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Hypnosis to Level-Up From Being a Dependent Drinker to an Occasional Drinker · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session, it
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  is all about reducing alcohol at the identity level and I was
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  working. With a client.
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  That really was becoming a bit too dependent on alcohol.
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  They were drinking most weeknights.
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  They felt that it was a way to wind down after work if they
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  were in a A. Pub, a bar or a restaurant, They
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  would. Always have alcohol with their
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  food or if they're socializing. And to use their words, they
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  would drink one more than they should.
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  It wasn't that they were getting absolutely wasted.
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  It wasn't that they're having nightmare hangovers, but
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  consistently they were drinking more than they wanted to and
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  they felt it was taking away their edge.
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  It was blunting their ability to kind of think quickly, to solve
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  problems, to help them in their work.
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  And what this hypnosis session does, it does 2 key things.
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  It uses this idea of two different timelines.
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  So if you're familiar with the movie from the 1990s called
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  Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow, the whole premise of
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  that movie. Is that she's about to catch.
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  A a tube on the London Underground.
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  And in one timeline she does and in another timeline she doesn't.
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  And you see two different timelines in this movie.
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  Not a great movie, but a great concept.
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  And that's effectively the concept of this.
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  They get to see two different timelines.
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  With two. Different identities an identity
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  of being dependent on alcohol and the most empowering
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  alternative identity wasn't teetotal for this particular.
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  Client. It was to be an occasional
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  drinker. And what I like about that is it
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  means it has the connotation of infrequency that they're not
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  drinking very often, but also the word occasion means you
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  might drink. At an occasion.
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  So if you feel that you're drinking too much and you want
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  to reduce that you the amount that you drink at the identity
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  level, you might get some real value from this session.
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  So I'd encourage you to find a quiet, comfortable place, the
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  kind of place where you're not going to be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel that wonderful feeling of release, as
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  if any tension, stress and worries starting to leave your
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  body in that outward breath, breathing in relaxation and
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  exhaling tension. The deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. As your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens, and I want you to imagine floating up
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  outside of your body, keeping your physical body where it.
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  Is. And allowing your imagination to
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  float backwards. And I want you to observe like
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  an invisible observer. The very first time you tried
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  alcohol, maybe a child, a teenager, adolescent, and maybe
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  it was an unpleasant taste. Maybe it felt to that version of
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  you a sign of growing up, maturity.
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  I want you to get a feeling of observing and understanding
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  those early connotations. A maybe to begin with, it was
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  just the occasional drink every now and then.
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  Move forward in the timeline and see where it became more
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  frequent. College, university.
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  I want you to get a sense of when did it change to become
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  more frequent? What were the implied pressures
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  or expectations on you back then?
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  I want you to get a sense then. None of this is by accident, and
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  as you observe, I want you to get a sense of how strong.
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  The expectation. Was that you would drink,
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  friends, people you were living with, family members, follow the
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  timeline until it became less of a choice and more of a habit, a
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  routine. But it was the default thing
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  that you did. And when you can see that, let
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  me know about nodding your head. That's it.
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  And I want you to take that timeline even further because
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  originally it would have been linked to real times of moments
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  of social connection, but something would have changed
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  where what was reserved for occasions became something that
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  felt necessary. Observe the time in your life
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  where it felt it had become a dependency.
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  That doesn't mean you're addicted.
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  Does it mean you couldn't have lived without it?
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  Most people are dependent on shoes.
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  They're not addicted to shoes, but life would be difficult
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  without them. I don't want you to get a sense
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  of observing when behaviour turned to dependency.
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  And that doesn't mean excessive amounts.
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  It could just be the extra drink more than you would have wanted
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  with hindsight. Drinking on the weekday, even if
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  there's very little upside, because the nature of alcohol is
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  that the body adapts, the body habituates.
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  It takes more alcohol to give you less of a feeling, and that
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  adaptation means then when you were a teenager, two or three
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  drinks could make you feel tipsy or drunk.
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  But in more recent times, two or three drinks can make you feel
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  nothing at all. It barely registers on your
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  scale of affecting your feeling sensation of feeling anything.
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  And that's why some people end up slowly but surely drinking
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  more and more because it feels like it's necessary to give that
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  feeling that was once felt. And I want you to see that
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  there's certain environments that you would be more likely to
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  drink. Maybe a pub, a bar or a
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  restaurant, perhaps your own kitchen or front room.
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  I want you to get a sense that it's these environments that are
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  the perfect opportunity to create a new default, a new
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  standard, a new normality. I want you to observe yourself
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  at your current age and see that the recent trajectory has been
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  that of dependency. And let's imagine a sliding
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  doors moment. That timeline creates a fork in
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  the road. 1 timeline become two in a moment they diverge.
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  And I want you to imagine in one timeline, it just continues in
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  exactly the way that it has been going.
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  Not drinking because you love it, you need it, but just
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  because you keep doing what you have been doing.
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  And maybe in that timeline see that there's no real upside, but
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  there is a downside. And in that downside, that sharp
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  edge you used to have is becoming blunt.
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  Somehow it's impeding your motivation, diffusing your
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  focus, stealing your time and your energy, blurring your
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  clarity. And I want you to get a sense
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  then you have full agency, full autonomy.
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  If that is the future you desire, nothing at all can stop
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  you. But I want you to consider the
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  other timeline, a timeline of optionality, a timeline where
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  you infrequently drink. And when you do drink, you're
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  very discerning about where, with whom, and how much.
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  And I want you to imagine picturing someone that you know,
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  that has a wonderful social life, is fun, is friendly, and
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  doesn't drink at all. And imagine there was a point in
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  their past where they could have chosen to be dependent and
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  reliant on drink but followed a different path.
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  And I want you to get a sense and assessment.
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  But knowing what they now know, how much fun they can have, how
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  social they can be without needing alcohol, would they ever
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  go back and choose it? I want you to feel that having
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  the option to drink but choosing not to can feel empowering.
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  Like a superpower, like an edge. So imagine observing that
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  timeline, the version of you that steps into a new identity
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  instead of someone that's dependent.
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  I want you to see that version of you as an occasional drinker.
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  And that occasional drinker means that you occasionally
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  drink, but don't need to. And because you're an occasional
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  drinker, when you do drink, more often than not, it's at an
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  occasion. Sitting and watching TV isn't an
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  occasion. A Thursday night isn't an
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  occasion. I want you to see that in this
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  timeline, when you do drink, it tends to be either a Friday or
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  Saturday evening with other people, perhaps for a good
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  reason. And even then, it's just an
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  option and not an obligation. And I want you to imagine
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  following the two different timelines and see where they
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  take you one year from now. See the version of you that this
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  next 12 months is very similar to the previous 12 months.
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  Maybe there's more hangovers, maybe more mistakes.
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  Maybe there's other things that happen in that first timeline,
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  but I want you to imagine in that second timeline where
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  you're the occasional drinker. You see qualities in you that
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  you recognize in that person that doesn't drink.
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  You don't need it, you don't want it.
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  You just have the option to drink if you choose to.
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  Maybe see that version of you has unexpected benefits.
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  Maybe looking leaner, fitter. Maybe your skin is glowing or
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  there's a sparkle in your eyes. Maybe in that timeline you're
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  being noticed within your organization.
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  Maybe it leads to a promotion or something else.
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  Opportunities are coming your way and it's not like you're not
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  drinking at all. It's just that in this new
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  timeline, maybe it's been reduced, it's between 10 and 20%
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  of what it was the year before. Not through willpower and not
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  through struggle, not through discipline, but through
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  discernment. In that timeline, you choose
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  when you drink, with whom you drink, and how much you drink.
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  And I want you to step into that identity, being the occasional
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  drinker, feel like you're in a first person now and imagine the
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  next 12 months condense the key moments.
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  You're in a pub or a bar, but you choose something non
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  alcoholic. You're in a restaurant and you
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  have a soft drink with your meal.
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  I want you to notice those times that even when it's a Friday or
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  a Saturday, of course you can drink.
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  But even then, sometimes you choose not to.
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  Because this version of you is keeping your boundaries clear.
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  Your defence is strong, you've learned from previous pitfalls
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  and you know how to mitigate against that.
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  And I want you to imagine week after week feeling that it gets
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  easier and easier, because more and more you'll noticing that
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  you can have fun, be social, feel relaxed, enjoy yourself
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  without needing alcohol. Imagine three months go by, then
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  six. Just feel that this is becoming
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  who you are, the option to drink but finding it less and less
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  frequent. Some people believe that
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  scarcity creates value. That's why diamonds are more
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  valuable than glass. I want you to get a sense that
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  what if by reducing how much alcohol you drink, you
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  paradoxically increase the amount of joy, pleasure, and
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  pride you get over the next 12 months simply by realizing that
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  it's an option? I want you to imagine yourself
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  12 months from now and compare that version to you to the
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  version that's still dependent. Consider them characters in a
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  computer game. One stays at the same level, the
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  other has levelled up, has additional capabilities,
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  features, enhancement that the dependent version of you simply
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  doesn't have. See that version of you with
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  increased capacity an edge. And now make a choice.
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  This is the sliding doors moment.
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  Step into whichever identity feels more compelling, the
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  status quo of dependency or the possibility of levelling up by
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  simply being a discerning occasional drinker.
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  And when you've stepped into that identity, feel it change
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  your body like a software update, updating all of the
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  beliefs, thoughts, ideas, and strategies conducive and aligned
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  with that new identity. When the update is complete, let
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  me know by nodding your head. That's it.
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  And then imagine on Friday or Saturday a few weeks from now,
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  imagine being in a bar or a Harbor restaurant.
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  And imagine what happens differently now that you're
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  aligned with this identity. Maybe you order a different
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  drink. Maybe it loses interest when you
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  notice what's different in this new future.
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  Let me know about nodding your head.
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  That's it. And it was time to leave these
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  timelines feeling that you've adopted new beliefs connected to
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  a new identity that feels more in harmony with where you are
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  now. You're the same person you were
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  when you were 16 years old, but you had a different identity
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  then to the identity you have now.
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  It's not you that changes, it's your identity.
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  Certain things used to matter and no longer do.
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  As priorities shift change, certain things you value become
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  less important. Other things become more.
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  Feel that you are activating this new identity of being a
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  discerning occasional drinker. It's time to float all the way
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  back to your present. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert. 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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