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- Alex Williams: Hello and welcome to another episode of the Energy with Alex podcast. I'm Alex, your host, and this is your space to romanticize your life so that you can drop into the present moment and find magic in every single day. This is also a place you can always come to for honest truths and deep conversations and a lot of fun too. I am so excited to have you here. Let's get started. Hello everyone, welcome back to another episode. I am so excited for this week. It is almost Halloween. And I know that that's kind of like, I don't know, not a controversial holiday, but a lot of people that I talk to don't love the holiday or they don't really love like what it stands for or the scary part of it or just like don't get a good feeling from it. However, I'm not gonna lie, I really love Halloween. I love fall. I love dressing up and costumes and just, you know, this year we're all gonna be skeletons. So me and my husband Adam and our puppy Chai are all in skeleton costumes. So that's gonna be really cute. And for the first time ever, I'm gonna be passing out candy at my own house, which is gonna be a really fun experience just to see all the kids coming by in their costumes and passing out candy and meeting all of the neighbors and Just I guess we treat it like a little bit of a block party. so I'm really excited for that experience. And I'm I don't hate the the spooky aspect of it. I know like being an energy healer and working with energy, you do have to be careful with the things that you invite in for sure. but I I love like a haunted house. not all the time, but it's fun every once in a while to go with some friends and just get really scared. I don't love scary movies, honestly. They are definitely not my favorite thing. I definitely don't ever like commit to a scary TV show. but I am reading my very first Stephen King novel, Pet Cemetery, for my book club this month. and I'm like halfway through. It's definitely my one horror novel I'm gonna read all year for sure. because I typically like to read first thing in the morning and last thing before I go to bed. So I don't love feeling scared right before I go to bed. I feel like I'm having really weird dreams right now. and in the morning when I'm having my hot drink and I'm sitting out in the sunshine in my backyard. The vibe doesn't really fit to be re reading a horror novel for sure. But I see why he's such a popular and iconic author, and I'm really enjoying the experience for what it is. But will I wait until next year to read another book by him? Yes, definitely. October is probably the only month you're gonna see me doing something like that. You know. It's all about balance and I know the amount of scariness, the amount of harmless spookiness that I can invite into my life without it like shooting my nervous system up a hundred degrees. I kinda have figured out that limit. So I will probably watch the Pet Cemetery movie with my sister-in-law and husband when we finish book club. You know, just to get into the into the energy of Halloween. Why not? So that's that's what I'm looking forward to this upcoming week is passing out candy to the neighborhood kids and really getting to know my neighbors and seeing Chai in her costume, even though she absolutely does not like the skeleton costume. She could barely walk in it. It's I mean it's just very dramatic, but I'll put it in or put it on her for photos and post them to my Instagram and then that'll probably Be the extent of her Halloween experience. So today I wanted to talk about a fun topic that I've been wanting to bring to the podcast for a while now, and that is my manifestation story around buying our first home. It's a really cool story. the title of the episode will probably be How I Manifested My House in 26 Days. Because It really is wild to think if you're on YouTube you can see my dog's little hair sticking up. It's really cute. so I like this story a lot because I have personally always been told that the house buying process is brutal. It's like this whole thing and it's gonna be this gruesome process of just my gosh, like let's look at another house and then this fell through and then this fell through and then we got our hopes up and then it didn't work out or we can't find anything that fits within the budget. And that's always what I've seen and heard from like so many people. So it wasn't that I was discouraged about the process, but I definitely wasn't like looking forward to beginning the process. I thought it was gonna be this really crazy thing. so I want to share this as kind of an inspiration to anyone who might be starting that process as well or will be in the near future to realize it doesn't have to be that way. Like things can actually work out in a much easier way. And I'll kind of go into that a little bit deeper. But then also I think that there's a lot of little tidbits of manifestation and what we can learn from it from this story. So I'm excited to dive in and and see what comes forward. So first off, my husband and I, when we were engaged, we talked a lot about what our kind of like dream timeline would be and realistic timeline would be. So we were living with his parents and sister for two years. a little bit towards the end of us dating and then for our entire engagement process. And that was a really fun period of time to just be with the whole family and to, always come home to a full house and just to get to know everyone on an even deeper level. It was just one of those seasons in life that I will always look back on fondly and with so much joy because stuff like that can never be recreated. You know, it was really special. And so we talked a lot about that we would love to get a house as soon as we're married. That would be like dream timeline. And then also we talked about realistic timeline. We realized from what we've heard from so many people is that the process can be really long and tiring and Mixing that with wedding planning did not seem like a good idea. So we were like, okay, we get married in April. How about when the summer starts, like May, June, we start the house process, like looking for houses, getting a realtor, all of that. So we kind of knew within the next few months the process would begin, but not yet. So there already wasn't this attachment to the manifestation, like so often it happens, right? It's like we have this idea in our head of what we want to call forward and when exactly it has to come forward. And then we put all this pressure and attachment to it. And then that is when it kind of turns into almost like a desperate energy or not like repels the manifestation, but it's definitely not the energy that we want to be in when we really are in a season of calling forward a specific manifestation. So I do think that's one of the things that we got really right was we had our dream scenario that we would get our house ASAP and and have it right when we got married, but we knew realistically we'll start looking in the summer. It might take quite a while. So whenever we do get our house, it'll be at the perfect timing. We just need to release control over it. Once we released that control, we knew that we had time. So I focused on wedding planning, but I also started to kind of just dream up a little bit of how I would like my future house to feel like, to look like, and where I would like it to be. the difference here is I was dreaming it up. I wasn't saying this has to happen this way because I do think when we have a manifestation, our job in the co-creation process is to talk about or sorry, to dream about what it is that we want and how we want it to feel. And then the actual specific details of like when exactly it happens and where exactly it happens or whatever. the details make sense for your specific manifestation, but let's say it's a house So if I am so specific that it has to be like this one street or has to happen in April or it has to happen at this exact time. And I'm so detailed on that, that can kind of take away a little bit the co-creation process. That God or the universe source has with us. Because as humans, we only know what we know in this moment. And I am not gonna sit here and pretend like I know every single detail that is going to unfold for me for my highest good. The part that I play is I get curious and I dream and I scheme and I have so much fun. praying and doing my manifestation rituals and living a life in accordance to the kind of energy that I want to call forward. But I might think I know the exact street I want my house to be on. But what if three streets down or even a few neighborhoods down, my dream house is actually there and that's where my future best friend is that I've never met before and wouldn't have met unless I got that house. Or it ends up being the perfect house that I raise my babies in and then it becomes this beautiful generational family house that is so important in our family. And so I just don't know. Or what if I'm like, it has to happen in April, the month that we get married. And then that ends up actually causing me more stress and kind of detaches me from the full capacity of joy I was meant to feel at my wedding and the presence I was meant to feel there because I'm kind of like half in this house buying process as well. Or what if I needed it to happen in April so I just I I'm so dead set on that. But then my actual dream house and dream scenario is going to happen in June. Something's going to open up. Maybe on the actual in the actual neighborhood that I want it or Or it ends up being even better than I could have imagined, it's just a slightly different date or deadline that I put on it for some reason. And so we really want to have an openness, even though it's good to be detailed and it's good to feel into what is it that we want, we want to make sure that there's this openness and there's this joy that can come from getting your manifestations in a way that is divine. There has to be some sort of magic in the process as well. so we had that idea. I started to get curious on what kind of house would I want? And at the time I was turning 31. So I thought now would be the perfect time to make or to update my vision board. Not only for the year ahead, but also kind of like for my 30s. This entire decade that's upon me, so many changes are happening. I am becoming a wife so soon. And that's a whole new identity that I'm taking on and new initiation of marriage and and just who I am now as I enter that stage. And so I created this vision board and I got really clear on how I wanted my life to feel first. It wasn't like, I need this exact thing. But it's like, okay, I know that I want my home to feel warm. I want my home to feel family friendly, the place where I will raise my own babies one day and just feel this overwhelming love and safety and protection. And so I started looking at pictures and images that really called forward the kind of things in a home that make me feel that way. And so I was pulling these images and I was doing it for other things as well, for getting pregnant and for having the kind of wedding that I wanted. I made sure I had a bride laughing, open mouth, because I was really nervous I was going to kind of have a nervous system overload on my wedding day. so I made sure that every day on my vision board I would see like this beautiful glowing bride that was just smiling, laughing. And it just made me feel, okay, this is gonna be how I'm going to feel on my wedding day. And so I was pulling all of these things and putting them on my vision board, and I made it the desktop photo for my computer. And so every single day when I would open up my computer, there's a little bit of intentionality where I would see all of these pictures and a few phrases and things. And I would just meditate on it for a second. And when I say second, I mean it. It doesn't have to be this long manifestation ritual. I literally open my laptop and before I type in my password, I just take a deep breath, look at the photos. Maybe if there's one I'm really focusing on at the moment, I'll zero in on that and I'll just kind of look at it and I'll feel the feelings that I was trying to bring forward when I put those photos on the vision board ahead of time. And I would feel those feelings as I took some deep breaths. And then I would type in my password and continue on whatever I was about to do. It was just like a small way, it's still a small way that I continue to stay in the manifestation energy no matter what. The other thing that I did was I started to get a little bit curious around where I would like my house to be. Again, this was like dream scenario. I wasn't dead set on it, but I did want to have an idea. And there was a neighborhood that is very close to my in-laws where I was living at the time. I'm talking like walking distance. And I always loved that neighborhood. And I didn't know, like, is a house ever gonna go up in the market this year? There that is in our budget, that makes sense, that has everything we're looking for. Who knows? I was definitely open to looking at other neighborhoods too. But I was like, what's the harm in playing around with this energy of desire and play and just the energy of manifestation? And so I love to go on walks. I try to go on walks every single day. So what I would do is I made a playlist of high vibe music, music that makes me feel good. And honestly, preferably music that has good lyrics as well. Mega is a really good example. Lily, gosh, what's her name? Lily Miola, Meola, she sings Daydream is a really popular one by her. just like music that is a lot to do with manifestation or just calling things forward. And so I would listen to those playlists and I would walk around the actual neighborhoods that I would have loved to buy my home in. And I was walking through every street and kind of like looking at the names of the streets, looking at the homes. And if I saw a home that looked good or a street that I felt good on, I would look around, music is playing in my ear, and I would just feel into what would it feel like to be here? What would it feel like to see my kids bike riding around the front instead of, the neighborhood kids that I'm seeing right there? What would it feel like if I wasn't just walking back to the house I'm living in now, but instead I'm actually walking to my in-laws' house to say hi to them while I'm on a walk? What would all of this feel like? And at the time I knew I kind of wanted to get a a dog soon. So I was imagining what would it be like walking my dog around here. And it just became this super fun ritual of things that made me feel good and got me into that energy of manifestation. so that was something that I did there, and I really want to point out yet again the importance of dreaming without. extreme attachment. At the same time, my husband and I were still sending each other homes as you do on Zillow and Redfin and a lot of the times, most of the time, it was in completely different neighborhoods. We were super open to looking at houses all over the area. the one thing though, we did have a few non-negotiables and for that it was we we needed to have a fenced and yard that was really important to me. And I wanted to be at least within 20 minutes driving between my family and his family. And so that was kind of the most important things to us. we started to send each other homes. And once again, like this was very early. I mean, this was the end of December. Or yeah, this was the end of December. We were sending each other houses. And like I said, we weren't gonna start officially looking and getting connected to a realtor until May or June after we got married. it was kind of like I made that vision board and I feel like a portal kind of opened up and energy just felt a little bit different. I mean, I don't know, if you've ever experienced something similar, you'll understand what I'm talking about. But I just feel like when I get really intentional around the kind of things and feelings I want to call forward. I just feel like the energy in my life feels different. Things start opening up to me, connections and opportunities start happening. And I just think that's the beauty of presence and intentionality, especially around manifesting. And so one day I sent my husband a house and it was in the neighborhood that I had been looking at. And that we had been dreaming about. And he saw it. And we both saw it. And we were like, whoa, this could be the house. there's a fenced-in yard, it's super close to his family walking distance, close to mine, still driving distance. And it was exactly in the area that I had been walking by every single day. And mind you, it's December. I mean, it's way earlier. We don't have a realtor. We don't have anything. But We just looked at each other and we're like, I think we need to go see this house. And we're like, okay, well, let's see if maybe we can connect with a redfin associate or realtor and get a tour just for fun. I mean, I was like, this is another really fun way. Like when people are trying to manifest their dream car, they go on test drives for the car, right? So they can feel that energy or a purse that they want to manifest. They go and they Go to the store and see how it feels on them. So I was like, this will be a really great way to get into that energy. we connect with a realtor and we go and we have a look at the house. I'm looking around and I just I knew instantly. I was like, holy crap, this is my house. when I went over to the kitchen sink, I could see. the full fenced in yard and I just I had this vision of my kids running around with my dog and just feeling this overwhelming sense of like, my gosh, almost like deja vu isn't the right way to put it, but just like I feel like I've been here in my dreams before and I feel like I'm meant to make it a reality. We're looking around, I go outside, I notice that there's a garden bed in the backyard and that almost looks exactly like the one on my vision board. I was like, okay, that's weird. I walk around, I notice that the walls, if you're on YouTube, you can see it, they have this little arch thing over it. And I notice that almost every picture I put on my vision board with my house has the arch. Small details, little things. I start looking around at the kitchen and there's this island in the middle of the kitchen and I'm like, my gosh, I like that's exactly what's on my vision board for my kitchen, a nice open kitchen. and I'm just like, is this did I did I predict this house? Like this house is on my vision board. And it's in the neighborhood that I wanted. And so we go upstairs and we're looking up upstairs and once again I can just envision our kids Toddlers running down the hallway to our bedroom. I look at Adam and it's like, it's a lot, right? You're not thinking of house searching for another six or so months. And all of a sudden, you know, he can see that his wife is falling absolutely in love with the house that we're seeing right now, and it seems perfect. But it also was like, okay, let's hold up. We don't have a realtor. We don't know what we're doing. We have to figure out what's actually going on here. So I was like, all right, let's let's play it cool for a second. I need to chill out. It feels like my house, but obviously this is just if anything, this is a clue that I'm on the right track and that I'm calling in the right energy. If I'm already finding houses that feel like a vibrational match to what I've been dreaming about. so I really worked on like, okay, I felt like the attachment happening. So I'm like, all right, let's back it up a little bit. I don't need to be completely attached as if this is the one and only house. Because when you start to feel like this has to happen, or I'm not going to feel happy, I think that's when manifestations can get a little funky. so I was like, there are so many beautiful houses, and this house is proof that. the kind of house that I'm looking for in budget is here. It is around me. It's it's there for me to get at the perfect time. And so we took a few days and then, I let Adam, my husband, process it as well and and think about if this is something he wanted to go for. And then a few days later he's like, listen, I can't stop talking or thinking about the house. I keep looking at the pictures. I think we need to look at it again, but this time with a realtor. And I felt that like flutter you get when it's like, my gosh, could this actually happen? So we start thinking, like, okay, well, we need a realtor. And then all of a sudden he just remembers, my gosh, my old friend from middle school has become a realtor. And for the last four years or so, I think he's like, will write me every once a while and be like, hey dude, if you're ever looking for a house, reach out to me. and let me know if you want to talk. And so he's like, let me let me message him. Side note. That is a beautiful manifestation example because this man works as a realtor. And as you know, get commission as a realtor. And so he didn't know when he messaged Adam. all those ears for four or five years, hey man, if you're ever looking for a house, blah, blah, blah, reach out. it just shows you that you never know the seeds that you're planting by reaching out to people and speaking out what it is that you want. Because who would have known that when he initially sent that message and continued to send that message, that one day he would get r responded to in a way of like, hey, I think I want to start this process. Let's do it. And then boom, that's a manifestation for him as well. So we reached out to him and we said, hey, we actually are thinking about starting this process, but we already have a house in mind. And we sent him the house and he was like, my gosh, I actually know the person that's selling this house. Not the actual seller, but the realtor that's selling this house. I work with them. And so we're like, my gosh, can you get some information for us? So he gets some information and he's like, hey, actually there's already an offer pending on the house. I'll let you know what happens with it. But now that I know what you're looking for, I'll keep looking for similar houses for you guys. And I was definitely disappointed, but I was like, you know, it is what it is. Like I said, I I love that house and now I know that it is within reach. So I kind of like released it and let it go and knew that the process was starting and that's exciting enough. And then the next day he messages us and he said, Hey, the offer actually fell through and they are looking to sell quick. Do you want to put an offer in? And Adam and I looked at each other and we're like, let's do it. And at this point, it was literally New Year's Day. It was January 1st by the time we put in our first offer. he was able to talk with, you know, our realtor was able to talk with the realtor that was selling the house and was able to really get things moving quickly. were able to negotiate back and forth just a couple times in ways that worked for both us and our family and the sellers and their family. And 26 days later, we closed. that was probably, I mean, that was our realtor said, like the easiest process he's ever gone through. think about it from his standpoint. We reached out to him with the house we already had in mind. He had the right connections it all reached out in the best way. It all worked out in the best way possible in like pretty much a seamless way. 26 days later, we closed on our very first home. And just a little magical piece on it, we closed 26 days later on my grandma's birthday. And that to me felt like such a sign. From my ancestors, that our home is protected and the season of our life is protected. And even more so because we got married, or we were about to get married in April on Adam's grandma's birthday. And so we we knew we had that protection from his side of the family too, and his ancestors blessing our marriage. And now it felt like we also had the extra protection of being blessed by my side of the family too. this next season of our life and blessing our home and and just this whole next chapter of building our family. And so moved in on Feb in February. And very quickly after that, my sister fostered this pregnant dog who had who was injured she had a broken pelvis and she was pregnant and she gave birth to the puppies actually a couple months before that. And as we were about to move into this home and as we were wedding planning, I fell in love with one of the little puppies, who is now the puppy that is sleeping on my lap right now. and it feels like my vision board is really starting to come to life because I have this beautiful focus on just the energy and the feeling that I want my life to feel like. It doesn't have to be like, I need to call in this exact thing. I really focus on how I want everything to feel. I think what's also important is before you actually have the big manifestation to do a life audit and see what other areas in your life you can start to make feel like the the feeling you're trying to get from the big manifestation. So before I even had a house, but I knew that that's what we were trying to call forward, I was making sure that my room was starting, our room that we lived in was feeling tended to, that I was. starting to decorate it in ways put some artwork up and made it feel my own and really started to have this sense of ownership that I I felt and this like responsibility I felt of creating warmth and tending to a room. It doesn't have to be a whole home yet. And so I was like, okay, this is how I would want to treat an entire house. So let me practice now by treating my room with the same respect and Adding in this warmth and this feeling of belonging for me and my husband or fiance at the time. I knew that the kind of homeowner that I wanted to be was healthy and happy and took care of herself. And so I made sure that as I was living in my in-laws' house, I was healthy and happy and taking care of myself, going on those daily walks, making sure I'm in a high vibrational feeling. Quite often. Obviously, there's still high vibrational doesn't mean that you don't let yourself feel sadness or that there's spiritual bypassing going on. Rather, it means that you are allowing yourself to constantly come back to the feelings that you're trying to come forward. And even in the moments where you're feeling down, you know that that's just a feeling that's gonna pass, and you can come back to your baseline feeling that you have started to create for yourself. going on that high vibe walk, listening to the good music, being in that energy. I started cooking more and cooking different things and kind of challenging myself out of my comfort zone, especially as someone who used to really struggle with cooking anxiety. I was kind of pushing myself and challenging myself to cook more for his family and and just try different things because I'm like once I'm a homeowner, I'm gonna be cooking more and I'm gonna be having people over. So that was a fun experience. And then also just another side note is it's so important to make sure that your life is being supported in other ways as well. Because like not because everything is connected. I would not have the house that I have today if I hadn't have made sure that I picked a partner who had the same values as me and who wanted to push us to be the best versions of ourselves these last few years. Adam has really made sure, you know, we made the decision to move back. We were living in an apartment in Atlanta, which was so fun. We had an awesome apartment in an awesome location. And we made the decision as a couple to move in with his family, who we absolutely love, but it definitely, you know, it's not Atlanta. It's not as cool of a location. But we're like, let's move back and save money, pay off debt, and create this safety, this financial safety in our future marriage. So we can do things like buy our house one day in the neighborhood that we want or in a neighborhood that is a dream to us. So because I made sure in my life to have that backup support of having a partner that really is so smart with his money and pushes me to make better financial decisions as well. And we work together as a team to really build things in this beginning stages of our marriage and our family life, it has really blessed us with the opportunity to be able to manifest the house in a much quicker way than we thought. thoughts and ever dream to be possible. And so just making sure that the decisions that you're making in your life now, the people you surround yourself with, the friends you surround yourself with, the boundaries that you put up with other people, the partner that you choose to begin your life with, like the rest of your life with, those are huge decisions. We are A sum of the people that we surround ourselves with and energy is real. And so we need to make sure we are around people that fill us up with joy and support and love. And it protects our own energy instead of being around people that drain our energy or that bring us down or don't think that it's possible, right? I needed to really make sure when I told people we were gonna start the house buying process that I wasn't telling people that would make me feel like what I was asking for wasn't possible or it was going to be very, very hard to attain. And when I realized that some people in my life would tell me like immediately just horror stories about the house buying process or why right now is a horrible time to buy a house or that there's absolutely no way I'm gonna get the house that I want for the budget that we have, I made sure to cut that off very quickly and to stop bringing it up with them And I I really believe that we should be protecting our manifestations to some degree. It doesn't mean we need to hold everything tight and not share what we're going through and what we're working towards with people, but we do want to be a little bit picky with the people that we share our big dreams with and the things that we're really calling forward because that energy around it, it's so precious. There's this season of life when we're calling something forward. It's it's really a time where we want to make sure that we're only sharing it with people that are expanders in our life. They are not only supporting us and cheering us on, but they're making us think even bigger. like there's no doubt in their mind that you can absolutely make this happen. And they're even taking it a step further. They're pushing you to keep going, to keep dreaming. A little bit bigger to keep expanding your mind for what it is possible to do and what you are possible to bring forward. And if anyone else in your life is showing that they don't think it's possible or they don't think that it's the right time or they want you to be more realistic, they're probably, probably doing it because they love you and they care about you and they don't want to see you fail. But and and sometimes they might just be saying it because. They really don't want to see you succeed. And those people you really want to protect your manifestations from and probably block off your energy almost completely from them. But the people in your life that mean well but want you to stay small, you don't need to share it with them until things are really coming into fruition. That's totally fine. Okay, that's the episode for you guys. Today I really hope that. You have something to take away. And of course, my Instagram is at energy with Alex. So please reach out and let me know what it is that you've been working on, what you are calling forward in this season of your life. And we can talk about it, cheer each other on, and just support each other in this beautiful journey. All right. Thank you so much for listening, and I will talk to you soon. Bye. Thank you so much for tuning in to another episode of the Energy with Alex podcast. If you loved this conversation, it would mean so much if you could share it with your community and rate, and subscribe to the podcast so that I can continue having these incredible conversations every single week. I will see you next Thursday.