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Love Island Love Lesson (EP 27):  Women Need A Corbin In Their Friend Group · I Do, Part 2

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  Speaker 1: And folks, it is Saturday, fourth of July and Love
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  Speaker 1: Island episode twenty seven last night should have proven to
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  Speaker 1: you that you need a Corbin in your life, but
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  Speaker 1: we're not saying to date. And with that, welcome to
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  Speaker 1: this episode of Amy and TJ. Robes. Corbin has turned
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  Speaker 1: a corner the last two or three episodes. He's become
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  Speaker 1: a different type of character and he is one Robes
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  Speaker 1: that I have been yelling. You've heard me say this
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  Speaker 1: for years. Every woman needs a Corbin in their life.
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  Speaker 2: Well, what you've said, because this was outside of Love Island,
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  Speaker 2: and this is true. You have said this to me
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  Speaker 2: for years now, because you've heard me talk about or
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  Speaker 2: talk with girls about relationships. And you say, really, that's
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  Speaker 2: what you got out of this, that's what you're telling
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  Speaker 2: your friend. That's what your friend told you. Y'all are
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  Speaker 2: crazy and your point is, And tell me if I'm
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  Speaker 2: wrong that women tend to support wherever their friend is.
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  Speaker 2: So if a girl says, oh my god, he is
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  Speaker 2: treating me so badly, it's so toxic, I can't stand
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  Speaker 2: when he does, they say, you're right, girl, dump him,
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  Speaker 2: go find someone else. And if you say, oh my.
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  Speaker 1: God, I know he messed up, but he's so sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Follow your heart, girl, Yes, follow your heart. He loves you,
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  Speaker 1: he just keeps messing up. You support each other with
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  Speaker 1: whatever that emotion might be.
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  Speaker 2: Something we validated.
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  Speaker 1: I say that, yes, okay, that's the better way.
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  Speaker 2: To validate each other. And look, this is something beautiful
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  Speaker 2: about women. Look, and I'm talking about good friends, because
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  Speaker 2: we can get into the toxicity of women and all
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  Speaker 2: of that, but I'm talking about your good girlfriend group
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  Speaker 2: who you trust, you love what we do tend to
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  Speaker 2: do and I do it, and there is a need
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  Speaker 2: and a and I and I and I think it's
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  Speaker 2: a beautiful thing that we validate each other. We validate
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  Speaker 2: each other's feelings. We make each other realize you're not crazy,
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  Speaker 2: because I think women get called crazy by men all
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  Speaker 2: the time because we are emotional. Because we lead with
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  Speaker 2: our emotions, sometimes logic goes out the door. And look,
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  Speaker 2: I think society is a better place because women do
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  Speaker 2: lead with emotion. And yes, it can cause some messiness,
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  Speaker 2: but there's I think a need and a value for it,
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  Speaker 2: and we understand that as women. And sometimes it's fun
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  Speaker 2: to have sabine on the couch with us, or even
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  Speaker 2: my daughters as well, because you'll see it's not just
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  Speaker 2: me saying it. Like women, we do operate different Oh oh
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  Speaker 2: my god, very differently, and you're blown away by it
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  Speaker 2: sometimes to see collectively how we can all think one
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  Speaker 2: thing and respond one way and you're feeling something completely different.
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  Speaker 1: This is one I would it's the best thing if
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  Speaker 1: you can watch this with a big group and a
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  Speaker 1: big group of girls and guys. There's so many breakthroughs
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  Speaker 1: you could have because my jaws dropped as I'm watching
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  Speaker 1: the show, and there are six women on the couch
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  Speaker 1: as we're watching here, Sabine included, and you all are
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  Speaker 1: all seeing it the exact same way and is one
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  Speaker 1: hundred percent opposite the way that I'm seeing it, Like wow,
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  Speaker 1: and it is fascinating because everybody is valid and true
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  Speaker 1: and authentic in what they're feeling, and nobody's wrong. It's
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  Speaker 1: just amazing that we are seeing the exact same thing
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  Speaker 1: so differently. So this robes is what I always talk about.
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  Speaker 1: There's a there's perspective that's missing sometimes in a woman's
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  Speaker 1: counsel that I always say is needed.
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  Speaker 2: It's we steer each other, perhaps in the wrong direction,
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  Speaker 2: because there is less logic, And perhaps I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to say honesty because you're not being You're not being
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  Speaker 2: dishonest by supporting your girl and by validating how she's feeling.
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  Speaker 2: But perhaps you're leaving out some important advice that's necessary.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So can I ask then is this one something
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  Speaker 1: that generally, because I'm a guy on the outside, I
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  Speaker 1: have an idea? But do you think this is a
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  Speaker 1: thing that women generally tend to do? That maybe you're
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  Speaker 1: not giving the most honest or even sometimes sound advice
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  Speaker 1: because your priority in those moments, emotional moments are to
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  Speaker 1: support and validate.
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  Speaker 2: Correct.
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  Speaker 1: Is that right?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely? And because I think a lot of times women
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  Speaker 2: don't feel validated by their partners at all, and that
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  Speaker 2: is what is missing. And you we're called crazy, you're
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  Speaker 2: being ridiculous. How many times have I heard that in
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  Speaker 2: my life? It could actually bring tears to my eyes.
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  Speaker 2: So you feel so misunderstood and so misheard and so
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  Speaker 2: invalidated that you need your girls.
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  Speaker 1: So the next thing there is that in doing so,
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  Speaker 1: do you actually end up not giving the soundest of advice?
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  Speaker 2: Possibly yes, in moments, yes, And I hadn't thought about
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  Speaker 2: that until you have brought it up and you have said,
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  Speaker 2: that's not what I would ever counsel my female friend
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  Speaker 2: to do. I would have said something completely different. And
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  Speaker 2: so I think, yes, there is a un important sociological
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  Speaker 2: need for women to band together and to support each
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  Speaker 2: other and to validate feelings and emotions, because we don't
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  Speaker 2: often get that from men. But there is a place
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  Speaker 2: and an important part of making a good decision when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to relations to hear from the other side,
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  Speaker 2: to understand what a male friend would say. And we
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  Speaker 2: say a heterosexual man, because I do think having a
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  Speaker 2: lot of gay men in my life, they do tend
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  Speaker 2: to do the same thing. They give you that support,
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  Speaker 2: and they give you that validation, and they do lead
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  Speaker 2: with emotions, and so I do think, and not to
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  Speaker 2: like generalize, but that has been my experience, and I
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  Speaker 2: think that is probably a because they might operate a
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  Speaker 2: little bit more with emotion. That's been my experience than
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  Speaker 2: a straight guy. And it's a very different reaction to things.
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  Speaker 1: And it's fair to say, and just about you, you
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  Speaker 1: and I. Ever since I've known you, you've been surrounded
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  Speaker 1: about a lot of gay males, right, you had a
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  Speaker 1: lot of male gay Yes, And I.
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  Speaker 2: Don't really, the only heterosexual male friend I really had
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  Speaker 2: that was close to.
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  Speaker 1: Me was you and did my advice though often go
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  Speaker 1: inside and link up with the same aimes.
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  Speaker 2: It annoyed me because what you are saying is not
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  Speaker 2: what I want you to say. And so I'm used
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  Speaker 2: to literally I remember you as a friend. You would
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  Speaker 2: always give me the counterpoint. You would always ask me
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  Speaker 2: to look at it from a different perspective, and it
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  Speaker 2: would annoy me because sometimes a lot of times, maybe
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  Speaker 2: most of the time, women, I will speak for myself.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted you to validate me, and you don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: You don't do that, and and I understand that there
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  Speaker 2: is a value to that, because you're asking me to
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  Speaker 2: think from a different perspective, and in a moment of distress,
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  Speaker 2: that's not what I want to hear.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, that's a very very good point, and that is
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  Speaker 1: a difference between men and women. Oftentimes with ropes in
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  Speaker 1: that moment, what you need is different from what I
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  Speaker 1: Why often things you need.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I've even seen you do it with Sabine, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm telling you. Initially I remember thinking, okay, good, it's
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  Speaker 2: not that he's just a contrarian to me, and he
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  Speaker 2: thinks I'm doing things wrong and I'm saying things wrong
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  Speaker 2: and feeling things wrong. I see him saying the same
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  Speaker 2: type of things to Sabine and I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: that's just how he operates. But it's so foreign to
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  Speaker 2: me because I will tell you a lot of men
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  Speaker 2: will just go you're ridiculous, and they won't you will
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  Speaker 2: actually sit down and say have you thought about it
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  Speaker 2: like this? And I'm telling you it is annoying to
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  Speaker 2: hear sometimes because I just want you to tell me
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  Speaker 2: that what I'm feeling is right.
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  Speaker 1: You can, Yeah, it's so. Yes, this all comes about
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  Speaker 1: and we're discussing this now because last night, who knew
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  Speaker 1: Corbyn was going to end Parmita but end up being
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  Speaker 1: a voice of reason and talking to Melanie. Melanie, and
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  Speaker 1: we've seen these clips and we went back, I think,
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  Speaker 1: and we watch to be sure. Yeah, we watched the
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  Speaker 1: episode a second time and we're going through it again.
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  Speaker 1: That when she's upset, they say the hell with sincere
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  Speaker 1: f him? He ain't about nothing, he ain't moving right
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  Speaker 1: in here. And then when she has a sweet moment
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  Speaker 1: where she said yea, yeah, but I like him, she
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  Speaker 1: can be in tears. Yeah, but I like him.
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  Speaker 2: You should sleep in bed with him tonight. Lead with
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  Speaker 2: your heart girl?
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  Speaker 1: So what so? What so is that as a woman
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  Speaker 1: watching this and other women watching look at that and go, yes,
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  Speaker 1: they are giving the proper support to her.
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  Speaker 2: They're giving her permission to feel what she's feeling and
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  Speaker 2: to lead with her heart. And if she's feeling like
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  Speaker 2: she wants to leave him, they're like, you do that, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: he's a dog. But if she's feeling like she misses
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  Speaker 2: him and she wants to be from them like, lead
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  Speaker 2: with your heart, girl, They're just supporting her feelings and
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  Speaker 2: telling her to lead with her heart. And that might
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  Speaker 2: not be.
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  Speaker 1: The best advice, and we can acknowledge that oftentimes it is,
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  Speaker 1: it is not. And it showed up Robes in the
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  Speaker 1: episode last night where Corbin and Parmita, of all people
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  Speaker 1: the voice of reason, they are Robes. You can make
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  Speaker 1: this argument. They made one of these smartest arguments for
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  Speaker 1: compatibility that anybody made in the episode because they plucked
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  Speaker 1: these two out and said, Okay, sure you're hot for
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  Speaker 1: each other, but they actually said you're bad for each other. Robes,
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  Speaker 1: that is not something I think a woman who was
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  Speaker 1: close to Melanie would have ever said, and I don't
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  Speaker 1: think a if she had other men in her circle
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  Speaker 1: like a Corbin, she would have heard that much sooner.
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  Speaker 2: Wow. And last night, after the break, we will talk
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  Speaker 2: about what Corbin said to Melanie when she directly asked
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  Speaker 2: him what she should do. We'll hear what TJ thinks
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  Speaker 2: about Corbin's response and how we can all as women.
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  Speaker 2: I'm assuming most of the people listening here are women,
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  Speaker 2: can take that advice and use it and apply it
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  Speaker 2: in our own lives. That's when we come back and
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  Speaker 2: all right, welcome back everybody. We are discussing why us
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  Speaker 2: women might need some Corbin's in our friend group. Because Corbin,
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  Speaker 2: this is so shocking. I can't believe this is coming
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  Speaker 2: out of my mouth. Last night actually said to Melanie
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  Speaker 2: something that a woman would never say. She said, what
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  Speaker 2: should I do? Corbyn? Should I sleep in bed with
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  Speaker 2: sincere tonight? Should basically? And that was basically an entrance
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  Speaker 2: back into a relationship with him by going back and
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  Speaker 2: sleeping in the bed with him. She's now saying, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'm back in this couple and let's see where this goes.
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  Speaker 2: And Corpin said, what was he said? I will not
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  Speaker 2: tell you what to do. He said, I'm going I'm
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  Speaker 2: not here to tell you what to do. I think
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  Speaker 2: you have to decide for yourself if this is something
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  Speaker 2: that you want. But it's not on me to tell
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  Speaker 2: you what to do.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Now what would And this is they hugged it
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  Speaker 1: out at the end. This is that conversation, right, what
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  Speaker 1: would a woman have told her to do? That exact
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  Speaker 1: same question? What do you think?
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  Speaker 2: Justaf they were all telling her to go into bed
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  Speaker 2: with him? I saw them. She asked the same thing
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  Speaker 2: to them and they all told her, girl, go sleep
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  Speaker 2: in the bed with him. You know you want to
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  Speaker 2: go do it? So they told her to lead with
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  Speaker 2: her heart and to sleep in the bed with him,
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  Speaker 2: and she.
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  Speaker 1: Did, not saying there's any bad advice one way or another.
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  Speaker 1: But there's just a perspective. Often times that is offered
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  Speaker 1: from a guy, a dude who is often sat in
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  Speaker 1: the same position that the dude you're pursuing has sat in. Right,
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  Speaker 1: there's a different perspective completely robes and we also look
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  Speaker 1: at it and this is all this is worthy. The
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  Speaker 1: fact that a guy like a Corbyn is not looking
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  Speaker 1: at it emotionally is at least worth listening to that perspective.
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  Speaker 1: Have to take that advice, but it does offer some
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  Speaker 1: kind of I would say, a counterbalance.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, And it was interesting because what Corbyn essentially was
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  Speaker 2: doing is he was empowering her. He was like, basically,
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  Speaker 2: you shouldn't outsource crowdsource this. Ask yourself what you should do.
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  Speaker 2: You know, deep down in your gut, you and by
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  Speaker 2: the way, we all do, deep down in our guts,
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  Speaker 2: we do know what the right thing is to do.
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  Speaker 2: So I ask you, heterosexual man TJ, my friend and
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  Speaker 2: my fiance, what would you tell Melanie?
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  Speaker 1: I would have told her a week plus ago. You've
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  Speaker 1: got to stop. At some point. You've passed the point now,
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  Speaker 1: my dear Melanie, of blaming him. I've used this line before.
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  Speaker 1: I know people hate it, but please take it in
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  Speaker 1: the right context. Men are only dogs because they're allowed
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  Speaker 1: to be. And what I mean by that is, he
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  Speaker 1: screwed you over once, Okay, forgive him screwge over twice?
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  Speaker 1: Now anything after that? Why are we still blaming him?
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  Speaker 1: We know what he is, and we know what he does,
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  Speaker 1: and now we know that he knows he can keep
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  Speaker 1: getting away with it. You could have ended this pattern
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  Speaker 1: and ended this behavior long time ago by just making
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  Speaker 1: a different decision. That is the hard tough love I
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  Speaker 1: give to people I love and friends I have known
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  Speaker 1: and good friends who are I thought were in bad relationships,
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  Speaker 1: wherease that's I would have told her that weeks ago
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  Speaker 1: looked at a Melanie love you, But baby, this is
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  Speaker 1: on you. I don't want to have a conversation with
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  Speaker 1: you again about how much of an asshole sincere is.
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  Speaker 1: This power is in your.
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  Speaker 2: Hands, and that's what you're doing. You're empowering the woman
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  Speaker 2: in that moment, and I think that that is valuable
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  Speaker 2: because I know us girls, and there is a valuable
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  Speaker 2: part of us supporting each other and validating each other's feelings.
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  Speaker 2: But there is a missing element to that. We're actually
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  Speaker 2: in some ways we don't even know how to empower
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  Speaker 2: ourselves because we just want to support, but actually having
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  Speaker 2: someone give that tough love and telling her that she
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  Speaker 2: actually has the power to end this, end this awful cycle,
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  Speaker 2: to end this awful dynamic by walking away. And I
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  Speaker 2: will tell you the biggest mistakes I have made in
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  Speaker 2: my life romantically have not been walking away sooner. That
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  Speaker 2: absolutely has been, and I have to own that and
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  Speaker 2: I've only learned that through a lot of heartbreak and
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  Speaker 2: a lot of years, and I can look back now
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  Speaker 2: and say that was my biggest mistake, not trusting my gut,
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  Speaker 2: not following what my gut told me, and not leaving
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  Speaker 2: sooner but a single time.
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  Speaker 1: Four Melanie, this crew up right. It takes I experience
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  Speaker 1: to figure that stuff out.
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  Speaker 2: And having the perspective of someone who has a different mindset,
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  Speaker 2: and truly, truly, men absolutely have a different mindset than women.
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  Speaker 2: Just even look at when they put the women in
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  Speaker 2: one group and the men in one group and they're
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  Speaker 2: watching the same movie on movie nights. The difference in
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  Speaker 2: reaction is it was right there. It's so fascinating to
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  Speaker 2: see men collectively react one way, women collectively react the
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  Speaker 2: other way. And you're you can't believe how the women react,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, hell, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's so I think.
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  Speaker 2: We were like, yeah, Melanie set the boundary. Yeah you
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  Speaker 2: tell him prove your love to me. And you were like,
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  Speaker 2: I cannot believe do you actually think that that's good advice?
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, she needs to set a boundary, she
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  Speaker 2: needs to say prove your love to me.
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  Speaker 1: And you said, what that is the absolute wrong thing
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  Speaker 1: to do in any relationship. And this is going to
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  Speaker 1: blow up like he does not appreciate that. Don't don't
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  Speaker 1: step back. Both people. Everything that happens in a relationship,
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  Speaker 1: no matter who screws up, it's still the responsibility of
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  Speaker 1: both of them in that relationship. If one checks out
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  Speaker 1: and say you need to prove something to make up this,
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  Speaker 1: it just doesn't work. That dynamic doesn't work.
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  Speaker 2: So what should Melanie have done on which part? Well,
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  Speaker 2: when the girls were all telling her and she when
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  Speaker 2: she said to him, Okay, fine, I'm gonna sit back
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  Speaker 2: and see what you do because your words have not
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  Speaker 2: no words are not reliable, your actions are. So you're
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  Speaker 2: gonna have to prove to me that you are actually
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  Speaker 2: in this for real. What what should she have said
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  Speaker 2: in side.
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  Speaker 1: The council would have been one hundred percent not to
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  Speaker 1: say that. You just ask I would ask that friend,
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  Speaker 1: so what do you want to do? What do you
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  Speaker 1: want to happen?
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  Speaker 2: And what I said, I want to be in a
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  Speaker 2: relationship with him. I want to be in a relationship.
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  Speaker 1: With Then the Melanie, how are we going to do that?
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  Speaker 1: Tell me what you need from him? Tell him what
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  Speaker 1: you need from him either he gives it to you. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't. There's nothing that's not an ultimate.
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  Speaker 2: He shouldn't check out.
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  Speaker 1: She's you can't just say my hand, I'm just gonna
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  Speaker 1: sit over here and you can prove to me if
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  Speaker 1: you want to. That immediately puts him on the defensive.
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  Speaker 1: It puts him in a position of trying to meet
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  Speaker 1: a standard that you're not even setting. So he can
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  Speaker 1: go he can go buy your rolls Royce. That might
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  Speaker 1: not be good enough. He can go buy your new house,
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  Speaker 1: that might not be good enough. He can send flowers,
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  Speaker 1: he can do everything, but he doesn't know what the
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  Speaker 1: standard is because you have now checked out on a relationship,
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  Speaker 1: and all you're putting a relationship in a position that
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  Speaker 1: one person is.
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  Speaker 2: Responsible and you're giving him all the power only one
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  Speaker 2: that I never would have and I never would have
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  Speaker 2: thought about what you just said, because I thought what
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  Speaker 2: she did was right. It's what I would have done.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's what most women would have done.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: And this is the thing. When you're in a relationship
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: with a heterosexual male, why you're not talking to other
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: heterosexual males about how to deal with it. You all
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: are going to women to your gay best friend to
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: try to understand heterosexual male behavior. Does that make sense?
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: It's funny now that you say it.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: What council are you getting? I can tell you immediately
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: the casey stuff. I was like, babe, No, this is
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: what's happening. This is what's going on.
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: This is what's fascinating. And it all developed and we're
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: learning about our relationship, or at least I am. Hearing
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: you defend the men, and I think you're understanding more
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: about our relationship hearing me defend the women.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Letting let's put this the right way. Explain the men
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: and explain the women.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: What do you mean? Oh yeah, exactly. That's a good point.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Not defend, but explain.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: And context is important. None of these are bad people.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: They're having bad moments and we all do. And that's okay.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: I highly suggest I know men, your men are probably
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: not that into Love Island. But we are getting so
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: much value out of this we have from the beginning.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: So I just think this is a great a great
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: show for relationships for people who are in a couple
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: to watch together. It is fascinating. All right, We're gonna
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: come back soon with another love lesson. We're learning doing
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: the girl Yeah, we're gonna do the girl code because
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: that's a huge thing that you were learning about that.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: I was incense and so were all the girls on
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: the couch watching. So we'll get into what girl code
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: is and how that plays into relationships. So stay tuned
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: for that. But in the meantime, we always appreciate you
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: listening to us. I made me robot alongside DJ Holmes.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: We will talk to each
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: The two tens