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Nick, Close the D*** Dishwasher! · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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  Hello and welcome to the Nikki Kristen in the podcast.
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  I'm Nick. That's Kristen.
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  We are married and we have a 7 year old daughter that comes up
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  a lot. In fact, it's coming up.
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  The very first thing that we're talking about is married people
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  problems. Welcome to the MPP apparently
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  Kristen has a problem that she would like to express and this
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  is a safe space where we can talk like we're in therapy,
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  right so Oh well, we should marriage and family therapy and
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  we it's not fair because you're a.
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  Therapist. I know I am a marriage and
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  family therapist, all right. So what's your problem?
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  I am really sick of the new system that you've created for
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  our dishwasher. I don't understand where this
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  came from. I don't like it and I don't want
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  it to continue. So I've made my intentions very
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  known here. Randomly, our dishwasher is like
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  under our counter. So like there's a counter and
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  then there's a dishwasher and there's a cabinets next to it.
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  Randomly the dishwasher will just be like, popped open.
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  Not enough. Yeah, not enough to like block
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  anything, anybody coming in from the kitchen in that way.
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  But just like popped open. It's not closed and I've just
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  been going by and closing it. And you said the other day
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  you're like, no, no, that's how I know the dishes are clean or
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  not clean or some sort of system.
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  So my first thought is we've been together for 16 years.
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  At no point has this ever been a thing.
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  Why all of a sudden have you decided that it needs to be
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  cracked to signal something? First, let me approach you as a
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  therapist. Why is it that this bothers you
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  so much? What it is about?
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  What is it about the thing being open that is driving you crazy?
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  Right, because it needs to be closed.
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  Why does it need to be? Closed.
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  Well because that's the societal rule, right?
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  Like, I don't keep all of my cabinets slightly open so I can
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  make sure the bowls are still there.
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  OK. The rule amongst the unwritten
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  societal rule is that a cabinet be closed.
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  I don't keep my pantry wide open or cracked to make sure there's
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  food in there. It's the intended.
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  There's food behind this door. There's dishes behind this
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  dishwasher. There's a little button on the
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  top that says clean, and it lets you know if it's if it's done
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  cleaning. Yeah.
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  So like, when did you decide that you needed to crack
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  something to see what's inside? Well, First off, we have been
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  together for 16 years and we have not had a dishwasher for 12
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  of those. Yes, it's only recently that
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  we've acquired the dishwasher, which is.
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  Like a game changer, Yeah. Who knew that you could wash
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  dishes so quickly? It's amazing.
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  It's amazing if you haven't got a dishwasher now.
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  No fangle thing. But yeah, so basically I just
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  leave it open to let me know that the dishes need to be like
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  done, that they're not ready or they're not clean.
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  It's just a small little thing that I don't have to open it up
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  to look and see, oh, are the dishes clean or not?
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  And close it. Like when the dishes are clean,
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  it's closed and the little clean light is on.
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  So I go, OK, those are finished. I'll get those done and put away
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  before I start putting the dishes in.
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  And whereas if it's cracked open, it's like, oh, we're
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  midway and filling this thing up so we can wash it.
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  If it's closed, it's cleaning or clean.
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  If it's open, it needs to be there's room.
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  Yes, but there's signs there's no there's contextual clues
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  around the house. If you go to open the the
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  cutlery drawer and there's no forks and you look in the sink
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  and it's overflowing with things, then you know, OK, the
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  dishes are probably clean in the dishwasher.
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  They haven't come out yet. So you open up the dishwasher
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  and you go, oh, there's some clean forks because there's
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  clearly so many dishes in the sink.
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  They. Can all just be dirty?
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  Yes, at the end of the night, we put all of the things in the
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  sink into the dishwasher. So if they're not in the
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  dishwasher, you could probably assume from context clues that
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  there's a clean fork in there because we didn't have 20 forks
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  in the sink right now, yeah. But that means they're dirty.
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  So like, if it's cracked, it means they need to be washed
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  still. And for some reason someone
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  hasn't turned that on yet. And so it lets me know that oh,
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  there's still room in the dishwasher.
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  Oh my God. Or the the dishwasher needs to
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  be empty. So I just feel like this is a
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  problem that you've created. No, it's it's not a problem.
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  It's an easy system. Why is it bothering?
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  It's like a tiny little crack you can barely notice.
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  I'm going to start cracking open the I'm going to start cracking
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  open the garage door so that I could see the tires of the car
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  in there, just to make sure that the car's there.
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  I'm not checking to make sure there's something.
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  No, when I go to work and go to my and I go to my therapy
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  office, I'm going to be like, all right, I just want to, I
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  want to be able to know the minute I pull up into our
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  driveway if you're home or not. Now, I could wait until I open
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  the entire garage door and see if the car's there, but I like
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  knowing I'm going to crack it just a little bit to have that
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  little bit of extra clue. I know I will eventually open it
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  and discover it for myself, but I just need that little bit.
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  Why is it? Why are you taking this thing
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  for me? You shouldn't even be in the
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  kitchen. Like this is my space.
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  I know it's. You may have Every time I walk
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  by I have to close it, no? Don't close it 'cause then every
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  time I walk by I have to gap. It used to just be slightly
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  dipped. Do I need to put the dishes?
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  Away fully, like 1/4 open. It's like becoming a clock.
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  We're going around. We're heading to the three right
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  now. Like close the damn dishwasher.
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  No it lets me know it need dishes need to be done.
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  So like instead of me having to open it and check close.
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  You made your case, it's just dumb.
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  Well, stay out of my kitchen. Another thing that's griping
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  with Kristen today is apparently notifications from companies.
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  But it's also been bothering me, too.
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  So I get several notifications about things that I don't even
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  know I signed up for. But you you get reminders that
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  you got several reminders for this appointment that you've had
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  it's. Driving you crazy.
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  So I kind of got recruited through LinkedIn because my
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  LinkedIn profile is really like more therapy based, right?
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  Can't. Find a job for me to do anything
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  at all. She's getting jobs thrown at her
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  so because this. Is a therapy is really in need
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  right now Yeah, like the radio job's not going to find you on
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  LinkedIn, right. So like I have my therapy
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  LinkedIn. And so they reached out and they
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  said, hey, do you want to interview for this?
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  And so I scheduled an interview with them right away got an
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  e-mail saying, hey, here's thanks for scheduling the
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  interview with us. Here's your date of your
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  interview. Great.
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  Every single day since that day, I have woken up to an e-mail.
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  Hey, don't forget you got this, this appointment coming up and
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  also a text message. So it's coming before 7:00 AM by
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  the time I'm ready to leave work, I also get another e-mail
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  and another text message. Don't don't forget coming up in
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  2 days. You've got an interview with
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  Megan. I'm like, all right, I get it.
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  Is that coming from the company or is it coming from Google I?
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  Don't know. Did you set the?
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  Did you put it in your calendar? I went through like calendry or
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  something like the app that they provided for us.
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  But regardless, yeah. OK, well yeah, it's a setting
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  you can change then that's your maybe.
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  But if it's something that they're.
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  But they're also texting me going, hey, don't forget like
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  you've got this interview coming up.
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  The day of the interview, I got it.
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  I woke up to the same thing, an e-mail and a text reminder.
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  And then about 15 minutes every up until the time of my
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  interview, there was another reminder.
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  And this is, this is where I'm going to get a little bit
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  grandiose in my scale because you know what we've gotten,
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  we've gotten really soft on certain things in society.
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  This is one of those things that we should, we should go back to
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  the olden days about when somebody says, hey, do you want
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  to talk at 9:00 AM on Thursday? You go, yes.
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  And that's all like maybe a 24 hour reminder would be great,
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  but this is the responsibility of the person to go.
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  I want to talk to this person. So I'm going to make a note or
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  I'm going to put it in my calendar or I'm going to do
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  something to remind myself. If I have to remind you every 15
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  minutes up until the appointment, do I really want
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  you working for me? It's true, but I will say that
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  society as a whole has just become over.
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  They're busy and and like yes, and would waste my time if I
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  didn't remind people that we're talking.
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  Like I know. But I should and so I go out of
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  my. Way harder than the person I'm
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  interviewing. I agree.
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  Yeah. But like for a lot of the
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  interviews that I do for like weddings and things like that, I
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  make sure that I'm like, hey, we're still meeting today,
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  right? In an hour.
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  Hey, we're still meeting tomorrow, right in an hour.
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  So I get why the why people are there must it must mean
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  something about the clientele that is associated with this
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  company. I understand because as a
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  therapist you realize you have to constantly be reminding
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  people that you have an appointment.
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  Well, I don't constantly remind. So my thing is I send out an
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  e-mail reminder 24 hours in advance.
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  I said don't forget. And about that time, that's when
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  I get the, oh gosh, totally forgot, can't make it tomorrow.
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  Fine, no problem. That's great.
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  That's within my window of cancellation, right?
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  And I also understand being a therapist, that we're dealing
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  with a neurodivergent population where it could be really
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  difficult to remember things, right?
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  And that's fine. I deal with it in session.
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  Hey, how can we not forget? What can we do?
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  What actionable steps can we actually take and be responsible
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  for to make sure that we understand what's required of us
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  and that we remember? And if that's too far off the
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  scope of our confidence, that's fine.
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  How can we enlist somebody else to come and help us with these
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  reminders? Yes, you're there to help these
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  people do that, but most people aren't like that.
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  Most people just kind of forget and right No, they should it's.
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  Just we should. Force them to be more
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  responsible. We should force people to be
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  like, hey, you get one reminder, you miss it, you miss it, and
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  then you have to pay. Like there should be some sort
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  of monetary punishment. When you said it, I don't like
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  it. When I say it, I like it.
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  It makes sense. Like I think it is too harsh.
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  Like we do need good reminders and we need to work with people
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  that need a little extra help on it.
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  But every 15 minutes, office of the appointment?
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  Well. And I have my dentist's office.
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  Yes, is is a notifier. And like that's annoying because
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  I have to like confirm every time they do it.
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  It's a month out. Hey, don't forget you got an
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  appointment in a month. I'm like bro I'm not even
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  thinking like that far into it. Hit me two hours up.
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  Yeah, it. Hit me the week before to remind
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  me it's next week. Exactly.
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  If that and then I get one the two days before, a day before
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  the day of and I have to like confirm each one.
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  Yup, I'm coming, Yup, I'm coming.
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  They're like, hey, it's a fee. If you don't, I'm like, Yup, I'm
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  coming. But also like as somebody that
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  provides a service that's pay based, like they don't get paid
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  if you don't show up. And so it's like they want to
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  make sure that they did their due diligence because they want
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  to get paid. And I totally get that.
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  So I'm annoyed, but I get it. We can opt out of those things
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  too, I think. I don't know.
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  There's too many opt out of. Things I needed a vent to work
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  through it and process it, but now I'm not mad at it anymore.
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  All right, there you go. See.
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  And that's why you go to therapy, kids.
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  Exactly. Let's see if we can go for
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  annoying Kristen trifecta. What?
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  Are you doing to me today, bud? It's just the poke and the Berry
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  today. This.
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  I don't know if it's going to upset you, but I think it's just
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  something you should watch. You got any advice for somebody
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  to how to eat on camera? Look who's back.
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  Well, I'd say the biggest thing is just dive right in.
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  So I'm. I'm looking forward to taking a
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  nice bite out of this chicken nugget.
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  I thought it was going to say chicken product for sure.
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  It's a little weird to watch each other eat.
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  Yeah, well, imagine. No, I felt.
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  I'm not a robot. He has got to be the most
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  unlikable person. I'm human.
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  Like this is the McDonald's CEO trying Mcnuggets.
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  Why they put him back on camera? I have no.
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  Idea. At this point, you just got to
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  lean into the skid. It must be such bad PR for them
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  that now they have to sort of make fun of it.
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  I kind of get it. But like he's, it's like it's
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  just. Like.
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  He hates it. Look at his.
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  Face, he hates it. And he at least I think, muscles
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  through. He is he.
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  Is like look at that wasn't even a bite and he just and he kept
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  in his mouth though. Yeah, he doesn't swell.
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  Why? Do I keep giving this guy I've?
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  Said it before and I'll say it again, Like, I don't want my CE
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  OS to love their product. Like, he shouldn't be eating
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  McDonald's. Yeah, he's not there because he
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  loves the product. He's there because he's a
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  financial guy. And he's like, hey, these are
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  the business decisions needed to make this company money.
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  He doesn't have to believe in it.
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  He doesn't have to love it. I mean, it's great if you got
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  like, a a person that's really passionate about it.
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  Yeah, but like, that's not how most companies are running.
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  Well, he's doing a hell of a job with the money too.
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  Because like, I don't want to go to McDonald's anymore.
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  No, it's too expensive every time.
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  I it's too expensive. McDonald's is too expensive.
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  Three of us, it costs almost $40 to go what the hell?
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  And it's like, what are you talking about?
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  Like each of us get a couple hamburgers or like a happy meal
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  and like a Nuggets or something. I get 2 regular hamburgers.
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  I eat Lily's fries out of her her kids meal and you end up
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  getting like a a Big Mac or something.
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  How is that $35? Big Mac is $15 now, like for the
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  meal. And it don't taste like 15.
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  Dollars, bro, the last time we went to McDonald's, like, I
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  don't know, it must be this specific one, but they, it was
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  the IT was gross. It was cold.
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  It took 20 minutes to get my $40 meal from McDonald's.
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  Like what the hell happened to McDonald's?
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  We lived in the pinnacle of McDonald's like we were at the
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  That's the best they're ever. Gonna be 80s and. 90s, like they
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  had the 90s toys. They were their own product like
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  product. It was like the era of
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  McDonald's. There was 2 for two deals, like
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  2 for you. Can get under baca menu.
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  We had the Super size. We had two exactly like we had
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  McDonald's in its prime and there, and it's just been
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  garbage ever since. Yeah.
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  And I hate saying that because, like, every guy or every parent
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  I think has the dream of taking their child to McDonald's.
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  Like we all go, we all get the chicken, I guess the thing that
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  we loved as kids and like they eat their food, we eat our and
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  we're just like, oh, this is a, a wonderful moment.
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  And now I I hate when she says she wants to go to.
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  McDonough I know I'm always like yuck.
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  Yeah, the food's gross. It's not even and it's not even
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  good. Food.
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  We just sit there. We don't even eat.
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  We just look at her a happy meal because we're like, it's $7.00.
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  Like we'll let her eat. I'm not going to eat.
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  I'm disappointed by everything about McDonough.
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  You can't even get a crispy Coke anymore when you when you take
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  this because it's they have a larger straw and it makes it
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  hitch the back of your throat in a cold way.
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  And it used to be perfection in a cup.
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  Now it's like syrupy and like watery and you're like, you take
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  one step and you're like. Lily's never going to believe
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  us. I know and.
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  How good McDonald's. We're like 1992.
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  McDonald's was like McDonald's living in the year 3000.
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  They were on top of the world. For $10 you could feed a whole
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  family. Hamburger.
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  And it was. Stealing.
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  Hamburgers. Ronald was helping kids the.
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  Toys were amazing. Yeah, I don't know what this All
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  right well, there I I also ranted.
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  There you go. We're.
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  On Everybody pour out a crispy Coke for McDonald's today, Yeah.
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  But not, but not too much because it's expensive.
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  Yeah. Have a great day.
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