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686. Why Perfection Is the Enemy of Creation · Be It Till You See It

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[SPEAKER_00]: perfection is the enemy of creation, and I think we could all agree there, like when you're trying to make something perfect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's actually really stifling and stuffy and an overwhelming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to the Beat till you see it podcast, where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm also Logan, Ply's instructor, and fit this business coach.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've trained thousands of people around the world, and the number one thing I see stopping people
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[SPEAKER_00]: My friends, action brings clarity, and it's the antidote to fear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Each week my guests will bring bold, executable, intrinsic, and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and be it till you see it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a practice, not a perfect, let's get started.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to the beat till you see it in every recap or my course in life, Brad and I are going to dig into the transformational combo.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have it in a single on our last episode.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you didn't listen to it, and this is your first time listening to us, we rock.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We slay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It might be confusing to join on our recap, but you can do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like the cliff notes version of a podcast, and then if you resonate with what we talked about from her, you should go listen to that one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's pretty great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She's pretty great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was a little worried at the beginning because it started off with one foot in Wulu land and I was like, oh, here we go.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then she defied all expectations and I really enjoyed the interview.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not gonna lie on the pre-interview.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, hmm, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if I want this topic, but then she surprised my expectations to it, so I thought, okay, we'll have to have for on because I think it's here's a deal, like I like having one foot in like actual science and then one foot in what happens when like
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're getting our own way and there isn't you know what I mean because some of like a lot of the science and medicine is I don't know I just think that we have to have there's room for both so Today is May 28 26 and today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh actually hold on stop the show stop the show.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We bad night.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll honor European trip to say we want to change a few things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So before I get into what today is we got them into the script.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The other thing that I have to talk about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you sure?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Huh?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've read your mind.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's see.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's see if it's there today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, well, what is happening?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you'll notice a few other changes to the show now as well, because we are making some changes around here.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, there's a shift in up in a good way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But first, today is May 28th, 2026, and today celebrates two topics close to our hearts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, let's see, we did have one, Brad said I was close to my heart before, but we'll see if it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the first one, oh, I think this is, we have to hear the Amnesty International Day, an international-dave action on women's health.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, of course.
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[SPEAKER_00]: here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you don't know what Amnesty International is, we thought we found to talk about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you probably heard of Anesty International is what brought us saying, but what actually is it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Amnesty International or AI for short, I think they probably didn't use that anymore.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think they've had that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, they've been around since like the 80 or 60s.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what they could do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: They could do with the WWE F did, which is sue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They sue the
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[SPEAKER_00]: because they were using worldwide wrestling federation the WWFs of the world white like animal foundation or something like that world wildlife foundation they suit them one and that's why WWV and and the international here's what I will I will donate to the suing fun of getting rid of AI I am and make them call it something else and make them stop using the water and Nevada anyways different story
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so MSD International, or AI for short, is international human rights organization that campaigns worldwide to protect image individuals and groups rights.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It conducts research and runs information, education, efforts to highlight violations.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and there are a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're probably fucking around too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we are not, we, but the collective country, we AI was founded in London in 1961 by the lawyer Pete Benison in what he called the forgotten prisoners and in appeal of Amnesty, which appeared on the front page of the Observer, a British newspaper.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're about two students who toasted a freedom and Portugal and four other people have been jailed in other nations because of their beliefs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And to see them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they toasted, they drank wine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then they were sentenced to seven years in prison for drinking at the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, because the place where they drink, you can't drink.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know the full story, but that was what his whole article was about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was like, why is there alcohol there if not allowed to drink it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I mean, here's the delguys.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Don't don't spit your gum out and sing a poor.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, don't do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, um.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and there's a few other things like don't walk around and drink water either, I can't do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so AI's original focus was prisoners of conscience, which with its limit widening in the 1970s, include miscarriage of justice and torture, I think that's great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The organization says it has more than 10 million members and supporters around the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The stated mission of the organizations to campaign for a world in which every person enjoys all the human rights enshrined in the universal declaration of human rights and
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that this is great because, look, here's the deal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You go to a different country, you break a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's like, it's unfortunate if it's something like silly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But also, you can just do those things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: However, I like that they're really focusing on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There are just some straight-up human rights that every person should have, no matter where they are in the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think like, you don't get to pick where you're born.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And in some of the circumstances, you can't leave where that is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I do think that there should be some basic human rights at every single person gets to enjoy no matter where they are on this world.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I've heard about Amnesty International for years initially through the church I grew up in and then through podcasts that we listen to, you know, all the things, but I didn't really know what they did other than like they help people somehow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, so it's cool to like actually read a little bit more about them and and today is their day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: today is their day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's not just their day, it's also international day of action for women's health.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Also known as Women Health Women's Health Day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's marked in May 28th by women and health organizations globally educate people about women's health and rights.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The day fights against the social and gender disparities that violate women's rights.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is alarming that these disparities manifest in various ways in operate and multiple levels.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These include women's rights to their bodies and
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[SPEAKER_00]: This day provides women with more information on sexual and reproductive rights and control over the reproductive health.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys, it is, I'm seeing some beautiful things happen in lots of places in Ireland of all places.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They just created opportunities if you have a miscarriage, you've paid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh wow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, in Ireland, I think they did some other things about women's health.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's really beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In the United States, and on this podcast, we are for, we are pro choice, and because also you understand that women's rights around their health and their bodies change state by state, which is a problem.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It should not be like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My husband's rights don't change wherever
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I have any reproductive health care problems and some of these states are not doctors in a lot of places that have education information because I'm watching the pit right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when you're a doctor, you go to medical school and then you go and you learn from other doctors.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's why it's called a practice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if your residency is in a state where there are not abortion rights, then you do not get to learn about abortions and how they're done and why they're needed and the signs and symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it affects women's health.
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[SPEAKER_00]: everywhere because in that doctor goes somewhere else and let's say they're in a state where you have that right, but they've never had that experience and you need one, you can go septic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You could, there's so many different things that can happen to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So please take, make sure that your friends and family and your loved ones and your nieces and people in your life who you're wondering if they have access, make sure they have education information about their health today's today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Nice today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, um, I can't wait till we live in a country where women's health rights are fucking equal, but might not happen until our nieces are grown up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, on that note.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what we're doing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Here's what we got coming up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So for those of you who are looking to really dive deeper into your teaching, we have a mentorship program, that Leslie teaches annually, it's called Elevate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: On the day, on the day we're recording this, I actually just accepted another person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We are really fired up to be hosting Tammy this weekend in Las Vegas.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This upcoming week, so just in like two days from when we're listening to this, we're gonna be hosting Tammy Vegas to film more classes for y'all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, and in two weeks from the day, we recorded this, we'll have Mindy at the House.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, everyone's like, when is that, like, what's going on?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so happy to see you here for them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Way more fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really a lot of fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Also, then Brad does all their mind and their eyes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, they can just be themselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They, you know, and then I just hide out my room.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to start the podcast by saying, if you want to support this pod, you should become an OPC member, but that's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We'll do that on the next one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And yes, this is true.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is also what we want to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, we are making a change.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're getting rid of the audience questions, as I said, they're going to the YouTube, and they're free there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just go to opc.me-y-t and every Sunday at 9 a.m. Pacific time, I go and I answer your questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just drop, it is your question doesn't have to be applicable to the video you drop it on, just make sure it's clear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I know what the question is if it's not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that video, but I answer all YouTube questions for free on our YouTube channel at 90 Pacific time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's what we're going to do it from now on because it's on Sunday's and you can join the live and you can join it on the conversation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So like if I'm answering a question about breathing or whatever and you have more questions about breathing, we can just keep going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We could just take talking about the topic and it's more fun because
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just feel like I'm having a lot of by myself conversations I want to do anymore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So nine a.m. Pacific time on Sundays on YouTube as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Our questions get answered if you're not one of our members of something else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And what are we replacing the Q and A section of the left?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We want to start highlighting charities who are kicking ass and taking names.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the reason for this is, no, I forgot I'm not recalling her name, but she's Canadian and she's super, super sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she was on our podcast, I can about giving back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And there's more ways to give back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And and she was just so, so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I remember thinking like, sometimes we can donate with money.
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[SPEAKER_00]: not everyone can.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you can do it with time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we can like our time, like going and volunteering the place.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we can donate by just spreading the word.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so Brad and I are not billionaires.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not McKenzie Scott yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Working on it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Be it OPC member.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have a dream of like being McKenzie Scott where like I donate so much money every month that it makes headlines like that's a goal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How fun with that be like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Love you, mate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just like giving medical scholarships away or disease.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like that's what I want to be doing, but like you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you had to get the money to do that first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So anyways, since what we can do with our platform is just highlight charities or doing this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so so that's for the second segment going to be.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to try to follow like what's going on in the month or the world to bring up highlights this in that way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you haven't found a charity that like
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[SPEAKER_00]: you want to volunteer or donate to or things like that like maybe we could bring one to your awareness and so this way we can highlight and platform them and then you can do it to what with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So today we are highlighting our favorite charity that we work with all the time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, Nevada SPCA.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So then finally learned what SPCA is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tell them what it means, Brad.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's the society for the prevention of cruelty to animals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, so the SPCA you know those ads, they all have what's her name singing that poor song that makes you want to cry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's who it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it was the Nevada SPCA is our local one and they actually don't take any government funding everything that they all the money they have is all locally raised money.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and actually 2% of their funds I need for the year are covered by the adoption fee.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So 98% right so only 2%.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Only 2%.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Only 2% are covered by the money.
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[SPEAKER_00]: 90% of their budget has to be donated in and when you are an OEC member,
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[SPEAKER_00]: A new OPC member, you actually are contributing to the Vadas PCA.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Surprise.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I don't know if you knew this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've been doing it a year now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, we've, we've, we've, OPCs always had built in, um, to our, our business that we would donate every quarter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we donate to lots of different charities.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was just getting tired of feeling like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, like, I wasn't acknowledged for, you know, we're not McKenzie Scott yet, but just like, hey, let me know, like treat me like I did, gave you some money, like a letter, thank you, or this is what your money did, or just anything, I just wasn't getting anything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we went to the NSBCA because we'd actually just said goodbye to August, and I was just feeling like really sad, and we couldn't adopt another dog, I don't know what's ready for it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we did, and within hours, they emailed us, they went on OPC site, they saw that we love rescue dogs, they saw that we live locally, they invited us,
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, it was a lot of fun.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The director walks us around and she showed us all the things and told us all about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I didn't know this, but it's the SPCA is the original No Kill Shelter.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that was, that's pretty cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's also funded by the community and it's for the community.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they do all sorts of cool stuff like, like a side from obviously taking in dogs that need a new home or cats or bunnies or chillers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Um, yeah, they do all the things like giving them lizards, I think, they actually have a vet on staff and when the animals come in, the vet, you know, sees them and make sure that they're like able to go into, you know, they're safe enough to be mixed with the other animals that are in the population, otherwise they're quarantined, you know, because a dog could come in that sick and they can't have a sick dog getting all the other dogs sick, so
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[SPEAKER_01]: Also, some dogs need, like, surgeries and things like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They need their new to all that can be on in-house.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that's how they're able to say, or they just have, they have a skin issue, like, they have vends on staff that are just for their animals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And June Elsa, they do for the community babe.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They, yeah, they donate.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Back, they, they help people support their dogs and their animals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's been, unfortunately, in the last several years, there's been a rise in economic,
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[SPEAKER_00]: and people fall on hard times that can't afford, or medically use an Asia, they can't afford the surgery, their dog or cat needs, or even the food.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes people are letting go of their animals because they can't afford meals for them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so the NSPCA is actually committed to helping people and the community keep their dogs, cats, and pets if it is something as simple as getting them food.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you can buy, you could probably do this for your local, but you can actually go the net of
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[SPEAKER_00]: Food for all the different types of animals and send it and guess what they do they bag it up and they give it out to the community who needs it They give out hundreds of pounds every single week and then they also have someone who's entire job has actually helping those community members who are following hard times connect with that that if they need a surgery They have a that's outside of the SPCA that will help provide more affordable surgeries for the cats dogs animals things like that
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're just super excited to be I walk dogs every Wednesday morning for it helps get my fix you can go read to them you can also do loads of love that's what you could just pick up laundry wash it and bring it back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, the SPCA, the Nevada SPCA has been around since 1982.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're been born.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, they're my age.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And we've just really enjoyed, you know, it's funny, because we definitely know people who are like, I just can't work.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can't, I can't be around that because it makes me so sad.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, of course, there's definitely sad situations there, but when lesson I are there supporting the animals and what is so encouraging is the team of people who are also there supporting not just the volunteers like us, but supporting each other and the animals there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It is amazingly encouraging.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're just incredibly enthusiastic and passionate about what they do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And, you know, we have had a chance now to see
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[SPEAKER_01]: generally how fast the they're able to find people to take care of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah, very rarely does like an animal stick around and by by the grace of this community, my goodness, if Xen is not adopted by this podcast release, I'm going to start crying because she's my new stormy branch is now the new longest resident's always.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, uh, but it's not like years in the shelter, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, it's never like weeks months.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Usually it's usually it's days and weeks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Evocasionally here's the deal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to call it out black cats and black dogs actually always are they're longer at every shelter, not just the SBCA.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So just know that if you You're like, take a look at the black ones too, but like black cats have a superstition things like that black pitties often people just are a little bit scared of
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, but it is encouraging.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They do go fast and like, I get to check the website pretty much three times a week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I say, I get to see how quickly dogs are finding homes and cats are finding homes.
19:51
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I just want to say like, yes, but if you can't go in and volunteer these places.
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[SPEAKER_00]: First of all, people listening every single Thursday, we're going to have a new charity.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there might be one that's easier for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But also, there are things you can do with charities like the SPCA is that we can take a dog for a hike.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we can actually just take one out, we can actually foster one in the house if we want to like there's just different ways you can support, um, especially if you can't have an animal or have more animals so when still I do because I'm super busy and you want to know every Wednesday after I walk the dog and do my quality session, I actually drink my coffee as I drive over there takes me 12 minutes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: then get three dogs walked in less than 45 minutes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm back in my car.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So in our 15 minutes of my morning, from start to finish, and here's another thing that's so encouraging.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I walk the different dogs as a different employees are showing up for their workday, the dogs pull to the employees.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, they're like, no, obsessed with like, oh, this new person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, oh, look, that's my friend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or that's my friend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it's just fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So anyways, that's the charity that when you support OPC by being a member, you were actually supporting the dogs and cats and chinchillas and all the things that the N of SBCA is taking care about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So stay tuned every Thursday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We'll have new ones.
21:03
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
21:04
[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.
21:06
[SPEAKER_01]: But one last note because I was doing something.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was looking something up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, does every state have an SBCA and the answer to this no.
21:13
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, what?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, not every state has an SPCA.
21:17
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh-oh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But because there's no like, there's no like corporate parent SPCA organization.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought they're, oh, is that the ASPCA?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Um, no, that's the American SPCA.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there's a corporate one that does these sad commercials.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've seen them.
21:33
[SPEAKER_01]: Hold up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I was just looking at, so, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, So the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the, so the,
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's not a technical experience.
21:53
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, organizations operate independently of each other, campaign for animal welfare and assist in the the prevention of cruelty, do animal cases.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, and they're international.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're all around the world.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, there's a whole list here I'm looking on Wikipedia.
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[SPEAKER_00]: More you know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, all around the world, but in the United States, there's only a relatively short list of states.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, maybe there's a dozen around the country.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, we encourage you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But yes, the American Society of the A, S, B, C, A is one of them on this list.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, we encourage you to, if you love animals and you can't take more, we encourage you to get involved with your local one, or just donate, just become a member of OPC and then you're donating to one that like, you, but you're surprising how, how many animals you can help with just a little bit of money, or a little bit of time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
22:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Moving on.
22:45
[SPEAKER_00]: So we have to go in at some point.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Brad.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're going to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's do that right now.
22:49
[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
22:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Cool.
22:50
[SPEAKER_01]: So thanks for that.
22:51
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't imagine there'll all be this long.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We obviously feature the one that we participate with ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The next one we probably won't know a lot about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it'll get.
23:02
[SPEAKER_00]: I promise I get shorter if you're new here.
23:04
[SPEAKER_01]: Let's talk about Ena Siegel.
23:05
[SPEAKER_01]: Ena is a best-selling author of the secret language of your body, and pioneer in the field of energy medicine and human consciousness.
23:14
[SPEAKER_01]: From about 25 years, she has helped people understand the mind-body connection, and how unresolved emotions and life experiences can affect physical health.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, after years of struggling with chronic health conditions herself, do we get exploring the deeper connection between emotions, the body, and healing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Through that journey, she developed practices that helped her restore her own health, and now teaches others how to better understand the messages of their bodies.
23:40
[SPEAKER_01]: So I thought it was a really interesting, you know, she talked about how she had, like, a really, uh, a paid bad back situation was really hurting her and also like, um, you know, family consistently, her family got, got some kind of, uh, summer cancer or something.
23:55
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And, uh, you know, so she, she was really doing a lot of analysis on, like, what even, is that why is this happening?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What can I do to fix it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she was seeking help with Western medicine and her,
24:08
[SPEAKER_01]: Dr. Basically told her, well, your body's pretty much anger with you and so it's going to do what it's going to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she was like, I don't think I'm okay with that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's what's centered down this whole path.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what was one of the things that you love that she talked about?
24:21
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, we should have several little sound bites that I just think are so applicable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Even if you feel like you're living in a healthy body, I think there are so many of these things about to say that you can like apply to other things in your life as well.
24:31
[SPEAKER_00]: She said perfection is the enemy of creation and I think we could all agree there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's actually really stifling and stuffy and overwhelming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm currently working on a project and as we're covering perfectionist, I'm like trying to figure out what's the right order of this, what's this, and I have to keep reminding myself that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: one, I won't know the right order as I'm putting together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It will come together better as I do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I will refine it and get back to it, which is exactly what she'd say, which is like, you know, she said people will say, like, I am who I am, and so I'm trying to improve.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so what actually is happening when you're improving yourself is you're refining, right?
25:08
[SPEAKER_00]: Like so we can't be,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Perfect or even ever because if we're perfect for like there's a new age movement that's like you're already perfect the way you are is perfect But then like what's the point and being here like if you're already perfect you don't need to learn anything do anything like there's no room for growth in being perfect and so I just have to like I need that reminder because I'm like you're gonna do a great job
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[SPEAKER_00]: and then you're going to get better at it every time you review it and refine it and put it out there the way you'll you'll refine something when you read that loud versus when you talk it out like talk to each of somebody else like you just we are all in refinement mode so um I think especially when it comes to your health you you know stop driving for perfection yeah yeah definitely uh perfection is the enemy of creation I thought that was pretty cool yeah I want that on a bumper sticker but not on our bumper but just like I want to see it on other
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, when she started to talk about, well, you were both talking about the gut and she said what is the gut about?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's about the adjusting life as well as food, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she, you know, the gut assimilates our daily experiences and is our emotional center.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let me just say that again, the gut assimilates our daily experiences and is our emotional center.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you don't have to raise your hand, but who here has ever felt like,
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[SPEAKER_01]: beer or stress.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Where?
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[SPEAKER_01]: In our gut?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think sour or gets tight.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, yeah, high, especially in a high stress situation or something.
26:40
[SPEAKER_01]: If you ever noticed, you're avoiding something and then you have to, you have to deal with it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you feel?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You feel it in your gut.
26:46
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, Brad, I was like so stressed out last time we were flying into the country because like life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: today and my stomach was in cramps and then the bags didn't come and I was like oh my god this is pulling all over again long story but they took my bags and whatever so I was just like oh my god like this is and I made myself my stomach hurt so bad I could barely hold myself up because I just like created this fear everything was fine they just had like a lot of bags
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and for me, like for me, it's usually a money thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like when I feel like we don't have enough money, I feel it in my gut.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's really interesting to hear her just name it because I have kind of intuitively known it, but not really put a finger on it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they've got to similar to our daily experiences and is our emotional center.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She stated it's kind of where our sense of self lives.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she said because we have our intuition,
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[SPEAKER_01]: all right in there right alongside our actual digestion.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you know what it's funny is like it's funny how like your gut instincts like, you know what I'm teaching people.
27:51
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, gut instincts or trusting your gut.
27:53
[SPEAKER_00]: More you do Pilates the more like you'll have a gut instinct about what you need.
27:58
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's really funny because like I know so much about what I know only what I know about, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes when I have inspiration, it's not in my head.
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[SPEAKER_00]: like it's a gut instinct and then and then when someone goes, why did you think that then I have to actually go to my brain and go, why did I pick that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like why does that make sense?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's it's really funny how like your gut instincts or your intuitions or your inspirations often don't come from the thoughts they come from inside you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's yeah, I love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, she said it process of what happens during a day or relationships and our experiences.
28:27
[SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, I just, I thought it was cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I thought I wanted to highlight that from the conversation you have with her.
28:33
[SPEAKER_01]: And like we said, if you didn't listen to it, it's worth going back to listen.
28:37
[SPEAKER_00]: We talked about so many things.
28:38
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think, especially if you are going through, since it is women's health intervention or...
28:43
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, it is.
28:43
[SPEAKER_00]: Information Day.
28:44
[SPEAKER_00]: What a perfect timing for ENA, failed it, the release.
28:49
[SPEAKER_00]: But if you like she you really should listen to her story because she really suffered from a lot her family did too and she kind of is like the game changed her and her family.
28:58
[SPEAKER_00]: Like the person was like, nope, this this stops here.
29:01
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and I find that we have a lot of you who listen to this podcast who are the the change maker and your family, you're the one who is like, I'm I'm be a little different.
29:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to do it this way anymore because this is not working for anybody.
29:11
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not happy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think it'll be inspired by her, by how she is, and also like we had some really great talks because you can't, she's going on this journey, but she's not forcing people to go on the journey with her and her family, too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So like, it's quite, it was, it was quite deep.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I loved it.
29:24
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
29:25
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, stick around.
29:25
[SPEAKER_01]: We'll be right back.
29:27
[SPEAKER_01]: All right, so finally, let's talk about those beat action items.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What bold, executable intrinsic or targeted action items?
29:33
[SPEAKER_01]: Can we take away from your convo with Ena Siegel?
29:37
[SPEAKER_01]: She was talking about boundaries.
29:38
[SPEAKER_01]: And she said, it takes time to gain your confidence first, to become aware of what is a healthy boundary.
29:47
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, you know, we're talking about boundaries and like actual literal doors like she's got kids so she was like sometimes I have to draw boundaries with my own children because they're interrupting me all day every day or all night and then waking up to a slew of text messages that are stressful right she said you must actively write to get clarity.
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[SPEAKER_01]: on what you actually need, meaning she likes to do that in her, she likes to journal on that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, how do I know where my boundaries are?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she said journaling or writing helps her create that clarity, you know, because what does she actually need, maybe it's self respect, self love or just simply space.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Boundaries are also about how you present them and how are you consistently enforcing them?
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[SPEAKER_01]: She said it's the hardest thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: with close family or children because you don't want to hurt them but you still have to practice sticking to it.
30:39
[SPEAKER_01]: And of course we've discussed that tons of times here on the pod, whether that is an immediate family member or someone who's married in who your family or whatever, you know, how do you have boundaries?
30:52
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to be an asshole about it but it's still important to have a lot of money.
30:56
[SPEAKER_00]: It's also just difficult like because there are people who are really good at making
31:02
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, yeah, no, they'd say light on thick.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Think it's really important to like really understand that you're allowed to have those boundaries and they might not like them and you're not an asshole for having a better.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right, but if you can also communicate your boundaries in an asshole way, you don't have to do that.
31:18
[SPEAKER_01]: Right, so you don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, but, but I think, you know, how do you do what you just said, how do we stick to our guns?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Is it where, you know, that's where she said it takes time to gain that confidence to become aware of where the boundary.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, what is the hell, first off, what is a healthy boundary?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And secondly, how do we communicate the boundary, you know, and then third, how do we uphold that boundary?
31:38
[SPEAKER_00]: There's the holistic psychologist, holistic psychologist, she did a real where she actually impersonate her mom showed up at her door on an ounce and she opened it and she's like, hi, are you okay?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And her mom's like, oh yeah, I just saw him by, she's like, well now it's not a great time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm glad you did, but I can't come in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll like next time, please just call.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because she reiterated the boundary, like next time, call ahead and let me know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can make sure I have time to hang out with you, but I gotta go and she shut the door.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she reacted it out and when you see it happening, you're like, yeah, because that person just showed up and she's got stuff she's doing, you can't just stop everything, so she just shut the door, but she did it in a nice way, so I think like there are ways and you just have to reiterate it in your nice way and it's not, it's not always easy to do, so but you keep doing it because you're worthy of those boundaries.
32:35
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it's a, you know, it's, it's really interesting that for me being on Adderall.
32:42
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, hi guys.
32:43
[SPEAKER_00]: We're on Adderall.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Just say you know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And for the first time in my life, I understand your frustration of being interrupted.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, because now when I have review it, you're what's that just you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If I'm interrupted and I'm in my, my flow state, where before I was just like my brain would just switch to the next thing and then I would effectively forget and now I like it with a great, but you could be interrupted easily and you didn't get mad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're so you were so good about being interrupted and I was like, no, get the fuck out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and now I'm like, no, no, I'm in it right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I need to stay in it, I want to stay in it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so this is a new thing, it's interesting.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, I definitely, that is interesting.
33:26
[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, what about, what was your biggest takeaway?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What was your favorite action item?
33:30
[SPEAKER_00]: I learned so much today.
33:33
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know that this episode sounds better while we're both on Adderall, but just we are, you guys, we really are.
33:39
[SPEAKER_00]: We're in focus.
33:40
[SPEAKER_00]: And by the way, please get it legally prescribed.
33:42
[SPEAKER_00]: Since we're talking about awareness, like, don't buy shit off the streets, you guys.
33:46
[SPEAKER_00]: There is bad stuff in the street drugs, please.
33:48
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
33:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Please, I know it's difficult.
33:50
[SPEAKER_00]: My Perryman Apostle women, if you felt like a junkie calling 17 pharmacies, Brad and I did too.
33:54
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Please see your psychiatrist.
33:57
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's get the prescription.
33:58
[SPEAKER_00]: Please do it the right way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do not want you getting something off the street that could be mixed with something.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I also like the whole process.
34:05
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think it might have cost a combined $60.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, because we had a book our appointment, but that was like not that expensive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was a co-pay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, our crappenship, our crappenship, our crappenship, had a psychiatrist that will take us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then we went to, you know, the pharmacy and there was a co-pay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They aren't insurance.
34:25
[SPEAKER_00]: This is gonna be a list anyway.
34:26
[SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, we do a lot for you and I'll be like, do you that out?
34:33
[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, thank you very much.
34:35
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, she said, make a decision that you are somehow responsible for your own healing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now for what happened to you, not the trauma or other people's amount, but you are responsible for your own healing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she coupled that by the way, and that's not in the notes here, but she coupled that with
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[SPEAKER_01]: you are responsible for your feelings.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Around it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that, yes, people can do things that create fear or frustration or guilt in you but you are responsible for those feelings and so then you can go and do you can go and do some reflection and get some refinement and understand like why why is that creating that feeling in me what is it what why am I because then you'll have responsibility of it and you're like the person gave me it made me have a bad day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did they you know what they gave us a bad thing that happened in your day.
35:24
[SPEAKER_01]: right and then and then how we receive it you know I mean there's certainly things that like I didn't imagine that something would happen and I would have an emotional response so I understand that that I didn't like if I'm processing it in the moment but also there's like there comes a point where especially people of repetitive negative behavior we are choosing to allow them to
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no, yesterday we got some interesting news and we just had a great trip and a great time and if this interesting news and I found myself getting really angry and really frustrated and really pissed off and then I was also trying to go like, okay, none of this has happened yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: None of the things that you're having yet, they might never happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if you just figured it out if it actually happened?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I kept like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I found myself wanting to get angry at the thing I just heard and also just like want to go, but what, like, why don't we just wait to see what happens, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was this constant thing and I was really, I'm like, I am responsible for how I feel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I could let this information of what hasn't happened yet, but what could happen, aside my amazing trip, or I could just wait and see what happens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it, we are responsible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was a fun game, my brain.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it's also really hard because it's
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[SPEAKER_01]: you know it's much easier to just let your emotions fly with that stuff and I do think it's important to feel the fields you know you have to process and feel things but also especially if it's like consistent.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There comes a point where we're like okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think feeling the feeling is responsible, most of it being responsible for them, but actually acknowledging, especially good or bad, why am I feeling this way?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why is it bringing this emotion up in me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because it might have nothing to do with the person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In my head, like Dr. Kelly Bender, the second time she came on, she's like, you know, feel your feelings but don't try to find a reason around them, but like take responsibility because oftentimes we can go through it, we go, we take their responsibility, we can go away to minute.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm worried about xy and z happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what it's actually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That has, that actually, if I take it apart, then it actually takes the power away, and then I can go, okay, but, oh, I feel this way because actually my last relationship xy and z happened, and that's why.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, well, it's not that person's fault, then.
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[SPEAKER_00]: for what they did because they didn't know they were setting off this feeling and you based on your past history.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So then you can actually go and take ownership around that and I think that's by the way, something we should all be doing because we're always growing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So whether it's through therapy or journaling or whatever that is, but yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So anyways, somehow you're responsible for your own healing, not what would happen to you, but for your own healing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then she said, other people can do all sorts of things for you, but it won't fully hold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: unless you personally take that step forward.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is very true as a plies instructor.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can give people the keys to the kingdom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have you guys, you can learn Pilates from me for free on YouTube.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The keys are there, but if you aren't showing that it's your responsibility to go do the learning and own the practice in your own body, you're always wanting to be told what to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It will not hold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It will not stay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, this is the same thing, you know, with business coaching too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, the best way to describe this would be,
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[SPEAKER_01]: when we're talking about the concept of people dating, the same quote-unquote, the same person over and over again, and they're not actively learning from it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When people come into our coaching program, we get to know them on a more intimate level, because we have one on what call with them, we're digging in really deep with them on their thing, whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And there have been so many times where we're like, we give someone
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[SPEAKER_01]: advice on whatever the thing is, and then they don't do anything with that advice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's a hundred percent out of our control, but then they come back six months later, and we have almost a repeat conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And we're like, whoa, whoa, we've already gone through all this stuff.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, did you, did you listen to the...
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[SPEAKER_01]: the replay of our coaching all before did you action any of the things that we talked about and you know a lot of times it's almost never the like steps one, two, three of like like execution on like going to do a project.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's almost always some kind of an emotional association that they have with
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[SPEAKER_01]: with doing those things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's almost always like, I fear around this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it holds them back from doing it or committing to it or whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or the last time I did this happen and it was negative, you know, whatever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's almost always like, you know, tied to an emotional thing, you know, because it's, you know, it's otherwise we would all just be going and doing the thing and it would be, you know, we would all be moving forward.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I mean, there's just, we ownership my loves and that means that it means on people say she thinks you won't even hold to you because you've ownership of your feeling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a good start to become a really great thing if you do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, she said you must create time to self-reflect and self-connect and I think this is really important after 25 days in Europe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because we weren't in our normal routine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We didn't have our dog because there's a lot of people around us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't have a lot of my self reflection time was fucking cold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of the couple at the first couple of weeks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it wasn't going for a long walk outside.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was just on a treadmill.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so then I was just like, what realized like how I got a lot of my movement, habits, and my
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[SPEAKER_00]: Good sleep habits in and my good water, my good feeling, but not enough myself for the election time, I myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I really miss that this morning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't even, I wouldn't even sign up for yoga because I'm like, nope, this is what I'm feeling so I have to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not doing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, so um, so you have to create time for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she said, make a choice to explore, to allow yourself to access feelings if you've been taught to push them down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you are someone who's like, wasn't a family, we're no one talked about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to get exploratory to get curious.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And because you must discover who you are and what you stand for, I think that's really important.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know it's great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really, oh, she has so many courses and so many things, so many things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Feel free sources.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So go check a resources.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's got a ton of free resources.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like go check them out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, we have all of it there.
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