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my opinion on therapy · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: I built my dream life through all of the mindset and perspective shifts as well as the practices I share in my podcast and all my courses.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can find my journal prompts and my courses in my bio at Gorgeous by Alyssa on all platforms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I want to talk about therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people ask me, what do you think about therapy?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because they know I believe in creating our life ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I also believe we co-create together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to share what I like about therapy and what I don't like about therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will say I personally do not do therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have never felt called to do therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The last time I did therapy was during my parents' custody battle.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like 12, so I didn't resonate with it whatsoever.
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  SPEAKER_00: I couldn't wait to leave every time I went.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that doesn't mean that someone else doing therapy doesn't feel very aligned with their therapist and maybe an absolutely right fit for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just because therapy has not benefited me, or just because I've not sought out doing therapy doesn't mean it doesn't help, of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: The reason I've never sought out a therapist is because I personally believe we have all the answers within us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't know how to tap into that yet, a therapist can help.
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  SPEAKER_00: But so many people don't meditate and then they wonder why they need therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I say that gently, because someone doing therapy and not meditating doesn't mean they've not already tried to seek the answers within themselves or with God alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: But someone doing therapy and meditation, I think that's a beautiful combination.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we have been taught to seek answers and clarity and even decision making outside of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the issue I have with therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like you're helpless on your own and you desperately need someone to guide you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't support that belief around therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it is a helpful tool and a helpful resource.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we've been taught to find God outside of ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at the end of the day, our only goal as humans is we just want to seek out the best.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we all just want the utmost joy, peace, freedom, and love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are the only human emotions and goals that we strive for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we've been taught that the answers are all somewhere else.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you are made up of God.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are literally made up of infinite intelligence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't think it's easy to wrap your brain around that concept.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are literally the universe in a physical human form, experiencing it self in the vastness of source energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just haven't learned how to tap into that vastness within yourself yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one technique that really helps me, Joe Dispenza teaches this.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you begin a meditation and you close your eyes and you see the black darkness behind your eyelids, I imagine that I'm sitting in a circle of darkness, almost like I'm in space, but there's no stars.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's you can see nothing around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just this pitch black, expanding circle of darkness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you want to see how far you can expand that darkness around you, like a sphere constantly expanding, expanding bigger and bigger.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to see how far on all sides that you can make that go.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to focus on the word infant, infinite, as you do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes me suddenly feel so incredibly vast and just expansive.
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  SPEAKER_00: It brings the feeling of infinite of God back into my body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one thing I do like about therapy is we get to match the vibrations of each other and we get to co-create with each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we are constantly matching the energy of those around us without even knowing we're doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why I say become deliberate with what you're creating at all times.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we all go on autopilot, we start matching people's energy, stooping down to their low vibration, and we don't even know it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're completely losing control of your own emotions, your own vibration, and therefore the reality that you are creating.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're no longer creating your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are now allowing this other person that you don't even like to create your life and create an experience you don't even want to be in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's important to always be deliberate with what you're thinking about because whatever you think about is what you're gonna feel, and whatever you feel is what you are choosing to expand in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So only match the energy of those that you want to be like.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like we've all been around this super happy person or this healing person.
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  SPEAKER_00: This person has like a healing aura, a very positive outlook, or just a joyful essence about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every time you leave them, you're like, I feel so joyful.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want to be more like them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to see life the way they do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you may even think, like, I want to be like that person.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have matched their vibration.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are all offering a vibration at all times.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is not something that you turn on and off.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only thing that you turn on or off is how deliberate you are being.
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  SPEAKER_00: And all you have to do is remember that you must be deliberate in what you're creating.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all forget, but when you remember, you just go back to being deliberate again, purposely choosing your thoughts and feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you are always vibrating at a certain frequency, and that frequency is a match to something outside of you, and you're drawing that in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when a therapist is listening to you, and usually the sorrows of life, more than likely, their job is to literally offer the complete opposite perspective of what you are bringing to them, which is typically the more positive outlook, and they're always reframing whatever it is that you are experiencing.
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  SPEAKER_00: They help you mold it into something more productive, something more serving to you and the life that you want to build.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you can find the right therapist that is holding the vibration you desire to hold, this is when it becomes beneficial to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you can still do this with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can still do this through meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Meditation is just sitting in silence, eyes closed, not focused on anything else but the thing you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing you want to experience, the thing you want to feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just sit there.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want love, you think about receiving love into your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to be more healthy, you sit there and you imagine health taking over your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want more money, you imagine that you are a magnet and you are magnetizing more money to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Money is so excited and giddy running its way to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seriously, a lot of times meditation is just a mantra.
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  SPEAKER_00: A mantra is something you repeat over and over again, usually a word or a very short phrase or affirmation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And mine is receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: My intention in a lot of my meditations is just receive, receive whatever it is source wants to bring me, receive more of source energy, receive more of my higher self.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like just receiving the energy of God.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always imagine that because you'll always benefit in everything in life when you match the frequency of God or the universe or source.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when we're around others and others' energies and emotions and their vibration, it can be very easy to absorb their energy if we're not careful or thoughtful.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you can absorb other people's energy everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: A music festival, drum circle, sound bath, yoga session, all of these are usually good vibrations, but you can also do it at the gym or watching TV or reading a book.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I always say, please pay attention to whatever show or person in the show or book is feeling because you will take on their feelings, and empaths do this a lot more, but you emerge yourself into their story and you begin to match their vibration.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we are constantly taking in through screens, so it really matters what we take in and focus on because you will bring that energy into your own personal life because you are embodying it right then and there as you watch this person experience it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's not nothing to be afraid of, it's just awareness, just become aware.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've shared before, I don't watch any shows or movies that hold negative or low vibrations such as harm on each other, harm on animals.
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  SPEAKER_00: I especially stay away from shows and movies about doomsday, about the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely not.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are people in this world, enough people, watching things like that, vibrating at the frequency as they absorb that into their brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just refuse to co-create those experiences in the world that I live in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So back to therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you do therapy and you want to do therapy and you're curious about therapy, my advice is always remember you still have full choice at the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: You still have full creative freedom over your life in the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get to create whatever it is that you desire, regardless of other people's opinions, regardless of other people's experience, including mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: You create your life, you choose your thoughts, emotions, and vibration.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can get better at this over time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I remember hearing this and me not understanding what do you mean you just choose to be happy?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a choice, like shit happens in life that I didn't choose to be upset or overwhelmed or frustrated.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why I started teaching this stuff because I had to spend nine years learning all of this stuff, trial and error, learning how to change my identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's incredibly complex and difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I do teach this to give you the shortcut that I didn't have.
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  SPEAKER_00: But people will always try to push their past onto your future.
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  SPEAKER_00: So take that in for a second because they think, however, they experience life, this could be a therapist, this could be your friend, your parent, um, a coworker, a boss, they think that because of how their experience went, yours will likely be the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have choice whether you get to match that person's vibration or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I always say, if I ever had a therapist, they would have to be spiritual because they would have to understand how my brain works, how our brain works, literally, how neurologists, what they have found and studied about the brain, this is also in my enlightened babe academy, how to use the neurology, the scientific evidence of how our brain creates our experience, our life.
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  SPEAKER_00: The CIA has even studied this, and no one's talking about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's literally been proven we create our reality, but anyways.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I lost my train of thought.
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  SPEAKER_00: The therapist would have to understand how our brain creates new neural wave pathways, new neural pathways, and how our decisions that we make based on our emotions are how we decide to feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would need my therapist to understand that decisions are portals into a new timeline.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know too many, but I'm sure they exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if your therapist overall is speaking words that you resonate with, vibrating at an energy you resonate with, then they are create co-creating the exact experience that you are experiencing, that you want to experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it sounds like you've met a wonderful person who has a wonderful vibration that you're happy to match, and you two will co-create reality together.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you have not found a therapist who offers that, it's highly my opinion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can't recommend anything, but my opinion would be to find someone else who does resonate with you and maybe who can offer something you don't have yet, you or you don't know yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: But thank you so much for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know if you resonated in the comments and what you think about therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This was a very highly asked question for some reason on social media, so I'm always going through messages and seeing what topics you want me to talk about.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can always send me a message.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do try to reply to everybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you do want to do the deep identity work and literally shift your identity permanently and start creating your dream life from a new identity, because the identity you are right now likely isn't capable of creating the dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why we all have to shift into the identity and into the baseline vibration of someone who can create our dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know by experience I shifted my identity and literally created my dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boom, boom, boom, within six months.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would even argue three, but I'll be generous.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you can find all of the same information that I studied over nine years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take the shortcut and get it all in just a few weeks in my Enlightened Babe Academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is linked in my bio at Gorgeous by Alyssa.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am sending you so much love and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.