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The Love That Sees What Others Miss: Decoding the Signs Someone Likes You · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Love is a mysterious thing. You never know when it
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  Speaker 1: will strike. And it can be close to impossible to
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  Speaker 1: figure out if your crush actually likes you back. Is
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  Speaker 1: that a twinkle in their eye or were they tearing
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  Speaker 1: up at a TikTok? Was that hug more than just friendly?
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  Speaker 1: Did they sit next to you on purpose? Is the
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  Speaker 1: reason their smile gets so wide when they see you love?
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  Speaker 1: So many questions, so little answers, and literally zero cues
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  Speaker 1: to help you figure it out. Well, strike that last part.
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  Speaker 1: With scientific studies on romance, we've learned about some clues
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  Speaker 1: to tell if your crush likes you back. You'll be
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  Speaker 1: the romance's version of Sherlock Holmes or Inspector Clouseau. If
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  Speaker 1: there's a crush afoot, you'll find them. Today, we'll search
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  Speaker 1: for clues by presenting you a story of Mia and Jenny.
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  Speaker 1: What were the signs that they liked each other? And
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  Speaker 1: how can you know if your crush likes you too?
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  Speaker 1: Let's find out. The initial tiptoeing. First, meet Mia. She's
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  Speaker 1: your regular everyday college student with too many interests and
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  Speaker 1: too little time. She enjoys sewing, binge watching The Office,
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  Speaker 1: and baking banana bread almost every weekend. But most of all,
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  Speaker 1: she loves to study in her university's library. Not because
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  Speaker 1: she's such a conscientious student, but because it's where she
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  Speaker 1: can be close to Jenny. Jenny, beautiful, amazing Jenny. Mia
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  Speaker 1: is sure she doesn't have a chance, but she still
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  Speaker 1: can't stop the butterflies in her stomach whenever they study together.
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  Speaker 1: It's like she can literally feel her heart pounding in
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  Speaker 1: her chest. Her ears and cheeks get all warm. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: she catches herself smiling and staring at Jenny while she's
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  Speaker 1: taking notes, and that's when she wonders, gosh, Mia, are
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  Speaker 1: you out of your mind? Mia may be a bit
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  Speaker 1: embarrassed by her behavior, but psychology says this is totally normal.
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  Speaker 1: A 2020 study published in journal Adaptive Human Behavior and
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  Speaker 1: Physiology found that when we're highly attracted to someone, we
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  Speaker 1: tend to show nervous and anxious reactions. Participants from the
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  Speaker 1: study said that when they're around someone they like, they
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  Speaker 1: experience increased attentiveness, smiling, staring, increased heart rate, giggling, blushing,
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  Speaker 1: and difficulty concentrating. The study also found that participants reported
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  Speaker 1: observing nervous reactions by others whom they perceived were attracted
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  Speaker 1: to them. Is it possible that Jenny noticed all of this?
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  Speaker 1: Tell me about it. Jenny was a bit on the
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  Speaker 1: shy side, so when she noticed Mia glancing at her
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  Speaker 1: across the table, she was too afraid to look up. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: but She wanted to. Ever since Mia sat next to
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  Speaker 1: her in the library, she couldn't stop thinking about Mia's
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  Speaker 1: study session after study session. She wanted to talk to Mia,
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  Speaker 1: but didn't know how. What would she even say? A joke?
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  Speaker 1: What if it's not funny? And what if... Her overthinking
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  Speaker 1: got interrupted by a note. Mia passed her. Wanna take
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  Speaker 1: a break and grab a cup of coffee? And that's
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  Speaker 1: when they had their first coffee and conversation. Jenny was
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  Speaker 1: still very anxious and afraid of accidentally referencing a stale
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  Speaker 1: meme from 2010. But as they talked more and more,
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  Speaker 1: she realized with Mia, she can totally open up. In
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  Speaker 1: no time, they went from hating on the barely lit
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  Speaker 1: Game of Thrones ending to discussing Jenny's struggles with social anxiety.
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  Speaker 1: Was that the beginning of a friendship or something more?
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  Speaker 1: If you ask psychologists, Erwin Altman and Thomas Taylor, they
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  Speaker 1: would agree that this is the beginning of a little romance.
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  Speaker 1: In 1973, they developed a theory which states that relationships
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  Speaker 1: begin and grow through talking about yourself. This may start
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  Speaker 1: as small talk, but as time goes by, this can
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  Speaker 1: turn into sharing more intimate stories or that one fear
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  Speaker 1: you've never shared with anyone. This is how relationships gain meaning.
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  Speaker 1: And this is exactly what happened with Jenny and Mia.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what happens next with our enamored girls. Let's
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  Speaker 1: do it together. Mia couldn't believe what was happening. She
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  Speaker 1: and Jenny dating? Ever since she mustered up the courage
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  Speaker 1: to finally talk to Jenny, they've been going on all
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  Speaker 1: sorts of dates from talking and drinking vanilla iced coffees
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  Speaker 1: to taking yoga classes together, riding their bikes and baking
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  Speaker 1: banana bread in Mia's tiny condo. Even though things were
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  Speaker 1: going really well, Mia was still too afraid to show
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  Speaker 1: her real feelings. It was just too risky to try
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  Speaker 1: and confess her love. What if it scares Jenny away?
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  Speaker 1: While these scared thoughts ping-ponged around her head, Mia didn't
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  Speaker 1: even notice how strong their bond had gotten and that
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  Speaker 1: Jenny was falling in love too. Researchers Leslie Baxter and
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  Speaker 1: Connie Bullis studied relationships turning points, just like the one
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  Speaker 1: we're seeing with Mia and Jenny. As they concluded in
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  Speaker 1: 1986 when they published their first findings in relational turning points,
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  Speaker 1: doing shared activities together is one of the common themes
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  Speaker 1: that turn a close friend into a partner. Mia was
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  Speaker 1: so nervous that she didn't notice Jenny's voice shaking when
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  Speaker 1: she stood a bit too close or how she always
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  Speaker 1: found a way to accidentally touch her hand. What do
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  Speaker 1: you think? Do you think this is love blooming or
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  Speaker 1: just some friends with anxiety? Drop a comment below. Letting
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  Speaker 1: the world know. Jenny was absolutely sure that she was
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  Speaker 1: in love now. If she had the chance, she would
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  Speaker 1: scream at the top of her lungs to let the
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  Speaker 1: whole world know. Spending time with other people suddenly seemed
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  Speaker 1: so boring. To help make those times more bearable, she
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  Speaker 1: decided to invite Mia as well. Event by event, Jenny's mom, sister,
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  Speaker 1: and even her best friend from elementary school all got
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  Speaker 1: the privilege of meeting her soulmate, Mia. Remember how embarrassed
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  Speaker 1: both of the girls were to show signs of affection
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  Speaker 1: when they first met? Well, their family and friends thought
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  Speaker 1: it was pretty obvious they were head over heels for
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  Speaker 1: each other, but neither minded. In fact, that actually made
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  Speaker 1: them happy that their loved ones noticed. When you introduce
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  Speaker 1: a friend or significant others to other groups of people
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  Speaker 1: in your life, this is what psychologists call social networking.
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  Speaker 1: They believe that as people become closer and more committed
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  Speaker 1: to each other, there is more overlap between their social networks.
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  Speaker 1: One study in 2005 published in Western Journal of Communication
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  Speaker 1: found that women who desire a relationship with their friends
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  Speaker 1: are likely to introduce them to their social circle. Example,
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  Speaker 1: mean girls. Regina George wanted to get to know Katie
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  Speaker 1: better to figure out how to manipulate her. So she
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  Speaker 1: introduced her to her friend group, the Plastics. That way,
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  Speaker 1: Katie could be invited to more outings and Regina would
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  Speaker 1: have more opportunities to get to know her. Malicious intent,
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  Speaker 1: but same principle as what Jenny did with Mia. Jenny
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  Speaker 1: wanted her to officially become a part of her life,
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  Speaker 1: so she intertwined Mia into other aspects of her life.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone seemed to love her, and that gave her a
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  Speaker 1: boost of confidence that she was searching for. Let's take
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  Speaker 1: a little pause from Mia and Jenny's story for a
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  Speaker 1: second and analyze their situation. According to science, Mia and
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  Speaker 1: Jenny exhibited all of the signs of romantic attraction, even
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  Speaker 1: if they believed it was just friendship. Hopefully, they're able
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  Speaker 1: to show their true feelings soon. Is something similar going
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  Speaker 1: on between you and your crush? We know it's hard
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  Speaker 1: to see the line between love and friendship, so if
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  Speaker 1: you need even more clues, take a look at Eight
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  Speaker 1: Signs You're More Than Just Friends. As for Mia and Jenny,
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  Speaker 1: one day when no one was looking, they shared their
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  Speaker 1: first kiss in that cozy library where it all started.
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  Speaker 1: Their fingers are crossed that you and your crush will
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  Speaker 1: share one as well.