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Hypnosis to Harness Defiance for Good · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  that was created for a client, that they had this feeling that
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  people were out to get them, that there was this verge of
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  them being punished or confronted.
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  And they didn't really like that feeling.
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  And it came from a very rational place.
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  They had experienced abuse in their childhood when they were
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  in school. Their father was quite abusive
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  verbally, but also physically. And because of that, there was
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  this feeling of being attacked and that was going way beyond,
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  you know, just the context that it was actually happening, which
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  was their childhood. And alongside that, what had
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  happened is they had a very defiant nature because sometimes
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  when people are oppressed or unfairly treated, they can
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  either become weak or they can become strong.
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  And defiance is quite a strong emotion.
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  If you think about oppressed people in any part of the world,
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  it gives a certain kind of stoic feeling of defiance that they
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  will overcome the odds and they will dig deep within.
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  So defiance can be quite a resourceful state.
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  But in this case it was being used almost to punish
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  themselves. So part of them was defiant and
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  a part of them was becoming the source of punishment and harsh
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  criticism that they experienced. So they had very harsh in a, in
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  a dialogue, they would remind themselves of their mistakes.
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  They would replay situations that were awkward, embarrassing,
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  and that obviously was kind of draining them.
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  So what you're going to hear in this session is a combination of
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  different modalities. There's in a child work, which
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  is what it starts with. That's really important because
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  all of this came from experiences in their childhood.
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  There's an element of parts integration therapy, so working
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  with the conflicted parts to try and make them more harmonious
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  and move towards something very positive.
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  This particular client believed in heaven, and one of the people
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  that I think is quite well known that represents a defiant
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  archetype is a guy called David Goggins.
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  And if you're familiar with David Goggins, he's a very
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  extreme character. The title of his book is called
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  Can't Hurt Me, which gives you an idea of that kind of defiant
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  nature. And I could see parallels
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  between David Goggins and the client that I was working with.
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  And there's a very famous thing that David Goggin says in one of
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  the Joe Rogan podcasts about how he was able to harness this
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  defiant nature. And he talks about arriving in
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  heaven and being shown all of these incredible accomplishments
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  and then figuring out that that's the version of him that
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  he could have been. And he was able to harness this
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  defiant nature to accomplish very difficult, challenging
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  things. So he was able to harness it for
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  a powerful, empowering way rather than just an aggressive
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  way. Some define people just become
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  belligerent and and rude all the time.
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  They see conflict with other people, but it can be harnessed
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  positively. So I take that and use it as a a
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  way of them framing that if they continue with this pathway that
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  they're on, then they might feel drained, but they also might
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  feel like all of this worry about conflict prevented them
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  from actually doing what they actually wanted to do with their
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  life. And that is they had a deep
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  feeling that they were going to be great and accomplish a lot.
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  So it's really designed to do this.
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  So part of it is a compelling vision for the future and part
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  of it is parts integration therapy and some in the child
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  work as well. This will resonate most with
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  people that feel life is treating them unfairly, that
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  people are out to get them. People don't have confidence in
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  them and everyone at some level has this polarity response where
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  if people doubt them, they've got this desire to prove them
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  wrong. So it can be harnessed in a very
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  good, powerful way. And that's what's going on in
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  this session. And I want you to think about
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  who doubts you, who wants to see you fail because that way by
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  thinking about those people that can harness this defiant nature
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  in a really positive way for you to.
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  Obviously it was created for an individual circumstances.
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  This client did experience physical abuse that might not
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  have been your past. So just ignore any suggestions
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  that aren't relevant. Hone into any empowering
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  suggestions that are and if you do like the idea of a bespoke
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  session working with me, have a little look in the show notes or
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  check out my website adamcox.co.uk and you'll see a
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  link where you can book a free consultation call and we can
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  have a chat. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that feeling of calm relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, just allow yourself to feel like you're
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  drifting into a place of relaxation.
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  Breathing in what feels useful, resourceful, and exhaling.
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  Anything that feels like it's been draining you.
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  Anything that feels like it's stealing your energy, just allow
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  that thing to leave your body in your outward breath.
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  Scan your body for any clues of not just tension, but
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  sensations, pressures, and give permission to any sensations,
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  tensions, stresses or strains to melt away, to be released, to
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  let go. And just allow it to leave your
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  body in that outward breath, enabling you to feel deeper and
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  deeper, relaxed. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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  the deeper you breathe. And I wonder if you can use the
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  power of your imagination to imagine an old photo album you
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  remember, the ones leather bound, small photographs in
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  plastic sleeves. Just imagine flicking through
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  that photo album. And I want you to see yourself
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  at a very young age, maybe three or four or five a time when life
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  was kind. See yourself with no need to be
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  defiant or tough. And if you can see a photo of
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  yourself like that, just let me know by nodding your head.
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  I don't want you to imagine going back almost like you're
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  stepping into a photo, seeing that younger version of you
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  before there was too much injustice, cruelty, even abuse.
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  I want you to imagine giving that younger version of you
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  either some advice, insight, or perhaps a resource that would
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  mean that any future injustice punishment could be harnessed in
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  a powerful, positive way. They say the strongest trees
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  have weathered the fiercest storms.
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  I want you to get a sense. Then the gift you're giving that
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  younger version of you is to harness.
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  Harness things that you know will happen in a way that works
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  for you, not against you. You don't have to know exactly
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  what that is. It could just be an essence, an
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  energy, a resource, a quality, and see that younger version of
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  you taking that resource. Jump out of the photo and flick
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  through the photo album and I want you to see a picture of you
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  covered in bruises, perhaps alone in a room, and then jump
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  into that photo. At your current age, with all of
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  your experiences, I want you to see that younger version of you
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  and you know that they are in a particular emotional state.
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  Maybe there is clues of anger, sadness or defiance.
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  You are the only one that can truly empathise because this is
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  your past. But this is past plus
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  perspective. You're able to see that same
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  moment different now because of everything that's followed.
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  I want you to let that younger version of you know that what
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  happened was not acceptable, fair or OK, and that sometimes
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  life is just like that, cruel and unfair.
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  But sometimes the unfairness presents you with a gift.
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  Much like a Trojan horse had something hidden inside, what if
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  these harsh, unfair experiences also had something valuable
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  hidden inside? We need to tell that younger
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  version of you then. Not everyone is out to get them.
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  We need to tell that younger version of you then.
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  Pain is temporary and suffering is optional.
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  That the only tragedy here be if temporary pain and optional
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  suffering is carried with them like a heavyweight on their
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  back, continuing to drain energy long after these moments.
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  I want you to get a sense that that younger version of you is
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  realising what if they can take the useful stuff and leave the
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  rest? Like the old pioneers panning
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  for gold. We kept the Nuggets of gold and
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  all of that silt and stones, pebbles and soil.
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  They got thrown away. What if you're able to take the
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  Nuggets of gold from your past and leave all the rest to be
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  washed away in a stream? Breathe in and breathe down.
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  And I want you to tell yourself the words that you wanted to
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  hear back then. Positive, encouraging words.
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  Not words that toughen you up. Words that just are an echo
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  Chamber of the stuff they've heard from other people, but
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  what you really needed to hear back then.
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  Maybe that they are loved, worthy, destined for great
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  things. That at some point all of this
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  will make sense, that will help rather than hinder.
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  I want you to give that younger version of you a gift.
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  The gift of extracting wisdom. Without this gift, this child
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  would become an adult that just replays mistakes on a loop again
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  and again. But all it takes to turn that
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  into the gift of wisdom is to play different scenarios of how
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  you would have wanted it to have been.
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  You're giving this gift to a younger version of you, which
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  means then you still possess that gift even now because you
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  gave it to a version of you in your past.
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  So let's try that out. Think of a recent mistake that
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  you've been replaying, but this time the mistake is only
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  replayed once and the next thought is how it could be done
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  different either from a third person perspective or a first
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  person perspective. All the different connotations,
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  iterations. You can include different
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  variables, your emotions are different, your decisions are
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  different. You can even change the
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  chronology. Sometimes the same thing is
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  happening with a different sequence.
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  Change everything. Sometimes the same word said
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  with a different tonality change everything.
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  And notice when you replay a mistake with constant
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  connotations, you become like Goldilocks, testing 50 different
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  bowls of porridge until you find the one that is exactly the
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  right one. And when you find the right one,
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  that becomes the one that you relive.
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  So you're training your mind to get better and better in all
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  areas of your life. That part wanted.
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  High standards will now utilise this strategy to really give you
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  high standards. High standards doesn't come from
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  reminding someone of a mistake, it comes from learning from a
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  mistake. And if that part has been
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  responsible for replaying these mistakes, is now willing to
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  evolve them to learn from them. Let me know by nodding your head
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  and when you think of future scenarios, it won't be people
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  attacking you, criticising you, going against you.
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  I want you to see scenarios of collaboration and harmony, of
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  using communication and compromise, not conflict.
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  To take things forward. Because if we can extract wisdom
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  from the past and prime for collaboration rather than
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  conflict, isn't it the case that you need less of that adrenaline
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  in your blood because there is no opponent to fight?
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  In fact, there is only one opponent, the future version of
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  you that gets trapped in a cycle of shame and criticism and self
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  loathing. Find yourself back there looking
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  that photo album. But I want you to go right to
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  the end of the photo album, seeing you perhaps in your 80s,
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  nineties or older, on your deathbed, see yourself just on
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  the verge of dying. And you get a sense then that
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  version of you could be many different people, In fact
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  infinite connotations of that version of you.
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  But I want you to see that version of you at the very end
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  of your life. And I want you to imagine
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  accompanying that version of you that passes from this life into
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  the afterlife, accompany that version into heaven.
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  I want you to imagine God is showing you, you and them all of
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  the incredible impact, accomplishments, significant
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  things that you've done, wonderful things.
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  And I want you to get a sense that some of them don't feel
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  real. And you can see that older
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  version of you confused, asking God, what are all these things?
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  And then God letting that older version of you know this is the
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  person you were meant to be, the person of you that you were
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  supposed to be, and feel like you're extracting that wisdom
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  now. Mistakes aren't getting things
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  wrong. The only mistake is to live a
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  life that you would regret. But if you either win or you
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  learn, the only way to have a truly regretful life is to not
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  even try to do these things that you would want to do.
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  I want you to feel that knowing what you now know, what if you
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  get to go back to the present moment and make a change?
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  To find harmony and alliances within yourself rather than
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  conflict. For many years now you've been
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  fighting yourself, but you are not the enemy.
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  I'm going to ask all of your unconscious parts if they are
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  now willing to work in harmony, in collaboration.
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  To steer your future self into a version of you that is filled
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  with pride, accomplishment, purpose and fulfilment.
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  And if these parts are willing to take all of this energy
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  that's been used for internal squabbling and now deploy it to
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  move your life forward where your only enemy is avoiding the
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  person that you don't want to be.
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  So if all parts are willing to work in harmony towards that
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  goal, being a version of you that you're proud of, let me
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  know by nodding your head. And every now and then these
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  parts will fall into old habits, and that's OK, so long as you
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  learn from them. Progress isn't a straight line.
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  Sometimes it's 2 steps forward, one step back.
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  This isn't a reason for inner criticism, it's a reason for re
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  evaluation, re galvanizing. What if you, as the conscious
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  mind, are a general of unconscious troops?
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  Don't you need a mission of vision to galvanise all of those
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  unconscious parts to 1 grand mission?
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  Have that eye on that prize moving forward, perhaps with
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  things that have to be challenging, stimulating,
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  exciting. Too easy.
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  These parts get bored. These parts that thrive on
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  proving people wrong, going against the odds they've been
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  bored. They need something to challenge
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  them and stimulate them. And since you're the general,
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  only you decide what the mission is and then manage those
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  unconscious troops towards mission after mission that takes
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  your life into a wonderful, positive new direction.
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  And as you flip back through the pages, see us some of those
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  photos that haven't happened yet, showing moments of
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  accomplishment, of pride, of harmony, the things that would
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  make your life full of meaning, wonderful sense of pride and
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  accomplishment. There'll be clues and memories
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  that haven't happened yet. And if you get a sense of things
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  that would take you out of the comfort zone where you get to
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  deploy these resources that have been spent internally squabbling
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  to now pursue something challenging but meaningful.
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  If you have an idea of what these things could be.
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  Or maybe just let me know about nodding your head.
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  And remember, not enough challenges.
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  These parts get bored and will start to squabble with
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  themselves again. You're the general galvanise
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  these unconscious troops towards big missions, big goals, big
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  challenges that enrich your life and move you forward.
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  And with that in mind, just imagine closing that photo
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  album. But as you do, imagine walking
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  around in your imagination, feeling lighter, feeling like a
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  big heavy bag that you've been carrying around for years, that
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  may even feel like emotional baggage, or even a suit of
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  armour designed to keep you safe isn't necessary anymore to leave
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  that bag or that suit of armour behind.
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  You needed it then, you don't need it now.
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  And in doing so you will have more energy, better sleep, you
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  will feel safe and comfortable and have the feeling that people
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  want to help you. People like you, they want you
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  to do well and therefore you will project an evolved version
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  of yourself that is wired for collaboration, not conflict.
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  Time to return to the present moment, but taking these changes
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  with you. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Start to connect and calibrate in the here and the now as I now
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  count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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