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From Feedback to Forward: How 2025 Prepares Your 2026 · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Welcome back to a brand new episode of the Nadia Chapman Show.
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  I'm your host, you guessed it, Nadia, here with my stuffed nose.
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  There's something blooming here
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  on the farm and I've been sneezing nonstop and blowing my nose all day.
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  So please forgive me if I sound a little stuffed up.
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  But I really wanted to come in
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  tonight and address the end of 2025 and the beginning of a whole new year.
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  Every time that it's late December,
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  I feel really compelled to help people have a nice look at the way things went
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  or didn't go as planned over the last 12 months and how to use that as feedback
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  and information to move forward with new goals,
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  new habits, and just move with purpose and intention for the next 12 months.
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  So before I begin, I want you to just pause for a second.
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  So wherever you are right now, I want you to take a deep breath.
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  Not to prepare, not to perform, just to arrive here with me for this moment together.
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  The turning of the year, so, you know, late December, early January,
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  has a quiet kind of power.
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  And this power invites you to reflect without judgment, of course,
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  always, and intention without pressure. And this is not about fixing yourself
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  or rushing into the new year.
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  Okay, what's next? My new goals. but more about giving yourself permission and
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  permission to be present where you are now and just have an honest look and
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  be honest about what you lived through over the last 12 months.
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  If last year did not go the way you hoped, let that be okay.
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  And if it stretched you or challenged you or asked more of you than you expected, you're not alone.
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  And that's okay. And if it taught you things that you didn't know that you needed
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  to learn, that matters more than any outcome. And we're going to be talking about that today.
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  So today is not about rewriting the past.
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  It's about understanding it, releasing what no longer serves you,
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  and stepping forward with clarity and purpose.
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  So as we move together into this conversation, I want you to allow yourself
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  to listen, not for answers that you think you should have, but for the ones
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  that resonate quietly and deeply with you.
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  That's where real change begins. Okay, let's dive in together.
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  Most people think that creating change comes from motivation, but it doesn't.
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  Change comes from awareness, from seeing clearly what worked,
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  what didn't, because not everything works out, and why.
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  And without that awareness, you will repeat the same patterns again and again.
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  However, with awareness, we can create choice.
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  So before you plan your 2026, you need to understand the year that shaped you over the last 12 months.
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  And when you think about last year, I want you to take a moment here to notice
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  what your mind does immediately.
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  Does it jump to what went wrong? What didn't happen?
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  Maybe the goals that you didn't reach? or maybe what you wish you had done differently?
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  Think about that for a second. Sit with that. And that reaction alone is crucial information.
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  Instead of judging the year, I want you to try this question.
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  What did last year reveal about how I respond to pressure?
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  Not the pressure itself, your response to it.
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  Did you tighten up? Did you avoid pressure? Or did you push even harder when you were depleted?
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  Or maybe, I don't know, did you learn to pause? Did you learn to adapt?
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  Did you learn to self-regulate in moments that used to overwhelm you?
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  And one of the most powerful perspectives that I want you to adopt this year
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  is that last year was not a verdict of your worth and ability.
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  It was feedback on your systems. See, as humans, we have systems,
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  your beliefs, your emotional habits, all that stuff.
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  So outcomes are just the surface level results.
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  Systems are what created them. So ask yourself honestly, where did my systems
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  support me and where did they maybe break down?
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  And when things felt hard, did I have the tools I needed to regulate my nervous system?
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  Or did I rely on willpower alone? Or when motivation dropped,
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  did I have structure or did I spiral into negativity or self-criticism?
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  And here's a simple but powerful tool I want to give you.
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  You need to learn to separate effort from the outcome.
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  So sit with this question and actually answer it. Where did I show up consistently,
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  even if the results weren't there yet? That's a great question.
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  Effort builds identity. Identity drives future results.
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  Maybe that's your router downer for tonight.
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  Effort builds identity and identity drives future results.
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  Many people quit right before the internal shift turns into an external one.
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  So if you only measure success by visible wins, you miss the quiet strength
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  that you were building underneath all of it.
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  Now, let's talk about patterns because patterns don't lie. Patterns are so important.
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  Think about the moment last year when you felt maybe the most stuck,
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  What was happening right before that feeling showed up in your life?
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  Was it fear, comporation, fatigue, fear of being judged, or maybe lack of clarity?
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  And maybe grab a pen and a paper and write it down.
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  What situations repeatedly pull me into the same emotional state?
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  Great question to answer.
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  Awareness of patterns is the first step to breaking them. I told you today we're
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  going to be talking about awareness.
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  You don't change patterns by forcing different behavior. You change them by
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  changing the meaning you give to the moment.
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  Another reframe that changes everything is understanding that some years are not here to reward you.
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  But the good news is that they're here to prepare you.
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  Preparation years build capacity. And capacity is your ability to stay grounded
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  under pressure, to recover quickly after mistakes, and to keep moving forward without burning out.
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  So ask yourself, what capacity did I build last year that my future self will rely on?
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  Emotional regulation, maybe patience, boundaries, resilience.
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  These are not side skills, guys. They are performance skills for life.
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  So before you step into 2026, it's essential for you to consciously release
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  what you've been carrying unconsciously.
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  So ask yourself this with honesty and compassion.
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  What belief about myself am I operating from that clearly no longer fits who I'm becoming?
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  And I'm going to repeat that one more time. What belief about myself am I still
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  operating from that clearly no longer fits who I'm becoming?
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  And maybe it's a belief that you have to struggle to succeed.
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  That's a real thing. Or maybe it's a belief that rest equals laziness.
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  That's me. I still think that. Maybe it's the belief that confidence comes before action.
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  I talk about that all year, how confidence comes from taking action,
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  not something that you need to wait for in order to take action.
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  Now, let's shift forward with intention, shall we?
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  The new year is not about becoming someone new, new year, new you.
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  We're not doing that. It's about becoming more self-led.
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  Self-leadership means in your life responding instead of reacting.
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  It means choosing behaviors that will align with your values even when your emotions fluctuate.
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  Here's a practical tool I want you to use this year.
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  Identity-based intention. So instead of saying, I want to be more confident.
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  Say, I'm practicing being someone who stays present under pressure.
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  And instead of, I want to be more disciplined, you can say, I am becoming someone
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  who follows through with small commitments.
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  See how that works? So choose one word for 2026, not as a trend,
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  but maybe as a regulation tool.
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  And that word becomes your anchor in moments of stress.
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  So when you feel absolutely overwhelmed, ask yourself, what does my word ask of me right now?
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  If your word is calm, it might ask you to slow down, slow your breathing.
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  If your word is courage, it might ask you to take a step that you're avoiding.
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  Maybe you're stepping into something that scares you. And this turns intention into action.
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  Another critical piece most people ignore is nervous system leadership.
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  You cannot create sustainable change from this regulated state.
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  So ask yourself, what practices help me return to center?
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  And this could be anything, movement, journaling, breathwork,
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  reflection, or quiet time maybe before your day begins.
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  These aren't extras.
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  They are the foundation. So as you move into 2026, I want you to replace one
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  question that you've been asking all year.
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  Instead of, why is this happening to me? Ask yourself, what is this moment asking me to practice?
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  Practice patience. Practice boundaries. Practice courage.
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  Practice trust. Life will keep presenting lessons until they are integrated.
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  And before we close, let this land. You are not...
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  Failure if you did not reach all your goals. You're not behind.
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  You're not starting over. You are starting the new year informed,
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  starting aware, starting with new tools that you didn't have before,
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  new life lessons that you did not have before.
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  And the goal of this year is not perfection. It can never be perfection.
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  It's presence, it's alignment, and it's choosing yourself again and again in
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  small, meaningful ways.
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  So as you step into the next year, I want you to write down the sentence to
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  these final questions and return to them often.
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  What am I committed to practicing this year, even when it feels uncomfortable?
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  And lastly, what would it look like to trust myself fully, not just when things
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  go well, but when they don't?
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  This is how real change begins, guys. And if you do that, if you stay present
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  and you stay intentional and compassionate with yourself, this year won't just move you forward.
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  It will transform how you experience your life. Trust me.
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  So here we are. A new year, a new chapter.
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  You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to show up with honesty,
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  courage, and a lot of self-trust. And 2026 isn't asking to be perfect.
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  Remember, it's asking you to be present.
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  And if you do that, if you lead yourself with intention, this year won't just
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  look like the other years.
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  It will look different and it will feel different. And that's where change begins.
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  Thanks for listening. I'll see you in the next podcast.