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Season 2 - Episode 232 - Too much Judgement is NOT HEALTHY · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today I want to talk to you about judging yourself, and I
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  know it it it's it's a human thing.
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  Let me just be very clear about it.
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  We all judge ourselves. And it actually isn't a bad tool
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  to have in your tool belt because again, it stops you.
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  I've said this before, but it stops you from doing stupid
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  things when used the right way. But it's also detrimental to
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  your well-being when it's overused.
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  It's kind of like salt. If you put too much salt on
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  something and you get so used to eating salt, before you know it,
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  you have hypertension and high blood pressure and all kinds of
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  problems, and you have to eliminate salt from your diet.
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  And you're like, I don't want to eliminate salt.
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  Salt. So great.
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  Well, if you used it in the right amounts in the beginning,
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  it would be great. But you didn't.
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  You overused it, and therefore you took it out of your realm of
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  possibility. And it's kind of like judgment.
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  We spend so much time. Beating ourselves up and judging
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  ourselves. And nine times out of 10, our
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  judgments are inaccurate because they're jaded.
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  They're we keep them to ourselves because we spend so
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  much time in our heads talking to ourselves and unresourcefully
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  So we we have skewed views of things.
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  And unless you. Kind of expand your views.
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  Those skewed views have a huge effect on how you see things.
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  It's kind of like if you've ever heard the phrase you know you're
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  you're never really completely well-rounded until you travel.
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  And I absolutely agree that travel has a huge impact on your
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  view of the world. When you take the time to go and
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  do some traveling, it doesn't even mean that you have to
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  travel. Far, but just getting out of
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  your own bubble and seeing things differently.
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  There is a tremendous impact on being able to get out and see
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  how other people live, what they experience, what their days are
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  like and it shifts how you view the world so.
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  Think of it that way. In your head.
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  If you don't get out of your head and see how other people
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  are doing it, or engage in other ideas, which is why learning is
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  so important. Even if you can't physically
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  travel to change your points of views, books are your best
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  friends with this because you hear other people's perspectives
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  and then you have another way to see the world.
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  So for instance. One of my very first endeavors
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  into this was my, you know, going and listening to Tony
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  Robbins my very first time because I was a participant at
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  all of his events before I ever worked for him.
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  And when I went to my very first event and I sat there and
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  listened, it was a business event.
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  It was one day event in Boston. And I was so enamored with his
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  points of view of how to see sales in a different way I
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  couldn't imagine. How I had been seeing it and how
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  I felt about it. And then I went and compared it
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  to, you know, his. What I how I was seeing it
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  compared to his. And no wonder I was not doing
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  well in it. No wonder I was, you know,
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  failing every day because of my points of view.
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  And when you know you change your perspective, everything
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  changes. And once I learned that, I could
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  keep diving in and changing this over and over and over.
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  Boy, I will tell you that key distinction shifted my life.
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  It's like you just have to keep on going and keep looking for
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  different things and stop judging yourself about where you
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  are because it's not going to help you get to where you want
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  to go, if that makes sense. We spend so much time wrapped up
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  in that bubble of ourselves that we don't get the chance to
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  expand and. Say okay.
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  Well, is this, is this the only way that I should be seeing
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  this? Because this feels really harsh
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  and I'm judging myself and that results in many toxic things in
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  our lives. It's part of the reason why,
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  where we see so many people taking antidepressants, it's
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  part of the reason why we see so many suicides.
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  It's part of the reason why there's so much alcoholism and
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  drug abuse in this country, because we are constantly.
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  Judging ourselves. And it's not just this country.
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  I say that I realize I have people from all over the world
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  listening and I it's everywhere. And it's not just here, but it
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  is. There is a lot of it that is
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  here. And I think that if we could
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  find a way to be kinder to ourselves and take in a little
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  bit of grace into these things that we tell ourselves, we would
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  be profoundly better off. And that grace begins with that
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  knowledge of saying, am I being too hard on myself?
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  And what's another way that I could think of this?
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  What's another way that I could view this?
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  And I will encourage you completely, encourage you all
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  the time to read audibles, do whatever you need to do, but
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  taking information and taking ideas from other people.
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  It's part of the reason why I wanted to do this podcast.
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  Because I want to reach as many people to to give other
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  perspectives. Because that's what helps.
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  How create happiness inside of us when we have the opportunity
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  and the perspectives to see things differently.
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  All of a sudden the judgment doesn't have such a hold and it
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  also doesn't have such horrific outcomes in our lives.
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  So please, stop. Pause.
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  Give yourself a break judging yourself.
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  While it has its benefits in some areas, too much of it is
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  like salt. And please do not overuse it.
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  And remember, the more perspectives you have, the less
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  power the judgment has. So keep pouring into yourself in
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  different ways and I promise you, you can break the cycle of
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  this and change how you give yourself a break.
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  Change how you see yourself and change your days.
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  All right, my friends, I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.