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I Was Depressed After My Ex-Wife Sold All My Properties - Emeka Ike · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Battle
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  Laurentia, how are you all doing?
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  I hope you're doing great. Now, for today's episode, I want
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  to talk about Nollywood actor Emeka Ike is back in the news
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  for all the wrong reasons. I mean, he is currently
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  promoting one of his movies directed by Tony Abraham, but
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  he's on the news for his marital issues, his divorce.
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  He's five to seven, Almost everybody basically.
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  Now for some of you who don't know him, OK, is one of
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  Nollywood, I would say legendary actor because we all grew up
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  watching him in his movie. He is a very good actor.
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  He is kind of he embodies any role that he's he's giving the
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  bad boy, the lover boy, you know he's just that kind of all round
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  actor. During the mid 2000s, I think
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  2000 and six 2007 Nollywood ban a list actors, according to them
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  a list actors were charging ridiculous amounts of money.
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  Now some of these actors include ransomware Mecca, Genevieve Naji
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  Yedu. The whole lot of them, the A
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  list actors at that time were banned.
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  Now this affected a lot of them financially and sent to be.
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  We as we all know got married, his wife became the breadwinner,
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  he started the company and we all know how that ended.
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  He recently passed on and according to the story sent
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  obese wife collected the kids. It was just financial challenges
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  and he passed on in jaws I think last year or early this year.
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  Now America on the other hand, MK stand to be kind of dropped
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  out of circulation but Mikey Kay became the Actors Guild of
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  Nigeria, the president of the Actors Guild of Nigeria and he
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  has always been in the news for one controversy or the other.
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  And Mexican was fighting all the bodies like especially probably
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  Seema Jaguar name means. And Mikey was always in the news
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  challenging somebody or fighting somebody.
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  Now that got even into his personal life.
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  I think at that point he was just going through a lot because
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  just imagine somebody who movie is their source of income, the
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  entertainment industry is their source of income and all of a
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  sudden you couldn't do what you know best, you couldn't earn
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  money from, you know that's his source of income and that was
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  cut short. Now some people were able to
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  transition from that point to probably directing, producing,
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  but I think he goes stock in this whole phase of pity me,
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  pity me, everybody's the problem.
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  I am not the problem. So at that point he was fighting
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  everybody. Now that creeped into his
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  personal life because rumours started circulating that his him
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  is himself and his wife started having issues making.
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  You got married in 2000 and they have 4 kids now.
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  At this point there were rumours circulating that the wife moved
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  out of the house. People were thinking OK you know
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  then the Internet was not that as it is today.
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  But at that point people said America's marriage was in
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  trouble. The wife moved out of the house.
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  There was just so many news circulating and Mexican will
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  come out to debunk everything. At that point.
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  They said he was kind of physically assaulting his wife
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  but he came out and he said no, that that never happened and all
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  that. Now this whole thing was going
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  on and making case started cooking up conspiracy theory.
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  He was saying that the Actors Guild of Nigeria after him, his
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  wife is after him. His wife is being blackmailed
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  crito quote, because the wife was attending Chris Okotie's
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  church. And According to him, Chris
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  Okotie has fed her a lot of lies and everything now that now the
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  wife was, According to him was fighting.
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  So we just thought, this guy, you need therapy.
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  I have the sport at this point. You need therapy because if
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  everybody is after you, if everybody is against you because
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  he was saying that people send hired assassin and all that.
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  So when eventually the wife moved out of the house, probably
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  she got out of the whole mess. She moved out of the house.
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  And at that point, and I believe because making case unable, man,
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  there's no way she's going to go with those children.
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  Definitely not. So she left the kids.
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  She I think it was just too much for her and she had to leave.
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  Now we don't know what happened but they make came online
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  because the wife has been quiet in this whole drama.
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  So it was every information we got was from MK So making K
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  mouse online and said that the wife colluded retired assassins.
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  People were. After his life he travelled to
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  America to shoot a movie and then all of a sudden he came
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  back and he's landed. Properties are gone, his papers
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  are gone, Everything he owned as I'm making here was gone.
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  And then the school. This was in 2017.
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  According to him the school was worth 480 million naira.
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  So he said he came back from shooting the movie in America
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  and then everything was gone, like the wife According to him,
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  wiped everything clean, took away all his property.
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  So then we thought OK, MKK moved on with his life because he said
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  he couldn't fight the whole thing.
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  He remarried, he moved to Germany, remarried a South
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  African lady, left his kids in Nigeria According to him because
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  he needed to sort himself out. So he relocated to Germany,
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  married another woman with kids for his children were in
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  Nigeria. Anyway, at this point people
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  thought, OK, Mikey has moved on, the wife has moved on and there
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  were just sitting there minding our business and Mikey is back
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  in the news. I think it's back in the news.
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  I'm singing and crying and also once again blaming his wife.
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  I mean, at this point everybody was thinking, OK, this woman
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  needs to say something like if she got married at the age of
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  19, you know, people were thinking, OK, somebody from the
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  family has to say something like there has to be friends.
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  They have like let her tell her own side of the story because
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  Mikey is just playing the victim.
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  He said she wiped him clean, took away everything he had.
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  He couldn't fight and all that. People were thinking this is not
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  adding up, especially in Nigeria.
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  If a man, the man has an upper hand, like men are literally
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  gods. In Nigeria, you could get
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  married to somebody, even if that is your property, that
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  person can actually go to court and claim that property because
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  he is the man you know. And you know most Nigerian
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  women, when they are getting married, even if they have
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  property, they will transfer it to the man's name or like a
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  joint property and it is easier for the man to go to court and
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  actually claim those documents just because he's the man.
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  People are now thinking America, OK this is not adding up.
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  If your wife in Nigeria, you she divorced you or she moved out of
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  the house or she she allowed you to travel and then moved into
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  your house and clear out everything, took away your
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  landed properties and everything you even if she took those
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  documents when you could easily go and reclaim those documents
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  back. This is not America, this is not
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  UK, this is not Canada. I mean what are we talking
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  about? So those things were not people
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  were actually questioning the validity of his story.
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  Now just lover actually mentioned that they were going
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  to get to the root of the whole like tell those true story of
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  what actually happened. Now just lover I think reached
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  out to and making case ex wives and friend and this is what she
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  has to say about the whole drama.
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  Now what? So this girl in question, he
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  married at 19, very early. Right.
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  We were childhood friends and he married her.
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  And then, you know, they started life with the hope of a
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  beautiful future for children. You understand the lady in
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  question didn't grow up with a silver spoon.
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  She's She's not. What's it called?
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  You know, she's one girl that has been through life, You know
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  what I mean? She's worked so hard all her
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  life. It hadn't been easy.
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  The journey for all of us wasn't easy.
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  So you know when you now meet someone married immediately
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  after secondary school, you know she wants federal government
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  college, Benin. So in Merida, immediately after
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  secondary school, they got married, right?
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  So you married a very young girl.
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  All through this girl's life, you've tormented her.
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  How do you come every single time she's been keeping quiet
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  for you, Every single time she's been through hell.
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  You took away the children from her.
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  You know all through this time she has been covering up.
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  You know how these artists all these stars you know how they
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  are. They don't have you know they
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  they live according to in the time of America said how much
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  were they making as movie stars how much how can he come and say
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  400 million 400 million watts. This girl has been on the floor
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  every day. Nothing.
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  No shoes, no clothes, starving with her children just so that
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  America can buy fuel in his bloody car.
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  Because he's a star. He cannot be walking around the
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  streets of Lagos. You took her away from
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  everybody, everybody sleeping with her.
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  Everybody is, as you can imagine, that kind of life.
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  What kind of quality of life is that?
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  This child went through everything.
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  This man was beating her. This bits, I'm telling you, is
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  not small beats is kick her down the stairs.
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  Why would she go and start following the what's it called?
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  A hitman? This thing to kill you, America.
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  What do you have that somebody is killing you?
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  For what? What do you have?
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  What is the thing you have? Somebody wants to kill you.
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  She's been living with you for how many years?
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  Has four children for you. Why did she kill you from your
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  food? Why did she kill you from
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  everything in the house that she could have done?
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  Why does she need to go and start?
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  How much does Emma have? How much does Emma have?
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  How much does this young lady in question have?
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  Just lover. I want you to investigate this
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  matter. This this man.
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  And this has to end. He has to stop this last time
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  the one he did. Finally he left his children.
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  He is getting on with one lady in Germany.
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  The lady is, is she lives in Germany, she's already and she
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  had children, she's South Africa and blah, blah, blah.
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  You know how these men are. They are hustling is their
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  hustler. He went and married somebody
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  that already has children, you know.
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  So no, he let the children and dumps them all on their own.
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  Four children. You left them, these children.
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  No food, nothing. They were just there, in that
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  bungalow in somewhere inside Abuja.
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  No food, nothing. That.
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  Meanwhile, their mother was denied of seeing her children
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  for years. My friend Could not eat, could
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  not sleep, could not move on, could not date anybody, could
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  not do anything. Every night she's crying.
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  Every night she's crying. Every day she's crying.
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  Every time she sees my children. I had to run away from her.
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  She's in tears. She's sad she couldn't move on
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  with her life. I kept on telling her, I said,
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  see, now you need to work hard. These children are coming, you
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  understand? They will come back to you.
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  And when they come, what do you have to offer them?
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  At some point America was living in a hotel with the children.
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  Each little children of how many years old you are living in a
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  hotel. How much does America, which
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  must school 400 million investment is a bloody liar.
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  America rented that place a long term lease.
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  This young lady tried her best to manage the school as best as
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  she could. You understand?
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  So where do you, where do you come from?
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  That you? Who are you?
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  I'm just tired. Do you understand?
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  Every time he wants to train is this girl's name.
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  Every girl can't move on, She can't have a life.
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  Why do women have to suffer? Shows left you.
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  She has moved on. You do whatever you like.
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  You remind she you remarried. She did not remarry.
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  She just wants to live her life for her children.
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  Everything this Emma thinks about is her children, her
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  children, her children. I can't swear to God.
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  I can't swear. Enough is enough.
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  At some point I think she she came and pitched with me.
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  She was living in one place, in Magodo, in one room, trying to
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  teach. They were paying her 25,000
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  naira. No.
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  This young lady has picked, you know, picked up the pieces.
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  Starting to patch her life. She had to go and get her
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  children in Abuja where Mecca dumped them.
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  These children were eating rotting, contaminated food,
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  fetching water on their head, no light.
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  You can imagine a bungalow. This man still rented one room,
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  2 room bungalow. This man still rented one room
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  to a copper. I love these children.
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  I went to Germany. What are we talking about here?
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  She know how to go and get her children.
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  Do you understand? So I don't understand where
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  America is coming from. She never took his children away
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  from him. These children are barely lived
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  with her for three years. Should have barely lived with
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  her for three years. He was in Germany.
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  He didn't know where the children were all along.
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  All this time he cannot. His first two kids are already
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  young adults and they have the right to see their father,
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  right. My friend is not stopping them
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  from seeing their father. They are allowed to see.
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  She does not stop them because they are adults.
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  They are young adults, but the other young ones, the other two
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  cannot. He cannot have them anymore.
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  You can't be dumping them as you please when it's convenient for
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  you to go and hustle. Are you a prostitute?
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  What kind of life are you teaching those children?
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  They are in a better place. Their mother is working day and
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  night. She is ready to lick the floor
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  with her tongue to make sure that those children are fine.
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  She's not abandoning them to go and be with her another man.
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  She's not. And trust me, just lover, it has
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  been hard. It has been hard for this girl,
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  the fact that she does not talk. Now after listening to this
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  whole thing I think America should move on to be honest with
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  you. It's it's sad.
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  I mean people get married to do for better or for worse and most
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  times the worst is always one sided.
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  The woman is expected to take whatever comes her way regard
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  especially in Nigeria like I keep saying especially in
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  Nigeria because Nigerian women we are built for marriage or we
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  are we are groomed for marriage from the from as long as you you
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  can talk they start telling you is this how you're going to
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  behave in your husband's house is this how you're going to do
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  your husband house is this how you're going to take care of
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  your family. So Nigerian women are trained to
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  be wives but the husbands or the men I don't even think anybody
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  pay attention to OK let's they just tell them being man but
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  nobody tells them how to be a man and most times in the home
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  the example they see is what they emulate.
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  Now most Nigerians, most Nigerians, are they, they, they,
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  they, they are traumatised, they have trauma.
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  Because you grow up in environments, even if you come
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  from a very good home, your neighbours, you may see things
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  that experience trauma. Like there are certain things
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  that shape people, not just from the home, the woman, they
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  actually trained them, they actually tell them what to do.
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  But they men, they don't tell them anything.
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  So they pick up things here and there, from uncles, from
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  neighbours, from relations, from friends, you know, these are the
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  things that they pick up and they think, OK, this is how a
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  man should be. Most times that does not work
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  because women, they bring 100%. Well, men think, OK, once I can
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  provide, I I can load over you. I can because I at the end of
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  the day, she got married when she was 19 years old after
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  secondary school. So I don't think at that point
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  she was earning anything, you know, so she was literally under
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  his control and for her to leave that situation.
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  I think America is not owning up to the fact that OK, it takes
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  two to tango. Yes, I I 100% believe that he
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  went through a lot. Don't get me wrong.
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  He went through his own challenges because for him to be
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  still talking about that you know part of his life and he's
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  married now so you know there's still that pain there where he's
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  thinking OK I thought this was going to be forever and now it
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  is not and making you need to heal you need to you need to
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  seek therapy We all we all need to heal from one thing or the
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  other. And being bitter about the past
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  will not let you move forward. I know we say men should talk
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  and sometimes when men talk we don't believe them.
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  I believe in making OK. I'm not saying I doubt anything
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  he's saying I am saying that it takes two to tango if in any
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  relationship that did not work out and then you you bought it
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  was. I mean, I understand there are
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  kids in this mix. But according to this story and
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  according to what he has said, he left the children to go to
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  Germany. He did not take the case to
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  Germany. So he must have left them.
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  And when that marriage ended, he, he took the kids.
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  So for whatever reason, the kids went back to their mother in his
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  absence. OK.
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  So I think he should take accountability for, you know,
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  some of the roles he has played. I mean everything he said was
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  blaming, pointing, accusing fingers.
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  You see that the Nigerian movie industry, you see that AGN, you
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  see the Nigerian government, you see that the wife, Pastor Chris,
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  who quote like he has blames for everybody.
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  Not everybody is meant to be husband.
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  Most people are fathers, but they are not husbands.
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  I think I'm making a kid. Did not understand what being a
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  husband is. You know, he could be the most
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  amazing dad to his kids. Or are you are you a good
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  husband? Are you a good husband?
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  I don't think any Nigerian woman would leave her home who had
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  four kids would just wake up one morning and decide to you know
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  this is not and Mikey was fighting everybody online
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  anyway. I wish everybody healing because
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  we all need it. We all need therapy.
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  We all are going through one thing or the other whether
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  relationship ending well whatever thing you're going
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  through it takes two it takes 2. So make take responsibility,
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  heal. See your kids reconcile with
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  like you could have a better relationship with your ex-wife
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  and this is this is the mother of your kids.
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  She is in custody. The the kids are in her custody.
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  So for you to be able to use your kids all this interview is
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  not necessary. You could.
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  Just move on, move on. I know it's easier said than
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