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September 19 – Accepting What Is · The Daily Ripples Podcast

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  Hey guys, this is the Daily Ripples, and it is September 19th, accepting what it, what is, accepting what it is.
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  The stone peace begins when I stop resisting reality and trust God with what I cannot change.
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  Practical.
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  Today I will accept life as it is instead of exhausting myself, wishing it were different.
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  Acceptance is not giving up.
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  It is choosing to face reality with faith.
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  Faith, knowing God can work even though through difficult circumstances.
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  Spiritual.
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  As I accept the father's care instead of relying only on myself, the Holy Spirit replaces inner chaos with growing peace.
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  Following Christ's example, trusting the Father's will, I discover that surrender opens the door to freedom rather than defeat.
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  So when I think about like, man, I don't make too many friends like this, but I, uh, I hate thought of acceptance.
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  Well, not the thought of acceptance because I think acceptance happens, right, when you formulate an opinion about it.
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  It's that's somewhat of a definition of it.
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  But so like, because like right when something happens, right, I'm either going to accept it for good and bad.
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  That's what's happening.
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  But I think acceptance, using the term of what people like to use it in these spiritual terms and rooms, is more of a place like I have the power to,
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  Well, it's almost like making myself feel better about something like, oh, well, you just got to accept it.
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  Well, does that mean, I got to change my 1st opinion about it and make it a lighter opinion because I don't have to like things.
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  I don't have to like if somebody, uh, sleeps with my fiance, right?
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  I don't have to like that.
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  Um, I don't think anybody does, but you know, for someone in the rooms that I hang out in in AA, where Alcoholics Anonymous, it tells me it talks about like resentment.
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  So if like something comes up and it's like resentful towards it, it says resentment is the number one offender.
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  It destroys more alcohols than anything else.
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  And that's why these things are kind of drastic.
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  And when you look at page 65 in the big book, it talks, gives you the, uh, example of how to do a 3 columns of the 4 column inventory, just so you know, there is 4 columns.
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  But Mr. Brown has attention to this dude's wife, told my wife of mistress, and Brown's getting my job.
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  Well, man, Brown needs to no longer exist.
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  You know what I mean?
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  Because I'm going to be pissed.
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  I'm going to be very upset at Mr. Brown.
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  And then on the other down below, it says his wife likes Brown and wants put to put the house in her name.
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  So in my view of the way I view things, I've already viewed it as Brown's moving into my house, Brown's banging my wife and taking my job, and now Brown's told my wife of my mistress.
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  So my wife is really leaving me.
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  Good for good and all.
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  And, uh,
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  But that's why it's drastic, right?
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  That's why going through this work is a drastic thing.
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  And so that's the other side of that pendulum is, is so like, well, I got to have accepted.
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  No, well, that's not the deal.
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  So we run this through the 4 column inventory and we get up to this place of, we realize that people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick.
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  Though we did not like their symptoms and the way they deserved us.
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  They like ourselves were sick too.
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  Well, if I'm going off this Mr. Brown and my wife thing.
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  Well, I've already, I have a mistress, so that means if I have a mistress, I've already done things to my wife that now she's doing back.
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  But I'm mad.
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  So the way this works is I just go and oh, as I go through this thing.
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  I'm looking at, so it says we resolutely for, look for our mistakes.
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  Well, I go look at, hey, I cheated on my life.
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  Well, I go make amends to my wife and let her go on her about her business because like when I look at that and we're all God's kids.
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  I'm not looking at the fact that, hey, well, this is what happened in this.
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  Well, I set the ball rolling anyways.
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  I mean, it talks about that, you know.
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  On page 62, it says, sometimes they hurt us, seeming without provocation, but invariably we have found at some time in the past, we made decisions based on self.
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  So that would be self through me having a mistress, right?
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  of self.
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  Which later puts places in a position to be hurt.
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  So the next thing is, this is the, this is the Palmise of the 4th step.
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  So if you haven't done a 4 step, it's not that good of a promise.
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  So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making.
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  But for someone like me, they are basically of my own making, and that is important, because when it's of my own making and not of all 100 people, that's a lot of simpler thing, right?
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  Because if I look back and or look forward, And this on page 64, it says, 1st we search out for the flaws in our own makeup, which caused our failure.
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  Well, what about the thing of me not paying attention in class, so I didn't, I didn't pass school?
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  So I didn't go to college, but I'm upset about me having a construction job.
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  But I got to accept that.
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  Well, I got to accept who I am and what the things I can do, maybe I have the opportunity to go back to school.
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  But I don't want to look at those things because self-delusion tells me it was all y'all's fault.
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  It was my circumstances fault that put me in this place.
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  Because I've always wanted to blame everyone else until I come into that position, man.
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  Nothing's going to change, especially with who I am.
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  Because if it's a flaw in my own makeup.
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  Can I now view that as something that can actually, and we flip over in deeper in the book, right?
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  So if I go to page, I think it's 124.
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  124.
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  So it says, well, on page 124, we grow by our willingness to face of rectifiers and convert them into assets.
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  Well, if I can face these errors.
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  And rectify those, make them right with the people, and go convert that to asset, and go do something.
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  Because like, you know, it, man, I think Jordan Peterson, uh, the way he uh, breaks down how to tame a dragon, I think that's what it is.
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  How to tame a dragon.
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  Anyway, so like the way I was under, you know, it could be off a little bit, but this is how the story goes.
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  to me, and this is how the story's going to go to you.
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  So there's a little kid and he goes opens his closet and there's a little baby drag.
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  Well, goes down to his parents, his parents like, no, there's not, just, da, da, da.
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  And they don't believe it.
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  Anyway, so, The dragon's now underneath the kid's bed, it's grow.
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  It's a little bit bigger.
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  needed to get out of the closet.
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  So now it's sleeping underneath the bed with the kid.
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  The kids like, hey guys, there's a dragon underneath the bed.
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  My bad.
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  But I know there's not, da, da, da.
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  Anyways, long story short, the dragon keeps on growing.
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  The kid keeps on saying stuff, but that, so the parents, though, or me pushing things away because I'm not looking at them.
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  I'm not searching out the things in my falls.
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  I'm only looking at the good stuff and mannoring everything else.
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  And I think, you know, so and eventually the dragon takes over the house, no more house.
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  You know, it's the same thing with Noah's Ark, right?
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  There's, they get ready for a flood.
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  Are you ready for the flood?
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  Because there's always going to be a flood in your line.
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  Right.
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  So the thing is, am I willing to look at that stuff?
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  Because, you know, man, for me, something that I found interesting, I mean, very weird is like when I'm writing inventory in the beginning, especially when I 1st doing some did some inventories, I wouldn't even barely be able to look at the paper.
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  Look at the name.
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  Man, song to a dude the other day and he was like, man, I can't even write their names, though.
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  I like, well, they're just letters.
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  But they because it's touching me, right?
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  Man, I just sent a text message to a person to make it a approach to making amends to this person. And man, I've been thinking about this for a long time.
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  I've had it rode out in my phone notes and, you know, I just pushed sin not too long ago.
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  Oh, now the wait, right?
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  Because I've been living in this, you know, because I don't know how that other person's going to react.
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  And usually my, their reaction, I'm not going to be able to judge because they're human and they, everybody has a different thing going on their life.
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  And when you look at the way the book, you know, explains that.
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  It says, sorry, I'm not a, I don't really get prepared too much, so we're kind of just, to kind of just go how, how I think about it.
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  Oh.
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  Anyways, this says 9 out of 10, the unexpected, or it says in 9 cases, in page 78, in 9 cases out of 10, the unexpected happens.
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  Why?
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  Because I have no idea what someone else is thinking, doing, what's going on in their life, et cetera, right?
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  And that's the deal, right?
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  I could never think about however someone else is thinking, but I think I'm smart enough to do that.
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  So in reality, I think I'm gone.
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  Which I'm not.
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  So like back to the ripple, right?
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  Because it says something about, to now, accept the life as it is instead of exhausting myself, wishing it were different.
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  Man, I wish you were different.
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  So it would, and I could, like, you know, for what?
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  Man, this is a beautiful world and a beautiful time to just be a person.
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  You know, with every, there's things going on in the world, whatever, but like, man, like, you know, we're all just a part of this God's world to be a part of God's people.
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  just, you know, it's such a cool thing to just love people for who they are.
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  Anyways, I, uh,
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  You know, man, I got my book open right here that says, you know, page 73, the alcoholic leads a double live.
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  Well, in my life, I've lived 5 different lives of once.
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  Man, when I started nipping away at that and making things right with God's kids and people that I'm affected and being loving God's kids, man.
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  I start knocking down those lives and start becoming who God wanted me to be.
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  And that is a loving person in this world.
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  So, man, don't worry about the acceptance because, you know, the bad good and bad's going to happen.
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  No, this is my opinion, whatever.
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  But good and bad is going to happen.
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  But the objective nature of this work and the structure and the disciplines of waking up, getting on my knees and everything else stays the same. And for some reason, too, that God takes care.
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  Anyways, a prayer.
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  Where's the prayer?
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  Prayer, Father, God, help me accept what I cannot change and trust you with, trust you with what lies ahead through your Holy Spirit.
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  Fill me with peace as I walk in your will.
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  Shape me through the example of Jesus.
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  Amen.
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  Thank you guys.