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FOCUS: 10 things you should know about yourself · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: Hello, beautiful beans, and welcome to this focused episode. So
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  Speaker 1: this focus episode is an extract from one of my
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  Speaker 1: older episodes, just to bring it to the forefront and
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  Speaker 1: remind you for topic that is really important that I've
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  Speaker 1: spoken about in the past. If you would like to
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  Speaker 1: hear the entire episode, just click on the link in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes and it will take you to the
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  Speaker 1: full episode. I hope you enjoyed.
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  Speaker 2: Dunker Ten things you should know about yourself Now. The
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  Speaker 2: first thing that I want you to do is to
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  Speaker 2: actually be writing these things down for many reasons. Number one,
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  Speaker 2: it helps you slow down when you answer it, and
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  Speaker 2: it helps you really put a lot of thought into
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  Speaker 2: it and really kind of delve into it. You can
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  Speaker 2: type it out or write it down, but it's good
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  Speaker 2: to write the answers down as well as of course
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  Speaker 2: the questions. The other good thing about this is it's
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  Speaker 2: good to then save it. If you found this really interesting,
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  Speaker 2: save it and then answer it in a few months
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  Speaker 2: time or in a year's time, and look at how
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  Speaker 2: things have changed for you. Okay, so it's a really
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  Speaker 2: really really good self love exercise to do. Let's get
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  Speaker 2: straight into it. Number one, what feeling do I avoid
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  Speaker 2: feeling the most and why. Okay, it is so important
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  Speaker 2: to understand this about yourself because it taps into what
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  Speaker 2: your main insecurity is or what your main fears are.
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  Speaker 2: If the feeling that you avoid feeling the most is
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  Speaker 2: something that's rational, then you can kind of look at it,
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  Speaker 2: address it and think, well, yeah, fair enough that I
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  Speaker 2: feel that that's a very rational thing to fear, or
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  Speaker 2: that's a really rational thing to you know, not want
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  Speaker 2: to play into too much.
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  Speaker 3: So that's fine.
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes the things that you might be avoiding the
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  Speaker 2: most is vulnerability. And you can't access true connection and
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  Speaker 2: true happiness without some.
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  Speaker 3: Level of vulnerability.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: That's how you strengthen a connection between somebody, that's how
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  Speaker 2: you get to know yourself better. So if you ask yourself,
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  Speaker 2: let's say vulnerability is the answer to that, and you say,
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  Speaker 2: I avoid feeling vulnerable the most? Why because you feel unsafe?
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  Speaker 2: Is it because you feel attacked? Is it because you
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  Speaker 2: feel unlovable? It's really important to know the answer to
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  Speaker 2: that question because once you understand the answer the why,
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  Speaker 2: then you're able to think, Okay, well, what do I
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  Speaker 2: need to change that thing? If that's if it can
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  Speaker 2: be changed, what do I need to do. If it's
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  Speaker 2: because you think that you're unlovable, then it's certain things
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  Speaker 2: that you can do to work on your self love
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  Speaker 2: or work on your current relationships. If you think it's
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  Speaker 2: because you're going to be hurt or attacked, then you
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  Speaker 2: should look at the quality of the current relationships that
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  Speaker 2: are around you and think, is this a reflection of
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  Speaker 2: the relationships around you? Okay, so, but gain and understanding.
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  Speaker 2: What feeling do you avoid feeling the most?
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  Speaker 3: And why? Number two?
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  Speaker 2: What are my three non negotiables?
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  Speaker 3: Every day?
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  Speaker 2: So I feel self love, so you feel that you
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  Speaker 2: love yourself. If you don't know what those non negotiables are,
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  Speaker 2: then you're likely not doing those things consistently for yourself
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  Speaker 2: every single day. Now, you might be a very well
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  Speaker 2: rounded person where a lot of things are going well,
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  Speaker 2: so you might not need these non negotiables. Okay, However,
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  Speaker 2: for a lot of people, self love is a big issue.
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  Speaker 2: And I know that for sure because when I look
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  Speaker 2: at the downloads of my episodes, the self love episodes,
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  Speaker 2: by far, by far, by far exceed.
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  Speaker 3: Every other episode.
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  Speaker 2: People love any episode around self love because they want
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  Speaker 2: to love themselves more, which is fucking amazing.
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  Speaker 3: And I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing makes me happier than seeing those episodes thrive above
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  Speaker 2: all others. But obviously people are repeating those episodes because
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  Speaker 2: they want this information, because they want to increase or
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  Speaker 2: improve their relationship with themselves. So if you're in that situation,
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  Speaker 2: then you should absolutely have three things, three non negotiables
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  Speaker 2: every single day to feel self love. For me, I
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  Speaker 2: personally have, like me Alexis, I personally have meditation, alone
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  Speaker 2: time and quality time with somebody that's very close to me. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: and that could even be just a quick phone call
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  Speaker 2: to my mother okay. But if I do those things
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  Speaker 2: every single day, I feel really grounded and I feel
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  Speaker 2: really happy within myself okay, because I've reached out and
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  Speaker 2: connected to someone that matters to me and get that
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  Speaker 2: connection and that having that interaction with that person makes
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  Speaker 2: me feel just a deep sense of love. And when
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  Speaker 2: you interact with people that always you know have your
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  Speaker 2: best interest at heart, who you adore, it helps you
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  Speaker 2: with your self love because you're creating that like safe space,
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  Speaker 2: that beautiful energy where you have a big, strong connection
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  Speaker 2: of love.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Meditation is amazing because you're saying to yourself, no matter
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  Speaker 2: what happens, even if only for a minute, I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to give my mind a bit of respite, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to give myself that time because I deserve it
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  Speaker 2: and because it is important and I need it, and
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  Speaker 2: I know that I'll be more relaxed, happier, calmer, perform
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  Speaker 2: better at everything else if I do this for myself. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so that's why I find it so important, something like meditation,
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  Speaker 2: connect with someone that I adore, and a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of a loone time. If I do that every single day,
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  Speaker 2: I'm genuinely feeling a lot better about myself and a
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  Speaker 2: feeling in a really good place every single day. But
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  Speaker 2: what are your three non negotiables you decide? It can
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  Speaker 2: be absolutely anything.