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No Spirals This Time · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 1: Scrub dub dub in the tub ub dub Tonya.
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  Speaker 2: This is like the fourth time she's had a tune
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  Speaker 2: for us.
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  Speaker 3: He's in a singing mood.
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  Speaker 1: Today, that's right. Why just feeling the vibes.
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  Speaker 2: The vibes are high.
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  Speaker 1: The vibes are high. I'm on vacation.
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  Speaker 2: Oh you are?
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, where are you right now? Let me tell
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  Speaker 1: you something. I am present. I'm gonna focus the next
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  Speaker 1: seven days about being present in the moment.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, so that means what She's not sure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not sure. But like one of the big
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  Speaker 1: things is at night, I always go through like the
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  Speaker 1: laundry list of the next day. Like I'm always like
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  Speaker 1: hyper focused on like the next day and like the
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  Speaker 1: to do list and stuff, and that's just going to
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  Speaker 1: go out the window because you're off, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: So you don't have a to do list, right, No,
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  Speaker 2: Like when.
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  Speaker 1: You're off, you're not really off, you know, like Sonny
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  Speaker 1: has to go to the vets and you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean, all those little things on vacation, I am
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  Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah, I'm just saying, like, mentally, I want
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  Speaker 1: to just be like free bird.
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  Speaker 2: Where are you on vacation?
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  Speaker 1: That's to be determined.
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  Speaker 2: You're kidding me.
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  Speaker 1: A little. Young young chicks just picking up and going
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  Speaker 1: for the.
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  Speaker 2: Where this energy? This time?
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  Speaker 3: We don't know where you're going.
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  Speaker 1: To be, So to be fair, we did not get
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  Speaker 1: our vacation schedule from Ryan about a week ago, so
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  Speaker 1: I've had about a week to figure it out. So
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  Speaker 1: that's kind of where we're at. And I was sick
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  Speaker 1: and was down, and so that's just where we are.
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  Speaker 1: It is Becka Energy.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm ember, what are the options.
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  Speaker 3: It's globe, Yeah, I.
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  Speaker 1: Mean globe, spin, spin the what are those things going?
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to find something that gives me a random
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  Speaker 3: location in the world.
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  Speaker 1: In the Globe's let's see.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, what does that mean?
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  Speaker 1: You know you never know what was keeping you on
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  Speaker 1: your toes.
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  Speaker 2: I'll just check your location.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, you have my location. You never check my location.
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  Speaker 2: That's kind of sad you don't check mine either.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. I checked it on the way in
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  Speaker 1: today when I was on the one on one to
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  Speaker 1: see how far back you were and you hadn't left
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  Speaker 1: your house.
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  Speaker 2: Yet but aside, you literally never use it. You're always
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  Speaker 2: like where are you, who are you with? What are
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  Speaker 2: you doing? And I'm like, check the location.
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  Speaker 1: Well, the location doesn't tell me who you're with.
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  Speaker 2: Which is fine, you don't need to.
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  Speaker 1: Which that's a feature. I would like them to add,
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  Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, you won't.
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  Speaker 2: Get removed so bad.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently snapchat has that feature.
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  Speaker 3: Well they have snap maps.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, snap maps.
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  Speaker 3: Multiple people you follow it together, you'd be able to see.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and like apparently a lot of kids feel left
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  Speaker 1: out from it.
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  Speaker 3: To generate a random place, and this is where you'll go.
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  Speaker 3: Here we go, Oh, Spain in Spain, In Spain, here's
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  Speaker 3: another one. France.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, what are the contenders right now?
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  Speaker 1: Greece in Hawaii?
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  Speaker 2: Oh wow?
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  Speaker 1: Directions yes, correct, correct, Just depends on how ambitious we're feeling,
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  Speaker 1: Like the day of no, no, no hopefully. Yeah, I've
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  Speaker 1: never done that before.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of like the same.
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  Speaker 1: True, I feel like Becca's done that before.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't, but I would love to m I added,
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  Speaker 2: as like a content content idea.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just show up to the airport and see what's
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  Speaker 1: available and then just go and go, but pack something
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  Speaker 1: that I could wear.
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  Speaker 2: You know, Greece and Hawaii probably are the same vibes,
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  Speaker 2: not vibes, same weather weather.
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  Speaker 1: Correct.
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  Speaker 3: The Scandinavian Airlines announced recently that you can pay like
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  Speaker 3: a thousand bucks or something like that and they'm just
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  Speaker 3: going to send you somewhere and you won't know until
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  Speaker 3: you're on the plane.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I was gonna say, I feel like I've
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  Speaker 1: heard about this.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's I don't know a lot of people.
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  Speaker 1: That's so crazy.
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  Speaker 2: There's a lot of a lot of adventurers out there.
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  Speaker 4: What if you do it? It's like Branson, Missouri.
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  Speaker 3: Like you're, well, it's the Vegas of the Midwest.
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  Speaker 4: That's right here.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, is that really what it is?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Oh wow yeah wow.
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  Speaker 2: No, that's not somewhere I necessarily want to go. But
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  Speaker 2: that's a very adventurous spirit to do that. I don't
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  Speaker 2: even think I would like to do that really. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It feels like really rolling the dice.
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  Speaker 2: I like the idea of packing for something for a
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  Speaker 2: type of weather and then getting to the airport and
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  Speaker 2: being like we're going here, but knowing that I have
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  Speaker 2: all the things I need.
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  Speaker 1: That's so I'll tell Haley that would you like me
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  Speaker 1: to pass that message along.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if she would like that.
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, no, she would know, she would plan it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, that's fine. I'll let her know. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I get to see her tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, finally today I.
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  Speaker 2: Did I did you guys? Three weeks?
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  Speaker 3: Did you do it? Because we don't know. We only
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  Speaker 3: see you here for all we know. You're in a
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  Speaker 3: fetal position.
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  Speaker 1: The other twenty vertical, horizontal, I.
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  Speaker 2: Would say, stretched out and tall?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah whatever, yeah yeah, like she's on stilts. She's walking
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  Speaker 1: around like Orange County still.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, no spirals this time. Proud of you, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we made it.
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  Speaker 2: We did it, We did it, Joe. Yeah. So I'm
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  Speaker 2: going up tomorrow to see her. It's just for the
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  Speaker 2: weekend and then she'll be back. She has a week
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  Speaker 2: and then she'll be back the next week.
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  Speaker 1: Oh so that's it. Like we're the line.
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  Speaker 2: Let's say we're on the mile twenty twenty three of
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  Speaker 2: a marathon. My wait, it's twenty six point two.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, okay, it's like.
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  Speaker 2: The end, like you're you're struggling, but you know you're
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  Speaker 2: gonna make it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So I leave tomorrow, I gotta get Phoebe
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  Speaker 2: to Newport with my sister.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, all the things.
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  Speaker 2: What's to do today?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, busy gal busy gal in the moon booked and
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  Speaker 1: busy booked him, busy all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's a little bit about me.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know who I saw yesterday. And I have
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  Speaker 1: to tell you, I like, I think I'm maturing quite
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  Speaker 1: nicely in my age. As I'm aging, I feel as
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  Speaker 1: though things I would have done when I was, you know,
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  Speaker 1: twenty five, I can hold back on in my elder years.
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  Speaker 2: So I have no idea what what's coming out of
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  Speaker 2: your mouth right now?
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  Speaker 1: I saw Ariono Mattox in the flesh.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, God, that's a big one.
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  Speaker 1: It's a big one. And I did not harass her.
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  Speaker 1: I did not even go up to her. She was
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  Speaker 1: busy working, and I let her be and I made
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  Speaker 1: eye contact with her. I could have easily been.
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  Speaker 3: Like, ah, old timey would have made that noise.
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  Speaker 1: Correct. So I'm glad you asked. She has a sandwich shop.
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  Speaker 1: What's it called?
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  Speaker 4: Something about her?
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  Speaker 1: Something about her? It's right next to my hair salon, Tawny.
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  Speaker 1: Tawny's hair salon is right next door, and so I
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  Speaker 1: was getting my hair done and there was a line
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  Speaker 1: down the street as there always is, and my friend
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  Speaker 1: from TMZ actually was there, like standing there, and she
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  Speaker 1: ran over because I was like feeding the meter and
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  Speaker 1: she said, hey, like talking to me, and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: what are you doing here? She's like, oh, arian is
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  Speaker 1: here all day? Seth Rogan was just here and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, what a sight seeing And
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh cool. So I finished talking to
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  Speaker 1: her and then I walked was about to walk into
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  Speaker 1: the hair salon and I saw Ariana right there on
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  Speaker 1: the sidewalk. Wow. No, I made eye contact. I smiled.
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  Speaker 1: I think she could feel my energy that like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: a love Island stan and I commend her and thank
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  Speaker 1: her for her service this season. And that's all. I
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  Speaker 1: just needed the eye contact.
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  Speaker 2: That's so interesting because I feel like you'd at least
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  Speaker 2: be like I love like I loved this season great,
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  Speaker 2: like it was amazing or something.
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  Speaker 1: So I probably I was late for my hair appointment,
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  Speaker 1: so I was stressed, just trying to fly in there
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  Speaker 1: as that quickly as possible. And I thought I could
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  Speaker 1: sense her energy was like I need to get back
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  Speaker 1: into my sandwich Shop. Right, but that's a conversation. I'll
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  Speaker 1: never know how it was. It gone.
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  Speaker 4: Isn't she studying though?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? And she's much like smaller than I thought everyone is,
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  Speaker 1: I know, but I guess like I've never watched an
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  Speaker 1: episode of Bander Pump Rules, but on Love Island she
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  Speaker 1: looks very tall. She looks like six foot three.
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  Speaker 4: She gets hosted American Top forty last year, and I
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  Speaker 4: have video on my Instagram of her saying that she
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  Speaker 4: and I are best friends, and.
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  Speaker 1: She's much like, yeah, she's like I don't even I
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  Speaker 1: don't really know how tall she is, but.
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  Speaker 4: She's very short. Yeah, and yeah she's the best. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you love very animatic?
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  Speaker 3: What an arc? What a what a wife? What a career?
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  Speaker 3: I know, like she gets a reality and.
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  Speaker 1: Like what a blessed though, because that Tom Sandoval was
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  Speaker 1: such a.
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  Speaker 3: And then that all happens, which makes her a household
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  Speaker 3: name for all the wrong reasons. And now she's the
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  Speaker 3: host like the number one show on television, Like that's
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  Speaker 3: just not an arc anybody's ever.
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  Speaker 1: And the sandwich Shop, that's like crushing it. And she
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  Speaker 1: was on Broadway and she's on Broadway on Broadway. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she's interesting, winning.
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  Speaker 2: She keeps winning.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she goes to show you just you might be
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  Speaker 1: down today. You might be down today, but you can
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  Speaker 1: be up tomorrow. You might be crying today, but you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna be thriving tomorrow. You might be down in the
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  Speaker 1: dumps today, not wanting to get out of bed, and
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna be on Broadway tomorrow. M metaphoric metaphoric Broadway.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. It goes to show the town.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, exactly, the sandwich of the stars.
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  Speaker 4: Mmmm, the toasted sub of the town.
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  Speaker 1: Well, this reminds me. Actually, it's been a full week
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  Speaker 1: without Love Island. Yes, and I've been missing them. So
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  Speaker 1: I wrote a poem.
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  Speaker 2: But they're all on social media.
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  Speaker 1: Now, You're like, it's different, Oh, they're They're more polished
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  Speaker 1: on Instagram. It's not the raw, unvarnished sims that I'm
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  Speaker 1: used to. Yeah, it's a filtered version of them, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Yeah, I wrote a.
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  Speaker 3: Poem perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Who hasn't among us written a poem about a TV show?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: So I wanted to read that to you all. Should
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  Speaker 1: I do when we come back?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: I love it?
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  Speaker 2: Wow, Tony a great job.
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  Speaker 1: I've been waiting to get it right once.
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  Speaker 2: It was a good job.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, and we're back.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we're back. You have the floor.
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  Speaker 1: The floor is yours, floor is mine. Yeah, he said,
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  Speaker 1: Can I get just a quick intro? You can do
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  Speaker 1: like five seconds? Perfect? That's good, thank you. Okay, bade
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  Speaker 1: it down. Maybe it was that too long. I don't
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  Speaker 1: even know. Okay, risking it. Don't tell the authorities, scrubvers. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: are you ready? It's been a week without you, my
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  Speaker 1: dear good friends. I never thought we would get to
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: the end of hearing Kaylor scream, parad to Kendall acting
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  Speaker 1: like such a Karen and Nicole looking flawless every single day,
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: and Janey being perfect in every single way. It was
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  Speaker 1: a season where the women totally dominated the men. They
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: kind of were just accessories. They were just kens. It's
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: love Island, not like Island. So we don't put up
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  Speaker 1: with the lies. We may not have new episodes, but
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  Speaker 1: we will always have soul ties. So cheers to Leah,
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  Speaker 1: Serena and my down ass Bee live. Now, let's hope
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  Speaker 1: these men can be a little more decisive.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, Shakespeare, who honestly one of your best.
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  Speaker 1: It felt good and I wrote it weirdly fast.
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  Speaker 2: It was just waiting to be Yeah, it was like
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  Speaker 2: put down on paper on the phone.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's over. It's over.
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  Speaker 2: The reunion.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I have the reunion.
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  Speaker 2: So that's something to look forward to.
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  Speaker 1: And I have all of them on every podcastle We've
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  Speaker 1: got Rob or Leah and Call Her Daddy, We've got
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  Speaker 1: Taylor on by Al File File Files, fi Out, We've
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  Speaker 1: got who else is on other podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I haven't. I just see what I
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  Speaker 2: see on TikTok, which is I saw Rob's clips on
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  Speaker 2: which is funny because so he she asked him about Andrea, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: if they would get back together, and he kind of
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  Speaker 2: was like, we've talked, and he kind of is, doesn't
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  Speaker 2: say much, and then he goes, but she posted a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I noticed that, But I'm like, what is that about?
• 13:36
  Speaker 2: But that he wasn't into it. Yeah, well, I think
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  Speaker 2: he just thought she would like maybe was trying too
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  Speaker 2: hard to like stay relevant or something. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: So he gave him like the ache or something. Is
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  Speaker 2: kind of the impression I got.
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  Speaker 1: I feel bad because it's like, you get out of
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  Speaker 1: this villa, you're like you fall in love with someone,
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  Speaker 1: they're still in there and you come out.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, you feel like she fell in love with
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  Speaker 2: him in four days.
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  Speaker 1: I do, Yeah, you don't.
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  Speaker 2: I think she really liked him. I think she had
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  Speaker 2: a big crush on him.
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  Speaker 1: You don't think she fell in love. I think they
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  Speaker 1: were like in love with each other.
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  Speaker 2: No, I think they had really deep I think they
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  Speaker 2: liked each other and there was like an attraction. But
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  Speaker 2: I definitely don't feel like.
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  Speaker 1: It was love. Oh yikes.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, anyway, she gets off and she's like doing
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  Speaker 2: a lot of lives. She's posting about everything, like any
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  Speaker 2: any question asked, she's answering it.
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  Speaker 1: Really, how did I miss that?
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  Speaker 2: It was on TikTok oh? But you don't see.
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  Speaker 1: But I think I figured, like US Weekly or something
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  Speaker 1: would pick it up and write a story tomorrow. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: nobody said that my way.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Ginger chan interesting and so he just kind of referenced.
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  Speaker 2: He was like, she posted a lot, and then I
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  Speaker 2: guess she went and deleted everything. So that's on that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what will happen and beyond that, and
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  Speaker 2: then she's having Leo on yeah coming up maybe today
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  Speaker 2: or something. I don't know. And then Kaylor was on
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  Speaker 2: Vile Files and she made me sad because she was
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  Speaker 2: saying how she's never been in a healthy relationship. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like her last relationship was really toxic and he was
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  Speaker 2: really controlling and was like told her what she should
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  Speaker 2: wear and if she posted a photo and something sexy,
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  Speaker 2: she needed to tag him, like all this like really
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  Speaker 2: unhealthy stuff. And so she's like, I don't know how
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  Speaker 2: to be in a healthy relationship because that's the only
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  Speaker 2: relationship I've had.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like this ain't it.
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  Speaker 2: And she was like saying that Aaron's like cheers her on,
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  Speaker 2: like when she's sexy. He's like, that's my girl. And
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: so people in the comments were like, please watch the
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  Speaker 2: whole show, watch Cosso more and make your decisions.
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  Speaker 1: I know. And apparently they said that we didn't even
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: see the worst of it, oh shoot, which is alarming.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but so Julio, all I have to add because
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  Speaker 2: that's all I've seen, which seems to be more than you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you were writing poems.
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  Speaker 1: I was busy writing my poems. And honestly, it's been
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: like a whirlwind of a week because I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what to watch every night, Like I've watched. I watched
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  Speaker 1: Beetle Juice last night. That fine, great fan of the original.
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  Speaker 1: It was the original, the original one.
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  Speaker 3: So you're ready now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm ready ready, fully like remembered the old one.
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  Speaker 1: I liked it. Yeah, but I don't know what to watch.
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  Speaker 1: I guess Love is Blind is coming back early August.
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  Speaker 1: So that's exciting.
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  Speaker 3: Is it nice to have a little break from reality
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: dating shows?
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: No?
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: Okay, you know what's so funny? I read a book
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: this week, thank you?
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: How many pages?
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: I don't know, Like I don't truly know, you don't check.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: That's the first thing I look at when I open
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: a book. Why, just to see what I'm in for?
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: Like that will make her break if you're gonna readize.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: If I see something it's like a thousand pages, no, no, no, no,
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: if it's three hundred maybe yes, yes, yes.
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: It was called The Housemaid, so, oh my gosh, it
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: was so good. Okay. Did anyone in here read Verity
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: from Colleen Hoover? Okay? It had that same feel, it
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: was like, so it was such a fast read. I
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: could have read it in a day, but I couldn't
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: read it at night because it was kind of a
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: thriller and I get scared and then I have dreams
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: about it. But I forgot how much I love to read.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: It's so fun. It was so nice to not be
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: on my phone until so walk me through this. Okay reading?
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So you wake up in the morning and
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: you decide I'm going to read today. So what day
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: of the week is this?
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: What?
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: Like, what day was like when I started the book,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: or in general, the last time you read it. What
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: day of the week was it.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I started on Sunday, okay, because I went to the
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: park with Phoebe.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Okay, so you brought it to the park. Yeah. You
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: just sat on a blanket and you just read the
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: book for how many hours?
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: Like two and a half. I mean I wasn't reading
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: the whole time, but I would like, you know, go
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: walk with Phoebe, and then I would come back read
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: a few pages whatever. And then during the day, like
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: after breakfast, I'd sit and read for like twenty or
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: thirty minutes.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: So you eat your breakfast, you sit down the couch.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: Uh huh, you open your book. Yeah, and he just
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: read for twenty thirty minutes.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: And then yesterday I went to get a pedicure, and
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: it brought my book.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Brought your book to the manny petties a lot.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I didn't get a manicure, so I had my hands free.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: It was so nice.
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: You'd do a hard copy or a kindle or paperback.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: I was like, neither a paper back.
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: Oh sorry, I meant like a physical comic.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: However, I don't have a kindle because I like, see
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: I'm torn between this because I like the idea of
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: having access to get whatever any book.
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, on my face.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: Demanded basically the streaming of But.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: I love like I love like the feeling of a book,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: and I love not looking at a screen.
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's probably good for you. But I like my
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: iPad because I can keep a lot of books.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: No, I know it's sleek and fits in your pocket.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: I know they're so cute, the little kindles The Handmaid.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: The house Maid looks really good. I'm just reading it.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: Is that's nice.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: That's a nice so good even I was normally, if
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: I watch a show or read something or whatever, have
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: a story for Haley. If you know how there's certain
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: things where you or like you have a dream and
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: you tell someone and they were like, I don't really
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: care because I didn't live that.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: I was telling Haley about the book, and like midway
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: through explaining, I was like, she probably does not care
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: about this at all, but she kept asking questions and
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: she was like, wait, so so.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: And so did blah blah blah.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: And I was like, Okay, this is a good book
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: because in a good partner. But it's a good book
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: because it was engaging enough that she did care about
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: it even though she had no.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: You know that book that I started reading, I don't
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: even know at what point the magic oh doctor Seuss. No, No,
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: it was like the magic of the magic of making
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: things happen or whatever? Is that book I started a
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: long time ago?
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, did you finish?
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: No, it's still it's still on my bedside table.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Well that's a self help book, right.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but a good one, a really good one.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: I love self help books, but it does take me
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: longer to get through those because a lot of times,
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: like I've been trying to read The Artist's Way for
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: so long, because it's like basically helps anyone. It's not
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: just artists, but like any it just helps you unlock
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: your creativity. But it's like homework, Like you wake up
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: and you do an hour of like brain dumping every morning,
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: where you write for an hour just anything that comes
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: to mind.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, my, brain dumping. That's interesting. We should do that together.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: No, I've been wanting to do it because apparently it
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: is so incredible what it does for your brain when
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: you wake up and immediately write and you just keep
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: writing and anything that comes to your mind, it gets
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: like everything out and clears your brain and allows for
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: more space. It's really interesting. They do it in a
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: lot of classes that are study like I think marketing
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: and creative strategy and stuff.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: Did Becca get smarter? What's happening the book? You read?
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Something quite intelligent?
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I just my gosh, do you.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Just see my podcast in social media persona?
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: No, not me.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm I'm pretty deep.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: Well I know that, but like, who knew that you'd
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: learned about brain dumping? Those are the that's the term
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: that I wish you would share with me.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: Well, those are things that I actually learn on TikTok
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: as well.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: TikTok for me isn't just TikTok.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah. That's the problem with TikTok for me is that
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: sometimes it's such a like time suck and I'm like,
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: I just spent two hours watching what. But then there's
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: also informative things where I learn there's a lot of
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: information on like politics and stuff that you want tot
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: hear in like mainstream media. So I don't know, I
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: feel like there is there is a pro.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: To see my algorithm shows me like, no, it will
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: show me like recently, it showed me like a concoction
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: that I can make on the stove to keep bugs
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: out of my head house, and I'll like save it.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: But I'm like, I'm never going to make this concoction
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: with like cloves and like whatever, do you know what
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I mean? Spray it around the walls of my home.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: But the other one was the how you can get
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: mold in your dishwasher and how to prevent that from happening.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: So that sent me into a spiral of like We're
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: never using our dishwasher again.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: It's really pleasant over here.
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: For recommending books. I'm reading a book called Fantastic Land
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: right now that I'm really enjoying. It's about a hurricane
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: hitting a theme park in Florida and everyone is trapped
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: in the theme park because of the hurricane. All the
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: employees so it's like teenagers and young people are trapped
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: in there and all hell breaks loose. It's pretty dark,
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: but it's dark. Yeah dark.
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: This is on my kindle Wishless.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, in the middle of it, it's good. Wow.
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I had this moment where I was like, I love
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: the community of the book world because I'm reading at
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: the nail salon and the girl the receptionist, goes Becca
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: and I was like, who's save my name? I was
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: like yeah, and she goes, are you reading The Housemaid?
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: And I was like yes. So I was like it's
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: so good. She's like I just downloaded it. I'm on
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: chapter three or something, and I was like, oh, just wait.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Not just a community brings people.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: Together, kind of like Love Island exactly.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaking of Twitter, I mean there was no talk
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: of Twitter. Speaking of TikTok, there.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Is actually X now app Yeah what.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: X Either way, I don't have it, and that's not
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: what I was referring to. So there are these wedding
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: trends that people are over and my thing with a
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: wedding is you do what you want to do, Like
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: that's always.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: My opinion of your own drama.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, do what you want to do tradition, non tradition.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: I'm all about it. But I do like the idea
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: of talking about these trends and seeing what you think
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: of them as a future bride. All right, okay, so
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: this is let's see if Tanya would want to incorporate
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: these into her wedding.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: The grimace on your face makes me nervous.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: Very popular right now? Trends.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, acrylic signs, so like the signs that a welcome
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: sign when you enter it's it would say, like the yadagars.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: Right, So I don't think I want any signs. I
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: think I want no signs.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: No signage.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: No, like if there's things that I need you to know,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: I think it's going to be pretty self explanatory, like
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: sign these cards, find your name, is it at your table?
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: You know, restrooms, directional information, but not like big signs
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: with like your new last name.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Well, now that you put it that way, No, I
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: don't think I want signs.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: Okay, Well, no acrylic sign or just sign no signs.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: Sis.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: What about pompous grass arches and boho dresses like the
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Boho vi with like whimsicle you know the grass that
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: like blows in the Yeah, not for me, okay, no boho, No.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Boho like probably the opposite of boho.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: Okay. What about rustic like wood fall color flowers going
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: to be a fault?
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: No?
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, And like Mexico's, it's quite the opposite of rustic, right.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: I guess it depends on where you are.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: True, true, true?
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Okay. What about a donut wall, so instead of people
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: getting like a dessert cake, they would have a wall
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: of donuts like it's they're like on little hooks. Yeah.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I've seen a donut wall like a Halloween party and stuff.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: Uh not for me.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: Will you have a traditional wedding cake with the tears
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: and everything and a little couple on top? Uh?
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: I don't think so interesting?
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: We had a donut wall everybody?
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Did you really?
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: How do I not remember that?
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: I don't remember it either.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: Well, did you not get a donut?
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: I don't think I did.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: We didn't have it like we had a very small
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: wedding cake and then we gave everyone donuts.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: I think like we'll probably do some sort of dessert treat,
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: but I don't know that we're going to do a
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: traditional like full blown cake.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: Okay, what flavor cake would you do? If you did
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: a cake.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: Great question. I'm glad you asked. Maybe true to go
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: with like the Mexican Yes, okay, like a trace chase.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: What about little a truro wall and it's like they're
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: like in little like sleeves.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, something like that or true, We're going to lean
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: into the to the Mexico of it, you know what
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: I mean?
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, film cameras on tables, so like people will put
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: little cameras, disposable cameras, and then you develop, everyone takes
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: them and then it's their own little like photography session.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Then you'll get to keep them someone their pants.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's probably gonna be a no for me.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, Wow, I've never heard of that. Blurry film photos
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: you know?
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, you see my engagement photos where
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: like there's some blurry ones.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: I was like, yes, beige, white, tan esthetic.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: Yes, So I think I'm gonna have a color palette
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: for the has to choose from, Like if you would
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: like to be on theme, these are the kind of
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: the colors that are going to be the theme.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: It's risky.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Why are risky?
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: It's risky because let's say seventy five percent of the
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: people adhere to the theme and then twenty five say
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: I'm coming with what I've got the phote. It could
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: just look at there.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: There's gonna be some reserve seats in the back.
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: I've always I liked the idea of it esthetic, you know, themed,
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: but you just always have a few that won't participate.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're gonna be like pretty generic easy. I'm not
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: doing like canary yellow and you know what I mean,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Like it's not going to be anything crazy, but like, yeah,
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: I think a color palette is nice.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Okay, what about washed out pastel color schemes like sage
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: and mint green.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: I like that, but I don't think for me, Okay.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Mismatched bridesmaid stresses definitely like in terms of the style
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: of the dress.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm gonna give you all a color
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: and let you pick your.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: Dress, but we will send for approval correct champagne tower.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: So it's funny. I was actually reading that that's like
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: a very easy cost cutter, Like nobody drinks the champagne
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: from the champagne tower. It's such a waste of money.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: But I like the look of it, so I think, yeah.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, bridesmaid groomsmen entrance dances.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Definitely not. I don't want you guys to I don't
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: even want the like give it up for a bat
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: that's actually gonna be you. I might put you in
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: charge of that of what entrances. You might be the
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: em C.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: I'm the m C.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: I think that's pretty.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: Great because Ryan Secrets will be there, but you'll be
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: the EMC.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Well, no, he's going to be the officiant. That's different.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to like make him do the whole
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: night saying.
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: One of the better known mcs in America is going
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: to be there, and Becca's going.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: To be But what I don't want is I don't
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: want I don't want to put you on the spot
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: to like run into our whatever with like Robbie's brother
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: holding hands and like in the you know, Macarena.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: I think I would. I think it'd be fun if
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: all the girls walked in together and then all the
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: guys walked in together. Yeah, and then y'all walk in together.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: So it doesn't need to be like we have to
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: dance like it's your partner, David. Yeah, okay, are you
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: doing dances with your parents?
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: I think so? Okay, you know, I'm really torn on this.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: This is a Ali did not do this. She didn't
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: do a first dance or dance with the parents.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: So what we really want is we want the ceremony
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: to be like the ceremony and beautiful and and sweet
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: and like let's cry and and and then once that's over,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: we want it to be like party. Yeah, we want
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: to be like fun. We want everybody just to like dance.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: And I feel like if we do, you know, me
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: and my dad, Robbie and his mom, Me and Robbie,
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: that's a good twenty minutes of just us dancing on
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: the dance floor where everybody's just kind of gonna sit
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: there and maybe lose their buzz.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: You could do like a minute of a song, yeah,
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: if you wanted to incorporate that, if it is important
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: to you, you could do like a minute of a
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: special song and then you know that goes back quick.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe we'll do like a first dance.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: I love a first dance.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: I think we're definitely gonna do the first dance because
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: I really want, I really want, I really have like
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: a special moment in vision for that. Do you have
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: a song It's probably gonna be invisible string or Maren
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: Morris the Bones.
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: That's exactly what I was thinking. We've got one of
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: those two.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then I want one of my bridesmaids to
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: sing it.
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: Wow, I can say, well, sing I'm already taken for
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: the night. I gotta serve. Yeah yeah, yeah, Well hopefully
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: people can read between the lines on that one. Yeah,
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: Taylor Slick, that's right, Okay. And then well, Paulina and
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: I have to give a speech.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: I think we're going to do speeches at the rehearsal dinner,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: not the I don't think no speeches at the wedding. Wow,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: maybe one speech or two.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Maybe you're the parents.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I haven't really run this by Robbie,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: so we're going to figure that out. But I feel
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: like speeches every time i've I've I've listened to like
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: a myriad of speeches. I lose my buzz and she's
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: really worried about I'm really worried about I'm really worried
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: about people maintaining their buzz.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: What that strikes me is weird, but it's not part
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: of my.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: World, so really, I know, But like, you want to
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: keep the part of the.
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: Speeches.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't like the energy. I just want I
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: don't want the end energy to like, once you sit
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: down your seat for thirty minutes, you're done for. So
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I want to keep people up.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, no sitting in this wedding.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: No, no, you better get those heels polished off because
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: they're going to be put to work.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Well there you have it. Do we
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: have a date yet?
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: Not officially?
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: Are you down to options like two or three options?
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Okay, March is in there, marches in play, May is
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: in play, March in May, March in May, spring wedding.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: That's right, if you do it the same weekend of
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: Ali and jojok.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: You Actually I don't think I will because I think
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day weekend.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: Oh that y'all are looking up?
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: No, that's that's wasn't there's like May tenth, eleven something
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: like that.
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: No, theirs was the eighteenth.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Oh well so it feels like a lucky day.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: No, this is the fourteenth. Sorry, yeah, I think it's yeah,
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: JoJo's was the fourteenth. Alleys was the eighteenth?
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: Okay yeah, same same same area area.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Well, anyways, that's very exciting. Glad we got some insight
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: on the wedding. Finally, we're gonna take a break and
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: we have a dear bonya question, so we'll be right back. Tanya,
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: Who're going? She was like, you never talked about going
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: to Lallapalooza. What would you like to talk about it?
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, you've never gone before. It's a big days
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: ac festival. What are you doing? What are you wearing?
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: I'm going with.
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: The big one. I think, are you going with?
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Che Ley saved it for the end. I'm going with
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: Chase Bank Actually.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Okay, cool.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: I'm a Chase girl, me too, through and through since
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: high school?
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: Me too.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: My first ever car and so.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: Loyal high school. I think I got mine in college.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like right in that area. Anyways, So I'm going
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: with Chase and Ali's going with me, and we are going.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: I've never been, so I was like asking questions. I
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: don't know what the I'm assuming it's hot everywhere, but
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: I was curious about the humidity and apparently it's extremely
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: humid and muggy in Chicago.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: Really, and I.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: Asked if it was like Coachella, and they're like, it's
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: way more casual than Coachella.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it feels like chiller lots of walking, gonna bust
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: out the hookahs, no, no.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: No stuff. I like, will suffer through your beauty over
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: so much, the beauty over pain or what is it
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: you your beauty over comfort?
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: Yes, and I'm comfort over beauty yes.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Ali too. Yeah, it's a thing.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: It's a thing.
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I will sacrifice my feet.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: For the Look are you doing all four days?
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: No? Just Friday and No? Yeah, Friday and Saturday.
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: Are you excited to see? I have the good question?
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So the problem is the person I'm most
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: excited to see is on Thursday.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: So you're not gonna see Stallionparone chapelone.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Yes, on Friday and Saturday. Who are you excited to see?
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: Let me look at the lineup, because I well, I
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: had people, and then I realized that a lot of
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: them were on Thursday.
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: I would be excited to see The Killers on Saturday.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: That would be great.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: The Killers.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Killers are gonna be fun, that is Yeah.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna miss Blink one too.
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: And Melanie Martinez.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you know my my friend Dez was
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: on the voice with Melanie Martinez. Really yeah, well yeah,
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: so I'm excited to see Sis. Actually Friday Night. I
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: do love herne rap. Yeah, No, I'm excited. I think
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: it's gonna be a vibe like I'm this might be
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: the new festival that's on my doable of choice festival choice.
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, So I'm really excited. Still don't know what
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna wear, thank you see, but it'll be fun.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: I'm we'll see how I'm feeling after I choose beauty
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: over comfort.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: You should go to one of Juliana Ransick's restaurants in Chicago.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, just let me know which one.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Well, I think it's called our PM Steak.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember that when they promoted that when it
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: first opened.
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: All right, now, now that you don't have the line
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: up in front of you, we're going to play a game.
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: Oh I love it.
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: I'm going to give you an artist. Do you tell
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: me if this is an actual artist at Lallapaloos your
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: attending or an artist that we completely made up.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: I'll tell you one thing. I just looked at the
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: list and I didn't know a whole lot of them.
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: So here we go, real or made up? Post sex nachos?
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: Is that a real band or somebody we made up?
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: It feels made up.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: That is a real band. Bring Sunday at Oh.
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: You're gonna miss them anyway.
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm not going to see them unfortunately.
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: Next up, Chump Daddy.
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: It's giving made up.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: That is made up. Okay, Generous Dollop.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: That's giving made up.
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: Also made up, Papaul Rod, he feels real, real, very
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: good game. Medium build that feels real, that is real, legitimately,
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Maple Sticky.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go made up that is made.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: Good, very good. That's that's good. I think we're good.
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: Oh better than I thought.
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: Excellent that game.
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: Dear Bonya, Mark take it away.
• 37:48
  Speaker 4: Here we go.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: What's it dear bonya question? Everyone, let's see what our
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: answer is to this one. As a single, no kids,
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: thirty something, I found I'm struggling with loneliness and disconnection
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: from my friends. My friends all have kids. I have
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: lost connection with them. I love children, and I get
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: that balancing act, kids, family, work, et cetera. Can be
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: a lot. But how can I keep these friendships alive
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: if I invite them to my house? Well, I have
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: a small home that's not babyproofed. I can't invite myself
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: to their house. I've tried meeting up for a meal
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: out with small children. But I felt like my friends
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: were more stressed keeping up with the kids and keeping
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: them occupied than enjoying catching up. And it was soul crushing.
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: And it suggestions from those with no kids mark and
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: it suggestions as a parent. I don't mind seeing them less,
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: but at this point I'm seeing them once or twice
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: a year.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: This is interesting, yeah, because there's a part of me
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: that feels like that might be what you get out
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: of them is seeing them a couple times a year
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: where you have their full attention, especially if their kids
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: are young. Like I just think there's gonna be a
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: season of life where you're just not going to have
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: them like you used to. Yeah, And I think that
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: you'll get to point where y'all catch up and it
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: feels more like normal because the kids won't be as
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: like demanding of their attention and time. But there's also
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: this part of me that feels like you have friends
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: that will be in your life forever. But there's also
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: friends that are there for like a season, and that
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: you meet at a time where you really needed them.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: And I think this might be a season where you
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: have new people come into your life that are on
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: the same page as you and can give you the
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: same amount of energy and time that you can give them.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: And I don't think your friends can do that for
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: you right now.
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's weird. I mean I think it's
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: hard because I think everybody deals with it in a
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: different way. I have friends who have had kids and
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: fully just fallen off the face of the earth, like
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: they are just completely mia and like that's fine, you
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like that's what they're choosing to do,
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: and like you have to just give people grace to
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: just do what they need to do. There's only so
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: much you can say, Hey, can we get a meal together,
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Hey can we make some time? You know what I
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: mean before you get the hint, right. But then I
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: also have people that I know that had kids and
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: are like very present and they just like bring the
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: kid and then can still be fully engaged in conversation.
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: And so I think if, like if your friends are
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: the kind that are not really coming around making plans,
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: I think maybe Becka's advice is right, and like maybe
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: you should make some new friends who are in the
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: same season of life as you are.
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I I realize that all of my friends.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: I feel like y'all are all going to be pregnant
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: and going into this like new season of life at
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: the same time. But I have other and I'm gonna
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: be so excited to be a part of that with y'all.
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: But I know that things will change, you know, like
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: there will be a difference in like your availability and
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: time and like capacity. And so it's like knowing that
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: I have friends that are in the same season of
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: life as me also brings me comfort knowing that, like,
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: once that season happens, I'm not going to be like,
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: where are my friends? I don't have this can anymore,
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: because it's just gonna be a shift.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think like it was already a shift
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: for me because I have two step kids, and so
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: when we have fifty to fifty percent custody of the kids,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: and when we have them, we try to be very
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: present and with them on the nights that we have them,
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: so I try not to like make plans, So that
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: has already kind of shifted my time and my availability.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: So I kind of already have like a little bit
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: of a taste of it. But I do feel like
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: a baby is like a whole nother yea ballgame.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: I was gonna ask Mark because I feel like Mark
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: and Easton. I feel like Easton. You probably have friends
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: who have had children and have felt that shift, and
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: then you, as the other side of things, have the
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: kids and have probably watched the shift in like your
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: time and the energy at some point. So I'm curious
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: about you guys.
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: So first, because I'm quick, I got good news and
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: bad news. The bad news is this is a losing battle.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: The good news is it's not going to last until
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: the kids are eighteen. This is only gonna last for
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: a couple of years. When the kids are like three
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: or four, it's gonna be a lot easier to schedule
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: time with them, especially once they start school. Once they
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: start school, then then they might be more free for
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: lunches and that sort of thing. But for right now,
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: I don't think this is happening. And the other bad
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: news is our best friends lived in the valley and
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: so we rarely saw them because we're out one thousand
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: oaks and it was a good forty minutes to an
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: hour drive to go see them. Finally they moved out
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: by us, like, oh, finally we get to see you.
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: We still see them maybe two three times a year.
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: So yeah, you're just super busy and that's what happens,
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: and everything else falls by the wayside. So I don't
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: have a rosy picture for you, but like it better
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: than it is now once the kids start school.
• 42:40
  Speaker 4: I mean, we definitely have a lot of our friends
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: are having kids right now and we still hang out
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: with them. We see them less and that's fine, and
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: you know, we try to make ourselves available to We'll
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: go meet them at a park or something so they
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: can bring the little brats with them if they want to.
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: I'm just kidding. I love children. We used to, uh
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: we would go see all the Marvel movies and like
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: a big group, and everyone in that group has started
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: having kids. And now it's like just Alison and I
• 43:09
  Speaker 4: and one of the couples. We're going to see Deadpool
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: with the wife like she's coming and the husband's staying
• 43:15
  Speaker 4: home with the child. So you know, just changes and
• 43:19
  Speaker 4: it's fine, and I don't like, we don't. This is
• 43:21
  Speaker 4: what they want to do, you know, so I don't
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: hold it against them. And whenever they want to hang
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: out and down to hang out.
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: That's how I feel. I was going to say, don't
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: have resentment towards them because they're living their life. They're
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: choosing the path that they wanted, which was to create
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: a family, and it just it's hard. It's like all
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: of a sudden, they're in charge of keeping this tiny
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: human alive and you know, alive, and it's a lot,
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: and they're tired, and it's like this new season.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: So I know it's so interesting though, because like it's
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: so you do. I base a lot of this stuff
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: off of what I see on Instagram and like the
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: moms that I follow on Instagram, like the new moms
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: with like newborns, and I'm like, oh it visually on
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: social media looks like the kids just like I don't
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: like along for the ride, you know what I mean?
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so like Brittany and Michael didn't miss
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: a beat. They like go everywhere with Kingston. We go
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: over there and play games like it's very much like they.
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: Right, there's like a couple months when you're like in
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: the trenches and then it's like they just bounce. They
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: just bounce back and I don't be bounced back.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it depends on the kids. Because also if I'm
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: going out with someone or and I want like quality
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: time and they're like, well, I have to bring the baby,
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: and the baby's like a nightmare and like like crying
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: and like screaming that I'm like, it will catch up
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: another time, you know what I'm saying.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I know that's hard.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: Because moms need that outlet as well. But I think
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: if you're a friend and you're looking for that connection
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: with your friend and you're not, like it's said, it's
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: soul crushing. I can't imagine waiting and then you finally
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: get that time with your friend and it's like they
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: can't even pay attention to you, but they're having to
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: give their you know. Yeah, I think it's just hard.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: So I think you find people that are in the
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: same season as you, because I think you're going to
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: crave that quality time and attention that you give a friendship,
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: and I don't think you're gonna get it from your
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: friends who have like little babies right now.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: Slow pulp real band or made up band?
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: Slow pulps Pul's real? It is real?
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: Twenty four Roads.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: To Tuesday, Oh, that's for sure real.
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: That's made up? Okay, water made up?
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: Probably I'm gonna go real it is real.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: Geese Geese, oh Geese.
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: I love their song Bread real.
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they are real. How about the Worry Club?
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, Yeah, they're real.
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: Avocado fam Oh they're not. They're made up. Yeah, alien stylists,
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: they're real, they're made up. Oh the Last Dinner Party,
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: that's real.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: That is real, Like I've heard of that one.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: Actually, this is so wild the names.
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: That's all for today.
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: That's it.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: But but we do have a Thursday episode.
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: Oh tell me about it, becha.
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: I'm so excited because we are having Becca Moore on
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: the podcast. Becca is a TikToker, She's hilarious, and she
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: is recently announced that she's dating Shannon Beveridge, who was
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: on our podcast a few months ago. And I'm so
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: excited to talk to her. We have a very similar.
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: Path in our and similar names, the same name, so similar,
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: so similar, it's the same.
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: So we'll be talking to her this Thursday. And that's that.
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: We love you, We love you, We love you like
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: so much, so much.
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: And we hope you have the best week.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and stay healthy, please, everybody.
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: This is stay healthy.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: I'm serious. Whatever's go around is pretty wild. Tawny the
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: other day she asked if I could come early because
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: she was like, all my clients are sick. I was like, damn, damn,
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: you infected them.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: I imagine going around the city with her virus.
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: Anywhoy