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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: A Life-Changing Move (& A Lot Of Emotions) · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily A Badi here bringing you another installment
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  Speaker 1: a five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I'm feeling so much
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  Speaker 1: hurdle love this week. Yesterday on my Instagram, I've been
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  Speaker 1: working on creating merch for a while and I'm now
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  Speaker 1: in the process where I'm designing it and I put
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  Speaker 1: out in my Instagram story. On my Instagram story, I
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  Speaker 1: put out, what should the sweatshirts the hats say because
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  Speaker 1: in my head it was going to say the word
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  Speaker 1: hurdler in big letters, But it seems as though the
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  Speaker 1: hurdle community really wants something that says another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 1: I feel passionately about this. That's why I sign off
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  Speaker 1: every episode that way. But I of course would love
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  Speaker 1: even more of your feedback, So if you have some,
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  Speaker 1: feel free to shoot me a DM either over on
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  Speaker 1: the Hurdle Podcast account at Hurdle Podcast or hit my dms.
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  Speaker 1: I'm over at Emily A Body as well. I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: something a little bit different this week four or five
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  Speaker 1: minute Friday. I'm going to tell you a story that
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  Speaker 1: is exclusive to the show. And what I mean by
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  Speaker 1: that is, oftentimes there's a lot of crossover between the
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  Speaker 1: weekly Hurdle newsletter, and of course this Friday episode. But
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  Speaker 1: this week I am getting a little personal and talking
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  Speaker 1: a little bit about my apartment hunting situation. So if
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  Speaker 1: you are new to the show, welcome. My name is Emily.
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  Speaker 1: I have lived in New York City for ten years.
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  Speaker 1: All ten years have been on the breast side, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm finally leaving. Not to be dramatic, don't worry, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going very far. I'm moving from where I live
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  Speaker 1: in the northern part of Manhattan to Brooklyn. And I
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  Speaker 1: made that decision over the pandemic because I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: get more space, and I knew that I would be
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  Speaker 1: able to get more space for my money. My money
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  Speaker 1: would be able to go further if I left Manhattan
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  Speaker 1: and went to Brooklyn. Now it's interesting, right because when
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  Speaker 1: I let the world, so to speak, into this decision
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  Speaker 1: on Instagram, I got a lot of feedback from different
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  Speaker 1: people being like, this is a mistake, you shouldn't leave Manhattan.
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  Speaker 1: Other people were like super excited about it. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: everyone has an opinion, but I feel really confident in
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  Speaker 1: this decision and really excited about it. I'm really excited
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  Speaker 1: for this change. I'm ready for a clean slate. With
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  Speaker 1: that said, last weekend, I finally found an apartment. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to keep the specifics of where the apartment is
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  Speaker 1: under wraps for a little bit by but what I
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  Speaker 1: will say is I was very open to different areas.
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  Speaker 1: I was open to different neighborhoods in Brooklyn because I
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  Speaker 1: could see myself being happy in a lot of different ones.
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  Speaker 1: You know, while there are perks to an area like
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  Speaker 1: Williamsburg being young and trendy, there are also perks to
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  Speaker 1: other areas like Prospect Heights or Borham Hill or Brooklyn Heights.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, gosh, there are so many options. I'll be upfront,
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  Speaker 1: the whole process was really really emotional. I mean, I've
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  Speaker 1: talked on the show about being a woman in my
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  Speaker 1: early thirties single making a move like this on my own,
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  Speaker 1: and it was interesting in the apartment hunting process because
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  Speaker 1: so often I'd walk in and a broker would be like,
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  Speaker 1: so is it just you? And I just wanted to
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  Speaker 1: be like, yeah, mother, whatever, Yeah, it's just me. I
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  Speaker 1: am here. I can do this on my own. I
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  Speaker 1: don't need a partner to move into this two bedroom anyway.
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  Speaker 1: I dig it was emotional for me because yes, like,
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  Speaker 1: of course, the wow, this is such a big life change.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't think that I would be here at thirty
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  Speaker 1: three doing this on my own, Like, yeah, that's one thing,
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  Speaker 1: but really like more emotional, just because of how proud
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  Speaker 1: I am of myself, Like I never thought that I'd
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  Speaker 1: be doing it because I didn't think that it was
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  Speaker 1: going to be in my wheelhouse. I never thought that
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  Speaker 1: I would be in a place where I felt confident
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  Speaker 1: enough in what I have going on and where I'm
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  Speaker 1: going that I would be able to establish myself in
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  Speaker 1: like this kind of home, a home that has a
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  Speaker 1: room dedicated to my work and recording and writing and
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  Speaker 1: bookshelves and natural light in my living room and new
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  Speaker 1: appliances and oh my god, just so much stuff. Oh
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  Speaker 1: my goodness. When I was on the phone with my
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  Speaker 1: girlfriend after the night that I applied for the apartment,
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  Speaker 1: I was I was just crying because if you've listened
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  Speaker 1: to show, then you've heard me say this before. I
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  Speaker 1: felt that it would mean that I made it when
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  Speaker 1: I had someone else to accept my packages. And I
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  Speaker 1: know that sounds a little ridiculous, and of course that
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  Speaker 1: could be more than just a doormant. It could mean
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  Speaker 1: that I have a partner to join me, or I
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  Speaker 1: have a building manager because my business now has its
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  Speaker 1: own office, like many different options for someone to accept
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  Speaker 1: the packages, and me not to divert everything that ever
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  Speaker 1: gets sent to me to a FedEx location. And so
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  Speaker 1: I've said this for a long time, and walking out
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  Speaker 1: of that building, that apartment that I applied to that
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  Speaker 1: happens to have a doorman, was just this full circle
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  Speaker 1: moment for me, because for a whole year in twenty
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  Speaker 1: nineteen going into twenty twenty, when I thought that I'd
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  Speaker 1: be moving in twenty twenty, before the pandemic, I would
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  Speaker 1: say that in twenty twenty, I'm going to have someone
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  Speaker 1: else accept my packages. And I kept saying that, and
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  Speaker 1: I kept writing it down, and I literally started manifesting that,
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  Speaker 1: and then the pandemic happened. And of course, I mean
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  Speaker 1: not to downplay the inn amount of challenges that came
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  Speaker 1: hand in hand with the last fourteen fifteen months, but
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  Speaker 1: part of me believes in my gut that the last
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  Speaker 1: fourteen fifteen months happened so that I could really focus
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  Speaker 1: on working my hardest on staying in this one place.
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  Speaker 1: Although it may not have been the home that I
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  Speaker 1: was hoping for at the time, and start to put
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  Speaker 1: aside some money that maybe would have been spent traveling
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  Speaker 1: or running around the city or god doing who knows what.
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  Speaker 2: I mean.
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  Speaker 1: The fact that there are mostly no broker fees in
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  Speaker 1: Manhattan right now, and that apartment buildings are giving multiple
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  Speaker 1: months rent for free to incentivize people to move in.
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  Speaker 1: That was just never, ever, ever something that I thought
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  Speaker 1: would happen in my lifetime here in the city. So
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  Speaker 1: talking to my friend on the phone and getting emotional
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  Speaker 1: and thinking about how far I've come and what is
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  Speaker 1: possible for me. Obviously this conversation was before I found
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  Speaker 1: out that I got the apartment, but it was just
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  Speaker 1: so special that I was finally in this position to
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  Speaker 1: do this for myself, and that I did this for myself.
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  Speaker 1: That's so freaking awesome, right. It's an important reminder, just
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  Speaker 1: this idea that we are in control to an extent.
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  Speaker 1: You have input as to the direction of your life
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  Speaker 1: if you are willing to work hard. I'm not saying
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  Speaker 1: that we can control every circumstance, but I am saying
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  Speaker 1: that there is a world of knowledge and opportunity out
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  Speaker 1: there if you are willing to have hard conversations and
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  Speaker 1: put yourself out there. And you know how I know
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  Speaker 1: that I've grown over the last couple of years. I
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  Speaker 1: got the apartment acceptance and I was texting my father
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  Speaker 1: and I literally said to him, I am about to
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  Speaker 1: work harder than I have ever worked in my life.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we get to these points that maybe we
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  Speaker 1: never thought that we would get to. And I think
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  Speaker 1: the indicator of someone who is ready for challenge, who
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  Speaker 1: is always hunting for more, is you don't rest when
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  Speaker 1: you necessarily accomplish a goal. Like of course you recognize it,
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  Speaker 1: but then you ask yourself what's next. And let me
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  Speaker 1: tell you, I'm excited about what's next, and I'm excited
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  Speaker 1: about what that brings for my life. Prompt for you
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  Speaker 1: this week, what is one thing, a manifestation that you
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  Speaker 1: want to put into the universe, something that you want
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  Speaker 1: for your life in the coming year. What is one thing,
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  Speaker 1: one manifestation that you want in the coming year that
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  Speaker 1: you're ready to put into the universe. Highlights of the
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  Speaker 1: week links to all of this goodness in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: First up, it's time to celebrate Does Lindon's fifty K
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  Speaker 1: world record. How could I not give some props to Dez.
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  Speaker 1: You know we love her on the show. She's been
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  Speaker 1: on twice and recently this week she ran a fifty
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  Speaker 1: k world record in two hours, fifty nine minutes and
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  Speaker 1: fifty four seconds. That's seven minutes ahead of the existing
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  Speaker 1: world record, and casual she averaged just that's a you know,
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  Speaker 1: five forty seven mile pace. So there's that. Read how
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  Speaker 1: to create a happier, healthier living space during springtime from
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  Speaker 1: Shape Hi. As we've established here, my name is Emily.
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  Speaker 1: I am preparing to decorate a completely new home and
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  Speaker 1: I am addicted to Pinterest, so obviously this article about
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  Speaker 1: creating a happy and healthy space certainly caught my mind.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of good tips in here. I know that
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  Speaker 1: the concept of having a separate workspace, rejuvenating your workspace
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  Speaker 1: for the warmer weather, I am all about it. Support
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  Speaker 1: birth Queen. I recently hosted a conversation for Lula Lemon
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  Speaker 1: in honor of Woman's History Month, and in doing that
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  Speaker 1: I met Rachel Nixon. She is a mom, a doula,
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  Speaker 1: a lactation counselor, and she's also a Lula Lemon ambassador
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  Speaker 1: and founding mirror trainer. She also happens to be. As
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  Speaker 1: if that laundry list of awesomeness wasn't enough. The founder
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  Speaker 1: of Birth Queen, which is a non profit working to
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  Speaker 1: combat the Black maternal health crisis. Birth Queen educates, supports
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  Speaker 1: and empowers of Black women, parents and birth and people,
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  Speaker 1: and funds training for dula's midwives and lactation consultants. So,
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  Speaker 1: as it's Black Maternal Health Week this week, I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to share a link in the show notes for those
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  Speaker 1: who would like to donate and spread some information about
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  Speaker 1: Rachel's cause. Snag some tops and bras for twenty percent
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  Speaker 1: off at Athleta. I'm linking to some of my favorites
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  Speaker 1: to my attention yesterday and it's notable because I've letter
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  Speaker 1: love me a good bargain. And last, but not least,
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  Speaker 1: Watch before the Flood my new thing. I think I've
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  Speaker 1: done it. I've done it every night this week, which
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  Speaker 1: shows what kind of social life I have. I on
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  Speaker 1: weeknights am all about watching documentaries. I'm late to this
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  Speaker 1: party because this documentary came out and I leave twenty sixteen,
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  Speaker 1: but with Earth Day on the horizon, I was searching
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  Speaker 1: something that felt appropriate, so I found Before the Flood. Wow. Basically,
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  Speaker 1: in the documentary, Leonardo DiCaprio sounds the alarm about global
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  Speaker 1: warming and throws out some insane stats. Ready for this,
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  Speaker 1: the North Pole will likely be melted by twenty forty. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's notts. The whole documentary is not. It's definitely. Definitely
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  Speaker 1: give it a look. And now we have a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi Emily, my name's Brittany. I'm a new listener and
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  Speaker 2: new hurdler, but I'm loving every second of it. I
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  Speaker 2: have a question about being a twelve hour, three to
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  Speaker 2: four shift a week worker and how you would recommend
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  Speaker 2: working out on long shift days where I'm leaving the
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  Speaker 2: house at five point fifteen and not coming home until
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  Speaker 2: maybe seventy eight o'clock in the night. Do you have
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  Speaker 2: any recommendations for how to push forward with my workout
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  Speaker 2: routine and goals despite such a heavy work schedule.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks, Brittany, thank you so much for your question. I'm
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  Speaker 1: actually talking about some themes that are super relevant to it.
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  Speaker 1: In this week's installment of the Weekly Hurdle. Over there,
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  Speaker 1: I'm writing about strategies to navigate those sucky workouts. And
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  Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of the time a sucky
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  Speaker 1: workout happens when we're feeling unmotivated, which can come hand
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  Speaker 1: in hand with working long hours. So I highly recommend
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  Speaker 1: that you peep on over to the show notes and
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  Speaker 1: click to subscribe and read this week's newsletter. However, I
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  Speaker 1: will offer you one tidbit of advice, and that is
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  Speaker 1: that these workouts your regular workout. It doesn't need to
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  Speaker 1: be something that takes you an hour. In fact, you
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  Speaker 1: can indulge in what hurdler Joe Holder loves to call
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  Speaker 1: exercise snacks. So this means if you have fifteen minutes
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  Speaker 1: in the morning before you head out, and fifteen minutes
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  Speaker 1: at night, and maybe of fifteen minutes during your forty
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  Speaker 1: five minute to an hour lunch break, find ways to
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  Speaker 1: move that give you energy that you need to carry
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  Speaker 1: on with the rest of your day. Because I'll tell
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  Speaker 1: you this when you make the time for movement. And
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  Speaker 1: I understand that you might be feeling tired. You're working
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  Speaker 1: hard and your hard work is so appreciated, but when
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  Speaker 1: you're feeling tired, moving your body getting those endorphins can
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  Speaker 1: be such a game changer. So find small breaks within
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  Speaker 1: your day to start adding movement into the mix. You'll
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  Speaker 1: be really grateful for it. And to make it even easier,
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  Speaker 1: think ahead about what these movement breaks might entail. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: that lunch one is literally just going for a walk.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe the evening one is you looking at the on
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  Speaker 1: demand programming that you like to do and selecting which
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  Speaker 1: workout you're going to turn on. By taking the extra
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  Speaker 1: decision making out of it, that's one less hurdle that
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  Speaker 1: you'll approach on your quest to getting active and moving
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  Speaker 1: your body. That's it for this week, y'all. Make sure
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  Speaker 1: you're keeping up with Hurdle over on social media. Again,
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  Speaker 1: it's at Hurdle Podcast. You can also follow along with
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  Speaker 1: the hurdle community in the Secret Hurdler's group on Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: And if I haven't said it enough, make sure you're
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  Speaker 1: subscribed to the Weekly Hurdle newsletter links to do all
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  Speaker 1: of that. As I said in the show notes, appreciate
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  Speaker 1: all of you so much. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you
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  Speaker 1: guys next time.