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Scott Aaron - Overcoming Adversity and Finding Joy · Quarterback DadCast | Intentional Fatherhood & Leadership at Home

• 0:03
  Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Riley and I'm Ryder, and this is my dad show.
• 0:06
  Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, it's Casey Jaycox with the quarterback dad cast, and, as I promised, we do finally have a new and exciting sponsor that's going to be joining us over the next 13 weeks or so, and they it is called the authentic edge podcast, which is going to be launching very, very soon.
• 0:23
  Speaker 2: It is a podcast that is led by the fantastic and successful Jason DeLuca, an executive sales and people leader at Dexian, as well as with Paul DiFincenzo, who is a global sales leader at Indeedcom.
• 0:38
  Speaker 2: This podcast, authentic Edge, as I mentioned, is launching in the next month and it's really about a journey into the heart and genuine relationships into the workplace.
• 0:47
  Speaker 2: So they're going to talk about uncovering the profound impact that authenticity has on establishing instant trust, fostering long-term partnerships, as well as creating serendipitous connections that evolve into endearing business and personal relationships, which is exactly how I would describe my relationship with Jason and Paul.
• 1:05
  Speaker 2: So, without further ado, let's get right to the next episode, and I hope that you check out the authentic edge wherever you consume your podcasts.
• 1:12
  Speaker 2: Well, hey, everybody, it's Casey Jaycox with the quarterback dad cast, and we are in season five and, uh, I gotta be honest with you, I'm very excited for this next guest because I used one of my superpowers everybody, which is curiosity to find him.
• 1:26
  Speaker 2: I actually kind of found him on accident, but I'm grateful I did because he's a very, very talented business coach, author, podcaster, a LinkedIn expert.
• 1:36
  Speaker 2: Actually, I heard him on the Grow the Show podcast from my boy, kevin, who actually I met in my entrepreneurial journey, from my boy, kevin, who actually I met in my entrepreneurial journey.
• 1:46
  Speaker 2: I don't know if Kevin remembers that, but he and I kind of did some exchange of brief services as we were both building.
• 1:50
  Speaker 2: He's kicking ass now.
• 1:52
  Speaker 2: That's not why we're having our next guest on.
• 1:54
  Speaker 2: Our next guest, though, is Scott Aaron, and we're going to talk to Scott about how he's working hard to become the ultimate quarterback or leader of his household.
• 2:00
  Speaker 2: So, without further ado, mr Scott Aaron, welcome to the Quarterback Dadcast.
• 2:04
  Speaker 3: Thanks, casey, grateful and honored to be here and looking forward to the conversation.
• 2:08
  Speaker 2: It's going to be fun, dude, all right.
• 2:10
  Speaker 2: Well, we always start each episode with gratitude, so tell me, what are you most grateful for as a dad today?
• 2:16
  Speaker 3: Grateful to be a present father, but also grateful that I get to be a part of not just my family and my son's personal life but also some of his social life.
• 2:30
  Speaker 3: So you know, coaching in sports and helping him hone his skills and you know, really push him without pushing him to really be his best and try new things, and you know really understand who he is and what he loves and find passions and support him throughout that entire process.
• 2:51
  Speaker 2: Love it, love it.
• 2:52
  Speaker 2: I'm grateful.
• 2:53
  Speaker 2: Today we're actually so.
• 2:54
  Speaker 2: It's in June, this episode will come out soon and actually it's July pardon me, get my months right and we're bracing for my son, who's going to be going to college here in the fall, which is just still sounds so crazy to even think, and it's getting realer and real and real by each day as we get closer to the end of August.
• 3:14
  Speaker 2: And so we actually were over here in Eastern Washington.
• 3:17
  Speaker 2: We're just taking a few days as a family to kind of just chill before his golf picks back up and then for my daughter's AAU basketball picks back up, and it's been so fun.
• 3:27
  Speaker 2: And yeah, yesterday we went out.
• 3:29
  Speaker 2: I worked in the morning and in the afternoon my daughter drove the golf cart for my son, my wife drove the golf cart for me and we literally the girls just were happy to be out there hanging out with us and me and my son played golf in crazy windy conditions and it was so fun.
• 3:42
  Speaker 2: And I'm just grateful for those moments because, like I said, a couple months it's going to be.
• 3:47
  Speaker 2: The four of us are going to go down to the three of us, which is going to be very, very surreal.
• 3:51
  Speaker 2: So anyway man yeah, it's trip, just enjoy it.
• 3:55
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 3:55
  Speaker 2: Because all the cliches are true life.
• 3:57
  Speaker 2: I mean one of them.
• 3:59
  Speaker 2: One cliche hit me this year that I think they said the days.
• 4:01
  Speaker 2: The days are long and the years are short.
• 4:06
  Speaker 3: And that one just hit home.
• 4:07
  Speaker 3: Very true, very true.
• 4:09
  Speaker 3: My wife and I talk about it like every day, like man.
• 4:11
  Speaker 3: You know we're halfway through this year already and you know every day is one day closer.
• 4:16
  Speaker 3: You know to wherever that's going to be and you just got to really squeeze the juice out of it.
• 4:22
  Speaker 3: You know, she said something interesting that so many people feel like to experience life, they need to go on lavish vacations or different places around the world.
• 4:34
  Speaker 3: And she was listening to a Mel Robbins podcast and she said you don't have to do that.
• 4:38
  Speaker 3: You know, look for things in your local area that you've never done.
• 4:42
  Speaker 3: That's a new experience, like that's.
• 4:44
  Speaker 3: You know, a way to release dopamine and oxytocin.
• 4:47
  Speaker 3: You know, pick a day a week to go to a new coffee shop and just change your environment.
• 4:52
  Speaker 3: Or try a new restaurant, or go to a different museum that you've never been to or a different, so we can find joy and experiences just in our local areas.
• 5:02
  Speaker 3: Because I think I'm not going to put any words in your mouth, but so many people get kind of sucked into the social media side of things, where you see these people living quote unquote their best life and traveling all over the place and doing all these things.
• 5:17
  Speaker 3: So people feel like, oh well, if these people are going to Europe and Australia and all that stuff, I got to save up and I got to go do that because that's what living your best life is.
• 5:28
  Speaker 3: You know, meanwhile there's amazing experiences all around us and that could be just going to a local winery and doing a tasting for a couple hours Like that's a new experience.
• 5:38
  Speaker 3: That is living life and it really kind of hit home with me because we have that choice every single day to create and find new experiences for ourselves.
• 5:48
  Speaker 3: So I just I loved that key component because I think there's a lot of people that feel guilty because they're not taking these big vacations, they're not going away for two weeks at a time.
• 5:57
  Speaker 3: That episode that my wife shared with me kind of gave both of us permission that we don't have to do things that everybody else has to do.
• 6:09
  Speaker 3: That correlates to living that best life.
• 6:11
  Speaker 3: We can live our best life the way that we want to.
• 6:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, man, it's all our own journey and I think I love the present mindset you have around just being comfortable in your own skin, comfortable where you're at, and I think that's an awesome way to look at and have own skin comfortable where you're at, and I think it's it's that's an awesome way to to look at and have perspective about, kind of where you're at and, um, cause, you're right, in this day and age of social media, it's easy to get in the compare mode and which is just a disaster, disastrous trap to go down.
• 6:38
  Speaker 2: Um, well, bring me inside the Aaron huddle, talk to me about the members of the squad.
• 6:43
  Speaker 2: So tell me a little bit about how you and your wife met and a little bit about who else is in the family with you.
• 6:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so my wife and I met.
• 6:51
  Speaker 3: So I have a different background than a lot of people.
• 6:57
  Speaker 3: Nancy is my third and final marriage.
• 7:02
  Speaker 3: Third time's a charm, as she likes to say, and I agree.
• 7:09
  Speaker 3: I think in life we have different iterations.
• 7:15
  Speaker 3: So my first marriage I was very young.
• 7:20
  Speaker 3: I was 26.
• 7:22
  Speaker 3: I really didn't know, a, what it meant to be a husband at that time and I would say, b, I had a lot of growing up to do from a personal and professional standpoint.
• 7:39
  Speaker 3: Every woman wants to feel safe and I was not a safe place.
• 7:44
  Speaker 3: And all my relationships there are zero regret, zero ill will.
• 7:50
  Speaker 3: I appreciate every single thing that I went through.
• 7:53
  Speaker 3: Every relationship served its purpose.
• 7:56
  Speaker 3: And then my second marriage is where and when I became um, which I tell Taylor all the time, uh, he's one of the greatest accomplishments that, uh, I've ever achieved, and it's the truth.
• 8:13
  Speaker 3: Becoming a dad is, uh, a wonderful thing, uh, and uh, you know whether the two sides agreed or not.
• 8:25
  Speaker 3: I made the decision that we would be best, you know, co-parenting and co-raising our you know our son in different households, and there's been ups and downs, but I think that's just the normal progression in life.
• 8:42
  Speaker 3: There are going to be times where people see eye to eye and there's times where people don't see eye to eye.
• 8:48
  Speaker 3: I'm grateful that I get to see Taylor more than most split households.
• 8:57
  Speaker 3: He's here with myself and Nancy Wednesdays into Thursdays and every other weekend, so I definitely get to see him more.
• 9:08
  Speaker 3: It's not just an every other weekend type of thing.
• 9:10
  Speaker 3: So we see each other every single week and because we live so close we're only about eight or nine miles away from each other it's easy for me to be a part of his social life, whether it's, you know, coaching him in fall ball or travel ball, which I'm currently doing, um, going to all of his events and, you know, being a part of all that.
• 9:31
  Speaker 3: So you know, we see each other very, very frequently, which I'm very grateful for.
• 9:36
  Speaker 3: So, um, I, I understand the importance of, you know, having a father figure and a mother figure in one's life and I think he gets the best of both worlds because he learns lessons from his mom and then he learns great lessons from myself and Nancy, and I give her, nancy, so much credit because for a couple of reasons.
• 10:04
  Speaker 3: Number one I did have quite a bit of baggage coming into the relationship, being married and divorced twice, being a single dad at the time, because there's a lot that as a woman she had to go through and deal with the fact that she's going to be a step-parent and his mom is involved in his life, and then everything that I brought to the table.
• 10:30
  Speaker 3: But I will absolutely say with 100% certainty, if it wasn't for Nancy, I would not be the father that I am today.
• 10:42
  Speaker 3: She really helped me turn the mirror around on certain situations but also my behavior, how I was acting or not acting, and really just gave me that outside perspective because she came from a divorced household herself.
• 11:02
  Speaker 3: So she really resonates with Taylor very well because she understands from a divorced household herself.
• 11:05
  Speaker 3: So she really resonates with Taylor very well because she understands the push and pull of going back and forth from one parent to the other parent's house and intertwining social lives and I think that really has helped Taylor because he can resonate with her and vice versa.
• 11:24
  Speaker 3: After my second marriage dissolved and I was kind of just getting my feet under me, learning how to navigate going from living in a house to living in a two-bedroom studio.
• 11:39
  Speaker 3: It was a lot of unpacking.
• 11:42
  Speaker 3: Um, I, you know I dated.
• 11:46
  Speaker 3: I was in a couple other relationships that, um, I think inherently, I knew in my heart, uh, weren't going to be the one uh, or that next phase of my life.
• 11:57
  Speaker 3: And I it got to the point where I was in my late thirties.
• 12:04
  Speaker 3: I was 37, 38 at the time.
• 12:07
  Speaker 3: I was almost at that point where I was like you know what, maybe it's best if I just be with me and it's just myself.
• 12:19
  Speaker 3: Taylor, my family, my friends and I kind of resided to the fact that, you know, maybe I would date around here and there, or maybe I wouldn't date at all because I didn't want people coming in and out of Taylor's life.
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: I wanted him to see stability, whether that was just me, by myself, or me with a solidified relationship, something that was going to last the test of time, something that was going to last the test of time.
• 12:53
  Speaker 3: So it was the summer of 2017.
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: And I was down the shore at my sister and brother-in-law's shore house and you know I was just kind of trying to just be social, get myself out there.
• 13:00
  Speaker 3: You know I was.
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: I worked from home, so I didn't really get out that much.
• 13:06
  Speaker 3: I was, you know, basically sitting, you know, at my keyboard on my computer, kind of doing my thing and my sister said listen, you're the way that you live your life.
• 13:15
  Speaker 3: You're never going to meet anybody, even if you did or did not want to.
• 13:17
  Speaker 3: Like you got to get out there.
• 13:19
  Speaker 3: So my brother-in-law, you know, grabbed my phone and he downloaded an app called Bumble, which is an online dating app, and he goes listen, let me set up a profile for you.
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: Just get yourself out there, just meet some people.
• 13:30
  Speaker 3: You never know what'll happen.
• 13:31
  Speaker 3: So synchronicity happens in different ways, shapes and forms.
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: So I was down the Jersey shore and I was residing in Philadelphia at the time.
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: I was down the Jersey shore and I was residing in Philadelphia at the time.
• 13:47
  Speaker 3: So obviously there's the parameters.
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: When you're downloading a dating app, you set to a different mileage, like how far away are the people, this, that or the other, and I guess the radius was maybe like 20 or 30 miles.
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: So the people that I would end up being connected to down the shore would be different than the people that I would be connected to in Philadelphia.
• 14:07
  Speaker 3: So, as it so happens, he sets up my profile and the first person that I see is my future wife, and I'm like man, she's really cute.
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: Let me swipe right on her and within about five minutes she swiped back.
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: We started texting back and forth, had a few phone calls, found out that we were both entrepreneurs.
• 14:29
  Speaker 3: I said I would love to take you out to dinner or go grab a drink, which we did the first date.
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: She will tell you that wasn't the greatest first date, wasn't the greatest first date.
• 14:47
  Speaker 3: She felt like it was more like a job interview.
• 14:49
  Speaker 3: I hadn't dated in a while.
• 14:53
  Speaker 3: So you know I was.
• 14:53
  Speaker 3: You know I was trying to get my feet wet again, but she'll tell you that the one thing that really stood out about me in that date, that even gave her, I would say, any sort of desire to go out again, was the fact that it came out that I had been married twice before I had a son.
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: And she said would you ever get married again?
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: And I said absolutely.
• 15:23
  Speaker 3: And she had been engaged twice but never went through with it, both engagements she knew weren't going to end up the way that she wanted to and kind of ended those relationships.
• 15:33
  Speaker 3: And she said well, why would you want to get married again?
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: And I said well, I believe that you know, being together is better than being alone.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: And I said a marriage is not just marrying someone, it's it's being a team, it's being a unit, it's being best friends and all the things that come with it.
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: And I still want that.
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: And she said it really kind of stuck with her, even though the rest of the date felt very just streamlined and just very dry questions and she wasn't really getting the most of my personality.
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: So that was, I would say, early to mid-August.
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: It was right around Labor Day that summer and, as it so happens with entrepreneurs and just a little backstory, I didn't bring flowers on that summer and, as it so happens with entrepreneurs and just a little backstory, I didn't bring flowers on that date.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: I actually brought her You're a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero as our first date gift, which she said that book literally couldn't have come at a better time because she had left corporate and she was in the midst of growing her entrepreneurial business and the money mindset thing was a big thing for her and that book really helped her from a money mindset standpoint get to the next level.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: So it was probably about two and a half months before we actually spoke again.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: We became friends on Facebook and it was October of that year I was doing a gratitude challenge for the month of October in 2017.
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: And I called it Scott's Gratitude Challenge or the SGC Challenge, and she started participating and she was tagging me every day what she was grateful for this, that or the other.
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, that's pretty cool.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: It was about two weeks into the Gratitude Challenge, I shot her a text message.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: I said hey, I just want to thank you for supporting my challenge.
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: Would love to see you again.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: She said me too.
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: Do you want to grab some lunch?
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: I said, absolutely.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: We went out to a lunch date in downtown Philly and she'll be the first to admit that it wasn't her best day.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: She was running around, it was raining, she was flustered, it was rushed.
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: So it wasn't a bad second date, but she was definitely.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: Her mindset was not really into the date.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: She was kind of scattered.
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: But she said that the brilliant thing that I did was I actually scheduled our third date right then.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: And there I literally brought out my day planner and I said listen, I know things are kind of rushed right now.
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: Let's have a proper date, let's go out to a nice dinner in a couple of weeks.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: And I got out my planner.
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: She got out her phone and we picked November 7th, which was a Tuesday, in New Hope, which is kind of like halfway between where we were.
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: New Hope is kind of like there's a bridge that is the cross between Pennsylvania and New Jersey.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: It's an area that I love still love to this day so we decided on that.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: So it was a very wet, rainy Tuesday night.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: We met at around six o'clock, had some apps, drinks and, as the story goes, six hours later we were still sitting there just having the best time.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: And that was the date that I knew.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: I said this is my person and we left.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: I walked her to her car and we started making out like high schoolers.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: And we started making out like high schoolers right in the parking lot.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: And we've been together ever since and there's been challenges that we've had to face, but we are so open with each other.
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: We love communication.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: We have not ever yelled at each other.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: We haven't gotten into a fight in over seven years.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: People think that's weird, but we both don't see the point of it.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: We have such a great relationship, yes.
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: Are there points of contention?
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Are there points of frustration?
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: Are there points of annoyance?
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: Absolutely frustration.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: Are there points of annoyance, absolutely Especially when you're running a business together and you're with each other 24 hours a day, 365,.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: We have spent probably the equivalent of 20 years together at this point Because, if you think about most couples they have nine to fives.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: They see each other in the morning, they go about their days, they come back for a couple hours at night and they see each other most on the weekends.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: We're literally we're doing everything together.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: I mean, she's going to the Alanis Morissette concert tonight.
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: I'm not doing that.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: She's going with her girlfriend, jodi, but we do everything together.
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: We're around each other all the time.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: But, like I said, it's been such a great experience for me because I know that the lessons that I learned in both of my two previous marriages which I don't consider failures, I consider them learning lessons have prepared me for what it means to be the best husband.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: I can be the best father.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: I can be the best lover.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: I can be all those things into one, the best lover.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: I can be all those things into one.
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: And again, I think Taylor, as he gets older, will look back on his childhood and realize how amazing it was, because he has so many people that love him.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: He has his mother and her side of the family that adores him.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: He has myself and my family who absolutely adore him, and he has Nancy, my wife, and her whole family that adore him.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: So he's got three amazing families that just think the world of him and I think that's a very special thing.
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: That again, as an 11, almost 12-year-old yes, you realize some of that, but again as you get older, you look back and you're like, wow, to be loved is a very, very important thing and there's a lot of love going around and a lot of it directed to him Very cool.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: Well, that was a big question with a huge answer with so much meat, and I got to be.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: I want to because I know we got, we're on, got to keep us on schedule today for you, but I'm going to pick and choose what I wanted to hit on there.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: There's a lot, but I love.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: I just love how clear and the memories you have, the details, which I think probably makes Nancy feel super special.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: I think the fact that you remembered all those dates I think is fantastic.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: You know, one of the questions I always like asking dads is what was life like growing up for you?
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: And now that you're a dad, now, like, what were the lessons you pulled from?
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: Like you know your upbringing that you have are really present with you as a father now, in terms of like the values that are important for you, your ex-wife and Nancy.
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's interesting.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: You know I grew up in a very traditional Jewish household.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: You know the Jewish traditions have been passed down.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Nancy, god bless her chose to convert without even being asked.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: She wanted to convert to Judaism, which it was great because it got me reconnected to the faith, and you know we went through the conversion process together.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: She wants to get a bat mitzvah, um, which I think is really cool, um.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: But I grew up in just a household just full of love, uh, full of laughter, uh, I mean my sister and I we're best friends.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: I mean we talk almost every day.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: She lives five miles down the road.
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: We're together all the time, growing up.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: A lot of people thought that was weird because we were so close, but that's again.
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: Did we fight like brother and sister at times?
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: But you get to a point where you're like man, it's so great to have someone.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: But you get to a point where you're like man, it's so great to have someone.
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: And you know my family has a very interesting path and past because, you know my parents were married for 31 years before they decided to get a divorce, and so it was much different saying now that I come from a divorced household, because I really didn't.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: I was 30 years old when my parents got divorced, but, interestingly enough, my sister, myself and my parents all got divorced within a six-month timeframe got divorced within a six month timeframe.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: My sister got divorced in September of 2008.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: I got divorced in November of 2008 and my parents got divorced in February of 2009.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: So there was a lot of pieces that needed to be picked up.
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: But, looking back, um, so many great lessons I learned from my parents, um and I.
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: I still share a lot of those lessons when I'm doing podcasts or when I'm coaching people.
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: Uh, you know, my mom was always big on treat others the way that you would want to be treated.
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: You know, um, don't wrong anyone if you don't want to be wronged.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: You know, you know, don't wrong anyone if you don't want to be wronged.
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: You know, treat people with kindness and with love, and I think that goes into some of the Jewish faith, which is be a mensch.
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: You know, like going above and beyond.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: If you do good things for people, good things will come back on to you, and my dad was always.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: He was a very present father.
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: He worked really hard, but he was my coach, just like I was for Taylor, and it's what made me want to be Taylor's coach, because I remember my dad taking me to the ball field.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: I remember him having a catch with me, I remember him helping me with my swing and putting up my basketball net and, you know, allowing me to follow my passions and all that stuff, and he always told me that there's going to be times in your life where you're going to be dealt a hand of cards that maybe doesn't look that great to you, but you're going to have to play them anyway.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: Look that great to you, but you're going to have to play them anyway.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: So, at 19 years old, my father ended up going to federal prison for two and a half years for insurance fraud with a company that he was partnered with, and at this time my father had just purchased a failing fitness club that he wanted to leave to the family.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: So we had some monetary income and this was probably, you know, looking back, one of the greatest things that could have ever have happened to me, because I was at still at a at a very impressionable age I was 19.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: So I really I wanted to make my family proud, but my dad, like we saved the letters that we wrote to each other and my dad saved this one letter that he shared with me because I was stepping into a large, large shadow.
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: I mean, my dad still is in the fitness industry.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: He's a world record bench press holder.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: I'm going down to Greenville, south Carolina, with him in two weeks to support him and if he wins which he probably will he makes the world championships in London in October.
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: But I remember writing him a letter and I'm like I can't be you, I can't do this, I'm not you and I'll never forget.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: And I reread the letter about three months ago and he said I've always told you to always be yourself.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: He said I don't want you to be me, I want you to be Scott.
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: You don't have to try to be Howard, you don't have to have my same energy, you just need to find who you are and be your true, authentic self.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: And that stayed with me forever being unapologetic for who you are and being your true, authentic self is a superpower.
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: But I'll say the other thing that really helped me was the fact that I learned how to be resilient as a 19-year-old.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: I dealt with a lot.
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: You know, my sister was finishing up high school, so I really wanted to be there for her.
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: You know, my mother now, you know, was basically a single parent, you know, trying to help her son navigate through college and her daughter navigate through the end of high school choosing colleges.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: So there was a lot on my mom's plate and I give her so much credit because she could have easily left my dad during that time period, but she decided to stay.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: So I think a lot of what makes my family super, super special is that we remained close throughout that entire process.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: But we always came back to the foundational things that we were taught as kids, which is live your life full of love, laughter, togetherness, memories, but all in all, be a good person.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: You can go really far in life when you're a good person and you treat others with kindness, and I loved my childhood.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: Blair and I constantly text memories and old YouTube commercials from when we were growing up as kids, and movies and music.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: Earth Wind Fire is our family band and they're touring with Chicago again this summer.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: So we're taking all the kids and we're going to have three generations there, because that's what we did as kids with my parents and it's just again forging those, those memories, so they last forever.
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: Hmm, wow, I can imagine um going through that man.
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: So when you're, you're 19, was it?
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Did that?
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: When you're, when you find out the news about your dad, was that like a surprise, like we're just like, oh my God, what in the hell?
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: And how did you deal with forgiveness?
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: Well.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: So I had recently failed out of the University of Pittsburgh.
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: I found it really challenging because I'm a very structured person.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: I like structure.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: So, like in high school, you know alarm clock goes on.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: I know I got to go downstairs for breakfast and drive myself to school when you're in college I was, I was five hours away from home, like I didn't have to go to class, like, and that's the thing.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: Like when teachers tell you, well, you can, it's optional, you don't have to go, but it's your grades that are going to suffer.
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: I could not find the balance between social life and study life.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: And three semesters later my parents were like, you're not going back.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: So I was kind of getting my life back together from an educational standpoint.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: And it was that next summer of my sophomore year, my dad called a family meeting, which wasn't all too uncommon.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: We were very close family, so we always talked about stuff and we were having a barbecue in the backyard just the four of us and he goes.
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: Listen, I need to share with you guys something you know the company that I've been working for and working with is under investigation by the federal government and there's a chance that I may get house arrest and even that was like kind of like a shocker.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: So again, you know, we wrapped our our minds around.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: Okay, you know our, our dad, might be on house arrest.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: So when we get to the sentencing and judge Rombrano which I remember his name still says 24 to 36 months in federal prison, like I was a puddle, my sister was a puddle, like it was terrible.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: So there was really no time for resentment at that time or anger because like literally a few days later we had to drive him to federal prison and you know he literally he turned before he exited the car because I actually I drove home because my, my mom was a mess, my sister was a mess, I was.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: I had to drive the car home.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: You know, as I was giving him a hug and a kiss goodbye, he said now, you're the man of the house.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: So I don't think he did that intentionally to suppress any of my emotions.
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: I think he just wanted to share with me that, listen, you're the man of the house.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: It's time for you to step up and get through these next two and a half years together, because my mom would go visit him on Sundays by herself and my sister and I would go on Saturdays just the three of us and that's where him and I would talk shop.
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: I would bring stuff from the gym and share numbers and this, that or the other.
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: It wasn't until many years later we had two gyms that we ended up selling for a million dollars in 2003, opened up a third location in 2004, basically on my back, because my parents had no credit at that time because of, obviously, the federal liens and everything.
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: So everything had to be put into my name.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: So I ended up in about $1.5 million of liability debt about three years later.
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: So I'm in my mid to late 20s tons of liability debt, debt.
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: And then I slowly started to uncover, thing after thing after thing, that again, my father does take ownership for a lot of the things.
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: But he'll say, listen, we had to do what we had to do to get through the time that we had to get through and a lot of that fell on me.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: And it got to the point where I did ask him to break partnership, uh, sign his shares of the gym over to me and leave and not come back.
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: And he didn't fight.
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: I mean, it wasn't like there was no yelling and screaming, it was a very civil conversation.
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: He understood and I think he always respected me and still respects me to this day for stepping up and making difficult decisions and having difficult conversations, because I did not like confrontation for the long time.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: My sister was always the voice for me.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: She would always speak for me.
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: But I have no problem speaking up now and I just had to learn that.
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: And we went about a year and a half without actually talking.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: Just had to learn that.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: And we went about a year and a half without actually talking.
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: And the only time we saw each other, uh, we saw each other once in that year and a half and that was at um tenant landlord court where our my landlord was suing me for a number of things that obviously were out of my control.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: But I had to show up because I was the face of it and that was like basically the only time I saw him.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: So I was going to therapy and with a business coach and he said listen, you know, he kind of helped me get to that point where I had to break apart, but he said you're holding on to all this anger and resentment.
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: That's not going to do you any good as a person, as a father, as a friend, as a family member, and it's time you learn to let go.
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: So I was at this event, never forget it and my business coach called me in front of the room it was a very intimate, like three-day event and he said get on all fours.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: I said okay.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: So I got on all fours and he called some of the bigger guys in the room and he said I want you guys to stand around, scott, and I want you to put your hands on him and I want you to hold him down so he can't get up.
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: So then my business coach, jeff, starts getting in my ear and he starts jabbing at me pretending he was my dad Give me all your money, sign all the paperwork, all.
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: And he said now, stand up.
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: And he's like I'm like I can't, he goes.
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: Yes, you can, he goes, stand up.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: So, and there was something that just kind of triggered me, and I mean there was some big guys holding me down and all of a sudden I felt this big rush and I like went from all fours to standing straight up in the air.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: Literally the four or five guys that were trying to hold me down like flew back and like there was a huge gasp in the room and I just felt like this immediate relief and release of any negativity that I had felt towards him or resentment.
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: And then Jeff said to me he goes, get your phone and I want you to step out into the hallway and I want you to call your dad and I want you to tell him that you don't resent him anymore, you forgive him and you're not quite ready to see him yet in person, but the lines of communication are open and when you're ready to see him in person you'll let him know.
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: And I said okay.
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: So I stepped out in the hallway, did just that, and it was about like two weeks after that phone call that we met for coffee for the first time and we're closer than ever.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: Everything had to happen for a reason and he's still my best friend and he's doing a lot of great things.
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: We actually got tattoos together.
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: He battled brain cancer last year, a very, very rare form of brain cancer.
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: His nickname is Ocho and he was the eighth person cured by this oncologist and was still training people while he was getting chemotherapy in the hospital and I gratefully, I had the flexibility to be there with him during his cancer treatments, and you know, my wife and I would swap.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: Nancy would go hang out, I would run the business back and forth, my sister as well.
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: So you know, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: And my dad will tell you there's not a day that goes by where he doesn't think about his cancer.
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: But he's in remission.
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: He's stronger than ever.
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: You know, he's still putting up 315, 320 on the bench and getting ready for this competition.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: And yeah, he's, he's an absolute animal.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: It's going to be 72 in December.
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: I mean, he's a, he's a freak.
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: So is he green?
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: Is he the Hulk?
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: I mean, he might as well be, but you know it's just.
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: I have such a I love share like I love getting asked these questions because you know, as a, as a a business owner like yourself and myself, we're so embedded into the daily iterations and the things that we do for our business that we don't really talk about a lot of the personal stuff.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: And I just enjoy tapping back into that because I realize how far I've come and how many things I had to kind of grow through to get to where I am now.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: That has made me who I am today and it just also reinforces that nothing is ever going to stop me, nothing is ever going to get in my way, nothing is ever too big for me to overcome.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: Hi, this is Kathy Orton.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: I'm the Director of Talent Management at CoWorks Staffing Services.
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: Coworks is one of the largest staffing firms in the United States, with operations in all 50 states, over 60,000 temporary field talent.
• 39:13
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• 39:16
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• 39:27
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• 39:41
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• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Casey is funny, he is engaging and he is approachable.
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: What sets Casey apart is that he really walks the walk.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: He lives what he teaches.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: He spent time with us outside of the workshop, really taking the time to get to know our people.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: He shared information about his personal life, about his family, creating the foundation for authentic relationships, one of the core elements of the strategy he teaches.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: Casey left our teams feeling motivated, energized and armed with the actionable tools to transform their sales performance.
• 40:20
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• 40:27
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• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Now let's get back to the podcast.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Wow, man One.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: I love your vulnerability, so thank you.
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: The three values that are most important to me in life are curiosity, humility and vulnerability, and you're showing them all today, which I appreciate.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: And when I think about you said the word resilience earlier.
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: You ain't joking around, bro.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: That is a lot of resilience to go through what you've been through.
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: I mean most people who have been through a couple of divorces I might rattle them.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: I love your mindset and just looking for meaning, versus not being a victim or scarcity, but more of abundance, and trying to find positivity and meaning.
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: And still being a present dad and trying to figure out ways to co-parent when nothing's perfect.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: From getting to know you a little bit, like your mindset's in a great spot, which I think is hopefully inspiring for a dad out there listening that might be going through something similar, and to know there is another um, another way to to do things, um, so um.
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: Well, I want to be, I want to be cognizant of your time here.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: So so, so much you you you shared with.
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: But if you had to think about, like talking, what we've talked about so far and everything you shared from a dad's perspective and how you've grown and just matured in life and where you're at now, at your stage of fatherhood, tell me what are like the top two or three values that are most important to you and your and your I would say your co-parent team that you're instilling in Taylor.
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: I think number one, first and foremost, is to have a mindset of gratitude.
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: I think Taylor realizes how fortunate he is for the life that he's living and all the people that love him.
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: And from the earliest I can remember, when his mother and I did split up from the time that he could talk and we still do it to this day before he goes to bed, still almost at 12 years old we tell each other myself, nancy, him three things that we're grateful for before we go to bed, and I think that's just really important to recognize the things that you're grateful for.
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: I would say.
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: The second thing is going back to something that my parents taught me and it's what we're teaching him and is to be a good person.
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: You know, care for your friends.
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: You know, don't be mean to people, um.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: You know, be careful about.
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: You know who you're giving your energy to and from, um, and just love those around you.
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: And you know he's, it was, uh, it was so sweet.
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: So, um, I picked him up from school one day.
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: You know he just he uh had his moving up ceremony.
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: He's going into sixth grade.
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: So we're driving home from the last day of school this was a Wednesday and his mother did a really sweet thing.
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: So she got him one fish, two fish, three fish when he was in preschool, when he was in preschool, so basically she would give all of his teachers this book.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: So all of his preschool teachers signed it kindergarten, first grade, second grade, so on and so on.
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: And he had never read any of thing that his teachers wrote.
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: So as we're driving home he's reading out loud everything that his preschool teachers wrote about him kindergarten, first grade.
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: And the kid was in tears by the end and he turned to me.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: He goes I had no idea how much these people loved me and how they felt about me.
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: I said well, it's always good to know that.
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: I said words are powerful.
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: And I said now, you know.
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: And I said it's not just these people.
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: I said Taylor, I said there's so many people that recognize how special you are.
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: But also that goes back to being a good person.
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: And I think he's starting to really learn about being a good person, about being a good friend, standing up for what's right and what's wrong.
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: And it doesn't hurt that he's bigger than everybody else.
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: I mean, I'm only 5'9", his mom is 5'6", but this kid is, at 11 years old, 5'6", 145 pounds.
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: I mean, he's a monster.
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: What's his?
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: bench about 240?
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: Oh God, I mean he's going to be an animal and I can't wait.
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: I mean he's so excited to be taller than me.
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: No-transcript.
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: And I think those two quality traits for anyone you know, having a mindset and a heart set of gratitude, but really doing what you can do to be a good person, not just for yourself but those around you, it's going to take you really far in life.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: Love it.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, last couple of questions before we get into the lightning round.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: I always like to ask dads excuse me, an area of their dad game that they they know it's they're not.
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: It's not quite where they want it, but they're honest with themselves about this is an area I can improve as a dad.
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: Um, that it cause.
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: I mean, sometimes it's no one's perfect.
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: I'll tell you, I'll lead my witness here.
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: I work hard, hard, hard, scott, on patients.
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: I'm just being a competitive guy that that sometimes gets the best of me.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: But having tools now and a mindset of you know, don't body this stuff up.
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: But like go apologize if I'm an asshole or page God, I was not my best.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: Like, yeah, tell me what comes to mind for you, yep.
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: My cell phone A hundred percent.
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: I've gotten so much better with patients, with Nancy's help, but I have to make a conscious effort not to have this thing with me when I'm with him, because it's just a natural tendency you know, we play Fortnite together, uh, him, myself and Nancy like, in between rounds, I'll grab my phone, I'll start scrolling, even in the car or whatnot, um, and he notices that.
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: So I don't want him to remember, um, that I was always on my phone because, again, you know, when he gets his first phone, I don't want him to repeat what I'm doing.
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: So the one thing that I've been really conscious and really working on is separating myself from my phone, uh, when we're together.
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: So I I create more of a, you know, a very cognizant present bond with him instead of relying on, you know, the phone, which can be picked up at any point.
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: Love it so good.
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: I know that'll speak to a lot of dads out there, even moms.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: Whoever's listening.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: I want people to understand, learn more about you.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: As the author, the podcaster, the coaching, the LinkedIn expert work.
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: You got obviously branding experience, agency experience.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: I mean obviously great background.
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: Talk to us about what's a day in the life like for your business and how can people learn more about you?
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, thank you for the opportunity.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: So my wife and I uh, we we coauthored a book called the feel good business model that we released a couple months ago.
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: Um, it's based upon our now threeday work week, so we believe in systems and strategies to be able to work less and live more.
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: We have a very diverse business.
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: My wife, along with our team, runs our content repurposing agency.
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: It's called BYOB Agency Build your Online Business.
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: I myself focus primarily on LinkedIn coaching and consulting.
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: So I have a LinkedIn membership, I do group coaching, I have one-on-one consulting and a DIY course to help people build their business and personal brands, leveraging LinkedIn in a very streamlined way and only having to spend about 20 minutes a day on the platform only having to spend about 20 minutes a day on the platform.
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: And then together we run our company called the Time to Grow, so we help experts and service professionals, coaches and consultants become the expert in their space leveraging LinkedIn, starting a podcast, writing a book, courses, memberships, all that stuff Email-less growth.
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: And then for myself, nancy and I, we both have our individual podcast.
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: Hers is called Entrepreneur Rescue Mission and then mine is called Networking and Marketing Made Simple.
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: I've had it for almost five years almost five and a half years now it's getting close to 900,000 listens and a bunch of reviews and just amazing things have come from it.
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: And yeah, I have like three LinkedIn books out there.
• 49:36
  Speaker 3: I got a fourth one coming later this year and I love helping people, whether it's my free resources or if they want to work with me closer.
• 49:46
  Speaker 3: Obviously, my website, scottaronnet, has a free download on there.
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: I also have something new called it's a LinkedIn scorecard assessment that I can give you to give to your listeners, and it's basically a very short two minute assessment quiz to kind of like figure out what you need to actually hone in and focus more on with LinkedIn whether it's your profile or building your network or messaging or content and it's a really good 10,000 foot view of the different iterations and different things that you have to figure out with LinkedIn Gives you a great output of the things that you need to focus on and how they score.
• 50:21
  Speaker 3: And then, obviously, you get invited to a private Facebook community where I give extra tips and even the ability to schedule a call if people want to learn more about how I work with people and what's a good fit for them.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: So cool.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: No, I'd love to make sure we share that with the audience.
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: And again, I'm grateful that I came across you and I think what Kevin's doing and his podcasting growth is cool and to hear you on that show.
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: that was again leverage the old curiosity but it's really funny, it was really quickly.
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: So him and I met, um, we met in Philly God 2018, 20, 20, yeah, 2018.
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: Uh, we were at this live comedy dating show.
• 51:02
  Speaker 3: So it was this guy that was running this live comedy dating show and he had a panel and Kevin and I were part of the panel.
• 51:08
  Speaker 3: So it was people in different aspects of dating life in Philadelphia.
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: And that's where him and I connected and we were chatting after the event and just learning about each other and he's like yeah, I'm in podcasting, I'm all on my, I am too.
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: And we stayed connected and all of a sudden, you know, he reached out to me a few months back.
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: He goes hey, let's do a podcast swap.
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: And obviously that's when I was on grow the show and you know, that's that's how we all got connected.
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: So good.
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: What a small world, what serendipity, my man.
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: All right, so now it's time to go into the lightning round, which I asked you random questions.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: It's going to prove that I have a screw loose and prove that I all the negative hits not bong hits, but football hits I took in college.
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: Uh, my job is to ask him um, quickly and try to get a giggle out of.
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: Your job is just answer them quickly and not laugh.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: Are you ready?
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it okay.
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: Uh, true or false?
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: Uh, your dad has benched 700 pounds, false.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, um, if I was to go into your phone right now, what would be the one song song that your wife Nancy would be like wow, you listen to that.
• 52:13
  Speaker 3: Anything Phish she hates, so yeah.
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: There's a former quarterback dad cast listener shout out to Chris Martin, one of the biggest Phish fans ever.
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been to like 90 shows and I'm trying to convince her to go to one, but haven't gotten that far yet.
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: There we go.
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: If I came to your house for dinner tonight, what would we have?
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: Probably breakfast or dinner.
• 52:35
  Speaker 3: I'm big into omelets and stuff at any point during the day, but I own the grill, so I would say probably some sort of grilled steak, burgers, dogs, sausage, whatever you want.
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: I'm throwing on the grill and yeah that's what we would probably do there we go.
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: Tell me the last book you read.
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: Last book I read was who, not how Great book it's by the same authors of 10X is easier than 2X.
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: Highly highly recommend it.
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: Okay, who, not how?
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: If there was to be a book written about your life, tell me the title.
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: Man, that's a great question.
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: I would say the Power of Resiliency.
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: I was going to say there better be resilience in that title.
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: Okay, power of Resiliency.
• 53:21
  Speaker 2: Now, scott, believe it or not, every airport you go to this book's crushing it, and Netflix has heard about it, hulu's heard about it, everybody's hearing about it.
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: And so now there's this huge fight.
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: Well, finally one of them gets it.
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: They've named you the casting director, and I need to know who's going to star you in this critically acclaimed, hit new movie.
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: I mean I do like.
• 53:41
  Speaker 3: I mean I have a bunch of doppelgangers out there but if I had to, like, pick someone that would be willing, I guess, to want to look like me, maybe shave their head and stuff, I don't know.
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: I mean I always I love Brad Pitt, leonardo DiCaprio, but if to make it easy because again I'm not like I don't think my movie would be an action movie so you can disqualify the rock and Vin Diesel and stuff, but yeah, I would like, I always I love Brad Pitt's work, I love Leo's work, so I would say either one of those two dudes, but they would have to shave their head, so they have to be wanting to do that.
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: Perfect, there we go, all right.
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: And last question Tell me two words to describe Nancy.
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: Beautiful and brilliant.
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: There we go, lighting rounds complete, uh, round's complete.
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: It was a quick one.
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: We got a small giggle.
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: We'll call it a tie man.
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: It's been grateful, grateful, spending time with you.
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: I'm so thankful for this, the honesty, the vulnerability I mean.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: This is why I did.
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: It is to again.
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: I started this thing nearly five years ago.
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: I don't give a shit if we're a pro athlete, a football announcer, a CEO, a stay-at-home dad, our kids don't care everybody.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: We think we do, because that's our ego, but in the end it's.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: How are we becoming the best dad?
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: How are we becoming the best leader of our home, showing up with teaching the core values, teaching being a good person, like Scott said, and I just I find so much energy and I find so much gratitude when I get to talk to dads and just learn.
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: And I hope that everybody took a bunch of notes.
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: I got two pages of notes here.
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: Scott, we'll make sure everybody's can will be tagged to know how to get ahold of you, and but I just want to say thank you again for your time.
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: It's been an honor spending time with you this morning.
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: Oh, casey, honors all mine and just really grateful for you and the connection and great conversation and you know can't wait for the listeners to hear it.
• 55:32
  Speaker 3: And always grateful for the opportunity and appreciate your questions.
• 55:35
  Speaker 3: Amazing host and you know can't wait to do it again.