:46
  believes
• 15:46
  in
• 15:46
  something.
• 15:47
  But
• 15:47
  we
• 15:47
  know
• 15:48
  as
• 15:48
  faithful
• 15:49
  women
• 15:49
  that
• 15:50
  we
• 15:50
  actually
• 15:50
  have
• 15:50
  to
• 15:50
  believe
• 15:51
  before
• 15:51
  we
• 15:51
  can
• 15:52
  see
• 15:52
  the
• 15:52
  evidence
• 15:53
  and
• 15:53
  confidence
• 15:53
  is
• 15:53
  exactly
• 15:54
  the
• 15:54
  same
• 15:54
  way.
• 15:54
  This
• 15:55
  analogy
• 15:55
  will
• 15:55
  come
• 15:55
  up
• 15:56
  over
• 15:56
  and
• 15:56
  over
• 15:56
  and
• 15:56
  over
• 15:56
  again.
• 15:57
  As
• 15:57
  I
• 15:57
  talked
• 15:57
  to
• 15:57
  you
• 15:57
  guys
• 15:58
  that
• 15:58
  the
• 15:58
  faith
• 15:59
  has
• 15:59
  to
• 15:59
  come
• 15:59
  before
• 16:00
  the
• 16:00
  miracle,
• 16:01
  you
• 16:01
  have
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  practice
• 16:02
  it
• 16:02
  before
• 16:03
  you
• 16:03
  see
• 16:03
  the
• 16:03
  evidence.
• 16:04
  And
• 16:04
  once
• 16:04
  you
• 16:04
  have
• 16:04
  a
• 16:04
  little
• 16:05
  bit
• 16:05
  of
• 16:05
  practice,
• 16:05
  your
• 16:05
  brain
• 16:05
  is
• 16:05
  like,
• 16:06
  oh,
• 16:06
  there
• 16:06
  is
• 16:06
  some
• 16:06
  evidence.
• 16:07
  I
• 16:07
  can
• 16:07
  do
• 16:07
  a
• 16:07
  hard
• 16:07
  thing.
• 16:08
  Look
• 16:08
  at
• 16:08
  that.
• 16:09
  The
• 16:09
  first
• 16:09
  podcast
• 16:10
  I
• 16:10
  ever
• 16:10
  recorded.
• 16:11
  Was
• 16:12
  so
• 16:12
  terrifying.
• 16:12
  We
• 16:13
  put
• 16:13
  ourselves
• 16:13
  out
• 16:13
  into
• 16:13
  the
• 16:14
  world,
• 16:14
  and
• 16:14
  it
• 16:14
  was
• 16:14
  scary
• 16:15
  and
• 16:15
  it
• 16:15
  was
• 16:15
  awful.
• 16:15
  And
• 16:15
  we
• 16:16
  said
• 16:16
  I'm
• 16:16
  a
• 16:16
  thousand
• 16:17
  times
• 16:17
  each
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  then
• 16:19
  a
• 16:19
  hundred
• 16:19
  episodes
• 16:19
  later,
• 16:20
  200
• 16:21
  episodes
• 16:21
  later,
• 16:22
  it's
• 16:22
  getting
• 16:22
  easier
• 16:22
  and
• 16:23
  easier
• 16:23
  and
• 16:23
  we
• 16:23
  have.
• 16:23
  Uh,
• 16:24
  years
• 16:25
  of
• 16:25
  evidence
• 16:25
  showing
• 16:26
  our
• 16:26
  brains
• 16:26
  that
• 16:26
  we
• 16:27
  can
• 16:27
  do
• 16:27
  hard,
• 16:27
  scary
• 16:28
  things.
• 16:28
  So
• 16:28
  are
• 16:28
  we
• 16:28
  confident
• 16:29
  podcasters?
• 16:29
  Now?
• 16:30
  You
• 16:30
  bet
• 16:30
  your
• 16:30
  bridges
• 16:31
  because
• 16:31
  we
• 16:32
  just
• 16:32
  kept
• 16:32
  doing
• 16:33
  it
• 16:33
  where
• 16:33
  we
• 16:33
  confident
• 16:34
  on
• 16:34
  episode
• 16:34
  number
• 16:34
  one.
• 16:35
  Nope,
• 16:36
  not
• 16:36
  at
• 16:36
  all.
• 16:37
  And
• 16:37
  we
• 16:37
  did
• 16:37
  it
• 16:38
  anyway.
• 16:38
  We
• 16:38
  just
• 16:39
  kept
• 16:39
  practicing.
• 16:40
  So
• 16:41
  I
• 16:41
  continued
• 16:41
  to
• 16:41
  do
• 16:41
  scary
• 16:42
  things.
• 16:42
  You
• 16:42
  guys,
• 16:42
  I
• 16:42
  send
• 16:42
  out
• 16:43
  email
• 16:43
  pitches
• 16:44
  and
• 16:44
  saying,
• 16:44
  oh,
• 16:44
  do
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  want
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  feature
• 16:45
  me
• 16:45
  on
• 16:45
  your
• 16:45
  podcast?
• 16:46
  Or
• 16:46
  how
• 16:46
  about,
• 16:46
  you
• 16:46
  know,
• 16:46
  trying
• 16:47
  to
• 16:47
  get
• 16:47
  my
• 16:47
  name
• 16:47
  out
• 16:47
  there?
• 16:48
  I
• 16:48
  make
• 16:48
  phone
• 16:48
  calls.
• 16:49
  Oh,
• 16:49
  phone
• 16:49
  calls
• 16:49
  are
• 16:49
  the
• 16:49
  worst.
• 16:50
  And
• 16:50
  I
• 16:50
  still
• 16:50
  do
• 16:50
  them.
• 16:51
  I
• 16:51
  do
• 16:51
  trainings
• 16:52
  online
• 16:52
  and
• 16:52
  invite
• 16:53
  the
• 16:53
  entire
• 16:53
  world
• 16:54
  to
• 16:54
  come
• 16:54
  learn
• 16:55
  from
• 16:55
  me.
• 16:55
  And
• 16:55
  they
• 16:55
  scare
• 16:56
  me
• 16:56
  and
• 16:56
  they
• 16:56
  make
• 16:57
  me
• 16:57
  nervous
• 16:58
  and
• 16:58
  I
• 16:58
  don't
• 16:58
  do
• 16:59
  them
• 16:59
  because
• 16:59
  I'm
• 16:59
  oozing
• 17:00
  with
• 17:00
  confidence.
• 17:00
  And
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  just
• 17:01
  think,
• 17:01
  where
• 17:01
  else
• 17:01
  do
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  want
• 17:02
  to
• 17:02
  throw
• 17:02
  my
• 17:02
  confidence
• 17:02
  around
• 17:03
  today?
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  do
• 17:04
  it
• 17:04
  because
• 17:04
  I
• 17:05
  want
• 17:05
  to
• 17:06
  be
• 17:06
  confident.
• 17:06
  I
• 17:06
  want
• 17:07
  to
• 17:07
  be
• 17:07
  using
• 17:07
  with
• 17:07
  confidence
• 17:08
  and
• 17:08
  I
• 17:08
  know
• 17:09
  that
• 17:09
  I
• 17:09
  need
• 17:09
  to
• 17:09
  practice
• 17:09
  it
• 17:09
  over
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  over
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  over
• 17:10
  again,
• 17:11
  before
• 17:11
  I
• 17:11
  become
• 17:11
  that
• 17:12
  perfectly
• 17:12
  confident
• 17:13
  person
• 17:13
  if
• 17:13
  there
• 17:13
  is
• 17:13
  such
• 17:14
  a
• 17:14
  thing,
• 17:14
  I
• 17:14
  don't,
• 17:14
  I
• 17:14
  don't
• 17:14
  know
• 17:14
  if
• 17:14
  there's
• 17:15
  perfect
• 17:15
  confidence,
• 17:15
  but
• 17:15
  there's
• 17:16
  more
• 17:16
  than
• 17:16
  I
• 17:16
  have
• 17:16
  more
• 17:17
  than
• 17:17
  you
• 17:17
  have.
• 17:18
  And
• 17:18
  we
• 17:18
  can
• 17:18
  get
• 17:18
  there
• 17:19
  two
• 17:19
  ways.
• 17:20
  Through
• 17:20
  working
• 17:20
  on
• 17:21
  that
• 17:21
  anti
• 17:21
  confidence
• 17:22
  narrative,
• 17:22
  I'm
• 17:22
  going
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  trademark
• 17:23
  that.
• 17:23
  I
• 17:23
  like
• 17:23
  that
• 17:23
  line
• 17:23
  a
• 17:23
  lot.
• 17:24
  And
• 17:25
  on
• 17:25
  working
• 17:25
  on
• 17:26
  practicing
• 17:26
  the
• 17:26
  confidence.
• 17:27
  Just
• 17:27
  like
• 17:28
  anything
• 17:29
  worthwhile
• 17:29
  in
• 17:29
  this
• 17:29
  world.
• 17:30
  Confidence
• 17:31
  requires
• 17:32
  work.
• 17:32
  Unfortunately
• 17:33
  we
• 17:33
  can't
• 17:33
  just
• 17:33
  sit
• 17:34
  around
• 17:34
  and
• 17:34
  pray
• 17:34
  for
• 17:35
  it
• 17:35
  and
• 17:35
  just
• 17:35
  have
• 17:35
  it
• 17:35
  dumped
• 17:36
  in
• 17:36
  our
• 17:36
  lap.
• 17:36
  Although
• 17:36
  I
• 17:36
  do
• 17:37
  recommend
• 17:37
  praying
• 17:37
  for
• 17:37
  it
• 17:37
  that
• 17:37
  helps.
• 17:38
  So
• 17:39
  stop
• 17:39
  waiting
• 17:39
  around
• 17:40
  for
• 17:40
  it
• 17:40
  and
• 17:40
  go
• 17:40
  out
• 17:40
  there
• 17:41
  and
• 17:41
  earn
• 17:41
  it.
• 17:42
  So
• 17:43
  your
• 17:43
  challenge
• 17:43
  for
• 17:43
  this
• 17:43
  week
• 17:44
  is
• 17:44
  to
• 17:44
  do
• 17:44
  two
• 17:44
  things.
• 17:44
  I
• 17:44
  want
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  to
• 17:45
  start
• 17:45
  journaling
• 17:46
  what
• 17:47
  a
• 17:47
  confident
• 17:47
  you
• 17:48
  would
• 17:48
  look
• 17:48
  like.
• 17:49
  And
• 17:49
  if
• 17:49
  you
• 17:49
  can
• 17:49
  start
• 17:49
  acknowledging
• 17:50
  some
• 17:50
  of
• 17:50
  those
• 17:50
  thoughts
• 17:50
  that
• 17:51
  are
• 17:51
  keeping
• 17:51
  confidence
• 17:52
  at
• 17:52
  bay,
• 17:53
  then
• 17:53
  start
• 17:53
  dismantling
• 17:53
  those.
• 17:54
  That's
• 17:54
  a
• 17:54
  great
• 17:54
  step
• 17:55
  as
• 17:55
  well,
• 17:55
  but
• 17:55
  ask
• 17:56
  yourself,
• 17:56
  what
• 17:56
  does
• 17:56
  a
• 17:56
  confident
• 17:57
  me
• 17:57
  look
• 17:57
  like
• 17:58
  in
• 17:58
  five,
• 17:58
  10
• 17:58
  years
• 17:59
  when
• 17:59
  I
• 17:59
  am
• 17:59
  that
• 17:59
  confident
• 18:00
  self
• 18:00
  that
• 18:00
  I
• 18:00
  want
• 18:00
  to
• 18:00
  be.
• 18:01
  What
• 18:01
  do
• 18:01
  I
• 18:01
  look
• 18:01
  like?
• 18:01
  What
• 18:02
  do
• 18:02
  I
• 18:02
  do?
• 18:03
  How
• 18:03
  do
• 18:03
  I
• 18:03
  dress?
• 18:03
  How
• 18:03
  do
• 18:03
  I
• 18:03
  talk?
• 18:04
  How
• 18:04
  do
• 18:04
  I
• 18:04
  walk?
• 18:05
  What
• 18:05
  does
• 18:05
  my
• 18:06
  work
• 18:06
  look
• 18:06
  like?
• 18:07
  How
• 18:07
  do
• 18:07
  I
• 18:07
  show
• 18:07
  this
• 18:07
  confidence
• 18:08
  to
• 18:08
  the
• 18:08
  world?
• 18:08
  Where
• 18:09
  does
• 18:09
  it
• 18:09
  show
• 18:09
  up
• 18:09
  for
• 18:09
  me
• 18:09
  in
• 18:09
  my
• 18:09
  life?
• 18:10
  And
• 18:11
  then
• 18:11
  I
• 18:11
  want
• 18:11
  you
• 18:11
  to
• 18:11
  do
• 18:12
  one
• 18:13
  thing
• 18:13
  this
• 18:13
  week
• 18:13
  to
• 18:14
  emulate
• 18:14
  that
• 18:14
  confident
• 18:15
  version
• 18:15
  of
• 18:15
  yourself.
• 18:16
  So
• 18:16
  if
• 18:16
  that
• 18:16
  future
• 18:16
  version
• 18:17
  of
• 18:17
  yourself
• 18:17
  would
• 18:17
  make
• 18:18
  a
• 18:18
  phone
• 18:18
  call
• 18:18
  to
• 18:18
  a
• 18:18
  supplier
• 18:19
  or
• 18:19
  would.
• 18:20
  Start
• 18:21
  taking
• 18:21
  steps
• 18:21
  to
• 18:22
  build
• 18:22
  a
• 18:22
  website.
• 18:23
  Then
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  want
• 18:23
  you
• 18:23
  to
• 18:24
  do
• 18:24
  that
• 18:24
  one
• 18:24
  step
• 18:24
  this
• 18:25
  week
• 18:25
  and
• 18:25
  come
• 18:26
  back
• 18:26
  and
• 18:26
  let
• 18:26
  me
• 18:26
  know,
• 18:26
  you
• 18:27
  guys
• 18:27
  can
• 18:27
  come
• 18:27
  tell
• 18:27
  me
• 18:27
  on
• 18:27
  Instagram.
• 18:28
  Or
• 18:28
  email
• 18:29
  me
• 18:29
  and
• 18:29
  let
• 18:29
  me
• 18:29
  know
• 18:30
  how
• 18:30
  it
• 18:30
  went.
• 18:30
  And
• 18:31
  if
• 18:31
  you
• 18:31
  feel
• 18:31
  even
• 18:31
  just
• 18:31
  a
• 18:31
  little
• 18:32
  bit
• 18:32
  more
• 18:32
  competent
• 18:32
  after
• 18:32
  doing
• 18:33
  that
• 18:33
  one
• 18:34
  thing,
• 18:34
  okay,
• 18:35
  friends
• 18:35
  go
• 18:35
  confidently
• 18:36
  out
• 18:36
  in
• 18:36
  the
• 18:36
  direction
• 18:37
  of
• 18:37
  your
• 18:37
  dreams.
• 18:38
  We'll
• 18:38
  see
• 18:38
  you
• 18:38
  next
• 18:38
  week.