Latest / Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast / 260 - The REAL Way to Attract Dream Clients with Human Design
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- 0:01Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
- 0:05helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
- 0:09flow without sacrificing results.
- 0:11Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
- 0:15according to your human design.
- 0:17I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
- 0:22Nicole Laino: Hello, and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
- 0:25I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here alone today, just the
- 0:29two of us, talking about attracting clients with human design.
- 0:33And I'm going to debunk some myths here.
- 0:35I'm going to talk about the elements of the chart that
- 0:38relate to client attraction.
- 0:41But I'm also going to talk about the bigger picture here because the
- 0:44key to understanding the intricacies is to understand the big picture
- 0:48of what we are talking about.
- 0:50And how this all works.
- 0:51And how this beautiful modality and system of human design can be woven into
- 0:57your business without necessarily taking everything quite so literally, which is
- 1:01where I often see people get stuck the most, is this literal translation of
- 1:08the elements of their chart and trying to shoehorn them into their niche,
- 1:14into their message, into their offers.
- 1:16I have this, so I should go create that.
- 1:20It's not quite that literal and you might go do something and maybe it
- 1:26doesn't work, or it doesn't work the way that you think it will.
- 1:30What often happens is when people go and create an offer, because
- 1:33they hear that, I have a defined G center and I'm a Cross of the Sphinx.
- 1:40So I'm supposed to help people find direction.
- 1:42So I'm going to create a program around finding your direction and around
- 1:45identity because it's in my chart.
- 1:48And that's what's going to make me rich, famous, and adored.
- 1:53And so I'm going to put it out there and they go and they put out that program.
- 1:57And that's great if that is your specialty, if that is what you
- 2:02do, if you have a true calling to build that thing, wonderful.
- 2:09You probably see that do very well.
- 2:12Or if it doesn't do well, you will be so connected to that program, you
- 2:18will be so lit up by it, you will be so jazzed by it, you will be so in
- 2:22tune with it that you're just like, oh my god, this is what I'm meant to do.
- 2:26That you will not be deterred if it doesn't work.
- 2:29That you'll be like, you know what, I learned from that, I'm gonna
- 2:31tailor it, I'm gonna twist it, I'm gonna fix it, I'm gonna tweak
- 2:34it, and then we're gonna launch it again, or we're gonna do it again.
- 2:37You have staying power with it rather than feeling like, I took these pieces from
- 2:42my human design and I made an offer and I made this about it and I started speaking
- 2:47to this person and it didn't work.
- 2:48So I guess human design doesn't work.
- 2:51Or I guess I got to look at my chart again and I have to start
- 2:54trying to figure that out again.
- 2:55And then I'm going to create something else using these three gates and
- 2:58this center and my profile, and then I'm going to see how that works.
- 3:03Usually that just leads to a lot of frustration, kind of chaos.
- 3:08It doesn't lead to you feeling good.
- 3:10And if you're not feeling good, then you're out of alignment.
- 3:14And that is way more important than anything else in human
- 3:17design, is that you feel good.
- 3:20Generators, you gotta feel good.
- 3:22Projectors, you gotta feel like you are putting out your light and not bitterness,
- 3:29and frustration, and confusion.
- 3:34Cause that's what this tends to lead to.
- 3:36When we look at human design purely from an informational purpose, give
- 3:41me the information, information, information, and I'm a one line,
- 3:44I love me some information.
- 3:46I live on information.
- 3:47Information is how I get through life, but it is not everything.
- 3:53It is not everything.
- 3:55And when you treat human design, like the information is everything.
- 4:00You often don't get even half of what you could be getting out of it.
- 4:06All the things that you are seeking are there.
- 4:09They are just not down the very strategic linear path that people think it should
- 4:16be down, that they're walking down.
- 4:18Cause they want it to come fast.
- 4:20I know the thing.
- 4:20Now I've got to go do the thing.
- 4:22If you want to do that as experimenting, wonderful.
- 4:26But you have to be aware and you have to know you're in an experiment to do it.
- 4:32Scientific experiments are set up.
- 4:35They have control groups.
- 4:37They're actively observing the process the entire time so they
- 4:41have findings at the end of it.
- 4:44Just trying stuff and not observing is not really being a scientist with this.
- 4:51You're not really experimenting in a meaningful way.
- 4:56You got to be paying attention.
- 4:57You have to be aware that you're in an experiment and you have to set up some
- 5:01sort of parameters so you can start to see what's working and what's not.
- 5:04How can I learn from this?
- 5:07So in this episode, what I want to break down is client
- 5:09attraction from human design.
- 5:11Now client attraction in human design, I look at I think
- 5:17differently than a lot of people.
- 5:19I have been trained in the business of human design.
- 5:23I have one lined my way through human design thoroughly.
- 5:27And I continue to.
- 5:28I've been certified in human design for business with teams, really being able to
- 5:34look at this from a different perspective than just the personal process.
- 5:37So I've been around the block with this, and I don't know many people who
- 5:41have, I'm not going to say that there are plenty of them, but many of the
- 5:45people that I see out there talking about this don't have that background.
- 5:48I'm also a Gene Keys guide, which gives me another layer of information,
- 5:52but also another perspective on this.
- 5:55And Here's what often happens with trying to attract your ideal client
- 6:01or your soulmate client through human design is, we look for a meaning,
- 6:06we say, the people that I help are going to be this type of person.
- 6:12Or we're trying to figure out how this particular gate, how
- 6:17does that become an ideal client?
- 6:19How do you make the gate of control an ideal client?
- 6:26You have to go a little bit deeper than just understanding what the gate means.
- 6:31You have to look at it a little bit differently.
- 6:33And it's a much more holistic view that is needed.
- 6:37Because we're talking about attracting.
- 6:39It's not just about the words.
- 6:40It's about what you're putting out there that people feel like you can help them.
- 6:47So I'll give you an example from my life.
- 6:50The old way that we used to attract clients, and this is what I used to
- 6:54teach, was very much demographics based.
- 6:57Age, marital status, do they have kids?
- 7:00Do they have step kids?
- 7:02Do they live on the coast or in middle America?
- 7:05Who's your demographic?
- 7:07And then we got into psychographics and we took this a little bit
- 7:09deeper, which was like the values, the desires, their interests.
- 7:14That's where you start getting into, what's your favorite Netflix series?
- 7:16And do they prefer athleisure wear or are they a jeans and t shirt girl?
- 7:22I fall into the jeans and t shirt category there.
- 7:25These are great for connection, because me knowing that my ideal client from
- 7:32a demographic perspective, just the people that I tend to understand
- 7:36the most, and this is really what we're getting to, people I understand
- 7:39the most tend to be over 35.
- 7:42And that gives me some frames of reference of things that they might be into.
- 7:47I can post things about the 90s and I can have that resonate with the
- 7:53people that I'm connecting with.
- 7:54If I put up something about Gen X or early millennials, I might get a response
- 8:00because that's the people that I'm around.
- 8:03Those are the people that I'm talking to.
- 8:04Those are the people that I'm connecting with.
- 8:06That is a demographic of my niche.
- 8:09So that stuff's important.
- 8:11I don't want to make it sound like that stuff doesn't matter.
- 8:13But we've all heard that saying, when you try to be everything to
- 8:16everyone, you become nothing to anyone.
- 8:18That's been out there forever in marketing.
- 8:21And now that everybody knows this other stuff, and when we're talking
- 8:26about energetic businesses, if you've been called to this, and if you are a
- 8:31healer, a transformational coach where you deal in mindset, or some sort of
- 8:36transformation or healing, then this is really going to apply to you times ten.
- 8:42Because you're not going to have those testimonials and that social proof of
- 8:47like, I made a million dollars after following Nicole's three step formula
- 8:51of how to do this thing on Instagram.
- 8:54You don't sell a reels course where you can just talk about how you got more
- 8:58views selling people Instagram tips.
- 9:02It's a different sale.
- 9:03That's a different person.
- 9:05That's a different way of connecting.
- 9:08There's a new way that we're being called to do business now.
- 9:11Which is on a deeper level.
- 9:14That we have to connect with people on a deeper level.
- 9:16And this is where human design can come in.
- 9:18Because that other way can be superficial.
- 9:21Whether they apply to the person that you're talking to now who's going to buy
- 9:24your program or not, that's another story.
- 9:27But when you have that social proof, when you say people made lots and
- 9:30lots of money doing what I teach.
- 9:33And you have all of these testimonials, and you make it sound like it's
- 9:35a one, two, three step approach.
- 9:37Just post a bunch of reels.
- 9:38I'm going to show you how.
- 9:40And you're going to make this money too.
- 9:43That's a different approach.
- 9:44They can get away with having a bit more of a superficial marketing strategy.
- 9:49But when you are in this other space of transformation, when you are
- 9:53selling a different result that is less tangible, you do have to be
- 9:59a little bit more specific because that other stuff, it's not really
- 10:03hitting people on a deeper level.
- 10:06You're not selling something superficial.
- 10:08So to try to market in a superficial way is probably not going to work for you.
- 10:15And that's what I hear over and over from people who are trying to work with us.
- 10:20They go to human design and they say, show me how I can connect
- 10:23with my soulmate client, because that's obviously what I need.
- 10:27And this is where the break happens, where we're trying to weave this
- 10:30cosmic design of who we are, this cosmic blueprint with our branding,
- 10:35with our messaging, with our offers.
- 10:37And this is what I do.
- 10:39That's what we're gonna go into here, is talking about how we
- 10:42blend these two things together.
- 10:45And if you want to go deep with this, if you want to go deep into human design in
- 10:49your business and how this all connects, then I encourage you to come to our
- 10:54Authority Accelerator Masterclass.
- 10:56That is a five day masterclass starting on the 8th of April.
- 10:58It goes until the 16th.
- 11:00So if you're listening to this anytime before the 16th of April,
- 11:03you can get in and watch the replays.
- 11:05Just DM me on Instagram.
- 11:07I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial.
- 11:09DM me the word masterclass.
- 11:10We'll register you right there in the DMs.
- 11:12Or you could go to nicolelaino.com/masterclass
- 11:15and you can register right there on the website yourself.
- 11:18But come to that masterclass because we're going to dive deep into all
- 11:21of these topics around the strategic side and around the energetic side.
- 11:25But let's talk about the energetics of connecting with your soulmate client.
- 11:30Human design, the benefit of it is that you're learning to become
- 11:35magnetic by transforming yourself.
- 11:40This is the headline here.
- 11:42Human design is the greatest transformational tool out there.
- 11:45This is why.
- 11:47Through following your human design, through actually working with it,
- 11:51you start to figure out and deepen your connection to the people you are
- 11:56here to help, the way that you help.
- 11:58Because when we talk about the wisdom that we are here to share, when we talk about
- 12:02being able to sell from certain areas, there's always this caveat of, you've got
- 12:07to heal that first and have that in a high expression in order to be able to sell it.
- 12:13Or what happens is, you start selling something because you're like, I'm
- 12:17supposed to sell to people with control issues because I have this element in
- 12:24gate 21, which is the gate of control.
- 12:26So I'm looking for people who have issues with control, and I'm gonna sell them
- 12:31that and that's gonna be my message.
- 12:34But if you are not in a great standing with control yourself, first of all,
- 12:40what do you have to offer those people?
- 12:43If you are in the shadow of it, what ends up happening is you end up
- 12:48attracting people in deep shadow who maybe are not ready to do that work,
- 12:53or you can't hold them and you can't see them through that transformation.
- 12:58So what happens?
- 13:00You attract these people.
- 13:01Maybe they are the right people.
- 13:02You're not ready to serve them.
- 13:05And if you're not ready to serve them, what happens?
- 13:08Not really tuned in to what you're selling and they're not
- 13:10catching what you're throwing down.
- 13:11Or maybe they do.
- 13:12You get some people to say yes.
- 13:14But the transformation isn't really there.
- 13:17And then you lose your confidence.
- 13:19You don't have the testimonials.
- 13:21It doesn't feel right.
- 13:22Something always feels off and you aren't able to sell it again.
- 13:27So then you start doubting all of this other stuff and now you
- 13:30start looking to the chart again.
- 13:32I see this all the time.
- 13:33Now you're looking at the chart again.
- 13:34That wasn't it because it didn't work.
- 13:38And my question is always, tell me your relationship with that specific
- 13:42piece that you're trying to sell from.
- 13:46Human design shows you the story of your life, the plot line.
- 13:53It shows you the characters that you're going to meet along the way.
- 13:57And when you can see that as a journey, you can start to understand how that
- 14:03journey will unfold a little bit.
- 14:07You could start to recognize and ask better questions of yourself.
- 14:10How have I always been around this theme?
- 14:14Because if I've been around that theme, and I've learned, and I've
- 14:17really done my work around it, I'm going to have something to offer.
- 14:23And I think what happens with people where they try to make this very linear.
- 14:28They want to know how the movie ends.
- 14:30And it reminds me of the movie Boogie Nights.
- 14:32If you guys remember that movie, I remember being at home.
- 14:37This is when you still flip through channels.
- 14:39I'm flipping through channels and I was like, oh, Boogie Nights.
- 14:42I've wanted to see that movie.
- 14:43I hadn't seen it yet.
- 14:44And it was the very last scene in the movie, which if anyone has
- 14:48seen Boogie Nights, you know how bizarre it would be to see only
- 14:54the ending scene to that movie.
- 14:57If you haven't, go watch it, but it didn't make sense to me.
- 15:00I didn't understand anything about that movie.
- 15:04In fact, I was just confused more.
- 15:06Because I saw the end and I was like, I don't know what just happened here.
- 15:10I was in shock.
- 15:12Right?
- 15:14That can happen when we try to fast forward to the end of the movie thinking
- 15:17that it will give us satisfaction.
- 15:19Tell me what it is, give me the information so I can go use it.
- 15:22But you didn't see how it played out in the whole movie.
- 15:26Now, this does not mean that you need to live out your whole
- 15:28life before you understand it.
- 15:30You just have to look at your chart through the lens of this has been my life,
- 15:35and this is the trajectory of my life.
- 15:38Your incarnation cross tells you the theme of your life.
- 15:42Your nodes tell you that storyline that you're on.
- 15:46When we start to approach this from a more holistic standpoint of saying,
- 15:52this is the journey I've been on.
- 15:54I can see what I've overcome.
- 15:57I could see what I still need to overcome.
- 16:00And this is how I help.
- 16:03This is what happened to me.
- 16:05I understand my chart very, very differently right now than I did two years
- 16:09ago, three years ago, even a year ago.
- 16:11I understand my chart and I understand my place in this world so much more deeply.
- 16:20Where, when someone comes to me with a problem, I know now.
- 16:23I know why you're here.
- 16:26I know why, because I've worked through that issue.
- 16:30I have worked through this thing.
- 16:33I see you, and I see how I can help you.
- 16:36Which makes it so easy for me to talk to that person.
- 16:40Which makes them feel, on a very deep level, I think you can help me.
- 16:46I think you can help me transform my business, my message, myself,
- 16:53because they are all interlinked.
- 16:55If you think that your business is something separate from you and
- 17:00you are a personal brand and you sell transformation, then I'm here
- 17:07to tell you that you are wrong.
- 17:09It is not separate from you.
- 17:11You are completely interwoven into this entire thing.
- 17:17So the confidence that comes from just being able to understand this
- 17:22journey that you're on is priceless, but it also has strategic benefit.
- 17:29I know the value that I offer.
- 17:31And I know who I offer it to, and I know the lesson that is inherent in
- 17:36every single person that comes my way.
- 17:39I know what their wake up call is.
- 17:41Why?
- 17:42I know what mine had to be.
- 17:44I looked around and I said, I've been surrounded by these people forever.
- 17:48I've seen this theme come up since I was a child.
- 17:53And I know that because I've seen the journey of my design.
- 17:56I've seen my chart and I said, I get from cradle to grave what this
- 18:01is probably going to look like.
- 18:04And the stages that I go through.
- 18:06And now I can start to see how I might be able to help these people.
- 18:11Or how I've been helping them forever.
- 18:14And I know my place in it and I know the role that I'm here to play.
- 18:18As a 5/1 I'm here to play a very specific role.
- 18:22My incarnation cross gives me a very specific zone of genius,
- 18:27which we are talking about in the following episode to this.
- 18:30So please stand by for that.
- 18:31We're going to talk about zone of genius and certainly join the masterclass.
- 18:35If you're interested in learning all of these aspects about how human
- 18:39design illuminates who you really are.
- 18:43And if you're here to usher people into something new for themselves.
- 18:47If you are here to provide transformation for people or you provide a service for
- 18:52people, you have to understand yourself.
- 18:57And the bonus is there's no greater gift in this world than
- 18:59being authentically who you are.
- 19:02That's what people are the most drawn to.
- 19:05When you're not trying to be something else, when you're not
- 19:07trying to sell them anything.
- 19:09I don't really try to sell.
- 19:12I mean, I sell, I sell.
- 19:13I'm not afraid to sell.
- 19:15But I'm not desperately trying to attract clients.
- 19:19I send out a signal of, this is who I am, this is what I do, this is what I have
- 19:25to offer, and if you need those things, and if you are attracted to this energy
- 19:31that I have, and this message that I have, then here's what I can offer you.
- 19:37And people self select, and they decide to join me.
- 19:42I don't necessarily talk about who my niche is all the time,
- 19:48but it's spiritual entrepreneurs.
- 19:51It's people who are either on a spiritual path themselves or who teach it.
- 19:55Energy healers.
- 19:56That is part of my design.
- 19:58Why I'm naturally drawn to those people and why I've always been around
- 20:02them since the time I was small.
- 20:05You know something about the people who are in your hometown.
- 20:08Whether you get them or not, you know something about them, right?
- 20:12This is your home town.
- 20:14Your chart tells you who those hometown people are for you.
- 20:19And it gives you guidelines and some understanding of what your
- 20:23journey with those people looks like.
- 20:26So again, I can tell you that the storyline is in your nodes, but until
- 20:30you understand how the entire picture comes together, you're looking at that
- 20:34last frame in the movie and trying to understand the entire thing, and
- 20:38that's why people get stuck a lot.
- 20:40And I don't want that for you.
- 20:41I want you to understand your whole journey.
- 20:44And I want you to see that it's not the information, it's what the information
- 20:48does when you start to become aware of it, when you start to experiment
- 20:52with it yourself, when you start to see it at work, when you start to
- 20:55ask better questions of yourself.
- 20:57Really specific questions about the things in your chart, not just
- 21:00questions that are so open ended and broad they don't really resonate for
- 21:04you or don't lead you anywhere fast.
- 21:07Human design starts to unlock these doors within yourself and have all of these
- 21:12aha moments about how you might help because they are so specific to you,
- 21:19you can get to those answers quickly.
- 21:21How have I always been around this type of person?
- 21:25What do I know about them?
- 21:26What have I seen about them?
- 21:27How would I help them?
- 21:28How do I already help them?
- 21:30You start asking those kinds of questions.
- 21:34Rather than looking out in the world and saying, who could my niche be?
- 21:38These people I think can pay.
- 21:39I know what I'm going to do.
- 21:40I'm going to go after corporate people because corporate can
- 21:44pay because they get a paycheck.
- 21:45So I'm going to go after them.
- 21:48You're going to need more than that.
- 21:49Or it's going to come off really surface, really superficial, and it's
- 21:54not going to connect with anyone.
- 21:56You're not really going to feel terribly embodied in that.
- 22:00When you feel embodied in your message, I don't want to say that
- 22:03it doesn't matter what people say, but I trust that the people that
- 22:07are right for me, they find me.
- 22:10They do.
- 22:11Why?
- 22:12Cause I know who I am.
- 22:14I know what I offer and I know how I help.
- 22:17And if you fit into that category and you need what I sell, then I trust that
- 22:21we're going to find our way to each other.
- 22:24That's how it works.
- 22:25I put out my message.
- 22:26I do my job of showing up.
- 22:29I do my job of putting out a really clear message about that.
- 22:32But I don't chase, I don't look around trying to figure out who my niche
- 22:36should be or anything like that.
- 22:37I know who they are, and I know the essence of who they are.
- 22:41And then that starts to lead to the specifics of where can I find them,
- 22:45what could I say to connect with them, and all of those strategic
- 22:48elements that we can get so stuck in.
- 22:51So, I hope that this helped shed some light on that process of attracting
- 22:55clients, that it is this holistic process of you sending out a signal to those
- 23:01people and that signal does not come from a mental process of understanding
- 23:05a specific thing about your chart.
- 23:07It comes from you exploring these areas of yourself and then suddenly you start to
- 23:13see what you have to offer those people.
- 23:16You become the solution.
- 23:20It's not the information, now I know it, now I can go tell
- 23:24them that this is the solution.
- 23:26By you understanding these aspects of your human design chart,
- 23:30you can go into them deeper.
- 23:32You can start exploring them in yourself.
- 23:34You transform them in yourself and then you become that solution.
- 23:39And then it's effortless and then it's fun.
- 23:42And then the offers just start popping up and you're like, oh, I could create this.
- 23:46Why?
- 23:46Cause it's coming from a place of real alignment.
- 23:49That's what alignment is.
- 23:51Doing what feels absolutely right.
- 23:53Not checking all the boxes that you're doing all the right things and meditating
- 23:59and doing breath work and now I'm aligned.
- 24:01Those things help to keep you out of fight or flight, to keep you out
- 24:06of your mind so you're not making decisions that are out of fear and lack.
- 24:10Those are alignment tools, but alignment comes from within you.
- 24:16Alignment comes from understanding yourself and leading from that place.
- 24:22So I hope this helped.
- 24:23I hope that this was succinct enough that you were catching the point.
- 24:26If you want to go deeper with us on this topic and on understanding your
- 24:30human design and the connection with it in your business and how to build
- 24:32your million dollar message from a place of true alignment, please join
- 24:37us in the Authority Accelerator.
- 24:38It starts on April 8th.
- 24:39It's a five day masterclass.
- 24:41It is really, really in depth and cool and fun.
- 24:44And I'm so excited about it.
- 24:46It is somewhat new.
- 24:47We did a three day version.
- 24:49Now we've blown it up to five because honestly, I just had too much and
- 24:52I wanted to share it all with you.
- 24:54So DM me the word masterclass on Instagram.
- 24:56I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial, or go to nicolelaino.com/masterclass and
- 25:00register right there on the website.
- 25:01I hope to see you there.
- 25:03Thank you so much for being here.
- 25:04We will catch you in the next one.
- 25:05Remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
- 25:08first become an unshakeable human.
- 25:10So thanks for letting us help you in becoming unshakeable
- 25:13with human design, everybody.
- 25:14We'll see you next time.
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