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Best Of Billy & Lisa: Wedding Rules + Fall Date Dilemma · Billy & Lisa in the Morning

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  Speaker 1: It's the best of Billy and Lisa in the morning.
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  Speaker 2: Another Saturday morning, best of Billy and Lisa here. It's
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  Speaker 2: producer Riley.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome in.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to count down the top five moments of
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  Speaker 2: the week for you. And let's get right into it
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  Speaker 2: because we love when you guys reach out to us
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  Speaker 2: asking for some advice. And that's what happened here. Lisa
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  Speaker 2: got a DM regarding a wedding situation that a listener has.
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  Speaker 4: She says, my name is Kristen and I wanted to
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  Speaker 4: get your opinion on something. My cousin is getting married
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  Speaker 4: and she has a strict rule for her wedding. No
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  Speaker 4: one can bring a plus one unless you're married to
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  Speaker 4: the person. She wants a small wedding and has to
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  Speaker 4: keep the guest list down. Now, Kristen has been with
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  Speaker 4: her boyfriend for a year and they've lived together for
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  Speaker 4: three months and her cousin will not make an exception
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  Speaker 4: for him. Kristen called her and she said, if he proposes,
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  Speaker 4: I can bring him as a plus one. I told
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  Speaker 4: her I wouldn't be attending her wedding.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And she didn't really seem to care when I told
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  Speaker 4: her I wasn't going to go. But now my parents
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  Speaker 4: are mad at me. She says my parents said it's
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  Speaker 4: a small wedding and I should go and that my
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  Speaker 4: boyfriend shouldn't be offended.
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  Speaker 6: My boyfriend isn't offended. I am. Why should I have
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  Speaker 6: to go alone?
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  Speaker 7: Now, the boyfriend, trust me, doesn't want to go to
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  Speaker 7: the wedding and never did.
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  Speaker 6: He's like, I'm off the hook.
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  Speaker 8: But this is a weird wedding rule. And this one
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  Speaker 8: can trigger a lot of drama.
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  Speaker 9: Yes.
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  Speaker 7: And a lot of arguments and relationship breakups.
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  Speaker 10: Well, yeah. Look, I had the rule at my wedding.
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  Speaker 10: We did not accept boyfriends and girlfriends. You had to
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  Speaker 10: be married. We had to keep the guest list to
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  Speaker 10: a certain amount of people. There's a lot that goes
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  Speaker 10: into it. And we had a lot of friends and family.
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  Speaker 10: There were almost 200 people there. So after all, we
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  Speaker 10: both had big families. And we weren't inviting our friend
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  Speaker 10: with his girlfriend that he met last week.
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  Speaker 6: Well, that makes perfect sense.
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  Speaker 4: But what if, you know, you have a couple that
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  Speaker 4: you're friends with and they've been living together for five years.
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  Speaker 6: You guys go out all the time.
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  Speaker 4: And then when the wedding invitations are sent out, you
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  Speaker 4: only invite your friend and not their significant other.
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  Speaker 6: That's when it gets really strange.
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  Speaker 11: Lisa, without rules, there's chaos.
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  Speaker 7: I got to tell you, though, I got to tell you, like.
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  Speaker 8: If Michelle and I had been dating for two or
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  Speaker 8: three years and living together and one of us. wasn't
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  Speaker 8: invited to the wedding. If one of us went to
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  Speaker 8: the wedding without the other, we wouldn't be living together anymore.
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  Speaker 6: You guys just wouldn't go to the wedding.
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  Speaker 12: No.
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  Speaker 7: I'd say, you know, I totally appreciate your rule. I
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  Speaker 7: totally do.
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  Speaker 13: I get it.
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  Speaker 7: You want to have a smaller wedding, but there's no
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  Speaker 7: way one of us is coming without you.
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  Speaker 11: So you would be like Kristen.
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  Speaker 7: You'd just back away from the wedding.
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  Speaker 8: I'm sure some of your friends that weren't married you've
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  Speaker 8: never spoken to since.
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  Speaker 7: I haven't spoken to 98% of the people that went
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  Speaker 7: to the wedding. That's another thing about weddings.
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  Speaker 11: It's so true. 200 people. I talked to maybe 10
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  Speaker 11: of them.
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  Speaker 6: That's a very real experience.
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  Speaker 4: I actually have to say, If you were together with
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  Speaker 4: someone for several years and your significant other wasn't invited,
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't go to the wedding either.
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  Speaker 11: Right.
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  Speaker 6: I just wouldn't go.
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  Speaker 7: Which is an easy, you know, I'd send a gift even.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I would too.
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  Speaker 7: I was invited. Isn't that the rule?
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  Speaker 6: If you're invited, most people.
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  Speaker 7: Are invited just for the gift. Just so you know that.
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  Speaker 10: I mean, infamously, Billy will send three times the gift to.
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  Speaker 11: Not go to the wedding.
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  Speaker 8: Oh, I would privately call the bride and say between
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  Speaker 8: you and me, don't feel the need to tell Michelle, but.
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  Speaker 8: I don't want to come. And I'll give you three
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  Speaker 8: times the gift I would have given. Just to not
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  Speaker 8: be there.
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  Speaker 11: I wish I worked in this show when I got married.
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  Speaker 11: I would have been rich.
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  Speaker 14: To the woman who's getting offended about her boyfriend not
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  Speaker 14: being invited to the wedding, look, he probably doesn't even
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  Speaker 14: want to go to the wedding. Most guys don't like
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  Speaker 14: going to those things, especially if you guys have been
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  Speaker 14: dating and living together for about a year. That's kind
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  Speaker 14: of when the pressure is on him to be proposing anyways.
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  Speaker 14: So he's probably relieved he's not invited, but I do
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  Speaker 14: think you're being a little bit sensitive, and it's family,
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  Speaker 14: and that's just the rule that they have, so... Go
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  Speaker 14: to your cousin's wedding, enjoy it, have fun, and don't
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  Speaker 14: even worry about it.
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  Speaker 7: That's another question. Should there be pressure about proposing?
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  Speaker 4: I didn't read that into it. I just think the
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  Speaker 4: guy's probably like, great.
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  Speaker 6: I'm off the hook.
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  Speaker 7: I don't have to go.
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  Speaker 3: So my rule at my wedding was.
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  Speaker 7: I've met you a bunch of times.
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  Speaker 15: Like if I met the significant other a bunch of times.
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  Speaker 6: Then they're invited.
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  Speaker 5: But if I go to the bathroom at my wedding
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  Speaker 5: and I have to introduce myself to somebody because there's
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  Speaker 5: someone significant other that I've never met, like.
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  Speaker 7: That's not happening.
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  Speaker 15: I'm not introducing myself to people at my own wedding.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I kind of agree with that.
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  Speaker 6: I do too.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: A hundred percent.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: I guess it depends on the circumstance. It does.
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  Speaker 4: You can't, these blanket rules seem great and it's good
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  Speaker 4: to have them. Like Justin said, but there are certain
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  Speaker 4: situations where you have to bend the rules a little bit.
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  Speaker 8: But I think it's OK if you've been together and
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  Speaker 8: certainly living together for a couple of years.
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  Speaker 7: It's OK to say I totally get it. But neither
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  Speaker 7: of us can come.
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  Speaker 13: I know.
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  Speaker 10: I just feel like, you know, if you make the exception,
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  Speaker 10: then that causes even more drama. You're just having the
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  Speaker 10: rule that the rule is the rule. You know, it's
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  Speaker 10: a stressful thing. Planning a wedding is super stressful. I mean,
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  Speaker 10: my wife did 99 percent of the work, but still
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  Speaker 10: I was there in support.
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  Speaker 6: I have a personal situation happening right now. It's not
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  Speaker 6: with all.
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  Speaker 4: It's with my children and that my cousin is getting
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  Speaker 4: married and the kids are not invited. And but my
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  Speaker 4: kids are very close with them. So my kids are
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  Speaker 4: upset that they're not invited to the wedding. And I
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  Speaker 4: had to explain to them that if you guys were invited,
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  Speaker 4: then my sister's.
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  Speaker 6: Kids would have to be invited.
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  Speaker 4: And so I totally get the no kid rule and
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  Speaker 4: I'm on board with it.
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  Speaker 6: They're not coming.
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  Speaker 7: I get the no kid rule, but you've got to
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  Speaker 7: stick with it.
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  Speaker 8: You can't suddenly make an exception because then you're creating
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  Speaker 8: problems among people.
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  Speaker 6: You can't.
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  Speaker 10: We had a no kids rule, but we allowed teenagers.
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  Speaker 10: So Max and Riley would have been able to come.
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  Speaker 10: It was more younger kids.
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  Speaker 7: I was going to ask, what's the age cutoff? Yeah,
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  Speaker 7: it was like under 12.
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  Speaker 11: Or 10 or something like that.
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  Speaker 7: Small children.
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  Speaker 10: But Max and Riley should be invited to that, Lisa,
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  Speaker 10: I think.
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  Speaker 7: They don't want to go.
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  Speaker 11: Oh, they don't want to go.
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  Speaker 7: No, Max wants to go.
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  Speaker 4: Really?
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  Speaker 7: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 6: He's so upset.
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  Speaker 13: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: And I was like, there's nothing I can do. You're
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  Speaker 6: not going.
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  Speaker 13: Yeah.
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  Speaker 11: What's Riley say?
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  Speaker 6: Riley doesn't care.
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  Speaker 11: He doesn't care.
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  Speaker 7: He just wants to golf. That's what he cares about.
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  Speaker 13: Hi, this is.
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  Speaker 16: Alex from Hanover. We had this rule for the most
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  Speaker 16: part at our wedding. None of our coworkers had plus ones,
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  Speaker 16: and they all had the best time together. And most
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  Speaker 16: of our cousins, definitely those that weren't married, didn't have
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  Speaker 16: plus ones. And they had a great time with their
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  Speaker 16: families coming, just like having a blast.
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  Speaker 7: Well, there you go.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: They may have had a good time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: But they've talked about you ever since. You got to
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  Speaker 7: know that.
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  Speaker 3: Let's get right into the number four moment.
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  Speaker 2: Because these are the top five moments from the Billy
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  Speaker 2: and Lisa show this week. So just a couple minutes ago,
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  Speaker 2: we were talking about wedding rules. This listener sent us
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  Speaker 2: a DM because she is in a dilemma.
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  Speaker 4: Lisa, just sum up the DM for us. So Kristen
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  Speaker 4: is a listener. Her cousin's getting married. She's not married.
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  Speaker 6: They have the.
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  Speaker 4: Married rule where you only get to bring a plus
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  Speaker 4: one if you're married.
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  Speaker 6: So wedding.
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  Speaker 4: Kristen has to go alone to her cousin's wedding and
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  Speaker 4: she's not happy about it.
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  Speaker 6: She's been with her boyfriend for over a year. They
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  Speaker 6: live together. And so she's not going to her cousin's wedding.
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  Speaker 6: She's offended.
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  Speaker 17: Yeah.
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  Speaker 8: This, this, this is a tough one, you know, because
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  Speaker 8: some of your friends are together for a year together
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  Speaker 8: for three years.
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  Speaker 7: Let's go to Kayla. She's in acting. Good morning, Kayla.
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  Speaker 7: What have you got?
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  Speaker 5: Hi, I'm actually getting married this Sunday and it's been
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  Speaker 5: like nothing but drama.
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  Speaker 15: And I am so happy that, That it's almost done.
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  Speaker 7: What kind of drama? Give us some good stories.
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  Speaker 15: So like, for example, our rehearsal dinner, it's in a
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  Speaker 15: space that's very, very small.
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  Speaker 5: We can only accommodate, I think, a max of like
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  Speaker 5: 25 people. And my fiance and I both have six
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  Speaker 5: members of our wedding party.
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  Speaker 15: So we made the tough decision. No plus ones.
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  Speaker 18: And then, you know.
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  Speaker 5: That became its own thing, having to tell people. And
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  Speaker 5: then people were, you know, lashing out and like, that's
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  Speaker 5: so not fair. There's two married couples.
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  Speaker 15: So then we said, OK, you know. you guys can
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  Speaker 15: bring your plus ones cause you're married, whatever, I guess.
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  Speaker 15: And then I told one of the people, you know,
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  Speaker 15: who is not a fan of me to begin with.
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  Speaker 7: Okay.
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  Speaker 8: All of a sudden, that's all I want to talk about.
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  Speaker 19: Totally.
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  Speaker 7: Who's the one you don't like?
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  Speaker 15: Um, my future brother-in-law's wife.
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  Speaker 7: Oh God. She's actually telling us.
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  Speaker 19: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 15: I don't care.
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  Speaker 7: God, I love you. OK, so are they coming? Is
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  Speaker 7: he bringing the I mean, the the woman?
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  Speaker 15: Yes, she is coming.
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  Speaker 5: But I was trying to, you know, be nice and
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  Speaker 5: be like, hey, guess what? Like you made the cut.
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  Speaker 20: Ha ha ha.
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  Speaker 15: And the response was, well, I should hope so. And
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  Speaker 15: I was like, right, right. OK.
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  Speaker 7: God, it screams wedding drama, doesn't it? Oh, I should
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  Speaker 7: hope so.
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  Speaker 8: Why do people care so much? And by the way,
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  Speaker 8: 25 people is a good number for a rehearsal.
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  Speaker 13: Right.
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  Speaker 8: It should just be technically the wedding party at a
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  Speaker 8: rehearsal dinner.
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  Speaker 15: Yes, that's what I said. And people have their own opinions.
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  Speaker 5: And then people are upset because it's a destination wedding,
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  Speaker 5: quote unquote destination.
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  Speaker 15: It's up in the White Mountains. So they're angry that
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  Speaker 15: they have to drive like two and a half hours.
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  Speaker 15: And I'm like, whatever, get over it.
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  Speaker 11: That's not too bad. The white mountains better than.
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  Speaker 7: Oh yeah. Like, yeah, we're going to drive. It's fine.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: God. Well, and it's this weekend.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Sunday.
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  Speaker 7: All right. Well, congratulations. Congratulations. And good luck at the wedding.
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  Speaker 7: I hope all goes well with the future sister-in-law.
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  Speaker 20: I'll see you there.
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  Speaker 7: Okay, bye. Yeah, we're all invited, but the woman, no, no.
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  Speaker 7: I guess we're going back to the phones.
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  Speaker 11: Let's go to Eileen in Medford.
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  Speaker 17: All right.
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  Speaker 7: Eileen. Oh, you're right here in Medford. Eileen, pick up
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  Speaker 7: the phone. All right, I guess Eileen is not in Medford.
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  Speaker 7: I think she fell asleep or something.
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  Speaker 11: Where'd she go? She fell off? Yeah. All right, well,
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  Speaker 11: call us back, Eileen. We want to talk to you.
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  Speaker 18: My husband and a friend of his, a close friend,
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  Speaker 18: was getting married. And he said no to me attending
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  Speaker 18: because we weren't married, but we were engaged.
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  Speaker 11: Oh, so they were engaged.
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  Speaker 7: See, that you've got to make an exception.
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  Speaker 6: You've got to bend the rule.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah, that did not happen at our wedding. We did
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  Speaker 10: not run into that issue. But we had the rule that,
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  Speaker 10: you know, only married people, not boyfriends and girlfriends.
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  Speaker 7: But did you end up in a fight with any
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  Speaker 7: of your friends that weren't able to come?
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  Speaker 11: Not that I remember.
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  Speaker 7: Have you spoken to them since?
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  Speaker 11: I haven't spoken to most people that came to my wedding.
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  Speaker 19: Ironically.
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  Speaker 11: Yeah, I should have just had a wedding of like
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  Speaker 11: 10 people. It would have been perfect.
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  Speaker 13: Yeah.
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  Speaker 11: You know, all those 200 people.
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  Speaker 15: About the wedding invitations, this is not your day.
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  Speaker 7: It's the bride and groom's day.
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  Speaker 2: Get over yourself.
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  Speaker 8: See, that's the crazy thing about weddings.
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  Speaker 7: There are so many sides to every story.
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  Speaker 13: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: You know? Yeah.
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  Speaker 11: I mean, it's an important day.
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  Speaker 7: For sure, but people just take it way too far.
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  Speaker 9: How about being invited to your niece's wedding and you
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  Speaker 9: get in the card in the invitation that you're only
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  Speaker 9: invited to the cookie reception, which is after the.
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  Speaker 19: Ceremony in the basement of the church.
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  Speaker 9: Couldn't go to the reception reception where they have, you know,
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  Speaker 9: the drinks and the dancing and the music.
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  Speaker 7: But other parts.
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  Speaker 9: Of my family were invited.
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  Speaker 19: It's just go figure.
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  Speaker 8: No, you don't have to go figure. They were sending
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  Speaker 8: you a clear message. You don't matter.
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  Speaker 16: Cookie?
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  Speaker 7: Cookie reception?
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  Speaker 11: I don't know what that is.
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  Speaker 6: I've never heard of that.
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  Speaker 11: Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 7: I haven't either.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, you know, churches have basements, and sometimes they'll have, like,
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  Speaker 4: coffee and cookies after, like, a mass.
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  Speaker 11: So they stuck her in the basement?
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  Speaker 7: Just for cookies.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, my goodness.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah. That's when you really know you don't matter. You
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  Speaker 7: don't count.
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  Speaker 11: You know what they said to her.
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  Speaker 8: Whatever.
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  Speaker 13: Get over it.
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  Speaker 7: Oh, that's a new thing, a cookie reception. I've never
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  Speaker 7: heard of that. Like homemade cookies?
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  Speaker 19: It's the Uber driver.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 7: I just want to let you guys know that you
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  Speaker 7: are all invited in my wedding. Bailey Donovan, Max Donovan,
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  Speaker 7: Chris Costa.
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  Speaker 15: Oh.
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  Speaker 17: Everybody.
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  Speaker 11: We're all invited to his wedding.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, that's good.
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  Speaker 7: Who's he marrying?
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  Speaker 11: Probably you.
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  Speaker 7: If it were up to him, it would be you.
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  Speaker 12: What about weddings where the rules are a little sticky,
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  Speaker 12: like no children? I am fine with no children at
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  Speaker 12: a wedding. We left our 11-year-old at home. We traveled
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  Speaker 12: out of state without him, which was strange.
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  Speaker 7: But we did, and.
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  Speaker 12: We get to the wedding, and there are other little
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  Speaker 12: kids there, kids younger than him. No, they weren't involved
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  Speaker 12: in the wedding. Oh, but the bride was involved in
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  Speaker 12: our wedding. She was our flower girl. She was our
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  Speaker 12: flower girl, and she's not inviting my kid to the wedding?
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  Speaker 10: No.
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  Speaker 7: See what happens? That's where the anger starts. That's the
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  Speaker 7: one thing. If you say no children, you cannot make
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  Speaker 7: an exception.
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  Speaker 19: No.
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  Speaker 8: It's the first thing these people are looking for when
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  Speaker 8: they arrive at the reception.
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  Speaker 11: It's so true.
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  Speaker 7: Hey, do you see any other kids here? Are there
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  Speaker 7: kids here? I can't believe it. Yeah. By the way,
• 13:40
  Speaker 7: don't you want to leave the kids home? Right.
• 13:43
  Speaker 11: Date night.
• 13:43
  Speaker 7: That's a perfect.
• 13:44
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 13:45
  Speaker 11: Get a babysitter.
• 13:46
  Speaker 7: It's an escape.
• 13:47
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: This is the number three moment because later today at
• 13:49
  Speaker 2: four o'clock, Gronk is being inducted into the Patriots Hall
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: of Fame. And Matt Light and him have something really
• 13:56
  Speaker 2: cool coming up.
• 13:57
  Speaker 8: The Light Foundation, and that's our buddy Matt Light, in
• 14:00
  Speaker 8: partnership with Gronk's Nation Youth Foundation, are teaming up for
• 14:04
  Speaker 8: the ultimate Gronk weekend.
• 14:06
  Speaker 7: And you're not going to believe what Matt Light is
• 14:09
  Speaker 7: giving you a shot at. We've got him on the
• 14:11
  Speaker 7: phone right now. Good morning, Mr.
• 14:12
  Speaker 13: Light. Hey, good morning, friends.
• 14:17
  Speaker 8: Listen, Matt, before we get to the foundation, to your foundation,
• 14:21
  Speaker 8: before we get to the giveaway, OK, the incredible Gronk giveaway.
• 14:26
  Speaker 8: Can I talk about the current New England Patriots for
• 14:28
  Speaker 8: a couple of seconds?
• 14:30
  Speaker 13: I know it's on everybody's mind right now. Yes. Go ahead.
• 14:33
  Speaker 13: Shoot it.
• 14:34
  Speaker 7: You saw this coming, right?
• 14:36
  Speaker 13: Yeah.
• 14:37
  Speaker 8: Can you do us and Patriot Nation a really big favor?
• 14:41
  Speaker 8: Can you jump in the sauna with Drake May or
• 14:43
  Speaker 8: something for a.
• 14:44
  Speaker 7: Couple of minutes? We would consider it.
• 14:48
  Speaker 8: Hats Nation would consider that a favor.
• 14:53
  Speaker 13: You know, I didn't know that that was a thing.
• 14:57
  Speaker 13: But if it's going to help, you know, I will
• 15:01
  Speaker 13: definitely jump in the sauna or whatever it takes. Yeah,
• 15:04
  Speaker 13: I think this much, right? There's a lot of reasons
• 15:08
  Speaker 13: that we can say that we're concerned, and there's a
• 15:13
  Speaker 13: lot of things they have to fix. That's the obvious. Now,
• 15:16
  Speaker 13: the better question is how do you do that at
• 15:18
  Speaker 13: this point? And, you know, look, I don't know how
• 15:22
  Speaker 13: things are going to shake out. I think that when
• 15:24
  Speaker 13: you have a great coach and you've got a great
• 15:26
  Speaker 13: coaching staff and you've got enough pieces of the puzzle
• 15:28
  Speaker 13: that things can change, right?
• 15:32
  Speaker 21: Early.
• 15:32
  Speaker 13: And by the way, I think one of the biggest
• 15:35
  Speaker 13: deciding factors in the game of football today is how
• 15:39
  Speaker 13: many of your guys are going to be healthy? How
• 15:40
  Speaker 13: many of your starters are going to be there when
• 15:44
  Speaker 13: it really matters the most, i.e. after Thanksgiving? there's a
• 15:49
  Speaker 13: lot of question marks in that category. But, look, I've
• 15:51
  Speaker 13: said this for a long time. Guys aren't battle-hardened anymore, right?
• 15:55
  Speaker 13: They don't do the preseason. I mean, the preseason doesn't
• 15:58
  Speaker 13: exist for all intents and purposes. So if you're a fan,
• 16:01
  Speaker 13: you know, look, what we should all be calling for
• 16:03
  Speaker 13: is that these guys get to go out there and
• 16:04
  Speaker 13: practice a whole bunch more so that they can put
• 16:07
  Speaker 13: a better product on the field.
• 16:09
  Speaker 8: Now, it goes without saying, Matt Light, that you've got
• 16:11
  Speaker 8: access to more inside football information.
• 16:13
  Speaker 7: Than most of us, okay? But they say... It's in
• 16:19
  Speaker 7: his head. Is it me?
• 16:20
  Speaker 8: And again, you have access to information. Hasn't he thrown
• 16:23
  Speaker 8: more passes to the opposition than he has to the Patriots?
• 16:28
  Speaker 13: Well, is it in his head? I mean, look, I
• 16:31
  Speaker 13: don't have a crystal ball there either. I'm not in
• 16:33
  Speaker 13: his head, but I can tell you this much. As
• 16:34
  Speaker 13: a guy that played for a long time, when you
• 16:36
  Speaker 13: make mistakes, you think about them quite a bit.
• 16:39
  Speaker 8: Oh, yeah.
• 16:39
  Speaker 13: You do, right? And here's the worst part, right? I mean,
• 16:43
  Speaker 13: for me, I go back to the days of Monday morning,
• 16:46
  Speaker 13: Coach Belichick, the teleprompter, you know, not the teleprompter, but
• 16:50
  Speaker 13: the remote in his hand and rewinding the where I
• 16:54
  Speaker 13: looked like a complete idiot in front of all my teammates.
• 16:57
  Speaker 13: I mean, nobody wants to be in that position, right?
• 17:00
  Speaker 13: But that's what you do. You look at it, you
• 17:02
  Speaker 13: watch it, you go over it, you digest it, and then... Again,
• 17:06
  Speaker 13: we're back to practicing. You go out and you practice
• 17:09
  Speaker 13: beyond failure, right? So, yes, we failed, but we're going
• 17:14
  Speaker 13: to go out and we're going to do so many
• 17:15
  Speaker 13: reps and we're going to work so hard this week
• 17:18
  Speaker 13: that we're going to work beyond that and we're going
• 17:20
  Speaker 13: to get ourselves ready for the next one because that's
• 17:21
  Speaker 13: what happens every week, new opponent.
• 17:23
  Speaker 7: I get it.
• 17:24
  Speaker 8: They're going to work really hard all this week, but
• 17:27
  Speaker 8: at the end of all that work is Josh Allen
• 17:30
  Speaker 8: and the Bills.
• 17:32
  Speaker 16: Hmm.
• 17:33
  Speaker 7: Yeah. Something to think about.
• 17:35
  Speaker 13: Let's hope that he finds the other side of the ball, too,
• 17:41
  Speaker 13: with the throws that he made last week. And hopefully
• 17:43
  Speaker 13: we can get some turnovers. And I think they're probably
• 17:46
  Speaker 13: hoping the same thing. But they're going to have to
• 17:48
  Speaker 13: play really good football, obviously.
• 17:49
  Speaker 7: Okay. You know us well enough, Matt.
• 17:51
  Speaker 8: You know we kid. That's what we do. We love
• 17:53
  Speaker 8: our New England Patriots, and we love Drake May. Let's
• 17:56
  Speaker 8: talk about Rob Gronkowski. Nobody deserves this more than him, right?
• 18:00
  Speaker 8: The Hall of Fame in Foxborough.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:03
  Speaker 13: We've all been waiting for this for a long time.
• 18:05
  Speaker 13: From the day he stepped into a Patriots uniform, right?
• 18:10
  Speaker 13: He has just been captivating. He's been a guy that
• 18:13
  Speaker 13: all eyes are on him. He's a guy that everybody
• 18:15
  Speaker 13: had a game plan for. And he's also a guy
• 18:18
  Speaker 13: that enjoyed every minute of it. And I think that
• 18:20
  Speaker 13: that is one of the things that I valued and
• 18:23
  Speaker 13: treasured the most as a teammate is that I knew
• 18:25
  Speaker 13: I had a guy that was very good at what
• 18:27
  Speaker 13: he did, right? But it was the way he did
• 18:29
  Speaker 13: what he did. And that's what we're going to celebrate
• 18:31
  Speaker 13: with him, you know, on the 7th and the 8th
• 18:33
  Speaker 13: for the game. And I can't wait, man. It's going
• 18:35
  Speaker 13: to be a great celebration.
• 18:36
  Speaker 8: And you have an amazing sweepstakes prize. Can you walk
• 18:39
  Speaker 8: us through that?
• 18:40
  Speaker 7: What does it include and how do people get in
• 18:42
  Speaker 7: on it?
• 18:44
  Speaker 13: Well, it's the Ultimate Gronk Weekend. So if you go
• 18:47
  Speaker 13: to ultimategronkweekend.com, you'll have a chance to not only just
• 18:51
  Speaker 13: be there, but have a front row seat for the
• 18:54
  Speaker 13: Hall of Fame induction ceremony. You're going to get to
• 18:57
  Speaker 13: go to the game on Sunday. You're going to get
• 19:00
  Speaker 13: to be in a suite. You're going to get to
• 19:02
  Speaker 13: have pictures with Rob and his family. I mean, it's
• 19:05
  Speaker 13: just a really cool way to have a backstage pass,
• 19:08
  Speaker 13: so to speak, to You know, for this moment and
• 19:11
  Speaker 13: to celebrate with him.
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 19:12
  Speaker 13: I mean, what a great way to enjoy that moment
• 19:17
  Speaker 13: being with the Gronk train, man. I mean, when you're
• 19:19
  Speaker 13: with him and his family, life is good.
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 19:22
  Speaker 8: And you're talking about the Pats Packers Sunday, November 8th.
• 19:26
  Speaker 8: And you know what else they get to autograph Pats jerseys,
• 19:29
  Speaker 8: autographed by Gronk and fifteen hundred bucks and a travel stipend.
• 19:33
  Speaker 8: This is an oh, and let's not forget dinner at
• 19:36
  Speaker 8: Davio's out there in Foxborough.
• 19:39
  Speaker 13: Yeah, buddy. You know, it's a great package. We love
• 19:41
  Speaker 13: doing these. I mean, you know, the amount of money
• 19:43
  Speaker 13: this has raised for, you know, the Gronk Nation you know,
• 19:46
  Speaker 13: Youth Foundation, and obviously the Life Foundation has been incredible.
• 19:50
  Speaker 13: And it's people just taking a chance, right? Like, I'm
• 19:51
  Speaker 13: going to spend $ 20. And when, you know, thousands of
• 19:54
  Speaker 13: people do that, the impact that that has on the
• 19:57
  Speaker 13: work that we do with kids and communities, man, it's unbelievable. So,
• 20:01
  Speaker 13: you know, we greatly appreciate it. But at the end
• 20:03
  Speaker 13: of the day, this is all about him and celebrating
• 20:05
  Speaker 13: his accomplishments, what he's done for this organization, for this region,
• 20:09
  Speaker 13: for fans. I mean, you know, yeah, you're right. Who
• 20:12
  Speaker 13: better to celebrate than with that guy?
• 20:13
  Speaker 8: And we talked a lot about your Light Foundation, but
• 20:15
  Speaker 8: in a couple of sentences, explain to everybody what it's
• 20:18
  Speaker 8: all about and what you guys are doing.
• 20:21
  Speaker 13: You know, it's walking alongside young people. We serve about
• 20:23
  Speaker 13: 7,500 kids annually through a leadership academy where, you know,
• 20:27
  Speaker 13: we ask kids to just make a commitment and see
• 20:29
  Speaker 13: things through and show up on time and work hard. And, buddy,
• 20:32
  Speaker 13: we love it.
• 20:33
  Speaker 21: All right.
• 20:34
  Speaker 8: So if you want to go to the Hall of
• 20:35
  Speaker 8: Fame induction ceremony, if you want to go to the
• 20:37
  Speaker 8: Pat's Packers, if you want to have dinner at Davio's,
• 20:40
  Speaker 8: You want to have overnight accommodations, all of this and more.
• 20:43
  Speaker 7: Matt Light, where does everybody go?
• 20:46
  Speaker 13: UltimateGronkWeekend.com, and love you guys. Have a great week.
• 20:51
  Speaker 7: Love you back, Matt Light. Bye now.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Welcome back into The Best of Billy and Lisa in
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: the Morning. It's producer Riley counting down the top five
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: moments of the week with you. This is the number
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: two moment. We love when people send us questions, asking
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: for some advice, or just needing us to back them
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: up a little bit.
• 21:07
  Speaker 7: Lisa, you've got a DM.
• 21:09
  Speaker 6: OK, so it's from a woman named Jenna.
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: She's 27 years old and she says the situation is this.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: Every guy I've ever been in a relationship with since
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: I was 18 doesn't like to go pumpkin picking with me.
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: I've been with my boyfriend since June and he's like
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: every other guy I say, hey. Let's go pumpkin picking
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: on Sunday. And he makes this big sigh and goes, oh,
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: all I want to do is watch football. And I say, OK, well,
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: let's go on Saturday.
• 21:33
  Speaker 7: Same thing.
• 21:33
  Speaker 6: OK, fine.
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: But I don't want to go the entire day. So
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: why is it so painful for guys to go pumpkin picking?
• 21:40
  Speaker 6: That's one of the questions. Why do they all get
• 21:42
  Speaker 6: so grumpy?
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: And then she says, should I break up with my
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: boyfriend and hold out for a guy that wants to
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: do something like pumpkin picking?
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 21:50
  Speaker 7: Which is the question.
• 21:51
  Speaker 8: Can you date someone who doesn't have the same interests
• 21:54
  Speaker 8: as you?
• 21:55
  Speaker 10: God, I feel that guy's pain. I really do. It's
• 22:00
  Speaker 10: not that I'm against pumpkin picking or fall activities. I mean,
• 22:03
  Speaker 10: this week in the Topsfield Fair, there was a debate
• 22:05
  Speaker 10: in my house this week. She wanted to go Sunday,
• 22:08
  Speaker 10: my wife, Jen.
• 22:09
  Speaker 7: And I'm like, no.
• 22:11
  Speaker 11: The football game's on. The Patriots are on.
• 22:13
  Speaker 17: Bill's.
• 22:14
  Speaker 10: Like, I'm going to be on the couch all day long.
• 22:16
  Speaker 10: I want to go Saturday. And it turned into a
• 22:17
  Speaker 10: huge debate.
• 22:18
  Speaker 13: Yeah.
• 22:19
  Speaker 11: So I feel this guy.
• 22:20
  Speaker 7: I love the DM-er, but she lost me at pumpkin picking.
• 22:24
  Speaker 6: I know.
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: You don't like leaf peeping, pumpkin picking, apple picking.
• 22:29
  Speaker 7: It's all the same thing. You're not into the fall things.
• 22:31
  Speaker 11: We get it. We get it.
• 22:32
  Speaker 10: But, yeah, I mean, if you don't have the same
• 22:33
  Speaker 10: interests as somebody, does that mean you're not compatible and
• 22:36
  Speaker 10: you can't be together?
• 22:36
  Speaker 11: I mean, I guess that's the question that she's asking.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: I think that it's nice for people to have different interests.
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: It's also nice to be with someone who is open
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: to enjoying maybe something new.
• 22:47
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 22:47
  Speaker 6: Something that you like.
• 22:48
  Speaker 7: You make an effort, but that doesn't mean you have
• 22:51
  Speaker 7: to like it.
• 22:52
  Speaker 10: But don't you think that pumpkin picking and apple picking
• 22:55
  Speaker 10: and those things are stuff you do when you first
• 22:58
  Speaker 10: start dating? If you're together for a couple of years,
• 23:01
  Speaker 10: you've already gone a couple of years, do you keep
• 23:04
  Speaker 10: going to it over and over again?
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:06
  Speaker 7: I think it's more suited to young kids, isn't it?
• 23:08
  Speaker 7: You know, you bring the kids along for the apples
• 23:11
  Speaker 7: and the pumpkins. You do.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: You graduate into being in a family thing.
• 23:14
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 23:15
  Speaker 10: But it is like a good, you know, you start
• 23:16
  Speaker 10: dating somebody. I mean, Riley, you're dating. You ever been
• 23:19
  Speaker 10: brought to a pumpkin patch or apple picking?
• 23:21
  Speaker 13: Oh, God.
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: No, but it has been brought up before.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: So... I just think that if your partner wants to
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: do it, you should just make the effort. Making the
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: effort and not complaining about it is like... infinitely more
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: attractive than, like, you even wanting to go in the
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: first place.
• 23:39
  Speaker 11: Or saying you'll go and then, you know, be miserable
• 23:43
  Speaker 11: the whole time.
• 23:44
  Speaker 21: Right.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: Like, that's just annoying. At that point, I'll just go
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: by myself.
• 23:48
  Speaker 7: Or just decide on something that you want to do there.
• 23:51
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 23:51
  Speaker 8: Like, maybe there's a certain drink or beverage they have
• 23:53
  Speaker 8: there that's really good.
• 23:55
  Speaker 7: Oh, well, at least I can get that.
• 23:56
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 23:56
  Speaker 6: Just be open to it.
• 23:57
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 23:58
  Speaker 7: And if you don't want to go, but you go anyway,
• 24:00
  Speaker 7: then play it up.
• 24:01
  Speaker 6: Exactly.
• 24:02
  Speaker 8: Are you suggesting that there are guys who want to
• 24:06
  Speaker 8: go pumpkin picking like they?
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Apple picking has been suggested to me before.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: Billy, that's what you do when you first start dating someone.
• 24:14
  Speaker 11: No, he's not into it, at least.
• 24:15
  Speaker 7: Hey, honey, look at that. The world's largest pumpkin. Now what?
• 24:20
  Speaker 11: It's not for Bill.
• 24:21
  Speaker 22: To address the pumpkin picking thing, I don't think anybody
• 24:26
  Speaker 22: actually wants to go pumpkin picking. That's just like for
• 24:29
  Speaker 22: her to go take Instagram pictures.
• 24:31
  Speaker 7: So, no, I would say.
• 24:33
  Speaker 22: Do not break up with the guy for that, but
• 24:36
  Speaker 22: maybe find something else to do.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: It's nice to go for like a nice fall hike
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: or walk because that's like leaf peeping, but you're actually
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: doing something active.
• 24:47
  Speaker 11: There's plenty of fall activities.
• 24:49
  Speaker 7: Yeah, pitch it as a hike, though.
• 24:50
  Speaker 13: Yes.
• 24:51
  Speaker 10: Yeah, there are plenty of other ones. I would love
• 24:53
  Speaker 10: to hear from a guy who actually does like to
• 24:54
  Speaker 10: go pumpkin picking.
• 24:55
  Speaker 6: Or apple picking.
• 24:56
  Speaker 11: Or apple picking.
• 24:57
  Speaker 7: If a guy reaches out to us, he's making it up.
• 25:00
  Speaker 7: I don't think so.
• 25:01
  Speaker 6: I think there are guys out there that actually probably
• 25:02
  Speaker 6: do like doing this.
• 25:03
  Speaker 11: No, the Talkback is an honest space.
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 25:05
  Speaker 11: Be honest.
• 25:05
  Speaker 23: You are never, ever, ever, ever going to meet a
• 25:09
  Speaker 23: man that loves to go pumpkin picking. Or apple picking,
• 25:12
  Speaker 23: for that matter. I tortured my husband for several years.
• 25:17
  Speaker 23: Take him to Neshoba Valley Vineyards. You can apple pick.
• 25:20
  Speaker 23: You can drink.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: Have fun.
• 25:22
  Speaker 11: That's a hot tip.
• 25:23
  Speaker 6: Yeah, that is good.
• 25:24
  Speaker 7: Yeah, go to the vineyards.
• 25:26
  Speaker 6: Have some fun.
• 25:27
  Speaker 7: Sip some wine.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: Spice it up a little bit yeah that's really fun actually.
• 25:32
  Speaker 10: I haven't been apple picking in a long time i
• 25:34
  Speaker 10: feel like that's something that we did kind of early
• 25:36
  Speaker 10: on and then we kind of got away from it and.
• 25:38
  Speaker 7: Do you eat the apples.
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: Absolutely well okay that's the thing don't buy too many
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: they've got different size bags trust me i've made the
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: mistake buy the smallest bag because again you're going to
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: be bringing them into the office because you just can't
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: eat that many apples.
• 25:52
  Speaker 8: I'm trying to imagine, okay, today is my wedding anniversary.
• 25:55
  Speaker 8: I'm trying to imagine if I go home and say,
• 25:58
  Speaker 8: happy anniversary, honey. I've got a great idea. Let's go
• 26:01
  Speaker 8: pumpkin picking. She would look at me like, what?
• 26:06
  Speaker 10: But she probably has been pumpkin.
• 26:08
  Speaker 7: She probably has picked pumpkins before. You've met my wife.
• 26:12
  Speaker 7: Does she seem like a pumpkin picker to you?
• 26:13
  Speaker 11: Well, not so much, actually.
• 26:15
  Speaker 8: No.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: But part of me feels like it's a little bit
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: less about the activity and more about the fact that
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: he was like, well, no, I don't want to do
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: that thing.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: I'm busy. And then when she's like, okay, can we
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: go on another day?
• 26:26
  Speaker 7: And he's like, oh, fine.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: But it has to be for a little bit. Like,
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: it's just like, okay, you're just annoying.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 26:31
  Speaker 19: Yeah.
• 26:31
  Speaker 7: You want to be accommodating to some degree.
• 26:34
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: You really don't want the guy you're with to be
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: annoyed by any of the suggestions that you're giving him.
• 26:39
  Speaker 7: Right.
• 26:40
  Speaker 13: Right. Exactly.
• 26:42
  Speaker 7: You don't have to have the same interest, but at
• 26:44
  Speaker 7: least make an effort.
• 26:45
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 26:45
  Speaker 7: Just be open.
• 26:46
  Speaker 13: Yeah.
• 26:47
  Speaker 19: This isn't about pumpkin picking. This is about doing something
• 26:51
  Speaker 19: with someone that you love. It doesn't matter what she
• 26:54
  Speaker 19: wants to do. Just do it. Have a good time.
• 26:57
  Speaker 19: Make the most of it. Try something new. And they've
• 27:00
  Speaker 19: only been dating since June. And if he doesn't want
• 27:02
  Speaker 19: to do that with her now, then that doesn't speak
• 27:06
  Speaker 19: well to the future for her. I would say she
• 27:09
  Speaker 19: needs to find her person that's excited to do anything
• 27:12
  Speaker 19: she wants to do.
• 27:14
  Speaker 6: Yeah, very true. I agree with that.
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: I mean, I dated an ex, so I didn't feel
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: like we had a lot in common, so I learned
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: how to golf for him, and he didn't really appreciate that.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: I learned how to do an entire new sport.
• 27:24
  Speaker 17: Really?
• 27:25
  Speaker 20: Yeah.
• 27:25
  Speaker 7: And you still golf? Well, not as much, but yeah.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: I mean, I still know how to do it, and
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: I'll do it sometimes for fun. But I'm like, I
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: feel like having interest is important, but also appreciating the
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: things that you don't have in common is helpful, too.
• 27:40
  Speaker 16: Well, my.
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: Boyfriend is taking up golf because my family all golf.
• 27:44
  Speaker 11: Because of young Riley and you?
• 27:46
  Speaker 6: Oh, yeah.
• 27:47
  Speaker 7: They went out and got golf clubs and everything.
• 27:48
  Speaker 6: It's like a nice thing. Like, that's what you want.
• 27:51
  Speaker 11: Oh, so he wasn't a golfer?
• 27:53
  Speaker 6: No, he wasn't.
• 27:53
  Speaker 11: Oh, wow.
• 27:55
  Speaker 7: Never golfed in his life. Yeah, it's good.
• 27:56
  Speaker 19: Wow.
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: It's like you have to, like, be open, like, in
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: relationships to try new things.
• 28:01
  Speaker 11: All right. Well, we're going to get Riley on this.
• 28:03
  Speaker 11: Give him some tips. And now, golf tips with Riley Donovan.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: If you're having trouble with putting, always remember, don't sway
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: back and sway through.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: This will cause the ball to go left. Go straight
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: back and straight through.
• 28:20
  Speaker 7: He's right.
• 28:20
  Speaker 13: Right?
• 28:21
  Speaker 7: It's perfect. Has your boyfriend heard any of Riley's tips?
• 28:24
  Speaker 7: Maybe you should put a collection together and bring them home.
• 28:26
  Speaker 6: I know, we should.
• 28:26
  Speaker 7: That would be great.
• 28:27
  Speaker 11: I have plenty of them here, but let's go to
• 28:29
  Speaker 11: Robbie in Stoneham on line one.
• 28:31
  Speaker 7: Hey, Robbie, good morning. What's the deal?
• 28:35
  Speaker 15: So the question with can two people date that they
• 28:39
  Speaker 15: have different interests, they can absolutely date as long as
• 28:42
  Speaker 15: it compromises in the relationship.
• 28:45
  Speaker 7: Have you ever gone pumpkin picking, Rob?
• 28:49
  Speaker 15: I have not, but I'm going to this weekend.
• 28:54
  Speaker 7: You're actually going pumpkin picking? Oh, this is cool.
• 28:57
  Speaker 11: Oh, for the first time?
• 28:58
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 29:01
  Speaker 13: All right.
• 29:02
  Speaker 10: All right, so it's not something you're interested in, but
• 29:03
  Speaker 10: you're going to go check it out because she wants to.
• 29:05
  Speaker 11: Is that correct?
• 29:08
  Speaker 15: Yeah, because she knows things I want to do, so
• 29:10
  Speaker 15: I'm going to do something she wants to do. That's
• 29:13
  Speaker 15: all it's got to be. It's just popularized.
• 29:15
  Speaker 7: Sounds like she's found the person. You are the one, Rob.
• 29:18
  Speaker 7: Robby's perfect for Jenna. He is.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: Here it is, the number one moment.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: So just a couple minutes ago, we were talking about
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: this DM that we got from a listener saying that
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: she's always wanted to go on.
• 29:30
  Speaker 7: A date to a pumpkin patch.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: But the guy that she's dating right now is kind
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: of making a big deal about not wanting to go.
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: So when you're dating somebody, do you think it's important.
• 29:39
  Speaker 7: To have a lot of.
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: things in common with them? And what's the vibe on
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: fall dates? We asked you guys to weigh in.
• 29:45
  Speaker 7: So let's go to the phones.
• 29:46
  Speaker 8: Can you date somebody? who has different interests than yours. Alicia,
• 29:51
  Speaker 8: you got a DM. You want to say something?
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Our listener, Jenna, she's 27. She says that every
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: time she's dated a guy since she was 18, she's
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: always wanted to go pumpkin picking. Her latest guy that
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: she's been dating since June said... Hey, she wants to
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: go pumping pumpkin picking on Sunday and he.
• 30:08
  Speaker 6: Makes a big sign, goes, oh, but I want to
• 30:10
  Speaker 6: watch football. And then she says, well, let's go on Saturday.
• 30:13
  Speaker 6: And the same thing.
• 30:14
  Speaker 7: OK, fine.
• 30:15
  Speaker 6: But not for the entire day.
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: So she's like, why is it so painful for guys
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: to go pumpkin picking? And do you think I should
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: break up with my boyfriend because of it?
• 30:23
  Speaker 8: And it's not just about pumpkin picking. It's just interests
• 30:26
  Speaker 8: in general. If they're different, can you date? You had
• 30:29
  Speaker 8: the same experience about pumpkin dating and everything else.
• 30:31
  Speaker 10: Listen, I didn't write that DM, but I said the
• 30:34
  Speaker 10: exact same thing. It was like, I don't want to
• 30:36
  Speaker 10: go Sunday because of football. She said, okay, Saturday. I said,
• 30:38
  Speaker 10: but not for the whole day. I got stuff to
• 30:40
  Speaker 10: do in the morning, a couple of hours at Topfield,
• 30:42
  Speaker 10: and then we're done.
• 30:42
  Speaker 7: Let's go to Mark in Boston. Mark, whatever you had
• 30:45
  Speaker 7: to add to the conversation. Hey there.
• 30:50
  Speaker 20: So I actually missed the first part of the DM
• 30:53
  Speaker 20: that she always wanted.
• 30:54
  Speaker 17: To go pumpkin picking.
• 30:55
  Speaker 20: It's like, oh, my God, just put in the effort, dude.
• 31:00
  Speaker 20: You know, I've never been pumpkin picking myself.
• 31:03
  Speaker 13: I would love to go.
• 31:04
  Speaker 20: I don't really know how long it would take because
• 31:06
  Speaker 20: you only need one pumpkin for a pie and maybe,
• 31:08
  Speaker 20: you know, two or three more for jack-o'-lanterns or to
• 31:11
  Speaker 20: decorate for Halloween, unless you have kids.
• 31:15
  Speaker 13: She clearly doesn't.
• 31:17
  Speaker 20: But I've definitely gone apple picking.
• 31:19
  Speaker 17: I've gone blueberry picking.
• 31:21
  Speaker 13: I love doing that.
• 31:21
  Speaker 15: I love making a nice fall apple pie, a nice
• 31:23
  Speaker 15: fall blueberry pie.
• 31:24
  Speaker 17: Oh, so good.
• 31:26
  Speaker 8: Oh, Mark, you could be the one. You're making pies.
• 31:30
  Speaker 8: You're doing apple picking.
• 31:31
  Speaker 7: Wow. Are you married?
• 31:33
  Speaker 13: I am the one.
• 31:34
  Speaker 7: I'm taken.
• 31:35
  Speaker 19: Yes.
• 31:35
  Speaker 7: I've been married since 2017.
• 31:38
  Speaker 11: Oh, he's off the mark. But yeah, you're right, Mark.
• 31:40
  Speaker 11: Pumpkin picking is usually quick.
• 31:41
  Speaker 10: It's the apple picking or blueberry picking that takes all
• 31:43
  Speaker 10: day because you've got to walk around.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:45
  Speaker 8: Well, how many pumpkins can you pick? Who's carrying these pumpkins?
• 31:49
  Speaker 6: That's what I say.
• 31:50
  Speaker 7: It's just a few.
• 31:51
  Speaker 11: Well, that's the guy's job is to just carry the pumpkin.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Who is complaining about going pumpkin picking? Pumpkin picking takes
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: like five minutes.
• 31:59
  Speaker 6: You go and you pick one.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: The guy's main job is to just carry.
• 32:04
  Speaker 19: It to the car.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: Apple picking is more of a commitment, and that takes
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: a couple hours. But pumpkin picking, you're in and out
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: in 15 minutes.
• 32:11
  Speaker 11: Yeah, you're the muscle.
• 32:12
  Speaker 8: This is a first for me. I mean, I usually
• 32:14
  Speaker 8: just go to Wilson Farm and buy a pumpkin.
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: Right, which you absolutely can do. But I think we're
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: talking more of the experience of going to the farm.
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: So you go to the pumpkin patch and you do
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: apple picking at the same time.
• 32:25
  Speaker 11: Yes, it's a whole experience. That's what it is. Go
• 32:28
  Speaker 11: to Meredith in Danvers.
• 32:29
  Speaker 7: Good morning, Meredith in Danvers. What do you think?
• 32:34
  Speaker 21: Oh, good morning. Okay, well, first and foremost, I'm not
• 32:36
  Speaker 21: a guy, so I can't really give you that perspective.
• 32:39
  Speaker 21: But as a woman who's been with her husband for
• 32:41
  Speaker 21: 26 years, I can say that having different interests is
• 32:45
  Speaker 21: what has kept our relationship actually interesting. Because how boring
• 32:50
  Speaker 21: if you're getting together with somebody who has all the
• 32:53
  Speaker 21: same exact interests as you and how rare is that
• 32:56
  Speaker 21: in the first place anyway? I think ultimately that's one point.
• 32:59
  Speaker 21: The second point is that being in a relationship, depending
• 33:02
  Speaker 21: on what you want out of that relationship, if she
• 33:05
  Speaker 21: wants like a long-term relationship with somebody and he just
• 33:07
  Speaker 21: wants somebody to hang out with on weekends or just
• 33:10
  Speaker 21: to have a girlfriend, that's a different story. But if
• 33:12
  Speaker 21: you're really committed to one another, then you just want
• 33:15
  Speaker 21: to see each other happy. Like, you just want to
• 33:17
  Speaker 21: see each other happy and healthy and thriving. So, yeah,
• 33:21
  Speaker 21: don't go pumpkin picking on a Sunday when there's going
• 33:24
  Speaker 21: to be a football game that they want to watch.
• 33:26
  Speaker 21: And at the same time, like, yeah, go pumpkin picking.
• 33:28
  Speaker 21: My husband's gone pumpkin picking and apple picking. Granted, we
• 33:31
  Speaker 21: do have children, but we did those kind of activities
• 33:33
  Speaker 21: before we had them.
• 33:35
  Speaker 14: Okay, Meredith.
• 33:35
  Speaker 21: That's honestly the secret.
• 33:36
  Speaker 7: Meredith, quick question.
• 33:38
  Speaker 8: Is your husband tracking you or something?
• 33:40
  Speaker 7: What is that weird sound in the background?
• 33:43
  Speaker 21: No, I'm getting– I work. I'm getting a ton of
• 33:47
  Speaker 21: text messages as I sit here, and I'm just ignoring them.
• 33:49
  Speaker 7: Another one just came in. There it is.
• 33:51
  Speaker 11: Wow, Meredith.
• 33:52
  Speaker 7: You're pretty busy. Wow, she's popular.
• 33:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 33:55
  Speaker 7: All right. But I liked her point, though. Yeah. By
• 33:57
  Speaker 7: the way, the first part of what she said, I
• 33:59
  Speaker 7: should save that and send it to my wife. Yeah,
• 34:01
  Speaker 7: it's good to have other interests. Don't go on Sunday.
• 34:03
  Speaker 21: Yeah.
• 34:03
  Speaker 7: It's football.
• 34:04
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 34:04
  Speaker 11: Why would you?
• 34:05
  Speaker 7: You don't have to go on Sunday. Go some other time. Oh, yeah.
• 34:09
  Speaker 11: And remember, I did ask the question.
• 34:11
  Speaker 7: Do you like apples?
• 34:12
  Speaker 11: Especially for guys.
• 34:13
  Speaker 13: I'm a guy, and I love apple picking strictly for
• 34:16
  Speaker 13: the apples because there's nothing like a fresh apple off
• 34:20
  Speaker 13: the tree.
• 34:21
  Speaker 15: They're just so crisp.
• 34:23
  Speaker 13: But as soon as I get my apples, I'm out
• 34:25
  Speaker 13: of there.
• 34:26
  Speaker 7: I sometimes even just.
• 34:27
  Speaker 17: Go by the back, but they're not as crisp.
• 34:30
  Speaker 7: Oh, I know there's a certain apple I like. What
• 34:33
  Speaker 7: kind of apple is it, Lee?
• 34:34
  Speaker 11: McIntosh.
• 34:35
  Speaker 6: You like a Honeycrisp.
• 34:36
  Speaker 7: Honeycrisp.
• 34:37
  Speaker 11: Honeycrisp. Oh, those are very nice.
• 34:39
  Speaker 21: Yes.
• 34:39
  Speaker 11: Any good tips on where to go there, Bill?
• 34:41
  Speaker 7: This week on Dining Playbook, we are apple picking.
• 34:44
  Speaker 8: First, we're going to be at Cider Hill Farm in Amesbury.
• 34:47
  Speaker 7: We'll enjoy the change of the season.
• 34:49
  Speaker 11: Yes, thank you.
• 34:50
  Speaker 7: I love Cider Hill fun.
• 34:51
  Speaker 8: Enjoying the change of the season.
• 34:54
  Speaker 11: Yeah, Cider Hill is amazing.
• 34:56
  Speaker 8: Foliage.
• 34:56
  Speaker 7: Yeah, no, that's a good spot. I've been there. It's
• 34:58
  Speaker 7: a really good spot. Great cider donuts. Oh, yeah.
• 35:01
  Speaker 16: Fantastic.
• 35:01
  Speaker 7: Really good there. Hey, morning crew.
• 35:04
  Speaker 13: I must say I'm a guy, and I love to
• 35:07
  Speaker 13: go pumpkin picking and spend the whole day there.
• 35:11
  Speaker 7: But then again, I'm gay, so maybe that doesn't count.
• 35:14
  Speaker 11: Love you guys. Hey, you know what? You like it?
• 35:20
  Speaker 7: Exactly. Let's go to John in Ogunquit. I love Ogunquit.
• 35:25
  Speaker 7: Beautiful Ogunquit, Maine.
• 35:27
  Speaker 11: John, hello.
• 35:30
  Speaker 12: Morning.
• 35:31
  Speaker 7: Hey, John, is the foliage sparking up there already?
• 35:36
  Speaker 17: Yes, it is. Further north to go, much more so.
• 35:40
  Speaker 7: All right. So, John, what's your feeling on this?
• 35:42
  Speaker 17: I just want.
• 35:45
  Speaker 17: My wife and I definitely still go pumpkin picking. We
• 35:50
  Speaker 17: both work during the week, so we plan our activities
• 35:52
  Speaker 17: for the weekends. We can spend some time together. Started
• 35:55
  Speaker 17: far before we had kids. Continued when we had kids,
• 35:59
  Speaker 17: and now that the kids are out of the house,
• 36:01
  Speaker 17: we still do it.
• 36:02
  Speaker 7: Well, you guys are Mainers, though.
• 36:04
  Speaker 8: That's a part of the lifestyle up there in North Country, right?
• 36:07
  Speaker 12: No.
• 36:08
  Speaker 17: Short-time Mainers. Previously PA-ers.
• 36:12
  Speaker 6: Oh, you were in Pennsylvania.
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: Oh, no.
• 36:15
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 36:15
  Speaker 7: Is there a lot of apple picking going on?
• 36:17
  Speaker 6: There is, yeah.
• 36:18
  Speaker 7: All right.
• 36:19
  Speaker 11: Well, good.
• 36:20
  Speaker 7: John, lucky you. You're in Agunquit. It is beautiful.
• 36:23
  Speaker 11: Oh, I love Agunquit. Yeah, I absolutely love it there. Beautiful.
• 36:26
  Speaker 7: Such a charming town.
• 36:27
  Speaker 11: Beautiful town.
• 36:28
  Speaker 15: Yeah, break up with him.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: I would.
• 36:30
  Speaker 6: What do you mean?
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: You're going, ugh.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: It's pumpkin picking.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: Put your big boy pants on and go pumpkin picking
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: because the girl you like wants to go pumpkin picking.
• 36:41
  Speaker 11: I never thought a DM would carry so many opinions.
• 36:44
  Speaker 7: Well, October 1st.
• 36:45
  Speaker 10: I mean, I'm looking at about a thousand DM talkbacks
• 36:49
  Speaker 10: from people.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 36:50
  Speaker 11: All different ones. All different ones.
• 36:52
  Speaker 7: Newsflash. No adult wants to go apple picking.
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: Well, those are the top five moments of the week
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: with Billy and Lisa. But we have tons of amazing
• 37:01
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• 37:03
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• 37:06
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• 37:09
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• 37:12
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• 37:14
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