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A Lifeline of Hope The Paul Casey Story · Stuck No More Voices

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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 1: So here we are Now.
• 0:02
  Speaker 1: I'm in a crisis here.
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  Speaker 1: Is it Kingdom Voices Unleashed, or is it Kingdom Voices Unleashed, brought to you by the Kingdom Mentor Podcast?
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Oh, see, we're in the midst of a name change, so bear with me, but I have a perfect guess for the name change.
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  Speaker 1: But first let me let you know we are still pivoting in the AI.
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  Speaker 1: Coming out very soon is my latest course Podcast, made Easy with AI.
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  Speaker 1: So much fun putting this together because, see, I'm all about your voice.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: You gotta share your voice and then maybe you gotta market your voice.
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  Speaker 1: Podcasting is such a beautiful thing and you know, if you've heard me, this is like truly my happy place.
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  Speaker 1: So before that let's just get right to it, let me just share with you about Paul Casey.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so excited to have him today.
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  Speaker 1: Paul Casey's life story is a profound illustration of resilience and transformative change success.
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  Speaker 1: He faced adversity.
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  Speaker 1: At a young age, he found himself in places he didn't wanna be.
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  Speaker 1: At 23, paul was facing a potential 27 year prison sentence.
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  Speaker 1: He was given a 10 year instead, and it was during this time that Paul got real with himself.
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  Speaker 1: Like most of them, god faced to face with himself.
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  Speaker 1: But let me tell you he's come out a fighter, he's come out as a father figure.
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  Speaker 1: He has two successful businesses in the realms of online fitness coaching and motivational speaking.
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  Speaker 1: So please will you help me.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome, paul Casey.
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  Speaker 1: Paul, great to have you.
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  Speaker 2: What's up Teresa?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, hi, that was a great introduction.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, I feel honored.
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  Speaker 1: So I gotta say, paul, you're yet another wonderful connection.
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  Speaker 1: I first met you at Debilter Brand AI and then you were at the mastermind just a couple of weeks ago.
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  Speaker 1: And I gotta tell you, whenever you talk, it's like I'm in my mind, I'm like that's Coach Paul, he's speaking, listen to him.
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  Speaker 1: He's known as Coach Paul.
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  Speaker 1: So, paul, I gave you an introduction, but give us a little bit more introduction.
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  Speaker 1: And you know what I like to do.
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  Speaker 1: I like to just kinda, piece by piece, kinda undo some stories, because people need your hope and they need the identity shift.
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  Speaker 1: So tell us just a little more about yourself and we'll start diving into some stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, absolutely so.
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  Speaker 2: Like a lot of people, I grew up in a broken household.
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  Speaker 2: My mom struggled with drug and alcohol addiction.
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  Speaker 2: My dad was angry.
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  Speaker 2: He had anger issues.
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  Speaker 2: He was physically and emotionally abusive.
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  Speaker 2: They both did the best they could with what they had, with the lifestyle that they once lived, and they made whatever adjustments necessary.
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  Speaker 2: And so childhood wasn't the greatest, and going through my childhood, I struggled a lot.
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  Speaker 2: I struggled with my identity.
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  Speaker 2: I struggled with fitting in, because even in elementary school I was the kid whose mom was a druggy right, and I was the kid that didn't have a happy household, and so I didn't get along with a lot of people at school.
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  Speaker 2: And it progressively got worse as I got older.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't fit into certain crowds and eventually I started fitting into the wrong crowds.
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  Speaker 2: And when I started fitting into the wrong crowds I started to do the wrong things.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: And by the time I was 15, both my parents had made some adjustments to their lifestyles.
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  Speaker 2: My mom had stopped using drugs and alcohol.
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  Speaker 2: She got clean.
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  Speaker 2: My dad had worked on his anger management issues, but by then I was already a broken child right.
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  Speaker 2: And so by the time I was 15, I got involved in criminal activity.
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  Speaker 2: I got involved in drugs and alcohol myself, and so by the time I was 15, I started going to juvenile hall, boys' homes, mental hospitals, and I spent more time during my teenage years incarcerated than I spent free.
• 3:47
  Speaker 1: And when I was free.
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  Speaker 2: I was either addicted to drugs or I was homeless because I had nowhere to go, because I wasn't living a successful lifestyle.
• 3:54
  Speaker 2: I wasn't living.
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  Speaker 2: My mom had got her life together so she wasn't gonna have me in her house doing drugs, selling drug gang activity, guns, all this stupid stuff that I was doing in my teens.
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  Speaker 2: And so I spent more time from the age of 15 to 18 incarcerated than I spent free and that became normal.
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  Speaker 2: Incarceration became normal for me, Like being a person's child treated like an animal became normal for me.
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  Speaker 2: And because of that, by the time I was 18, I started going to jail and once again it was normal, Like okay, I go to jail for a little bit, I get out and go back to the same things I knew.
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  Speaker 2: By the time I was 19, I went to prison for the first time and you know, in the neighborhood I grew up in, going to prison was like a level of honor.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: You go to prison and then you get out of prison you're like cool, Right.
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  Speaker 2: So this goes back to that identity.
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  Speaker 2: I was still building this identity around these negative ideals and when in the prison.
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  Speaker 2: You know, when I was in prison for about a year and a half and I got out of prison and I made a small attempt to get my life in order, I got a job, I started, I rolled out some college classes, I had a girlfriend, she had a son.
• 4:57
  Speaker 2: I was like all right, cool, Like I'm just going to get my life in order, but I had never actually like worked on anything.
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  Speaker 2: I never like worked on myself, and that's the biggest thing when we talk about identity.
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  Speaker 2: I never worked on that identity.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I never changed that identity.
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  Speaker 2: So I made a small attempt and I say an attempt because it didn't last very long Before you knew it.
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  Speaker 2: I went back to the identity I knew.
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  Speaker 2: I went back to drug using.
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  Speaker 2: I went back to crime.
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  Speaker 2: You're hanging out with the wrong crowds.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, at 22 years old I committed a crime that had me looking at 27 years and you know, by the time I was 23,.
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  Speaker 2: I was in the jail cell going to court and they were like telling me, you know, I was going to be in prison for 27 years and I had to say a lot of things going on and I kind of gave up at that time and I was like was that a point of like OK, no return for you.
• 5:48
  Speaker 1: Like OK, they're saying 27 years.
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  Speaker 1: And it was that like.
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  Speaker 1: When did that become the pivot for you?
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  Speaker 2: So that was.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it wasn't really a point of no return at that point.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, right Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Because I didn't actually believe it was possible, right Like I was like nah, they can't give you 27 years for this Wow.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't believe it, right, and so I didn't take it serious.
• 6:19
  Speaker 2: Because I didn't believe it and didn't take it serious, I played with it and I just kept doing what I was doing, like, ah man, they're not going to give me 27 years, I'll be okay, this and that.
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  Speaker 2: And then I went to court.
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  Speaker 2: And when I went to court, I heard the word guilty.
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  Speaker 2: And when I heard the word guilty like they kept talking, but like I heard like ringing in my ears my palms were sweaty and I just like stomach dropped and I was just like.
• 6:47
  Speaker 2: That was the moment when I was like my life is over.
• 6:49
  Speaker 2: I like nah, I know how did they just say guilty, like that's not possible.
• 6:54
  Speaker 2: But they did and there was a lot of guilties.
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  Speaker 2: In fact there was quite a few guilties at that point in time and, man, at that point I thought my life was over.
• 7:05
  Speaker 2: That was a turning point where I was like it's over, I'm done, like I'm looking at 27 years in prison and they just found me guilty.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, and so in the process of that, and then how long in that so-called 27 year prison sentence, how long were you in there when you started doing some identity thinking and shifts?
• 7:30
  Speaker 1: How long were you in there?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so if we reverse a little bit, sorry, no, you're good, you're good.
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  Speaker 2: So basically they ended up giving me 10.
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  Speaker 1: So they didn't give me 10.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, wow, okay.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And so when I asked them, basically, the judge looked at the circumstances and they did drop a few of the charges, right, because there wasn't enough evidence hold me guilty of those charges, but they still gave me 10 years, right?
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  Speaker 2: Wow, give me 10 years in prison.
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  Speaker 2: And, to be honest with you, I initially went in there with those 10 years and a lot of people would think like, oh my gosh, you just got sentenced to 10 years and you completely changed your life.
• 8:12
  Speaker 2: It's not what happened.
• 8:14
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's all right.
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  Speaker 2: Because I had this life, this identity that I had already created.
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  Speaker 2: So when I went into prison for 10 years, I wasn't thinking I'm going to change my ways, I'm going to change my life.
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  Speaker 2: I was thinking I need to hold this identity and hold this identity in order to make it out Geez, because 10 years is a long time to be in prison.
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Prison is not a safe place.
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  Speaker 2: Prison is a violent place, and so you have to become something different.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: I was still with the amount of time I was doing.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 2: So I took who I was on the streets and made it worse.
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  Speaker 1: Bless you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I became a worse human being, honestly, and so for quite some time I lived up to this identity I created for myself, but as time progressed, I started to make small changes.
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  Speaker 2: Once again, slow change for me.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: I started doing some college classes, you know, and I got really obsessed with fitness.
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  Speaker 2: I started reading a lot of books on fitness and nutrition.
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  Speaker 2: I read every book, every magazine, everything I'd get my hands on.
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  Speaker 2: I was just obsessed with fitness and I actually became the person that people went to for fitness advice.
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  Speaker 1: Nice.
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  Speaker 2: But when it'll lose weight?
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  Speaker 2: They came and talked to me.
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  Speaker 2: They wanted to do a first pull up.
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  Speaker 2: Do you want to run a mile?
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  Speaker 2: They wanted whatever it is people wanted to do.
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  Speaker 2: They would come to me and ask me questions about fitness.
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  Speaker 2: I would build people workout plans and I would work out with people Amazing and I kind of became a personal trainer in prison.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And so, like I started like seeing, like, oh, this is fun, I enjoy this.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: It was the first time in my life I ever felt like I was good at something that was positive, and so, as time progressed, I was able to stay out of trouble for a while and I eventually worked my way down to a lower level facility.
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  Speaker 2: And when I got to this lower level facility, I was giving an opportunity to go to fire camp and become an inmate firefighter.
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  Speaker 1: Very cool Okay.
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  Speaker 2: All right, cool, let's do this.
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  Speaker 2: I started to be a firefighter and as an inmate firefighter I started learning some skill sets.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I had to be a firefighter first off, but eventually I became a chainsaw mechanic and I started working on chainsaws.
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  Speaker 2: But during my time at fire camp, my mom who had gotten her life together and it was my biggest supporter and would come and visit me and she would send me money and she would take care of me.
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  Speaker 2: While I was in prison 2013, she passed away from cancer and that broke me.
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  Speaker 2: That broke me, and so all this small change I had started to make went down the drain.
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  Speaker 1: Oh bless.
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  Speaker 2: And I stopped caring.
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  Speaker 2: I stopped.
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  Speaker 2: I honestly didn't want to live anymore.
• 10:55
  Speaker 1: Bless you.
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  Speaker 2: And I gave up, and so all of this good stuff I was doing at fire camp, I basically flushed it on the toilet.
• 11:02
  Speaker 1: Oh, bless you.
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  Speaker 2: And I went back to drug and alcohol usage and fighting and I got kicked out of four different fire camps and eventually they were tired of me and they sent me back to the prisons and my drug addiction and my anger just took off.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm like a wildfire and so because of that, I got back into that old identity and I dove into that old identity strong and I went back to criminal activity while incarcerated.
• 11:31
  Speaker 1: Sure.
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  Speaker 2: And I dug myself into a deeper and deeper hole over time.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: And honestly, it wasn't until nine years into these 10 years in prison.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Nine years in, on August 1st 2017, I was supposed to get out of prison, right?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we're in prison.
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  Speaker 2: You do a percentage of your time, and had I had good behavior, I would have done nine years out of those 10 years.
• 11:59
  Speaker 2: But because of my bad behavior, I'd actually extended my stay, and so I extended my stay.
• 12:05
  Speaker 2: Oh, bless you, and so I was supposed to get out right.
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: It's crazy, right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, August 1st 2017,.
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  Speaker 2: Teresa, I was supposed to get out of prison and I wasn't getting out, oh geez.
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  Speaker 2: Right, and so my release date came and left, and I was depressed and I was angry and I was still getting high and I was getting in fist fights and I was just doing all these things throughout the month of August in 2017.
• 12:31
  Speaker 2: And then I woke up one morning and people asked me all the time what changed.
• 12:36
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't know changed.
• 12:38
  Speaker 2: The only thing that changed on this one morning was my mindset.
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: Sure Sure.
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  Speaker 2: And so that's why, with my coaching program and with my clients, we focus a lot on mindset With my motivation.
• 12:50
  Speaker 2: Speaking, we focus on mindset.
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  Speaker 2: Sure, because that's the only thing you got to change in order to change everything in your mind.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, and so.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, on, on, on Sure throughout the month of August.
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  Speaker 2: I was struggling and I'm still using drugs and I'm still getting in fights and I was just like I wanted to die.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, I was trying to kill myself through drug uses, like I was just putting all these drugs in my system just hoping like I just wouldn't wake up the next morning.
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: Sure.
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  Speaker 2: And then, on August 30th 2017, I woke up.
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  Speaker 2: I looked in the mirror and I see my cheeks were sunken in and I looked like a skeleton.
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  Speaker 2: My eyes were all black because I was barely sleeping.
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  Speaker 2: I was angry and I just looked myself in the mirror and I just saw like someone.
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: I wasn't.
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 13:36
  Speaker 2: I didn't see who I once was, and I didn't see who I wanted to be, and so, on that day, I made a conscious decision.
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  Speaker 2: From that point on that, I was gonna completely change everything.
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, amen, alrighty, people are responding.
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: So I say thanks to Ericle and, hey, someone said all right, man, you're right there, changing lives, and I appreciate those who are commenting.
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: So this is like you've pretty much described the worst place almost anyone can be.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: You said two things.
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  Speaker 1: You said you weren't hanging around the right people, and then, of course, we get to mindsets.
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  Speaker 1: So I believe personally that to really go off on your destiny, to really get to that place where you wanna use your voice, it comes down to identity and oftentimes it comes down to personal development.
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  Speaker 1: That's shifting your mindset.
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  Speaker 1: And then I know who you're hanging around right now.
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  Speaker 1: It has everything to do with who you hang out with.
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  Speaker 1: So give us a little preview of getting out of prison.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let's go straight to getting out.
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  Speaker 1: And how did you manage?
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  Speaker 1: Was the mindset enough of a change to start managing your behavior when you got out?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So when I shifted my mindset on August 30th 2017, I had one year left.
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  Speaker 2: I extended for one year.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I spent that last year in prison, absolutely obsessed with becoming the most elite and amazing human being, I could be.
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: All right come on.
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  Speaker 2: So I was in development everything I could do to change who I was, so that when I got out of prison on August 25th almost a year later, august 25th 2018, I walked out of prison with a plan.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: I walked out of prison with a plan to be an absolutely different human being than the person I was when I walked in and the person that I was while there, and I came out with a plan to impact the world in a positive and productive manner.
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  Speaker 1: Can I say something?
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: Just a minute.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: Just a minute.
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  Speaker 1: When you started sharing about changing your mindset and improving yourself.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone else noticed, but all of a sudden you stood up even a little stronger in your chair, because that's the fire that you have inside of you.
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  Speaker 1: So you started before.
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  Speaker 1: Did it stay with you when you got out this time?
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Hey.
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  Speaker 2: And so I built that momentum.
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  Speaker 2: I built that momentum right.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm a firm believer that, like when you're on a mission and when you're doing what you're supposed to or need to be doing, your within, your purpose, and you get that momentum going, you don't stop.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And what I mean by that is like I'll give you an example.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going through some family issues right now.
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  Speaker 2: My dad's not doing too well.
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  Speaker 1: We were on a.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: Sacramento visiting him last night.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Basically, the doctors are like telling us that it's time to pull the plug on him and that shit hurts because I've spent a lot of time rebuilding that relationship with him.
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  Speaker 2: And here I am still on this podcast episode.
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  Speaker 2: I still did my client check-ins for all my clients this morning.
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  Speaker 2: Still showing up in my business and in my life for my family, even though, like I didn't want to get out of bed this morning, I don't want to deal with anything Like my dad's not going to be around very much longer, and that shit hurts.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: But momentum right.
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  Speaker 2: And so, getting back to when I got out of prison, that last year in prison I built up this momentum I'm working on myself and I'm reading books and I'm writing and journaling and making a plan.
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: So when I got out I kept that momentum going.
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  Speaker 2: So good yeah, and the momentum was crazy when I got out because, like it was the small things you know for the people listening right now in the audience or if you're listening to this later on small wins create big achievements.
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  Speaker 1: So good.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 2: So I got out and something small like getting my driver's license, Bam that was a win.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Building, getting a cell phone and then filling it with positive people's phone numbers.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: That was a win, that's a big win.
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: Right, I was going for 10 years Like I had never used the touchscreen before and I got out.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: Now iPhones and all these crazy touchscreen.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: I had a wordbast stuff, right.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: But I got out and I was able to, like start creating this circle of influence.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: Right, good Like you and I are both in this super-pattern mastermind.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: Exactly you shine, all these amazing human beings.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: Amazing.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: And we paid a lot of money to be in that circle, right, but just getting out, I have no money like that, right.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: So I had to surround myself with circles of influences, of people that just would allow me to latch onto them, right and just be like hey, we're doing some cool stuff in the world.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: I want to be like you.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Can I hang out with you?
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: So good.
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  Speaker 2: And so I surrounded myself with these people and I started building this momentum.
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  Speaker 2: And every win I got to celebrate, every single win.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: So good.
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  Speaker 2: I got this license, I enrolled in college, I got my first car, I got a job.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: I got another car, I got another job and it built and I built and I built and I built Until I'm in a place right now where I'm incredibly successful.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I'm only just now getting started.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: You know, Can I touch on something?
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: You had to have a discipline with each thing you got.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Many guys I say this from experience, many guys get out of prison and the minute they get that cell phone they can get tricked, that touch phone.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Next thing you know they think they're talking.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to be real.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: They think they're talking to a girl and they get attached just on the phone and then their life goes, takes a right turn and they end up losing money and losing hope.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: So you had a set up of discipline to handle the phone, to handle the car, to handle the cash and really to handle audiences.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Paul, you came to build your brand, ai.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: You, there was no shame.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I love that.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: You knew already what your identity was.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: You were just building it.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: And I think let's talk about shame.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: How does someone get past the shame, paul?
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: Because I really believe if we don't deal with our inner issues shame, grief, just lack of good judgment if we don't, especially if we don't deal with it, it starts to spill out in other ways in our personality and how we deal with people.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: So how is that just been a part of the package of personal development to deal with the shame?
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Can you don't have shame.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: I see no shame in you.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: So what would you say?
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Someone may be dealing with the imposter syndrome.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Shame can be question.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: That is a big question.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: I love that question, so let's unpack it a little bit.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: So a lot of times shame comes from things we've done and I feel that shame is attached to regret right and so.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: We have regret for the things we've done in the past.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: It creates shame.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Shame and guilt around what we've done.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: So for me, the way I overcome, I'm overcoming it because I'm not going to say I have 100% overcoming it's like I still have moments of regret, of Okay, it comes like right now, with my dad sickness and all this stuff.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know how much longer he's gonna be around, but today I get to show up for him.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I got to drive an hour and a half to go see him for 10 minutes, maybe 15 minutes.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: We'll spend some time Right, even in the eyes, and like you know what, don't quit, but I support whatever chose happens, like if you don't make it, like if you don't survive this, like I'm gonna be okay, but just know what.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: I'm here and my little brother flew all the way from from Florida to be here as well.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: We both got like this is the first time the three of us have been in a room in a very long time.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Right, we have.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Us were together last night in the hospital room, right, and when it comes to shame, when it comes to guilt, when it comes to regret for me, that's why I'm so aggressive with what I do.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: That's good.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: That's a driving force for me.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: Sure.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Like, if I'm guilty, if I feel guilty or ashamed of something I've done in the past for me, I want to make up for it.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: I want to make the world a better place.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: I want to take my story, my experience and help someone else.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: Hey amazing mentor, jen Gottlieb, says right yeah.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: I hope help one person.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: Hello.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: So if I can spend the remaining days of my life, that's so good.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Helping one person every single day.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Then I can make up for all the shitty things I've done and I've done a lot Right so someone's got to wait.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: We got a pause there.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: We get some dig deep in that.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Someone says, wait a minute, that sounds too easy.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: In a way, what it does is it narrows your thinking.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: So instead of thinking, oh, I got to go, I'll do this, I'll help one person one day, that adds up to, adds up to a balcony of people that are waiting to.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: They're not only waving their flags, they're waiting to come back and help you.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: And if you think about it, there's no greater to me, there's no greater boost than being able to help people within the confines of you know of what you can do to help them.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: So, so, help one person every day.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: So keep building.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: How did you continue to get?
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Continue with that mindset, because you're you're like dropping bombs might drop.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: So just one little thing, give us something else.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: That was a good one.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: And shame, I realized, is a tough one to unpack.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: But I think what you're seeing is the diligence of your work, even that last year In prison.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: The diligence starts to pay off.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: Tell us how important it is who you hang around with.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: Oh, I love that question.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: So I think surrounding yourself with the right people is key, right?
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: And so when I got out of prison, I didn't have any phone numbers for anyone I once associated with, and I began to build up this new identity of someone that associates with positive and productive human beings, and so I started to associate with others that were doing positive, productive things in their lives and I started to focus on that.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: I have a conversation with someone and if I see negativity, I see poor me, I see a victim mentality I'm like all right, that's you, I'm not going to hang out with you.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I have a very small circle of influence.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: I have a very small circle of influence that I associate with.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I might have over 20,000 followers on Instagram, but I only got about 10 people that I talk to on a daily or daily.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: I understand that yeah.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: And every single person in there.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: They are actively working on themselves.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: Not everyone in the position I'm at yet are actively working on themselves.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: So good.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: Because I don't want to hang out with you if all you talk about is negativity, If all you talk about is how horrible the world is all you talk about is how horrible the world is.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Come on.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: All you talk about is how expensive everything is.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: No, because that's how you stay there.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: That's right.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: That's how you stay there, right?
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: I want to talk about how we're going to make an impact in the world, how we're going to help more people, how we're going to make more money that can be used to impact more people.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: I hear this all the time money can't buy you happiness.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: Well, I have to disagree, because if I have more money and I could donate more money to society, come on Right.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I could donate money to a food bank that's going to take that food to families that need.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Those families can go to bed hungry or full Instead of hungry.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: Guess what we bought them happiness.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, I really think it's materialistic.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Money can't buy you something that's materialistic that can make you happy.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: But money can support someone else's needs and if it can support someone else's needs and help someone, you can buy them happiness.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: And so how can I do that?
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: I've got to work really hard to do that.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: I've got to surround myself with positive influences that are on that same mindset yeah.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: And so we surround ourselves with other people that are on that mindset, that are willing to grow, willing to learn, willing to become better.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Come on.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: Not only it uplifts me.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I've got literally a small handful of people that I talk to on a daily basis, other than my clients, and even my clients.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: I'm really particular.
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: I don't just oh, you want to lose weight, you can come work with me.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: That's cool.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: No, you haven't really shown me you are serious about growth, about change, about becoming a better version of yourself.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: I don't just take everyone on as a client.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Sure, that's so good.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: Ideal.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: What are you willing or able to do for yourself if I support you in that mission?
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: OK, come on, guys.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: I just changed my podcast to Kingdom Voices Unleashed.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Is Paul unleashed or what?
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: You're getting lots of comments on the side there, paul, and I appreciate the energy, I think, because I've met you twice.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: This is no BS, this is the real deal.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: So tell us just as we close out.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: Tell us what you're doing now.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: You said clients, you're working out, you're helping people work out.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: But if someone wanted to know more about you and find out what you offer, what would be that process?
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: Absolutely so.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: The best way to reach out to me is on Instagram.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: Instagram is the best way.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: So the underscore coach.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Underscore Paul t-h-e.
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: Underscore coach c-o-a-c-h.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Underscore Paul p-a-u-l.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I'm putting it in the comments, or live or recorded.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: You guys can do that and I know Paul will answer you.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: He's not someone that'll just ignore you, so OK.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: There you go.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Yep, the coach Paul.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: That's my Instagram.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: That's my YouTube.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: On Facebook, I'm Paul Casey Bye.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: What I'm doing?
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm using a multifaceted technique to impact a youth.
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Oh, I love that I'm on a mission to impact hundreds of thousands of lives, and I believe it starts with you.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: Okay, so I'm using two tools to impact the youth.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Number one I'm an online fitness coach that primarily works with busy moms that want to lose up to 20 pounds or more Without spending hours in the gym.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: It's awesome Carps.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm very specific about that is because my mom Struggled with her health and she passed away at a pretty young age.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: Now I'm not a hundred percent confident or no for sure, because I'm out of doctor if being healthy, being fit, would have helped her fight the cancer better.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: But I do know that if you take care of your health now, you're less likely to face life-altering diseases in the future.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: Yes, right.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: I also know that moms run the household.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: I know dad's like to think they do.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: We don't run nothing.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: Okay, my girl runs the household.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: We got two kids.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: You know she's the boss.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: I just do my part.
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: What here's the deal?
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: If I can help more moms establish healthier habits within their household, it can spread to their children.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: And if I can help that mom learn how to eat healthier and feed their kids healthier foods and show their kids Movement, my kids, our kids, they do martial arts.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: They exercise.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: My kids Love to do burpees because of me and my girlfriend.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Right, it's not set that example for these kids.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: They see us physically fit, right, they don't.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: They don't think, oh, it's okay to eat McDonald's and watch Netflix all day because we'll do that.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: And I hey, hey, that's amazing if I can teach More mothers to live a healthier, successful lifestyle.
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: Okay spread that to their children and I can help those kids live a healthy life.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: Stop.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: At the same time, I use my story of resilience, transformation of identity shifts.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah story of coming from a broken home, of being physically emotionally abused, of being Addicted to drugs as a teenager, of spending more time Incarcerated as a teenager that I actually spent free, of being homeless as a kid.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I can use that story to reach out to the youth, or to reach out to anyone else Relevant to the youth.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, these judges, police officers, teachers, nurses, parents.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: I speak to these demographics in order to show them that it's okay to struggle, but you can overcome it if you choose to yeah.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: Overcoming it.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: Now they don't have to go through everything I've been so good, so good Paul and so with those two tools, that's amazing, yeah.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: And at the same time, you're Surrounding yourself with the latest in technology to do it quicker and easier.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: You're surrounding yourself with voices like Jen Gottlieb and Chris Winfield and you're a powerful voice.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I want to tell you, you're a powerful voice just in that group itself.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: And you know, when Paul enters a room as you can probably manage People's heads turned, it's not because of his outward, it's because of what he's built on the inside.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: I truly believe that as you personally develop, professionally, develop you, I say you, you create this presence of Really what's inside of you.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: And Paul, you do that so well and I lots of comments and if you want to reach out, please go to add Paul, the underscore coach, underscore Paul, yes, and just connect with them and, if anything, just say hey, man, I really enjoyed you On the podcast.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Are you sorry?
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: You're trying to start a podcast too, aren't you?
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: What's the name of that going to be?
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I actually I so.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: So here's the crazy trip, right, so I started the podcast last July.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: Maybe earlier than maybe, man, I think actually.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: So in may I started a podcast and that's also what I launched my motivational speaking business.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: So my motivational speaking business is called Becoming a better you and it's motivational speaking and podcasting, and I launched that business earlier this year and I started hitting stages, speaking at school speaking Facilities.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: I did my first live event last August, literally the day after the day I got out of prison, and I'm doing my next live event in Castro Valley, california, on February 17th.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: I've got 10 amazing speakers.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: Many of them are from the mastermind, but some of them are just people that are part of that circle of influence.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: I just and we're raising a million meals for Feeding America, which is a non-profit ization that gives.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: Poverty-strict neighborhoods.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: So we're raising a million meals using our speaking event and then my good friend zoom and he's gonna be running across America next year Part of that run with him to raise that million meals.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: So we're on a mission to impact lives through that aspect.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: Okay, and so in doing so, I've also started the podcast.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: So the crazy story is, I started the podcast, I've been interviewing people, the podcast was going great, but Apple, for some reason, apple connect wouldn't connect my podcast to Apple and I was going back and forth with support for months.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: Bless you, I don't have time for this right now.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Other things yeah, I just took a break.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah about a week ago.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: It's time to get a bad emotion and I went in and I typed in the information I needed and it went through it.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: Now I got about 12 episodes up right now good coming a better you podcast with.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Love the name coming a better you podcast.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: It's not nothing else.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: Check that out.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: And if you're enjoying the fire, there's nothing like enjoying the fire, and I love podcasting, so that's just awesome.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: So I want to say thank you so much, paul, for taking time and really firing people up, and guys at the Understore coach, underscore Paul or find them on Apple.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Thanks so much, paul.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I appreciate you so much man.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: Thank you as well and you've been listening to A bullet kingdom voices unleashed is that not just a great title for this?
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: Be sure to check out, paul, if you want more information.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: How about that podcasting made easy with AI?
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: The shift is happening.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: You can check more details on that shift at Teresa Croft comm.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: So thank you so much for listening and I'll talk to you in the next episode of Kingdom voices unleashed.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I.