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Light In The Dark: You Weren't Following Your Gut. You Were Following Your Wound. · Unlocking The Paradigm Portal

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  Hey, it's Sarah. So come on in and sit down and
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  join me tonight. I am so glad that you're here.
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  So I want to ask you something before we even get started.
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  Is there a decision sitting on your chest right now?
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  Something you've been turning over and over and going back and
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  forth and second guessing yourself?
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  Not sure if what you're feeling is your gut telling you the
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  truth or your fear talking you out of something good.
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  If something just came to mind, stay with it.
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  Tonight is for you. So think of my voice as a little
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  Lantern in the dark, just lighting up the next few steps
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  in front of you. So on Tuesday we talked about
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  fear based decisions, about how fear disguises itself as logic
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  and practicality and I'm just being realistic and how it
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  rushes us and it contracts us and it makes choices on our
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  behalf before we even realize it's happened.
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  But tonight I want to go one layer deeper.
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  Just one. Because one of the most
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  disorienting things about fear is that I can feel exactly like
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  intuition. And it speaks with the same
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  quiet certainty and it uses the first person and it says I just
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  know. And so we listen to it and we
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  follow it. And sometimes, not always, but
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  sometimes we look back and realize we weren't following our
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  gut at all. We were following our wounds.
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  So how do you tell the difference?
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  Well, here's what I've come to understand, and I've been on an
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  intensive deep dive for many years to understand.
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  And what I've watched unfold in the people that I work with over
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  and over again and in myself over and over again, and in my
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  interactions with people over and over again, is that
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  intuition and fear, They feel different in the body, not in
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  the mind. The mind can argue either case,
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  and the mind is a brilliant lawyer and it will build you an
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  airtight case for whatever it's already decided.
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  But the body doesn't lie in the same way.
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  So fear in your body, it feels contracted, it feels tight, it
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  lives high up in the chest, in the throat, the shoulders and it
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  has an urgency to it, like a franticness and it says decide
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  now, move now, get out now, hold on now.
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  It is always either running towards something or away from
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  something. It is never still.
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  It is always in a place of action, and underneath fear
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  there is almost always a familiar feeling, an old feeling
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  1 you felt before, long before this situation existed.
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  But intuition? That feels different.
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  Intuition is quieter, it doesn't yell, it doesn't rush you.
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  It lives lower in the body, in the belly, the gut, the chest in
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  a different way, and it has a steadiness to it even when the
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  message itself is uncomfortable. Intuition can tell you something
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  hard. This isn't right, this needs to
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  end, this isn't the path. And even as it delivers that
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  difficult truth, there is a quality of settledness and
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  softness underneath it, like something clicking into place
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  rather than spinning out of control.
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  I always say to people, your mind screams and your intuition
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  whispers, and you may only notice it when it's quiet.
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  And the simplest way I know how to tell them apart is exactly
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  that. Fear gets louder the longer you
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  sit with it, and intuition, it gets clearer.
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  So I want to bring you into your body for just a moment right
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  now. Whatever decision or situation
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  came to mind at the beginning of this episode, just bring it
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  back. Just let it be present and now
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  without thinking, without analyzing.
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  I know that's a tough ask. Put one hand on your belly just
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  below your navel. Now take a slow breath in
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  through your nose and let it travel all the way down to that
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  hand, and then let it out slowly.
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  Now just notice when you hold this situation in your awareness
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  and breathe into your belly, what do you feel?
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  Not what do you think, not what do you fear, but what do you
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  feel in that place? Is there tightness or urgency or
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  a kind of clawing sensation? Or is there something quiet or
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  something that already knows, Something that maybe you are
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  avoiding the answer to and you don't have to act on it tonight.
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  You don't have to have the answer, but I want you to start
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  practicing noticing that difference.
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  Because the more you come back to your body, the more that you
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  learn the language that it speaks, the harder it becomes
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  for fear to pass itself off as truth.
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  And the masks that we wear, they start to drop because you are so
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  in tune with yourself, with your body, with your intuition, that
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  you now can tell truth. Your intuition has always been
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  there. It was there when you were
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  small, before the world taught you to override it, and before
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  you learned that your feelings were inconvenient or too much or
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  wrong. And it's still there.
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  It didn't go anywhere. It might be quieter, maybe a
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  little bit buried under years of second guessing and performing
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  and shrinking, but it is there, and it is trustworthy, and it is
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  desperately vying for you to notice it and to listen to it.
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  And in other episodes this week, I've talked about the lighthouse
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  and that lighthouse. It doesn't follow the storm.
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  It holds its position, and it shines from the place it knows
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  is solid ground. That is your intuition, that
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  steady, unmovable knowing beneath the noise.
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  So learn to find it and come back to it and trust it, even
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  when fear is screaming louder. And actually especially then,
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  you are more knowing than you've been given credit for, more than
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  you've given yourself credit for.
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  And that's where you start tonight.
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  So I'm going to leave the Lantern next to you for just a
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  little bit tonight so that you know you're not alone.
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  And hopefully that light shines your way just a little bit more
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  tonight and I will be back in the morning for the next morning
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  message. And then I'll be back to sit
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  with you again Saturday night. I hope that you get some rest
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  tonight. And when the quiet falls, just
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  notice and try doing what I asked.
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  Put your hand on your belly and breathe into it and just notice
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  what your body is telling you to.
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  Have a beautiful evening and I will be back.