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FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND LET THEM GO · THE WORLD'S BEST PREACHER

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Speaker 1: There comes a time in your life where God starts
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Speaker 1: cutting things off, not to punish you, but to position you.
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Speaker 1: And I came here today to tell somebody it's time.
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Speaker 1: Time to stop begging people to love you, Time to
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Speaker 1: stop losing sleep over who walked away, Time to stop
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Speaker 1: breaking yourself just to keep people who are never meant
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Speaker 1: to stay. You keep wondering why you're tired, why your
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Speaker 1: heart is heavy, why your peace is shattered. It is
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Speaker 1: because you keep holding on to what God already told
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Speaker 1: you to let go. This message right here. This ain't
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Speaker 1: for everybody, but if you've been carrying the way to people, expectations,
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Speaker 1: dead relationships, and trying to prove yourself to folks who
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Speaker 1: don't even see you, then baby, this message is for you.
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Speaker 1: So today I want you to give yourself permission to focus,
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Speaker 1: focus on healing, focus on becoming, focus on you, and
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Speaker 1: let the rest Let them Jill, because everybody can't go
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Speaker 1: where you're going, and trust me, if they could, they'd
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Speaker 1: still be here. So lean in staying with me, cause
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Speaker 1: by the end of this message, something in your life
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Speaker 1: is going to shift, Things about to break loose, and
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Speaker 1: you're going to walk out of here knowing that your
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Speaker 1: future is too important to be tied to your Pasttots.
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Speaker 2: You see, the problem with many of us is that
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Speaker 2: we don't know how to let go.
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Speaker 1: We get so emotionally attached to invested in people that
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Speaker 1: we confuse their presence with our purpose. But let me
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Speaker 1: help you understand something today. Not everyone is meant to stay.
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Speaker 1: I know you love them, I know you prayed for them.
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Speaker 1: I know you have plans, dreams, and hopes wrapped up
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Speaker 1: in that connection.
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Speaker 2: But maybe if they walk.
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Speaker 1: Away, it's because they weren't assigned to your destiny. You
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Speaker 1: don't need everybody to complete your journey. Sometimes God will
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Speaker 1: allow a person to come into your life to teach
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Speaker 1: you something, to shape you, to shift you, but not
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Speaker 1: to stay with you.
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Speaker 2: They're not here forever.
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Speaker 1: They're your lesson, and if you're so busy trying to
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Speaker 1: resurrect what God already removed, you're going to.
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Speaker 2: Miss what He's trying to do next.
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Speaker 1: Some of you are asking God to bless you in
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Speaker 1: rooms that are filled with the wrong people. You're praying
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Speaker 1: for increase while holding on to folks who only know
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Speaker 1: how to dream you.
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Speaker 2: It doesn't work like that.
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Speaker 1: God can't bless who you pretend to be, and he
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Speaker 1: can't bless Why you refuse to release There are people
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Speaker 1: who were only meant to be a chapter in your book,
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Speaker 1: not the whole story. Stop trying to write them into
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Speaker 1: pages they were never supposed to be in. You keep
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Speaker 1: turning back the pages of your life, trying to find
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Speaker 1: what you've lost. But God is saying, I'm writing a
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Speaker 1: new thing. Why are you mourning of goodbye when God
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Speaker 1: is trying to give you a beginning?
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Speaker 2: When people leave, let.
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Speaker 1: Them leave, don't chase after them, don't beg them to
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Speaker 1: come back. Don't compromise your value just to keep someone
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Speaker 1: who never saw it in the first place. If they
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Speaker 1: walked away, they made a decision, and that decision revealed
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Speaker 1: everything you needed to know. People don't walk away from
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Speaker 1: what they truly value. People don't let go of what
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Speaker 1: they're afraid to lose. You've got to understand that rejection
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Speaker 1: is sometimes the greatest blessing.
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Speaker 2: In disguise, it.
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Speaker 1: Feels like heartbreak, but it's really Heaven's redirection. If God
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Speaker 1: allowed it, He's going to use it. That betrayal, that abandonment,
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Speaker 1: that heartbreak wasn't meant to break you. It was meant
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Speaker 1: to build you, but you can't get the lesson if
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Speaker 1: you're still stuck in the loss. Stop standing at the
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Speaker 1: door of someone who already closed it. Stop waiting on
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Speaker 1: an apology that may never come. Stop getting CPR to
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Speaker 1: what God has already declared dead. Let it go. I
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Speaker 1: know it's not easy, I know it hurts, But hear
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Speaker 1: me when I say this. Your healing is on the
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Speaker 1: other side of your release. You don't need closure, you
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Speaker 1: don't need an explanation. Sometimes all you need is clarity.
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Speaker 1: And the clarity is this, if they were part of
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Speaker 1: your future, they wouldn't have walked out of your present.
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Speaker 1: The ones who are meant for you, truly meant for you,
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Speaker 1: don't need convincing. You won't have to beg plead, shrink,
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Speaker 1: or settle to keep them. They'll show up and they'll
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Speaker 1: stay because they see your value without meeting a sales pitch.
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Speaker 1: Letting go doesn't mean you failed. It means you trusted
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Speaker 1: God enough to believe He's got something better. And better
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Speaker 1: doesn't always come in the same package used to better.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't always look like comfort. Sometimes better starts with
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Speaker 1: being uncomfortable. Sometimes it starts with loneliness. Sometimes it starts
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Speaker 1: with silence, but in that silence, God speaks, and that
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Speaker 1: void God feels, and in that pain God restores. You've
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Speaker 1: been walking around with a weight on your chest, carrying
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Speaker 1: memories like chains, thinking if you hold on just a
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Speaker 1: little longer, maybe they'll come back, maybe it'll change. But
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Speaker 1: the truth is your piece is too expensive to keep
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Speaker 1: putting it on sale for people who don't value it.
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Speaker 1: You've got to stop trying to take everybody with you
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Speaker 1: where you're going. Not everyone can follow. Some folks who
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Speaker 1: are only built for the season you just came out of,
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Speaker 1: and trying to force them into your next season is
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Speaker 1: like trying to wear shoes.
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Speaker 2: That no longer fit. That'll only cause pain.
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Speaker 1: Don't be bitter, don't hold resentment, don't wish them harm.
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Speaker 1: Just release them with love and move forward with faith.
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Speaker 1: Because your destiny is too great, you're calling too important
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Speaker 1: and your assignment too urgent to be tied up trying
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Speaker 1: to fix what's already been finished. Let them go and
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Speaker 1: walk in freedom. Doc, there's a reason you feel heavy.
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Speaker 1: There's a reason you've been tired, frustrated, and restless. Like
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Speaker 1: you're doing it you can, but still not moving forward.
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Speaker 1: It's not that you're not gifted. It's not that God's
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Speaker 1: hand isn't on your life. It's because you're trying to
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Speaker 1: carry things that were never meant to go with you.
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Speaker 1: You're trying to run a marathon with a backpack full
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Speaker 1: of dead weight, and God is saying you're strong, but
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Speaker 1: I didn't ask you to carry that. You keep asking
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Speaker 1: God for more, more peace, more clarity, more purpose, more blessing,
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Speaker 1: and he's willing to give it. But the problem is
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Speaker 1: your hands are full. You're trying to hold onto relationships
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Speaker 1: that no longer serve your spirit. You're clinging to roles
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Speaker 1: and identities that God already asked you to grow out of.
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Speaker 1: You're wrapped up and proving yourself to people who don't
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Speaker 1: even have the capacity to receive you. And you wonder
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Speaker 1: why you're stuck. You're stuck because you're overloaded. There's a
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Speaker 1: cost of carrying the wrong things. Just because you can
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Speaker 1: carry it doesn't mean you should. You've been strong for
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Speaker 1: everybody else, you've been their counselor their cheerleader, their support system.
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Speaker 1: But while you've been lifting others, you've been sinking yourself.
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Speaker 1: You're carrying guilt that doesn't belong to you. You're carrying
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Speaker 1: shame from a past that God already forgave. You're carrying
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Speaker 1: the opinions of people who never knew the real you,
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Speaker 1: and that way it is stopping you from becoming who
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Speaker 1: you're called to be. Sometimes we carry people out of love,
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Speaker 1: but just because you love them doesn't mean you're responsible
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Speaker 1: for their journey. You can't save someone who's determined to
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Speaker 1: stay the same. You can't drag someone into healing when
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Speaker 1: they're comfortable living in dysfunction. You can encourage, you can pray,
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Speaker 1: you can support, but at some point you have to
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Speaker 1: release because your destiny is too important to keep dragging
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Speaker 1: people who only know how to drain. And I know
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Speaker 1: that sounds hard. I know it feels like giving up,
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Speaker 1: but hear me. Letting go is not failure. It's faith.
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Speaker 1: It's trusting that God can take care of them without
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Speaker 1: destroying you. You've been trying to be everything for everybody,
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Speaker 1: and it's killing your peace. It's time to step back
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Speaker 1: and say, I can't carry this anymore. Not because you're weak,
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Speaker 1: but because you're finally wise enough to know what's yours
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Speaker 1: and what's not.
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Speaker 2: This weight doesn't just show up in people.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's habits, environments, it's mindsets. You keep revisiting the
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Speaker 1: same places that keep you small, you keep entertaining the
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Speaker 1: same thoughts that tell you you're not good enough. You
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Speaker 1: keep sitting in spaces that tolerate you instead of celebrate you.
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Speaker 1: And you wonder why you feel unseen, unheard, and undervalued.
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Speaker 1: It's because you're outgrowing the space, but you're too afraid
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Speaker 1: to leave it. God is not calling you to carry
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Speaker 1: what's comfortable. He's calling you to rise, and to rise,
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Speaker 1: You've got to release. Every time you hold on to
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Speaker 1: what's weighing you down, you're saying no to what's waiting
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Speaker 1: for you ahead. You can't fly carrying bricks. You can't
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Speaker 1: walk in your purpose when your soul is bound by baggage.
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Speaker 1: You've got to get to a place where you start
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Speaker 1: asking yourself, is this helping me or hurting me? Is
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Speaker 1: this feeding my spirit or draining my soul? Because everything
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Speaker 1: you carry either pushes you forward or pulls you back.
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Speaker 1: And sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is
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Speaker 1: say no. No to the chaos, no to the codependency,
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Speaker 1: no to being the strong one all the time. You
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Speaker 1: don't owe anyone your peace. You don't have to sacrifice
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Speaker 1: your joy to keep everyone else comfortable. There is power
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Speaker 1: and release, There is healing and surrender, There is freedom
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Speaker 1: and finally saying, I choose me, not in a selfish way,
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Speaker 1: but in a holy way. Because you cannot pour from
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Speaker 1: an empty cup. You can't build when you're broken, and
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Speaker 1: you cannot do what you were born to do if
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Speaker 1: you're always carrying what's breaking you. You weren't built to
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Speaker 1: carry bitterness. You weren't created to walk around carrying fear.
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Speaker 1: You weren't called to disappointment like a badge. Shake it off,
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Speaker 1: let it go. Every time you lay down that weight,
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Speaker 1: you get stronger. Every time you really something that no
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Speaker 1: longer belongs to you, you make room for what God
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Speaker 1: is trying to give. It's time to drop the weight.
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Speaker 1: Your next level depends on it. Some of you are
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Speaker 1: sitting in rooms trying to fix what already left. You're
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Speaker 1: wearing yourself out, trying to piece together the broken shards
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Speaker 1: of a relationship, a friendship, a connection that's already been buried,
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Speaker 1: and you don't even realize the damage is doing to
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Speaker 1: your soul. You keep chasing closure, thinking if you could
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Speaker 1: just have one more conversation. One more explanation, Maybe it'll
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Speaker 1: make sense, But I came to tell you closure as
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Speaker 1: a trap when it becomes the excuse you used to
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Speaker 1: delay your healing. You think you need answers, but what
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Speaker 1: you really need is peace. And peace doesn't always come
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Speaker 1: through explanation. It comes to release. Some people left and
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Speaker 1: never looked back. Some betrayed you and never apologized. Some
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Speaker 1: ghost did you lie to you, took your love for
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Speaker 1: granted and kept moving like you didn't matter. And now
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Speaker 1: you're sitting in the dark asking yourself what you did wrong,
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Speaker 1: what you could have done differently.
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Speaker 2: But let me tell you something.
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Speaker 1: You are not responsible for someone else's inability to value you.
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Speaker 1: Stop looking for closure from people who were never honest
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Speaker 1: with you in the first place. If they couldn't tell
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Speaker 1: the truth when they were in your life, what makes
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Speaker 1: you think they're.
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Speaker 2: Going to tell it now that they're gone.
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Speaker 1: The truth is you might never get the apology, You
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Speaker 1: might never get the explanation. You might never hear them
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Speaker 1: say I'm sorry, But hear me. You don't need it
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Speaker 1: because your healing does not depend on the words. Your
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Speaker 1: healing begins the moment you stop waiting and start moving.
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Speaker 1: You keep going back to the same conversation in your mind,
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Speaker 1: reliving the last thing they said, dissecting every message, replaying
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Speaker 1: every moment, like, if you can just understand it better,
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Speaker 1: you'll hurt a little less. But overthinking won't give you peace.
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Speaker 1: Peace comes when you decide I don't mean to understand it,
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Speaker 1: to be free from it. You might not know why
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Speaker 1: they did it. You might never understand why they change,
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Speaker 1: why they turned on you, why they chose someone else.
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Speaker 1: But even if you never understand, you can still heal.
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Speaker 1: Even if you never get clarity, you can still move on.
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Speaker 1: Some of you are stuck because you're trying to grieve
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Speaker 1: something and chase it at the same time. That's not healing,
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Speaker 1: that's torment. You can't chase someone who's already moved on
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Speaker 1: and expect to find peace in their footsteps. You've got
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Speaker 1: to learn to close the door yourself, wipe your own tears,
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Speaker 1: send in front of the mirror, and tell yourself, I
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Speaker 1: deserve better than this. That's when healing begins. You keep thinking,
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Speaker 1: if I can just talk to them, I'll feel better. No,
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Speaker 1: you won't, because the truth is you already talk You
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Speaker 1: already gave your heart You already offered your love, and
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Speaker 1: they showed you who they were.
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Speaker 2: Stop negotiating with the evidence.
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Speaker 1: Stop asking God to confirm what's already been revealed. You
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Speaker 1: don't need another sign. You need to accept what is
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Speaker 1: and let go of what was. You're trying to find
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Speaker 1: closure in someone else's mouth when God already gave it
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Speaker 1: to you in silence.
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Speaker 2: Their silence is the answer, Their distance is the response.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes the loudest thing a person can say is nothing
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Speaker 1: at all, and if you really listen, you'll hear the
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Speaker 1: truth in what they didn't say. You don't need the
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Speaker 1: words to heal, You need your decision. Healing is not
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Speaker 1: about who left, It's about what you're willing to release.
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Speaker 1: You've got to stop tying your value to someone else's
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Speaker 1: ability to see it. You are not less because they
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Speaker 1: couldn't love you right. You are not broken because they
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Speaker 1: walked away. You are not unworthy because they chose someone else.
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Speaker 1: Their decision does not define you. Their absence is not
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Speaker 1: a reflection of your worth. It's a revelation of theirs.
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Speaker 1: I know you thought they were the one. I know
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Speaker 1: you had plans, dreams of future you imagined with them.
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Speaker 1: But you can't build your tomorrow on someone who wasn't
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Speaker 1: willing to stand in your Today, you're trying to plant
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Speaker 1: roots and soil that was never fertile. Let it go.
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Speaker 1: Stop watering what won't grow. Stop crying over closed doors.
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Speaker 1: What walked away was never meant to stay, and what's
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Speaker 1: coming will never make you beg to be seen. When
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Speaker 1: you stop chasing closure, you make room for healing. When
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Speaker 1: you stop the manning answers, you create space for peace.
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Speaker 1: And peace is not the absence of pain, it's the
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Speaker 1: presence of God in the middle of it. So don't
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Speaker 1: wait for them to come back and explain. Don't wait
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Speaker 1: for them to apologize, don't wait for them to validate
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Speaker 1: the hurt. Let God do the healing and you do
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Speaker 1: the releasing. You've cried long enough, You've questioned yourself long enough,
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Speaker 1: You've delayed your healing long enough. Today is the day
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Speaker 1: you say, I don't need closure to behold.
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Speaker 2: You've got to understand something.
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Speaker 1: When God gives you an assignment, when he places purpose
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Speaker 1: on your life, it will always cost you something, and
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Speaker 1: more often than not, that cost is attachment. You're trying
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Speaker 1: to fulfill destiny while holding on to everything familiar but
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Speaker 1: sometimes the very thing that's holding you back is the
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Speaker 1: comfort of who's standing next to you, not because they're
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Speaker 1: bad people, not because they don't care about you, but
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Speaker 1: because they were only built for the beginning, not for
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Speaker 1: where you're going next. See we confuse loyalty with alignment.
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Speaker 1: Just because someone was loyal to you and one season
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean they're aligned with where God has taken you
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Speaker 1: in the next. There are people who were essential for
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Speaker 1: your survival back then, but they will not be necessary
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Speaker 1: for your success now. Some of you are dragging people
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Speaker 1: into chapters they weren't cast for. You're writing roles for
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Speaker 1: folks who were only meant to be in the introduction.
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Speaker 1: And now you're wondering why everything feels stuck, why the
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Speaker 1: dream is delayed, why the vision is clouded. It's because
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Speaker 1: you're trying to carry companionship into a calling that was
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Speaker 1: meant to be walked out alone. I need you to
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Speaker 1: hear me. Your assignment will always require separation. God doesn't
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Speaker 1: elevate you without also requiring that you release. Abraham couldn't
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Speaker 1: step into promise until he left his country, his relatives
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Speaker 1: father's house. Jesus didn't start his ministry until he went
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Speaker 1: into the wilderness alone, and you think you can carry
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Speaker 1: everybody with you. Baby, this thing is going to cost
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Speaker 1: you some people. You're trying to make it make sense.
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Speaker 1: You're saying, but we've been through so much together. They
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Speaker 1: were there when I was down, They supported me, they
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Speaker 1: knew me when I had no Yes, they did, and
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Speaker 1: that was their purpose for them. But you can't allow
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Speaker 1: your gratitude for the past to become your excuse to
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Speaker 1: compromise your future. Loyalty is beautiful, but not when it
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Speaker 1: blinds you. And some of you are so loyal to
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Speaker 1: people that you're betraying your purpose. You keep saying they
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Speaker 1: help build me, Yes, but they can't go with you.
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Speaker 1: Some people were only desired to help you get started,
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Speaker 1: not to finish the race. And if you don't learn
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Speaker 1: to discern who's temporary and who's called to be permanent,
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Speaker 1: you'll keep forfeiting your progress for the sake of keeping
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Speaker 1: people who no longer fit. And I'm not talking about
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Speaker 1: being rude, I'm not talking about cutting people off with bitterness.
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Speaker 1: I'm talking about having a spiritual maturity to know when
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Speaker 1: a connection is seasonal, when an assignment has shifted, when
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Speaker 1: a relationship is no longer bearing fruit. God does not
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Speaker 1: prune you to punish you. He prunes you to prepare you.
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Speaker 1: But if you fight the pruning, you'll miss the promise.
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Speaker 1: This thing you're carrying, this vision, this dream is calling,
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Speaker 1: is bigger than you. You can't play small to keep
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Speaker 1: people comfortable. You can't shrink your light to fit the
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Speaker 1: places God is calling you out of. And some of
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Speaker 1: you have been holding back because you're afraid that if
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Speaker 1: you grow, they'll feel left behind. You've been dimming your fire,
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Speaker 1: softening your voice, second guessing your gifts, all because you're
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Speaker 1: trying not to make anyone uncomfortable. But let me tell
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Speaker 1: your purpose will always make people uncomfortable, especially the ones
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Speaker 1: who have no intention of growing with you. You've got to
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Speaker 1: make a decision. Do I want agreement or assignment, because
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Speaker 1: sometimes the two don't live in the same place. You're
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Speaker 1: trying to get agreement from people who never had the vision.
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Speaker 1: You're looking for validation from folks who didn't hear what
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Speaker 1: God told you in the midnight hour. Stop explaining what
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Speaker 1: God whispered to people who only operate on noise. Your
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Speaker 1: vision doesn't need everyone's confirmation, that just needs your obedience.
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Speaker 1: There's a moment in every journey where you've got to
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Speaker 1: walk forward, even if it means walking alone. Not out
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Speaker 1: of prime, not out of anger, but out of alignment.
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Speaker 1: Because what God placed in you is too precious to
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Speaker 1: be delayed by indecision. And if you keep choosing attachment
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Speaker 1: over assignment, you'll keep living beneath your calling. Don't stay
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Speaker 1: in Egypt because you're afraid of the wilderness. Don't settle
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Speaker 1: for the familiar. When God's trying to lead you to freedom.
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Speaker 1: You got to trust him enough to believe that even
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Speaker 1: if the road is lonely, it's still leading somewhere greater.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to carry the same crowd to reach
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Speaker 1: the next level. What God has for you doesn't require
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Speaker 1: everyone you started with, and you will never walk into
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Speaker 1: your future while dragging people from your past. So stop
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Speaker 1: trying to make it work, Stop trying to explain yourself,
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Speaker 1: stop delaying your obedience to preserve a comfort zone. Focus
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Speaker 1: on the assignment and let the attachments go. You keep
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Speaker 1: asking God to do a new thing, but your hands
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Speaker 1: are still full of the old. You're praying for growth
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Speaker 1: while clinging to everything that kept you stuck. You say
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Speaker 1: you want breakthrough, but you're still building your life around people, patterns,
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Speaker 1: and places that God already told you to release. Say
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Speaker 1: you're ready for elevation, but elevation requires space, It requires proning,
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Speaker 1: it requires room. You cannot step into what's next if
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Speaker 1: you're still holding onto what's finished. Some of you are frustrated,
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Speaker 1: not because God is a moving but because you won't
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Speaker 1: let go. You're trying to grow in soil that no
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Speaker 1: longer supports your roots. You're trying to stretch in environments
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Speaker 1: that weren't built for your capacity. You can't plant new
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Speaker 1: seeds in a garden full of weeds. You've got to
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Speaker 1: do some clearing first, and that means letting go not
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Speaker 1: just a people, but of expectations, of mindsets, of the
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Speaker 1: way you thought it was supposed to be. Growth doesn't
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Speaker 1: happen in comfort. Growth demands change, and change demands surrender.
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Speaker 1: You're asking God to bless your life while refusing to
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Speaker 1: make space in it. God's trying to send the right people,
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Speaker 1: the right opportunities, the right healing, but you're still holding
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Speaker 1: onto relationships that drain you, behaviors that sabotage, thoughts that
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Speaker 1: limit you. You want more, but you're not willing to
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Speaker 1: lose what's less, And I get it. It's not easy.
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Speaker 1: Letting go as hard, especially when you build your identity
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Speaker 1: around what you're releasing. That relationship became your safety net,
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Speaker 1: that job became your worth, that version of yourself became
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Speaker 1: your protection.
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Speaker 2: But the same thing.
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Speaker 1: That once covered you is now suffocating you. And God
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Speaker 1: is saying, I've got more, but you've got to trust
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Speaker 1: me enough to make root. You cannot receive what's new
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Speaker 1: while clinging to what's familiar. Sometimes what's familiar isn't even
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Speaker 1: good for you. It's just comfortable. You know how to
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Speaker 1: survive in it, you know how to move in it.
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Speaker 1: But surviving isn't the same as living. And God didn't
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Speaker 1: call you to survival mode. He called you to thrive.
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Speaker 1: But thriving takes risk, It takes faith, It takes the
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Speaker 1: kind of boldness that says, even if it hurts to
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Speaker 1: let go, I trust that what's coming is greater. There
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Speaker 1: are doors God won't open until you close the ones
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Speaker 1: you keep going back to. You've been walking in circles
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Speaker 1: wondering why the breakthrough hasn't come. But you can't walk
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Speaker 1: into your next while keeping a foot in your last.
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Speaker 1: You're too full, too crowded. You've been praying for peace,
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Speaker 1: but you're still to chios. You've been asking for clarity,
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Speaker 1: but your mind is still cluttering with confusion. Some of
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Speaker 1: what you're carrying is not yours anymore. It's served its purpose,
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Speaker 1: It did what it came to do, and now it's
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Speaker 1: time to release it. There's nothing wrong with outgrowing people.
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Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with outgrowing conversations. There's nothing wrong without
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Speaker 1: growing habits. That's what growth is. Don't you ever feel
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Speaker 1: guilty for changing? Don't you let anyone shame you for evolving.
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Speaker 1: You've worked too hard, cried too long, come through too much.
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Speaker 2: To stay the same.
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Speaker 1: Wells ahead of you requires a stronger Why is a
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Speaker 1: freer version of you, and that version can't carry dead weight.
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Speaker 1: Some people want the growth, but they don't want the proving.
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Speaker 1: They want the platform, but they don't want the preparation.
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Speaker 1: You can't skip the letting go process and expect to
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Speaker 1: arrive hole. You've got to be willing to walk away
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Speaker 1: from what no longer aligns with your becoming, because the
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Speaker 1: truth is not everything can go where you're going. God
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Speaker 1: doesn't just bless, He prepares, and sometimes that preparation means separation.
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Speaker 1: He will strip away what can't sustain the next season.
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Speaker 1: He will empty your hands of what you think you
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Speaker 1: need so he can fill them with what he knows
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Speaker 1: you need. And if you don't learn how to release,
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Speaker 1: you'll miss what he's trying to give. You'll stay stuck
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Speaker 1: in cycles that look like safety, but they're really just distractions.
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Speaker 1: Letting go doesn't mean forgetting, it doesn't mean dishonoring. It
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Speaker 1: means acknowledging. This chapter serve me, but it's not my
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Speaker 1: story anymore. It's giving yourself permission to turn the page
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Speaker 1: without meeting anyone's approval to do it. And when you
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Speaker 1: do that, when you finally unclench your fists, when you
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Speaker 1: finally breathe and release, you'll realize that what God has
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Speaker 1: next is so much more than what you left behind.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to understand everything to trust him. You
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Speaker 1: don't have to know all the details to take the
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Speaker 1: first step, but you do have to be willing to
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Speaker 1: open your hands to release, to create space, because if
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Speaker 1: you keep filling your life with what's familiar, you'll have.
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Speaker 2: No room for what's meant to grow. You let it
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Speaker 2: go so you can grow.
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Speaker 1: Do you have to reach a place in your journey
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Speaker 1: where your validation no longer comes from the voices around you,
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Speaker 1: but from the voice within you. Because as long as
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Speaker 1: you need the applause, the acceptance, the affirmation of others
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Speaker 1: to feel secure in who you are, you'll always be
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Speaker 1: one opinion away from insecurity, one rejection away from retreat,
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Speaker 1: one disagreement away from abandoning your destiny.
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Speaker 2: And let me tell you that is no way to live.
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Speaker 1: You're looking for approval from people who didn't even build you,
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Speaker 1: people who weren't there in the dark places, people who
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Speaker 1: don't know the cost of your oil, people who have
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Speaker 1: no idea how much you've had to push through, crawl through,
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Speaker 1: cry through just to be here. And yet you're still
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Speaker 1: pausing your purpose to get a yes from them. Why
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Speaker 1: Why are you waiting for people to see in you
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Speaker 1: what God already confirmed? Why are you giving them that power?
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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. There's freedom no longer needing
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Speaker 1: to be understood. There's peace of knowing you are still
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Speaker 1: chosen even if they don't choose you, that you are
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Speaker 1: still called even if they never clapped, That your value
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Speaker 1: is intact even when they don't validate it, because if
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Speaker 1: you're not careful, you'll spend your life auditioning for roles
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Speaker 1: you already own, and that's not what you were made for.
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Speaker 1: They may not like how you move, they may not
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Speaker 1: agree with how you think. They may not understand why
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Speaker 1: you change, why you've grown, why you've walked away from
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Speaker 1: what used to be your normal, and guess what, they
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Speaker 1: don't have to Your journey doesn't require their permission. Your
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Speaker 1: healing doesn't need their confirmation. You do not have to
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Speaker 1: justify your growth to those who refuse to evolve. Some
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Speaker 1: of why all are shrinking because they're uncomfortable, dimming your
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Speaker 1: light because they can't handle your shine down, playing your
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Speaker 1: vision because it makes others feel insecure. But listening to
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Speaker 1: your life was never meant to make others feel safe
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Speaker 1: in their shadows. You were not designed to be palatable.
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Speaker 1: You were designed to be powerful, And when you finally
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Speaker 1: except that, you stop explaining yourself to people who are
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Speaker 1: never supposed to understand. Stop asking for permission to be
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Speaker 1: who you already are. Stop waiting for someone to tell
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Speaker 1: you you're enough. You're already enough. Stop rehearsing your worth for
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Speaker 1: people who can't even comprehend the fullness of your gift.
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Speaker 1: You don't need to soften who you are to make
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Speaker 1: others feel comfortable. You don't need to bend your truth
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Speaker 1: to fit into circles that were never shaped for you. You've
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Speaker 1: got to reach a place where your piece is too
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Speaker 1: expensive to put on the clearance rack of public opinion,
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Speaker 1: where your identity is not for negotiation, where your joy
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Speaker 1: no longer hinges on someone else's ability to approve of
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Speaker 1: your becoming. When you understand that you move different, you
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Speaker 1: love different, you build different because you know who you are,
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Speaker 1: even if they never acknowledge it. And some of you
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Speaker 1: have been stuck, not because you're weak, but because you'll
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Speaker 1: wait waiting for someone to see your value, waiting for
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Speaker 1: someone to validate your vision, waiting for someone to give
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Speaker 1: you permission to walk in your anointing. But let me
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Speaker 1: tell you there are some people who will know celebrate
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Speaker 1: you because they are too intimidated by your becoming. They
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Speaker 1: saw you as broken, and now that you're healing, they
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Speaker 1: don't know where they fit. They were comfortable with the
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Speaker 1: version of you that needed them. But now that you've
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Speaker 1: found your footing, now that you've learned to speak with
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Speaker 1: authority and walk with comforts. They don't recognize you, and
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Speaker 1: that's okay. Let them misunderstand you, let them question you,
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Speaker 1: let them whisper down a soup. You don't owe anyone
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Speaker 1: your truth when they've