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Transform Your life as an Entreupeneur and STOP IMPOSTER SYNDROME · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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  So thank you for coming along and whereabouts are you?
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  I'm in UK and thank you for having me here.
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  I'm so excited. And by the way, I think you've
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  got a really sexy accent. Oh, thank you.
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  Yeah, yeah, I really do. So, you know, Natalia, you know,
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  you've got a very, very interesting background because,
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  you know, you were a nurse for 35 years and you were always a
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  very optimistic person and quite upbeat.
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  But your life took on a completely different journey.
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  And I guess that's why we're kind of looking at it from
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  crisis to empowerment, right? Yes.
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  And it's it's it's just interesting, you know, like
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  every single person that I interview on my show, I always
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  recognize that there's something that happens in a person's life.
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  It's it's like a moment where optimism gets taken over by all
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  these things that go through one's mind and yet you standing
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  in your power today as a person who leads other entrepreneurs to
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  become and live in their greatest power, you understand
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  very much about what it's like to be totally crippled by self
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  doubt. So yeah, so tell me, like you
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  you talked backstage with me about having images in your
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  mind, right, that kept you awake at night and even put you into
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  so much fear that you were having panic.
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  What do you think was playing in your mind?
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  Do you think it was around like Anthony Robbins always says?
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  It's usually around one of a few things #1A loss of love, #2A
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  loss of significance or importance, and #3 a loss of
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  certainty Confidence. Which one do you think you were
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  really kind of nursing and rehearsing in your mind when you
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  were going through so much fear? Lost of confidence, lost of
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  belief in yourself and sadly was happening to me and it was like
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  my mind got reprogramming and this all happened because I have
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  been told that I'm useless. Literally.
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  Yeah. And see, this is, this is what
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  happens, right? People, People start to tell
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  themselves something. They start to tell themselves
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  something. And you know, obviously you know
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  better now. Like you've done all the work.
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  You know you're there for the people that are, you know,
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  laying in bed at night, panicking about the future.
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  You know, why do you think human beings need to feel certain and
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  confident about their future? Like, you mentioned to me that
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  you were like, what if, what if this happens?
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  What if that happens? You know, Why do you think that
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  was going on? I think it's going on because we
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  want to be loved, we want to be appreciated, and we want to be
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  recognizing for our ability, for our best of our self what we do.
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  We need to be recognized our oh, good.
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  I understand, I understand. You know, I I totally get it.
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  We as human beings, we need recognition.
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  We need to, we need to feel recognized.
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  We need to feel important, right and and we need to feel all of
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  those things. Why do you feel that you?
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  What do you think was at the forefront of your mind that was
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  putting you into, you know, this position?
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  What were the what ifs that were going through your brain?
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  It was like, you know, when I lose the confidence I will start
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  to worried. It's not just confidence I lost.
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  I start to worried if I if I'm going to lose the money, the
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  finances was great that that one worried, then I have feeling I
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  let down. Everyone around me, people
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  believe in me and I did not perform.
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  Even in reality I was doing great job and everyone around me
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  like apprised me. But the person who was close to
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  me keep telling me that I'm useless, I'm losing the money.
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  I will never make any good of this project and in my mind it
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  will start to it's went so deep inside my heart and it's affect
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  my mindset and I start to picture it all all negative self
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  talk. I was like talking to myself
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  negative and I was always thinking what if is this really
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  happened what shall I do? How have you found the solution
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  for this? And somewhere deep inside me I
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  know I will find the solution and on that time there is it was
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  nothing too worried about. I know this now, but on that
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  time, because of that negativity going towards me, I would say
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  even negative energy, negative talking and some of us affecting
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  by that very deeply. Yeah, I mean, they won this.
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  I mean, you listen to podcast after podcast and and you are a
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  classic example of living proof that, you know, if you're an
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  entrepreneur out there, if you're a person that knows that
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  you are smart, you know you are clever, and all of a sudden you
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  move into this fear around money because it sounds like it was
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  around money for you and yet you were doing great.
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  In fact, you were doing so great that you actually invested and
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  you ended up making a profit, you know, a clean profit of
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  $40,000 in your pocket, you know, in six short months.
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  But then once you'd actually made that profit, you suddenly
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  were brought down by an ex partner who was like,
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  pessimistic. So how does a person like even
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  this is the the absolute, the way it works, right.
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  So how does a person actually go from being just, you know, like
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  winning Lotto, making $40,000, you know, having that to
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  suddenly just crashing and having panic attacks?
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  And this is to me, this is so typical, isn't it, of you know,
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  they say to you, be careful of who you're rubbing shoulders
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  with, be careful of whom you are listening to, because how much
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  of it was in your mind, Natalia. It was significant amount of of
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  this in my mind because you know you you have your like property
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  investors, friends there somewhere but day-to-day you
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  talk to them but you cannot talk to them all the time.
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  But day-to-day you have you living in negativity environment
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  where you're not appreciated and then the more you're like
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  rubbing shoulders with that person then the more you
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  affected by that energy and it's it's true you need to if you're
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  if the relationship, your friends, family, no family
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  probably you cannot change because it's your family.
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  But someone like your partner giving you that that negativity
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  giving put it you down, you know without appreciating, without
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  telling you apprising you a bit. I'm not telling it should be
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  like 24/7 but at least recognize your achievement and be happy
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  for you if that person not giving you that.
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  So it's it's affect, it's affect you and you you start to think
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  probably I am not that good enough probably what I done.
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  It's nothing. It's nothing.
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  It's like day-to-day stuff. It's like going to the shop and
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  do the shopping but it's I'm, I'm not that good as I thought I
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  am. And then these all like it's
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  like a snowball. It started from little things
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  and then it's going more and more and more and if we are not
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  addressing this problem, this is where it's actually affected you
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  dramatically and you're you're going from just panic attack.
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  You can come to depression if you're not addressing these
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  things and your life, it's become very unhappy place and we
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  all deserve to be happy. Absolutely.
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  Look, I I can recall, you know, having a whole lot of negative
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  self talk that I'd accumulated, accumulated over the years that
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  I I was, you know, constantly telling myself and I became very
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  driven as a result. It actually drove me to become a
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  workaholic. And I know for you, you crashed
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  and you really you you mentioned to me before that even after
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  making that money, like you were doing well.
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  And you were always, you know, obviously a very well to do
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  lady. And you know, you'd always come
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  in from a a a great career being a nurse for over 35 years now,
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  being an entrepreneur and obviously a very empowered one
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  at that, who knows these special techniques to help other people
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  with. But you talk about, I guess, a
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  similar situation that I could really relate to and that was
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  that you became so down that you actually didn't even want to
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  talk to people anymore. It was like you would go into a
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  panic attack. And, yeah, and and and then it's
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  like, I wonder, is this really what very smart, clever human
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  beings go through? And look, Natalia, I can tell
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  you right now, mine became so bad, I couldn't even talk.
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  I remember. I mean, the gift of the gab is,
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  is, is my thing, right? I've always been a talker since
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  I knew how to talk. And I remember I was real
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  estate. I was in real estate and I went
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  to a a home open, and I started to talk to a customer as they
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  walked in the door. But I can remember feeling dread
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  and I can remember feeling that horrible panic feeling.
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  And then when I did try to talk, it was like my words were all
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  jumbled and I became nervous. And then later on I discovered I
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  had suffered actually a nervous breakdown.
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  And you know, I always say that's the breakthrough, the
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  break through, but for you it was a little bit different.
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  So one sunny day and like me, you like sunshine.
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  I love you. Yeah, me too.
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  That's why I spend a lot of time in Bali in winter here and I'll
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  be coming to Europe hopefully too.
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  By the way, this year I'm I'm hoping to visit Europe in your
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  in your summer months, so. Yes, that would be great.
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  Yes, we must connect. So one sunny day and you love
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  the sunshine, but it wasn't so sunny for you inside because you
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  were crying and you were sitting alone with tears streaming down
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  your face. And you knew that you'd been
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  through this relentless struggle, this crisis that had
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  totally shaken you to your core. And once an optimistic person
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  like I totally relate to that, like really optimistic like you
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  are now today positive with the a knack of resolving issues.
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  You found yourself in the clutches and realized of so much
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  self doubt and in your words you talk about it as all the what
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  ifs. I probably should put a trigger
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  warning on this, right? Because this may trigger people,
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  but the good thing is that it has a very good ending, like
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  most superhero movies do. So what happened?
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  Tell us about that moment, that moment where there was tears,
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  but then there was clarity and you decided enough is enough.
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  What happened inside you? You know it was telling the
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  tears cleaning your soul and it's probably this would happen.
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  I don't know. I was crying my eyes out and
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  then suddenly I have a thought Enough.
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  It's enough by sitting crying here it's it will not help me in
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  any way. What what I need I need to help.
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  I need to get out and start to looking for help and and I truly
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  believe getting help, asking for help.
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  It's not signs of weakness, it's a signs of your power.
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  It's a signs of breakthrough. You you know you enough to be
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  victim and nobody will come and help you just just out of blue.
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  You need to look for this and this is when I start my personal
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  development journey. This is where I went out and
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  look for a coach, look for a mentor to help me to, to Get Me
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  Out of here. Stop feeling victim because I'm
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  very active person. I'm very happy person all the
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  time and suddenly something happened to me and on that time
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  I don't have that knowledge. I could not, I could not
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  understand what's going on with me, why suddenly I change.
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  But I think the recognition of this condition, of this
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  situation, of your feelings, of your emotions, it's it's the
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  first step forward. Yeah, absolutely.
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  And I love what you just said about asking for help is not a
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  sign of weakness. It's actually a sign of
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  strength. Because I think that, you know,
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  pride comes before a fall and if people are too proud to ask for
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  help or their they're just bottling it up inside, it starts
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  to act as triggers. And the good news is that we're
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  going to talk about how to switch off those triggers.
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  So that's the good news, guys. It's not all doom and gloom
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  around here today because we're going to get really down into it
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  about some of the greatest modalities that truly, truly
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  have helped Natalia become rise and become a coach of coaches.
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  A coach of entrepreneurs, a. A leading specialist in in
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  empowerment and understanding that you don't have to be stuck
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  in the imposter syndrome trap and allowing these crippling,
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  you know, uncertain thoughts to take away from your life because
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  life is so short. So under the guidance of this
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  mentor, and I have to say congratulations because your
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  story is so similar to mine, and why does that not surprise me?
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  You, you really came up and out and you discovered a whole world
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  of neuro linguistic programming hypnosis and you know a lot of
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  therapeutic healing modalities that just liberated you, that
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  gave you a new found knowledge, that gave you the, I guess the
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  freedom to just start living a new life.
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  Tell me about do you have a moment where you were, may have
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  been either in a class or a session where you were going
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  through a technique And I know you love the anchoring, the
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  anchoring in, but can you remember what that was like when
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  you first experienced that? Oh, I remember that very well.
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  I remember. And it was, it was amazing.
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  You know, I'm very, very analytic person.
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  My mind is is built to analyse and it took me time to learn to
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  trust, to trust my mentor, to trust the process and just do
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  not ask how, just just concentrate that it's work, just
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  believe and trust. So that was very exciting moment
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  and I I was like closing my eyes and my mentor was talking to me,
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  what I supposed to do, how I imagine my happy place.
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  And again, I was like I was scaring.
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  My happy place. When?
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  When was that? When was that my happy place?
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  Where is it? It took me a while actually to
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  take me there, to visualize myself where I'm happy when I'm
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  truly happy. And then during this session
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  when the anchoring my happy place the the life change
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  straight away you know and it's like in the beginning of the I
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  will check I will check and every time I use my anchor it's
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  I start to look at the situation from different different
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  perspective and it's because I'm more calm inside myself and this
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  is what I want to another people to experience.
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  You don't need to make decision or on based on your emotion you
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  need to look at the situation from the different perspective
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  and then make your decision. So in it's give me more calm in
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  my life it's give me more clarity and it's my favorite
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  one. It's well, I like I love a lot
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  of modalities. It is just so powerful.
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  Yes, it's so powerful and it's. Yeah.
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  And I'm just going to, I'm just going to trust my subconscious
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  mind right here and now. But as you're talking about that
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  beautiful experience, and I get it, you know, you've got,
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  although I'm not so much like you would have become from a
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  world of science and analysis, being a nurse and medicine, that
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  kind of element. So I understand that level of
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  intelligence that, you know, you obviously were in.
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  And I guess that that will help people out there that are in
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  that same kind of scientific mindset where facts and
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  everything else and facts and figures are the thing to
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  actually understand that there's something inside of all of us
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  that is even above science and it's spirit.
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  And I feel you were spirit LED. I I feel that that moment you
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  had on that sunny day, those tears that you had that cleaned
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  your soul and that moment where you then made a decision, went
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  forward and stepped into your power and really anchored
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  yourself into your happy place. I so, so, so get it.
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  See when I did NLP my marriage had broke broken down and I had
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  been with my my original husband since we were kids.
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  So we were like brother and sister, in fact Siamese twins.
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  So it it obviously when our marriage fell apart nobody knew.
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  So there was so many people that was so shocked and I actually
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  lost a lot out of that, but I I guess I could have gone down
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  that path. But at the time that's when I
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  discovered NLP and I remember going in like totally open
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  minded. I mean we even have a joke
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  around it because I'd met Ian and he I said to him I don't, I
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  don't really have the money to put forward at the moment.
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  I'm better off to you know, just sort of sit on it.
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  He said it's OK, Job's right. I've got this and I said, you
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  know, I said I'll pay him back. So I remember I I went out with
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  him one night and was sitting at A at A at A at a bar and I
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  pulled out a $50 note and he just got this kind of smirk on
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  his face. And because every course I'd
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  ever done was $50.00. So I I handed him $50 and lo and
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  behold, then two months Fast forward.
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  I go into this place and I think this is pretty sophisticated and
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  what I didn't realize is every technique changed you.
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  It changed something in your life.
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  And I I made a statement that day.
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  This is the part that I wanted to share here.
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  Not really the the story about the $50.00 but I had said that
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  I'm going to have the most dignified divorce and I refuse
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  to drag my children through the mud in it like a lot of people
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  do when they get people become angry and emotional and and you
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  know, to be honest, I always loved my my original partner and
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  even to this day I still feel that strong love for him.
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  But the fact is that it wasn't right.
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  It was it was really terminal and we both knew when it
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  finished but unfortunately no one else did.
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  So I made that statement. I'm going to have the most
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  dignified divorce and it's going to be the most perfect,
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  imperfect situation. And around about 10 years later,
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  I'm not even joking because this is way back in 2006.
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  I'm in the shopping center. I still remember.
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  I'm in Kohl's and I'm walking around with my trolley.
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  My teacher rings up and says, Terry, Terry, it's it's Daryl.
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  I'm like, oh, wow, OK You know, it's like great to hear from
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  him, but I'm in Kohl's. He goes, I need you to tell me
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  that statement you made. You know, that statement you
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  made when when you first broke up.
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  And I'm like, this is 10 years ago.
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  What? I'm going Daryl, I'm going to
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  have to call you back, you know, trolley full of stuff.
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  And I had time to collect myself.
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  Daryl had five children and and was married.
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  And when I called him back I said, OK, I told him, this is
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  what I said, Daryl. But it took me a while to kind
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  of remember I said, why do you need that so much?
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  You rang me to find that out and I found out he was going through
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  that marital break up with his wife and five children.
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  And it's never easy, is it? It's never ever easy.
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  So tell me, what was your favorite technique?
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  It's anchoring. Anchoring.
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  It's favorite is the easy one. And it's favorite one and
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  favorite, I don't know. I love I'll have majority of
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  them. I'll I'll I love to see how
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  people life changed when I teach them what to do and how they
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  using these tools. The life is change.
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  It's for example, I love another one.
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  It's drop through when you're dropping through your emotion
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  and you're landing in the happy place and that happy place is
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  staying with you as well. It's easy.
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  It's all related to the happiness to the best result.
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  It's it's like take it off the blockage, take it over the
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  weight from our shoulders we carrying unnecessarily in our
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  life. This probably, too, is the most
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  my favorite one. I love that.
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  Would I can I be really cheeky with you and actually put you on
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  the spot? Because I mean I'm, I know our
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  listeners, when it hits the podcast we'll be absolutely
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  delighted. But would you like to just teach
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  us like 1 Little one, like whether it's a drop through or
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  an anchor and just really bring that to the audience?
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  OK it's probably Anchor will be easier to do that and everyone
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  who is listening now I want you to get comfortable sit down
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  somewhere close your eyes and just decided we need to use some
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  part of our body what is easy to reach easy to access.
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  It's usually it's very easy to squeeze your fist on the time
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  when I will tell you to do that and so you decide you may you
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  may decided to touch your collarbone or any your ear or
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  whatever you It's easy for you. But in my way it's then in my
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  opinion to squeeze your feast is the easy way.
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  So I want you just relax, close your eyes and just listen to me.
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  We are going on the beautiful beautiful journey.
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  You're going to visit your happy place.
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  Just bring to your mind the place and time when you were
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  happy. And when you reach that place,
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  just think about your feeling on that time.
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  Listen to the noises around you. See in your mind what it was,
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  how beautiful it was. I don't know where is it, but
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  it's you. Just be there.
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  Be in that moment. Enjoy that moment, that happy
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  moment in your life. And now I want to, I want you to
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  dial in to multiply that feeling.
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  Be there, be present, enjoy, enjoy what you see.
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  It's remember your feeling. It just make it more stronger.
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  And I want you to dial in a bit more and make it even more
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  stronger. And if it's what you're feeling
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  now, on the scale from 1:00 to 10:00, close to 10, probably
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  like 9-10, just knock your head. And if you reach that point, I
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  want you to actually touch the place you decided it will be.
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  Your ankle. Either your ear, your way or
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  your squeeze, your fist and hold it.
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  Now imagine you're still there and you still feel that
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  happiness. I want you to squeeze your fist
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  again, really tight. Really.
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  Meaning it's there, you know? This is where it's your happy
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  place now. OK, Now can you open your eyes?
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  Have a deep breath and let's check your trigger.
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  Yes, check. Check your ankle.
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  If you close your eyes and squeeze your fist, is it giving
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  you happiness? Good.
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  Yes, it's good. I'm glad it's worked for you.
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  It is so good. That is amazing.
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  And you know, I had set up an anchor many years ago which is
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  on my knuckle. And when I would actually do
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  this with clients in clinic, I would just, I'd always ask them
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  permission. Is it OK if I touch you on your
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  knuckle or maybe on your shoulder and they would say yes
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  and then, you know, bringing up that space and then just
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  clicking it in, But soon as you said that and then the second
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  time around, Oh my gosh, so what's what's happening in our
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  neuro pathways, Natalia, that that we know.
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  I mean, obviously I understand about this magic, but from where
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  you're, where you're sitting, do you feel it's because we're
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  tapping into our coding system of our sensories or what's your
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  kind of, you know, view on that? In my view it's we tapping to
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  our coding, to our we all preconditioning from since we
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  are children, by family by teachers like mommy told you to
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  finish your food and plates should be clean.
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  The teacher told you do exactly what I told you to do and no no
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  thinking just follow just follow this instruction and it's went
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  on and on and on with our work with our with our culture we
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  have rules all the time. I'm not against the rules but
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  it's preconditioning cars and when we tapping to that we we
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  changing beat way of of with thinking and it's on the deep
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  neurological study it's very complicated.
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  If someone want to know more please listen to doctor Judy
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  Spencer one of my favorite one and it's there is more
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  explanation in that how our neutron is working how the our
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  thoughts are very powerful and it's scientifically proved by
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  the scans and a lot of studies. So when we thinking positive
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  when the picture the positive situation our positive thoughts
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  they created like happy Natrons in our mind and it's it's all
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  there and me as I said me being very logical when you listening
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  to that and then you understand it's actually physically
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  happening. People can change the way they
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  thinking, people can change the way they're living and some
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  people can even heal themselves by the by the positive thoughts
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  of that and we're not going deep into that but it does work as
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  and I would suggest when you going through the using NLP
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  modality do not think how just trust the process.
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  You're not the first you're not the last and it's work.
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  If you trust the process and it just on that mind it just empty
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  your mind and just go with the flow and see what's happened.
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  Nothing bad will happen to you. Only the good positive things
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  will happen and your life start to change and you will notice.
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  You will see how how better your life become when you actually
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  get rid of that blockage in you. On that self talk, it's, you
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  know, when we are, when we start, when we have our self
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  talk positive way that's that's brilliant.
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  But when our mindset, it's shifting more to scarcity.
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  This is when we start to suffering.
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  This is when we start to have imposter syndrome.
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  This is when we start to have our limited beliefs affected us
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  and then we start to have self doubt and then we start to fear
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  or failure. Then we have procrastination
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  which not helping anyone to do anything because I said OK OK I
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  will do that later. It's it's affected a lot of
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  places in our life but I would say just trust the process and
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  if you if you need to help just asking.
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  Yeah, love it. Love it.
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  Let's just take a break for a minute and then we'll come back
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  and say goodbye. Oh, wow.
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  So if you have liked what you've heard this beautiful woman talk
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  about, this lady is an empowerment coach who works
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  very, very personally up close and with the science and the
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  modalities that truly bring that beautiful balance to your mind,
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  body and soul. So get in contact with Natalia,
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  We'll make sure that the link is somewhere here, and if you've
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  got a story, maybe you want to turn it into your glory.
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  Go ahead and contact me because we would love to hear from you
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  and make sure you bless someone with this podcast.
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  Share it, subscribe, and let's wind down for the big run across
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  the finishing line with my favorite question.
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  Well, Natalia, you know, I had a interesting podcast some weeks
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  ago with a lady who told me she was so nervous coming on board
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  that she could barely eat for the few days leading up.
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  I'm thinking, Oh my gosh, wow. And I asked her this question at
• 39:38
  the end and she told me, Terry, I'm still having revelations of
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  what I would love to share. And this is what happens.
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  It kind of, like, literally awakens that genius.
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  But you know, if there was one thing, one thing right here that
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  you could share. You could share with that woman
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  that is or maybe that man who's in pain, who's suffering at the
• 40:08
  moment, that is really going through a situation where, you
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  know, maybe their life is not so bad, but they're flooded with
• 40:19
  these uncertainties. They're flooded with these panic
• 40:24
  feelings. And, you know, they, they feel
• 40:26
  like they're showing up, but they feel like they're almost
• 40:29
  suffering from imposter syndrome.
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  What would be the very thing that if we close down the show
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  now and you didn't get to say it, and then you thought, oh,
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  I'd love to share that. What is the one thing you would
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  love to impart and share to that person who is in suffering right
• 40:52
  now and who is actually so worthy of their own power and
• 40:58
  their own life? First of all, I want to remind
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  that life, it's happened for us, not to us.
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  Whatever it's happened in our life, embrace and make it and
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  get the lesson from that. Address that.
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  If someone suffering imposter syndrome right now, I would
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  suggest just have a quiet moment and think about what you
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  achieve, what you achieve in your life, why, why you
• 41:38
  comparing yourself to someone and even comparing to someone.
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  It's not too bad things. Think about someone in your
• 41:47
  professional life or your business who just started.
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  You're ahead of them because you have knowledge and experience
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  and it will be always someone ahead of you.
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  And that's fine. You just sharing with people
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  your experience. You have knowledge and you have
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  experience. Be wise and share with people.
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  Wow. That's, that's gold.
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  That's gold right there. Just let that land, guys.
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  Let that land. Yeah.
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  And and out of the wisdom of my my own mother today she said,
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  you know, you know, when we can look 10,000 years into the
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  future if we could, what's really important is this, is
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  this really that important? And I thought, wow, I teach this
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  stuff and Mum just, you know, being the gracious, beautiful
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  woman that she is, just came out with it.
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  But Natalia, I just want to thank you so, so very much.
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  We'll drop the links so people can be in touch with you.
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  And I look forward to seeing you very soon.
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  Thank you very much for having me.
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  It was a pleasure to be here.