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Episode 48: Amused, Indifferent, & Changing the World · From My Planit to Yours...

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  SPEAKER_00: Hi, I'm Blizzard Planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Self-Friendship Podcast where playfulness meets societal reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through the lens of self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: the daily practice of embracing,
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  SPEAKER_00: understanding,
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  SPEAKER_00: and enjoying ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: I hopefully inspire you to critically think,
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  SPEAKER_00: creatively think,
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  SPEAKER_00: and optimistically approach life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine this.
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  SPEAKER_00: you hopped on the band rocket and now you're on planet butter,
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  SPEAKER_00: a world made of delicious sparkly peanut butter and an adorable disco ball of
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  SPEAKER_00: self-reflection is whirling around in her transforming convertible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for joining me in my 48th episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of what I'll be sharing includes my answer to last week's question of the week,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on phonetic hypnosis,
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  SPEAKER_00: an expression of intimacy,
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  SPEAKER_00: conscious ignorance,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on committing to boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: a party of one,
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  SPEAKER_00: a perspective dance with death,
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  SPEAKER_00: how to navigate hardships,
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  SPEAKER_00: and as always,
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  SPEAKER_00: a brand new question at the end for all of us to self-reflect and self-connect and
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  SPEAKER_00: email me,
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  SPEAKER_00: selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: My answer to last week's question of the week, which was...
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  SPEAKER_00: My default question at all times to myself is, how can I make this fun for myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: I sincerely go into everything as if it's already fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: And especially when there's other people involved,
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  SPEAKER_00: whether it's a trip to the immigration office,
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  SPEAKER_00: the hospital,
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  SPEAKER_00: a coffee shop,
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  SPEAKER_00: I find a way to make the conversations I have playful or light in some capacity,
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  SPEAKER_00: making it fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: I laugh, they laugh,
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  SPEAKER_00: And even if they don't laugh, I laugh.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm having fun with myself, for myself, as myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see?
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  SPEAKER_00: Party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also love the challenge of getting people to laugh who don't seem like they're ready to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I had a few podcast interviews last week,
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  SPEAKER_00: and when I was doing my research for them,
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  SPEAKER_00: there was one in particular where the person seemed rather...
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  SPEAKER_00: serious and the conversations that they had while they were interesting,
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  SPEAKER_00: they were not what I would call fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I was really excited to be interviewed by this person to see how I can turn it into play.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: It went so well.
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  SPEAKER_00: We went well over the intended recording time, having a super fun chat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Woohoo!
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: The other layer of this to note is the positive influence my party of one had on this person.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the value of showing up for ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: It inevitably has a positive influence on others and then others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Their positive experience influences the people that they interact with.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes me think of the movie Pay It Forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it came out in the 90s.
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  SPEAKER_00: Check it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Great movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: Great message.
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  SPEAKER_00: A little sad, but beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a quote that deeply resonated with me, which is not an easy feat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have very high standards for quotes that resonate with me that aren't mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're fun to play with, the universe will have fun playing with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jason Love on Rick Rubin's podcast, Tetragrammaton.
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  SPEAKER_00: I immensely respect Rick Rubin and his book.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I don't know him.
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  SPEAKER_00: I respect his work and his book, The Creative.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know him yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: His book,
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  SPEAKER_00: The Creative Act,
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  SPEAKER_00: as you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you've been on Planet Butter's Instagram for a while,
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  SPEAKER_00: I recently shared with Patrice Bonfoglio on her podcast,
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  SPEAKER_00: The Burnout Club,
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  SPEAKER_00: that I want Rick to write the full word to Planet Butter's chapter book,
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  SPEAKER_00: Two Types of Selfishness,
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  SPEAKER_00: The Self-Friendship Renaissance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I just dumped a lot on you guys and I want that quote to land.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're fun to play with, the universe will have fun too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Playing with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jason Love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks, Jason.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a note on phonetic hypnosis.
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  SPEAKER_00: I recently learned about phonetic hypnosis and the phrase itself caught me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when I looked into it, I realized I had been doing it intuitively slash subconsciously.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to call myself out for it now while sharing the knowledge with you guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: So.
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  SPEAKER_00: Phonetic hypnosis involves the use of sound,
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  SPEAKER_00: rhythm,
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  SPEAKER_00: and patterns in speech to influence or entrain the listener's mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Similarly to how phonetic patterns,
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  SPEAKER_00: tones,
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  SPEAKER_00: or rhythms in language and speech,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially through repetition,
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  SPEAKER_00: can create a trance-like state where listeners are more absorbed in the messaging.
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  SPEAKER_00: So...
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  SPEAKER_00: if you haven't noticed all regularly delivered the introduction to self-friendship podcast,
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  SPEAKER_00: the definition of self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: the daily practice of embracing,
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  SPEAKER_00: understanding,
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  SPEAKER_00: and enjoying ourselves party of one and perspective dance amongst other things in a
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  SPEAKER_00: specific tone and pace amongst my intentional language choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm hypnotizing you into having fun and being friends with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so amused.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amused in changing the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bang.
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  SPEAKER_00: So cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now the power of physical space for our expansion.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been a beach girl for about seven years now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the longest time I spent away from a large body of water was when I lived in
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  SPEAKER_00: the rice fields up north in Bali for about a month.
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  SPEAKER_00: The lack of ocean was honestly a concern despite my excitement for the adventure,
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  SPEAKER_00: but it absolutely felt aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we did what we do and we trusted the uni.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in my time there,
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  SPEAKER_00: because the rice fields and jungle were exceptionally spacious,
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  SPEAKER_00: much like the ocean.
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  SPEAKER_00: I quickly realized that physical space is actually superior to the ocean for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ocean is my preferred way to experience the physically expansive space amongst
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  SPEAKER_00: a zillion other reasons why I love the ocean.
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  SPEAKER_00: However,
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  SPEAKER_00: I did learn that physical space is superior in terms of positive influence on my
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  SPEAKER_00: life and get this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe that it must directly influence my capacity for my personal life's expansion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our external environment directly influences our internal state of being.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if we have a physically expansive space to immerse in,
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  SPEAKER_00: we can internalize it,
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  SPEAKER_00: resulting in the embodiment of expansiveness more easily as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seeing it, being it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like living proof for expansion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now this one's juicy gentlemen and ladies.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope there are some ladies here, but as of present, my audience is 98% men.
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  SPEAKER_00: So hello gentlemen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: An expression of intimacy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So one of the things that I pride myself on is leading by example, preaching what I practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've said this a bunch.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's also an R there's also an
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  SPEAKER_00: article on it, on the planet butter publication posted on Substack titled preach what you practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Check it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I pride myself on leading by example,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I show up in my self friendship practice,
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  SPEAKER_00: do my best to share my discoveries,
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  SPEAKER_00: experiences,
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  SPEAKER_00: and theories with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was recently at a women's circle where we were asked to express our top three
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  SPEAKER_00: priorities in a romantic relationship and elaborate on each.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm excited to share my priorities with an audience that's mostly men,
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  SPEAKER_00: because as someone with exceptionally high standards,
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope to inspire you to self-reflect and self-connect on your own standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you might be accepting compared to what you actually want to welcome into your world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to have a little insight into a woman's brain who has high standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: Got you covered babies.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my three priorities,
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  SPEAKER_00: alignment,
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  SPEAKER_00: big surprise,
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  SPEAKER_00: healthy challenge,
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  SPEAKER_00: also big surprise and safety,
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  SPEAKER_00: safety,
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  SPEAKER_00: safety,
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  SPEAKER_00: safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alignment, healthy challenge and safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: So to elaborate on each alignment, I said,
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  SPEAKER_00: physically,
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  SPEAKER_00: mentally,
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  SPEAKER_00: and emotionally synchronized with each other while still prioritizing our own best interests.
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  SPEAKER_00: We come together because we each prioritize what's best for ourselves and our
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  SPEAKER_00: dynamic is the natural outcome of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: As for healthy challenge,
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  SPEAKER_00: I said,
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  SPEAKER_00: someone who is emotionally and intellectually on my level,
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  SPEAKER_00: understanding both how I want to grow and how they want to grow.
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  SPEAKER_00: We hold each other to the same standards we set for ourselves while still admiring
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  SPEAKER_00: who we are in the present.
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  SPEAKER_00: And third, safety, complete safety, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can be my full self in all my forms.
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  SPEAKER_00: He can too.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can share anything, say anything, and be unapologetically transparent and direct.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing is taken personally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is viewed as a way to improve the relationship,
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  SPEAKER_00: which stands as an external entity beyond ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can go anywhere and do anything with me trusting him to lead and protect my
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  SPEAKER_00: well-being while I fully receive his vulnerability and efforts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's also an article on Planet Butter's publication hosted on Substack that's titled,
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  SPEAKER_00: Love is Easy,
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-Friendship is in Love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll link it in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now conscious ignorance,
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  SPEAKER_00: conscious ignorance is knowing and choosing to neglect everything that does not
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  SPEAKER_00: fuel our alignment,
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  SPEAKER_00: our role in the ever expansive universe.
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  Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a self-friendship article snippet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Intocentricism meet Hermeticism.
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  SPEAKER_00: As it turns out,
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  SPEAKER_00: some of Planet Butter's belief system,
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  SPEAKER_00: Intocentricism,
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  SPEAKER_00: which prioritizes our intuition and embodies the pursuit of self-control and
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  SPEAKER_00: self-expression leading to the collective expansion of society,
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  SPEAKER_00: aligns with some of the pre-existing concept of Hermeticism.
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  SPEAKER_00: How cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love when I reach my own conclusions and discover that other people or groups of
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  SPEAKER_00: people equally independently arrived at the same conclusions or ideas.
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  SPEAKER_00: The magic of wonder,
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  SPEAKER_00: exploring our minds,
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  SPEAKER_00: reflecting on existence and further expanding on innovation,
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  SPEAKER_00: creativity and connecting not so unique thoughts yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: arriving uniquely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our how will always be different from one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's part of the magic.
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  SPEAKER_00: In hermetic thought,
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  SPEAKER_00: the universe is seen as a reflection of divine order and interconnectedness,
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  SPEAKER_00: where every element from the stars to the smallest creatures hold symbolic meaning,
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  SPEAKER_00: that everything around us is a symbol reflecting deeper truths.
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  SPEAKER_00: that everything in our surroundings is constantly communicating with us.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is aligned with my article.
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  SPEAKER_00: Signs are the language of the uni where I playfully embody and convey the same concept.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hermeticism also has a principle that everything is nature,
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  SPEAKER_00: which is also the same conclusion I drew in relation to technology in my article,
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  SPEAKER_00: transcending limitations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Given my love and practice of perspective dancing,
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  SPEAKER_00: critical thinking,
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  SPEAKER_00: and creative thinking,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm excited to explore the contrast of linear thinking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Read or listen to the rest of the article on Planet Butter's publication hosted on Substack,
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  SPEAKER_00: planetbutter.substack.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now a note on committing to boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all love boundaries, or so I hope.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's difficult to stick to a boundary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we set boundaries we either haven't previously set or in some instances
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  SPEAKER_00: we don't want to have to set.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we have to in order to prioritize our own best interest and well-being.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where our commitment comes in.
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  SPEAKER_00: By setting it once, by setting the boundary once, we increase our confidence and become in alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: The three core methods to activate self-friendship, boundaries, confidence, alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: This ultimately makes us more prone to continue to take action that perpetuates
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  SPEAKER_00: this cycle,
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  SPEAKER_00: creating lasting change.
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  SPEAKER_00: This point was just to raise awareness to the fact that sometimes it's hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: But cultivating the awareness around it and understanding that sticking to things
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  SPEAKER_00: that we don't want to have to do is part of what's in our best interest sometimes.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we can have fun doing it because we love a healthy challenge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, following that, very important, a note on standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't change our standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: We take them elsewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: In taking them elsewhere, indifference is our superpower.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we are not indifferent, then some part of our energy is invested in what is not meeting our standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what we accept is what we deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: Accept what you deserve and what you deserve are your standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep those standards high, baby.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually shared that on Planet Butters Instagram and I got a lot of really positive feedback.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I was excited to share that with you guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: What was really cool about it is that a lot of the guys were messaging.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of you guys are messaging saying it was like the perfect timing to receive that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I just love when that happens because alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now a party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: As a loving reminder,
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  SPEAKER_00: party of one means having fun with oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: for oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: as oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: anywhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: everywhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: no matter who's there.
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  SPEAKER_00: We become our party of one by consistently practicing self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each episode,
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  SPEAKER_00: I share little tidbits from my life that happened thanks to me showing up in the
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  SPEAKER_00: world as my party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, here's a reminder of an affirmation I made up
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, my work is to receive while the universe and my previous efforts provide for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The other day, I had one of those types of days, a day to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: So because I'm obsessed with building Planet Butter,
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  SPEAKER_00: sometimes I have to remind myself that what may appear or feel as though I'm not
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  SPEAKER_00: working on Planet Butter is always,
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  SPEAKER_00: always working on Planet Butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I am in receiving mode, I am still working on Planet Butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of ideas and realizations come to me during my adventures,
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  SPEAKER_00: my parties of one,
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  SPEAKER_00: and the adventures themselves are used as Planet Butter material.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it respects my concept of passing the baton, which is the better version of letting go.
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  SPEAKER_00: In giving the uni space, it needs to do what it needs to do in support of me.
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  SPEAKER_00: and you when you apply this to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I went about my day focusing on receiving in ways that I know are relaxing and
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  SPEAKER_00: nurturing for me and my wellbeing.
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  SPEAKER_00: which is in turn in my best interest and therefore in the world's best interest.
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  SPEAKER_00: And while I'm doing that,
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  SPEAKER_00: we have zero idea or ability to comprehend the level that the uni has been up to
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  SPEAKER_00: the entire day.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, the level of magic that the uni has been up to.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't know what the uni is doing while we're receiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, so what did I do that day?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ready?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well,
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  SPEAKER_00: I first realized I needed to go into receiving mode when I started to record my
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  SPEAKER_00: audio article because I was getting frustrated with the tech stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And normally I don't get frustrated with that stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love doing my audio articles.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if I'm getting frustrated while doing something I love,
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  SPEAKER_00: I probably just need to go into receiving mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I got a yummy breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went to the beach.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got a massage.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went to aerial yoga relaxation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had a creative jam session with my friend and did another beach walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sauna, ice bath, a little socializing, all is well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Receive, cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a perspective dance with religions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I say this with full respect for everyone's beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, religions are like one big game of telephone.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it, just think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, now a perspective dance with death.
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  SPEAKER_00: Humans often find comfort in a sense of knowing until it comes to death.
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  SPEAKER_00: Death is a guarantee we know but don't understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of accepting it, for some reason we fear it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if we find comfort in knowing,
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  SPEAKER_00: why not also find peace in knowing it's inevitable rather than fearing it?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not very self-friendship of us to fear the inevitable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now is it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a reading consideration.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm reading a book right now that I actually don't love.
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  SPEAKER_00: The structure and the writing style aren't exactly for me,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I really appreciate the concept,
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  SPEAKER_00: so I'm still reading it,
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  SPEAKER_00: approaching it from a critical thinking standpoint,
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  SPEAKER_00: as always.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's inspiration.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm super excited about this one.
• 20:03
  SPEAKER_00: How to navigate hardships.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was laughing for a long time when I thought of this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how to navigate hardships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-talk is one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The way we narrate our life is an extension of our self-talk.
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  SPEAKER_00: The stories we tell ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're familiar with this idea of narratives.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lots of people talk about this a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm offering that during the moments of our more challenging life situations,
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of trying to convince ourselves that it's gonna be okay with positive
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  SPEAKER_00: affirmations or whatever,
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  SPEAKER_00: that our subconscious self just straight up doesn't believe or has a hard time believing,
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  SPEAKER_00: which really just makes us feel like we're lying to ourselves and that ultimately
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  SPEAKER_00: worsens our emotional state.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of all of that, to be objective and playful as much as possible,
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  SPEAKER_00: as we do on Planet Butter,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm encouraging that once we cultivate the awareness of the challenging time,
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: we can begin to detach and become optimistic by narrating the situation with the
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  SPEAKER_00: most absurdly incredible and amazing outcome you can possibly imagine.
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  SPEAKER_00: So narrate the situation like, okay, insert whatever your hardship is,
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  SPEAKER_00: say it out loud, and then make a dramatic pivot.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then I was on my way to a meeting when I got a phone call from Cirrus Aircraft,
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  SPEAKER_00: a private jet charter company,
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  SPEAKER_00: discovered Planet Butter and wants to bring my Planet Butter jet dream to life.
• 21:49
  SPEAKER_00: And they're sponsoring Self-Friendship Podcast to be recorded while in flight for
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  SPEAKER_00: as many episodes as I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they're going to provide pizza, my sparkly Planet Butter, and coconuts.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can go on, but I'll stop, you get the idea.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hello Cirrus Aircrafts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, you with me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Go try it, have fun, let me know how it goes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, almost lastly, second to lastly, a sneaky snug.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you catch yourself with your arms crossed, slowly transition to a hug.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give yourself a little squeeze and then let it go.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'll shift into a giggle and you'll give yourself a little love.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_00: And lastly,
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  SPEAKER_00: the question of the week for all of us to self-reflect and self-connect and email me,
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  SPEAKER_00: selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_00: Where in your life can you integrate conscious ignorance?
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  SPEAKER_00: Again,
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  SPEAKER_00: conscious ignorance is knowing and choosing to neglect everything that does not
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  SPEAKER_00: fuel our alignment,
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  SPEAKER_00: our role in the ever expansive universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know your answers.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: Self friendship podcast at gmail.com.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: All right, we did it again.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: Bonus self-friendship podcast episodes featuring your world.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: Each selected submission will be its own episode where I'll be giving my
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: perspective dancing and opinions through the lens of self-friendship.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: This is of course not a substitute for professional support.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: The bonus episodes will be available every other week exclusively for founding
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_00: members of Planet Butter's publication hosted on Substack beginning this Sunday,
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  SPEAKER_00: November 2nd,
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  2024.
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  SPEAKER_00: The link is also in the show notes or the link in my Instagram bio at planetbutter, P-L-A-N-I-T.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: And the world's first coffee table book with a lesson, Party of One.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-Friendship in Action is available internationally on planetbutter.com.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_00: And please subscribe and review wherever you're watching or listening to this.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's super helpful and super appreciated.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for landing on Planet Butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you next Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: From my planet to yours, Blizzard.