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Wicked Wisdom Strategy of the Week: Questions for the judgy lib lady · Wicked Radio with Bill Adams

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  Speaker 1: A brand new segment on the Wicked Radio podcast I
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  Speaker 1: like to call Wicked Wisdom Strategy of the Week. What's
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  Speaker 1: it all about, Bill Well? Aside from the daily Carrent
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  Speaker 1: events live stream and then podcasts that I do almost
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  Speaker 1: every single day Monday through Friday, this is all about
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  Speaker 1: the techniques to use, the strategy to use for your
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  Speaker 1: lefty friends or just lunatics who are out there in
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  Speaker 1: general that hate you. Call you wicked, hence the name,
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  Speaker 1: simply because you disagree on policy. Because and I know
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  Speaker 1: it's a long shot. I know, I think somehow, someway,
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  Speaker 1: if you use enough strategy on them, maybe we can
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  Speaker 1: find some common ground. I know it's a long shot.
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  Speaker 1: And I also hear you saying this, Well, I just
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  Speaker 1: don't deal with people. I get these I get these
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  Speaker 1: messages all the time. I don't deal with people like
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  Speaker 1: that in my life. I don't know. I don't accept that. Okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: good luck with that. That means you never leave your house,
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  Speaker 1: you never go shopping, you never go to a bank,
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  Speaker 1: you never work with anybody, you don't have anybody over
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  Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving. The rest of us in the real world,
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  Speaker 1: we have to deal with these people somehow, some way
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  Speaker 1: the best we possibly can. So our first subject this
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  Speaker 1: week I found fascinating because even though she's very judgy,
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  Speaker 1: very and I think clueless in my opinion, she's not
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  Speaker 1: a lunatic. Even though this is one of those in
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  Speaker 1: car videos and it looks like she's been crying, She's
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  Speaker 1: not like raging and screaming and saying we need to
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  Speaker 1: kill all the people we disagree with and I hate
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  Speaker 1: you because you voted for Trump. She seems I think
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  Speaker 1: at least reasonable, So maybe it's worth finding some common
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  Speaker 1: ground with this one. But you be the judge here.
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  Speaker 1: She is.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if this anger is justified, but I
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  Speaker 2: feel so much anger about the fact that in the
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  Speaker 2: last few days I've asked a couple of people, a
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  Speaker 2: few people, I've said like, do you know anyone that's
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  Speaker 2: going to be affected by foodstamps not going out? And
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  Speaker 2: people are like, no, really, no, I don't think so.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think so.
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  Speaker 3: Like you, just like you, there are people that some
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  Speaker 3: of you I've talked to, that live your life in
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  Speaker 3: such a vacuum that you don't know suffering, like there
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  Speaker 3: are people that are only engaged with people that aren't suffering.
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  Speaker 2: And I feel like that's part of the problem. If
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  Speaker 2: you're not having coffee with suffering, if you don't live
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  Speaker 2: in the same neighborhood as suffering, if you don't talk
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  Speaker 2: to suffering. Sometimes like I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Afraid that that's the problem, is that there's just no
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  Speaker 3: contact with suffering. You just don't know anyone who's gonna
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  Speaker 3: feel effective. It's not lost on me that I'm sitting
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  Speaker 3: in the car crying because I'm in contact with so
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  Speaker 3: much suffering as a therapist, and they're.
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  Speaker 1: Ah, okay, that was very revealing. More on that in
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  Speaker 1: a second. Now, first technique to deal with somebody like this, who, again,
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  Speaker 1: in my opinion, isn't a lunatic. I mean, she's not
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  Speaker 1: completely overboard. She's wicked, Judgie, I think she's clueless, but
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  Speaker 1: I think somebody you could actually have a conversation with.
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  Speaker 1: I'll throw this technique out first, because I've used this
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  Speaker 1: in the past. And if you are listening to now
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  Speaker 1: and you're saying I have no interest in dealing with
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  Speaker 1: this person, okay, Well there's one person toward her, one
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  Speaker 1: way to ward her off guaranteed, and I've done this
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  Speaker 1: in the past. If you catch me in a bad
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  Speaker 1: mood or I'm really busy doing something and somebody like
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  Speaker 1: that is chirping at me, judging me. My response, if
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  Speaker 1: I want to take that approach, would be no, I
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  Speaker 1: do everybody I hang out with works. Okay, that's one
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  Speaker 1: way she's not gonna deal with you again. But let's
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  Speaker 1: pretend you have to deal with her at work, family,
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  Speaker 1: in the home, something I don't know. This is the technique,
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  Speaker 1: the strategy to use, and I call it Questions are
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  Speaker 1: your answer, because if you ask enough questions of this lady,
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  Speaker 1: she's eventually gonna run out of whatever logic she thinks
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  Speaker 1: she has. Maybe outside chance she'll actually come to something,
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  Speaker 1: some common sense of her own and realize that she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't know. She's not a mind reader. She doesn't know
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  Speaker 1: what kind of suffering you or I or anybody else
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  Speaker 1: has gone through in our lives. So try this, and
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  Speaker 1: if you ask enough of these kinds of questions, you
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  Speaker 1: might break through. Maybe. First one is this so an amute?
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  Speaker 1: Am I a bad person if I don't have enough
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  Speaker 1: people in my life who are suffering? And see what
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  Speaker 1: she says to that, And the second question is this,
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  Speaker 1: this is what really gets to it? Well, I don't
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  Speaker 1: understand what you mean exactly, what exactly is your definition
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  Speaker 1: of suffering because I know a lot of people who
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  Speaker 1: have suffered in different ways. That's where you get a
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  Speaker 1: really interesting response. And then the third one is this,
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  Speaker 1: and this might be the ender, but it also might
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  Speaker 1: be the one that breaks through to her Judgey lack
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  Speaker 1: of common sense. The most important question your all to
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  Speaker 1: use is this. So all these people that you say
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  Speaker 1: experience the suffering that you know, they're all in therapy
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  Speaker 1: going to you, how much could they really be suffering
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  Speaker 1: if they can afford that? Try it if you want
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  Speaker 1: to Wicked Wisdom st Strategy. The week will be back
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  Speaker 1: with the Wicked radio podcast. You know what the deal is,
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  Speaker 1: you know the system follow like audio podcasts too, Wherever
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  Speaker 1: you'll like to find these. We'll do these every single
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  Speaker 1: week to try to find some common ground. But try it.
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  Speaker 1: You may like it.