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- 0:00Erin Gray: Today I want to share my personal perspective on what I believe a wealth mindset actually is, what that means to me, what I think a lot of us have been conditioned to believe or have been taught wealth mindset is, and then how I shifted as well as help clients shift into a place of more trust, safety and expansion with money and, ultimately, a wealth mindset.
- 0:27Erin Gray: So, before we dive in, if you have been around here for a while, I want to say thank you for tuning in twice a week, letting me be in your ear.
- 0:38Erin Gray: I think it is a privilege that I get to be in your ear and to be in that intimate space.
- 0:45Erin Gray: You get to listen to lots of people and I just want to say thank you for tuning in every week.
- 0:51Erin Gray: If you are new here, I want to say welcome.
- 0:53Erin Gray: I hope that you enjoy what you hear, you like what you hear and that you stick around.
- 0:58Erin Gray: So, if this is a topic after what I talk, I talk about wealth mindset and some of the questions that I ask you if you are, you know, have been pondering, like you know, what I also want to offer that you know, if you are feeling anxious about your money, about money decisions, and you are ready to feel more calm and peace and confidence, not just with your money, but just in every area of your life, and you are ready to start trusting yourself.
- 1:30Erin Gray: Stop outsourcing your you know power to other people when you make decisions.
- 1:35Erin Gray: I would love to guide you, I would love to support you.
- 1:38Erin Gray: You could just schedule a session with me.
- 1:41Erin Gray: Just click the link in the show notes and you can find a good time that will fit for you for us to have a conversation.
- 1:48Erin Gray: Okay, so I actually went to Google not AI, which they're probably the same, but whatever.
- 1:52Erin Gray: So I went to Google and I actually Googled what is a wealth mindset?
- 1:59Erin Gray: And Google came up with a wealth mindset is a set of beliefs Google came up with.
- 2:08Erin Gray: A wealth mindset is a set of beliefs, habits and behaviors that guides us to make the most of the money that we have, and involves spending less which I do not agree with, but we will talk about that here in a second making wise investments and looking for ways to improve our financial standing while minimizing our risk.
- 2:23Erin Gray: And while some of that above might be true, what they fail to mention which I think is everything is how we feel about money.
- 2:35Erin Gray: How we feel drives every single thing in our life.
- 2:40Erin Gray: Yes, I talk about the imagination.
- 2:42Erin Gray: I talk about, you know, living in your imagination, living from the feeling and the wish fulfilled, and every idea does start in the mind first.
- 2:50Erin Gray: But how we feel in our body, I think has been completely undervalued and underrated, for I don't even know how long, how many years have we not talked about.
- 3:02Erin Gray: I mean, thankfully, I think, we are coming back online, we are recognizing, oh wow, our feelings are really important, but how we feel is how we create everything in our life, and I want to just share with you what a wealth mindset actually means to me, like how I used to think about wealth and wealth mindset versus how I think about it now, and I always encourage you to take what resonates and leave the rest.
- 3:30Erin Gray: Like you do your own homework, spend some time with a journal and your pen and your mind and a nice beverage, and sit down and actually answer some of these questions or ideas that I am bringing to you and cultivate and formulate your own idea of a wealth mindset, because if we do not know and we do not define what wealthy means to us, how will we ever know if we are wealthy and I believe we are all wealthy already.
- 4:02Erin Gray: It is not a number in our bank account or our investment accounts or what our business is earning.
- 4:07Erin Gray: I think that that is an external thing that is showing us what we feel within.
- 4:14Erin Gray: Not always the case, because I know I have accumulated and grown our assets from a very low self-worth place.
- 4:24Erin Gray: Right, but I really want the outside to match the inside for all of us.
- 4:30Erin Gray: So a wealth mindset.
- 4:32Erin Gray: To me, first and foremost, it means trusting yourself with your money, with your decisions.
- 4:38Erin Gray: Think about every area of your life.
- 4:42Erin Gray: Are you trusting yourself in your decision-making?
- 4:45Erin Gray: I think for a lot of us human you know, men and women, but I think there's a lot of I noticed this with my daughter, sometimes in her friends of what you're going to eat, and the friends will ask like what is Grayson going?
- 5:00Erin Gray: Like a societal thing that we do.
- 5:03Erin Gray: So how can we be more decisive and declaring with our entrusting our own decisions instead of outsourcing our power, instead of outsourcing our power to you know, our financial planner or banker or CPA or like whatever mentor, business coach or whoever you are working with, just notice when you are wanting to ask them their advice from a place, not of knowledge and education, but from a place of what would they do.
- 5:43Erin Gray: And I noticed, when I do this I do this sometimes with my husband and I will catch myself and I will tell myself, no, you're going to make the decision first, and then you're going to come to him and you're going to say this is what I'm doing and then, you know, have the conversation about it.
- 5:58Erin Gray: But I noticed, when I asked him his opinion, it is because I have not made my decision first for myself.
- 6:05Erin Gray: So, really starting to trust yourself with money, making decisions, clear decisions for yourself, instead of outsourcing our power, I think it also means regulating our nervous system right, feeling safe to be in our bodies, feeling safe with any and all emotions that we have, so that we, you know, feel grounded, so that we can tap into our intuition.
- 6:27Erin Gray: That's a you know podcast that I just did.
- 6:28Erin Gray: I think it's the previous one I just did about really being able to tap into our intuition.
- 6:29Erin Gray: That's a podcast that I just did.
- 6:30Erin Gray: I think it's the previous one I just did about really being able to tap into your intuition when we are in fight or flight, when we're in that survival mode.
- 6:36Erin Gray: Sometimes it can be very difficult is the word I want to use to be able to tap into our intuition.
- 6:43Erin Gray: So really doing things to care for our nervous system, to teach our bodies that we are safe, instead of, you know, moving from that, that scarce, that fear, that lack.
- 6:55Erin Gray: I think also a wealth mindset is choosing your values and your joy first, like a heart's desire, right?
- 7:02Erin Gray: Not putting money above what your heart's desire, your joy, your values are.
- 7:08Erin Gray: And and I want to be clear on heart's desire, heart's desire sometimes isn't, isn't the easy choice, it isn't necessarily the choice that everyone else goes along with.
- 7:18Erin Gray: Or, you know, there have been many choices I have made a heart's desire in my immediate family where my husband and my daughter didn't necessarily like that decision initially.
- 7:29Erin Gray: And so when I say heart's desire to me, it's not always like rainbows and daisies and like everything's just so joyful, right.
- 7:37Erin Gray: Heart's desire sometimes is having those tougher conversations or really doing things that maybe someone else not necessarily that they wouldn't do, but like that is going against the grain and honoring that first and letting money serve your heart's desires, not the other way around.
- 8:00Erin Gray: I think it's also a wealth mindset is, you know, seeing money just as it is.
- 8:06Erin Gray: It's neutral.
- 8:07Erin Gray: It is right.
- 8:08Erin Gray: Sometimes my body wants to believe it's not neutral, and so that's where I know I've got you know some deeper work to do, but I really believe that I mean we could go on a rabbit hole of you how money isn't even real and all of that, but like it is a tool that expands what is already within you.
- 8:31Erin Gray: So when you think about that, when you think about how do I want to use money to serve me, how do I want to direct source energy, do I want to believe that it is something that is here on planet earth to serve me, to live my best life and to expand myself?
- 8:53Erin Gray: And to you know, if you have a business, to grow my business and to pay my people well, and to you know, live in the home that I want to live in and travel the way that I want to like really seeing money as the servant instead of it being the master.
- 9:11Erin Gray: And I think the biggest one is already seeing yourself as wealthy.
- 9:16Erin Gray: I think that we've been taught, at least in the Western culture, that we have to have a certain amount of money to be wealthy.
- 9:24Erin Gray: It's all this external validation, and I know that that is how I created my wealth the first time around I'm going to call it the first time around, versus the second time around I created it from a place of inadequacy, of not enough, and I thought that there would be a number that I would get to and that then I would feel wealthy.
- 9:46Erin Gray: Be a number that I would get to and that then I would feel wealthy.
- 9:51Erin Gray: And what I know now is that is never going to.
- 9:52Erin Gray: There's no amount of money in your bank account or investment accounts or the amount of money you earn in your business or in your income or whatever that's going to create that feeling Like you have to feel wealthy right now.
- 10:01Erin Gray: It is a self-concept right, your identity, who you believe yourself to be.
- 10:07Erin Gray: It is a feeling that you feel in your body.
- 10:10Erin Gray: Yes, we're talking about wealth mindset, but what I go back to at the very beginning of what I said in this episode, it is a feeling and wealth to me because it is a feeling.
- 10:25Erin Gray: It feels expansive, it feels wide open and courageous, and so you really have to tap into what does wealth feel like to you?
- 10:40Erin Gray: And moving and taking action from the place of someone who is already wealthy, of someone who is already assuming that their success is guaranteed.
- 10:51Erin Gray: It's already done.
- 10:52Erin Gray: So, instead of moving from a place of I'm going to generate the thing to then one way is I'm already whole and I am creating from this place versus I feel inadequate, I am lacking and I want this to then give me this.
- 11:13Erin Gray: So, really starting to tap in and to ask yourself do you see yourself as a wealthy person?
- 11:21Erin Gray: Like, spend some time to journal on these.
- 11:23Erin Gray: Do you see yourself already as wealthy, no matter what's in your bank account, no matter what debt you have, no matter what's in your investments, whatever your net worth is?
- 11:32Erin Gray: Do you already see yourself as wealthy?
- 11:34Erin Gray: And if you answered no, that's okay.
- 11:38Erin Gray: Then that's where we get to dig in.
- 11:41Erin Gray: We get to ask ourselves what beliefs do I have?
- 11:44Erin Gray: What have I been taught ourselves?
- 11:48Erin Gray: What beliefs do I have?
- 11:48Erin Gray: What have I been taught?
- 11:49Erin Gray: Who has told me what?
- 11:49Erin Gray: Have I been able to?
- 11:50Erin Gray: Watch my parents or society tell me what wealth is?
- 11:54Erin Gray: What is my self-concept?
- 11:56Erin Gray: What do I believe about myself that is keeping me from feeling wealthy?
- 12:00Erin Gray: Already, dig into those beliefs.
- 12:02Erin Gray: Really get clear on.
- 12:05Erin Gray: What are you believing right now?
- 12:07Erin Gray: What do you want to believe?
- 12:08Erin Gray: Because we get to choose whatever we want to think and believe about ourselves, and if you want some support to pick some of this apart so that you can get more clarity where you can see where you are already wealthy and where you believe you aren't, and how that's creating what it is creating for you, for your, in your life, I would love to support you.
- 12:31Erin Gray: Just click the link in the show notes and we can schedule a time.
- 12:35Erin Gray: You can schedule a time to that works for you.
- 12:37Erin Gray: I really want you to spend some time.
- 12:41Erin Gray: You know, like I think podcasts are a great way to educate you, but educating and listening is only one part right, really doing the actual exercises, taking it into the body, becoming someone different.
- 12:54Erin Gray: That is where the real transformation is and lies.
- 12:58Erin Gray: So if you want support, reach out to me, click the link in the show notes and I would love to support you.
- 13:03Erin Gray: Okay, I'll see you in the next episode.