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It’s Time You Stopped Being Scared of Your Own Power · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Today we are talking about something that has been coming up in my world for a lot of my clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is the fear you have right now of stepping into your full power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because right now, hi Mariah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hi, Michelle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say hello as you're joining us.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a very important discussion, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when it comes to stepping into your full power, so many women get afraid.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You've heard about like your fear of being seen because you might get rejected or abandoned if people leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's kind of like only half true.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not so much scared of being seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're scared of being seen in the fullness of your power, in the fullness of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because you might get rejected or abandoned or people might say something.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because deep down you're scared that you're not gonna be loved at the fullness of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have full-body chills as I say this, and it's so important.
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  SPEAKER_00: And most women do not realize this, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you can be scared of being rejected and abandoned, people will say something, and that's all good and fine, and that will probably happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I'll talk about that today as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what you're really scared of is that that is going to happen, and you won't be loved in all that you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you end up hiding, you end up playing a little smaller, and this happens so subtly.
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  SPEAKER_00: This happens in like the little micro ways that you play just a little smaller.
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  SPEAKER_00: You play just a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, just enough not to stir the pot too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll stir it, but not too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll say it, but you'll add an lol at the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll you'll put it out there and then look around, be like, how do people respond?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're scared of who is she to do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who is she to charge that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who is she to claim this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because you're not powerful, you are extremely powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: But be you're scared you're not gonna be loved as that version.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not an irrational fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: There will be people who won't love you at that level, who won't love you at your full power.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is true.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna sit here and be like, people will love you at your full power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people will, but some people won't.
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  SPEAKER_00: But right now, what you're doing is you're in this self-protecting mechanism, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: This self-sabotage loop, because your ego right now is more comfortable operating this illusion of, well, if I just play it just safe enough, I leak my power, I do a little bit of power, a little wink, a little power, pull it back, a little power, pull it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just to see, let's see how they respond.
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  SPEAKER_00: A little power, pull it back to test the field.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then if the field reality is, oh, that's too much power, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna play it this level.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it reinforces this illusion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because anybody or anything you lose that doesn't love you at your fullness, at your full power, doesn't actually love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But your ego is clinging on to that illusion, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because anything you lose when you operate in your fullness and your truth and your authenticity, it's not loss, it's illusion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let this be your reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't lose anything that is truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anything that you lose is illusion, which is wonderful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you lose something, it's like perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was an illusion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make space for the next.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you're scared.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're scared of what might leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're scared of what you might actually wake up to because you're very smart, so you're gonna see it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna see the people who can't come with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you're kind of tiptoeing, you're avoiding it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're avoiding playing your full power because you're no, oh, if I play my full power, I guarantee you even know the specific people who are gonna get pissed off.
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  SPEAKER_00: You even know the specific people you're gonna trigger, let alone the random people you're gonna trigger.
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  SPEAKER_00: And also, if you're a five-line in human design like me, hello, it's part of the role.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're keeping yourself in this illusion of safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you think you're protecting yourself, the ego thinks it's protecting itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: When deep down, you're scared you're not going to be loved at your full power.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then you don't play at your full potential, so then you don't receive your full potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why it's so important, right, to anchor in that personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to become so comfortable with waking up to the illusion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the truth is, those people who don't love you, they are not for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But my god, the ones who you are for, you are so for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think about this with the clients in my world.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are a lot of people I am not for, but the people I am for, I'm fucking for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I say that with a bit of swearing because like I I know that.
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  SPEAKER_00: They tell me that like I didn't know people like you existed on this planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are such a breath of fresh air.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, thank you for calling me forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've never experienced like a kind of mentor who fiercely loves me like this, who loves me enough to call me forward and not to validate me and to like call me into my potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: In my world, I will not let you play smaller than I know you are capable of.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will always call you forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let this be your homecoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is also so important because when you start operating in the fullness of your power, and when I talk the fullness of your power, I actually mean the fullness of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean every aspect, I mean every facet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you are this beautiful diamond, and there are all of these facets to you, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We think about a diamond, a diamond has all of these sides, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's this like sultry, magnetic, sexy side, and then there's the funny side and the goofy side, and the there's so many sides, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But you're not playing in the fullness, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're performing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're like, okay, I'm gonna show this part of the diamond because I think this is the one they need to see, and this is the one that I think is acceptable, and this is the one that shines, but it doesn't shine too bright because I can shine, but I don't want to shine too bright.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to own the fullness of who I am, I don't want to claim it because who knows what will happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who knows how people react, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that gives you this illusion of control.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is, people are always gonna react.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be the juiciest peach, people still say they don't like peaches, but you're hiding these aspects of this beautiful diamond that you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you let all these aspects show, right, you start from inside loving the fullness of who you are without needing them, without needing anything outside you to love the fullness of who you are, and you allow all those aspects, and you allow yourself to shine, and you allow yourself to step into who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you bring those people forward who are for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The people who are for you personally, the people who are for you professionally in your career and your business and your things, that's how you bring them forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let this really land in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is so important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because so many women get caught up in like, I'm scared of being judged or rejected.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but you're more actually scared that you're not gonna be loved.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because an aspect of you hasn't fully loved yourself for all that you are and allowed that to shine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allowed that to come forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allow that to be perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where are you hiding these aspects of you?
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  SPEAKER_00: I really want you to sit with this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're you're hiding these aspects that are like they're so yummy and they're so juicy, but you've hid them away because you think that they're not enough, or they don't have a place, or they don't fit, or it doesn't look like Sally or Karen or Susie or whoever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to bring in another aspect about stepping into your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you really step into claiming this, right, this is the woman who becomes unstoppable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who've been running unstoppable for now two weeks, and my god, unstoppable is maybe one of my favorite things I've ever done.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's all about how to be that certainty, that conviction, that woman who is unstoppable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the big aspect, right, of stepping into the fullness of your power is also the fact that other people around you will react in a certain way when you step into the fullness of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if they are not ready for it, your existence will naturally reflect back to them where they have not yet chosen to be in their power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that makes people uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not that you can't be loved in your full power, it's that they can't handle you in your full power because it reflects back to them where they have yet to step into their full power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let that land.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when you step into it, right, and people around you react, you're scared of what that says about you.
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  SPEAKER_00: What will that say about me when I claim this, when I step into my full power in this way?
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  SPEAKER_00: How might that change your relationship, your marriage?
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  SPEAKER_00: How will that change the relationships you have with clients?
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  SPEAKER_00: How will that change the relationships you have in your life?
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  SPEAKER_00: When people say, oh, that's what she does, oh, that's how much money she makes, oh, this is what she's doing now, oh, and they kind of like, mm-hmm.
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  SPEAKER_00: But again, like we spoke about in the beginning, it'll reveal to you very quick where there's illusions, where there's distortion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you know to clear that out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those people are not yours.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this is important, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because in this fullness, when you're stepping into the fullness of your power, which you owe it to yourself and to the world to do, you're gonna get scared about the fullness of your power because you're gonna realize, well, why wasn't I operating my full power to begin with?
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  SPEAKER_00: The ego doesn't really like that, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The ego's like, uh, if I could just step into my power now, what the hell have I been doing all this time?
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the ego self-sabotages.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's gonna distract you into a shame spiral of like, why haven't I stepping into my power and it's gonna make you feel bad or it's gonna make you play small?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you were this powerful the whole time, well, that's uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the ego has to accept not only, oh, I've been maybe playing smaller and not get into a shame spiral of that, but it also has to deal with how your power is reflected in other people, how they respond to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why it's so huge when you're stepping into the fullness of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why it's so huge that you need that safety in your nervous system first.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need that certainty, that conviction in all you're allowed to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I guarantee right now, you are not allowing yourself to be all that you can be.
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  SPEAKER_00: I guarantee you, I promise you, you're not.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can go bigger.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're allowed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let this be your little reminder because you don't need permission.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is I'm just giving you a reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're allowed to go bigger.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you bring that fullness and that depth of your power and who you are into the world, there's no guilt or shame about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also worked with women who's like, okay, I'm so much in my power, you start to feel bad that other people aren't.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're like, if I'm this powerful, if I literally can create everything I want, well, why didn't my parents do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why didn't my mom do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why didn't my dad do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why doesn't this person do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or that person?
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  SPEAKER_00: But they just haven't remembered who the hell they are yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you do, when you step into the fullness of who you are, and you give yourself that safety, that permission, that conviction, and that certainty, then you no longer have that fear that you're not going to be loved in the fullness of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because in fact, you are gonna be loved more.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're speaking about the illusion, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The any person that you lose when you're operating at like half your power isn't something that you lose, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an illusion.
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  SPEAKER_00: I promise you, it's so much more satisfying than people that you find when you're operating the fullness of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're operating kind of like less than you know you're capable of, whatever you receive, it hasn't quite like land.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not as satiating.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ever had that where like you're hungry and you eat something and it's like not that delicious, but like it satisfied your hunger because you were hungry, so like it kind of like did its job, but it's not like ugh.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you operate in the fullness of your power and everything feels like yum, it feels like delicious, the relationships you have, the business you have, the money you make, it all feels so much more delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because of the quantity necessarily, although the quantity does exponentially increase, but because of the quality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're like, yes, I'm fully being met at the fullness of who I am, but it's because you allowed yourself to be met in the fullness to be who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You allowed yourself to be loved in the fullness of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: It all started with you, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When I think about the amazing kinds that come into my world, the women that find me, you know, my relationship with Kurt, my fiance, the friends I have, it's because I've allowed myself to be loved in the fullness of who I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: And anything else that drops away, anything else that's not for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, there were a few things that actually happened last week.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, not for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: If it's not the fullness of who I am, if you can't take all that, then it's not for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I guarantee you, it is so much more painful to live in that agony, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And at first it will start off, it doesn't feel satisfying.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're like, yeah, not satisfying.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then if you keep trying to like nibble at less than you're capable of, eventually it's actually gonna feel like agony.
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  SPEAKER_00: That little nudge is gonna start to get louder and louder and louder and louder.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you're not gonna feel fulfilled.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna feel as happy, you're not gonna feel as blissful as you could be.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sure, yes, you'll you'll make more money, but it's your experience of that thing and becomes less about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Money is always just the byproduct of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you start operating that fullness, so you get to experience the fullness of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: But right now, you want to experience the fullness of who you are without allowing yourself to operate in fullness of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're not really scared of being seen, you're not scared of being judged, you're not scared of the ridicule, all that will come.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Duality.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more you operate in your fullness, the more there'll be people on the opposite end.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the duality of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, what you get back is exponentially more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where are you scared of actually not being loved in the fullness of who you are?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what it comes down to.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where you're operating right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's actually not that you're not enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't believe you're not enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's more about the fullness.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the what if I'm too much in all that I am?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if I'm too powerful?
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  SPEAKER_00: Too this, too, too crazy, too whatever, too silly, too goofy, too, I don't know, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insert your thing here.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you come back and you allow yourself to be all that you are, and you allow the fullness of who you are to ooze out of you, to drip out of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't mean just in like small ways in the way you show up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually mean like, does it ooze and drip out of you when you go to get a coffee?
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  SPEAKER_00: Right when you talk to your neighbors.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you let all of that through?
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  SPEAKER_00: And can you anchor that safety into your nervous system, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That conviction, that certainty, that anything that falls away, anyone that ridicules, projects, backlashes, whatever they do, can you trust that has nothing to do with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: And everything to do with whether they are comfortable stepping into their fullness of power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I promise you, any woman who's fully in her power never sees another woman in her power and be like, she's too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who does she think she is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Any kind of negative judgments projective.
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  SPEAKER_00: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to ask yourself where you're actually doing this, because this will be a perfect sign for you where you actually want to step into the fullness of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you resent other women stepping into the fullness of their power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because they look freed, right?
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you're in your power, you're free.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you allow yourself to be all that you are, you're so free.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like you don't need to pretend, you don't need to perform, you don't need to convince, you're like, this is who I am, this is what I do, maybe this is what I charge, this is this is all of me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take it or leave it, I'm me.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Any woman who's in her power will see another one of her power and be like, even if it looks different, even if it's not for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've seen people like, they're not for me, but like you're in your power, like do you, you do you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wonderful.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, really, when you're judging other people in their power, it's because there's more in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's really your power niggling towards your ego, being like, I I want to come out, I want to be free.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let this set you free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let this be your homecoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: And from this moment forward, let this be the moment you become unstoppable.
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  SPEAKER_00: By stepping into all that you are and you loving yourself first in the fullness of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as I said in one of my posts a couple ones ago, the woman who doesn't need to be validated is exactly the one that the world rushes to validate.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can feel that, you can see that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love you, and I will see you in the next live.