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Stream Thinking Getting Beyond Being A Grumpy Ass Person · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: stream thinking. We do it every day. We just don't
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  Speaker 1: trust it, we don't believe in it. We just kind
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  Speaker 1: of push it to the side because we think we're
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  Speaker 1: just weird. Well, artists are weird. Accept it be weird,
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  Speaker 1: wear it be proud. Stream thinking is learning how to
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  Speaker 1: trust what is in your present place of right now.
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  Speaker 1: To get there is going to require some practice. Here's
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  Speaker 1: what I do every single day. It's just one sheet
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  Speaker 1: of paper, ten minutes write about whatever is moving through
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  Speaker 1: your place of right now with absolutely no judgment. Stream
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  Speaker 1: thinking is going to sharpen your skills as a listener,
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  Speaker 1: as a communicator, and as an activator. It's learning how
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  Speaker 1: to trust what is in your right now. This is
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  Speaker 1: stream thinking today. We're reading from September twentieth, twenty twenty five.
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  Speaker 1: Is there such a thing as a fear of being
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  Speaker 1: one who is afraid of becoming a curmudgeon? Oh? According
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  Speaker 1: to research, there is absolutely no physical fear attached to it,
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  Speaker 1: And studies show that male anxiety actually becomes more visible
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  Speaker 1: when something feels like that you've stepped into a pair
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  Speaker 1: of curmudgeon slippers. But it's connected to guascophobia, which is
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  Speaker 1: the fear of getting old. It actually exists. It is
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  Speaker 1: the fear and the anxieties that poison our social perceptions. Now,
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  Speaker 1: seeing yourself as a curmudgeon is not a physical declaration
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  Speaker 1: of Oh my god, my life is on the decline.
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  Speaker 1: The best way to manage your fears is to nurture
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  Speaker 1: your relationships. You've got to stay true to your purpose
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  Speaker 1: and don't allow those negative perceptions to slip in. What
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  Speaker 1: a pain in the butt right to get old. We
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  Speaker 1: talk about the pain, we talk about the sickness, we
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  Speaker 1: talk about how high the drugs are to get fixed.
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  Speaker 1: But it seems like we take our mind off from
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  Speaker 1: the things that really kind of piss us off, and
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  Speaker 1: therefore we get this image o Oh, he's just a
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  Speaker 1: grumpy old man. I don't want to be a grumpy
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  Speaker 1: old man. I don't want you to be a grumpy
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  Speaker 1: old woman or a grumpy old man. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: you to be a curmudgeon. But the thing about it is, though,
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  Speaker 1: it seems to be that one place that people go
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  Speaker 1: to when you show off a little bit of Oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, do you know how much life I've lived?
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  Speaker 1: And this is still going on? Can we please put
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  Speaker 1: a halt to it right now? And it says you've
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  Speaker 1: got to nurture your anxieties. I'm not knocking doctors, nor
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  Speaker 1: am I knocking the people that do this, but they're
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  Speaker 1: taking drugs to get away from their anxieties. And my
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  Speaker 1: only question is is that. Have you sat down with
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  Speaker 1: a writing instrument and just ask yourself a simple question, dude,
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  Speaker 1: why you're so pissed off at the world. Dude? What's
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  Speaker 1: going on here? I mean, like when you were fifteen
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  Speaker 1: year old, you had the same exact thing taking place,
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  Speaker 1: but it didn't piss you off like this. What are
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  Speaker 1: you trying to do? You're trying to be a superhero
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  Speaker 1: for Marvel or DC. It ain't gonna work that way.
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  Speaker 1: What you want to do is you want to become
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  Speaker 1: a master at being accepted. Oh oh, oh, my god.
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  Speaker 1: And I have good reason to bring that up. My father,
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  Speaker 1: he was my stepfather. He actually had so much love
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  Speaker 1: in his heart for my mother that he accepted the
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  Speaker 1: fact that she had three kids of her own and
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  Speaker 1: he had three kids, and they made one yours mine
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  Speaker 1: and ours. My stepfather in my heart when I was
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  Speaker 1: growing up, was the most evil thing I had ever
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  Speaker 1: met in my life. And there were times that I
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  Speaker 1: hated my mother for doing this to us. How could
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  Speaker 1: you have done this to us? Why couldn't you have
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  Speaker 1: given us a father that loves us. In fact, I
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  Speaker 1: look at my dog every day, my jazzy jazz jazz,
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  Speaker 1: my disaster artist, and I tell her, I said, I
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  Speaker 1: wish my dad would have said, I love you as
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  Speaker 1: much as I share with you. I do love you,
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  Speaker 1: and I do love my father. But here is the
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  Speaker 1: moral of the story. Yes, he was evil. What I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know was what he didn't speak. He was a
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  Speaker 1: sergeant in World War Two. He faced war, he lost
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  Speaker 1: friends in battles, he froze his ass off, and then
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  Speaker 1: he comes back to a country and he's expected to live.
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  Speaker 1: The thing is is that when you don't speak it,
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  Speaker 1: and you don't tell people what you might be going through,
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  Speaker 1: which is completely natural, then you might get the label
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  Speaker 1: from the kids that you are trying to adopt. They're
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  Speaker 1: going to call you an ass And you know, I
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  Speaker 1: mean when I was sixteen years old and I was
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  Speaker 1: adopted by this man, I had that thought, what am
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  Speaker 1: I doing to myself? Now? If I grew up hating
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  Speaker 1: this man, how could I wear his last name? Because
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  Speaker 1: he changed, He started looking at his life and nurturing
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  Speaker 1: his soul. Not in the way of religion, because my
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  Speaker 1: father was nowhere near being a religious man. But the
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  Speaker 1: thing about it is, though, is that he nurtured. He
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  Speaker 1: sat there and he began to listen. He didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to be known as a curmudgeon, that old, nasty man
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  Speaker 1: that was always grumpy. So in all reality, I'm very
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  Speaker 1: jealous of my sister and my older brother who got
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  Speaker 1: to spend a lot of time with my father up
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  Speaker 1: in Montana, because I'm here in Carolina and to be
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  Speaker 1: able to be in that moment where he was going
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  Speaker 1: through his nice stage. Yeah, why wouldn't you want to
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  Speaker 1: be jealous of that? I am, and I missed it
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent. But dad always my dad, never a stepfather.
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  Speaker 1: You really did plant the right seeds in my soul.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Eryl, and that's stream thinking.