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What is 'The Narcissists' Prayer?" · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What's going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're talking about the narcissist prayer.
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  Yeah, I seen this thing called the narcissist prayer online
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  that people keep sending to me to the lately.
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  Is this true? You should react to it.
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  So that's what we're doing today, y'all?
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  We're reacting to the narcissist prayer and I'm going to put it
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  here on the screen for you to take a look at right here so you
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  can read it before I, you know, before I go along with it or
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  whatnot. But the narcissist prayer is by
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  a woman named Dana Craig. I'm not certain who Dana Craig
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  is, but all credit to Dana Craig for the narcissist prayer.
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  It goes as follows. The narcissist prayer by Dana
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  Craig. That didn't happen.
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  And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
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  And if it was, that's not a big deal.
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  And if it is, that's not my fault.
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  And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
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  Amen. And I woman as well.
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  That's that's it right there in the crux.
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  You can Google the narcissist pray if you want to, but that's
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  in the crux of it. Like that's the full thing right
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  there. It's literally about
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  narcissistic people, toxic people, not taking
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  accountability for anything that they do, right?
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  Not taking, not taking blame or accountability for anything and
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  everything that happens to them, around them, and to other people
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  as well, right? If you break it down line by
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  line, it says that didn't happen.
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  So the first sentence of it is them trying to distort reality
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  and deny it right there. The first sentence is kind of
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  like, oh, like it's kind of like opening the gas container for
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  the gas lighting to happen, right?
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  For the gas lighting to go full steam ahead.
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  This is what happens at first they open the container up and
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  now they're giving you a whiff of it like here, smell the gas.
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  You like you looking like a doofy from a scary movie like 38
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  third. So that didn't happen.
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  It opens up with gaslighting off the RIP off the RIP gaslighting.
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  No, no buffer. And then it says and if it did
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  happen, it wasn't that bad. So now they're trying to
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  invalidate you. So when the gaslighting doesn't
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  work in this prayer, when the gaslighting doesn't work, they
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  try to make it seem like they try to minimize your
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  experiences, to make it seem like you're going crazy, to make
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  it seem like you're overreacting right now, to make it seem like
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  you're too sensitive or you, you, you, you feel too much,
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  you, you, you too involved with your feelings as opposed to not
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  being involved with your feelings.
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  This is your fault. This is not my fault.
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  This is what goes on. This is what this is what
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  happens. So it wasn't that bad.
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  Like stop complaining. And this right here when they
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  say it wasn't that bad to you, they could also start saying
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  things that they have been through that is worse than what
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  you were going through right now, worse than what they did.
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  If it did happen right, they just start going, what about
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  what you did? What about what happened to me
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  when I was little? I know you had a bad childhood,
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  but my childhood wasn't wasn't peachy Peaches and cream either.
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  I had a bad childhood too. So these here had complaints.
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  That's a horrible, you know, And the next line says, and if it
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  was that bad, it's not that big a deal.
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  Now you blowing it out of proportion?
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  Yeah, it might have. Yeah, I might have.
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  Yeah, I might have crashed the car while sticking my ass out
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  the window, twerking, twerking these narcissistic cheeks,
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  right. I might have been twerking on
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  the narcissistic cheeks trying to drive the car.
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  And I turned it and flipped the car.
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  Yeah, I tried to say it wasn't that bad, but yeah, now we don't
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  have a car. Now we don't have a car.
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  But guess what? We both have legs.
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  You have legs. We can walk.
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  You can walk. We can walk together.
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  There's no need. I used to say we can both walk
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  together. This doesn't have to be a
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  different way. You see what I'm saying?
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  Yeah. I was sticking the ass out the
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  window. Twerking the narcissistic cheeks
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  is crazy. Sorry.
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  Then it goes. And if it was that big of a
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  deal, it's not my fault. Yo, I'm twerking for money.
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  Like if we, if you had a job and you worked and I didn't have to
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  pay all the bills, I wouldn't have to twerk my ass out the
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  window on the highway for, for social media content to try to
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  go viral. I wouldn't have to do that.
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  I have to do that because of you.
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  You see where we're going here. I have to do this type of stuff
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  because of you, not because of anything that I've done.
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  It's your fault. It's not my fault.
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  Like I'm trying to think of ways to come up with money for us,
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  for you to spend. And that's the first thing I
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  could do was twerking. I'm sorry.
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  I'm gonna think of a different example to say the next the last
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  line it says and if it was my fault, I didn't mean it.
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  I didn't mean to wreck the car. Yeah, it was my fault for
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  driving and twerking out the window.
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  But I didn't mean to wreck the. But you think I wanted this to
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  happen? You think I wanted to wreck the
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  car? That's my car.
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  Yes, I have legs. Yes, I can walk.
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  Yes, I can ride a motorized scooter.
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  Yes, I can do all of that. But I everything I wanted to
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  wreck the car to do all of that. No, I didn't mean to do that,
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  babe. I didn't mean to stick my.
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  I just somebody told somebody said, you know what, you got a
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  nice ass twerk that thing. And I was like, OK, I don't want
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  to wreck my car. I didn't mean to wreck the car,
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  baby. I didn't mean to ruin our lives.
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  I know what I'll yeah, I know what I'll sit there.
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  I know I have. Sorry, sorry.
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  I apologize. And the last line of the prayer
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  says, and if I did mean it, you deserved it.
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  So at the end, when when nothing else fail, when the gas lighting
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  doesn't work, when the minimizing your experiences
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  doesn't work, Wendy's trying to make it seem like it wasn't a
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  big deal doesn't work. When they try to blame the Fleck
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  doesn't work when they try to just get away from
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  accountability, when they say I didn't mean it, I'm sorry.
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  When all that doesn't work, they just go to the point where you
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  deserved it. Like you, I don't know how to
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  twerk in the ass with the car wrecking the car you deserve,
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  but you know you well you don't deserve to have a car because
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  you only reason you had a car because of me, so you didn't
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  deserve it in the first place. So now narcissists get like,
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  when all else fails, pretty much what the narcissist for areas is
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  a narcissist or Tyson person throwing things at the wall
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  hoping that something sticks right?
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  They are hoping that something that they say sticks and when
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  nothing works, they try something else and they try
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  something else. When none of that works.
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  A lot of times you'll just get over narcissistic grades where
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  they'll just go to, they'll just go to blaming you for everything
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  that's going on. They'll just go to blaming you
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  for everything that's happening. They'll just go to just, hey,
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  you deserve this. I don't care.
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  They then they'll start getting mad.
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  Then they'll give you the solid treatment.
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  They start mixing that type of stuff in as well.
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  So this is what goes on with a lot of narcissistic people in
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  these circumstances. It's not always going to end
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  like this, but when it comes to the narcissist prayer or
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  whatever, it really is just the narcissist cycle of making
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  things make sense, to try to avoid accountability, to throw
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  things at the wall, hoping that something sticks.
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  Because every time you talk to a narcissist, you don't always go
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  through every single one of these, right?
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  You, you might just get to the point where they just gas like
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  you say that didn't happen and then it just ends there.
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  But then they go from gaslighting to manipulation to
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  minimizing to devaluation, to just blaming you to the skirting
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  accountability for everything. So not every single thing in the
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  situation with a narcissist is going to work, but they're going
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  to try to get something to work because this is how narcissist
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  minds work. The all of this is about
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  avoiding accountability. All of this is about just trying
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  to make sense of everything else.
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  That's what all of this means to a narcissist or to a tax person.
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  Like so the narcissist prayer, it's true, it's funny, y'all?
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  It is funny when you look at it from the crux cause a lot of
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  people send it to me and a lot of people are reacting to the, a
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  lot of people do reaction videos to the narcissist prayer and
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  they're laughing because it's crazy, but it's true.
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  That's the how narcissist mind works.
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  It's a good way of putting it and it a good way of like making
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  it, you know, making the information more digestible for
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  more people in that circumstance, in that situation
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  right there, y'all. So anyway, y'all, this episode's
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  been short and sweet. I ain't making the 10 minutes
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