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DLHS Hour 2 | Should stepparents spank stepchildren · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: You think it's okay for a step child to be
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  Speaker 1: dissat by that step parent.
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  Speaker 2: Now, my father, I would I didn't even know he.
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  Speaker 1: Was my stepfather, so that would have it would have
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  Speaker 1: just been once I found out he's my stepfather, it
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  Speaker 1: was kind of hard for me to take an ass
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  Speaker 1: whooping from.
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  Speaker 3: But it wasn't hard for you to give him a reason.
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  Speaker 1: I looked at him differently when he hit me and
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  Speaker 1: I found out that he was he was my real father.
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  Speaker 2: But he took care of you. Yeah, yeah, he hit
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  Speaker 2: me harder than he did everybody else, though, but you
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  Speaker 2: probably did.
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  Speaker 3: You not deserve it. I mean, I know some of
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  Speaker 3: your stories. I've even a couple of excerpts from your
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  Speaker 3: upcoming books.
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  Speaker 1: It sounds like feeling prophecies because was I bad because
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  Speaker 1: of my circumstances or was I bad because because I
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  Speaker 1: firmly believe it's not the child that starts off being bad.
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  Speaker 2: I think that you you know, I believe them.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Well, my thing is, I don't care where it came from.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's not where you're from, it's where ye at.
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  Speaker 3: So to me, I'm just saying you're acting up, you know, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I agree, I think.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think you had the right. He is knocking
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  Speaker 1: my mama off and he had the.
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  Speaker 5: Right to do.
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  Speaker 2: My God, is that the over here? I love him?
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  Speaker 1: I love him, I did, but h and I didn't
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  Speaker 1: look at him differently? Skip, you gotta you've got a
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  Speaker 1: couple of daddies. Do you think that that the step
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  Speaker 1: parents should be able to up their step child?
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  Speaker 2: Uh? Do you think that's so?
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  Speaker 6: Here's the thing in this particular situation, the father of
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  Speaker 6: the child gave his new wife permission to handle business.
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  Speaker 2: So that what mama?
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, definitely, yeah, yeah, yeah, I said before
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  Speaker 1: we had to snare with the woman.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah. So he was like, I ain't here.
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  Speaker 2: This chick is disrespectful. She's my daughter. You got permission
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  Speaker 2: to put them palls on them?
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  Speaker 4: Okay?
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  Speaker 2: I bet you? What if you want a new car
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  Speaker 2: or dress or something something to eat? You want me?
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  Speaker 2: You want to go to Disneyland? I bet you asked
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  Speaker 2: me for some money? I bet you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think that if that parent loves that child, or
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  Speaker 1: even if they don't love them and they're raising them, well,
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  Speaker 1: then you put yeah, I think so you think it's
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  Speaker 1: okay for a step child to be dissay by that
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  Speaker 1: step parent there. This is pretty a pretty a fairly
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  Speaker 1: occurring phenomenon right there. Family, blended families and all that
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  Speaker 1: kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I think so for sure.
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  Speaker 1: And I think one of the quickest ways to make
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  Speaker 1: people feel a part of the family is to knock
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  Speaker 1: the head on them, just like you would your real kids.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean. Stepped into this family
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  Speaker 2: step in.
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  Speaker 3: Right, right, it's like equal opportunity distributing equally around here.
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  Speaker 1: Your daddy's handing out headaches, you better go get you one.
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  Speaker 3: But I also think if you if you don't have
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  Speaker 3: that ability or that room, I think it can it
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  Speaker 3: can break your marriage up, absolutely because you have that
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  Speaker 3: kid who's bad anything. Absolutely, that's what your real daddy left. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you can't invite people over because the kids acting up
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  Speaker 3: the grocery store. You got the baby and then she's
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  Speaker 3: just throwing.
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  Speaker 1: But I was my father. I was born to my
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  Speaker 1: father like I was when I was born. I was
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  Speaker 1: his like I never knew anybody else, like he was
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  Speaker 1: when I was born. He was with my mother when
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  Speaker 1: I was born, so I didn't he was even biologically
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  Speaker 1: was my father.
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  Speaker 2: He was my father, you know. What I mean.
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  Speaker 1: But I didn't know my real father's family was rich.
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  Speaker 1: Otherwise I left that long long time ago. I spent
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  Speaker 1: all this time rehaving your last name and you're crazy.
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  Speaker 1: My property brothers this last name, and you know what
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  Speaker 1: happened not to Misserable.
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  Speaker 2: How does it make the real kids feel? You know,
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  Speaker 2: they get Yeah, and the.
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  Speaker 1: Real kids they are real kids.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean yeah, not these AI kids.
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  Speaker 4: Not there.
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  Speaker 2: We don't have.
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  Speaker 1: You think your stepparent should be able to discipline the stepchild.
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  Speaker 1: That's the question with posing to we gonna write their phones.
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  Speaker 5: The mama don't have in the home train because when
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  Speaker 5: we was coming up, you respect everybody, regardless who it was.
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  Speaker 5: And the daddy said of such to tie down. Told look,
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  Speaker 5: this is who I'm with. This is my wife. Either
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  Speaker 5: you respect her or we're gonna have problems. And I
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  Speaker 5: will tell his girlfriend asks for whoever it is, Hey,
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  Speaker 5: you just gonna have to accept this. I have plenty
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  Speaker 5: of ends and out. I never had a problem with
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  Speaker 5: anybody kids, because you talk to them to make them understand.
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  Speaker 5: But the mama's the one that got the problem. That's
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  Speaker 5: why they tried. At the way she acts towards that the.
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  Speaker 7: Stepmom because of the mother.
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  Speaker 4: I've been a stepfather for about ten years now, and
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  Speaker 4: I don't quite agree with a stepparent whooping that stepchild.
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  Speaker 4: And my reasoning for that is because I say that
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  Speaker 4: because I just don't agree with it. Like anytime I
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  Speaker 4: have any problem with my stepchildren, I immediately go to
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  Speaker 4: my wife or I call their father. I mean, that's
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  Speaker 4: not my place. I didn't help make them. I've helped
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  Speaker 4: raise them, true enough, but I just don't feel comfortable
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  Speaker 4: putting my hand on my step daughter. That's not my place.
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  Speaker 4: And I mean, I don't know, that's just me.
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  Speaker 8: No, I do not think a step parent or a
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  Speaker 8: girlfriend should be able or boyfriend should be able to
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  Speaker 8: discipline another person child, especially when they specifically act no,
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  Speaker 8: because then that's their right to say. As a current, No,
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  Speaker 8: I don't want nobody put in their hands on my child.
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  Speaker 8: And if my child do something, yeah, let me correct them.
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  Speaker 8: As far as living with, I do agree on the
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  Speaker 8: aspect when you say that if I can't discipline this child,
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  Speaker 8: then a child can't be in my house. True, So
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  Speaker 8: then that other current is the man up and take
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  Speaker 8: care of that child. If nobody can't la you know
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  Speaker 8: if they cannot discipline in that child, because you're right,
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  Speaker 8: you can't let somebody just terrorize your home.
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  Speaker 9: That's how needs a spanking, Then you're gonna get one.
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  Speaker 10: Period.
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  Speaker 9: This is a lot of times. This is why you
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  Speaker 9: have single men and single women who don't want to
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  Speaker 9: be bothered with people who have children to start with,
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  Speaker 9: because they're not allowed to discipline. But I'm paying bills,
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  Speaker 9: you're living under my roof, and you need that butt whip,
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  Speaker 9: You're gonna get it. That's it.
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  Speaker 5: Discipline absolutely, chest ties, absolutely not.
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  Speaker 7: Do you know how many kids get abused by permission?
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  Speaker 10: Not at all?
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  Speaker 7: Can't give up no permission?
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  Speaker 4: No, that's not okay.
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  Speaker 8: You can discipline them, but you don't chest chase my child,
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  Speaker 8: don't put chands.
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  Speaker 9: On my child.
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  Speaker 11: Hey, yeah, it should be okay as long as the
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  Speaker 11: child has been hit on their backside, their butt.
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  Speaker 10: And no bruises are left, why shouldn't it be okay?
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  Speaker 10: I'm all for it.
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  Speaker 12: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: We used to have a billit raising the children. Now
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  Speaker 7: it's just individual people, so now yeah, it's.
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  Speaker 10: Okay, it should be okay.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: I experienced having a step parent as I was growing up,
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  Speaker 7: and I just in my opinion. I feel like it
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  Speaker 7: takes a village to raise a child.
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  Speaker 8: However, if the mom or the dad has asked you
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  Speaker 8: not to let your.
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  Speaker 7: Significant other put their hands or their child, I think
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  Speaker 7: you should respect that.
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  Speaker 2: So the question we're asking Lendjum hits the scenario something
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  Speaker 2: I don't condone.
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  Speaker 13: And I told him that I don't want nobody to
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  Speaker 13: putting their hands on my daughter but me because I'm
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  Speaker 13: the mother.
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  Speaker 2: So what makes you feel like you could do that? Understood?
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  Speaker 13: First off, it was something you trul between me and
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  Speaker 13: the father because your daughter was being disrespectful.
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  Speaker 10: She could Okay, this is my theme.
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  Speaker 13: My daughter is not disrespectful, and even if she wasn't disrespectful,
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  Speaker 13: I told him to not let nobody to put.
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  Speaker 3: Their hands on my daughter.
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  Speaker 13: Okay, at the end of the day, your daughter's not
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  Speaker 13: disrespectful to you because you're her mother, and.
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  Speaker 2: I guess the ways that she's learning you're teaching her.
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  Speaker 7: However, to tell you got.
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  Speaker 13: That say that can't talk together, we see together together.
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  Speaker 2: But what I'm telling you is valiant.
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  Speaker 13: I'm okay, so why you let her put her hands
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  Speaker 13: on her?
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  Speaker 4: Order?
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  Speaker 13: Because you know what I'm doing here. I'm checking your
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  Speaker 13: wife because she feels like she got out started to.
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  Speaker 2: Put her hands on my starting right there. Because first off,
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  Speaker 2: she was being disrespectful, disrespectful, I gave her.
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  Speaker 13: Why did you no, no, why did you displan her?
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  Speaker 8: Now I'm not.
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  Speaker 3: Talking to you right now.
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  Speaker 2: Why did you discipline her? Because you're the damn daddy because.
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  Speaker 11: I wasn't here.
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  Speaker 13: Okay, well, next time.
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  Speaker 2: Call me or something.
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  Speaker 1: You think a step child should be able to be
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  Speaker 1: disciplined by steppairent go right to the phones that.
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  Speaker 10: But that's my thought.
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  Speaker 12: Been there, done that, and I think you just need
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  Speaker 12: to go ahead and and let that mother, that sept
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  Speaker 12: mom know that uh hey, she is in charge of
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  Speaker 12: that child when that child is.
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  Speaker 4: With her, so yes, take her down.
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  Speaker 14: Well, I don't believe in corporate punishment on no left,
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  Speaker 14: but I have two grown kids, forty two and forty six.
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  Speaker 14: They're very successful. I'm there biological paring and I again
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  Speaker 14: either of them. Now, I think step parents should have
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  Speaker 14: that decision done before they get married. Are you going
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  Speaker 14: to hit my child? I don't allow nobody to hit
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  Speaker 14: my child. That should be set up before the marriage.
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  Speaker 8: It's the other parent is active. The stepparent has no right.
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  Speaker 13: To touch that child, especially if the other parent is actor.
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  Speaker 13: That is up to you in this case the dad to.
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  Speaker 7: Handle that situation is give the two moms, the stepmom
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  Speaker 7: and the extual mom if they don't have a relationship
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  Speaker 7: like that.
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  Speaker 13: Me I am a step parent and there are times
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  Speaker 13: I would call their mother a we had that type
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  Speaker 13: of relationship and I'm like, this is what's going on?
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  Speaker 8: Boot the U and then they handle it. Or in
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  Speaker 8: the case of I could go to the dad.
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  Speaker 2: I can go to either parent when it's not like
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  Speaker 2: my biological child. But we don't have that issue.
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  Speaker 8: So I think the parents need to work on their
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  Speaker 8: communication and their relationship.
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  Speaker 7: But at the end of the day, you.
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  Speaker 8: Don't need to put no hands on no child. They
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  Speaker 8: ain't come out of you.
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  Speaker 7: As a female, I have a daughter and you do
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  Speaker 7: have a step and I told the stepfather if whoever
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  Speaker 7: your life put your heads on my kid.
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  Speaker 10: We gonna have a personal fault. But your stepfather did
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  Speaker 10: call my phone and he told me, mall and look,
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  Speaker 10: this is what happened. I walked home, open the door.
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  Speaker 10: Your daughter's inside the house with.
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  Speaker 7: A with a fourteen old boy. He took the boy
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  Speaker 7: out and he called me and I told him to
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  Speaker 7: whoop clients, and when I got there, I will pass
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  Speaker 7: and certain stuff you can do and certain stuff you
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  Speaker 7: take them. And to that mother who said, oh, my daughter,
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  Speaker 7: don't be disrespectful. You don't know how your daughter is
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  Speaker 7: when you're not around, I.
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  Speaker 6: Feel like it really depends on if the step parent
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  Speaker 6: is married to the step of the stepparent at night.
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  Speaker 6: If I got married, don't touch my child. But I
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  Speaker 6: got married, and okay, like you just he's just as
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  Speaker 6: much as I'm a parent I am to my child.
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  Speaker 11: I personally don't think step parents should whoop their kids,
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  Speaker 11: but apparently my mom out their friend because she used
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  Speaker 11: to let her ex husband beat the crap out of me,
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  Speaker 11: but had mom would let it ride. I never approved
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  Speaker 11: of it, even as I got older.
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  Speaker 4: I just feel like, you know, step parents shouldn't shouldn't
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  Speaker 4: have to put.
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  Speaker 11: Their hands on somebody else's kids unless there's an understanding
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  Speaker 11: between that other parent. With all three parties,