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My sister parades around MY boyfriend HALF-DRESSED…so I threw her out! -r/relationship_advice | Reddit Stories | EP3043 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie. And this is Dakota, your favorite
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  Speaker 1: My sister parades around my boyfriend half-dressed. So I threw
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  Speaker 1: her out.
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  Speaker 3: Throw a parade for that.
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  Speaker 1: My sister, 28 female, is just so creepy towards my boyfriend,
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  Speaker 1: 21 male. And I, 20 female, can't take it anymore.
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  Speaker 1: She was really spoiled by my parents when she was
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  Speaker 1: young because she was their first child. She always wants everything.
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  Speaker 1: And when we were little, she would steal my toys, books,
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  Speaker 1: and clothes. I was never allowed to touch any of
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  Speaker 1: her things, but she constantly stole my stuff and was
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  Speaker 1: always rude to me. My mom, for some reason, has
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  Speaker 1: always preferred her over me, so most of the time
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  Speaker 1: I was told to let it go. My mom called
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  Speaker 1: me two weeks ago pleading with me to let my
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  Speaker 1: sister stay because she doesn't have a job right now
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  Speaker 1: and couldn't stay alone during the quarantine. Both my parents
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  Speaker 1: are high risk, my mom has heart problems, and my
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  Speaker 1: dad's asthmatic, so I figured I should let her stay
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  Speaker 1: with me and my boyfriend. rather than risk her infecting them.
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  Speaker 1: There had been a few cases near her, so I
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to chance it. Now, I'm honestly starting to
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  Speaker 1: regret it. First of all, she doesn't respect.
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  Speaker 2: Me at all.
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  Speaker 1: She's constantly ignoring me while having long talks with my boyfriend,
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  Speaker 1: and she doesn't leave him alone. She flirts with him
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  Speaker 1: and constantly tries to touch him using cheap tricks. When
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  Speaker 1: we watch movies, she pushes me away and tries to
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  Speaker 1: snuggle with my boyfriend. She runs her fingers through his
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  Speaker 1: hair every day saying, oh, your hair is so soft,
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  Speaker 1: or some crap like that. What the F? By the way,
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  Speaker 1: this comes from a deleted user, and if you want
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this story and we're going
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  Speaker 1: to have our thoughts. Mostly, what is your boyfriend doing?
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  Speaker 1: And you can have thoughts of your own and you
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  Speaker 1: can put them in the comments where we can read
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  Speaker 1: them and maybe they'll be featured in a future video.
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  Speaker 1: OP says, one time she wanted help hooking her bra
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  Speaker 1: and just walked out in her undies. She came to
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  Speaker 1: our room while my boyfriend was in the bathroom. The
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  Speaker 1: logical thing would be to just ask me. I'm herself.
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  Speaker 2: Her.
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  Speaker 1: But what does she do? She waits for my boyfriend
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  Speaker 1: and asks him instead, even though I'm sitting right there.
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  Speaker 1: I think I looked very upset because my boyfriend just
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  Speaker 1: told her no. And she went back to her room
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  Speaker 1: and she did not try that again. This isn't even
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  Speaker 1: all of it. My boyfriend and I can't even talk
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  Speaker 1: without her interrupting. She barges into our room with no warning.
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  Speaker 1: A few days ago, we were trying to have spicy
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  Speaker 1: sleep and I don't know how the F she realized it,
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  Speaker 1: but she started banging on the door, claiming to have
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  Speaker 1: a headache. I opened the door and asked what was wrong.
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  Speaker 1: I told her I had pills for it, but she
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  Speaker 1: said she didn't trust me and wanted to talk to
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend instead. After disturbing us, she was suddenly completely
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  Speaker 1: fine and her headache disappeared miraculously. She just came into
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  Speaker 1: our bedroom and started talking to my boyfriend. We were
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  Speaker 1: literally half unclothed and there was no way she didn't know.
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  Speaker 1: This is driving me crazy. What does she want? I
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  Speaker 1: was so angry she interrupted us because she'd been doing
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  Speaker 1: this and she came here. I told her to get
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  Speaker 1: out and that we needed some alone time. We had
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  Speaker 1: a small argument and she started crying. The thing is,
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  Speaker 1: she never accepts it. She is completely blind to what
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  Speaker 1: she is doing. She denies it and sheds tears, which
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  Speaker 1: ends up making me feel bad instead. My boyfriend is
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  Speaker 1: so uncomfortable through all of this incident. He just looks
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  Speaker 1: exhausted all the time. He's trying his best to be nice,
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  Speaker 1: but she's all over him constantly. He's usually very introverted, shy,
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  Speaker 1: and not confrontational, and I know this is bothering him.
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  Speaker 1: When I talked to him about it, he commented that
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  Speaker 1: it was a bad idea to invite her and said
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  Speaker 1: not to ever invite her again. I want to know
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  Speaker 1: why she's like this. How do I make her see
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  Speaker 1: what she's doing? I'm done dealing with her, but she's
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  Speaker 1: my parents' favorite child, and no matter how hard I try,
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  Speaker 1: I can never escape her.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. What do you want? You're an adult.
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  Speaker 3: She's an adult.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, is she on your lease? How long has she
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  Speaker 1: been in your place? Can you call and be like,
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  Speaker 1: there's a person, there's an intruder in my apartment. She
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  Speaker 1: will not leave. I don't care, dude. Reap what you sow.
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  Speaker 1: Whenever I try to cut contact, my mom calls and
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  Speaker 1: begs me to forgive her. She doesn't want to see
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  Speaker 1: her daughters fighting and always says how she wants us
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  Speaker 1: to be together forever. But I can't do this. It's
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  Speaker 1: always me who has to be understanding and smart and
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  Speaker 1: older when I'm the younger one here. Please tell me
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  Speaker 1: I'm not overreacting. How do I make my mom and
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  Speaker 1: sister realize I'm sick of dealing with this?
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  Speaker 3: By telling her.
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  Speaker 1: I think she already knows. I think you really got
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  Speaker 1: to tell your mom like, hey, I know what you want.
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  Speaker 1: Can't happen. And it's not my fault. It's not my fault.
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  Speaker 1: It's her fault.
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  Speaker 3: There's no way she acts like this at home.
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  Speaker 1: It's like if your mom has a sister, be like,
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  Speaker 1: so if your sister came over and started trying to
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  Speaker 1: take dad, tried to play steal your man with your husband,
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  Speaker 1: would you just let that go on in perpetuity? Would
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  Speaker 1: you just be like, this is fine? I don't think so.
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  Speaker 1: I should probably tell you this might not be the
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  Speaker 1: perfect ending you were expecting, and I apologize for that.
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  Speaker 1: I've always had a hard time standing up to my sister,
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  Speaker 1: and my boyfriend doesn't like confrontation either and is a
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  Speaker 1: huge people pleaser, which makes this harder for both of us. Nevertheless,
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  Speaker 1: I finally decided to talk to my sister yesterday. She
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  Speaker 1: was sitting in my living room in her underwear and bra,
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  Speaker 1: and I completely lost my crap. I told her multiple
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  Speaker 1: times to put some clothes on, but she said it
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  Speaker 1: was too hot, which it was not. She then made
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  Speaker 1: a comment about me being insecure about my boyfriend liking her,
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  Speaker 1: and that made me angry. I sat her down, and
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  Speaker 1: we talked. I told her that she was making me uncomfortable,
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  Speaker 1: that she was making my boyfriend uncomfortable, and that we
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  Speaker 1: wanted her to leave. She looked very shocked because I
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  Speaker 1: don't think I've ever talked to her like that. She
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  Speaker 1: immediately apologized, said she didn't know, which is a lie.
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  Speaker 1: Some BS I wasn't going to fall for this time.
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  Speaker 1: I gave her an ultimatum to pack her crap and
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  Speaker 1: get out in three hours. She got very emotional and
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  Speaker 1: apologized a lot and told me she loved me. said
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  Speaker 1: she'd never intentionally hurt me and that if I misunderstood
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  Speaker 1: her actions, it wasn't her fault. She said she was
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  Speaker 1: just trying to be friendly to my boyfriend, which is
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  Speaker 1: not true at all. I asked her if disturbing someone
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  Speaker 1: 24-7 was friendly and she started crying. By this time,
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend, who had been in our bedroom avoiding her...
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  Speaker 1: and her skimpy clothing came to support me. She directed
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  Speaker 1: her questions at him, asked if she was making him uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: He said, yes, and then cried and apologized. She then
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  Speaker 1: tried to gain his sympathy, saying I was booting her
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  Speaker 1: out when she had nowhere to go and lied that
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  Speaker 1: I was always mean to her. She completely ignored me
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  Speaker 1: and asked him if she could stay. Of course, he said, no.
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  Speaker 1: What the F did she think was going to happen?
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  Speaker 1: I will forever- remember the look on her face. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she actually refused to leave, cried a lot, and said
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  Speaker 1: she was jobless with no money and no place to
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  Speaker 1: stay and no friends. I told her she had no
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  Speaker 1: friends because she was a terrible person. First time I'd
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  Speaker 1: ever said something like that to her. She then tried
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  Speaker 1: to guilt trip me by repeating, I'm your sister, I'm family,
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  Speaker 1: I love you. Me and my boyfriend helped her pack
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  Speaker 1: all her stuff and put it next to her car.
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  Speaker 1: I told her she could stay in her car for
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  Speaker 1: all I cared. I wanted her gone.
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  Speaker 3: I would have responded with, I'm your sister. I'm family.
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  Speaker 3: I love you. Get out.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't really like an epic, like, yeah, like some
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  Speaker 1: of you wanted. I was actually crying a little while.
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  Speaker 1: I was shouting at her because I was shaking so much.
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  Speaker 1: At one point, my boyfriend had to tell me to
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  Speaker 1: calm down. It was just so overwhelming.
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  Speaker 3: What a terrible thing to say to you.
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  Speaker 1: Ah, there's worse things you can say to a woman.
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  Speaker 1: Trust me. I would know. She did leave eventually. She
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  Speaker 1: was calling someone and I'm pretty sure she went back
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  Speaker 1: to her own flat.
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  Speaker 3: She has her own place? I want to scream. And shout.
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  Speaker 1: I bet you they're from France.
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  Speaker 3: And let it all out. Also, this would be a good.
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  Speaker 1: Situation to see what everybody looks like, like a picture
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  Speaker 1: of everyone.
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  Speaker 3: She has her own place. What?
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  Speaker 1: She sucks. Thank God she's not going to my parents
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  Speaker 1: because I don't think she knows how to quarantine. And
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  Speaker 1: that was the main reason I was hesitant to boot
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  Speaker 1: her out in the first place. Two or three hours
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  Speaker 1: after she left, my mom called and yelled at me
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  Speaker 1: for booting her out. I shouldn't have been shocked when
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  Speaker 1: she accused my boyfriend of bothering my sister, then asked
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  Speaker 1: me what kind of man I was dating and I
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  Speaker 1: should leave him. I tried to reason with her, but
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  Speaker 1: she was just angry at me asking things like, How
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  Speaker 1: can you do this to your own sister? The kind
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  Speaker 1: of thing she should be asking my sister. At that point,
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  Speaker 1: I was just so effing angry and tears and shaking
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  Speaker 1: that I just told her to F off and hung up.
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  Speaker 1: Solid move. I don't know what else you do in
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  Speaker 1: that situation. You go... It is just a weird day.
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  Speaker 1: I am proud of myself for finally standing up to
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  Speaker 1: my sister, but I also don't really feel like getting
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  Speaker 1: up out of bed. The boyfriend is back to his
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  Speaker 1: cheerful self, which I'm happy about, but I feel like
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  Speaker 1: such an idiot. Should have realized my mom would never
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  Speaker 1: take my side a long time ago. You're still, you're 20.
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  Speaker 1: You don't learn these kind of things about your family
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  Speaker 1: until you're 20.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, just follow this idea. and handling your sister for
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  Speaker 3: the rest of your life. And she'll never do this again.
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  Speaker 1: It's a lot to reckon with. Standing up to people
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  Speaker 1: you've never stood your ground against is really, really, it
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  Speaker 1: feels really bad. It feels like you've done something wrong.
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  Speaker 3: Especially when it's one, your older sister, but also two,
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  Speaker 3: your own mother.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, your whole life, they've always been making you the
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  Speaker 1: scapegoat for why something happens or who needs to fix it.
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  Speaker 1: And for you to just be like, no, actually, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not just going to let her live here and actively
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  Speaker 1: harass my boyfriend and me.
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  Speaker 3: What's dad saying in all of this? His mom obviously
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  Speaker 3: has her favorite.
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  Speaker 1: He's saying 17 black.
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  Speaker 3: He's like, let her ride.
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  Speaker 1: Dad's at the casino. Low key, this guy feels like
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  Speaker 1: a revolving chair kind of dad. Revolving chair? Like the
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  Speaker 1: chair that goes... Oh, the recliner. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, recliner. Yeah, yeah. Whatever your mom says.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, F that. I'm done trying to reason with them.
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  Speaker 1: My mom will never believe me. And she keeps calling
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  Speaker 1: and trying to speak to my boyfriend since I'm pretty
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  Speaker 1: sure my sister lied to her. I'm currently thinking of
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  Speaker 1: cutting off all of my family. All they do is
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  Speaker 1: make me feel like crap. And I deserve better than that.
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  Speaker 1: My boyfriend deserves better than that. But what's done is done.
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  Speaker 1: I don't regret it. My boyfriend is glad she's gone.
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  Speaker 1: And right now he's actually cooking, which he hasn't done
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  Speaker 1: once since she came here. I finally have some peace
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  Speaker 1: and quiet in my home.
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  Speaker 3: Nice.
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  Speaker 1: And that is it. You're going to have a lot
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  Speaker 1: more peace and quiet in your life after you cut
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  Speaker 1: off your family, man.
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  Speaker 3: Truly.
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  Speaker 1: And you know what? Honestly, I think what will happen
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  Speaker 1: is down the road, your sister will entirely implode and
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  Speaker 1: then they will reach back out to you in a
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  Speaker 1: frenzy for your help. And what you will say is no.
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  Speaker 1: And what you will say is you can set out, hey,
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  Speaker 1: these are my boundaries. These are the things I need
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  Speaker 1: to see happen before we have a relationship again. If
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  Speaker 1: that's something you want.
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  Speaker 3: Or she might do this to someone else, like a friend.
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  Speaker 3: And that friend's really gonna.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she doesn't have friends.
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  Speaker 3: I know. But when she does, she'll do something out
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  Speaker 3: of pocket. and someone's gonna do something really bad to her.
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  Speaker 1: Is that a Smash meme, dude? You're out of the pocket.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
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  Speaker 1: the next one. My mother-in-law treated us like servants for years.
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  Speaker 1: Now that she's alone, she is sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Too little too late. Savannah's book.
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  Speaker 1: My husband went no contact with his mother three weeks ago. Long,
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  Speaker 1: long story short, she asks him to do everything. Shoveling
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  Speaker 1: her sidewalk, bringing the garbage and recycling bins in and out.
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  Speaker 1: driving her to the bank, printing her utility bills, grocery shopping,
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  Speaker 1: booking plane tickets, everything. My husband never feels appreciated by her.
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  Speaker 1: She praises my late father-in-law, who was horrible to her,
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  Speaker 1: to my husband, and to my sister-in-law up until about
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  Speaker 1: 15 years ago. My husband originally blocked mother-in-law and sister-in-law
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  Speaker 1: at the same time, but after a week, he called
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  Speaker 1: his sister and they talked. Sister-in-law was on my husband's side.
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  Speaker 1: She said she knew it was their mother's entitled attitude.
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  Speaker 1: What started this whole no contact thing His mother-in-law asked
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  Speaker 1: him to take her to the bank the next day,
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  Speaker 1: a Saturday. He said he couldn't because he had a
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  Speaker 1: scheduled oil change and told her he'd take her the
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  Speaker 1: following week. She said no. It would be too late
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  Speaker 1: and too cold for her by then. He snapped and
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  Speaker 1: hung up. She then texted, fine, I don't need you
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  Speaker 1: to bring me or something to that effect, and he
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: blocked her. By the way, this comes from BasicJackfruit7414. If
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  Speaker 1: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
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  Speaker 1: r slash okstorytime subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 11:23
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 1: We're all going to read this story together and we're
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: going to have our thoughts. And then you get to
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: have yours and put them in the comments. And maybe,
• 11:29
  Speaker 1: just maybe, it'll be featured in a future video. She
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: has something for him to do most weekends, and he
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: shovels her snow at least a few times a week.
• 11:37
  Speaker 1: She even started asking him to shovel her neighbor's sidewalk, too,
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  Speaker 1: because the 80-year-old neighbor would sometimes shovel mother-in-law's sidewalk. He
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  Speaker 1: does all of this before work and sometimes after he
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  Speaker 1: gets off work. I helped her with a lot of
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  Speaker 1: things before, too. But she never treated me as family.
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: Before he went no contact, she texted him that she
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: worries that if you pass away, your wife is still young.
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  Speaker 1: She can still find a man and leave no money
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  Speaker 1: for the kids. She meant our kids. What does that
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  Speaker 1: even mean? If you pass away, your wife will find
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  Speaker 1: love again and find another husband to be in your
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  Speaker 1: child's life.
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  Speaker 3: The horror.
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: Men nowadays are broke. But don't worry. leave it to
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  Speaker 1: god or something like that she called me yesterday three
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  Speaker 1: times in a row i ignored them and called my
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  Speaker 1: husband to let him know this was the first time
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  Speaker 1: she had contacted me since he blocked all contact with
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  Speaker 1: her at first he told me to just ignore her
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: calls but i know he will speak to her again
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  Speaker 1: one day and ignoring her now will only make it
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  Speaker 1: awkward for me later i don't want to see her
• 12:35
  Speaker 1: he can bring the kids to see her if they
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  Speaker 1: reconcile but i don't want to get involved I told
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  Speaker 1: him I'd just text and ask her what she wants,
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  Speaker 1: but as soon as I started typing, she called. She
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: definitely saw I was online, so I had no choice
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  Speaker 1: but to answer. She rambled for four minutes straight. She
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  Speaker 1: needs her passport and other documents to apply for her pension.
• 12:53
  Speaker 1: She doesn't know why, but her son is ignoring her.
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: He disconnected his phone and messages from her. Then she
• 12:58
  Speaker 1: went back to talking about calling the government agency about
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  Speaker 1: her pension. She doesn't know why, but her son yelled
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  Speaker 1: at her and hung up on her. Now she needs
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: a friend to help her instead. She wouldn't stop. What
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  Speaker 1: she actually wanted me to do. Did she need a
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  Speaker 1: ride or did she need her documents? She finally said
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: she needs her documents. She keeps a safe at our place.
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  Speaker 1: She refuses to keep it at her own house because
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: she feels it's unsafe. I don't know what causes this paranoia.
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  Speaker 1: I told her I don't know where her passport and
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  Speaker 1: documents are inside the safe. So I'll just bring the
• 13:26
  Speaker 1: whole thing to her. She said, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 1: She doesn't want to keep it at her house. She
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  Speaker 1: just wants the passport and the other document. That's all.
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  Speaker 1: Then she said she wants to come over, but she
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: doesn't know if we'll welcome her. At the end, she
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: asked me to bring it to her instead because it's
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: icy out and she doesn't want to slip and fall,
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: which is, I mean, honestly... Fair. You're old, that's like,
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: and scene. Icy slip and fall, and that's curtains on
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: mother-in-law's life.
• 13:50
  Speaker 3: I think this is where we have a very adult
• 13:52
  Speaker 3: conversation with mother-in-law and be like, I think we're going
• 13:54
  Speaker 3: to put you in a home. Because what?
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: I told her I would bring it over in an
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: hour or so. My husband asked me to put everything
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: in a garbage bag and return all of it to her.
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: I told him I already offered to give everything back
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: and she specifically refused. I'll give her the two things
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: that she wants. He can drop everything else off to
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: her himself after work, including the safe, which I can't lift.
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: He insisted I give it all back without the safe.
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: I hung up and took everything out, ready to give
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: it all to her. Then she texts me, please, OP,
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: let your husband know I and his dad apologize. We
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: are not good parents to your husband. I miss him.
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: It's a little too late. It's a little too late.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: Savannah's book.
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: Too little too late.
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: Chapter 69, Savannah's book. I screenshotted it and sent it
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: to my husband directly. He then told me to just
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: bring her the passport and the other document. He had
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: changed his mind about giving all of her stuff back.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Am I supposed to feel sorry for her? I told
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: my friend all of this, and she said she now
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: feels sorry for mother-in-law. I feel like she's being manipulative.
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: Sister-in-law said mother-in-law has been calling her every day since
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: my husband blocked her, saying she doesn't know what to
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: do anymore. Sister-in-law told mother-in-law to apologize to my husband
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: two weeks ago. When he was on the phone with sister-in-law.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: So I guess that's what she's finally doing now. And
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: there's an edit to add. Sister-in-law lives in another country.
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: Mother-in-law is 61 or 62. She can't drive. Are you
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: 61 or 62?
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: And you can't drive.
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: That's not the age where you're no longer able to
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: take care of yourself anymore.
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: She's 61.
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: She's 60.
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: She can't drive.
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: What are you doing?
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, the driving thing, you know, some people
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: just can't. Understandable. But this is a conversation. I mean, first,
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: now you want to say you're sorry. Now you want
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: to be like, oh, we were not good parents. That'll
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: make up for everything. They're just words. Everything that we've
• 15:31
  Speaker 3: done in the past, we apologized. We're sorry. We're cool now, right?
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: We said we're sorry. Everything that we did took advantage
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: of you. We're cool, right?
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: Husband, call him Aaron. Husband said his sister texted that
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: mother-in-law wants to write him an apology letter as suggested
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: by her pastor. He said she's only apologizing because there
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: is no one left to help her. I told him
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: to leave me out of it if he talks to
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: her again. He said he told sister-in-law he'll only help
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: her with what she needs done. No more relationship. Aaron
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: went to work and... and she called me six times
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: between 9.30 and 11. She showed up at my door
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: at 11 a.m. and rang the doorbell. I didn't answer,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: and she left a few minutes later. Right before the
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: kids got off school, she called twice. I ignored it.
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: When I got back from picking them up, she was
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: at my front door, and I told the kids to
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: go inside. She was crying, saying she was very, very
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: sorry for what she did, that she knew Aaron hated her,
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: but she needed help. She needed to borrow my phone.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: When I asked what exactly she was apologizing for, she
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: said she didn't know. Then she should stop apologizing. She
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: said she didn't know again. She explained her phone is
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: prepaid and disconnects after 30 minutes, and her friend wouldn't
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: lend hers because the calls to the government are recorded.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: Her pastor had driven her to Service Canada, where they
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: told her that her file expired. She kept pleading to
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: borrow my phone. I told her it was too late
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: to call today anyway and that she should talk to
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: her son. She said he disconnected her from his phone.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: I told her to talk to her daughter then. She
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: said sister-in-law doesn't know anything and doesn't live here. I
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: told her they've talked and that sister-in-law knows what's going
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: on and that I did not want to get involved.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: She said, I know Erin better, that she's sure she's
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: wrong and that she'll change. I told her she should
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: be having this conversation with her son, not me, and
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: that she should try listening when he tells her why
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: he's upset. She said last time he booted her out
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: of the house. I told her I didn't want to
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: talk about it right there and I went inside. For context,
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: we added an extra room for her in our house
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: that was being built when father-in-law passed since we thought
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: she would live with us forever. She lived with us
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: for a year and a half and appreciated nothing we did.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I truly treated her like family. Aaron removed her because
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: he couldn't take it anymore. She moved out, and he
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: still kept doing everything she wanted. What a hot, steaming mess.
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like, I mean, your husband doesn't owe
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: her to have that conversation. It's the, maybe she will change,
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: maybe she won't. Maybe it's too late to find out.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: You've taken advantage of your son and his hospitality and
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: everything he's done for you, and look what happens.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: My husband called. He already knew she was outside because
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: of our doorbell camera. He asked me exactly what she
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: said because he couldn't hear everything clearly. I told him
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: and then said I do not want her showing up
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: at the door anymore. Either he tells her directly or
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: he tells his sister to tell her to never show
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: up at my door like that again. If sister-in-law didn't
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: say anything to her, then why is she apologizing to me? Clearly,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: she knows she has something to apologize to me for.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: My husband specifically told sister-in-law why he blocked mother-in-law in
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: the first place. Sister-in-law agreed that her mother is ungrateful, selfish, rude,
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: and entitled, and thinks she's above everyone because she has money.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: She has over $ 600, 000, and her house is paid off,
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: and she's still trying to get the inheritance that belongs
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: to my husband. He's told sister-in-law that the way mother-in-law
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: treats me pisses him off.
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: That's pertinent information to have. Holy cow.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Crap.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: It gives me zero clarity, though. It's just another weird thing.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: So she has all this money. It's like, you hire. You,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: with your 600K, hire somebody to help you do this stuff.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: You don't.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: And leave me alone. Actually, at this point, totally ice
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: her out. You don't set anything up for her. She's
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: got the money. Hire the person you need to get
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: your stuff done and leave me alone.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: You have 600K.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: You want more.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: And you're struggling to even get a phone? Listen, I
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: know 60, it's hard with technology, but.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: Jeez, you are.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: A headache.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: She better not show up at my door anymore, especially
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: with the kids there. They were so confused about why
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: she was crying. And you guys were right. It wasn't
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: and still isn't a genuine apology. She's only doing what
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: she needs to get us to do things for her.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story. Yeah, let your,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: I mean, maybe not loaded. I guess that is loaded.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: 600K is loaded. That's a lot of money. 600K with
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: no overhead.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: House paid off.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Tell her to get whatever she needs from someone else,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: not you. You guys have more insight as to how
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: she absolutely eviscerated her relationship with you two.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah. That was very pertinent information.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: If she was like, oh, doesn't have money or struggling, different,
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: but nah.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: She's got it in the bank.
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: House paid for, 600K, just sitting there.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah. She can afford it. She can afford it. Yeah.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Time to learn.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah. That's the end of that story. My brother ruined
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: my dream career opportunity, so I told him off. Ooh,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: that doesn't sound equal. I, 14 female, used to live
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: in City X. I was born and raised there. All
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: my friends are here.
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: All extracurricular opportunities I have are here.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: I.e.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: The debate circuit is very strong here, connections I've cultivated
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: for youth activism, good internship opportunities, etc. But my big
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: brother Daniel, 16 male, effed up big time about a
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: year ago and ruined it all for us. I'm not
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: going to go into the exact nature of what he did,
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: but it was bad. He didn't do something that would
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: have serious legal consequences or anything, but it was stupid.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: incredibly problematic and got him landed in enough crap for
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: it to get spread throughout social media. He also got
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: in trouble with the school and he claimed he couldn't
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: stay there because his reputation is ruined. Personally, I think
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: he should have thought of that before he did it.
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: My parents were mad, but they got sympathetic because he
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: said he was getting bullied and they wanted to protect
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: his future. So they moved him to two other high schools,
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: but it ended in the same way because everyone knew
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: what happened anyways. By the way, this comes from user
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: don't hate on debate. And if you want to submit
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon. And I'm Dakota. We don't know everything, guys.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: We only know what we do, so let us know
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: what you do down in the comments below, pretty please. So,
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: my parents and him decided to move to an entirely
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: different state in City Y without consulting me at all.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: My brother's future is important, but why should my future
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: be sacrificed just because he effed up? City Y is
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: super small and has way crappier schools, and doesn't have
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: a debate league. I also had to leave all my
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: friends behind. No one knows about what my brother did, so...
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: he's happy my parents are happy that he's happy I'm
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: the only one who's not happy at the risk of
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: sounding confident I had a really good future in my
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: extracurriculars like definitely could have shaped up to be one
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: of the best nationally according to a lot of people
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: if I had the right coaching and competition of course
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: I could have gotten scholarships to great schools for it
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: but no Daniel had to get himself into deep crap
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: and drag me into it I've been here for four
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: months now and I didn't talk to my brother at
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: all for the first two months now we're all at
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: home and my frustrations are building every time I see him. So,
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: at dinner, my brother was talking about his college prospects
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: with my parents, and I was just so frustrated that
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: I snapped. Dakota's gonna be Daniel, I'm gonna be OP.
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: Here we go. Our conversation went like, I think I.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Have a good shot at getting into state school.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: Like heck you do. With the crap you did last year?
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: If you think running away to a different city and
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: ruining my life can make what you did go away,
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: then you're in for a effing treat.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: You're such an effing witch. Get over it already.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: LP, stop blaming your brother. You need to start adjusting
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: to City Y. Apologize for what you said.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: State school won't know. I'll email every single college you
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: apply to with the screenshots and evidence if we don't
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: move back to City X. That's a promise, not a threat.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: My parents got really furious with me for that, but
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: I'm not joking. Am I the a-hole or my brother? Sasha,
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: my parents are the a-hole.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I think if your whole deal is you don't want
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: your brother's stuff to affect you, I think blasting what
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: he did to every school he would potentially apply to
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: will probably wrap you up in it as well.
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: It will tie you to it.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: So probably don't do that. And, you know, honestly, you're 14.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: Your life is not over.
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: It's not.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: At all.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: I will say your parents doing this all for the
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: sake of your brother, that's crazy. That we have to
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: move to a separate city because of what your brother did.
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: Because.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he did was so stupid and that bad.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: It sounds like I mean, the calculus makes sense if
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: you approach it. I mean, it sounds like clearly he's
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: really smart. I hope he's really talented. And her brother's
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: clearly a moron. So the calculus is like, OK, if
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: we don't do something to make sure he at least
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: has a foothold and is even with everyone else, he's
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: going to be working at the gas station for 50 years.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: We don't want that for our son.
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: Well, that's his fault.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: It is his fault. But also as the parents, you
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: can't just be like, well, we're just going to let
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: that happen. But it does feel like you've been your
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: needs in order to do damage control for the stuff
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: that your brother did. And that's not fair. But life's
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: not fair. You're not locked out of whatever future you're
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: looking for at all.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: What I don't understand is like if city Y is
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: not that far, but it's probably a little further away.
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: Why don't you just stay with a friend? You know,
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: finish out your school. I would have had that conversation
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: with my parents. And maybe because your parents are just like,
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: you don't get a say, which sucks. But again, your
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: parents and you are 14. You don't really get a say,
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: which sucks. Yeah, your brother's the a-hole. And your parents
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: kind of suck for doing this. But they try to
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: do what's best for everyone. Because I'm sure what your
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: brother did is affecting your entire family. Not just him. Obviously, yeah,
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: him for sure. But come on. It's probably like, those
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: are his parents. They allow him to do whatever he did.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: It's kind of crazy.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: So.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: We have an update. So, as background, my uncle Randy,
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: not his real name of course, doesn't have kids. But
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: he's dating my aunt Rebecca, technically girlfriend, but it's been
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: 8 years, so she's family. They live across the country
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: in City Z.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Ooh, that. That's the place to be.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Which is a great place, not as nice as City
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: X for debate, but definitely better than City Y. Since
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: they live pretty far away, we only really see them
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: on holidays, the years we spend with Dad's family. Randy's
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: very well off. I don't know how much he makes exactly,
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: But I've stayed at his house, and it's very nice
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: for a place in City Z. And it's not his
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: only one. He's very generous, and he has set up
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: college funds for me, Daniel, and Rebecca's little brother, Ricky.
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: I'd still rather get a scholarship than use Randy's money,
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: because I don't want to be a burden. Ricky is
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: younger than me, so sometimes I tutor him over the phone.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: We're pretty close. I also talk to my uncle fairly frequently.
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: We talk about politics together. However, he doesn't really speak
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: to and like Daniel. because he's rude to Rebecca. Anyways,
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: I was helping Ricky with this math homework shortly after
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: my original post, when I just started to cry. I
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: don't really know what came over me, but I haven't
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: told anyone about how upset I was before then, because
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: There's so much else going on in the world. OP,
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: you're also 14.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's like the reality of 14-year-old existence now, dude.
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: Which is insane.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: That was crazy when we were like 14. Can you imagine?
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: I can't.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: I truly can't even imagine being 15 right now. I
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: was trying to do like the shuffle to like NLMFAO.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: All I wanted to do was a 14-year-old.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: We were just party rocking. Sorry for party.
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: Rocking, dude. Ricky and I talked and I found out
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: that my parents actually told the entire family the reason
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: we were moving was because City Y had a better
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: debate circuit. and they believed it because no one else
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: does debate. I hadn't discussed the move with them because
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: I bottle my emotions like every 14 year old does
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: and they didn't really ask me about the move because
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: they assumed I wanted it. I ended up talking to
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: my uncle about it and we had a really great
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: conversation about it. He's extremely angry at my parents and Daniel.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: This was the second to last straw for him and
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: he ended up removing half of Daniel's college fund and
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: split it into me and Ricky's funds? Daniel was very
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: upset because he'd been relying on that money and our
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: parents hadn't saved up. So Daniel threw my phone down
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: the stairs. Then I emailed my uncle from my laptop
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: and he revoked the rest of Daniel's college fund too.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: We're not learning... Daniel's not learning.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: Whatever, let him work at the gas station. My parents
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: are quite angry at me too because it's not like
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: they can come up with 200k by the time Daniel
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: goes to college.
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: Where the hell is he going to college? What are
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: you sending him to Dartmouth? Is he going to the UK?
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: What are we doing? What? He's 16 years old. Hey,
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: let's first try to make sure he gets passed through
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: high school with the shenanigans he pulls.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Off, you know?
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: I went to a better school than I think Daniel
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: could even fathom getting into, and it did not cost 200K.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: So 200K, if you do eight semesters for four years,
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: that's like over $ 20, 000.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: Like, my school costs $ 60, 000.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Just tuition.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: For four years. I was going to say, military school
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: doesn't sound that expensive.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: This guy could probably use military school.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: Is that how much college costs now?
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: No, there's no way.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: I mean, maybe.
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: Who knows?
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: I paid off my college loans. I mean, my college debt.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: It was a lot. And it was out of state.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: Opie continues saying... My uncle has offered for me to
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: come stay with them in City Z, which I have
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: taken him up on. He also generously bought me a
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: new phone, which I'm writing this post with right now.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Let's go.
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: Uncle City Z.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: Uncle Z. Go live with your uncle.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: Go live with Uncle Z. Go live with your uncle. Well,
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: his uncle, is it Uncle Ricky?
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: Edit.
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: I've gotten a lot of messages. and I can't really
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: answer them all. So, I'll just address the most common questions.
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: Here's the big one. What did your brother do? He
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: posted a very, very controversial Snapchat rant on his public
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: story instead of private. I don't want to go too
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: into detail besides that.
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: Halo, he's like, Halo 2 is better than Halo 3.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: And that's not even controversial. What can you say on
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: your Snapchat story that oust you from school, but then
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: it also is going, spreading like wildfire throughout the entire
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: city that you're ousted from Two more schools. I feel
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: like I can't even I can't comprehend that.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: It couldn't have been about someone specific because he would
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: just would have been expelled. So it wasn't about another student.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: Probably just like I bet you he's like red pilled
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: and he was ranting about like, you know, girls or something. Yeah, probably.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: What is a 16 year old doing on a social
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: media platform to be ousted that badly to burn that
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: many bridges that you have to leave town?
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. Cringy and red-pilled. I mean, I
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: agree with everyone else. I think it has to do
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: with race, but... I can't imagine him not getting expelled
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: for that. That's what happened to the guy who did
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: the freaking watermelon. This is unbelievable.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: Another question here is, have your parents agreed to you
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: moving in with your uncle? Short answer, yes. Long answer,
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: took a lot of pressure from other family members, but
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: they conceded.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Thank goodness.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: I'll be with them on holidays. And yes, I agree.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: My uncle is fantastic. I'm a very lucky niece to
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: have him. And that's the end of that. Look at that.
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: Look at you. Yeah, so your life's not over. Yeah,
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: you're good.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Your life is just starting, dude. You're moving to City Z.
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but let's be real. When you're like 13 to
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: like even 20, 13 to 20, the smallest inconvenience, or
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: actually this is a huge inconvenience.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: You don't know what's going to happen.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite Riley's girlfriend host here. We're
• 29:59
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• 30:01
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• 30:05
  Speaker 2: husband cheated, but I swallowed my pride and forgave him.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: Throw it up.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: I'm female 30, out of town, and got a follow
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: request on both Facebook and Instagram from a girl. I
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: get a few of these regularly, but with that one,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: I somehow had a weird gut feeling and started to shake.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: Instead of accepting, I messaged her asking if we knew
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: each other to which she replied we don't and that
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: she gets it might be awkward but she'd like to
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: discuss something with me in person as soon as possible.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: Since I'm out of town and she's a complete stranger,
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: I said let's discuss online and she said it's about
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: my husband, male 31. I immediately knew the worst was coming.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: I just got a hey girl text telling me my
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: husband has been cheating on me Two weeks after our marriage,
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: she said he's cheating on me and I deserve better,
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: and that it's not continuing anymore as he broke up
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: with her today. She told me it started a few
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: months ago when they met online and then in person.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: She knew he was married because he told her. She
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: asked him why he was cheating and why he got
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: married in the first place, to which he replied that
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: he felt pressure from others since we'd been together about
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: 10 years when he proposed. He also said... Marriage is
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: just a big expensive party and nothing more than a
• 31:19
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• 31:24
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• 31:25
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• 31:28
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give some good advice in a
• 31:31
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• 31:34
  Speaker 2: We'd only tell you what we would do, but let
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: us know what you would do down in the comments.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: As OP says, I asked why they broke up. And
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: she said it's because he's basically happy in our relationship
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: and doesn't want to risk it anymore. She said he
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: was visiting her when I was coming home late from
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: work and even had sleepovers when I was out of town.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: I told her not to tell him I know since
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: I'm going to confront him in person once I'm back home.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: We've been married for five months and he basically started
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: to cheat right after, still telling me he loves me
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: and everything. Especially since I told him I want to
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: start a family next year. I have no idea why
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: she told me now and not sooner. I actually don't
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: have any proof, but they definitely know each other because
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: she knew I was out of town since he was
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: supposed to meet her today, but ended it instead. She
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: also told me he had cheated on me once before
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: about eight years ago. We just had the most perfect
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: honeymoon in summer and even now he's sending me hearts
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: and chat like nothing is wrong. What am I even
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: supposed to do? And there is an edit here. I'd
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: already scheduled a message to her saying I was thinking
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: about what she told me, And the only thing I'm
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: missing is evidence, as it's a big accusation and her
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: word against his. However, I decided not to send it
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: yet because right now I can't handle seeing any proof
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: with my own eyes. I never wanted her to reach
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: out and throw her burden on me instead of carrying
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: it herself.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: What?
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, wait.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: Excuse me? What? You said, I wish that the person
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: who told me my husband's cheated on me multiple times
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: never told me.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: So you're saying... I'd rather just not know.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: Leave your husband. Leave your husband. Ugh.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: I know my husband at least to some point, and
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: believe it or not, he's a sensitive and caring person.
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: I know that once I bring it up, even without evidence,
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: he won't gaslight me and will admit it. If he
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: says it's not true, then I'll demand to see his
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: things or reach out to her, but Talking to her
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: brings me anger and anxiety right now.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: But I'm sorry. I thought you just said that you
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: knew him. So you knew that he wouldn't lie to you.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: So if he says he didn't do it, why would
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: you even need to look at his stuff since you
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: know him so well? Girl.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: You're pissing me off.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: She's like, if he admits it, then I know he's
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: a good person. But if he doesn't admit it, I
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: know he's lying. And I'll just catch him in his lie.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: And this is the classic, like she's getting mad at
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: the girl who told her, which like, Yeah, be mad
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: at her because she only told you when it was
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: convenient for her.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: But like, now you know.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: He'll be asking how my weekend at my parents was.
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: I'll tell him I met some childhood friends and actually
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: made a new friend and that he wouldn't believe what
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: happened to her. She found out the married guy she
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: was supposed to spend her weekend with broke up with
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: her while his wife was traveling, so she decided to
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: tell the wife. The plot twist is that he's the guy,
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: I'm the wife, and the new friend... is the girl
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: who reached out to me. Then I'll wait for him
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: to process it and have a conversation from there. Girl,
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: I don't even know why you're even playing the game.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: Just be like, by the way, I know you're cheating.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I found out you cheated on me eight years
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: ago from the woman you cheated on me with five
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: days ago. Yeah. But it was so sweet of you
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: to break it off with her because you value our
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: relationship so much.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: We've known each other since I was 16 and he
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: was 17, and I considered this man my best friend.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: I was just rereading the vows he wrote me. He
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: didn't give me any real clues to worry about, and
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: he even bought me flowers last week out of the blue.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: I know that to the majority of you, I'll look
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: naive and like I'm not learning my lesson, but for me,
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: marriage is something sacred, something I wanted with him from
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: day one, so it's difficult to let go without trying
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: counseling first. I'll let you know how it went once
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: I talk to him tomorrow evening. So far, I'm playing
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: the everything is okay card, so he has no suspicions.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: I hate all of that. I mean, actually, no, the
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: only thing I don't hate is that if you are
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: going to try to stay in a relationship that there's
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: been infidelity, you have to do counseling.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: That's the only way to get through the other side.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: And even then, it still might not work. Like, you
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: can't just be like, oh, like counseling. We went to counseling.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: Now everything's all right. Like, you still have to put
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: in the work for it. Edit number two, I have
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: a therapy session booked for Monday evening. Edit three, she
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: just reached out. saying that if I want, we can
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: still meet in person and she can show me the
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: conversations they had. I saw it in a pop-up when
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: she texted on Instagram again and I haven't opened the
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: message yet.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: Update.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: This week has been a complete rollercoaster and I had
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: to take some space to process everything and focus on healing.
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: Once I came home, I confronted him and he admitted it.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: I knew I didn't need physical evidence as he's not
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: the type to gaslight anyone.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Did he also admit the time he did it eight
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: years ago?
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Or did he keep that one close to the best?
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: We had a three-hour conversation where we discussed everything very openly,
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: and we both agreed it was one of the most
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: honest and transparent talks we've ever had. I told him
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: there's no need for secrets anymore since the worst thing
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: has already happened. He met her online on Discord as
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: they were watching the same streamer, then started playing an
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: online game together and chatting more. It happened two weeks
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: after the wedding and But he met her in person
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: about two and a half months after that, and overall
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: they met three times, the last being over a month ago.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: The wedding is just a piece of paper comment was
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: a bit out of context but still hurtful. He meant
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: that we'd been together 13 years and he doesn't split
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: our relationship into before and after the wedding, always looking
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: at it as a whole.
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a real damage control type of way to...
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: reframe that statement you made to your affair partner. Jeez, girl. Yeah.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: I mean, if this is what you want, Opie, it's
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: what you want, but.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: I feel like.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: The whole time that y'all are talking, he's like, oh
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: my God, she's taking the bait. Oh my God, she's
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: taking it. She's doing it. She's doing it.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: The reason he got married was that he knew it
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: would make me happy, as I'd wished for it for
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: a long time. He felt that after the wedding, we
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: grew a bit distant. That we didn't have intimacy as
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: often and things became routine. He started thinking this was
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: just what his life would be now. I was his
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: very first partner with just one other experience when we
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: were separated about seven years ago.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: What was that? What was that? Seven years ago sounds
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: a lot like eight years ago. Yeah.
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: Update two. He liked the attention and the feeling that
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: he was still relevant and desired. In some twisted way,
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: I get it. And I told him we'd both had
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: those feelings at times, but the difference is I didn't
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: act on anything. He broke it off because he loves
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: me and realized that even with the distance between us,
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: our relationship is more important to him than a few
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: minutes of physical pleasure with someone else. He said it
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: was nothing but fun for him and he never sought
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: anything more. He had a lot of remorse and was
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: reflecting deeply on the pain he caused. I asked if
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: she also saw it as fun and he admitted she
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: was getting more attached to him.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: Oh, I couldn't have guessed that. So the reason that
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: he broke off the affair is because she was trying
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: to make a relationship out of it. And he said, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, no, no, no, no, no.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: And so now she's, yeah, dude.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: This is solely for my enjoyment. I don't care about
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: you or my wife.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: And he spun it back on you and said, yeah,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: I was feeling neglected. Or you just got married.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: What?
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: What?
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: You know what you do when you have feelings? You
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: talk about it. You don't go cheat on somebody because
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: you're watching the same streamer on Discord. Yeah.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: And two weeks after you are married.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: Pathetic. Yeah.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: I think he's been doing a lot of reflecting on
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: his life lately. As about a month ago, he was
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: diagnosed with melanoma. And although there wasn't anything serious, he
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: was shaken by it. it and I was by his
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: side the whole time. The reason he didn't raise anything
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: with me about being unhappy was that he was afraid
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: of making me sad or that I wouldn't understand.
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: Oh, he was afraid of making you sad? You know
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: what won't make you sad at all? Cheating on you.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'll just go behind your back so then
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: you'll never know.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: This is the last time I'm going to say this
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: for the rest of the story. But girl, I hope
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: one day you can pull the wool over your eyes
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: and realize that you deserve better than this.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: I told him that's what hurts the most, that we
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: could have had a conversation and made changes, since I
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: always try to work things out instead of being toxic.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: He didn't even try to fix things first. He took
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: that chance away and made a decision for both of
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: us by taking a shortcut. I told him he needs therapy,
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: not for me or our marriage, but for himself, because
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: infidelity was a symptom of something bigger. I honestly think
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: part of it comes from the household he grew up in.
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: His mother was a wonderful, caring, loving woman, and his
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: father cheated on her and they eventually divorced. He admitted
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: therapy may help him work through those underlying issues. He
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: said the affair was the biggest mistake of his life
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: and took full ownership, never once pointing to anything I'd
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: done wrong.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: Which affair? The first one or this one? Have you
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: asked him at all about that one?
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: You're just going to be like, oh, well, this one's
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: the only one that matters because this is the only
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: one who reached out. I asked if he'd ever have
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: told me if she hadn't, and he said no. I
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: told him that's actually okay because I'd never have wanted
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: to known, but I'm glad she told me because now
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: I can make a conscious decision about whether to stay
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: or leave, a choice that would have been taken from
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: me otherwise.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: What?
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: Literally what? They're out there, folks. These people are out
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: there walking among us, and I feel bad for them.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: I mean, so.
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: You rather he cheat behind your back and never tell
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: you because at least then you won't have to deal
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: with the hurt.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: She's literally The Weeknd. She says, I don't want to
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: know if you're playing me. Keep it on the low
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: because my heart can't take it anymore. That's a song. Yeah.
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: By The Weeknd. Yeah, that's good. By the weekend. Infamously,
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: one of the most toxic people in entertainment.
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: The weekend.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: He doesn't want to know. Great role model for you.
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: Update three. For now, I decided not to take any
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: hasty actions and I'm focusing on what's best for me.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: I feel like I need to give him a chance
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: to make things right, to give myself a chance and
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: give us a chance. I told him I can try
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: to forgive, but I'll never forget. And then our marriage
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: as we knew it is over. Oh, it's now up
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: to us whether we want to build a new one
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: from the beginning. He said he's willing to do anything
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: and will always stand by my side. But for now,
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: those are still just words, which is why I'm paying
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: close attention to his actions. He already looked into couples
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: therapy and is supposed to schedule the first session. He
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: wants to spend more quality time together and be present
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: with me. And he's planning a weekend getaway in nature
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: so we can focus on each other.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: Can you imagine if this, like, the same logic is
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: applied to, like, I'm going to do a sports analogy.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: There's a team that cheated in the World Series. And
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: then they got in trouble for it later. Imagine if
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: they had just been like, oh, but you know, it's whatever.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: We can just redo the World Series. We'll just do
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: it again. We'll start over. The World Series as we
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: know it is over. But we can just do it.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: You can just do it again. We'll start over.
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: No.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: No, actually. It's not even a good example because they
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: really didn't even get in trouble for it. And they
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: ended up winning.
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: But stupid. This is stupid. A hasty decision would be
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: staying with this guy. You need to be separated from him. Yeah.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: I don't know why you're not making him, like you're
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: just letting this go and just being like, yep, I'm
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: just going to swallow my pride and just, you know,
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: be the bigger person here.
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: It's sunk cost.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: We've been dating for like 10 years. It's sunk cost fallacy.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: It is the sunk cost. He tells me he loves
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: me every day and makes sure I feel it through
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: his actions. We agreed to set a specific time each
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: day to discuss our relationship, both the good and the bad,
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: so we're both prepared for it rather than having it
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: come up randomly. I told him I'm afraid of him
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: getting tired of the effort over time and he said
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: he's fully committed to making me his priority going forward.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, good.
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: It only took him 10 years to realize that. After
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: my own therapy session, I understand this is the time
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: we need each other the most and that if I
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: want this to work, I have to meet him halfway
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: and give him positive feedback on his efforts. I'm already
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: doing this, but I also make sure he knows nothing
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: is fixed and nothing is simply okay. It will be
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: a long journey, and we both know that. Yet I'm
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: willing to give it one last chance. And there's a
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: fourth update! I know, for many of you, this would
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: be an immediate end of everything, and the past version
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: of me would have felt the same. I'd probably also
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: tell a friend to walk away if they came.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: To me with this.
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: But relationships are complicated and nothing is truly black and white.
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: I know that if I'd messed up this badly, I'd
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: beg for another chance and never do it again.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: That's great for you. Are you your boyfriend?
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: Is your boyfriend you? Literally none of his reasonings, by
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: the way, were really him taking full accountability for it.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Every single thing that he said was him kind of
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: trying to put you at fault.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, basically.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: He's like, it just happened. I felt trapped because we
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: got married. The thing that she wanted to do. Yeah.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: I just did it.
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: To make you happy yeah okay that's a great reason
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: to marry me just because I wanted it and you
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: didn't so then two weeks after we get married you
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: go and cheat on me I.
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: Felt alone I was abandoned and there was literally nothing
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: I could do after two weeks right I had to
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: cheat on you girly pop was spitting a little bit
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: when she said nothing is black and white.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: Yes it's true it is and I understand that like
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: you know just because we see it obviously we're not
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: in it we don't know what this is, and I
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: understand it is sunk, what is it? Sunk cost.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: The sunk cost fallacy.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the sunk cost fallacy of being in a, you've
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: been in this relationship for so long, you don't really
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: know anything without it, and it is kind of like,
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: I'd rather work on this than try to start over
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: with someone else. I get it, but also with something
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: like this, when it comes to infidelity and cheating, that's
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: just full-blown, that is just disrespect. They just literally disrespect
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: you in front of your face and also behind your back.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: Two weeks after you got married, and he said that
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: your marriage is just a piece of paper. Yeah. So
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: I guess take that how you want, but that's pretty
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: black and white to me. As difficult as it is
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: to explain, he's a very emotional and deeply feeling person.
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: I genuinely believe he's come to understand the weight of
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: his mistakes and carries a lot of shame and regret.
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: I think there's already too much hate in the world
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: and choosing to hate him would just be another shortcut.
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: I'd rather choose understanding and see us with all the
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: good and bad we carry inside. You can call me
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: naive all you want, but I live by the belief
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: that every difficult situation carries something worth learning or building from.
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: If we're both ready to fully commit, I can see
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: us creating a very strong bond and a sense of
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: emotional safety with no secrets. At least this is how
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: I feel for now and maybe it'll be a different
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: story in a few months. I still don't know and
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: I'm allowing myself the space to not have all the
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: answers yet. Okay.
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: Okay, well, I like that ending.
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: You know, I think it is a lot to think about. And,
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: you know, but also I feel like you're focusing too
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: much on how he feels.
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: And not about what he did to you. Like, you're
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: worried that he feels bad. It's like, yeah, he should
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: actually feel really terrible and horrible. And, like, he should
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: want to give you everything in the world now because
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: that's what he should have been doing in the first place. Instead,
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: he just completely disrespected you, went behind your back, did
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: all these things and then was like, well, I don't know.
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: I just felt pressured. I'm not going to lie, dude.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: As soon as he laid out the, well, I had
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: these problems and I was feeling like, you know, maybe
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: we were losing like the spice of our relationship and
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: I was feeling a little neglected and a little lonely,
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: but I didn't want to make you feel bad. So
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: I cheated on you instead. I would have laughed my
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: way out of the door and never spoken to him again.
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: It's just like his excuses. Like they truly are excuses
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: and they're not good enough. Sorry, but in my opinion
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: and probably a lot of other people's opinions, it's not
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: good enough.
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: You just don't understand. We're different. If you want to be,
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: go ahead. Yeah.
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. And we got
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: another one coming right up.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: I told my wife to wait until she's thinner for
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: a photo shoot, and now she's pulling away.
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: Dang, you are not going to come back from that.
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: My wife, 29, female, follows a local photographer on Facebook.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: I am 29, male. This photographer specializes in taking boudoir photos,
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: tasteful pictures of women not wearing much, but some lingerie
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: or a single article of clothing, such as a t-shirt.
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: My wife had previously mentioned that she might be interested
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: in something like this. When I asked why, she said,
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: I thought you would like the pictures. Anyway, the photographer
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: is doing a session of boudoir photos in a few months.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: And my wife excitedly asked me if I cared if
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: she signed up. The fee is $ 250, which includes hair
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: and makeup and printed photos along with the photo shoot. Now,
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: this is where I'm going to sound like an idiot.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: My wife has had major self-esteem issues and distorted eating
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: habits stemming from her self-esteem issues. And it's cool. self-esteem
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: issues I'm afraid if she spends all this money to
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: get pictures done she's going to be really upset when
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: they don't look like some of the other girls photos
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: this photographer has on her Facebook page and it's going
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: to bring up all those self-esteem issues again by the
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: way this comes from user blah blah blah blah blah
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: user a bunch of numbers and if you want to
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: submit your own stories go to r slash ok story
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: time subreddit I'm Dakota and I'm Savannah we're gonna read
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: this story we're gonna have our thoughts we're gonna have
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: our opinions we're gonna say them out loud you get
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: to have yours as well and you can put them
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: in the comments but we don't know everything keep that
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: in mind but I do know one thing This guy
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: is not very smart. And Opie says, My wife had
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: our son a few years ago, so her stomach isn't
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: as toned as it used to be. She's still hanging
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: on to a bit of extra weight from having our baby.
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't call her fat or anything, but she's definitely
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: going to be disappointed if she spends all this money
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: on what she thinks is going to be amazing pictures.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: I told her that the pictures on the photographer's Facebook
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: page were probably of women who hadn't had kids yet.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: She got upset and told me that was mean. I
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: told her maybe if she considered toning up a bit,
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: she would enjoy the photo shoot more and then would
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: be more happy with the end results. She has been
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: distant since I said that. I'm not trying to be
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: a bad guy, but we have a joint banking account.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: That money is my money too. And I don't want
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: her to spend it on something she's not going to
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: like that could potentially cause her to spiral back into
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: disordered eating. Am I the angel for discouraging my wife
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: from paying for these? Yeah.
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: Yes, 100%.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: You are the a-hole in this. Edit. She's currently probably
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: around 5'1, 107. How much weight do you want her
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: to lose?
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what? Is she supposed to be like so tiny
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: you don't even see her?
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: Not overweight, but I think it would be worth it
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: for her to start eating better and working out more
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: before getting these pictures taken. Edit two says, wow, okay.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: I didn't expect to get this much hate. Yeah, because
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: you're a complete moron.
• 51:06
  Speaker 4: Clearly this is not good you are a complete idiot
• 51:09
  Speaker 4: out of touch with the real world apparently first of
• 51:13
  Speaker 4: all it's our oh my god he's gonna double down
• 51:16
  Speaker 4: oh my god it's our money he says i wouldn't
• 51:18
  Speaker 4: spend 250 bucks on something without consulting her which is
• 51:22
  Speaker 4: what she did and if she had doubts i'd listen
• 51:25
  Speaker 4: to her second i was never harsh or mean another
• 51:28
  Speaker 4: lie we pride ourselves in having a very honest relationship
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: what i said was honest that doesn't mean it wasn't
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: mean my guy She's got some extra meat on her
• 51:37
  Speaker 4: from having a baby.
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: Bro, she's 5'1, 107. I never said I thought she
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: was unattractive because of it. I'd hate for her to
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: be so excited about these pictures, only to hate them. Third, yes,
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: I know her height and weight. I go to many
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: of her appointments with her. The stats I gave her
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: from her most recent checkup in August. Fourth, we've been
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: together for 10 years. Prior to getting pregnant, she was
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: around 95 pounds and was healthy, not starving herself. This
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: was her post-eating disorder weight, I believe. So I'm not
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: being a bully by telling her maybe she wants to
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: wait until she loses some of that weight because I
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: know she can afford to lose some and still be healthy.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: I would not be telling her this if she was
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: on the verge of being sickly underweight, which is what
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: 95 pounds is, by the way.
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: But it's just the fact that, you know, she has
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: like ED or something like she has like some type
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: of like eating illness and you're bringing that up like
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: you're you're commenting on it.
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: Why would you do that? all you needed to say was,
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to see them. They're going to look
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: so beautiful. And if she starts picking them apart, you go, baby,
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you're talking about. I'm keeping these
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: posted up everywhere. I want this to be the first
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: thing I see when I wake up. I want it
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: to be the last thing I see before I go
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: to sleep. I'm going to keep one in my car visor.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: I'm going to keep one in my wallet. If they
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: weren't so hot, I would show them to my friends.
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: But these are just for me.
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: No, literally, like.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: That's all you need to say.
• 52:54
  Speaker 3: Max kept his.
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: In his wallet and his truck. And you said, but
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: you're like, but I did. Why not be mean? I'd
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: be honest. Shut up.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: This is me being honest with you. Do you like it?
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: Does it feel mean? It is mean. I'm being mean
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: to you. You deserve to be mean too.
• 53:10
  Speaker 3: And honest.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm being mean and honest with you because you
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: deserve this. I want her to get to the photos eventually.
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: Trust me, I do. I just want her to see
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: how beautiful she is and not pick them apart like
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: I know she's going to at her current weight.
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: But you're picking her apart now. Like, you're doing it.
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: You're doing this.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: So, like, is it worse for her to do it
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: to herself or for her partner to do it to her?
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: Also, buddy, I didn't know you could predict the future.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: What are the lottery numbers for next week? If you've
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: got the power of seeing the future, let's use it
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: for good instead of making our wife feel bad. Idiot.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: Edit three. Okay.
• 53:47
  Speaker 4: So.
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: I guess the majority wins and I'm the a-hole. For
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: the record, I never told her she had to lose weight.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: Another lie. I told her the photos might look more
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: what she wants them to if she does.
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: That is just like such a cop out. It's like
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: I didn't tell her she had to lose weight, but
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: I just said you might like it better if you
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: didn't look like yourself right now.
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't say she had to lose weight. I
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: just said she would like the photos more if she
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: lost weight.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: Like what?
• 54:15
  Speaker 3: What?
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just said she would actually think she looks
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: good in the photos if she lost weight. Also, I
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: used to be very muscular, six-pack abs when we first
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: started dating. I'm admittedly slightly softer now than I was
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: back then, still muscular and visible abs, just not as
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: cut as I was in my early 20s. If someone
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: took professional photos of me bearing it all, I would
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: probably be unsatisfied with them and start being harder on myself.
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: That's just the way I feel. I assumed she would
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: feel the same, right, because everybody feels and thinks exactly
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: the way you do, Mr. Perfect. Mr. Gold Standard over here. Mr.
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: How could anyone think differently than me? I've got it
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: all figured out. Mr.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: Big Fat Liar.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: God, I hope she breaks up with you over this, honestly.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: I was just trying to save her from embarrassment and
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: self-consciousness after seeing the photos because... She isn't a skinny-toned
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: 21-year-old anymore. That's all. Truly, just like a deplorable guy,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: and I think I am going to blame her eating
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: disorder on you. Just flat out. I'm going to say
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: that you have never helped with that.
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't see you being very supportive of that
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: or really... Like, maybe she has asked you to be
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: like this, but... I don't know. It just seems like
• 55:35
  Speaker 2: you were just merciless.
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah. If this is how you're moving and shaking after
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: you've already been with her for 10 years and you
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: understand what she's gone through and this is the way
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: you're approaching it with this absolute zero levels of insight
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: into what would make her actually feel good. And two
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: strangers who have never met your wife a day in
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: their life know what would make her feel good more
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: than you do? I think you're a negative influence in
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: your life. And if you actually care about her, you
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: should probably leave. You can co-parent amicably. Let her be
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: happy with a different man. There's an update. I thought
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: about what you guys all said and realized I needed
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: to talk to my wife and explain myself. Oh, boy.
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: Notice how he said explain myself and not apologize profusely. Yep. Yeah.
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: I just really need her to see where I'm coming from.
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: Because if she saw where I'm coming from, then I
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: won't feel as bad.
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: I just really need her to see that I'm actually
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: right and I was well intended. And she's fat. I
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: sent her down and said she should get the pictures taken.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: She said, no, that's okay.
• 56:42
  Speaker 3: You're right.
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: It was a bad idea. Congratulations. You put her back
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: into insecure mode. Good job. I told her I think
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: she's perfect, and I just want her to see herself
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: that way too, and was afraid she was going to
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: be overly critical of herself when she saw the pictures.
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: She agreed that she probably would be, and right now
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: she's not as confident because, her words not mine, she
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: isn't as thin as she used to be.
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: That's from you telling her that, though! That's not her
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: thinking that, like, her words not mine after I slammed
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: them down her throat!
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: Mm-mm-mm. You'd li- mm- She said she wants to lose
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: some weight before she gets the pictures taken and said
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: she will hold off scheduling them until she gets into
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: a gym routine. I told her I will support her
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  Speaker 1: no matter what she decides to do. And yes, I
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: told her that I'm an a-hole and I need to
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: think before I speak. I'm hoping I didn't trigger her
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: old bad eating habits. Well, you did, buddy. Congratulations. That's
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: the end of that story. I would be shocked if
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: there is not further repercussions of this for her. And you,
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: I didn't hear, did you hear a single apology?
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: He said, I admit that I'm the a-hole.
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: After the internet yelled at him, he said, I was
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: an a-hole. That's also not an apology. That's just a
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: statement of fact. And you said, I need to think
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: more before I speak. Still not an apology anywhere in there.
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  Speaker 1: Statement of fact. That's the end of that story. I
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: want to just get that guy in a room and
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: slap him around. Oh, I used to have a ripped
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: six pack. I'm a little bit softer now.
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: I hope everyone in your life calls you fat and ugly.
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: Once upon a time, there was an ugly barnacle and
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: it was O.P. and he was so ugly that everyone died.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: The end.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: That didn't help at all.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: That was the end of that story. We've got another
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: one coming up. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: boy host here. We're going to get back to the stories,
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: I skipped one important chore, and my heart skipped when
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: I had to tell my wife.
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, your wife is mad at you. Oh, no.
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: Where to begin? Well, my wife and I, we have
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: a small farm.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing too fancy. A few dozen chickens, a dozen or
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: so turkeys, another dozen ducks, some quail, rabbits, and a
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: few goats.
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: I never wanted a farm.
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: I only wanted a few chickens for some fresh eggs.
• 59:08
  Speaker 3: My wife, however... Whoa, boy.
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  Speaker 1: That's a whole... That's a story.
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: For another day. But the warning here is this. Guys,
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: if you think you are getting off easy by marrying
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: the low-maintenance woman, you are, in fact, going to spend
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: even more money on the inevitable farm she somehow winds
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: up with. So, we have this farm. All of these birds.
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: All the dang birds. Anyway, one of the things my
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: wife enjoys doing is incubating eggs and hatching chicks. We
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: have three incubators that are in my house. I would
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: rather they be in the shed, but my wife would
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: rather they be in the house where she can keep
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: a closer eye on them. We live in our computer
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: room over on a desk set up next to her computer.
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: It makes her happy, so I'm okay with it. Until today,
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: the only issue was the constant peeping of babies once
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: they hatched. But that never lasted long until they were
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: moved out to a brooder box to grow a bit
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: before being sold and introduced to the flock. By the way,
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: this comes from BigBenjamin86. And if you want to submit
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  Speaker 2: your own story, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: And we're here to give some good advice goofily, but
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: guess what? Surprisingly, we don't have all the answers. We'd
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: only tell you what we would do, so let us
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: know what you would do down in the comments. As
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: Opie says, well, on to the F-Up. Most of our birds,
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: the incubation period is around 21 days, give or take.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 2: Every few days, you candle the eggs by shining light
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: through them to see what kind of development is happening.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: Anything that is unsuccessful, we discard quickly for the reasons
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: I'm about to get into. One incubator is in the
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: corner and a bit inconvenient to reach. But my wife
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: normally checks it. So I did not candle and check
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 2: the turkey eggs that were in the corner. This brings
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: us to the find out phase of my F up.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: Last night, just after midnight, I was sitting at my computer,
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: winding down for the day. My wife had just left
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 2: the room to go check something outside. We have had
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: a pesky raccoon getting quail. We often live trap these
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: little buggers and relocate them. As I'm sitting there, I
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: hear a loud pop. Startled, I jump and look around,
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: wondering what this sound was. I don't see anything broken,
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: and it really sounded like a plastic water bottle popping
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: back out after having been crumbled in. I shrugged and
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 2: went back to my game, unaware of the horrors that
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: awaited me. Not even a minute later, a slight smell
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: hits my nose. Hmm, that's a strange smell. I wonder
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: if one of the dogs let one rip. I thought
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: before sniffing once again. What hit my nostrils was a
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: smell that brought a horrible realization to me. An egg
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: had exploded. The smell was something out of a nightmare.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: It was like 10,000 pickles and adult soda farts that
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: had just been unleashed all at once.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's called like raw sulfur. Just the unadulterated sulfur
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: of a rotten egg.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: My old factory senses were quickly being overloaded and I
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: did the only thing I could do. I abandoned the room,
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 2: running out into the house, gagging and gasping for fresh air.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: But this was to be a short-lived reprieve. I could
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: smell the stench following me, creeping its way from the
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: computer room like an evil spirit from a long-forgotten crypt.
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: I ran outside, into the backyard, calling to my wife.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 2: An egg exploded! I yelled, still trying to get fresh,
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: clean air into my nose. Confused, she approached the house,
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 2: where I once again told her that an egg had
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 2: exploded in one of the incubators. She gets a look
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: of dread because she knows we have to deal with
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: this foul demon, and she knows it won't be pleasant.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: We know the best course of action will be to
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: remove the entire incubator, but that means getting even closer
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: to this newly summoned specter of rankness.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: Hey, have you guys heard of, like, I don't know, like.
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 3: Huh.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, my nose is closed.
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 3: I can't... I mean, could you really taste it?
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: Do you think you could really taste that smell in
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: your mouth?
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 3: I mean, sometimes you can taste a smell.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah. But I don't know if you're going to be
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: able to taste this smell.
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean? We prepare.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: We tie our shirts up over our faces the best
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: we can and steel ourselves. After one last clean breath
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: of air, we open the door and charge into our house.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 2: At least it used to be our house. It had
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: been taken by the smell, and we would have to
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: fight to reclaim it. We make our way back into
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: the computer room, the smell growing even stronger. Tears coming
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: to our eyes make it harder to see. I grab
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: the incubator while she unplugs it from the wall. I
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: hoist it up and begin quickly moving towards the door,
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 2: where she has already opened it for me to cast
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: this demonic entity from our home. I take the chamber
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: of damnation to the yard, and the wife follows with
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: a trash bag. Both of us fearing a hazmat team
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: may show up at any moment because of the biological
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: horrors we were unleashing upon the world. We check to
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: see if any of the other eggs are still alive,
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: separate the few that are, and dump everything else in
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: the bag. Seal it and put it inside another bag.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: After dropping that in the trash can, we go and
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: clean the incubator to remove any goo left behind. The
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: demon was gone, but the aftermath was still very present
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: in our house. Once we re-entered, we had to open
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: windows and light candles. Copious amounts of air freshener was sprayed.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: We even debated on calling a priest to bless the
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: house and exercise anything that remained.
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: I mean the drama!
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: This morning, the smell has finally dissipated. I can breathe again.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: But now I will always be wary of anything in
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: the incubator. This is an evil that I do not
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: wish upon anyone. If it were used in war, I'm
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: sure it would violate the Geneva Conventions.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: I mean, technically, like, I think sulfur bombs are not okay.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: I don't remember.
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  Speaker 2: I'll never forget to check the eggs ever again.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, never forget to check the eggs.
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: Good job, egg boy.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't really, I don't know how incubators work,
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: but it seems like that was just like, I don't know,
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: did it get too warm that it exploded? Like, did
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: you boil the eggs alive?
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: No, no, it was just a rotten egg. It was
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: just a rotten one. It was just a rotten, rancid egg. Ugh, yeah,
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: that's gross.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story and the end
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: of this episode.