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Am I a Lazy Psychic? | Rethinking Spiritual Practice and What It Really Looks Like 🔮 · The Psychic Explorer

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  Good afternoon wonderful explorers welcome to
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  another episode of the psyche explorer with me
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  Matt Morris. I hope you are well I hope this
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  day whatever day you're listening to this on
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  Finds you well finds you bright finds you beautiful.
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  I am sat on a beach. Well, I'm actually sat behind
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  it's in Sanju because I It felt cool to visit
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  today. I've had the past couple of days off because
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  of a bad back. I think it's an occupational hazard.
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  I've had this a couple of times over the past
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  year or so where my lower back just gives way
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  and I hobble around like an old man. I know I'm
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  in my 40s now, but still I feel I'm a little
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  bit too young to use a stick. Although some of
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  the themes I've had over the past couple of days,
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  I could really have you use a stick to help me
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  get around. And I woke up today and I thought,
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  ooh. I feel so much better. I feel like I can
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  move and walk without, I don't know, my vertebrae
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  reverberating up my back in painful shards. So
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  I thought, I'm going to come to the beach. And
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  I knew I was going to take my recording stuff.
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  And if you can hear the wind in the background,
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  I do apologize. My microphone I plugged in actually
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  makes it sound much worse. So I'm just recording
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  this live on my phone. And I'm hoping the sound
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  quality will be okay. But I was driving here
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  and I was listening to a podcast as I do and
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  I was listening to this guy and he was saying
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  that practice is so important and for him meditating
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  every single day like two or three times a day
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  to pull a card, pull tarot cards or oracle cards
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  regularly is really important to him. He has
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  quite a rigorous set of rituals that he goes
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  through. He was also talking about research and
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  study, and he was saying you must always study,
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  you must always learn more. And as I was driving
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  to this beautiful beach that I am on, driving
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  along country roads, narrow, windy country roads,
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  I thought, I don't do any of this, and the thought
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  struck me. Am I a bad psychic? or just a lazy
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  one. I really want you to help me out on this
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  one. I'd love some feedback. Am I the only one
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  out there who doesn't do any of this sort of
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  stuff, who doesn't do the rituals, who doesn't
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  meditate every single day, who listens to the
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  occasional podcast, but I'm such a bad lazy reader,
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  like I listen to a couple of shows and they're
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  always recommending new books. I love reading,
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  but I really need to be in the mood for it, and
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  I'm very rarely in the mood for it. I find TikTok
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  Live utterly horrendous. For anyone who's just
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  seen the recent story that I put on, I've only
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  just discovered TikTok Live. My word. My word.
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  That's all I can say. Wow. And I'll talk about
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  that in another episode, I think, because that
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  was pretty shocking, the stuff that I saw on
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  there. But podcasts do resonate with me. Well
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  -crafted podcasts do listen. Sorry, not do listen.
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  Sorry, I got distracted there slightly. It's
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  a danger of recording on my phone. I got a text
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  message from Amazon delivery. Sorry, I had to
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  reply to that quickly. Now, what do I mean by
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  lazy? I don't mean that as a criticism. I don't
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  mean that to say that I don't care, that I am
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  not fussed. I'm nonchalant about this. I think
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  the fact that I put these episodes out every
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  two weeks shows that this is a big part of my
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  life. I go to circles regularly. shows I am committed
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  to this, but I have to be honest, I maybe don't
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  put as much effort into this as possible, but
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  then I also need to remember that when I'm living
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  a life, I'm human, and I've said this many a
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  time before, we are here to live lives, we are
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  here to have life -y lives, and we're here to
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  be human, we are human. So what does my practice
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  actually look like? Every Wednesday, I go to
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  Nicola Gigi's circle. She was on episode 12,
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  I believe it was. I thoroughly recommend you
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  go back and listen to episode 12 with Nicola
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  Gigi. She talks about circles, she talks about
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  her development and how, what striking was how
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  everyone's development is different. She found
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  a mentor and she stuck with that mentor for like...
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  I think it was like 10, 15 years before she even
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  stepped into a circle. So every Wednesday I go
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  to her circle. Most Sundays I try and go to Dana
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  Willey's City in the Power meditation. And there's
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  also another online open circle that I try to
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  do at least once a week. I try and get on a few
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  more if I... have a week like I have this week
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  where I've been off ill or I've been off or I'm
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  not working, I've rained off maybe. And that
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  is the higher house circle. That can be found
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  on Facebook. It's a good space to practice because
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  there are people from all over the world there.
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  Apart from that, that's about it. I don't meditate
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  very often. I try and squeeze in a meditation
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  before I go to bed once or twice a week. but
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  I invariably fall asleep and my other half comes
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  to bed, phones me with my headphones on, slack
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  -jawed asleep sitting up on the bed with a bit,
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  maybe a bit of drool coming out of my mouth.
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  There you go, a bit of a mental image for you
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  to try and erase. Do I read? No, not really.
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  I really wish I did. I've got several books on
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  the psychic and mediumship work and spirituality.
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  Do I read them? No, no, I don't. Do I listen
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  to podcasts? Yes, that is something I do. I regularly
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  listen to many podcasts. Apart from that, though,
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  I don't really do much else. You see these online,
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  though, and I listen to people and it... You'd
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  be forgiven for thinking they were constantly
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  plugged in, they were constantly meditating,
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  they were constantly reading, they were constantly
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  practicing. I just don't think it's realistic,
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  if I'm honest. There does seem to be this pressure,
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  and whether this pressure is self -imposed, which
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  I've spoken about many times before, or whether
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  you feel this pressure as well, that... We as
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  practitioners, or yeah, practitioners, straight
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  away I use that word and I pause because I'm
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  not giving people like page readings. I'm not
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  someone who goes out there and does this for
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  a living. Am I a practitioner? Well, yes. Yes,
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  I am. So you, if you are practicing any form
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  of spirituality, then you are a practitioner
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  as well. And I implore you to give yourself that
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  permission to say that. But as I'm listening
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  to this podcast on the way to this speech today,
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  there is a sense of, oh, I'm not good enough.
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  Oh, I'm doing it wrong. Because this person has
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  their podcast and they're telling me that they
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  do it in a certain way. And if I need to improve,
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  if I want to improve, I've got to do it in a
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  certain way. And that's not healthy, is it? It's
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  really not. Forcing you to go... forcing you
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  to practice in a certain way, encouraging you
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  to practice in a certain way, because no one's
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  forcing you to do anything, but encouraging you,
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  framing things in a way that if you don't do
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  this, then X, Y and Z is not going to happen.
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  That's not healthy, that's not good. This needs
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  to be natural. Everyone is different. Everyone
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  practices in a different way. I read people in
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  a different way to how you might read people.
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  Your practice can be very vastly different to
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  mine and that's okay because forcing your practice
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  down a route that is not natural to you is only
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  going to, I suspect, is only going to delay your
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  development, is only going to... make you feel
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  more rigid is going to make you feel uncomfortable.
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  And as uncomfortable as sometimes this work is,
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  especially when you get nose, especially when
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  you feel like you're falling flat on your face,
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  you need to deep down have the confidence to
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  know that you're doing it your way. I came here
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  today. I've been thinking the past couple of
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  days, if I can feel like I can walk around without
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  the need of a stick, then I will come to the
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  beach. And maybe, and this is not something I
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  do regularly, you know, the beach is 20 minutes
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  from my home. I very rarely come here, and if
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  I normally come here in the winter because in
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  the summer it is jam packed full of tourists.
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  so I avoid it like the plague. But I've come
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  here today on this April spring day. Hopefully
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  you can hear the birds in the background singing,
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  the waves in the background crashing against
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  the beach. And I'll post some pictures on my
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  Instagram. But I just woke up this morning, I
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  knew I needed to come here. And I followed that
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  tug. I pulled on that string that was tugging
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  me. I followed it to the beach. And maybe this
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  is my sort of ritual. Maybe this is my ritual.
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  I don't need to burn incense. I don't need to
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  pull a daily card. I don't need to meditate every
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  single day. Because just following my intuition
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  and doing what I feel like I want to do... and
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  I have a free day is a ritual in itself. It's
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  my kind of ritual. I wonder if I'm a slightly
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  lazy because I'm also a massive procrastinator.
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  I'm the world's biggest procrastinator. If a
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  bill needs paying, a credit card, whatever it
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  might be, I will put it off and put it off and
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  put it off and put it off until the very last
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  minute that I have to. And even then, I've been
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  known to still put it off. I spoke to you in
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  my last solo episode about mentorship. As I speak,
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  nothing has happened on that front yet. I've
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  reached out to a couple of people and I've not
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  really chased anything up because of my procrastination.
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  And I sit here and I wonder, well, actually,
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  when does waiting for it to come, when does that
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  procrastination become avoidance? And I have
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  to remind myself that sometimes... The phrase
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  my mum used to use all the time was, you need
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  to be in the driving seat of your own life. You
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  need to get in the driving seat, Matt. I'm guilty
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  of not doing enough of that, that I just wait
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  for it to happen. I need to be more proactive
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  in that. I need to be more active in that. Even
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  the naturally gifted musicians still need to
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  practice. And that's not me saying that I'm an
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  incredible medium or anything like that. That's
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  not... It's just fact that everyone needs to
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  practice. Everyone needs to... You can't just
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  say you're a medium and do it. You need to practice.
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  You need to hone your skill. I need to remind
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  myself I need to do that more often rather than
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  just hoping it's going to happen. I also put
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  things off because of time. You know, I sat there
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  most nights with my other half on the sofa and
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  there is this guilt I feel that if I take myself
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  to go and practice, to go and meditate, to go
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  and do some online circle, I'm neglecting Simon
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  that I'm not spending enough time with him. And
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  if you feel that, trust me, you are not alone.
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  I feel it with you, especially when that other
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  half doesn't get it on the same level as I do.
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  And they're supportive. He wants me to do it.
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  He's happy for me to do it. But at the same time,
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  he doesn't quite get it. And that's fine. That's
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  absolutely fine. But actually... As I lean into
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  that, my dear listener, I think, well, actually,
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  when I do go and practice, when I do go and do
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  this stuff, it's when I really want it, it's
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  when I really need it. And remember my episode
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  about meditation. The meditation doesn't have
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  to be sitting cross -legged on a yoga mat saying
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  om. Meditation can be anything you like. It can
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  be gardening. It can be watching your kids sleep.
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  It can be something that is repetitive. I personally
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  find power washing really necessary. When a client
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  says to me, Matt, can you please jet wash my
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  patio? Yes, absolutely I can. It is the most
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  therapeutic piece of gardening help I can give
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  a client because just something about watching.
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  a jet of water, clean, a grubby, mossy patio
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  slab into something shiny and pretty. Oh, there's
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  something beautiful about it. So meditation doesn't
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  have to be this going upstairs and sitting in
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  the power and doing whatever it can be. Something
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  else, and that something else can be whatever
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  you want it to be, as long as it is calming,
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  it quiets your mind. Maybe that is just watching
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  TV, just switching off, just going off into a
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  La La Land. Maybe that's reading. Maybe that
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  is listening to music for you. I invite you to
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  think about your own version of your practice.
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  Do you feel under pressure to do more? Again,
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  using that phrase that I'm at risk of overusing
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  here. Is it self -imposed guilt that you don't
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  do enough? Do you do too much? There's that spectrum,
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  there is that opposite spectrum. I'd love to
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  know, I'd love to hear what your thoughts are
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  on this. It's only going to be a short one today.
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  I'm going to end this episode with one small
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  commitment, a little low effort experiment for
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  the next few weeks. I'm not trying to become
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  a disciplined spiritual practitioner. at all,
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  I'm just gonna try one tiny thing to see if it
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  changes anything at all. And that thing, oh this
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  is gonna be painful, oh okay, well I'm gonna
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  do it. I'm gonna set my alarm for 15 minutes
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  earlier than normal. So I'm gonna set my alarm
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  for 6 45 a .m. I'm going to get up and I'm going
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  to do a meditation. Five, ten minute meditation
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  every morning until my next solo episode. And
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  I'm going to see if that makes any difference
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  whatsoever. So, my dear listeners, I'm throwing
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  this out to you as well. Is there anything that
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  you feel you need to do more of? Is there anything
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  you feel you need to do less of? Is there anything
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  that you feel guilt? or pressure into not doing
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  enough of. Come back, and I'll tell you if I
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  actually did it. It's all very well saying it,
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  but I've got to do it. So yes, so starting...
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  God, do I do it on the weekends as well or do
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  I just do weekdays? What should I do? I really
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  like a line on the weekends. I'll tell you what,
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  weekends I will find... extra space, an extra
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  slot of time to do a five minute meditation and
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  on the weekdays I will set my alarm for 15 minutes
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  earlier to get up and do a meditation. So are
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  you a lazy psychic? Do you have a practice or
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  do you just wait for things to arrive? Tell me
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  which one are you and Is there something that
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  we can do together? Is there a meditation that
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  we can do daily together? Are there cards that
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  we can pull each day? If there's something we
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  can do together, then I'd love to know. Reach
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  out to me. You can find me at the .psychic .explorer.
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  Instagram, Facebook, threads, and TikTok. Let
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  me know. I'd love to hear your thoughts. I'm
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  gonna draw this episode to a close. The next
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  guest episode is the wonderful Kelsey Anderson.
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  You've heard me talk about her a couple of times.
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  She came on to talk about travel, actually, and
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  this is sort of before I have my... Right, I
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  wanted to do a reset. We recorded it before I
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  have my little reset of just talking about people's
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  journeys. But actually, I think travel and journeys
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  is so relevant that... Her conversation is really
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  lovely. I really enjoyed it. So I'll be going
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  out in two weeks' time, so listen out for that.
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  And I wish you, my dear listener, all the very
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  best at exploring on your path, on your travel.
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  And I'll leave you with the sounds of the Norfolk
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  Coast, sending all my love. Take care, guys.
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  Bye.