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Judge Less, Stop the Movie in Your Mind · Lavender Mind

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  Hey Welcome to Lavender Mine podcast,
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  a podcast to help anyone remember
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  how to live only in this moment.
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  Because, you know what? It's the only 1
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  we have.
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  Hey. Welcome to Lavender Mine. I'm your host
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  Katie Bo blanc. If you're new here, welcome
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  to the show And if you've been here
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  before, welcome back. As always, it helps my
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  show to grow if you leave a review,
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  press that check above or share with a
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  friend.
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  I don't know about you, but I'm human,
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  and I do some stupid things.
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  When I allow my thoughts to replay that
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  movie in my mind, it can be so
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  painful.
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  I used to spend so much time in
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  energy replaying these movies.
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  Aside from the popcorn, it really wasn't that
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  much fun. It made me so anxious and
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  it gave me a lot of self doubt.
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  Basically, constant worry was just where I stayed.
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  Similar to the episode, that I shared about
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  my husband with anxiety. I was living in
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  a state of worry constantly.
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  I was the worry queen, and
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  I never made
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  t shirts, but I did design them in
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  my head. That was like the commercial in
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  between all the worrying movies.
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  They had titles like this. It was like,
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  Oh, I should have done this. I should
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  have done that. I could have done this.
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  Now I have new titles, and I have
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  stopped, shitting all over myself, excuse the pun,
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  and
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  I have movies that are like, move on
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  little mama, and
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  You've got new fish to fry right here
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  right now on this moment.
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  Just
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  live in the moment.
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  Move on.
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  These new titles have allowed me to just
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  breathe and judge myself and others much less.
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  It is a lot more peaceful.
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  You can still eat the popcorn if you
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  want, just less butter because I don't know
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  my metabolism probably slowing down.
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  I'm here today to talk about How do
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  we stop our judging mind or how do
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  we just learn to cultivate
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  non judgment?
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  Because it is definitely
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  a muscle that we have to practice? It's
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  not an overnight thing, but
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  in doing so, it really allows for a
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  lot more peace. I can tell you firsthand.
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  I used to live.
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  It's in the worries zone.
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  Meditation allows you to sit with discomfort
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  and well just sit and learn not to
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  judge it
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  when we practice sitting with boredom and restless,
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  we practice the sport of sitting
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  with these uncomfortable feelings.
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  And
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  we choose to just feel it and sit
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  with it.
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  It is normal to be j of thy
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  myself. If we get used to our little
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  brains, doing all these things
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  and learn to judge a little bit less,
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  we can come back to our breath and
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  our body
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  and know that
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  Okay. There I go judging again, come back,
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  take a breath.
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  We get used to this experience and it
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  becomes a little bit less of a big
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  deal.
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  You don't have to be falsely happy about
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  anything.
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  I know because I live in the real
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  world, and sometimes I don't really like the
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  limits that I have been passed
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  have been passed my way.
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  But we do have to be honest about
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  what is happening. We can't go hide, the
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  but we can look at the lemons and
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  just practice this habit of noticing the lemons
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  and try to look at them with less
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  judgment
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  And when we do this, we open ourselves
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  to less stress and anxiety and we can
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  spend our energy and time on something more
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  joyful
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  So if you can recall a really embarrassing
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  moment
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  or maybe a not so great time. And
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  change the film in your mind from should
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  could've or
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  I didn't really love that that much to
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  a Netflix series that causes
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  less stress.
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  Even years later, we can still replay these
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  Netflix series in our minds of those times
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  that were just
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  gross and we regret what we did. And
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  it's in that that we can just really
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  look at that and
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  realize that
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  we're human. We don't have to hate on
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  ourselves.
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  The really crummy thing happened
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  and
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  it's okay to just sit with that feeling
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  and not have all the hate or all
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  the judgment towards ourselves.
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  Less could have should and more. I am
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  now in this moment that I'm in. I
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  learned that bang, and I grew, and I
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  evolved,
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  and I learned a bunch from that crummy
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  thing. Maybe that last line is hard. Maybe
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  you're not to that point where you wanna
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  say that you learn from it, and that's
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  okay.
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  If it's too hard, you can also just
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  sit with it and give it space
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  and allow those feelings
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  to occur non judgmental
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  There is a space that opens up in
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  our hearts and our minds when we can
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  judge
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  less and just hang out with those thoughts
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  and feelings and sensations.
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  Without being so harsh on ourselves.
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  We don't have to fix it or play
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  that Netflix series over and over again. If
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  it does come up, though,
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  grab some popcorn
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  and try not to judge and just sit
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  with yourself with a lot of love because
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  we're all human.
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  We're all doing this together. And
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  when we judge ourselves less, when we show
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  up with this non judgmental awareness,
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  it really allows for more peace in our
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  hearts and in our minds.
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  And we also
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  carry this to other people. When we have
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  room for ourselves,
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  we also have room for others
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  in a non judgment way.
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  Ec toll says that the moment that judgment
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  stops,
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  through acceptance of what is
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  you are free of the mind. You have
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  made room for love, for joy and for
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  peace.
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  I hope this helps. I hope together we
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  can plant some seeds of resilience and joy,
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  have an amazing day.