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Ep119. Unleashing the Potential of Naive Optimism. · The Inner Wealth Podcast

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: This is Mike Kitco and I'm a small business owner just like you.
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: I'll never be a hustle, horror grind guru, but I do believe in having it all health, wealth and a life full of love.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Struggle is not the goal and sacrifice is not glamorous.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: I like the path of least resistance.
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: It just takes a shift in mindset and the beliefs you hold.
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: You believe that you need to sacrifice now to have what you want later, or do you believe that you can have it all all the time?
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: Does your beliefs create your outcomes?
• 0:29
  Speaker 1: I choose to feel wealthy, successful and happy every day, and you get to choose for yourself.
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: Welcome to lead love, profit play, where small business owners learn and choose to have it all and choose to create success without distress.
• 0:45
  Speaker 1: Now I can remember back to before I started doing this work, and what I mean by that is I basically have been two parts of my life, before age 43 and after age 43.
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: And there was a moment right.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: I got terminated for my last job on March 18, 2016.
• 1:07
  Speaker 1: And on April 1, 2016 is really when I got the work like trying to figure out who I was going to be for the rest of my life and who I wanted to be when I grew up, because what I had done from you know, ages 0 to 43 basically made me suicidal.
• 1:24
  Speaker 1: And the way I showed up physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, the way I was showing up in the world just it wasn't working anymore and it expired.
• 1:34
  Speaker 1: And I was ready.
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: When you pulled the barrel of the gun out of your mouth, you realized that everything that you've ever learned and everything that you think is true and everything that you believe to be real, everything that you believe to be valuable, everything that you believe to be truth, has gotten you there.
• 1:55
  Speaker 1: So you know, when you do pull the barrel out of your mouth, it's like you get to reinvent yourself and re-experience everything, and that includes dropping all the beliefs, all the thoughts, all the all.
• 2:13
  Speaker 1: Your connection, the way you identify in the world, who you think you are like your God changes, like everything.
• 2:22
  Speaker 1: How you interact with yourself, how you interact with other people.
• 2:26
  Speaker 1: Everything changes because if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got, and hopefully you've heard that saying a couple of times on this podcast and in some of the episodes if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.
• 2:41
  Speaker 1: In order to get somewhere different in your life, you have to be someone different than you're being right now.
• 2:47
  Speaker 1: In order to have something different in your life, you need to do and be something different than you've been up to this point.
• 2:58
  Speaker 1: And when I decided not to take my own life and I decided that I was going to do something different, I got the opportunity to drop everything I ever thought was true about humanity and about existence.
• 3:14
  Speaker 1: And I got the process.
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: I got to embark on the process of rediscovering everything and I learned some valuable, valuable insights and I see these things showing up now.
• 3:24
  Speaker 1: This was the path that I took, you know, seven years ago.
• 3:28
  Speaker 1: Now I get to see how some of my new students although you know they're not suicidal by any means when I see newer students, I see them in the same patterns and in the same you know the same dramas and you know connected to the same beliefs, some of the same beliefs and some of the same ways of showing up, and I get to help them shift differently.
• 3:49
  Speaker 1: And in this episode, what I really want to unpack, I've been, I've got a speaking engagement.
• 3:56
  Speaker 1: This coming weekend I'm going to be one of the keynote speakers at Gateway to Freedom in St Louis, missouri and it's going to be a lot of fun.
• 4:06
  Speaker 1: I'm the last speaker in the second day of the event.
• 4:09
  Speaker 1: It's going to be a lot of fun.
• 4:10
  Speaker 1: So, real estate investor conference their virtual tickets are available.
• 4:15
  Speaker 1: I'll put the link in the show notes if you're interested.
• 4:18
  Speaker 1: I'll probably stay a little cool to capture your back to the audience.
• 4:21
  Speaker 1: If you've just heard about what I consider pretty good.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: But when, when I see someone in a little bit of a state of chaos right, you could say a little bit of a state of chaos I typically just start asking questions and start unpacking what's going on in their mind and in their body.
• 4:42
  Speaker 1: And here's what I've learned, and again, I can experience this for my own life.
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: So this isn't just about other people, it's about my experience with my own humanity.
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: No matter when we're in a little state of chaos, when we're a lot of state of chaos, but even when we're in a little state of chaos, we don't surrender.
• 5:08
  Speaker 1: When there's chaos, we haven't really surrendered to what we really want in life.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna say that differently, because this isn't a simple concept to understand.
• 5:28
  Speaker 1: If you want to be successful, let's say you wanna increase the level of success that you have in your life.
• 5:33
  Speaker 1: And you know what you want.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: Like in my simple vision for my mastermind is 100 students and a million dollars in sales.
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: In my mastermind right, very, very simple in my business.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: Very simple, very quantifiable, very objective 100 students, million dollars in sales annually.
• 5:56
  Speaker 1: That's the goal, that's the objective.
• 5:59
  Speaker 1: Now, if there's any doubts, if there's any thoughts that I might fall short, if there are any thoughts that that might not happen, if there are any thoughts that that's not possible, if there are any thoughts that well, what if it doesn't happen?
• 6:20
  Speaker 1: If there are any thoughts that are anything but completely aligned and tied to 100 students and a million dollars in sales, if there's any negative influence in my mind or my body, then I'm withholding trust.
• 6:37
  Speaker 1: I'm not surrendered to the goal, I'm not surrendered to the path that I'm embarking on.
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: If you want to create wealth and you want, let's say let's just throw some numbers out you wanna create, you know, $10 million in net worth, financial net worth, and all that financial net worth is is you take what you own and subtract what you owe and the difference is your financial net worth.
• 7:09
  Speaker 1: And let's say you want a financial net worth of $10 million.
• 7:16
  Speaker 1: Right, let's say, any thoughts that you might not get there, any thoughts that you might go broke, any thoughts that you're gonna lose it all, any thoughts that there's some force in the world that's keeping it away from you, any thoughts, any feelings, any beliefs that it's not possible, probable, whatever for you?
• 7:45
  Speaker 1: It is you not being surrendered to that goal.
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  Speaker 1: And the bigger percentage of time you spend thinking about the goal instead of thinking about what would happen without the goal, or the more time you spend, the larger percentage of time you spend focused on the yes of that and the possibility and the potential and the probability and the likelihood and the certainty of that, like the more percentage of your mindshare you put towards what you want and the smaller amount of time that you spend thinking about what you don't want, to greater the probability that you will actually create it.
• 8:32
  Speaker 1: This is very simple, but it's not very.
• 8:36
  Speaker 1: It's simple but not easy.
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  Speaker 1: See, we have this fear-based mind and we have this amygdala that's trying to keep us alive.
• 8:44
  Speaker 1: The amygdala, the most primitive, premature, I don't know part of our brain I shouldn't say premature, but immature part of our anatomy, is called the amygdala and it has one goal, one function in life and it's to keep you alive.
• 9:06
  Speaker 1: And as long as you're alive, it's doing its job and it doesn't care if you're happy and it doesn't care if you're wealthy and it doesn't care if you're successful.
• 9:14
  Speaker 1: But there's a lot of people on the face of this planet that are living their lives through a hijacked amygdala.
• 9:22
  Speaker 1: That amygdala is literally running their life and they are waking up every single day to avoid what they don't want instead of create what they want.
• 9:30
  Speaker 1: And the more your amygdala is in charge, the more you are being hijacked by your amygdala, the more you are being hijacked by the shadows, by the doubt, by the worry, by the fears.
• 9:45
  Speaker 1: The more time you spend connected to what you don't want, the more likely it is that you will experience it.
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: And when you are surrendered to what you do want, you let go of any need to ever think about or connect or worry or ponder or contemplate what it would be like to not have it.
• 10:18
  Speaker 1: We were in my inner circle.
• 10:20
  Speaker 1: We were engrossed in a spirited conversation about financial management.
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: I am not interested in being the financial manager of my financial net worth.
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: I've hired people.
• 10:42
  Speaker 1: I've hired a company, someone I trust and someone who I know oversees my finances, someone I know has my best interest in mind.
• 10:54
  Speaker 1: Someone I know who values me not just my business, but who values me and who's looking out for my best interest.
• 11:03
  Speaker 1: What that means is I can take my full attention away from managing my financial affairs because I know it's in great hands.
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: Every year we sit down or, if there's changes that he wants to make, we sit down and we discuss what those changes are and we align.
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: In the absence of that active conversation, I know that they're in good hands.
• 11:31
  Speaker 1: Some of the people in my inner circle were like no, you need to be actively involved all the time and basically you need the micromanager finances.
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: I was like no, I'm not interested in managing my finances micromanaging my finances At a big picture, absolutely, but at a micro.
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: Why would I hire somebody if I'm going to manage them at the micro level?
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: That doesn't make any sense.
• 11:59
  Speaker 1: In some cases, the response was well, why do you even have a financial manager?
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: Why don't you just do it yourself?
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: Because I'm not interested in managing my finances, I don't have any interest, I'm not inspired to manage my portfolio, but I've hired someone who is inspired to manage my portfolio.
• 12:26
  Speaker 1: What if some unforeseen thing pops up and then you lose it all.
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: Well, what if I just know that I won't lose it all?
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: What if I just think about what I do want instead of what I don't want?
• 12:41
  Speaker 1: What if I just believe that nothing drastic will happen to my finances?
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: What if I just believe that they're in good hands?
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: And what if I just believe that everything's always going to work out for me all the time?
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: What if I just believe and surrender to what I want instead of what I don't want, if I live a life of guardedness and protection and defensiveness?
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: I'm playing, not to lose.
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: I'm not playing the win.
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  Speaker 1: I want to play the win.
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: I don't want to play the game to not lose.
• 13:17
  Speaker 1: Thinking about what you don't want, believing what you don't want, thinking there's a possibility of what you don't want, might sound naive.
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: It might sound naively optimistic, but trust me, the more you think about what you don't want, the more you're going to get it.
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  Speaker 1: So why wouldn't I think the highest thought?
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  Speaker 1: Why wouldn't I believe the highest belief?
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  Speaker 1: And why don't I just create that instead of what I don't want?
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: And listen, I know this sounds grossly optimistic and I'm not giving you any financial advice.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: But what I have seen and what I have witnessed, not just in my life but in the lives of new students and in the minds of new students, is we withhold a portion of our trust and a portion of our belief and a portion of our commitment to having what we want, just in case it doesn't happen.
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: And the more you withhold the trust and the faith and the commitment to having what you want, the more likely it is that you won't.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: And the more you trust and have faith and commit to have what you want at the expense of what you don't want and leave that behind and leave the possibility that that will even happen, the more you connect with what you want instead of what you don't want, the more likely it is to happen.
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: But we reserve.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's 25%, maybe it's 33%, but we reserve sometimes when we're living unconsciously, when we don't understand how powerful thought is and how powerful belief is, when we don't understand that our beliefs create our reality and that our beliefs create our outcomes and our thoughts shape our beliefs and our beliefs create what we experience in the world and we don't understand that we think it's okay to reserve 25 to 33% or 50% of our brain share and just devote that percentage to what we don't want.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: And in the process we think we're going to become happier by thinking about what we don't want and planning for the possibility of what we don't want.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: And the more we plan for the possibility of what we don't want, the more likely we're going to get what we don't want, and it doesn't make any fucking sense to me.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: So why wouldn't I be naively optimistic in that situation?
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: But what happens if the economy I'm in it for the long haul, not for the hour by hour results of this thing the more you focus on what you want, the more likely you are to get it.
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: The more you focus on what you don't want, the more likely it is to happen.
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  Speaker 1: The more, the more percentage of your time you spend in absolute certainty that you are creating the life that you want, the more likely probable you are to experience it.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: But don't let people that are living in fear, in a defensive position, from a defensive nature, from a protectionist point of view, living from their amygdala, living out of fight, flight or freeze, living out of their primitive, freaking parts of their anatomy, that are only survivalists and not creation.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: Don't let those people tell you that you need to live out of fear too.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: Let them live out of fear and let them be miserable.
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: But it doesn't mean you have to be, because see, here's what I've witnessed in my newer life the more naively optimistic I am, the more things go my way, and the more naively optimistic I am about what I want, the more I get it.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: The more ignorant I am to the possibility that something might go wrong, the less they go wrong.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: But the more I understand what I want in this world, get crystal clear about it, become super certain and drop the possibility and the probability and the likelihood or the even chance, remote chance that it might not happen.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: The more I let that shit go, the more this beautiful existence like pre-shapes itself around me and the happier like my life is.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: And you might call that naively optimistic, and you know what I call it.
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: I call it happy and I'd rather be happy than guarded and defensive and protectionist and fear-based.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: I would rather be happy and there's a beauty and there's a joy in being naively optimistic.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: Listen, most of this planet is living from a place of fear.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: Most of this planet and most of the people on the planet will tell you that is the right way to live, but don't let miserable people teach you how to live a happy life, just like.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: If you're looking to reshape your health, you're not going to go and find an obese person and ask them health advice.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: If you're looking for advice from happy or learn how to be happy, you go ask happy people.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: If you just want to learn how to create wealth, you go and ask wealthy people.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: You don't ask poor people how to create wealth.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: You don't ask miserable people how to be happy and you don't ask serial divorcees for marital advice.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: But what you do is get crystal clear on what you want and surrender to it.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: And the more you surrender to what you want and let go, every time a worry, a doubt, a fear pops up that's in contrast to what you want, let it go.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Any emotion, any feeling, any belief, anything that's in your way, anything that's playing antagonist in your life, inside of you, can be let go.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: And the more you focus on what you want at the expense of what you don't want, the more likely you are to experience it in this world, because you can't.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: At the gateway to freedom conference, started going down that path.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: But at the gateway to freedom conference.
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  Speaker 1: The keynote that I'm going to give is poor mind, poor life, rich mind, rich life.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I'm also doing a free virtual training across my socials on November 15th at noon, central time, by the same title poor mind, poor life, rich mind, rich life.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: When you let go of the thoughts of poverty, you will create wealth.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: When you let go of the thoughts of failure, you will create success.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: When you let go of the feelings and the thoughts of misery and of fear and of worry and of doubt, you will create happiness in your life.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: But you can't think about what you don't want and still get what you do want.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Guys, I hope this helps.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: I hope it reframes some things.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: I am naively optimistic and at the same time, I have all the money I need and I'm happy as fuck.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: Where are you in your wealth and happiness?
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Not wealth or happiness.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: Wealth and happiness Because it was the benefit of having money if you're not enjoying it.
• 21:43
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