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5 Min Pocket Pep talk: Listen When Fear Shows Up · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey everyone, welcome to the 5-Minute Pocket Tip Talk.
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  I'm your host, Nadia Chapman, and today we're talking about fear.
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  Yes, there's something I want you to hear from me and not from the noise in your head.
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  If you're feeling nervous right now, if your stomach is tight,
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  if you're overthinking something, if your mind is spinning, and part of you
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  wants to pull back, I want you to see things differently.
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  Maybe that is a good thing, all right? Stay with me for a second.
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  I know what you're thinking.
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  I know what your brain is doing, okay?
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  It's running scenarios. Oh, what if I mess up? What if I lose this?
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  What if this person thinks I'm an idiot?
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  What if I fall? What if I embarrass myself? Yes, I'm not.
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  I get it. We all do it to a certain extent. But listen to me.
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  I mean, really listen to me.
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  That voice in your head, it's not trying to help you win. It's trying to keep you safe.
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  Well, safe, if you know, is not where your next level is, whatever it is that
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  you're trying to achieve in life, whatever you're trying to do.
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  Let me tell you something that I've learned after years of being in high pressure
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  moments and working with people from around the world and watching whether you're
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  an athlete go through the exact same feelings,
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  no matter who you are, fear shows up right before something important is about to happen.
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  Not before something small, not before something meaningless,
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  but before something that matters is about to happen.
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  So instead of making fear a problem, I want you to start seeing it as a proof.
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  This is where the magic happens.
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  Proof that you care. Proof that you are growing. Proof that you are stretching.
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  And proof that you're stepping into something bigger. Maybe bigger than yourself.
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  Now, here's where most people mess things up. They feel that fear.
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  And then, oh my god, they pull back and they hesitate.
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  They pull back just a little. You know, they go 80% instead of 100%,
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  maybe. They try to protect themselves.
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  And that right there is what creates the mistake, not the fear, but the hesitation.
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  So we're not doing that today. Today, you don't go halfway.
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  Whatever it is that you're trying to do, you're trying to launch a business,
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  you're trying to, I don't know, take risk, go through something that kind of
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  scare you, but also excite you.
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  I don't want you to shrink. I don't want you to second guess yourself.
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  You commit fully. Even if your voice shakes, even if your legs feel a little
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  off, even if your brain is really loud right now, you go anyway.
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  Okay let me make this really simple
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  for you because it is pretty simple you don't need
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  to get rid of fear you cannot get rid of fear you just
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  need to stop listening to it and you need to move
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  through it there's a difference so right now i want you to take a deep breath
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  with me so slow inhale drop your shoulders and a long exhale and one more time
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  slow inhale and long exhale Now.
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  And feel this. You are here, you are capable, and you are ready enough.
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  It might not be perfect, doesn't matter, but you are ready.
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  So instead of asking yourself, what if I fail? I want you to ask this question.
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  What would it look like if I trust myself right now?
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  What would your body do? How would you move? How would you show up?
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  And that version of you right there, that's the one you bring out there. Okay.
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  And let me say this because I need you to hear this. And maybe you need to save
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  this podcast and listen to it again.
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  Failing is not the problem. Holding back is the problem. Because when you go
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  all in, even if it's not perfect, you build something way more powerful than the result.
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  You build trust with yourself and that stays and that grows.
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  So today, fearing nothing doesn't mean that you feel nothing.
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  It means that fear doesn't get a vote. All right, you do.
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  Hey, whoever's listening right now, I believe in you, not because you're perfect,
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  but because you're willing.
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  And that, that is everything. Now go show me, go all in.