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Spoiled Cousins · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, did
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  Speaker 1: you grow up with spoiled cousins?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas. She said, Hey, joining
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  Speaker 2: us now are American mama's turning?
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  Speaker 1: Ediville and Kimberly burleson h some of my cousins listened
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  Speaker 1: to this show.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm going to say, no, be honest, be honest.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, you know, it kind of depends upon how you
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  Speaker 1: look at it. In some ways maybe, but in some
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  Speaker 1: ways absolutely not. And again it does.
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  Speaker 2: Depend upon the cousin.
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  Speaker 1: There's some cousins that are absolutely not spoiled. But but
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  Speaker 1: what'd you guys.
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  Speaker 2: Is this like a thing like everybody's got spoiled cousins.
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  Speaker 1: No, I think that everybody might have that cousin or
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  Speaker 1: two that was spoiled. But Terry and I we saw
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  Speaker 1: this real recently and it was a little boys crying
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  Speaker 1: to his mom. They had all the cousins have been giving, give,
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  Speaker 1: and he did not receive the same that these cousins
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  Speaker 1: had received. And he's trying. So he goes, I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: to be grateful, and it's really heartbreaking, and it broke
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  Speaker 1: my heart because that we can all feel that at
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  Speaker 1: some point in our life. I know that my husband's
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  Speaker 1: mother wasn't thinking. But she went on a trip. She
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  Speaker 1: had a granddaughter trip to New York. So she took
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  Speaker 1: her granddaughters to New York. It was a secret to
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  Speaker 1: my daughters. Oh and so when we were all gathered,
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  Speaker 1: she's just talking about this amazing granddaughter trip, forgetting that
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  Speaker 1: she had not invited my children. And then I said,
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  Speaker 1: what trip? You told? What granddaughter trip? And she about
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  Speaker 1: had a heart attack realizing what she had done. And
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  Speaker 1: she didn't invite my and so my girls were heartbroken, heartbroken.
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  Speaker 1: So I think that everybody may have different circumstances. To me,
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  Speaker 1: it was stupid of her, like, how could you have
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  Speaker 1: done that? This little boy that we saw in the video,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, how could you do that?
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  Speaker 2: Not only was it that the cousins, this is the
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  Speaker 2: grandparents gave Christmas gifts. And not only did his cousins
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  Speaker 2: get more from the grandparents, that got better quality, better gifts.
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  Speaker 2: He got just one or two and it wasn't anything.
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  Speaker 2: And the whole time he hear his mom saying it's okay,
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  Speaker 2: I know, it's okay. He said, just be grateful for
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  Speaker 2: what you have and he's and she's rocking him, and
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  Speaker 2: he's going, I'm really trying. He looked at nine years old,
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  Speaker 2: I'm really trying to be grateful. It killed me. I
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  Speaker 2: showed Kevin. I said, what would you do? What would
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  Speaker 2: you do? And he said, I don't know if we could,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if i'd want to go back to
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  Speaker 2: my parents' house if this is how they treated my children, right,
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  Speaker 2: And I said, I know somebody where the grandmother treated
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  Speaker 2: the granddaughter differently than the grandsons, like they got the
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  Speaker 2: cool toys. She would go to a flea market and
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  Speaker 2: get her granddaughter, you know, book or something. And that
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  Speaker 2: mother decided, you know what, you know, actually it was
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  Speaker 2: her husband, because it was his parents. He said to
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  Speaker 2: his parents, instead of like shunning them or saying we're
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  Speaker 2: not going to don't give us any present. Don't do
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  Speaker 2: presents for any of my children, you know what, don't
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  Speaker 2: do presents for any of them because you got this
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  Speaker 2: one from the flea market, which is fine, it's a
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  Speaker 2: great book, but it might have hurt feelings. And so
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  Speaker 2: they continued that loving relationship with their grandparents, so it
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  Speaker 2: didn't break apart that bond and So I was telling
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  Speaker 2: Kevin about it, and he was like, I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if I could do that because you're so hurt for
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  Speaker 2: your child. You're thinking, how can my parents show such
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  Speaker 2: love for this group of grandkids and then basically say
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  Speaker 2: you're not as worthy. You know, it broke my heart
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  Speaker 2: to you when I saw heart.
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  Speaker 1: It makes me think it's just a lack of awareness
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  Speaker 1: as well. I think about us growing up. So we
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  Speaker 1: had a cousin and they did very well. She's the
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  Speaker 1: only child. We spent Christmases. They spent every Christmas with us.
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  Speaker 1: Christmas morning comes along, Sam leaves his gifts out, and
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  Speaker 1: that cousin got a lot more stuff than we did
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  Speaker 1: from Senna, And I remember it wasn't we didn't say anything.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't a conversation with our parents, but it was felt.
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  Speaker 1: I remember feeling like, wow, it must be nice to
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  Speaker 1: get jewelry and this and that. But never would I
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  Speaker 1: have wanted them to not come for exactly, because that's
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  Speaker 1: what that's what mattered the most. So to me, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: and then happens to us we go for Christmas to Montana, Well,
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  Speaker 1: those cousins get different. They get more books and things
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  Speaker 1: like that we had toys. So to me, it's the
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  Speaker 1: awareness like, oh, sorry, Mike, we can't give these to
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  Speaker 1: our children on Christmas more day, not today, so we
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  Speaker 1: need to keep it all pretty much relative to each other.
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  Speaker 1: To me, that's when you have awareness. And so I
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  Speaker 1: think what we what we watched was a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people well just not have awareness.
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  Speaker 2: And not only that, I mean then it was like
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  Speaker 2: when you grew up, that aunt of the cousin said,
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  Speaker 2: y'all had siblings. This is why we came to y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't give her any more siblings, so we were
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  Speaker 2: trying to make her happy this way. When y'all had
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  Speaker 2: what we all wanted, which is having the siblings and
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  Speaker 2: all of you together on Christmas. Well and that's I.
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  Speaker 1: Mean, that's kind of the way I see some of this.
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  Speaker 2: You know, if.
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  Speaker 1: There may be a cousin that receives something that you
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  Speaker 1: didn't receive, but maybe that was what they needed, right,
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  Speaker 1: and that wasn't so what I need. I mean, you
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  Speaker 1: can look at it and you go, oh, wait, wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: it have been nice to have that? But then you go, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: well maybe that's not what I needed at the time either.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe they probably should have been a conversation with parents.
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  Speaker 1: You know, if a parent you know hindsight of course,
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  Speaker 1: you know, seeing the situation. That's a good building persons.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that's a good talking point that you can
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  Speaker 1: have with your kids that makes them feel better about it.
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  Speaker 1: Like that little boy that our heart was broken over,
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  Speaker 1: that would have been a good conversation for his mother
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  Speaker 1: to have with him later.
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  Speaker 2: It's just sometimes it's hard to it's.
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  Speaker 1: Just hard to be in the moment it is. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: Turn it out of them, can't really? Brothers, and thank
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  Speaker 2: you so much, thank you,