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The 3 Daily Wife Checks · High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the High Level Life Podcast.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Chelsea Holm, your hostess, and here we do marriage God's Way.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: And uh you probably noticed I haven't been recording as often, and that's just because we are making some post-its of what we're doing every day for getting this house ready to rent it, for the renters to show up, and also for moving and prepping our house for the movers and packers to come and put all of our stuff in boxes and load it up and take it.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think we're 19 days out from moving right now.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know if you know this.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you're as active on Instagram as I am because I use it for business and I have for I don't know how many years now.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but that's besides the point.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: There's a new feature called Instant.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_00: And uh they go away after 24 hours.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm guessing this is something like uh Snapchat, which I don't have, I don't use, but I know a lot of people do.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um, anyways, I was looking at it for business-wise, of like, how do you use it to connect more deeply with with your audience and with your followers and right?
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's it's always about that connection.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like social media is simply a tool for us to stay connected, to connect, um, and to add value to others, right?
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's that's what it is for me.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: That's how I use it.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I was thinking about this daily three, right?
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Which is coming off of the right order, which right order is the foundational truth, biblical truth that we teach inside high-level wife and high-level husband, that the right order, there is a right order of doing things in life.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: And when we do things out of order, that creates dysfunction and disorder.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: And the right order is God first, and then you, and then your spouse, and then your kids, and your work, and then everything else.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Oftentimes we experience the dysfunction even while saying that God is first, but he's not actually first in how you walk out your life or your thinking or whatever, right?
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's like it's like saying, like, I know God is peace, but then you have no evidence or fruit of peace in your life.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: So either God's a liar, which he isn't, or you're not actually believing it, and you're not actually walking it out in your life with the spirit to be able to produce it in you, right?
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: Because the only way that you can have that fruit produced in you is to abide in the father, and the father abides in you, anyway.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: So that's beside the point.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I was looking at this new feature I just noticed today of instance, and I was like, you know what?
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: It would be really awesome to invite you into daily habits that pour into this right order, and not as like a box to check, but more as a way for you to see, like in my own life, like how do I prioritize living the right order?
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: How do I actually make God first in my life?
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: How do I actually prioritize spiritual disciplines and just discipline overall in my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: And how do I daily and intentionally pour into my marriage as an overflow because I'm plugged into that source, because I'm caring and stewarding for this temple that the Lord has given me to care for, right?
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, anyway, so I don't know if you're familiar with this instance new feature.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but if you don't follow me on social media on Instagram specifically, Chelsea underscore Noel, then you should.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I invite you into these daily three habits that help us to discipline ourselves in practically and actually living out the right order.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I do want to caveat that by saying, because what I don't want is I don't want people just getting in there and checking boxes, right?
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, yep, did that too.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: But but instead actually understand that God cares about your heart more than your sacrifices.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: So it's not spending time with the Lord, seeking him, hungering for him, thirsting for him.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's not just about sitting down and reading his word and good to go or reading a verse of the day and good to go.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's literally about think about when you started your relationship with your spouse or your best friend, right?
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like you want to know everything about them and you want to share everything about yourself with them.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_00: And you you always want to be with them, and they're the first person that you go to when you have a problem or when you have something to celebrate, right?
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like, this is the kind of intimacy and relationship that God wants for us with us and him.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: And so when we approach our daily time in the word and in prayer and in solitude with him, sitting in his presence, this is the approach that we take.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: This is the heart posture that that we put on.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's this craving of being with the Lord, of learning his heart, of how he thinks, of how he acts, of how of just who he is and who we are in him, right?
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: And that's different from just showing up, showing up and checking a box, right?
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: The same thing for caring for our temples.
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_00: Man, I'm like, I came out here to sit in the sun, but I'm wearing black jeans, and uh, even though they're not a heavy, thick material, my goodness, sitting in the sun there, I'm like cooking, like cooking like a rotisserie chicken.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember the last time that I did that, I sat on the porch with black jeans on.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: When I went inside and took them off and put on shorts, um, I I literally had like red almost burn marks on my my thighs where the the sun was literally cooking me like a chicken.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, we're not gonna we're not gonna cook today.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna come to the backyard and I'm gonna sit in the shade to finish recording this episode.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um anyway, so when we think about exercise, right?
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: Stewarding our temporal temple well, if I could talk, right?
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's about stewardship.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's not about have to, and it's not about aesthetics, it's about stewarding what the Lord has given us, which our most precious resource that we have ownership of, or I should say management of, is our own physical bodies, right?
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: We get to decide what we eat, we get to decide how we sleep, when we sleep, how much we sleep, we get to decide what we put on our body, what we put in our body.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: We get to decide how we exercise, right?
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: And so when we talk about God first and then taking care of ourselves, it comes from the commands, the two greatest commands is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind, right?
• 7:30
  SPEAKER_00: And then right after that, it says to love your neighbor as yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't love your neighbor if you don't love yourself, if you aren't disciplined with yourself, if you aren't caring for yourself, if you aren't walking in the identity of who you are in the Lord, right?
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, who he says you are, not just who you think you are, but who he says you are and his love for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So so that's what that's the first thing with this is we have to shift that heart posture for stewardship of our bodies, of exercise, right?
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: Of challenging ourselves, of continuing to be disciplined because it's part of our spiritual act of worship each day.
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so then when we roll into the next one, which is our spouse, according to this order, we're then able to overflow, right?
• 8:16
  SPEAKER_00: Both physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like all of the elise, we're able to overflow into our spouse, not from a place of needing you to satisfy something in me or fulfill something in me or validate something in me.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: No, instead, we are able to pour from an overflow to speak life, to build them up without needing something in return.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's the heart posture behind it.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: And so connection, right?
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: Intentional and daily connection with our spouse.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's so easy in this modern Western world we live to just talk about the schedule, right?
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: To just talk about um, you know, what we got going on, logistics, all that stuff, like the how's your day?
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: But the deep connection that we have with one another, we foster through daily time together again as an overflow of that deep connection with our Heavenly Father, right?
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: If we aren't connecting deeply with the Father, if we aren't receiving from the Father, if we aren't going to the Father daily to walk with him, we can't expect to walk well with anybody else horizontally if we're not doing that vertically already.
• 9:37
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: So anyway, so this whole new feature on Instagram brought me here to encourage you with these daily wife checks.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: Wife check one, God first, wife check two, stewarding your temple, wife check three is connecting with your spouse.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: So go follow me, check these out.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: I think you access them.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if it's in your stories or if you access them in your DMs.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's in your DMs.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, I'm not annoying a bunch of people today because I'm trying out a new feature.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I hope you'll join me in these daily wife checks, and I hope that it will be beneficial for building you up in spiritual disciplines.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and most importantly, submitting and positioning yourself to walk with the spirit.
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_00: So the spirit is at work in and through you, not putting more burden on yourself or just trying harder, but actually being worked on because you are submitting uh to the spirit himself.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you in the next episode.