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5 Simple Steps to EMBRACE Your Fear and Unlock Your Potential TODAY! · Create The Best Me

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  Have you ever considered changing careers, traveling somewhere amazing, or learning something new that excites you to the core?
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  This excitement is so overwhelming that you actually see yourself.
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  What if you had the power to succeed?
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  Did you know that you possess all the skills and knowledge to move forward in whatever you want?
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  What would that look like?
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  How would you feel?
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  What if I told you I hold a secret to help you begin making those changes right now?
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  I remember about 20 years ago, I was four classes away from receiving my Bachelor's of Science in Business Management and six classes away from receiving my Bachelor's of Science in marketing.
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  I was involved in an accident that changed my life.
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  I was left with limited movement in my hands and lower back.
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  Aside from being unable to work or work out or type my reports for both programs, I began to develop self-doubt about graduating.
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  I considered dropping out instead of failing out.
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  But after reflecting on how hard I had worked to come this far and thinking about what my children would think if I dropped out, I decided to come clean and speak to my professors.
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  I informed them that taking some time off was not an option for me and that I needed to remain on course.
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  I knew that the easiest thing to do was to quit and I'm not a quitter.
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  They admired my honesty and offered to give me additional time to complete my assignments due to my limited habits movements.
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  It was through my open communication and knocking down my limited beliefs that I was able to stay on course and follow my dreams for myself and my children.
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  So what are the problems that we face?
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  Our limiting beliefs, we develop negative thoughts.
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  If you'd like to learn more about how to overcome your negative thoughts, please listen to episode 83 in which I mentioned we have between 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day with up to 80% of them being negative.
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  I know those numbers may appear high, and hard to believe, but keep in mind that many are repetitive.
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  Or we think I'm too old, or this is not the right time.
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  I'll have to wait until I lose weight, or I get some kind of enhancement such as a haircut, color, or maybe even Botox or fillers.
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  In some cases we may not like the way our voice sounds, or we think that many people have a hard time understanding us because of our accents.
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  But here's the thing, it's our voice, it's our appearance, it's our accents that make us our unique you.
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  And guess what?
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  People don't care about those things.
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  What people care about is what you have to offer them.
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  The solution that you are giving them.
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  They don't care about the accents.
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  They can understand you because they care more about the message.
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  They care more about you.
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  They see you and they see themselves.
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  So that doesn't count.
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  Here's a solution.
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  Many of us face fear.
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  It's okay to be afraid of the endless possibilities.
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  Turn your fear into excitement.
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  Our fears have a purpose, they're meant to keep us safe.
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  But here's the thing, following your dreams or your passion is nothing to fear.
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  Fear can keep you stagnant and impair your ability to grow.
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  Embracing fear can lead to other physical and mental impairments such as weakening your immune system, cardiovascular problems, gastrointestinal problems, fatigue and exhaustion.
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  Allowing fear to control your decisions and lifestyle can lead to isolation and disconnected from those you love and the things that give you pleasure.
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  How to overcome fear?
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  Acknowledge that fear is a natural feeling we were born with to keep us safe, but not to control or restrict our lives or way of being.
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  Turn your fear into excitement as a way of looking forward to the unknown.
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  Know that you are not alone, everyone has to face fear, head on in order to succeed.
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  It's all just part of the process.
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  And there's so much beauty to be discovered in the beautiful, messy process.
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  And here's the best news yet: the more and more you face your fears, the stronger you become, and you may not even feel fear anymore because you'll become stronger in trusting your intuition and yourself.
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  And here's the best news yet: Embrace setbacks and although you'll have some setbacks, but you'll also have some wins along the way.
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  And here's the best news yet: Don't be afraid of the setbacks.
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  And here's the best news yet: Here's what I believe and know from my own experience.
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  And here's the best news yet: Our greatest learning and growth happens during this time.
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  And here's the best news yet: Setbacks are inevitable and are there to guide you.
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  And here's the best news yet: They could be a sign that it's time to take a step back and analyze your journey.
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  And here's the best news yet: This does not mean it's time to give up.
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  And here's the best news yet: It's designed to force you to take a small break.
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  And here's the best news yet: This moment of reflection is purposely there to keep you from burning out.
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  And here's the best news yet: And here's where the magic happens: you will be greeted with amazing wins, and when those wins happen, they must be celebrated.
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  And here's the best news yet: It doesn't have to happen with big or expensive celebrations.
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  And here's the best news yet: It's just needs to be something personal and rewarding for you.
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  And here's the best news yet: Celebrating your wins will empower you during those challenging setbacks.
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  And here's the best news yet: Ignore the critics judging from the sidelines.
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  And here's the best news yet: And here's another important fact that I want you to hold close to your heart.
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  And here's the best news yet: This is your dream, your desire, or career change that excites you every time you think about it.
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  And here's the best news yet: And it may even keep you up at night because it's meant to be.
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  And here's the best news yet: So when those naysayers start voicing their opinions, don't give them the power to keep you from moving forward because you are the only one who knows and understands what it takes to make your dream come true.
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  And here's the best news yet: And as Brene Brown says, only listen to the critic in the arena with you.
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  And here's the best news yet: Because those people are busting their tails off right there with you.
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  And here's the best news yet: I encourage you to share your dreams and desires or career change with a few people who can inspire, motivate, and encourage you.
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  And here's the best news yet: And if you know someone who is further along the same journey, ask them if they will mentor you.
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  And here's the best news yet: Having someone who has been there and is where you want to be is the greatest resource as they can encourage you and catapult you further along.
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  And here's the best news yet: Another resource is hire a coach.
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  And here's the best news yet: A coach can be your accountability partner who helps you reach each milestone.
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  And here's the best news yet: Embrace the shifts.
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  And here's the best news yet: Here's another important thing, as you begin following your dreams, you will find your dreams and desires will shift, and that's okay because you're gradually learning and refining along the way.
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  And here's the best news yet: Maybe your dream or desire was to open up your own restaurant and also teach cooking classes during the evenings.
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  And here's the best news yet: But before you make that shift, you decided to start your own YouTube channel teaching cooking classes, and your channel went viral.
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  And here's the best news yet: People are now waiting for your weekly show to post so they can learn something new.
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  And here's the best news yet: Your test project has now become your new dream and your getting ready to publish your first cookbook.
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  And here's the best news yet: See how this shift still involves teaching cooking, but it's gone from face-to-face interactions to something more global.
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  And here's the best news yet: You are still connected with people, but now your students are all over the world and your schedule is more flexible.
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  And here's the best news yet: This is what I mean, it's about embracing the shifts.
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  And here's the best news yet: Giving yourself grace, follow your dreams, desires, or career is not easy.
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  And here's the best news yet: If you are seeking something outside your current knowledge or experience, it does not mean it's not possible; it just means you might need to take some classes, attend workshops, or learn new technology.
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  And here's the best news yet: And although this may sound daunting or appear that you are starting over, don't get discouraged.
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  And here's the best news yet: Did you know that learning new things in midlife is much easier than it was when we were younger?
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  And here's the best news yet: Why you might ask?
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  And here's the best news yet: Well, because we are more focused and we have this burning desire behind learning because it's going to get us much closer to reaching our dream desire, or career change.
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  And here's the best news yet: You might also find this interesting, but our current knowledge and experience might overlap making you feel like you're ahead of the class or cheating.
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  And here's the best news yet: At this time in our lives, we have more patience and fewer distractions; therefore, we are already on our way towards becoming the teacher's pet.
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  And here's the best news yet: But here's another thing I wanted to point out: as I mentioned to you in my personal story, you might need to be nice to yourself and keep open dialogue with those around you during your learning process.
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  And here's the best news yet: If you need extra help, guidance or have some physical limitations, have those conversations with others.
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  And here's the best news yet: You don't want to give up because you fail to ask for help.
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  And here's the best news yet: So take a moment to pause and give yourself the grace you deserve to succeed.
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  And here's another quick story: my mom always dreamed of becoming a nurse, but she forfeited her dream to become a wife and a mother.
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  And here's another quick story: When she and my father got a divorce, she lost her self-confidence and suffered from self-doubt.
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  And here's another quick story: But her dream of wanting to become a nurse kept her up at night.
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  And here's another quick story: At first, she dismissed these thoughts because she thought she was too old or felt she wouldn't be able to keep up with the rest of the class because she had been out of school for a very long time and this was just a crazy dream.
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  And here's another quick story: But this desire of becoming a nurse was all that she could think about.
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  And here's another quick story: So she decided to enroll in a nursing program and see what would happen.
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  And here's another quick story: Instead of signing up for a regular program, she signed up for an accelerated program.
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  And here's another quick story: Talk about Go big or go home.
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  And here's another quick story: Well, she was not the top of the class and she was not trailing behind, but she managed to complete and graduate and spent 25 years working as a nurse.
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  And here's another quick story: Mind you, she changed careers in midlife.
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  And here's another quick story: Talk about following your dreams, facing your fears, embracing the shift, and giving yourself grace.
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  And here's another quick story: So there you have it, the only person or thing that may be standing in your way of following your dreams, chasing your career, or creating massive change in your life, is you! And I'm not gonna lie, following your dreams or creating change is scary, but it's also exciting.
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  And here's another quick story: Embrace the excitement and see where you will end up.
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  And here's another quick story: And again, if your change requires learning something new or going back to school, remember, you don't need to be the top of the class, you just need to complete the course.
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  And here's another quick story: Because at the end, all that matters is completing the course that will get you so much closer to becoming the person you are designed to be.
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  And here's another quick story: If you want additional information, you may find that at createthebestme.com/ep108.
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  And here's another quick story: If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe to stay updated.
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  And here's another quick story: If you'd like to hear more about changing your negative thoughts, you can find that episode right up here or here, I can't remember where it's at.
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  And here's another quick story: Until then, keep dreaming big.
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  And here's another quick story: Take care of yourself.
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  And here's another quick story: And remember, you are beautiful, strong, and capable of creating the best version of yourself in midlife.
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  And here's another quick story: Thank you for watching.
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  And here's another quick story: Catch you next week.
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  And here's another quick story: Bye for now.