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Does a 12 year old get privacy? 1 · Scott & Ally on Demand

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  SPEAKER_02: Okay, this got started with uh an influencer that admitted what was her name again?
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh Alex Earl.
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  SPEAKER_02: Alex Earl, thank you.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh Alex uh had admitted she's never really read a book other than like Dr.
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  SPEAKER_02: Seuss.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, I'm I'm wondering if part of that also comes from the fact it just is not something she enjoys occupying her time with.
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  SPEAKER_02: Not that she can't read, that's a different story.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm saying she just may not find the joy in that that some people do.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, after you get assigned books, because of course when you grew up, you were reading something like, you know, Watership Down or whatever you're the great gas beyond.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know what you were assigned to in school, but once you get past that, then it it kind of drops off, it seems like it can be.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then Paul Pony Joe said, okay, and and I this I can relate to.
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  SPEAKER_02: He goes, Well, I can relate to it, but I can also understand.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is a great statement.
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  SPEAKER_02: He goes, I have ADHD.
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  SPEAKER_02: I find it difficult to sit down and read a book.
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  SPEAKER_02: That makes sense to me, and I understand that your mind is doing a million different things at one time.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you're never really absorbing it because your mind is like bing bing bing bing bing.
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  SPEAKER_02: And you're not enjoying the act of it, which is probably, I mean, I'm I'm not but I'm gonna freely admit this.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, I'm of a generation where ADHD was treated like this.
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  SPEAKER_02: Listen! That's how it was treated, you know?
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  SPEAKER_02: So, I mean, I likely have uh a pretty good scale of it, but here's the difference.
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  SPEAKER_02: I was able somewhere in my life to channel that.
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  SPEAKER_02: And if you could see the juggling act that actually happens in the studio every day, you would be like, oh, oh, he found a way to channel what he has.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that's what helps it though, is that you have a lot of things going at once.
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  SPEAKER_02: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because after the show, sometimes it gets a little wonky.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm not gonna lie, that's true.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now then it moved in.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like a air traffic controller.
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  SPEAKER_01: Over here, Scott.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, well, land the plane over here.
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  SPEAKER_02: Be blessed you don't have that.
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  SPEAKER_02: So just sit there and read a book.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's not that bad.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, so that being said, it moved into the different things that you are shocked someone can't do or a significant other, whatever, or a friend.
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  SPEAKER_02: And somebody had said cursive.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, they're always shocked to hear when people say they have never learned how to write and read cursive.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you were talking about Gavin signing something the other day.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna come back to that specifically in a minute.
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  SPEAKER_02: Go ahead and play what you got here from uh yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just want to say that they 100% teach cursive, at least um, in Corning Paint and Post School District.
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  SPEAKER_00: It starts in third grade and they continue in fourth grade.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then some teachers still do it in fifth grade, so they definitely still teach cursive.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay, so I'm gonna tell you something because you wouldn't know this because it sounds like your kids might be younger.
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  SPEAKER_02: So my 25-year-old daughter went to a couple of the Corning Painted Post schools.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now you have to go back to elementary.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is almost 20 years ago.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_02: They were not teaching it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think there was that time that they stopped and then they picked it back up.
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  SPEAKER_01: And unfortunately, Gavin kind of also fell in that time period where they weren't doing it.
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  SPEAKER_02: And depending on the district, too, in which schools.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right, because he doesn't know how to sign his name.
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  SPEAKER_02: He actually asked me that because we were we were doing the normal physicals on uh, you know, Friday, and they hand him some forms.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, of course I'm gonna help.
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  SPEAKER_02: He's 12 years old.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is the first time he's been handed forms.
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  SPEAKER_02: So you walk him through it and then some of those questions.
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  SPEAKER_02: Wow, for a 12-year-old.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh and he goes, Well, they want me to sign here.
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  SPEAKER_02: I said, and he kind of gave me that look like, What?
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  SPEAKER_02: What what just write your name?
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you know, this G squiggles.
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  SPEAKER_02: Just write your name, which is fine.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because I know it's like, well, what do you do when you get to this point in life?
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  SPEAKER_02: You have to sign something.
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  SPEAKER_02: But you don't know how.
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  SPEAKER_02: Right.
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, if you don't have a computer in front of you to auto-generate it, G Squiggles.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: But also his rap name.
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  SPEAKER_02: I love that, G Squiggles.
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  SPEAKER_02: Me too.
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  SPEAKER_02: But coming off that, I'm at a phase with Gavin where I there's something in New York State I'm not a fan of.
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  SPEAKER_02: And her name's not Hokel.
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  SPEAKER_02: Oh my gosh.
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  SPEAKER_02: That was too great, huh?
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, he took the opening.
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  SPEAKER_02: But uh here's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_02: We have a law where at 12 years old the parameters for parents change.
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  SPEAKER_02: I had to call uh and get myself re-added to his digital chart so that I could like send messages and do things.
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  SPEAKER_02: So there's stages where they free the kids up.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, believe me, there there comes a point, maybe after 16 or or even older.
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  SPEAKER_02: 16, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, where sure, you can have those private times with your doctor.
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  SPEAKER_02: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_02: There's gonna come a point where I'm not even gonna go back with you.
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  SPEAKER_02: You're gonna go back and do your thing.
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  SPEAKER_02: But right now, I think that's the right thing.
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  SPEAKER_02: But right now, at 12 years old, I think we got this wrong.
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  SPEAKER_02: I I'm sorry, I need, and maybe it's just me.
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  SPEAKER_02: No, I don't think it is.
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  SPEAKER_02: So explain what he was signing.
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  SPEAKER_02: He had to sign all these different forms.
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  SPEAKER_02: Questionnaires like, when was the last time you used alcohol?
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm like, well, that would have been in the womb, son.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um but uh what uh so that there was the opening, he took it.
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  SPEAKER_02: And again, uh, but that uh but all these questions and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then once I was able to call and get myself re-added to the parameters of like his e-chart so I could message the doctor and stuff, I'm like, okay, that then I'm alright with that.
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  SPEAKER_02: I don't love this law.
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  SPEAKER_02: I think they push back when you asked to get added.
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  SPEAKER_02: No, they actually they were but I found out I actually had to call the admin department for the like e-charts and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_02: And they're like, oh, okay, and you know, explain who I was and my you know.
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  SPEAKER_02: I don't love the 12.
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  SPEAKER_02: So what are you gonna be fine with 16 or older?
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  SPEAKER_02: But at 12, I as a parent feel like I should still 100% have all the say and all the access.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's not that I want to picture this whatsoever because Gavin is still like a little baby in my mind, but he's not.
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  SPEAKER_01: He's 12.
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  SPEAKER_01: But anyway, let's say he's 17 and become sexually active.
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  SPEAKER_02: Sure.
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  SPEAKER_01: And he says, I he's not telling you that part, he just says, I want to get off of I want you to get off of my digital portal.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that gonna raise a red flag for you?
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  SPEAKER_02: Like, well No, because I'm from an era where you communicate with your kids and you basically try to share and express to them, share back.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, I mean, at some point, and damn you woman, I'm not ready for this.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know I'm not either.
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  SPEAKER_02: At some point, I would want him to feel free and open enough.
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna do exactly what my mother did.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm not gonna lie.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna drive him nuts.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna tell him never do drugs because this is a Betty line.
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  SPEAKER_02: The first time you try it, it can kill you.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is how my mother made me not do it.
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  SPEAKER_02: She used the best Catholic guilt in the world on me.
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  SPEAKER_02: And you know, never do it.
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  SPEAKER_02: And if the because you never know, somebody gives you something somewhere, whatever, the first time you can die.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I'm gonna use the Madonna tactic.
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  SPEAKER_02: Don't be silly, rap that willy.