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Season 4 - Episode 235 - Moving yourself when you’re stalled · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the porch.
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  We are talking today about what you do when you don't want to do
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  what you need to do. OK, now that you can put any
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  subject into this, if it's working out, if it's starting
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  that book you always wanted to write, if it's looking for the
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  new job, if it's updating your LinkedIn, I don't care what the
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  subject is. It's what do you do when you
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  know you need to do it and you don't want to do it?
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  Like how do you handle that? Well, first of all, you have to
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  go back and ask yourself, why do I need to do this?
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  Like why am I telling myself that I need to do this?
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  Is it something that's real? Is it something that someone
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  else is putting on me? Is it that someone over you?
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  Like let's say you're in a company and your boss says, hey,
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  I want you to go out there and I want you to really make your
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  LinkedIn something. I need you to get on there and
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  do it. And you just don't like social
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  media and you don't want to do it.
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  So why do you have to do it? And you need clarity on this
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  because it, you have to have an anchor back to set.
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  What's the reason I want to do this?
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  So there, there are lots of and lots of situations that come up
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  in the world with my clients and me included that I go to my
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  coach and I say, listen, I, I am not a fan of doing certain
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  things on social media. My LinkedIn was one of them.
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  I've talked about that on here before.
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  And I, I knew I needed to do it. I, if I want to get out and I
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  want to do different things, I need to do it.
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  I have to be a big girl, put my big girl pants on and get up and
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  freaking do it. And I put it off and I put it
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  off. And then I was like, you know
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  what? When I didn't feel well over the
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  last couple weeks, I was like, that's it.
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  I'm doing it. And I hunkered down and I worked
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  on it with one of my clients who's a LinkedIn specialist.
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  And I just hunkered down and I was like, no, all the options
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  are done. We're doing it now.
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  And I and I burned the boats in my head.
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  And I like to use that metaphor because I think that that's such
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  an important thing to recognize. I'm not giving myself a way out.
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  I said blank, blank, blank. And this is what I'm going to do
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  because, because this is the most important part, because I
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  don't want to lie to myself. There is nothing worse in the
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  world than lying to yourself. Because if you set that tone of
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  lying to yourself, guess what happens?
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  Other people are open to lying to you.
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  That's just the way it works. When you open up that can of
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  worms and you say, OK, it's OK if I tell myself this and then I
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  don't do it, guess what? That makes it OK energetically
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  for other people to lie to you, which we none of us like, none
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  of us like it. So I work really hard within
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  myself to say, Nope, I said it, I'm going to do it.
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  I want to be true to my word. I want to focus on it.
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  And when I miss something for whatever reason, it really
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  bothers me and I will apologize. I will own it.
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  I will say I'm sorry and I will fix it because I don't like to
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  let the balls drop. It's, and it's not something
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  like, oh, she's OCD and give me a label on it.
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  No, it's just, it's an integrity thing.
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  It's it's basic in my head that if I say it, I want to stick to
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  it the best I can. Am I going to screw up?
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  Of course. Because I'm human and I have
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  emotions and sometimes things get in the way and sometimes you
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  get sick and sometimes stuff happened.
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  But I do, I work at this. I want to get over that 90% mark
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  of nailing it. So when I say I'm going to do
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  something, I'm going to do it. And this LinkedIn thing was a
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  big thing for me. Now, obviously filming is
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  another big thing for me. And I was basically wiped out
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  for five weeks straight. Monday.
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  Yesterday was the first day I felt like I had my normal energy
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  back and I, I think I still don't have it at it at its peak,
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  but it's way better than what it was.
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  But I still feel like more energized.
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  So I mean, I wasn't even walking because of it, but it like it,
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  it drained me to the point where I was missing the mark on things
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  and I had to just give myself a little bit of a break and say,
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  OK, now I've got to get back to the filming thing.
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  But guess what I did? I broke the pattern of
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  constantly having the camera with me and just doing shorts
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  and filming. So now I have to build that
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  habit back up. Am I mad at myself?
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  No, that's useless. I'm not going to be mad at
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  myself. But I did make a commitment that
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  I was going to continue to do it.
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  So I've got to pick that back up.
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  And now I've said, OK, I'm burning those boats.
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  I'm like, Nope, this is the week you're doing it.
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  The camera, all the my kitchen counter is covered in camera
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  equipment right now because I've got to force myself to go out
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  there and do it. I've got a lot of little things
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  that I want to cover with it, and I'm just going to force
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  myself to say, Nope, you do you when you lie to yourself.
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  And that's how I do it. When I say I force myself,
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  people say, well, how do you force yourself?
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  It's by asking yourself a better question.
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  You have to, you can't just like shove yourself.
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  You have to use questions to motivate yourself.
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  And my question to motivate myself is, do you lie to
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  yourself? The answer's no.
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  OK, then get your ass moving. It's that simple.
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  And then I stop and I do it because I don't want to lie to
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  myself. So get your question, understand
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  what do you do? This is how you do it.
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  And you ask yourself a better question, but you stop cutting
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  yourself slack and ask that damn question.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.