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Do you REALLY want to feel good? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I have a question for you.
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  I would like to know, do you really want to feel good and be
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  happy? I mean pause and think about
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  that for a second. Do you really want that?
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  I mean, is that part of what your focus is for yourself every
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  day? Do you consciously think about
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  the fact that you are incorporating things into your
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  life that make you feel good and happy?
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  I think most people don't think about this question, and that's
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  why I'm asking you this. I think we expect it.
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  You know, I believe that most of us listen to this because we
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  want to create something for ourselves inside of ourselves
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  that are driving us in a direction of happiness, at least
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  I know for me that's why I do all the reading listening
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  studying that I do because I'm always looking for more ways
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  that I can incorporate into feeling, you know, better and
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  no. About myself and be able to
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  progress in my life. But when we come right down to
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  it, I mean, I know myself. I never understood what my rules
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  around, feeling good, and being happy were, and I was just
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  living blindly the rules that other people had.
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  I guess passed on. If you will or incorporated into
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  me at a young age of what, feeling good and being happy
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  was, but no one ever sat down and discussed with me.
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  What that was. And when you start to think
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  about, gosh, I'm I'm not happy. You really start to dig into the
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  parts of yourself that you need to in order to figure this out.
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  And that's I think the essence of what I do with my clients all
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  the time is, we're constantly talking about, is this something
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  that you really want is this going to make you feel good?
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  Is this going to make you happy? And ultimately let me be very
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  clear about this. Happy as a choice you can choose
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  to be happy no matter what. Going on, you can choose to be
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  happy and this is not something that I'm making up.
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  This is a theory. You can absolutely read about
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  all over the place. Happiness is a choice.
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  All emotions are a choice and you can choose to be happy no
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  matter what is happening to you. There are people who have gone
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  through atrocities that we will never.
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  Imagine there are people right now going through atrocities
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  that we cannot imagine and they will sit there and tell you how
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  grateful they are. That they have had the science
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  because of what it's given to them.
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  They will tell you, they're still happy inside.
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  They're always going to be a happy person.
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  It's not about what's happening outside of you.
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  It's about what's happening inside of you.
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  Everything is an inside game. You've heard me say that before
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  and I can't stress that enough. This is definitely an inside
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  game so where this becomes so critically important is
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  recognizing that the first step in this is do I really want that
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  and Might say, well, why are you asking that question?
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  That's ridiculous. Of course.
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  I want it. Well, you'd be surprised because
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  part of our identity, as humans is our story and what we tell
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  ourselves. And when we are telling a story
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  about our past or things, terrible, things that have
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  happened to us. They go from just stories to
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  becoming identities, and that's who we are.
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  And when you still have emotional attachment to those,
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  you're starting to create a knot.
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  A strong identity, that's very hard to get rid of, and then it
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  just becomes your story, it because it becomes who you are
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  becomes the identity of everything inside of you.
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  And the story goes from just being a passive story about
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  something that happened to. No, this is my story.
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  This is who I am. Can you see the difference?
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  And when something becomes Who You Are, It defines you and you
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  let it Define you because there are so many aspects of us that
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  we don't have to let Define us, we decide who we are.
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  We decide what what we want to be and how we want to show up in
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  this world. The essence of this conversation
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  is to get you to go back to. Well, wait a minute.
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  Do I really want to feel good and do I really want to be
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  happy? Yes, I do.
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  Okay, then if that's the case, You genuinely mean that then you
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  have to look at what you're telling yourself every day about
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  your identity and your stories so that you stop telling them.
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  So let me give you a great example.
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  So it's not just some, you know, ethereal conversation, we're
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  having here, let's say you work for somebody and you like what
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  you do but you don't like the environment in which you do it
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  because maybe you don't like the people that work there maybe you
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  are asked or Tasked with doing things that you don't like to do
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  as part of it. It's there's just something
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  about the job that you're doing. That doesn't fulfill you
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  irritates you in general though you don't feel good about going
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  to work now if you stop and you pause Can you see that?
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  That moment that you say I don't want to go to work I don't like
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  being there. I don't like being there.
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  Every time you tell yourself that you're disempowering
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  yourself because it's a focus and an intent before you even
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  get there before, you even walk in the door, you're having an
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  issue with going, you're having an issue with being there and
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  ultimately, you know, I could sit here and say to you, we all
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  have choices, you could get a different job.
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  You don't have to go. That is true.
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  You might say, well, I can't it's for this reason, this
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  reason, and this reason, whatever the reasons are okay,
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  great. But ultimately, when you are in
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  that space, when you are in that environment, nobody can crawl
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  into your head and make you feel something that you don't want to
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  feel. So if your day starts off with
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  you, I am going to put myself into a great state.
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  I'm going to stay focused. I'm going to drive my bus.
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  I'm going to have my Optimism drive my bus, I'm going to have
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  my focus drive my bus, and I'm going to get in there.
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  And I'm going to have just a kick-ass day where I control my
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  thoughts all day long and no one else controls them and greatness
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  goodness, happiness. All of that is present and
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  accounted for in driving at the end of the day, everything
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  shifts because you went in there and you didn't allow others to
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  affect you, or as I like Like to say infect you with their
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  poison. And this comes back to that
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  fundamental beginning of the day, when you said I choose
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  happiness, I choose to have a good day.
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  I choose to have this, Be My outcome or this and see it.
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  As if there is nothing that's going to get in your way, no one
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  is going to throw you off because nobody has that power
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  unless you give them that power. So, I want you to this is and
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  this is not something that's a quick thing.
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  Let me tell you. This is work.
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  So as and we will talk about this in multiple ways because
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  this is one of the most difficult things to do.
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  So don't beat yourself up when you fail at it, 20 minutes into
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  it. Because trust me, it's hard, but
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  when you start off the day, the right way, with the practice
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  that says today, I choose happiness, the I promise you,
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  you will feel so much better. So get going work on it and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.
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  Bye.