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How to Manifest a Provider With Manipulating a Man · Mindful Success Path

• 0:32
  If you wanna manifest not just a provider man, but a healthy provider, masculine man, a man who cherishes you, a man who's devoted to you, a man who's not going to try and control you with money, a man who wants to honor you with his provision, then you're gonna have to learn how to do it without manipulating him.
• 0:51
  Because a lot of the content online about provider men, and how to get a provider man, and how to get a man to pay your bills, a lot of it is just total manipulation, and it doesn't work.
• 1:02
  The only thing that will do is either attract a man who wants to control you, or put you in a position where you constantly have to be performing and you can never feel like yourself, neither of which work for long-term relationships.
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  So in this video, I'm gonna teach you how to manifest a provider man without manipulating him without playing games, without being sneaky, without being the puppeteer or trying to control or manufacture situations.
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  And I'm doing this based on my 15 years of experience coaching women in different areas of their life.
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  I've actually been teaching ethical influence for a very long time.
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  Now I just teach it in relationships rather than business, which is what I used to do.
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  And in addition to that, it's my own transformation story.
• 1:51
  It's my own story how I went from being single for 15 years, following a lot of the advice that was online, but something about it feeling really off, and icky, and weird, to realizing that I didn't have to manipulate in order to get a provider man.
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  I didn't have to do a performance.
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  I did have to understand certain things, but I didn't have to perform, and then in four months, manifesting my protector, provider husband.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda.
• 2:19
  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
• 2:27
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  And finally, if you're new here or if you've been around for a while and you still haven't done this, then make sure to take our free quiz on the divine feminine archetypes.
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  It's three minutes, and it'll let you know which of the archetypes that I teach are most dominant in your life.
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  Because you will oftentimes hear me saying references to things like wounded maiden, awakening warrior, conscious queen, Magnetic Empress.
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  These are the four stages of consciousness, the four divine feminine archetypes, and the four stages of going from false feminine to true feminine that I teach.
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  So if you take that quiz, it'll let you know which archetype is most dominant for you, which stage you're currently in, and it's gonna be really helpful so that you don't get lost when you watch this content So the way that you manifest a provider husband without manipulation is by being honest.
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  Spoiler alert.
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  But we're gonna be talking about what that actually is.
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  We're gonna be talking about how to actually get congruent with your desires, with your thoughts, with your beliefs, and with your actions.
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  Because a lot of what's being taught out here is women saying,"I want a provider man, but I'm going to perform and manipulate to get a specific outcome," which automatically puts you in masculine energy.
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  It's the opposite of feminine embodiment.
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  At that point, you're cosplaying femininity or you're performing femininity, which definitely has its downsides, which I already talked about previously.
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  So let's start going into how we can actually embody true feminine energy, because when you embody true feminine energy, when you go from the false feminine, which is all that manipulation stuff, it's all false feminine, and you start going into the true feminine, m- meaning this is just who you are, this is a part of your new identity, and you're able to stand in that honestly and authentically, then what ends up happening is that you are more likely to attract a healthy provider man.
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  So let's start getting into it.
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  Step number one is you have to define what provision actually is because here's the issue: most women think that provision is just money.
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  Hell, most men think that provision is just money.
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  Is money a part of it?
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  Yes.
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  Is being able to, at the very least, handle all the survival costs a part of it?
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  Yes.
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  Because there is a reality here, and the reality here is you're the one who can get pregnant, right?
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  So you wanna make sure that you can actually get with someone who can support you so that you have the option to stay home with your babies if you want to.
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  But even if you don't want kids, right, even if kids are not, um, in your, your desire list- I mean, number one, you never really know what's going to happen, but number two, that feminine energy comes online in different ways.
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  That feminine energy can come online in terms of, wow, I'm rested and relaxed, and now I have all these really great ideas, and these really great ideas make money, or these really great ideas contribute in some way, shape, or form.
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  Or, you know, here's a concept: how about just not living life exhausted all the time?
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  So even if you don't want kids, it's still really important for you to have a provider man because that's where a lot of your feminine gifts can actually come online.
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  And those feminine gifts are not just helpful for you, uh, they're also very helpful for him.
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  And once a man understands that, oh, my gosh, he, he will provide for you for the rest of his life.
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  I will do another video on that, so make sure to subscribe.
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  But the main thing that I wanna get across here is that you have to define what provision actually is.
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  Money is a tiny piece of provision.
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  It's tiny.
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  And a lot of women who use manipulation, uh, in order to get a man to pay all her bills, or pay for her nails, and my husband used to deal, uh, with women like this, and obviously, he didn't marry any of them.
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  Uh, those women don't understand the true, um, scope of provision, right?
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  Provision is also solving problems for you.
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  I'll give an example from this YouTube channel.
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  Um, I had an idea to create the quiz.
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  My husband built all the technology for the quiz to make my life easier.
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  Um, my husband does a lot of the CEO-ing, to put it that way, because I hate it Right?
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  I'm the creative person.
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  Uh, I love doing content.
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  I love doing videos.
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  I love doing...
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  You know, talking to you guys, and doing live streams, and the retreats, and the classes.
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  That's what I love.
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  Anything outside of that, I don't really enjoy.
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  So my husband, in his provision, uh, who also happens to be really good at business...
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  Don't...
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  You know, don't do this with a man who has not proven that he's also really good at business.
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  My husband has proven that he's really good at business.
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  He had plenty of businesses before he even met me, so I knew he was competent and had the skill set for this.
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  He handles a lot of the CEO-ing, um, to put it that way, because it's, it's such a drain for me.
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  It's such a drain.
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  That is a form of provision.
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  Uh, provision is also protection.
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  Um, it's making sure that you're safe.
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  It's making sure that you're taken care of, which, by the way, uh, to the men and women who are listening to this, p- particularly the men, a lot of you talk a lot about protection, protection.
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  Well, protection, well, guess what?
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  Providing for her and paying for the, at least the survival bills, yeah, that's a form of protection as well.
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  So it's really important for you to define provision.
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  It's really important for you to know what it means to you, it's really important for you to not just stay in this very myopic, definition which only accounts for finances.
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  It's also so much more than just finances.
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  And when you only focus on the myopic thing, which is finances, um, it actually puts you in a position where you need to be rescued.
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  So a lot of women will come to this YouTube channel and they're tired, okay?
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  They're tired of working, they're exhausted, um, they're burnt out, their adrenals are, are shot.
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  Like, I understand, okay?
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  I lived there for a long time.
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  And a lot of them are like,"Oh, my God, can't a man just like swoop me up and marry me and retire me and pay my bills?" Because they're only focused on the bills.
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  They're only focused on the money.
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  And what that does is that actually puts you in a position of needing to be rescued, which would actually put you in the wounded maiden archetype when it comes to relationships.
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  And when you put yourself in a position of needing to be rescued, um, your filters for choosing good men and your vetting process can get very skewed because it's being based on your emotions And wanting to be rescued and wanting to be saved and wanting the Prince Charming.
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  And you will excuse a lot of red flags, when you are in that kind of a, of a position.
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  Or it will skew your vetting process.
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  It will skew your filters, and then you might end up choosing a man that, you're gonna regret later.
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  So again, define provision.
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  Properly define provision.
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  Money is a small portion of provision.
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  It's much bigger.
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  And when you realize that provision is much bigger, then you are able to choose men with good character as well.
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  Because if you're only focused on money, um, and manipulating men in order to get their money and extract resources from them, well, number one, you're literally a prostitute.
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  But number two, um, again, your filters are off, okay?
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  Your filters are off.
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  Or you have to perform for the rest of your life, which is exhausting, or it puts you in a position to be rescued.
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  All of it is false feminine, and when you are in false feminine, you don't tend to end up in healthy relationships.
• 10:52
  The other way that you can attract a provider without manipulating him is to vet for values So for example, my husband knew that I wanted a provider before we were even dating.
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  We were friends first.
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  Um, and he knew that.
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  He knew I wanted to get married before we were even dating.
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  So when my husband and I got together, um, we already knew that it was a fit for values.
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  And what a, a lot of times what's happening is a lot of women are going into the dating scene, they don't even know what their values are, right?
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  They're like,"I want a provider man, because I just want a guy to retire me and pay all my bills." Again, they don't understand what provision is, like the full scope of provision, they don't understand.
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  It's a very myopic view.
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  But the other thing that ends up happening here is that you don't even understand the values behind wanting provision.
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  So for example, my husband and I value a relationship that wants polarity.
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  My husband and I, um, value a relationship where we stay attracted to each other long term.
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  I value a relationship where the man gets to be more of the leader in a lot of situations, and the problem solver, and the protector, uh, and the provider so that I can rest more in my feminine because I understand that when I rest more in my feminine, a lot more of my creative gifts come online, my intuitive gifts come online.
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  And like I said, my husband and I both value a relationship that has polarity.
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  And a relationship with polarity, meaning what attracts two people together In, in heterosexual couples usually works best when the man is in the masculine pole and he's holding that, and the woman is in the feminine pole and she's holding that.
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  So it wasn't just,"Oh, I want a provider man because I want him to pay my bills and retire me and I'm entitled." It was,"I value having a relationship that's polarized.
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  I value having a relationship that's going to remain juicy for a very long time, and this is what's behind that.
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  This is the type of model, or this is the type of, um, relationship that lends itself to attraction for long periods of time." So notice how it wasn't just,"I want him to pay my bills to rescue me." It was,"I want him to be the provider because I already know that I value a relationship that maintains that long-term attraction.
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  And I already know based on research and psychology and biology and all kinds of things that a relationship where the man is the provider lends itself to healthier relationship dynamics for longer periods of time." So it wasn't just because I wanted a man to pay my bills.
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  It's because I was, I was getting married for the long term.
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  I was getting in a relationship for the long haul, and I already understood some of the concepts that, uh, made that possible.
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  Or a, for example, a value system was, for example, If we ever decided to have children or it happens, then I wanted the option to stay home.
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  I wanted the option to be able to stay home with the kids and not have to work.
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  So my husband and I were on the same page about that.
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  So a lotta times what you have to learn how to do is you have to learn what your values actually are, and you h- when you're out here on the dating scene, if you're learning how to filter for values and character, you don't have to manipulate anybody because it's either a match or it's not.
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  It's that simple.
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  There's no manipulation required The other thing that you'll wanna learn how to do is heal the fear of receiving so a lot of women say that they wanna provide her husband, but they're really horrible at receiving.
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  They're horrible at receiving support.
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  They're horrible at receiving compliments.
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  They're horrible at letting other people solve problems for them, and there's lots of reasons for this, and I'll go into it a little bit more in my next point what one of those reasons are.
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  But in order for a man to want to provide for you, there needs to be space for him to actually provide and a lot of you are living lives where there is no space for a man to provide.
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  So for example, I just did a video on why the strong independent woman struggles in relationships.
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  Well, the strong independent woman struggles in relationships because there's no space for a man, a healthy man, to give to her.
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  And a lot of times we have a lot of wonky feelings around receiving.
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  So sometimes we've been taught that if we receive from other people, it makes us weak.
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  Or we've been taught that we're indebted to the other person.
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  Or the strong independent women, they feel like, um, oh my gosh, there's like an imbalance of power.
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  I have to get the power back to 50/50.
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  And she doesn't realize that feminine power is different than masculine power.
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  It doesn't mean that they're not equal, they're just different in the way that they are expressed.
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  They're both extremely powerful, but the way in which it's, it's expressed is different.
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  Most women don't know that.
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  Uh, so then they, what happens is, for example, a man wants to give to her and she's like,"No, I gotta restore the power balance." And it's like, okay.
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  Sure.
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  Go ahead.
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  Be exhausted for the rest of your life A lot of women also fear judgment.
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  So for example, I come from a family of awakening warriors, strong, independent women.
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  And I do get judged for this.
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  I do get judged sometimes for being in a relationship where my husband is the provider, uh, and I get to have fun.
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  Right?
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  I get to do stuff like this.
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  I get to be a homemaker.
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  Um, I get to have hobbies.
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  I get to, um, spiritually nourish myself a lot more than I did before when I was, you know, hyper-independent and trying to prove myself, and not letting anybody support me or help me because I'm capable and competent, and I get to achieve.
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  You know what I mean?
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  So what happens is like, yeah, there's judgment that comes with that.
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  I get judgment on this YouTube channel.
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  I get passive men, who tell me that I'm teaching women how to manipulate men.
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  I get women who get upset because they tell me that I'm having women go backwards, I have men who get upset because I teach women how to have boundaries and standards.
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  God forbid, right?
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  Obviously, these are not men that you should be dating, and these are not men with good character, because they were planning on manipulating you.
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  I get judged for this stuff all the freaking time, and a lot of people are afraid of judgment.
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  A lot of people are afraid that, you know, if they say,"I want a provider," that they're gonna be judged for it.
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  So what we have to do is we have to learn how to heal those fears that we have around receiving and being provided for because when we heal those fears around receiving and being provided for...
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  And I'll do another video on why it's so important for women to have a provider man, to go deeper into this specific subject, so make sure to subscribe,'cause I just don't have time in this video right now.
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  We just have to heal that, right?
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  So for example, I don't give a shit if you agree with me or not.
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  I'm not here trying to prove a point.
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  I'm just saying this is what works for me.
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  This is what's been shown to work over time.
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  This is what I choose.
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  Here's my opinion based on my professional experience and my own transformation.
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  Take it or leave it, right?
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  It's that simple.
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  Um, and actually, once I healed that judgment, um, it didn't just open up my husband being able to provide for me, um, it also opened up new career opportunities, new creative things.
• 18:06
  I mean, it, it's very liberating once you heal the fear of being judged for wanting a provider man.
• 18:12
  The next piece is you wanna learn how to communicate without controlling and I'll give a couple of examples of what that looks like, so communication is really important, and when a woman learns how to communicate in a feminine way, at first glance, it looks like it's manipulation, right?
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  Because it's so different from how we communicate at work or how we communicate with our kids.
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  The way that we communicate in our personal relationships is just a different skill set.
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  So if we look at polarity in relationships, one of the ways in which men fall in love with women is when a woman is able to communicate in a feminine way.
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  What does that mean?
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  That basically means that you are in touch with your feelings, you're honest about your feelings And you know how to communicate those feelings in a healthy way where you understand, okay, well this is just going to land for a man because a man is different than me.
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  It just is what it is.
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  It's like, for example, right?
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  Let's say that I was teaching sales,'cause I used to teach sales for a really long time.
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  One thing that was helpful in sales is understanding people's different personality types.
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  So for example, you may have analytical people.
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  You may have people who are more like drivers and like to move really fast.
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  You have people who might be a bit more grounded.
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  You have people who really like, um, influence and stories and what the dream is, like there's different personality types for how people make decisions okay, well what the hell makes you think that men and women, operate the same way?
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  We're so different in so many different ways.
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  So I oftentimes tell women, you know, the same way that you had to learn how to communicate for work, you have to learn how to communicate in relationships, and the two are not the same.
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  They're two completely different skillsets.
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  The way that you communicate with a man that you are in relationship with, that you are in a romantic relationship with, is not going to be the same skillset that you use to communicate with a male colleague.
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  It is not the same.
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  So you have to learn feminine communication because when you learn feminine communication, yes, your man is going to feel more bonded to you.
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  Yes, your man is going to want to provide for you.
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  But feminine communication is not based on control so let me get into the difference.
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  Let's say for example a lot of women have asked me, right?
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  A lot of women have been like,"Well how do I get my husband to do what, um, I want him to do?" By inspiring him by thanking him when he does a good job now, by appreciating him now by learning how to express your feelings about something in a healthy way.
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  So I'll give this example.
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  I had told my husband, I think it was like a year ago, I said something along the lines of like,"You know what?
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  I would really love to have, um, a place to call our own," right?
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  Um, we've been living in different countries because of my husband's business and I was like,"I'd really like to have a place to call our own that I can just design the way that I want to.
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  That would feel really good to me, right?
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  I, I would love to make a house a home." Because it's the truth, right?
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  I'm not saying that to try and get him to buy a house.
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  I'm saying it because that's how I feel and that's the truth, and that happens to be feminine communication.
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  So what did my husband do?
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  Well, he's literally downstairs at his office right now, with some developers that he partnered with on a project and those developers offered him a plot of land for him to build our own house, to be able to build it here in Mexico.
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  So he's already on it Now, what a controlling woman does and control is the actual manipulation is one of two things.
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  She will speak to him from a place of logic, which is not going to land with a man that you are in a romantic partnership with, because, He doesn't wanna feel like he's arguing with another man, when he's in his romantic partnership.
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  So what that sounds like oftentimes is a lot of women might go to him and she might say,"Why don't you make more money?
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  Why haven't you bought a house for us yet?
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  Why don't we have land?" You know,"Why don't you...
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  why...
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  how about I brush up your resume and we send out some, some resumes out so you can get a job where you make more money?" That's controlling, and that's actually very manipulative.
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  Just expressing your feeling and your desire on you wanting a home, that's just you being honest about how you feel, and it just happens to get the result that you want, which is he's going to step up to try and start solving the problem.
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  That's the difference, right?
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  When you go into control, that's when you're actually trying to manipulate and puppeteer a situation.
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  When you just express your desires and how you actually feel and you do it in a healthy way, you're just being authentic, and it just so happens that a healthy masculine man that you are in partnership with is going to move heaven and earth to get that for you And the final thing you wanna learn is having mutual respect around money so remember how I said that I get judged a lot for saying that I have a provider husband and women should, should have providers?
• 24:04
  Well, one of the judgments that I get is from women being like,"Oh, well, that's just how men are going to control you," right?
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  Or,"How dare you put women in that kind of a situation?" Little do they know, right, that I also run a business, and that I also know how to make money, and that I also have high-value skillsets, and that I do that in my spare time when I feel like it right?
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  Because...
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  Not because I have to pay bills, but because it's fun for me, and it happens to make money, and all of my money goes into savings and investments, all of it, right?
• 24:36
  So while a lot of you are fighting to pay half the bills, right?
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  And they're like,"Let me work, and let me go pay half the bills," the, the women who judge me, um, I still make money, and I get to keep my money right?
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  While, while you give half your money away.
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  And I still have influence, and I still have power.
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  I just understand that my power as a woman is different than a man's power and this is where we get into having mutual respect and understanding.
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  My husband and I have a mutual respect and understanding for each of our gifts, and each of our superpowers, and each of our roles.
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  And also each of our differences.
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  We have a healthy respect for each other.
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  We also have a healthy respect for each other when it comes to money.
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  So wanting a provider man doesn't make you a gold digger, just like a man providing for you doesn't automatically mean that he gets to control every aspect of your life.
• 25:32
  A healthy man would never wanna do that anyway because a healthy man wants to make your life easier, not harder So even if he's a provider, and you're being provided for, the relationship still requires open communication.
• 25:44
  It still requires an adult partnership.
• 25:47
  So I've oftentimes said this: I make my own money, and I get to keep all of it, and my husband loves that, right?
• 25:54
  In addition to that, the other thing that happens is my husband and I meet every Sunday after coffee, and we look at the accounts, and we're like,"What happened this week?
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  What didn't happen this week?
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  Where did money come from?
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  How are we doing with savings?
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  How are we doing with investments?
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  How are we doing with debt repayment?" When it comes to this conversation about being provided for, everyone wants to throw the baby out with the bath water right away, and they're like,"Well, a man's going to control you, and you're gonna have no idea what's going on with the money." An unhealthy man is going to do that.
• 26:23
  If you have mutual respect in the partnership, you're gonna know damn well what is going on with the money, and he's going to let you know what is going on with the money, and you're going to meet about the money.
• 26:36
  You are not left in the dark when you have a mutual healthy partnership.
• 26:41
  It's just that when someone hears,"I want a provider man," or,"I desire a provider man," then again, they throw the baby out with the bath water.
• 26:50
  So you have immature women who don't understand these things saying things like,"Well, he's just going to control you and leave you in the dark and abuse you." And then you have immature men saying things like,"Oh, well, she's just gonna be a gold digger, divorce me, and take half my money." These are immature people.
• 27:05
  These are immature, belief systems that people have because once you enter a partnership, and this is assuming that you entered a partnership based on values and character, which is what I talked about previously in this video, uh, you have mutual respect for each other, and you are making decisions mutually, and you are aware of what is going on, and you have a respect for each other's strengths.
• 27:31
  You have a respect for each other's differences, and you actually learn how to work together.
• 27:36
  It does not pit you against each other.
• 27:39
  You actually learn how to work together.
• 27:41
  Most women who are out here asking to be provided for are doing it from a place of entitlement.
• 27:46
  I agree with the men on that point,'cause they don't understand provision.
• 27:49
  They don't understand how to be an adult when it comes to money, and most men out here who are yelling about, um, wanting to go 50/50 because women are going to take all their money, most of those men don't have money, right?
• 28:02
  I'm just, I'm just being honest.
• 28:04
  Like, there's nothing to take, um, in that regard, and they too don't understand provision.
• 28:10
  They don't understand provision from an energetic standpoint.
• 28:13
  They don't understand provision and how it affects the attraction in a relationship.
• 28:17
  Most, most of those men just...
• 28:20
  a lot of them don't even like women, if we're being honest.
• 28:24
  So I hope that this gave you a bit more clarity.
• 28:27
  Really ultimately at the end of the day, it's just about knowing what your values are, knowing what your desires are, and being honest about it.
• 28:36
  And in addition to that, being mature enough to be able to have a mutual respect for each other in a relationship.
• 28:43
  When you learn how to do that, you don't have to manipulate a man to be a provider.
• 28:47
  It's not necessary at all.
• 28:49
  You don't have to play games.
• 28:51
  You don't have to do it, right?
• 28:53
  You're just being honest about what it is that you desire and what you value, and you're making your decisions accordingly.
• 28:59
  You're just finding a value match.
• 29:01
  That's it.
• 29:01
  It's pretty simple.
• 29:02
  It's not that complicated.
• 29:03
  You're just learning how to communicate your desires and your feelings and your values honestly, and then it's either a match or it's not.
• 29:10
  It's not any more complicated than that.
• 29:12
  It's actually pretty simple.
• 29:14
  The hard part is allowing ourselves to have our desires.
• 29:17
  The hard part is dealing with the feelings of fear that come with our desires.
• 29:22
  And the hard part is determining what it is that you even value to begin with.
• 29:26
  Those are the hard parts.
• 29:27
  But once you've got that figured out, it's literally just finding a match, and someone's either a match or they're not, and you don't have to play games and And it's actually quite simple.
• 29:36
  So I hope that you found this video helpful.
• 29:39
  If you did, please give it a thumbs up and share it with a girlfriend.
• 29:42
  And also make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell.
• 29:45
  All of our resources on relationship, classes, money, all the stuff that y'all been asking me for, you can find it in the description.
• 29:52
  Thank you so much for giving me your time today, and I'll catch you on the next one.