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What was a rule from your childhood house that still controls you? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang and the club on nine
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  Speaker 1: four seven.
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  Speaker 2: Now, And there's one thing that annoys my child to
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  Speaker 2: know end. And in his mind, I think he thinks,
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  Speaker 2: one day, I'm going to get tired, I'm gonna get old,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm gonna stop enforcing this rule. But I just
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  Speaker 2: want to tell him it's never ever going to happen
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  Speaker 2: with This is not a rule in the house because
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  Speaker 2: this was a rule in my house.
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  Speaker 1: When I was growing up. So it's sort of like
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  Speaker 1: a core memory now, and this is what you live by.
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  Speaker 2: It's my it's my DNA. It's like wanting to say
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna wake up and I'm gonna change my blood type.
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  Speaker 2: Not gonna happen.
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  Speaker 1: It's just not gonna happen.
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  Speaker 2: When a child gets home in my household, you change
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  Speaker 2: out of your school uniform immediately.
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  Speaker 1: Oh is that obviously you guys grew up like that. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we have to change.
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  Speaker 2: I can't be gallivanting on your BMX around the neighborhood
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  Speaker 2: in your uniform.
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  Speaker 1: What is this?
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  Speaker 2: You really aren't like galivanting galavant? Are you a parent
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  Speaker 2: if you've never used the word galivant? No, you're not
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  Speaker 2: up your game.
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  Speaker 1: I can't looking back, that wasn't a huge thing for us. Really, No,
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  Speaker 1: we didn't have to change out.
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  Speaker 2: And the wearing teen in your uniform, I think.
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  Speaker 1: Because we were if I remember, we wore like little
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  Speaker 1: gray the gray panties and then like a gray shirt,
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  Speaker 1: so it wasn't it wasn't a white shirt. I think
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  Speaker 1: if you're wearing a white shirt it gets dirty more quickly.
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  Speaker 1: But my mother was like.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, we were allowed to wear our uniform.
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  Speaker 1: My mom wasn't allowed.
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  Speaker 3: To as soon as she got home from school, she
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  Speaker 3: had to change out of her school uniform. So as
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  Speaker 3: a result, because she was raised so strictly, she never
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  Speaker 3: understood why. So she was like, oh, you guys can
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  Speaker 3: just wear your uniform.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, it was the It was the wear and tea.
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  Speaker 2: It was almost you know when pilots. You know, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you fly a plane and then when you're a pilot
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  Speaker 2: you have to take your little things off. If you
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  Speaker 2: go into a social environment. It can't be rocking around
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  Speaker 2: with your wings. No, take it off. That is your
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  Speaker 2: school uniform. It is the holy grail.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, I mean your school uniform was the only thing
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  Speaker 4: taken more seriously than your Sunday best in terms of
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  Speaker 4: its preservation.
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  Speaker 1: But if you think back though that it's actually a
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  Speaker 1: little bit ironic because that school uniform, that thing could
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  Speaker 1: withstandard has a momb like that material was made at multipurposes.
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  Speaker 1: You could patch a car, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: Like that, it's just always those dresses were so it was.
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  Speaker 2: So silent, like literally was a Jimmy transfer. But literally
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  Speaker 2: that thing could you could use it to talk car you.
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  Speaker 1: Really wanted to.
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  Speaker 2: But where I'm going here is other rules that are
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  Speaker 2: still so solid in your house, purely because you grew
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  Speaker 2: up with them in your fam in your childhood home.
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  Speaker 1: So you're talking like examples. So you said you had
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  Speaker 1: to take off your clothes, We had to do our
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  Speaker 1: homework immediately before my dad got home, and then so
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  Speaker 1: that he could check it. No, no, you don't really
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  Speaker 1: cared to check it, but because obviously then the fund
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  Speaker 1: would start because my dad was fun, so we'd always
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  Speaker 1: play so and my mom was very strict and she
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  Speaker 1: was a teacher, so she was at home, so she
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  Speaker 1: made sure whoever was home with us we had to
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  Speaker 1: do all our work before my dad gets home.
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  Speaker 2: Do you have a rule in your house in the end,
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  Speaker 2: The only reason it's a rule in your house because it.
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  Speaker 1: Was a rule in your childhood home.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, I mean it was a rule in my
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  Speaker 3: childhood home. But I kind of I agree with it.
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  Speaker 3: Is that you don't leave a room with a light on.
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  Speaker 3: So if you've got to leave a room, dad, but
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  Speaker 3: that's just electricity.
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  Speaker 1: That's your dad.
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  Speaker 2: That man have got a thing against rooms that are
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  Speaker 2: little know one inside.
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  Speaker 1: But people have lots of rules like this. So it's
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  Speaker 1: sort of like you have to finish your food before
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  Speaker 1: you have desserts. Some people have that rule you must
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  Speaker 1: be yes, you have to. You have to eat all
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  Speaker 1: your food before you eat your meat exactly, you know,
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  Speaker 1: not of so with your stomach food. That's it to me.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my mom, I mean, because I don't have kids
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  Speaker 4: on my own, but my mom still has a rule
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  Speaker 4: about the six pm cut off. To this day, whoever's
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  Speaker 4: kid is at our house has to be within the
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  Speaker 4: borders of her home by six pm because you know
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  Speaker 4: kids Clout and Clay. Yeah, yeah, that hasn't moved. I
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  Speaker 4: mean the last time my mother raised an actual child
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  Speaker 4: was more than sixteen years ago, but her cut off
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  Speaker 4: was still six pm before the lights come on.
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  Speaker 2: This is why you like that at six pm when
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  Speaker 2: the sun starts going down to beginners like I need
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  Speaker 2: to start moving towards my house.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, and oh, and kids must always go and play outside.
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  Speaker 1: The house is full of oh.
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  Speaker 2: One one eighty eight thirty eight nine four seven. The
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  Speaker 2: only reason this is still a rule in your house
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  Speaker 2: is because it was a rule in your childhood home.
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  Speaker 2: You can't explain it. It's not like you necessarily, you know,
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  Speaker 2: abide by it, or it's like the stuch thing that
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  Speaker 2: you heavily believe in. It's just there because it's because
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  Speaker 2: there when you grew up.
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  Speaker 1: We had one. Now that i'm thinking about it, we
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  Speaker 1: had one rule. This is a strange rule, but I
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  Speaker 1: actually still live by it. We went around allowed to
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  Speaker 1: run in the house.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And now when I have friends over and their kids
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  Speaker 1: are they and they just run around. Stop running in
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  Speaker 1: the house. I don't know why.
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  Speaker 2: Coach kids they run everywhere.
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  Speaker 1: You just stop running outide.
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  Speaker 2: Just run outside. It makes it zero eight four double
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  Speaker 2: zero double zero nine four seven. Equally, if you're a child,
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  Speaker 2: now what rule in your house? Do you know for
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  Speaker 2: a fact you're going to have in your house?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? You are?
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  Speaker 2: You wealthy. Oh you're just like I'm when I have
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  Speaker 2: my own house. This is not gonna be a rule.
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  Speaker 2: Let us know, ah one one eighty eight thirty eight
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  Speaker 2: nine ur seven. How do you go to bed and
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  Speaker 2: have nice dreams?
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  Speaker 5: And the dishes are not done?
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  Speaker 2: Like, the sink is not clean, the counters are not wiped.
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  Speaker 1: How do you sleep eight o'clock? It is better for me.
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  Speaker 2: The biggest rule in my house, and I don't even
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  Speaker 2: compromise on this, is you have to finish your food.
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  Speaker 4: When we grew up, we used to have lunch or
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  Speaker 4: dinner together on a round table, and even now.
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  Speaker 2: With our kids, nephews and nisss, we do the.
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  Speaker 1: Room in my house is wake up, brush your cheeth,
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  Speaker 1: wash your face, and then do your bed.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we didn't have the we all have to sit
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  Speaker 2: around the dinner table and eat rule.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I think maybe like on a Sunday or we'll go
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  Speaker 2: for dinner or lunch somewhere. But it is a hardcore
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  Speaker 2: rule in my house, right, And I think my child, as.
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  Speaker 1: Soon as he moves out, it's going to change it.
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  Speaker 1: They're going to change. My sister sits in the opposite position.
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  Speaker 1: Because we had that rule. We had to have dinner
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  Speaker 1: at the dinner table, and her and I vehemently rebelled
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  Speaker 1: against it until we my mom gave up and we
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  Speaker 1: eventually had could watch TV because that's all we wanted to do,
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  Speaker 1: just watch some TV. Now in her house, she's trying
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  Speaker 1: to enforce the sit around the table rule, and the
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  Speaker 1: kids are m yeah, no, no, just repeating the cycle.
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  Speaker 2: No, lady, good morning, good morning. How are you?
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  Speaker 5: No, lady, I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: How are you? We're great? So what rule did you
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  Speaker 2: grow up with from your childhood? It was a steadfast
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  Speaker 2: rule in your household when you were growing up, and
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  Speaker 2: now it lives in your house as well.
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  Speaker 5: So my dad is a criminal lawyer, eh, and he's
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  Speaker 5: seen it all. So he just thinks everybody is bad
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  Speaker 5: and nobody can take off away that he can the
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  Speaker 5: way that he can. So my dad does not allow
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  Speaker 5: us to play at anybody's house. So all the kids
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  Speaker 5: from the block would gather around and play in my yards.
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  Speaker 5: Then he sends them home and around six o'clock, and
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  Speaker 5: that roofs still applies to liven with my kids and
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  Speaker 5: my sibling.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so like they play in your yard and then
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  Speaker 2: at six o'clock everybody must go away.
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  Speaker 5: Everybody must go home.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder how because you know what it is. Let's
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  Speaker 2: say now you meet two parents who both believe that
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  Speaker 2: their kids shouldn't play at other people's houses. Like, how
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  Speaker 2: do you navigate it? Because I'm also pretty much like that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm also like, just everybody must come play. Yet I'll
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  Speaker 2: make the sandwiches, and I'll make it nice. Yer, I'll
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  Speaker 2: make it rock. Yeah, But then what whatever is this
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  Speaker 2: is another mom who feels the same way as me?
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  Speaker 1: How do I exist?
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  Speaker 5: Crazy enough? We haven't even had a parent like that.
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  Speaker 5: I think the whole community just got comfortable with how
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  Speaker 5: even if we are playing outside my gate, my dad
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  Speaker 5: would just randomly come outside and check way a. If
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  Speaker 5: doesn't see you, you'll screen your name. So everybody just
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  Speaker 5: got comfortable with how he does things, and and all
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  Speaker 5: the parents are okay with it. Even with sleepovers. We're
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  Speaker 5: not allowed to go to anybody's sleepover because he does
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  Speaker 5: not know the man from that house does. But he's
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  Speaker 5: okay with our friends coming over with sleepovers because he
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  Speaker 5: knows himself.
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  Speaker 1: What I know is myself. I mean, and I pretend you.
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  Speaker 2: This other Lucas running around here in the streets. I
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  Speaker 2: can't trast him.
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  Speaker 1: I would have loved this as a kid. If or
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  Speaker 1: if your house is the playhouse, I would have loved that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I pretty much I tried that as well. Sonally,
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  Speaker 2: that's what you're doing in your life as well.
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  Speaker 1: Your house is the playhoff.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, my house is the playhouse.
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  Speaker 2: But what I'm finding as well is the the sunset rule.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone's going home at It's.
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  Speaker 2: A universal one.
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  Speaker 4: Nothing good happens up to six pm. Get inside the house.
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  Speaker 2: What is playing on TV at six pm? Because for
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  Speaker 2: us when we were growing up, it was The Bond,
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  Speaker 2: The Beautiful. If the ball on the Beautiful song started
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  Speaker 2: and you weren't home, zolla bad, my friend, you would
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  Speaker 2: run like flat out. What's playing?
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  Speaker 4: In sixties days, I don't know what people are watching,
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  Speaker 4: but I know that I had to be home. We
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  Speaker 4: know in issues of say, see what does a thing
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  Speaker 4: called issues of faith?
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  Speaker 1: Someone who preach, there'd.
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  Speaker 4: Be a pastor, a rabbi or someone. By the time
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  Speaker 4: that prayer finishes. You must be seated by the.
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  Speaker 2: Time they say, and then you're behind.
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  Speaker 1: Better be inside this house.
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  Speaker 2: Otherwise you better start saying a prayer, start to making
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  Speaker 2: your morning and the club on nine four seven