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WHAT IF YOU CAN_ - Motivational Speech for Studying _ Success (Compilation) · Motivation study

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  Speaker 1: What does a successful student look like to you? Success
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  Speaker 1: might look like an A on an assignment or all
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  Speaker 1: A's in a semester or keeping a perfect 4.0 GPA.
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  Speaker 1: So you stress yourself out. You think that in order
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  Speaker 1: to be successful, you have to strive for perfection. You
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  Speaker 1: have to get all A's. I'm not surprised you are
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  Speaker 1: so stressed out. You've been encouraged to chase perfection your
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  Speaker 1: whole life. Success does not just fall into our lap.
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  Speaker 1: It does take work. It takes focus. It takes dedication.
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  Speaker 1: It takes determination. Most importantly, it takes time. The one
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  Speaker 1: thing it does not take is perfection.
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  Speaker 2: I've discovered that if you get to the root of perfectionism,
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  Speaker 2: you will find fear. You will find fear of failing,
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  Speaker 2: fear of making a mistake, fear of not being good enough,
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  Speaker 2: fear of being judged and those fears can keep you
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  Speaker 2: stuck in a pattern of overthinking and over analyzing everything.
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  Speaker 1: I know the struggle of feeling like you have to
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  Speaker 1: prove yourself because you already know the cards are stacked
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  Speaker 1: against you and you feel the pressure of finishing because
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  Speaker 1: you are so afraid you might fail. That desire to
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  Speaker 1: be successful in the face of so much opposition is
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  Speaker 1: an overwhelming feeling. It's enough to push you into falsely
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  Speaker 1: believing that you must be perfect in everything you do.
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  Speaker 1: But perfection is not a requirement for success. I needed
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  Speaker 1: to let go of the idea that I had to
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  Speaker 1: be perfect in everything I did.
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  Speaker 2: Getting results that don't meet your expectations doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 2: you are on the wrong track. And so far too often,
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  Speaker 2: we expect our rough draft to be perfect. But a
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  Speaker 2: rough draft is a rough draft. It's supposed to be
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  Speaker 2: revised and refined over time. And so you will attempt
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  Speaker 2: some shots and miss, but you will miss 100% of
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  Speaker 2: the shots you never take. Overachievers and perfectionists are extremely
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  Speaker 2: tough on themselves. Being ambitious and wanting to do well
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  Speaker 2: is a great trait. However, being an overachiever can also
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  Speaker 2: work against you. And this is why I want you
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  Speaker 2: to pursue progress instead of pursuing perfection. Giving your best
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  Speaker 2: doesn't guarantee the outcome that you desire. However, your best
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  Speaker 2: is all you can offer. So when you give your best,
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  Speaker 2: just feel good about the fact that you did your best.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that you're not cut out for this.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that you have permission to have a
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  Speaker 2: pity party. It doesn't mean that you have permission to self-criticize.
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  Speaker 2: Just feel good about the fact that you believed in
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  Speaker 2: yourself enough to go after a goal that you really
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  Speaker 2: wanted to achieve. Perfectionists are typically also high achievers. And
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  Speaker 2: this means that perfectionists tend to have very high expectations
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  Speaker 2: of themselves. They, again, it's a great trait, but it
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  Speaker 2: also means that they are more likely to experience anxiety
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  Speaker 2: and sadness. when a project doesn't turn out the way
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  Speaker 2: they envisioned. And when I find myself falling back into
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  Speaker 2: a pattern of perfectionism, I remind myself to practice self-compassion.
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  Speaker 2: I also try to give myself the same grace and
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  Speaker 2: compassion that I would give to someone else. When you're
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  Speaker 2: a perfectionist, you focus more on your deficits than on
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  Speaker 2: your positive qualities. And even when you put forth a
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  Speaker 2: lot of effort, you might still feel like you didn't
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  Speaker 2: do enough.
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  Speaker 1: We're all a work in progress. It may seem to
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  Speaker 1: you like others have it better. It may seem like
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  Speaker 1: they have it easier. It may seem like the grass
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  Speaker 1: is greener on the other side. That is until you
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  Speaker 1: look at it more closely and realize that it's fake.
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  Speaker 1: But hey, maybe it is real.
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  Speaker 3: Still fake.
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  Speaker 1: They are no better than you or I, so don't
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  Speaker 1: worry about what others are doing or what they have done.
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  Speaker 1: Don't compare your progress to theirs because they are on
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  Speaker 1: a different journey from you. You didn't get to see
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  Speaker 1: their failures, their lessons learned, their setbacks. You only see
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  Speaker 1: the end result. Don't allow the end result to fool
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  Speaker 1: you into thinking, okay, if I do everything exactly right,
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  Speaker 1: make the right choices, make the right impressions, make the
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  Speaker 1: right grades, then I too will finally have it made.
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  Speaker 1: This is a false narrative of the worst kind. Do
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  Speaker 1: not fall for it. The only person you have to
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  Speaker 1: compete with is yourself. You are not perfect and that
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  Speaker 1: is perfectly okay. As long as you are better today
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  Speaker 1: than you were yesterday, you are progressing.
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  Speaker 2: I want to challenge you to really focus on making progress.
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  Speaker 2: Having a goal of making progress means that you are
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  Speaker 2: focusing on needle moving activities. Making progress means that you
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  Speaker 2: are not critiquing and revising your work for hours. And listen,
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  Speaker 2: progress does not have to be huge. Making progress simply
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  Speaker 2: means that you are taking small steps every day that
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  Speaker 2: will bring you closer to your goal. So instead of
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  Speaker 2: allowing self-doubt to hold you back, begin to take imperfect action.
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  Speaker 2: And in doing so, you will discover that small wins
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  Speaker 2: add up to bigger wins. Do not sweat the small stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to have to say that again. Do not
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  Speaker 2: sweat the small stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Contrary to popular belief, practice does not make perfect. It
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  Speaker 1: makes better. If you want proof, just check out any
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  Speaker 1: professional sports team, any professional athlete, any professional musician, any
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  Speaker 1: professional singer, any professional actor. Despite the hours upon hours
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  Speaker 1: of practice, Mistakes are made. Games are lost. Wrong notes
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  Speaker 1: are played. Lines are forgotten. Yet the world still somehow
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  Speaker 1: manages to keep spinning. When a mistake is made, learn
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  Speaker 1: from it. Apply those lessons and keep practicing. If you
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  Speaker 1: practice to make better instead of perfect, you will continue
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  Speaker 1: to see progress.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you read three words.
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  Speaker 4: You read three words that you probably don't think that
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  Speaker 4: you would ever see, and it says, crash victim dies.
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  Speaker 3: And then it changes.
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  Speaker 4: It's not only about you, not only about your fears
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  Speaker 4: and your wounds. Now you begin to see and to
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  Speaker 4: realize that our choices have this ripple effect that can
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  Speaker 4: affect other people, other families. And so this was the
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  Speaker 4: reality on July 17th, 2009. I think at the core
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  Speaker 4: of us, we long for human connection. There's an ember
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  Speaker 4: in all of us that just want to feel like
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  Speaker 4: we belong, find that place and that space.
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  Speaker 3: And so I was in that pursuit.
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  Speaker 4: And so when some of the friends that I had
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  Speaker 4: growing up throughout the younger years.
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  Speaker 3: They weren't the popular kids anymore. but I needed you
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  Speaker 3: to see me a certain way, you know?
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  Speaker 4: And so I walked away from those friends, probably the
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  Speaker 4: worst mistake of my life, and try to find new
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  Speaker 4: friends that would give me the image. My sophomore year,
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  Speaker 4: some new friends that I developed, they asked me to
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  Speaker 4: come over to a party and pop the pill and
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  Speaker 4: take the drink and, you know, some of the things
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  Speaker 4: that are pretty.
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  Speaker 3: Typical in the high school experience, right, wrong, or different.
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  Speaker 4: There's just these opportunities for you to have a choice
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  Speaker 4: to compromise yourself or not to compromise yourself. So now
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  Speaker 4: as I'm getting involved with drugs and alcohol and just
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  Speaker 4: some sort.
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  Speaker 3: Of destructive things, I went from straight A's to straight F's.
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  Speaker 4: My senior year, I'm a full-blown alcoholic and an addict
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  Speaker 4: and just a lot of destructive mentalities.
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  Speaker 3: And I got expelled my senior year. I didn't graduate.
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  Speaker 4: And You know, in that moment, you begin to lose hope.
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  Speaker 4: You begin to feel like you're labeled from the community
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  Speaker 4: around you. And you start to have this internal battle.
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  Speaker 4: Why should I even try to change, you know, maybe.
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  Speaker 3: What it is?
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  Speaker 4: It's what it was always supposed to be. You know,
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  Speaker 4: I don't have a purpose. This is just kind of
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  Speaker 4: like what life dealt me. It was the deck that
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  Speaker 4: now I just got to live with it. You know,
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  Speaker 4: so here I am now really seven years removed from
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  Speaker 4: being a straight A student as a freshman. It was
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  Speaker 4: a typical Friday night and that new group of friends
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  Speaker 4: that I had developed over the years. There was a
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  Speaker 4: party and, you know, I'm 23. What's the big deal?
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  Speaker 4: Let's just go to the party and have a few drinks.
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  Speaker 4: And I went and when the alcohol ran out, we
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  Speaker 4: went to a bar, had a few more drinks and
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  Speaker 4: then the bar is going to close and we were
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  Speaker 4: going to go to another after party. Actually, we're going
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  Speaker 4: to my friend's house where we were all going to
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  Speaker 4: go to and I knew him really well and they
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  Speaker 4: asked me if I wanted to leave a little bit
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  Speaker 4: early and so and kind of get the party ready.
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  Speaker 4: And I was sure why not? But I was too
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  Speaker 4: drunk and I wasn't going to drive. So I remember
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  Speaker 4: I called my friend Priscilla. Priscilla had moved to Alabama
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  Speaker 4: a few months previous to this night. She had friended
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  Speaker 4: a group of us and she wasn't there that night
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  Speaker 4: and I needed to drive her. So I called Priscilla
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  Speaker 4: and she shows up. But somewhere in that process, that's
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  Speaker 4: when everything really changed. Somehow I got the keys. Still today,
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  Speaker 4: we don't know how this moment transpired. She was basically
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  Speaker 4: sober and I was extremely inebriated. But nevertheless, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I got the keys. And next thing I know, I
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  Speaker 4: wake up. I wake up in a hospital bed. I
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  Speaker 4: remember leaving the bar and getting to her car. We
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  Speaker 4: were right around the corner from TJ's house and I
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  Speaker 4: can still hear her voice. She said the word tree.
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  Speaker 4: I was in a helicopter and I woke up in
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  Speaker 4: this hospital with police officers over top of me asking
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  Speaker 4: me questions.
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  Speaker 3: Who is she? What's her name? Her name's Priscilla, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm confused.
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  Speaker 4: They wouldn't really tell me anything because I wasn't family.
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  Speaker 3: They said she's alive, but she's struggling. That morning, for
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  Speaker 3: some reason, they didn't arrest me. They let me leave.
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  Speaker 4: And they just told my mom who had showed up,
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  Speaker 4: we'll be in contact with you guys soon.
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  Speaker 3: And on the ride home, my mom was able to collect.
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  Speaker 4: Some information of what happened that night because my sister
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  Speaker 4: being a nurse, we didn't know the.
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  Speaker 3: Specifics per se, but we just knew things were going
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  Speaker 3: to change.
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  Speaker 4: And there's a lot of trauma to Priscilla and she
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  Speaker 4: didn't put on her seatbelt that night. When we hit
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  Speaker 4: the tree at a high rate of speed, she flung
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  Speaker 4: forward and the case of beer I put in the
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  Speaker 4: back seat, it flung forward and the seatbelt restrained me,
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  Speaker 4: but she didn't have on hers. And upon impact, she
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  Speaker 4: was this catapulted forward and the windshield and her and
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  Speaker 4: the case of beers kind of collided. You know, as
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  Speaker 4: my mom's telling me some of the information, you think
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  Speaker 4: this happens to everybody else, not people like me, not
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  Speaker 4: like you.
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  Speaker 3: It's the dangers of this thing, right?
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  Speaker 4: You begin to feed a bear cub, the bear cub's
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  Speaker 4: cute and it's cuddly, that addiction. But eventually the bear
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  Speaker 4: cub grows up and it's a full grown grizzly. And
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  Speaker 4: if you don't keep feeding it, it can kill you.
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  Speaker 4: And so you begin feeding it and feeding it. And
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  Speaker 4: next thing you know, you can't break free from it.
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  Speaker 4: That was my addiction. And, uh, Carolyn, um, priscilla's mom
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  Speaker 4: and olivia her sister about three days after the wreck.
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  Speaker 3: First off i'm waiting for just the police.
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  Speaker 4: To show up probably and arrest me right like the
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  Speaker 4: unknown what's gonna happen what's this even mean they want
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  Speaker 4: me to call them and so i pick up the
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  Speaker 4: phone and i'm weeping and.
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  Speaker 3: I remember what carolyn said to me and olivia that
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  Speaker 3: that on that call and.
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  Speaker 4: They're emotional and they say, Nathan, we're angry, we're sad,
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  Speaker 4: we're mad.
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  Speaker 3: We don't know what to feel.
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  Speaker 4: But we just don't think one dumb choice should destroy
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  Speaker 4: two families' lives.
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  Speaker 3: We want you to know in this moment we've picked
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  Speaker 3: love over hate and we decide to forgive you.
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  Speaker 4: And they asked me to do two things. Don't let
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  Speaker 4: our daughter, Priscilla, please pass away for nothing and try
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  Speaker 4: to make the world a better place.
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  Speaker 3: And of course you say yes, right?
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  Speaker 4: Like your brain's trying to register because in today's society,
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  Speaker 4: you know, they had every right to hate me and
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  Speaker 4: demand justice. And for that to be me and not her.
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  Speaker 4: And to be honest, I think I'm wrestling with that
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  Speaker 4: place in that moment. Like I knew the struggles, my hurts,
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  Speaker 4: the poor decisions, the brokenness. I would have did anything
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  Speaker 4: to reverse those roles. And here's this family finding this
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  Speaker 4: craziest courage I've ever seen in my life. They stepped
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  Speaker 4: into their most difficult time in their life and they
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  Speaker 4: picked love over hate to forgive. And I said, yes,
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  Speaker 4: but just because a family found radical courage to forgive
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  Speaker 4: doesn't mean my choices didn't have consequences. And so At
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  Speaker 4: 23 years old, when I should have been a senior
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  Speaker 4: graduating college, just a few years removed from when things
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  Speaker 4: were better, I got sentenced to 15 years of prison,
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  Speaker 4: sentenced to a crime of reckless homicide, vehicle manslaughter.
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  Speaker 3: So here I am now at.
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  Speaker 4: 23 with this family forgiving me, the brokenness of my past,
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  Speaker 4: the struggles of the story of my life. And now,
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  Speaker 4: face to face with 15 years of incarceration, to be honest,
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  Speaker 4: it would have been easy to say I quit. I
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  Speaker 4: gave up throwing the towel. I come from a broken family.
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  Speaker 4: I came from the struggles of wanting to live life
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  Speaker 4: and all my mental health and just the struggles of
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  Speaker 4: the anxieties, the depressions, the eating disorders, the anger, the rage,
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  Speaker 4: the drugs now, the alcohol. Now my choice is affected
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  Speaker 4: in another family that'll never go back to what it was.
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  Speaker 4: I had a come to terms with something what am
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  Speaker 4: I going to do you know I think a lot
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  Speaker 4: of times we want to change we know we need
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  Speaker 4: to change and we should change but nothing changes because
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  Speaker 4: change is tough change takes vulnerability you have to confront
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  Speaker 4: yourself and here I was now at 23 and I
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  Speaker 4: had to confront the thing that I've been most afraid
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  Speaker 4: of my entire life me I used to blame everything
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  Speaker 4: on the trauma the external sources the wounds but now
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  Speaker 4: I had to come face to face with me And
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  Speaker 4: I remember it was in that moment because I really
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  Speaker 4: wanted to keep the promise to the Owens family, to
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  Speaker 4: Carolyn and Olivia. And my dad, even though the wounds
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  Speaker 4: that happened in my past with him, he always had
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  Speaker 4: this quote, as long as there's breath in your lungs, Nathan,
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  Speaker 4: there's hope in your heart. You're never a product of
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  Speaker 4: your environment. You're a product of what you find the
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  Speaker 4: courage to do. And so it was then as a
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  Speaker 4: 23-year-old dude that I I looked in the mirror facing
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  Speaker 4: 15 years and I wrote the.
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  Speaker 3: Words, change the world. And I slapped them.
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  Speaker 4: With toothpaste on the wall of my little prison cell.
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  Speaker 4: And I didn't know what it looked like. I didn't
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  Speaker 4: know what it meant. I didn't know how to keep
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  Speaker 4: a promise to a family and what does change the
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  Speaker 4: world even mean. But I knew what I had been
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  Speaker 4: doing up to that point wasn't working. And so every
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  Speaker 4: day I started waking up, owning my story, confronting me.
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  Speaker 4: There's a quote that I live by now, and it's,
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  Speaker 4: I would rather confront, fight, and fail than settle for
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  Speaker 4: just staying the same.
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  Speaker 3: And it started then.
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  Speaker 4: Not when my circumstance would get better, it was then.
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  Speaker 3: And so now I have a choice. What am I
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  Speaker 3: going to do with my day?
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  Speaker 4: It was about me. Can I every day wake up
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  Speaker 4: and realize life is a choice? I can build or
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  Speaker 4: I can destroy. I can feed and it.
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  Speaker 3: Can grow or I can starve and it can die.
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  Speaker 4: Taking ownership that, you know, the journey and the beauty
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  Speaker 4: of the symphony of our lives, that regardless of the chaos,
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  Speaker 4: there are areas that even in my chaos, I can control.
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  Speaker 4: The prison started a program, a therapeutic program, and it
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  Speaker 4: was basically a cognitive program.
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  Speaker 3: Change the way you think, it can change you.
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  Speaker 4: And I started in that program and my life was really,
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  Speaker 4: you know, finding a balance. And it was so effective,
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  Speaker 4: it was lowering the recidivism rate in the state of Indiana.
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  Speaker 4: So they They wanted to start to really promote this program.
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  Speaker 4: And so when they went to find an ambassador, they
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  Speaker 4: got the permission to take somebody on the inside that
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  Speaker 4: was a prisoner, a convict, you know, an inmate, and
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  Speaker 4: let them begin to try to be a spokesman.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't know that was going to happen.
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  Speaker 4: I was every day just doing the next right thing
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  Speaker 4: for me, but it created an opportunity. You never know
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  Speaker 4: who's watching. You never know what's around you. And so
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  Speaker 4: when they went to pick somebody, they selected me. And
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  Speaker 4: so here I am now, two years into this 15
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  Speaker 4: year sentence and I'm getting opportunities to leave the prison
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  Speaker 4: and street clothes and to go all across the state
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  Speaker 4: of Indiana and speak at different venues and different locations
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  Speaker 4: about just this program. I spoke to about five to 7,000
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  Speaker 4: people in this year and a half period. And the
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  Speaker 4: governor's council at the time, they got wind of about it.
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  Speaker 4: And I remember a letter came in and it basically
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  Speaker 4: said that this young man's is more effective out there than.
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  Speaker 3: He is in here.
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  Speaker 4: And I walked, I got released 11 and a half
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  Speaker 4: years early. I got released in 2012 and 2013 around
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  Speaker 4: that time. And to be honest, When I put change
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  Speaker 4: the world on the mirror, I didn't know what that meant,
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  Speaker 4: but I was beginning to find my why.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I always tell people, I don't.
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  Speaker 4: Need you to give me your your thesis of exactly
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  Speaker 4: what your future.
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  Speaker 3: Is going to look like. Some of us know those things.
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  Speaker 4: Some of us have that vision and that's exactly what
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  Speaker 4: we're going to do when they execute it.
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  Speaker 3: And it's amazing.
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  Speaker 4: But that's not everybody's song. For me, it's about having
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  Speaker 4: a direction. changed the world to me was just a direction.
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  Speaker 4: So every single day, as I was moving towards that,
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  Speaker 4: the details begin to become more vivid. It's almost like
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  Speaker 4: I had a coloring book and I had this blank
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  Speaker 4: piece of paper that was a picture of whatever scene
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  Speaker 4: that I wanted it to be, but I didn't know
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  Speaker 4: what it was gonna look like.
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  Speaker 3: But over time, I would pick up the purple and
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  Speaker 3: I'd pick up the green, I'd pick up the blue.
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  Speaker 4: And as I'm just doing the next thing, the picture
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  Speaker 4: got more beautiful, it became more vivid, it came into focus.
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  Speaker 4: You don't have to have every detail, but start moving
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  Speaker 4: towards it. And over time, consistently, it begins to be
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  Speaker 4: more defined. And so for me, we're afraid of what
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  Speaker 4: will it look like. We're afraid of failing. We're afraid
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  Speaker 4: of being vulnerable. Fear drives us. But I've learned the
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  Speaker 4: more I punch fear and that fear is not final
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  Speaker 4: and no feeling is final and that we can do
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  Speaker 4: hard things and we can make mistakes. If you can
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  Speaker 4: step into your story, you have no idea the ripple effect.
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  Speaker 3: That can happen around you. We can build or we
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  Speaker 3: can tear down.
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  Speaker 4: And now I just live a life where every day,
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  Speaker 4: how can I walk into a room and add.
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  Speaker 3: Value to people.
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  Speaker 5: You see, Albert, in his early 20s, maybe felt a
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  Speaker 5: lot like you feel like right now. Anxious, frustrated, uncertain,
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  Speaker 5: waiting for the opportunity to show your best and feeling
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  Speaker 5: like it's not happening yet. In 1902, he gets a job.
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  Speaker 5: Not a science job, he gets a job in a
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  Speaker 5: patent office in Switzerland. To many people, this would have
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  Speaker 5: felt like I didn't get it right. It didn't start
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  Speaker 5: right for me. But not for Einstein. Einstein knew my
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  Speaker 5: journey has started. You see, work is this extraordinary thing.
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  Speaker 5: We've let it feel like it's not that in our lives.
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  Speaker 5: We've let it feel like it's the thing you don't
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  Speaker 5: want to do. But work is this powerful opportunity to
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  Speaker 5: shape your life. To build yourself. the dreams that you have.
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  Speaker 5: That is what work offers you. And Einstein had glory
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  Speaker 5: in his eyes. He knew what he was aiming at,
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  Speaker 5: but it didn't start there. For many people, this would
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  Speaker 5: have added to their desperation.
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  Speaker 3: It would have added to their depression, but not for him.
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  Speaker 3: Not for him. He knew this was the start. He
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  Speaker 3: was ready to go to work. What's next?
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: You see, we grew up in a system, we grew
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  Speaker 5: up in a school system, an education system that gives
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  Speaker 5: us targets. And those targets are designed to build our life,
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: to ask you to be at your best.
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  Speaker 3: That's how we prepare for life and work. And then
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  Speaker 3: one day we leave.
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  Speaker 5: School, we enter the rest of our life. And the
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  Speaker 5: targets start to look different. The targets aren't designed to
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  Speaker 5: build your life. The targets are designed to build a business,
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  Speaker 5: build an organization, build somebody else's goals.
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  Speaker 3: And for many people, that feels like a really frustrating
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  Speaker 3: place to be. But not Einstein.
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  Speaker 5: Einstein knew he was there to do patents. But that
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  Speaker 5: didn't mean he couldn't choose his own target. You see,
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  Speaker 5: Einstein went to work every day. And in his patent office,
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  Speaker 5: he had a desk that he worked at. And in
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  Speaker 5: the top drawer of that desk, Einstein chose his own target.
• 24:32
  Speaker 5: He called the top drawer of his desk.
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  Speaker 3: his theoretical physics department.
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  Speaker 5: That's where he was going to go to work on
• 24:38
  Speaker 5: his science every day. In the moments that he had,
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  Speaker 5: in the time away from the patents, he was going
• 24:42
  Speaker 5: to pour his energy at his own target. From that
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  Speaker 5: patent office, in 1905, we call it the miracle year.
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: Albert Einstein released five papers, five scientific papers, and four
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  Speaker 5: of them changed the world.
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  Speaker 3: This is equals MC squared. This is the theory of relativity.
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  Speaker 5: This is what Albert Einstein was working on in the
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  Speaker 5: top drawer of his desk. He didn't just choose his target.
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  Speaker 5: He started to change his actions. The idea that you
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  Speaker 5: can set a target for yourself and then you can
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  Speaker 5: start to bend your behavior. Change how you're showing up
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  Speaker 5: to actually.
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  Speaker 3: Reach that target.
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  Speaker 5: This is the idea that you can either lead life
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  Speaker 5: or let life lead you. That you can give yourself
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  Speaker 5: the permission to change your future. And Einstein, one of
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  Speaker 5: the most brilliant men the world has ever seen, showed
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  Speaker 5: us how. You see, after Albert was ready to work,
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  Speaker 5: after he chose his own target, after he changed his behavior,
• 25:57
  Speaker 5: he then realized this wasn't just about him. You see,
• 26:02
  Speaker 5: in 1905, he releases some of the world's greatest scientific work.
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  Speaker 5: And he still stayed at this patent job for the
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  Speaker 5: next four years. Because he realized that it wasn't just
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  Speaker 5: about him. It wasn't just about what he could do.
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  Speaker 5: It was about giving back to those who would offer
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  Speaker 5: him a chance. So for four more years, he spent
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  Speaker 5: in that patent office, thinking through his science through the
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  Speaker 5: top drawer of his desk, and also his daily job.
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  Speaker 5: You see, Einstein never let that idea drift too far
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  Speaker 5: from his life. He could have used his incredible brilliance,
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  Speaker 5: his genius, to make millions. He decided to think through
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  Speaker 5: it in a different way. You see, Einstein, you've got
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  Speaker 5: to think of where he was at what time of
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  Speaker 5: our world he lived. This was a Jewish man living
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  Speaker 5: in Germany in the 1930s, recognizing that his science had
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  Speaker 5: the capabilities to secure a world or break it apart.
• 27:12
  Speaker 5: For the rest of his life, he toiled with the
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  Speaker 5: power of his science. He recognized this wasn't just about him.
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  Speaker 5: This was about a world. This was about a better outcome.
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  Speaker 5: And he knew that it could go down one of
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  Speaker 5: two paths. Better life Terrible life for everyone. And he
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  Speaker 5: held the responsibility of that. In this idea of leading life,
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: others need to support. Others need to believe in you.
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  Speaker 3: And if you keep.
• 27:45
  Speaker 5: Putting the focus on yourself, they start to drift away.
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: Albert Einstein, for the rest of his life, showed us
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  Speaker 5: what it meant to live for the world. You see,
• 27:56
  Speaker 5: Albert Einstein, in the final days of his life, was
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  Speaker 5: getting quite sick and was asked to give a lecture,
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  Speaker 5: to give a speech.
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  Speaker 3: At a university.
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  Speaker 5: In the final days of his life, he gets sick,
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  Speaker 5: goes to the hospital, brings his speech with him so
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  Speaker 5: he can continue to work, continue to write down what
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  Speaker 5: he wanted to offer for those in attendance.
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  Speaker 3: And on April 18th, 1955, Einstein died. Speech in hand.
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  Speaker 5: Recognizing that his final gift to the world wasn't done.
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  Speaker 3: It wasn't complete.
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  Speaker 5: The problem that he was working on his life, his
• 28:41
  Speaker 5: life's work would never be complete, but he'd found the
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  Speaker 5: thing that mattered.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you don't need that answer now.
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  Speaker 5: I think about all of you young people sitting in
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  Speaker 5: this audience, thinking about your future, feeling the pressure to
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: have this thing that you want to bring to your
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  Speaker 5: hospital bed you don't need to know it now but
• 29:04
  Speaker 5: you need to be excited about finding it you need
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  Speaker 5: to be excited about finding that thing that matters so
• 29:09
  Speaker 5: much that you're willing to bring that speech to your
• 29:13
  Speaker 5: hospital bed Albert Einstein we know his brilliance in science
• 29:20
  Speaker 5: but we forget about his brilliance in life 20 year
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  Speaker 5: old Einstein might have felt just like you anxious uncertain.
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  Speaker 3: Feeling like all you need is a start. Well, he
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: got a start. And it might have been very different
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  Speaker 3: from what he was hoping for. But he was ready
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: to go to work.
• 29:44
  Speaker 5: He was ready to choose his own target. He was
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: ready to change his behaviors. He was ready to realize
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: it wasn't just about him. And he was ready to
• 29:52
  Speaker 5: realize he was going to do this for the next
• 29:54
  Speaker 5: 60 years of his life. And at the end of
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  Speaker 5: his life, he was still willing to bring that speech
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  Speaker 5: to the hospital because the problem wasn't done. Those five
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  Speaker 5: rules will serve you well. And I thank you for
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: your time today.
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  Speaker 6: We tell ourselves that success is reserved for those who
• 30:24
  Speaker 6: are lucky, the talented, the privileged. But let me ask
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  Speaker 6: you this. Why not you? Why not you for that role?
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  Speaker 6: Why not you for that next level? Why not you
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  Speaker 6: for that thing that you've wanted to do for a
• 30:39
  Speaker 6: while but haven't? How many times have we held ourselves
• 30:43
  Speaker 6: back thinking that we're not ready? We're not smart enough.
• 30:47
  Speaker 6: We're not skilled enough. We're not talented enough. We're not
• 30:50
  Speaker 6: charismatic enough. We aren't enough. Every day, Masterpiece starts as
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  Speaker 6: a work in progress. Every marathon begins with a single step.
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  Speaker 6: You don't need to have it all figured out. You
• 31:07
  Speaker 6: just need to start. Start where you are. Use what
• 31:11
  Speaker 6: you have and do what you can and ask yourself
• 31:15
  Speaker 6: the question of why not you? Because every small action,
• 31:20
  Speaker 6: every tiny effort is a building block of your future,
• 31:24
  Speaker 6: is a building block of your life. Yes, the road
• 31:27
  Speaker 6: ahead won't be easy, but nothing great ever was. Don't
• 31:34
  Speaker 6: wait for the perfect moment. Don't wait for someone to
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  Speaker 6: give you the green light to say this is when
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  Speaker 6: you're able to go. Don't strive for perfect, strive for better.
• 31:44
  Speaker 6: There will be times when you feel like giving up.
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  Speaker 6: When the weight of your dream seems too heavy to carry,
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  Speaker 6: and sometimes you just have this moment where you feel like,
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  Speaker 6: I just want to put it down.
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  Speaker 3: I want to take a breather.
• 31:56
  Speaker 6: I need a break. But remember, failures are not the
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  Speaker 6: end of the journey.
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  Speaker 3: They're a part of it.
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  Speaker 6: Every single day, the world offers us a new beginning.
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  Speaker 6: The sun rises. It's a fresh start, an open door.
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  Speaker 6: to endless possibilities. But how often do we greet the
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  Speaker 6: day with a heart full of doubt, convinced that those
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  Speaker 6: possibilities are for someone else and not us, for our friends,
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  Speaker 6: for our families, for people that have made it. And
• 32:37
  Speaker 6: then we slowly but surely shy away. And stop pursuing
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  Speaker 6: the dreams that we have. We scroll through our feeds
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  Speaker 6: and see others achieving great things, starting businesses, winning races,
• 32:55
  Speaker 6: creating art. And we think good for them, but I
• 32:58
  Speaker 6: could never perform that way. Oh, great for their story,
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  Speaker 6: but that's not me. The only thing standing between you
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  Speaker 6: and your dreams is the belief that that you can
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  Speaker 6: achieve them. You're capable of more than you know. Your
• 33:16
  Speaker 6: potential is absolutely limitless, but it can only be unlocked
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  Speaker 6: by action. Every person who has achieved anything great started
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  Speaker 6: exactly where you are, filled with a doubt, filled with fear,
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  Speaker 6: filled with uncertainty. filled with anxiety that they don't know
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  Speaker 6: if they're going to be able to make it. Think
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  Speaker 6: of the icons, the leaders, the trailblazers. They weren't born
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  Speaker 6: into success. They created it. Day by day, decision by decision,
• 33:52
  Speaker 6: step by step. Yes, they faced challenges. Yes, they ran
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  Speaker 6: into obstacles. They heard the whispers of doubt saying in
• 34:00
  Speaker 6: their minds, you don't deserve it. This isn't for you.
• 34:06
  Speaker 6: They felt and experienced failure more than most. But here's
• 34:12
  Speaker 6: what they didn't do. They didn't stop. They didn't quit.
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  Speaker 3: And neither should you.
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  Speaker 6: How often do we dim our own light because we
• 34:21
  Speaker 6: believe that we don't deserve to? We don't deserve that
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  Speaker 6: level of success. We don't deserve that life. But let
• 34:32
  Speaker 6: me tell you something. The strongest people in the world
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  Speaker 6: are the ones that experience the struggle, that experience the doubt,
• 34:40
  Speaker 6: and they keep going. That's where you find strength. That's
• 34:45
  Speaker 6: where you find courage. Every no just opens a door
• 34:50
  Speaker 6: to a potential yes in the future. Every fall teaches
• 34:54
  Speaker 6: you how to rise again. These moments don't define you,
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  Speaker 6: they refine you.
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  Speaker 3: They don't shape you.
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  Speaker 6: Into someone who can't achieve anything. They shape you into
• 35:05
  Speaker 6: someone who can achieve the unimaginable. So next time you
• 35:09
  Speaker 6: feel that doubt creeping, when you wonder if you're not worthy,
• 35:16
  Speaker 6: ask yourself the question, why not me? why shouldn't you
• 35:20
  Speaker 6: be the one to break barriers why shouldn't you be
• 35:22
  Speaker 6: the one to challenge the odds why shouldn't you be
• 35:25
  Speaker 6: the one that is actually able to create a life
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  Speaker 6: of purpose and passion like no one in your family
• 35:31
  Speaker 6: or your friends ever have before the world needs what
• 35:35
  Speaker 6: you have to offer but you need to believe that
• 35:38
  Speaker 6: you deserve a seat at the table first and when
• 35:42
  Speaker 6: you reach that peak When you stand at the top
• 35:45
  Speaker 6: of the mountain of that goal that you had only
• 35:47
  Speaker 6: dreamed of, looking back at all the hurdles and all
• 35:50
  Speaker 6: the challenges that you had to overcome, you'll realize something.
• 35:55
  Speaker 6: It was never about the top of the mountain. It
• 35:58
  Speaker 6: was about the steps that you took to climb it.
• 36:02
  Speaker 6: It's the person that you became along the way, the
• 36:05
  Speaker 6: strength you discovered, the courage that you built. So today,
• 36:12
  Speaker 6: As you stand on the edge of a new day,
• 36:15
  Speaker 6: ask yourself, why not me? Why shouldn't I be the
• 36:19
  Speaker 6: one to make a difference? Why shouldn't I be the
• 36:22
  Speaker 6: one to live fully, to inspire others? The truth is
• 36:28
  Speaker 6: there's no reason you can't.
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  Speaker 3: The only question is, will you? The world changes.
• 36:34
  Speaker 6: Is waiting for you to step up, to claim your
• 36:37
  Speaker 6: place in it, to make your mark. You have the power,
• 36:39
  Speaker 6: the strength, the ability to turn your dreams into reality.
• 36:43
  Speaker 6: So what are you waiting for? You don't need anyone's
• 36:47
  Speaker 6: permission to be who you are. You don't need the
• 36:50
  Speaker 6: green light from anyone to pursue the dreams that you have.
• 36:55
  Speaker 6: Sometimes we feel like we're not worthy. Like we don't
• 36:59
  Speaker 6: deserve the win. Like we don't deserve the success. I'm
• 37:03
  Speaker 6: here to tell you that you do and that you
• 37:06
  Speaker 6: were made for more. You've been operating in a fraction
• 37:11
  Speaker 6: of your potential of what you were built and put
• 37:15
  Speaker 6: on this planet to do. But it's going to take
• 37:19
  Speaker 6: you leaning in and saying yes before you're ready and
• 37:24
  Speaker 6: taking action before you think you're prepared. and leaning into
• 37:29
  Speaker 6: the areas of your life that you don't have a
• 37:31
  Speaker 6: whole lot of confidence in, that you're not sure of
• 37:36
  Speaker 6: yourself in. That's where success is found. That's where real
• 37:43
  Speaker 6: progress is made. It is not something that you are
• 37:48
  Speaker 6: given through luck or through genetics. It is something you build.
• 37:54
  Speaker 6: So when you have those moments of doubt, When you
• 37:57
  Speaker 6: feel like you're not enough to handle it, understand that
• 38:01
  Speaker 6: who you are is made for greatness. Now it's time
• 38:06
  Speaker 6: to pursue them.