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Hayden Panettiere · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, are
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  Speaker 1: you surprised by the passing of Hayden Panettier, Well.
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  Speaker 2: Let's ask our American mama's.
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  Speaker 3: Mama, and is now our American mama's Terry Neteville.
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  Speaker 1: I was. I watched Hayden Panettier in the TV show Heroes,
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  Speaker 1: which was it was one of my favorite shows that
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  Speaker 1: got ruined by the writers strike.
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  Speaker 2: Oh remember that the show, but everyone talks about it now.
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  Speaker 1: The first season absolutely amazing. Hayden panere was the star
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  Speaker 1: of it. She was, you know, one of the the
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  Speaker 1: central characters and her character could heal. And then the
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  Speaker 1: second and third season, the writer strike came and it
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  Speaker 1: was just it was never as good. Yeah, but but
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  Speaker 1: she was, you know, she was a pretty big star.
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  Speaker 1: But I think you could always from a fairly early time,
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  Speaker 1: you could tell she was struggling.
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  Speaker 2: With stuff, Yeah, you could, you know. I remember I
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  Speaker 2: fell in love with her as an actress, remember the Titans.
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  Speaker 2: And then she was on the movie with Denzel Washington, Yes,
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  Speaker 2: and then Nashville, and I thought she was a beautiful singer.
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  Speaker 2: She's a beautiful person. But if you go back and
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  Speaker 2: you see her as a little bitty girl on like
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  Speaker 2: Rosie O'Donnell. She was adorable and I mean you could
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  Speaker 2: just see that that she was full of life. She
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  Speaker 2: had a talent, a true gift inside of her to
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  Speaker 2: be a performer. But as she aged, you saw her
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  Speaker 2: go out partying with Paris Hilton. She was fifteen years old, smoking,
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  Speaker 2: drinking with a lot of adults. And then suddenly you
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  Speaker 2: started hearing the whispers of her drug use and her
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  Speaker 2: you know, after her brother died in his thirties. You know,
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  Speaker 2: in recent years, they said that just killed her and
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  Speaker 2: she just turned to drugs. And she had an abusive
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  Speaker 2: boyfriend who was actually with her on again, off again.
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  Speaker 1: On again, off again. But yeah, she talked to her
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  Speaker 1: memoir about that was an abusive relationship. And yet look,
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  Speaker 1: she was a smart lady. Yeah she wasn't a complete idiot,
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  Speaker 1: but she did things that she knew weren't right, and
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  Speaker 1: going back to a guy that had been abusive, going
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  Speaker 1: back to drugs over and over. I remember back when
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  Speaker 1: she was either late teens, early twenties, there was a
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  Speaker 1: clip I saw on TMZ and there's a Papa Razzi
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  Speaker 1: saw her out walking in La with some other people
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  Speaker 1: and they go, hey, Lindsay, Lindsay Lohan, Lindsay, and she
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  Speaker 1: got she turned was it, do not call me her.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be associated with any of that.
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  Speaker 1: And what I got the feeling at the time was
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  Speaker 1: because that was when Lindsay Lohan was at her lowest,
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  Speaker 1: just absolute rock bottom, and all of us were fairly
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  Speaker 1: convinced Lindsay Lohan wasn't long for this world. And I thought,
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  Speaker 1: you know, this is a girl who doesn't want to
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  Speaker 1: fall into that. And that was what was clear, was
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  Speaker 1: that she did not want to be confused at the
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  Speaker 1: time with somebody who was at rock bottom, and yet
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  Speaker 1: she did.
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  Speaker 2: That happens to a lot of these childhood stars, like
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  Speaker 2: you said, Lindsay Lohan, Ariana Grande, the singer that's Miley Cyrus.
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  Speaker 2: All of these young actors and actresses that come up,
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  Speaker 2: especially on Nickelodeon or Disney, they end up harming themselves.
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  Speaker 2: But what we have since discovered is they are surrounded
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  Speaker 2: by predators and perverts. They are introduced to a world
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  Speaker 2: that is not that their brain and their spirit is
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  Speaker 2: not ready for. And so I would never let my
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  Speaker 2: child or my grandchild be a part of anything like that,
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  Speaker 2: because now we see over and over even those who
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  Speaker 2: are still successful, like Justin Bieber, who are you know,
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  Speaker 2: wildly rich and successful, but you can see they've got
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  Speaker 2: demons inside of the deal with the damage. And the
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  Speaker 2: thing with Hayden, though, is she had a mamager. This
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  Speaker 2: mom of hers was a soap opera actress who didn't
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  Speaker 2: make it. So her ticket, her meal ticket, was Hayden. Right.
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  Speaker 2: When Hayden turned nineteen years old, she decided to confront
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  Speaker 2: her mom and say, look, mom, I don't I'd rather
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  Speaker 2: have a mom than a manager. Yeah, And the mom said,
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  Speaker 2: you owe me. That's what Hayden said in her book.
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  Speaker 2: Her mother responded, you owe me. So she felt used
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  Speaker 2: and abused. And here's the thing about her boyfriend and
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  Speaker 2: people like her. You think, oh, you know, abusive relationships,
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  Speaker 2: that's just for the you know, the poor, or you know,
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  Speaker 2: that's just for weak women. There are strong women like
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  Speaker 2: Hayden who are abused and they continue, for whatever reason,
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  Speaker 2: to go back to that abuser unless.
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  Speaker 1: You're able to heal those wounds. Yeah, to really heal
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  Speaker 1: those wounds. They're still open, right, you know, I was
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  Speaker 1: talking to who I was doing some counseling with someone
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  Speaker 1: for lack of a better word, and I was talking
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  Speaker 1: to them about this, and I said, if I bet you,
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  Speaker 1: there's probably if I just said one sentence that was
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  Speaker 1: the wrong sentence to you, it would be like I'm
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  Speaker 1: stabbing you in the gut. And she went yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: I said, that is something that's got to be healed.
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  Speaker 1: Otherwise that becomes a mechanism by which you can be manipulated,
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  Speaker 1: by which you can't fall, by which you can be attacked.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, And then think about people like Hayden who they
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  Speaker 2: had all that love and adoration at a young age,
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  Speaker 2: and then they peter out. They don't get that anymore,
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  Speaker 2: they don't have any money, and all they can do
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  Speaker 2: is turn to drugs and turn to harm themselves.
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  Speaker 1: And what is highly unusual. All that love and adoration
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  Speaker 1: they start to think of as being normal, and when
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  Speaker 1: it's gone, they then feel abnormal. Yeah, very sad. I
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  Speaker 1: wish she'd had a better ending. But if you like us, Skermerica.
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  Speaker 1: MoMA's button turned ed. Thank you so much, thank you,