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Blind Love and Betrayal: The 8-Year Humiliation That Ended in a Fatal Knife Attack · Crime Night

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  Speaker 1: Alexandria, Egypt, July twenty fourteen. You can almost feel it, right,
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: that heavy summer air just starting to break for the evening.
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  Speaker 1: But inside this one apartment rooftop flat, things were just escalating, heating.
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  Speaker 2: Up, yeah, boiling point. Really. It's around eight point zero pm,
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  Speaker 2: a seemingly normal time.
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  Speaker 1: But it was the end of the line, wasn't it
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  Speaker 1: the end of this eight year performance.
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  Speaker 2: A performance, that's a good word for it. In this
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  Speaker 2: particular evening, well, it was the breaking point after years
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  Speaker 2: of toxicity, dysfunction.
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  Speaker 1: So Hamada, the husband, he asks the kids, they have
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  Speaker 1: four children, to leave the room, right.
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  Speaker 2: He's trying it seems one last time. He wants intimacy,
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  Speaker 2: some kind of connection, something that had basically vanished from
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  Speaker 2: their marriage in Aya.
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  Speaker 1: His wife. Yeah, her refusal wasn't just no, yeah, it
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  Speaker 1: was absolute total dismissal, like.
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  Speaker 2: Pulling a trigger. Really, and she didn't stop there. She
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  Speaker 2: escalates things dramatically, goes to the kitchen and comes back
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  Speaker 2: with an ice, comes back with a knife. Now, initially
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  Speaker 2: the threat seems to be towards herself. She stands near
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  Speaker 2: the bathroom saying, you know, if you come near me,
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  Speaker 2: I'll do it, I'll kill myself.
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  Speaker 1: It's like the ultimate manipulation, isn't it a horrifying boundary?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, But Hamada, maybe blinded by everything he'd endured, maybe
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  Speaker 2: literally struggling to see clearly, he moves towards her anyway.
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  Speaker 1: He actually manages to get the knife away from her.
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  Speaker 2: He does, he disarms her. But in that moment, it's
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  Speaker 2: like all those years, eight years of humiliation, betrayal, shame,
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  Speaker 2: it all just comes crashing down.
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  Speaker 1: It focuses on to that knife.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, and he strikes her twice in the abdomen, instantly fatal,
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  Speaker 2: and the thought process described it's chilling. It wasn't just rage.
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  Speaker 2: It was this cold calculation. If you're not mine, you
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  Speaker 2: won't be anyone else's.
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  Speaker 1: Oh wow yeah. Then the sound her falling, The children
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  Speaker 1: hear it.
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  Speaker 2: They rush back in and they find well, they find
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  Speaker 2: their mother bleeding on the floor, their father standing there,
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  Speaker 2: knife in hand.
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  Speaker 1: Just unimaginable trauma for those kids. Then the chaos neighbors,
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  Speaker 1: police ambulances, the.
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  Speaker 2: Scene is sealed. But that's the end point. Our mission
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  Speaker 2: really in this deep dive is to understand the why
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  Speaker 2: how did it.
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  Speaker 1: Get to this right? Why did these three people, Hamada,
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  Speaker 1: Aya and Hamada's own brother Ahmed, get caught in this
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  Speaker 1: destructive spiral.
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  Speaker 2: And maybe the biggest question for you listening, why did
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  Speaker 2: Hamada put up with it for so long? Why accept
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  Speaker 2: a life that was just crushing his dignity?
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  Speaker 1: To understand that, we need to go back right back
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  Speaker 1: to the beginning.
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  Speaker 2: Let's rewind eight years.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So two thousand and six, Hamadus is twenty four.
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  Speaker 1: He's originally from a place called Katrail Shaikh, but living
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  Speaker 1: in Alexandria, working.
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  Speaker 2: Class, and dealing with this major vulnerability his eyesight. It's
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  Speaker 2: already failing significantly, severe problem which.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently contributed to him being seen as a bit odd
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  Speaker 1: or having an uncomfortable presence, as some neighbors put it.
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  Speaker 1: His family maybe had a strange reputation too.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard to pin down exactly, but the vision issue
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  Speaker 2: is key. We need to hold on to that. It
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  Speaker 2: becomes this powerful symbol later on, doesn't it This physical
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  Speaker 2: blindness mirroring a kind of moral or emotional blindness.
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  Speaker 1: He's vulnerable, set up for exploitation, almost, you could say that.
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  Speaker 2: Then there's Aya, She's twenty one, living back in Kafarel's
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  Speaker 2: Shake described as beautiful, she dropped out of high school,
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  Speaker 2: and she.
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  Speaker 1: Has this one very specific condition for getting married.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, non negotiable. The groom cannot be from Kafrel Shake.
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  Speaker 1: She wants out.
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  Speaker 2: She wants out, simple as that an escape route.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. So here's where it gets really strange. Hamada decides
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  Speaker 1: he's in love.
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  Speaker 2: With her right a distant relative, someone he barely knows,
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  Speaker 2: maybe met once or twice.
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  Speaker 1: But he tells his family I love her. I have
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  Speaker 1: to marry her based on what her name.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the first big why isn't it? It baffled
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  Speaker 2: his family too. He knows practically nothing about her.
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  Speaker 1: So what's the thinking there? I mean, how do you
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  Speaker 1: just decide you love a stranger, especially when you're dealing
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  Speaker 1: with your own significant challenges.
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  Speaker 2: Look, it probably wasn't love in the way we usually
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  Speaker 2: think of it. It seems more like a desperate grasp
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  Speaker 2: for validation.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Explain that he likely felt deeply inadequate, undesirable because of
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  Speaker 2: his vision problems, maybe his social standing. So the logic goes,
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  Speaker 2: if someone like Aya, young, beautiful, presumably someone with options,
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  Speaker 2: says yes to him.
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  Speaker 1: That proves he's worthy. It fixes everything.
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  Speaker 2: It validates his entire existence in one stroke. He wasn't
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  Speaker 2: really seeing her. He was chasing the idea of her,
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  Speaker 2: the dreams she represented.
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  Speaker 1: And ayah, she saw this immediately.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, absolutely, she knew exactly what she was doing. Hamada's
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  Speaker 2: obvious issues, his lack of money, his failing sight, none
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  Speaker 2: of that mattered, she agreed.
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  Speaker 1: Instantly, enthusiastically. Even that's the really startling part.
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  Speaker 2: It is because at first he ticked her box. He
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  Speaker 2: wasn't from kuff Liel Shake. He was her ticket out
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  Speaker 2: to Alexandria. But the deeper thing was his reaction when
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  Speaker 2: she said yes. She saw how stunned he was, how grateful,
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  Speaker 2: And in that moment she knew.
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  Speaker 1: Knew she had him complete control, total control.
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  Speaker 2: She understood immediately that he would see her accept This's
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  Speaker 2: this incredible gift, this miracle. He had to protect at
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  Speaker 2: all costs. He'd do anything.
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  Speaker 1: And she even spun this story for her family, didn't
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  Speaker 1: she to make it look noble?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, quite convincingly too. She framed it as this act
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  Speaker 2: of religious piety, marrying him, caring for him because of
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  Speaker 2: his condition. It would earn her great spiritual merit, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Plus he seemed respectable.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, so it wasn't just cynical calculation. It was calculated
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  Speaker 1: and mathed with this virtuous facade precisely.
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  Speaker 2: It was a transaction disguised as a marriage, and it
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  Speaker 2: happened fast. Three months later, they're married, living in Alexandria.
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  Speaker 1: And Hamada is just completely devoted, head over heels. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: still thinking she's a dream come.
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  Speaker 2: True, utterly convinced, ready to do absolutely anything for her
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  Speaker 2: because he still couldn't quite believe his luck. The whole
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  Speaker 2: foundation was just wrong. It wasn't connection. It was leverage
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  Speaker 2: and desperation, a.
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  Speaker 1: Perfect setup for disaster. Really textbook.
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  Speaker 2: So let's fast forward three years.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, three years in they have two kids.
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  Speaker 2: But I know right and the made's vision it's getting worse.
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  Speaker 2: His left eye is now completely blind, the right one
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  Speaker 2: he can only make out shadows that.
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  Speaker 1: Must have been terrifying and isolating immensely.
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  Speaker 2: And around this time he starts to feel somethings off
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  Speaker 2: with aya, a distance, a coldness. He starts suspecting things.
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  Speaker 1: Like other men, maybe even in the.
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  Speaker 2: House exactly That suspicion starts to creep in. But here's
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  Speaker 2: the tragic bind. Because of his sight he can't know,
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  Speaker 2: he can't get proof.
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  Speaker 1: He can't confirm his worst fears right.
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  Speaker 2: So he's paralyzed. He loves her, or loves the idea
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  Speaker 2: of her. He married, and he's terrified of losing her. Remember,
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  Speaker 2: he still feels fundamentally unworthy. Challenging her feels like risking.
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  Speaker 1: Everything, So he stays silent.
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  Speaker 2: He stays silent, and Aya she uses his vulnerability like
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  Speaker 2: a weapon. So anytime he even tries to gently raise
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  Speaker 2: a concern, maybe ask a tentative question, she immediately throws
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  Speaker 2: the condition back in his face. I married you despite this,
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  Speaker 2: How dare you question?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? That's cool? Hitting him right where it hurts most.
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  Speaker 2: And it worked every single time. It silenced him, completely
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  Speaker 2: shamed him back into submission.
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  Speaker 1: It's that cognitive distance you mentioned, right. His reality this
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  Speaker 1: woman is hurting me clashes with his belief I love her.
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  Speaker 1: She saved me, So he just ignores the hurtful.
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  Speaker 2: Part he has to to survive emotionally. It's a terrible
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  Speaker 2: coping mechanism. So jump forward again, six years of marriage,
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  Speaker 2: now four children by this point four kids, and the
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  Speaker 2: relationship physically at least is basically over. Intimacy is practically
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  Speaker 2: non existent. Only it seems when she decided they should
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  Speaker 2: try for another.
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  Speaker 1: Child, that's transactional. Doesn't even cover it.
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  Speaker 2: It's beyond them. And then comes the ultimate humiliation. She
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  Speaker 2: tells him he can't sleep in the bedroom anymore.
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  Speaker 1: What why?
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  Speaker 2: Her reason? She needs peace and quiet, she needs to
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  Speaker 2: sleep in the bedroom with the children. He has to
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  Speaker 2: sleep separately in the hall or the living room.
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  Speaker 1: She kicks him out of his own bedroom.
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  Speaker 2: Effectively, Yes, And the most astonishing.
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  Speaker 1: Part me, yeah, Yes, he agreed.
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  Speaker 2: He agreed, didn't even ask why, just accepted it.
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  Speaker 1: He becomes an outcast in his own.
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  Speaker 2: Home, confined to the margins while she holds court in
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  Speaker 2: the master bedroom. This is where you see that self
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  Speaker 2: respect just evaporate.
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  Speaker 1: He's trading basic dignity for her mere presence in the house.
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  Speaker 2: I just I have to stop you. How does a
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  Speaker 2: person rationalize that sleeping in the hallway while your wife
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  Speaker 2: is in the bedroom. What was going through his head?
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  Speaker 1: Look? It points to this profound sense of learned helplessness.
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  Speaker 1: He genuinely seems to have believed this is the best
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  Speaker 1: I can get, this is all I deserve.
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  Speaker 2: That's incredibly sad it is, And the fear is still
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  Speaker 2: paramount fear of abandonment. His thinking was, likely, if I object,
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  Speaker 2: she'll leave. If I accept this, this exile, at least
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  Speaker 2: she's still here, I still have her, which meant he
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  Speaker 2: still had that validation he craved.
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  Speaker 1: But that fragile reality, that delusion, It couldn't last, could it.
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  Speaker 2: No? And the confirmation came from the most innocent source, imaginable,
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  Speaker 2: his daughter, old daughter. She was apparently very close to him,
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  Speaker 2: and she tells him, she confirms his darkest fear.
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  Speaker 1: What did she say?
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  Speaker 2: She told him about Uncle Ahmed, his brother, His older brother,
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  Speaker 2: Ahmed ten years older, married with his own kids.
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  Speaker 1: He was visiting frequently when Hamada was out working, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: but sometimes sometimes even when Hammada was home unseen because
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  Speaker 1: Hamada was confined to the hall or living room.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, his own brother and Ahmed's mindset.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently he'd always been resentful, maybe jealous that Aya, this
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  Speaker 1: beautiful woman, had married his visually impaired, less successful brother.
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  Speaker 2: So he saw an opportunity in his brother's vulnerability, a
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  Speaker 2: truly disgusting betrayal.
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  Speaker 1: Batterly, yeah, So Hamida finally confronts Ayah and she.
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  Speaker 2: Denies it vehemently denies it. But then crucially, she secretly
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  Speaker 2: warns the children, don't you mention Uncle Ahmed visiting anymore?
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  Speaker 1: So she knows he knows, or suspects strongly.
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  Speaker 2: She knows the game is potentially up. Yet Hamada, even now,
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  Speaker 2: even with this confirmation from his child, he does nothing
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  Speaker 2: for how long? For another full year?
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  Speaker 1: A year living like that, knowing his wife and brother
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  Speaker 1: were betraying him under his own roof while he slept
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  Speaker 1: in the hall a whole year.
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  Speaker 2: His excuses when he later tried to explain it were
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  Speaker 2: just heartbreakingly weak. The children, his love for Aya, not
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  Speaker 2: knowing how to handle his own brother paralyzed.
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  Speaker 1: But there was another layer, wasn't there a final desperate
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  Speaker 1: piece of self delusion.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, this is perhaps the lowest point of his self deception.
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  Speaker 2: He reasoned that because Ayas still occasionally agreed to intimacy
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  Speaker 2: when he pleaded for.
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  Speaker 1: It, like maybe once in a blue moon.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly infrequent, likely transactional moments, he used that as proof
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  Speaker 2: that things weren't so bad, that the situation was somehow acceptable.
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  Speaker 1: He clung to crumbs as if it were a feast,
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  Speaker 1: justifying total degradation for the barest minimum of physical contact.
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  Speaker 2: It's profound breakdown. The psychological toll must have been immense, unbearable.
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  Speaker 1: Which leads him to his next idea seemingly rational one
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  Speaker 1: on the surface, right.
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  Speaker 2: He decides they have to move new apartment, fresh start,
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  Speaker 2: wipe the slate clean for the kids.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, but he's completely misreading the situation, isn't he
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  Speaker 1: He thinks it's about the location, the memories.
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  Speaker 2: He does. He thinks changing the scenery will change the dynamic.
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  Speaker 2: And Iya's reaction, Oh, she's thrilled, agrees, immediately elated.
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  Speaker 1: Even because it wasn't his plan at all, was it not?
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  Speaker 2: Really? The move played right into her hands. She wanted
• 11:27
  Speaker 2: to escape too.
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  Speaker 1: But not the past. She wanted to escape the neighbors exactly.
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  Speaker 2: People in the old building were starting to talk gossip
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  Speaker 2: about her, and Ahmed was spreading the move. This new
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  Speaker 2: desirable rooftop flat Hamada found was Aya's perfect escape route
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  Speaker 2: from scrutiny.
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  Speaker 1: So she used his pain, his desire for a fresh
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  Speaker 1: start to facilitate her.
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  Speaker 2: Own agenda precisely, And of course, in the new place,
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  Speaker 2: nothing changed.
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  Speaker 1: He's still sleeping in the.
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  Speaker 2: Hall, still exiled to the hall, and his daughter once
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  Speaker 2: again becomes the messenger on Glomed is back on Glamed
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  Speaker 2: is visiting again, height in the closet, sometimes behind the curtain.
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  Speaker 2: When Hamada comes near the bedroom.
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  Speaker 1: The audacity is just breathtaking. It's like a dark farce.
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  Speaker 2: It truly is. And then comes this moment of horrifying confrontation.
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  Speaker 1: What happened?
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  Speaker 2: The daughter tells Hamada, uncle Ahmed is here right now.
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  Speaker 2: He's on the bed.
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  Speaker 1: Oh wow, okay, so Hammada finally snaps.
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  Speaker 2: He rushes towards the bedroom, but Aya physically blocks him
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  Speaker 2: at the door. She stops him, tries to stop him,
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  Speaker 2: but before he can even process that, a hand reaches
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  Speaker 2: out from under the bed, covers, grabs him by the
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  Speaker 2: throat and starts choking, hooking.
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  Speaker 1: Him in his own home. Who was it?
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  Speaker 2: It was Ahmed? His brother.
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  Speaker 1: Ahmed emerges from the bed, and instead of shame or.
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  Speaker 2: Fear, he's aggressive, demanding tells Hamada keep quiet, don't cause
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  Speaker 2: a scandal, protect.
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  Speaker 1: Us, protect them. After being caught in bed with his
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  Speaker 1: brother's wife and assaulting.
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  Speaker 2: Him, the nerve is unbelievable. Hamado, visually impaired, humiliated, betrayed,
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  Speaker 2: is now being physically attacked by his own brother for interrupting.
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  Speaker 1: The affair, and Aya, what does she do in this moment?
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  Speaker 2: Her reaction is possibly the most telling, the most dismissive
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  Speaker 2: of all. She doesn't try to mediate, doesn't apologize, doesn't
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  Speaker 2: react with any sense of crisis with Then she just
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  Speaker 2: calmly starts packing her clothes, packing to leave, to go
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  Speaker 2: back to her family, in coffile shake, just like that.
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  Speaker 1: And her justification does she give one? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: She does, and it's devastating. She tells Himada, She's angry
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  Speaker 2: that he investigated her, that he dared to check up
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  Speaker 2: on her. And then the final twist of the knife.
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  Speaker 2: What she says, effectively, what's the big deal? I was
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  Speaker 2: cheating with your brother, not some stranger.
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  Speaker 1: Unbelievable. As if that makes it better, it makes it
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  Speaker 1: infinitely worse.
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  Speaker 2: It absolutely destroys any remaining shred of dignity Hamata might
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  Speaker 2: have clung to. It's basically saying, this is a family matter,
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  Speaker 2: Your feelings are irrelevant, Get over it.
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  Speaker 1: At this point, m surely, surely this is the end divorce,
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  Speaker 1: telling her family everything, confronting on ed properly, that.
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  Speaker 2: Would be the rational response, the self respecting response. But
• 14:03
  Speaker 2: Hamada's capacity for self abasement. It hadn't hit.
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  Speaker 1: Bottom yet, You're kidding. What does he do?
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: Two days later, he travels to Kaffarel Shake Okay.
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  Speaker 1: To do what serve divorce papers expose her.
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  Speaker 2: No, he goes there to apologize to her. He apologizes
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  Speaker 2: to her, He begs her forgiveness, please with her to
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  Speaker 2: come back home, tells her he can't live without her.
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  Speaker 1: After everything, after the affair, the lies, the assault, the
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  Speaker 1: ultimate dismissal.
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  Speaker 2: He apologizes, Yes, it's almost impossible to comprehend the level
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: of self erasure.
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  Speaker 1: So Aya now holds all the cards. What does she do?
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  Speaker 2: She uses this moment in front of her own family
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  Speaker 2: to lay down the law, her final terms, which are
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  Speaker 2: non negotiable. If she comes back, he must leave her
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  Speaker 2: completely alone, let her live exactly as she wants, never interfere,
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  Speaker 2: never question, never ask for anything. Total surrender, total surrender,
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  Speaker 2: and hamada, don't tell me. Agreed instantly, calmly to everything.
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  Speaker 1: What could possibly be left firm.
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  Speaker 2: In that His rock bottom thought process apparently was this,
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  Speaker 2: if she's back under the same roof, maybe, just maybe
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  Speaker 2: she'll agree to intimacy once in a great while.
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  Speaker 1: That's all he had left that sliver of hope.
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  Speaker 2: That was the pathetic bargain he made with himself. He
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: traded his entire life, his dignity, his autonomy, for the
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  Speaker 2: possibility of occasional, grudging physical contact.
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: So they go back to Alexandria under these.
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: New terms, they do, but Aya immediately pulls the rug
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: out from under even that pitiful hope. Right, she changes
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  Speaker 2: the rules again, the leaving her alone part that now
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: means permanently no contact, stay away, the absolute final rejection.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: Even the crumbs he bargained for are denied.
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  Speaker 1: And that that was the final straw. Not the years
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: of affairs, lies, humiliation, the brother, but this final, absolute
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  Speaker 1: sexual rejection.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: That seems to be the removal of that last desperate
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: hope for any kind of connection, however minimal. That's what
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  Speaker 2: finally broke him. That's what finally ignited the rage he'd
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: suppressed for eight long years.
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  Speaker 1: So the argument started then, coming from his side for
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: a change.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: Yes, the dynamic shifted slightly. He started pushing back, arguing,
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: fueled by this ultimate rejection, and those escalating arguments led
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: directly to.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: That night, July twenty fourteen, Yeah, eight chanceys, zero pm.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: The demand for intimacy, the refusal, the.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Knife, the fatal stabs, the end of eight years of
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: awaking nightmare really built on self deception and exploitation.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: Hamada was arrested.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: Obviously immediately, and off med the brother. He denied everything,
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: denied the affair, offered no explanation for his actions, proturking
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: Hamada just denial, and.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: When the authorities asked, come out of those key questions,
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: why did you marry her? Why did you tolerate all this?
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: What could he even say?
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: It's hard to imagine he had clear answers himself. He
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: was trapped in this psychological maze he'd built.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: The analysis that comes through it's that he wasn't just
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: blind of sight, he'd become blind of dignity and feeling
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: it well.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: Aya was driven by a need for escape and control,
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: regardless of the human cost. Ahmed was driven by what resentment, opportunism,
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: a complete lack of morality.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: And all three were locked in this bizarre, toxic reality,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: sustained primarily by Hamada's inability or unwillingness to value himself.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: It's a deeply disturbing story, but the lesson, I think
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: is crucial for anyone listening what's the takeaway here? It's
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: that no problem you face, no insecurity you feel, and
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: certainly no twisted version of love or validation is worth
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: sacrificing your fundamental dignity.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: For because the cost is too high.
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: The cost is astronomical. As we see here, the cost
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: of that kind of self humiliation is ultimately the complete
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: loss of control over your own life. And for Hamada,
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: that loss led to the absolute unthinkable.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: So it leaves you wandering, doesn't it. Where might you,
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: in your own life be settling, excepting less than you deserve,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: maybe just to keep things calm, to avoid conflict.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: And what's the real price you're paying for that silence,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: for that acceptance. It's a heavy question.