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Season 2 - Episode 181 - What is your definition of completion? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so let's talk about doing things to completion, or at
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  least our version of completion. Interesting concept to start, to
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  think about taken to your life, is our version of completion,
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  our version of great, our version of done.
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  Our version of fantastic is typically not the same as
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  another human. This is why we end up in so much
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  communication conflict and not being able to stay in the right
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  headspace with people Because we have different standards, we
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  have different outcomes. And when we think about it in
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  terms of our daily life and saying, well, like let's use the
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  kitchen. For example.
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  How do you clean the kitchen to completion?
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  I know I have a very different version of this.
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  Then my husband does. Now this is obviously humorous
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  because we have such different versions of things and yes, it
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  is true. We have very different versions
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  of things. My husband is by all accounts a
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  very Eat guy like he keeps his stuff organized.
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  He is clean. He is not untidy, but his
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  version of cleaning up the kitchen and my version of
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  cleaning up. The kitchen are two very
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  different things when I clean up, the kitchen.
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  Everything is wiped down everything.
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  I mean, I even squeegee the inside of my sink, and I know
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  that sounds insane. But I've got the stainless steel
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  farm sink, and I just cannot stand to have it all mucked up
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  with water spots, but that's my gig and I'm not I learned over
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  the years not to get annoyed by the fact that he does not
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  squeeze you this think the way I squeegee this think so it's not
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  worth it, it's not worth the aggravation, but the point of
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  this is using, this is just as an example is that we have two
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  different versions of this. So if I say, can you please
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  clean the kitchen, please? Well, I do something else.
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  His version of it is going to be different than mine now.
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  Does that mean that I have the right to get annoyed when it's
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  not the right way? No, I don't.
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  And I say, That laughingly, that it's the right way because it's
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  my way. So, of course, I think it's the
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  right way and we often as humans, get stuck in that.
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  And when you start to notice how this shows up in your work
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  world, how this shows up around your expectations, with your
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  spouse's, your children, your partners, we start to realize
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  how often the conflicts are based in our different versions
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  of doing things to completion and having different standards
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  for it. Now, we Realize we have
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  different standards if you have the conversation, logically, we
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  go. Oh, yeah.
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  Well, I know we have different standards for things and it we
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  make it like it's like, oh yeah, I know.
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  But no, he's something and actually doing something about
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  it, are two completely different things knowing something and
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  actually taking care on it and saying, okay, yes we are very
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  different people. We have very different setups
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  and we think differently to different things my friends, so
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  where we get so messed up so easily is the lack of Grace.
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  You for understanding the other person and I am completely
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  guilty of this. I want you to realize it.
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  I am completely guilty of this. If I am not on my game where I
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  am paying attention to the chatter in my head, my certainty
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  girl will take over and she will be annoyed that he did not see
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  all the sticky stuff in the kitchen when he finished
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  quote-unquote cleaning up in and that's what goes off in my head
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  and I'm doing it. So you see it, I'll go, this
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  isn't clean. But again to completion, I've
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  had multiple conversations. The people in the last couple
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  weeks where they're talking about people that they've hired
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  who don't do the job to completion there, like they go
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  80% of the way and then they stopped, and they're so
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  frustrated by it. And I'm like, please understand.
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  Did you communicate your level of what completion was and they
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  pause and I said, they say, well, we discussed what was the
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  job entailed? And I might did they get the job
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  done? Yes.
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  But and there's always the yes, Yes.
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  But well yes but piece of it that's so tricky.
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  Is is that? Yes, but coming from your lack
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  of explanation of what done actually looked like, what did
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  completion actually look like? And so we have to take ownership
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  of it and say, hey wait a second, I didn't necessarily say
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  all the details I needed to say and that's the part that's so
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  tricky. So do yourself a favor, really
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  sit down and before you go into something with someone, Really
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  understand. Am I explaining this full to the
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  fullest extent that I need to? So they can get to completion
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  because it's on us. The onus is on us to make sure
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  we're doing and explaining it the right way.
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  When I tell my son, here's your pile of clothes, put them away.
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  I don't just stop there. I say put them away the way.
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  I would put them away, not the way you would put them away and
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  he always laughs because if he put them away they would be in
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  one lump in the corner of his closet.
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  When I put them away I saw Get them all out and believe me.
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  If I don't add that last phrase, he doesn't do it that way.
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  He'll just stick them in there and you think to yourself, I've
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  said it enough, doesn't he know? Well, here's the thing.
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  Humans were really interesting creatures.
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  Maybe he knows it, but maybe he doesn't care.
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  And he thinks if you don't say it, then he doesn't have to
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  care. So, something to think about,
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  and make sure your communication is all about that.
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  All right, my friends. I hope you.
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  You have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye. You have a blessed day and I
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  will see you all tomorrow. Bye.